The Niche Is You

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why presenting ourselves as “perfect” creates distance, not connectionHow fear drives image-management in relationshipsWhy messiness is not a flaw, but a doorway to intimacyThe difference between loving someone and allowing them to be imperfectHow emotional safety creates deeper bondsWhy real love requires risk — and protection once it’s foundand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Faith Isn’t Knowing the Whole Path… It’s Taking the Next Honest StepApple: https://apple.co/3MB62IuSpotify: https://bit.ly/4rZw3RN

In this episode we’ll talk about:What it really means to want someone else to winShifting from self-centered relationships to soul-centered onesHow support becomes a shared responsibility, not a performanceBeing part of someone’s journey without losing your ownWhy the right circles feel collaborative, not competitiveCreating relationships where growth is mutualand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Faith Isn’t Knowing the Whole Path… It’s Taking the Next Honest StepApple: https://apple.co/3MB62IuSpotify: https://bit.ly/4rZw3RN

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why society pushes people to simplify themselves too earlyHow being “hard to label” actually sharpens creativityThe difference between being scattered and being expansiveWhy range improves problem-solving and originalityLetting your interests inform your work instead of limiting itTrusting that clarity can emerge after explorationand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Faith Isn’t Knowing the Whole Path… It’s Taking the Next Honest StepApple: https://apple.co/3MB62IuSpotify: https://bit.ly/4rZw3RN

