Renew You with Quinn Kelly

In today’s society, disagreeing is a part of culture. But sometimes disagreements among believers or with non-believers seem to take on a tone or style that doesn’t align with Jesus. This leaves believers in a position where they must learn how to disagree in a way that honors Jesus while also being able to be honest with their convictions.   In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to model their disagreements after Jesus by:  1. Examining the tones that Jesus used in fights  2. Looking at the people he disagreed with and understanding why  3. Teaching steps to follow when modelling our behavior after him   Scripture Renewal Tip:  Get behind me, Satan! You do not have in mind the concerns of God but merely human concerns!  Mind Renewal Tip:  When we disagree with others, we need to be mindful that our words and actions reveal Jesus is alive and active within us! 

In today’s final bonus episode of the “What I’m Learning” series, Quinn interviews Sage Leichner, a mother of two teenage sons who is passionate about sharing wisdom with others moms. In the episode, she shares her best wisdom on raising boys with Godly character, strong identity and emotional control. In the episode, Quinn and Sage discuss ways that moms of boys can:1. Help them work with their anger in a way that is productive2. Guide their sons individually with safeguards3. Show emotionally vulnerability as we seek to teach our sons how to be vulnerable in their own emotions Mind Renewal Tip:Fear-based parenting must be replaced with peace and calm when raising boys of character. Scripture Renewal Tip:Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Jeremiah 33:3

In today’s episode, Quinn and Esther discuss what Esther has learned about raising girls! She shares her passion about becoming their friend in addition to being their parent for long-term connection. In the episode, Quinn and Danyel discuss: 1. Understanding that even when our circumstances change, God doesn’t. 2. Relying on community when feeling isolated 3. Singing God’s praise during the worst of times Mind Renewal Tip: We often think that we will know God best when we see his good but we often know him best when his love and character carries us through hardship. Scriptural Renewal Tip: This is what the Lord says: “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches, but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight," declares the Lord. Jeremiah 9:23-24

In today’s “What I’m Learning” episode, Quinn shares four things God has been teaching her lately that have been convicting her and pushing her to grow. She uses this episode to share stories that have happened in her life that are giving her wisdom through hardship.   In the episode, Quinn discusses:   1. The power of letting children be who God created them to be  2. Letting stories be written about you that are not accurate and letting God write them well  3. The power and need for us to share our faith with others  Mind Renewal Tip: Even when others assume the worst, God sees your heart. Trust God that he will fight for you and rest that your character will show over time.   Scripture Renewal Tip: A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. Luke 6:35 

Before you jump into this episode, we want to let you know that while we’re having honest conversations today, some of the topics we’ll be discussing might not be suitable for all ages.In today’s episode, Quinn and Esther discuss what Esther has learned about raising girls! She shares her passion about becoming their friend in addition to being their parent for long-term connection.   Within the episode, Quinn and Esther discuss: 1. The importance of talking about controversial topics with kids so that you can be their teacher 2. The value in being relatable so that children feel safe and connected 3. The need to teach then how to handle hard situations versus assume they will know the right decision to make  Mind Renewal Tip: If you want to have a close relationship and friendship with your daughters, that relationship begins when they are teens not adults.   Scriptural Renewal Tip: You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:5–9 

In today’s episode, Quinn interviews Jarrell Peak, family pastor at Atascocita Community Church and podcast host, and asks him about how he handles staying focused on the things that matter most in the busy seasons of life.   In the episode, Quinn and Jarrell discuss: 1. The importance of asking the question, “Does this make me busy or better?” 2. The value of knowing that God determines the work and our job is to respond. 3. How to be intentional with children when our time is limited  Mind Renewal Tip: We often quit when things get hard but God often uses those hard moments to teach and refine us into who he has called us to be.   Scripture Renewal Tip: In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps. Proverbs 16:9 