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why external advancement no longer guarantees inner fulfillmentHow coherence replaces promotion as a meaningful measure of progressThe cost of living fragmented across identity, work, faith, and valuesWhy peace, clarity, and integrity signal real growthHow God forms coherence before expanding influenceLearning to build a life that actually fits who you’re becomingand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why blessings often arrive before we “feel ready”How God uses responsibility, not rehearsal, to strengthen usWhy growth inside the blessing looks different from preparation before itThe emotional and spiritual stretch that comes with answered prayersLearning to sustain what you once only hoped forWhy capacity is formed through practice, not projectionsand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why the mind tries to think its way into safetyHow over-processing keeps you from experiencing what you’re praying forThe emotional and spiritual cost of living in your headWhy embodiment moves you further than mental preparationHow presence deepens intuition and spiritual discernmentLetting life teach you instead of trying to predict itWhy God works through movement, not ruminationThe nervous-system component: how overthinking becomes a coping mechanismand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we’ll talk about:Peace as a spiritual compassWhy clarity often arrives after obedienceHow urgency exposes fear, not directionWhat divine steadiness feels likeLearning to choose inner calm over external certaintyHow to detect when something is “off” vs. when it is simply unfamiliarThe emotional difference between alignment and reassuranceWhy God speaks most clearly through what regulates your spiritand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why faith is active, not passiveHow clarity follows obedience, not the other way aroundWhy waiting to ‘feel ready’ often delays growth” — readiness is built through movement, not before it”Why forcing outcomes breaks alignmentHow God guides through nudges, not full explanationsWhat "the next honest step" actually looks like in real lifeHow to move with sincerity instead of strategyTrusting God with what you can’t see while stewarding what you canThe spiritual maturity of slow, honest, consistent actionand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we’ll talk about:Why rushing scatters your purpose, while precision strengthens itThe difference between pace and pressure — and how to stop forcing your lifeHow purposeful slowness deepens clarity, creativity, and spiritual alignmentWhy being everywhere dilutes your calling — and being exact amplifies itHow God meets you when you stop moving out of fear and start moving with intentionWhat happens when you trade urgency for accuracy in relationships, work, and personal growthand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we’ll talk about:The energetic difference between fear-pressure and God-guidanceWhy your spirit often knows before your mind catches upHow recurring thoughts are invitations, not coincidencesWhy peace — not urgency — is the real sign of alignmentHow God prepares capacity long before revealing the assignmentThe internal “nudges” that signal you’re being shapedHow formation feels slow but is deeply intentionalWhy waiting seasons are not punishment, but preparationWhat happens when you stop interpreting delay as denialand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we break down the connection between inner stability, spiritual strength, and the way you actually build your life.We’ll talk about:Why your nervous system is the foundation of every decision you makeHow dysregulation creates misalignment, urgency, and self-sabotageHow clarity emerges naturally when your system is calmWhy spiritual leadership requires emotional groundingThe connection between regulation and confident decision-makingWhy peace—not pressure—creates momentumHow to build a lifestyle that supports stabilityPractical ways to lead from your center instead of your woundsand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode we explore why the “rough drafts” of your life — the unpolished moments, the imperfect beginnings, the early attempts at becoming — are often the most honest and essential parts of the journey.We’ll talk about:why waiting to feel “ready” keeps you stuckwhy God doesn’t ask for perfection, but willingnesswhy the early versions of anything carry the deepest truthhow sharing your becoming builds courage and claritywhy hiding the rough drafts blocks transformationhow showing up imperfectly builds trust — in yourself, in God, and in your purposeand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about…The difference between supporting someone and trying to save themHow to offer presence without absorbing responsibilityWhy real love requires patience, emotional steadiness, and self-regulationHow God guides us through invitation, not pressureWhat happens when you stop managing people’s growth and start trusting their processHow to create emotional safety instead of urgencyWhy fixer energy accidentally creates distance (even with good intentions)How to shift from fear-driven control to faith-driven connectionand more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about why your conversations determine your direction, the difference between community and proximity, why your partner’s alignment matters more than compatibility, the power of reading, listening, and consuming content that elevates your worldview, how to stop bonding over limitations and start bonding over growth, why your identity expands or contracts based on your environment, how to curate a life that calls you higher, not keeps you comfortable, the spiritual principle behind “by their fruits you will know them” applied to friendships and influence, how to build an environment that makes growth your default and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about why chasing “impressive” kills depth, clarity, and purpose, how impact is built through integrity, not aesthetics, the difference between being seen and being felt, why your work becomes more powerful when you stop performing, how to create from wholeness, not insecurity, signs your work is aligned with impact, not attention, what actually builds longevity in your calling and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about why the hard seasons become the most meaningful chapters of your life, how “bad days” shape the story you will one day tell about your becoming, the spiritual and psychological power of choosing to face discomfort, how God uses adversity to expand your capacity, conviction, and clarity, how to reclaim agency when life feels uncontrollable, what it means to actively participate in your own healing, how suffering transforms when you choose to feel it, not flee it and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about why God plants desire long before He reveals direction, how to discern between distraction, desire, and divine assignment, the difference between attachment and alignment, why certain callings, relationships, ideas, and visions simply won’t leave your spirit, why ignoring resonance weakens you, what it means when something keeps “coming back,” how to recognize the difference between emotional noise and spiritual truth, why God reminds you instead of pressuring you, how to walk with the desires God entrusted to you and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about why intimacy is built through truth, not performance, how honesty requires courage because it risks the illusion of safety, why long-term connection requires ongoing vulnerability, the difference between comfort-based love and truth-based love, how God uses truth-telling to deepen emotional and spiritual union, why hiding your truth protects the relationship you don’t want, how to build a relationship where truth is safe, welcomed, and reciprocal and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about why surrender is not weakness — it’s spiritual maturity, how tightening your grip actually delays what God is trying to give you, the difference between control that restricts and release that expands, why God widens your life after you loosen your hands, the signs you’re resisting God’s timing vs. responding to it. how letting go prepares you for blessings you can’t yet see, what “open hands” make room for in your relationships, purpose, and calling and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7

In this episode, I talk about how most momentum is lost through misaligned commitments, why saying yes too quickly drains your spiritual, emotional, and creative energy, the psychology of burnout and why it often comes from self-betrayal, how to protect momentum in your relationships, your purpose, your work, and your inner life, the difference between sustainable progress and performative productivity, how God teaches us to move at a pace that strengthens us, not scatters us and more. CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here’s the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Answered Prayers Are Often Disguised As Uncomfortable BlessingsApple: https://apple.co/3HTDsjGSpotify: https://bit.ly/3JYc4l7