Wisdom is something we all want, but it’s hard to find. Today’s episode is part two in our “What I’m Learning” series where my 72-year-old friend Brenda Oliver shares some of her best advice in what she’s learned from two failed marriage and finally finding her prince.   In this week’s episode, Brenda shares some of her favorite lessons she’s learned about:       1. What to look for and how long to wait when choosing a mate 2. The Importance of Letting Things Go that Don’t Matter 3. The power of the word helper in thinking of how to help your spouse in marriage  Mind Renewal Tip: One of the best lessons with age is learning that not all things need to be taken as seriously as you once thought in your younger years. Scriptural Renewal Tip: Genesis 2:18 “And the Lord God said: It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him

We want to use our words to communicate and communicate well. We want our words to create change where needed and motivate others around us to do what is expected. But often our words seem to create negativity but not lead to change.   Todays’ episode is all about one magical parenting phrase and a few other general phrases we can learn that we can use to renew negative communication patterns into something positive.   After listening today, listeners will understand:        1. One 19-word phrase that increases motivation in children by 40 percent 2. Simple ways to change what you say to create connection instead of criticism in your interaction 3. Where to focus your attention if you don’t know how to avoid criticism  Mind Renewal Tip: We often assume harsh words are the best way to create change and be heard instead of understanding positive words can create far more motivation.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Let no corrupting talk come out of your tongue. But only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that is may give grace to those that hear. Ephesians 4:29 Resources: https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/xge-a0033906.pdf https://danielcoyle.com/2013/12/13/the-simple-phrase-that-increases-effort-40/ 

Are you ready for something new? Is change knocking at your door? Because it’s a new season of Renew You, which has us asking, “Are you ready for something NEW in your life?”   Today’s episode is all about uncovering one major lie we often believe that keeps us stuck from choosing to make change today! Quinn then examines other lies we may be holding onto inside our brains that keep us stuck in surviving versus thriving.   After listening today, listeners will understand:        1. Lies that keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns. 2. The important questions we need to ask ourselves to determine if we are ready for change. 3. 8 steps for moving forward with change  Mind Renewal Tip: If it’s hard… it must mean it’s wrong is the wrong mindset. Instead, if it’s hard, it must mean it involves growing!   Scripture Renewal Tip: See, I am doing a new thing. Isaiah 43:19

Do you have a house full of memories but more messes? Do you find that it’s hard to keep your house cleaned out but desire to have organization and peace within the chaos? In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to declutter and restore order to your space based on the work of Dana K White.   In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:          1. One thing to say to yourself when feelings sentimental: I’m not rejecting the item, I’m just saying I don’t have room for it. 2. Two questions to ask yourself when organizing 3. What containers are meant for  Mind Renewal Tip: Containers are meant to contain and serve as a limit – not as a place to stuff. Every space is a container that sets a limit.   Scripture Renewal Tip:  "There is a time to keep, and a time to cast away". This verse suggests that it's okay to get rid of things that are no longer useful. Ecclesiastes 3:6  "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal". This verse suggests that material wealth is temporary and can be lost, while heavenly treasures are eternal Matthew 6:19  Resources: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2019/05/printables-for-making-life-easier-and-cuter/ 

It’s easy to expect the holidays will make us feel loved and accepted but often they can be reminders that we feel rejected by those we love the most. And this can make Thanksgiving and Christmas hurt our hearts.   In today’s episode, I talk about how to stop the pattern of seeking approval from the loved ones that continue to leave you feeling discarded by discussing:       1. Signs that we need to end seeking approval       2. Scripture that resets our mental perspective        3. Ways to focus on empathy for healing    Mind Renewal Tip: If we chase after others’ approval, we often feel rejected. But if we chase after God, we quickly find acceptance.   Scripture Renewal Tip: "Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:11-12:

It’s easy to see when other people are continually difficult and in need of healing, but sometimes we can’t see that we are the one that is hurting – not them! Today Quinn discusses how easy it can be to point the finger at others for their unhealthy behavior but the importance of taking time to ask ourselves, “Am I the one that needs healed?”  In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners:       1. 6 Indications we are hurting 2. A question to ask yourself regarding your future that shows we need to heal 3. 3 Steps to take when we are hurting  Mind Renewal Tip: It’s not our fault we get in unhealthy places but it’s our responsibility to notice and take action.   Scripture Renewal Tip: "But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" Isaiah 40:31 

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In today’s episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them.    In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by:       1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication 2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well 3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation  Mind Renewal Tip: Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person’s defensiveness.   Scripture Renewal Tip: The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15 7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman       1. Take responsibility 2. Complain without blame 3. Start with “I” Statements 4. Describe what is happening 5. Be polite 6. Be Appreciative 7. Don’t let things build up 

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Have you ever noticed that some people are naturally more likeable than others? And you look to them and wonder what makes others find them so trustworthy and approachable because they seem to have it figured out. In this week’s episode, Quinn shares some of her favorite non-traditional including:         1. Why people are drawn to others that take accountability in apologies 2. Learning why receiving constructive feedback with ease makes others trust us 3. How being open to changing your opinion can make others want to converse with you about controversial emotional topics  Mind Renewal Tip: A mark of wisdom is being quick to change your opinions, but slow to change your principles. Adam Grant  Scriptural Renewal Tip: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galat

Did you know that roughly 75% of the time a parent will spend with their child throughout life is spent by the time the child turns 12? Because of this, it’s important for parents to be intentional with the time they have even when the summer days get long.   In this week’s episode, Quinn shares some of her favorite ways to help parents avoid burnout and make fun memories with their kids this summer by teaching about:      1. The power of creating lists of fun goals for the summer 2. The opportunity summer gives to teach life skills 3. The power of being intentional in one on one time    Mind Renewal Tip: When we take time to connect and lean in with our babes, we end up with space to decompress too because they feel secure.   Scriptural Renewal Tip: Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God's grace in its various forms. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. 1 Peter 4: 10-11

Safeguarding your Relationship Against Affairs and Micro Cheating  No one wants infidelity in their relationship, but it can be hard to know how to protect your marriage against something that has never happened yet alarmingly causes permanent damage. Because once trust is broken, it can hard to rebuild.   In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to safeguard their marriage against cheating by teaching them:       1. The Different Types of Cheating 2. Why Cheating Does Damage 3. 9 Safeguards to Put in Place  Mind Renewal Tip: Trust is the gift you don’t realize you have until it’s lost, which is why understanding it’s value is so important before its broken.  Scriptural Renewal Tip: Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled. Hebrews 13:4

Dear Quinn, Help Me Deal with a Narcissist! Your Listener Questions Answered about Dealing with a Narcissistic Ex-Spouse, Healing from a Narcissistic Parent and Setting Boundaries with them   In today’s episode, Quinn answers listener questions related to relationships with narcissists. In the episode, Quinn answers these questions:         1. How do I coparent with a narcissist? 2.How do I handle a narcissistic Mom? It’s been a year since we have spoken because mentally it's not good for me, but should I keep a line of communication open for the grandchildren? 3. How I recover emotionally from having a narcissistic parent?   Mind Renewal Tip: When we stop showing emotion to a narcissist, we stop giving them fuel to hurt us.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future. Proverbs 19:20

Dear Quinn, Help My Parenting! Your Listener Questions Answered About Helping Kids Become More Independent, Disrespectful Teens and Moms that Need Breaks In the episode, Quinn answers these questions:         1. What should a mom do when they feel that their kids are being highly vocal in their teen years about the things I am not doing right as a parent? I want to take feedback, but don’t want my feelings hurt. 2. My children are moving from the younger needy phase to the older independent phase and I’m struggling to let go of micromanaging them. How long are we supposed to let the leash lengthen between us and our child as they grow? 3. What happens when I am touched out? I don’t want to be rude to them but I need space.   Mind Renewal Tip: In parenting, if we remember that we grow as parents as our children grow as humans, we stay humble and adapt as their needs change.   Scripture Renewal Tip: "Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her." Proverbs 3:13-15: