Put Yourself First

We need to talk about the darker side of slowing down, soft girl energy, and “just resting.”Because sometimes rest is nourishing… and sometimes it’s avoidance dressed up as self-care.In this episode, I’m diving into the nuance between honouring your capacity and quietly self-sabotaging the very life you say you want. This was sparked by a client message about gym consistency, but it applies to everything – your business, your relationship, your health, your goals, your life.This is a permission slip to stop outsourcing your intuition to the internet, stop looking for validation for every decision, and start building real self-trust.In this episode, we explore:The difference between true rest and avoidanceWhy “soft girl era” can become a sneaky form of self-sabotageHow social media validates both burnout and avoidanceWhy fundamentals matter more than complicated hacksThe truth about discipline, devotion, and feminine embodimentHow flexibility and adaptability build sustainable successWhy self-trust is built through action, not just reflectionRe-parenting yourself with both softness and structureReal-life examples from fitness, business, and personal growthHow to tell if you’re honouring your body or avoiding responsibilityWork with me 1:1If this episode made you realise you’re stuck in all-or-nothing cycles, avoidance, or burnout – this is exactly the work we do inside Magnetic Muse.In 1:1 coaching, we work on:Nervous system regulationEmbodied discipline and devotionSelf-trust and intuitive decision-makingBoundaries, relationships, leadership, and self-leadershipBuilding a life that feels aligned, pleasurable, and sustainableThere are currently 3 spaces available.👉 Apply here: https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching👉 Or DM me COACHING on Instagram to chat. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

Join the free live trainingIf this episode resonated, I’d love to invite you to my free live training 👇🏼Feminine Energy Reset - https://www.khorrocks.com/resetFrom over-functioning and resentful to cherished in loveThis training is for women who are ready to feel more confident, connected, and desired again without fixing or managing their partner.If you’re capable, loving, and devoted in your life, but you’ve noticed that your relationship feels heavier, flatter, or more draining than it used to, this is for you.See you there! x

This episode is for the woman who loves her partner, cares deeply about her relationship, and yet feels exhausted, resentful, or disconnected far more often than she wants to admit.You don’t want to burn your life down.You don’t want to leave your relationship.You just want it to feel better.In this episode, I share a hard truth many couples need to hear:Your relationship cannot thrive if you are constantly self-sacrificing.When you are depleted, over-functioning, and living in survival mode, everyone feels it. Especially your partner.And the irony?The more you put yourself first, the stronger your relationship becomes.In this conversation, I unpack why women are the emotional and energetic centre of the lives they build, how over-functioning quietly kills intimacy, and why learning to receive support is not selfish, but essential.IN THIS EPISODE:Why women are the emotional and energetic nucleus of their relationshipsThe lie we’ve been sold about self-sacrifice and loveHow over-functioning shows up in modern relationshipsWhy doing more actually creates resentment and disconnectionHow short-term discomfort leads to long-term relationship fulfilmentWhy your partner wants you happier, calmer, and more relaxedThe identity shift that happens when a woman stops holding it all togetherHow putting yourself first changes intimacy, communication, and desireWhy your partner doesn’t need to do the work for the relationship to benefitThe subtle but powerful energetic shifts that change everythingYou don’t become a better partner by giving more of yourself away.You become a better partner when you are regulated, present, fulfilled, and connected to your own needs.When you stop surviving and start thriving, your relationship responds.APPLY FOR 1:1 COACHINGMagnetic Muse is my private 1:1 coaching experience for high-achieving women who are ready to stop self-sacrificing and start living from presence, pleasure, and embodied confidence.This work is about:Releasing over-functioning and controlLearning how to receive support without guiltCreating deeper intimacy and connection in relationshipsSetting boundaries at work so you can leave work at workReconnecting with your body, desires, and feminine energyWhen you shift, every area of your life shifts.I’m currently opening a small number of private 1:1 spaces inside Magnetic Muse.You can:Apply directly here - https://www.khorrocks.com/coachingOr DM me COACHING on Instagram if you want to talk it through first - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

APPLY for Magnetic Muse >> https://www.khorrocks.com/coachingDM me on Instagram >> https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/This episode is for the woman who has built a beautiful life on paper… but doesn’t always feel good inside it.You’re capable, intelligent, successful, and trusted by everyone around you. And yet, your nervous system rarely switches off. You overthink behind closed doors, hold yourself to impossibly high standards, and struggle to fully let go of control.In your relationship, things might feel loving but flat. More roommate energy than romance. More logistics than desire. You miss feeling pursued, chosen, and deeply connected, but you’re exhausted and rarely fully present.And underneath it all, you don’t want to burn your life down. You’re grateful for what you have. You just want to feel more alive inside it.In This Episode, We Explore:The signs you’re successful on paper but disconnected in your bodyWhy so many high-achieving women live in constant overdriveHow over-functioning, control, and people-pleasing show up in work and relationshipsThe difference between understanding change and embodying itWhy embodiment work creates shifts in love, leadership, and lifeThe moment Kat knew she had to train in sex, love, and relationship coachingWhy your intuition often speaks before your mind catches upHow Magnetic Muse was shaped through real client work and lived experience

I’m taking you behind the scenes of how I’m approaching my goals, my habits and my identity this year across business, relationships and my body, and what’s already supporting me to feel grounded, clear and excited for what’s ahead.Inside this episode, I’m sharing:✨ Why 2026 is an outputs over outcomes year for me🌿 My word for the year and how devotion changes the way you show up🩶 Why motivation isn’t the problem and what actually creates consistency🔥 How simple systems and non negotiables remove overwhelm💗 The identity shifts that happen when you stop relying on willpower🏃‍♀️ How I’m approaching fitness, running and recovery this year without burnout💍 How I’m being intentional in my relationship as we head into our wedding year🌹 Why focus creates freedom rather than limitationThis episode is for the woman who wants her next chapter to feel intentional, embodied and spacious, not rushed or exhausting.I also share what’s now live inside my business, including my brand new 1:1 coaching journey and what’s coming next in 2026.🔥 Work with Me 1:1If you’re feeling the pull for deeper support, personalised coaching and real transformation this year, you can apply for my one to one coaching journey.https://www.khorrocks.com/coachingor DM me COACHING on Instagram and we’ll start the conversation. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/Come and tell me your biggest takeaway from this episode, either in my DMs or in the Spotify comments. I always love hearing from you.

Today we are kicking off something very special inside The Sisterhood… our brand new 28 day challenge: HOT GIRL 2026.In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 Hot Girl Pillars that every woman needs if she wants to feel grounded, magnetic and fully in her power this year.These pillars are the opposite of the usual January pressure.No burnout.No self criticism.No trying to overhaul your entire life in seven days.Instead, we’re talking about the feminine, sustainable, actually-enjoyable way to create momentum in your year.Inside the episode, you’ll learn:• The four Hot Girl Pillars that make change feel effortless, not overwhelming• Why most New Year goals don’t stick (and how these pillars solve that)• What truly creates momentum in your life, your relationships and your career• Why your mindset, body and nervous system need to work together if you want lasting change• A sneak peek into what we’re working on inside The Sisterhood this monthThis episode gives you the what and the why.If you want the how — the tools, the accountability, the coaching, the daily check ins — that’s inside The Sisterhood.Doors are open and you can join today.You’ll get instant access to:• the welcome video• weekly challenge modules• two live calls every month• and our Telegram coaching + accountability chatStart 2026 feeling supported, grounded and switched on.You don’t need to do this alone.👉 Join The Sisterhood here

This is our final episode of 2025, and wow… what a year it has been.If you’ve felt stretched, cracked open, transformed or utterly exhausted by this year, you are not alone.In today’s episode, I’m sharing my honest, unfiltered reflection on the year that broke me open in the best possible way.No editing, no overthinking, just us… as if we were sat together in my living room with a coffee in hand.Inside, I walk you through:✨ The identity crisis I didn’t see coming and how my big business pivot shook up everything✨ How the Year of the Snake played out in real time and why it explains so much of the collective chaos we all felt✨ Letting go of old versions of myself that could never take me where I’m going next✨ Healing my relationship with discipline and hard work so I can thrive without burnout✨ Becoming a runner, losing weight sustainably, and proving to myself what’s possible✨ The relationship work Adam and I have done that feels like preparation for marriage✨ What it’s really like to hold people you love through heartbreak, illness and uncertainty✨ How I stayed grounded while the people around me were struggling✨ Why 2026 feels like a completely new chapter with a totally different energyThis episode is for you if you’re reflecting on your own year and craving a moment of honesty, clarity and permission to simply be human.I hope this conversation helps you honour what 2025 asked of you… and feel deeply supported stepping into the fire horse energy of 2026.Thank you for being here with me this year. I’m so grateful for you.Have the most beautiful holiday season with the people you love, and I’ll see you in January for a year full of magic, embodiment and fresh momentum.Love,KatPS - loved this? DM me on IG and make sure we're connected on there ❤️ https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

If you’re walking into December already feeling tired, stretched thin or running on fumes… this episode is for you.Today we’re talking about something so many high-achieving women avoid until it’s too late:filling your own cup before life forces you to slow down.This isn’t about bubble baths or treating yourself.This is about your nervous system, your energy, your boundaries, your capacity…and what happens when you stop surviving and start supporting yourself like the woman you’re becoming.Inside this episode, I’m sharing:🩶 Why your burnout patterns make perfect sense🌿 How to rebuild your inner capacity without pushing harder💗 A simple way to reconnect with your body when you feel “off”✨ What feminine nourishment really looks like (and why you need it now)🔥 The truth about why you can’t manifest your vision from depletion🌹 And how to actually feel held, supported and grounded as we move into 2026Join The SisterhoodIf you’re craving softness, space, support and structure… you’re not alone.And you don’t have to keep trying to hold everything by yourself.If you want deeper support as you walk into the new year, come join us inside The Sisterhood.Your first three months are 50 percent off right now and you still get the 14-day free trial.This is where we fill your cup from the inside out.Where you’re held, supported, nourished and guided every single month.Where community, coaching and feminine embodiment actually meet.✨ Join The Sisterhood hereWork with Me 1:1If you’re feeling the pull for deeper healing, personalised support and next-level transformation, you can apply for January 1:1 coaching.DM me COACHING on Instagram

This week, we’re diving deep into the identity shift required to actually live the life you’re dreaming about in 2026. Because most women try to create a new reality with old habits, old beliefs and old coping mechanisms… and then wonder why nothing changes.This episode explores who you’re becoming.The woman who can hold more.The woman who can receive more.The woman who can love, lead and live in a way that feels aligned, grounded and magnetic.If you’re craving a 2026 that feels purposeful, pleasure-led and embodied, this conversation will land powerfully.What We Cover in This Episode✨ Why your 2026 vision requires a new identity, not a new to-do list✨ How to stop chasing goals from pressure and start moving from embodiment✨ The Chinese zodiac metaphor: shedding in 2025 and galloping forward in 2026✨ Why your future self’s “normal” might feel stretchy or scary right now✨ The difference between forcing change and becoming the woman who can hold it✨ How to align with your future self through tiny, grounded shifts✨ The embodiment principles behind pleasure-led success✨ What it actually looks like to live from your next level nowLinks Mentioned in the Episode🔗 Join the Sisterhood (Get 50% off your first 3 months)https://www.khorrocks.com/offers/nrUvney7/checkout?coupon_code=MAKE2026MAGNETIC🔗 Sign up for Make 2026 Magnetichttps://www.khorrocks.com/challenge🔗 Apply for One to One Coaching (DM COACHING on Instagram)https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

Money gets framed as this boring adult task that we all have to get through, but the truth is… it’s one of the biggest triggers for conflict, shutdown and resentment in relationships. And most of the time, the argument isn’t about the bill, the purchase or the spreadsheet. It’s about upbringing, safety, communication and how you both feel in the partnership.This week, I’m joined by wealth coach Sara J Maxwell to break open the REAL reasons couples argue about money and how to build a healthier, more connected dynamic together. Sara brings twenty plus years of experience in financial services, plus her powerful Couples Talk Money programme, which blends money coaching and relationship work beautifully.We cover everything from mismatched earning and privilege to those “you’re the spender and I’m the saver” patterns so many of us fall into. We talk about childhood money stories, triggers, fairness, resentment, breadwinner dynamics, and how to make money dates feel easy rather than awkward.If money conversations feel tense, avoided or full of emotion for you, this episode will help you understand why… and what to do about it as a team.You’ll walk away with practical tools, deeper self awareness and so much compassion for both yourself and your partner.This conversation is full of those “oh my God, that makes so much sense” moments. You’re going to feel so seen.💗 In This Episode We Explore• Why couples REALLY fight about money and what sits underneath the arguments• How your childhood money story shapes every financial decision today• Spender versus saver energy and why opposites attract• How to open up money conversations without triggering each other• The power of self first reflection and curiosity• What to do if you earn more or less than your partner• Navigating inheritance, privilege and imbalanced wealth• Why resentment builds in unequal earning situations and how to dissolve it• Money dates that bring you closer, not further apart• How to set shared financial goals that feel good for both of you• Why learning to talk about money often improves intimacy too🌟 Connect with SaraWebsite: https://www.wealth-coach.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourwealthcoach_/Couples Talk Money begins again in January.✨ Links MentionedMake 2026 Magnetic free challenge - https://www.khorrocks.com/challengeKat on Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

👉 Join Make 2026 Magnetic here - ⁠https://www.khorrocks.com/challengeYou can’t create a juicy, fulfilling, magnetic life whilst watering yourself down.And yet, so many women do.You hold back in meetings because you don’t want to be too much.You silence your truth in relationships because you don’t want to cause conflict.You chase the next goal, thinking that’s what will finally make you feel alive — but deep down, you already know it won’t.If you’ve been feeling that gap between who you know you are and how you actually show up — this episode is your reminder that you don’t need to do more.You need to be more.More real.More embodied.More unapologetically you.In this episode, I share:✨ Why playing small and “being the good girl” keeps you disconnected from your truth🔥 How to stop performing and start embodying the woman you’re here to be💋 What it really looks like to live from your feminine energy — in work, love and life🌿 The truth about alignment: it’s not about perfection, it’s about embodimentBecause you deserve to live a life that feels delicious, not dutiful.And that starts when you stop diluting yourself and start honouring what’s real.🧲 Join the 3-Day ChallengeIf this episode spoke to you, come and join Make 2026 Magnetic - my 3-day embodiment and manifestation experience for women ready to design their most turned-on, pleasure-led and magnetic year yet.🌿 Reflect on your growth in 2025🔥 Release what’s no longer serving you💎 Reconnect with your desires and feminine energyWe begin Monday 1st December - it’s completely complimentary to join.👉 Join Make 2026 Magnetic here - https://www.khorrocks.com/challenge💎 Work with Me 1:1If you’re craving personalised support to embody your feminine power and create a life that feels as good as it looks — my 1:1 coaching spaces for January 2026 are now open.DM me COACHING on Instagram to apply - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/If this episode landed for you, share it with a woman who’s ready to stop playing small and start creating a life that turns her on. 💋

If you’ve ever set a big New Year goal, only to fall out of alignment by February, this episode is for you.Kat is back with an empowering mix of reflection, embodiment and manifestation to prepare you for her upcoming Make 2026 Magnetic challenge.In this episode, Kat shares:✨ The lessons running a 10 K taught her about manifestation and self-belief✨ Why celebrating yourself is the most magnetic thing you can do✨ How feminine embodiment transforms goal-setting into a pleasure-led journey✨ The three pillars of the Make 2026 Magnetic challenge - celebration, embodiment, and manifestationThis conversation will remind you that your 2026 vision isn’t just about what you want to achieve - it’s about who you’re becoming along the way.Join the Make 2026 Magnetic Challenge:A free three-day visioning experience to design your most turned-on year yet.📅 1–3 December 2025 at 8 PM UK time (replays available)✨ Sign up here → https://www.khorrocks.com/challengeExplore Feminine Embodiment 1:1 Coaching:Two early-bird spaces are open for January 2026 start. DM me COACHING on Instagram to get the details.Instagram → @kat_horrocks

If you’ve ever found yourself rushing through life - from one task to the next, from goal to goal - waiting for the moment you can finally slow down and breathe… this episode is for you.I’m diving deep into The Art of Being Present — what it really means to live in your body instead of your head, and how to reconnect to the moment instead of waiting for peace “someday.”In this episode, we explore:✨ Why your future peace depends on how you’re showing up right now✨ The difference between being a human doing and a human being✨ The deeper roots of why ambitious women find it so hard to slow down✨ Three powerful shifts to help you ground, soften, and return home to yourselfThis one’s for the woman who’s built so much - the career, the success, the life she dreamed of - but still feels disconnected from the calm, grounded energy she craves.Links mentioned:DM me COACHING on Instagram to find out about my 1:1 Feminine Embodiment Coaching (two early-bird spaces open for January 2026) → @kat_horrocks⁠

If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink yourself to be accepted or tone yourself down to be liked, this episode will light a fire in you.This week, Kat is joined by Caroline Goyder - internationally renowned speaking and voice expert, author of Find Your Voice and Gravitas, and TEDx speaker with over 10 million views.Together, they dive into what it really means to speak with confidence, presence and feminine power - not by forcing it, but by grounding deeply in your body and nervous system.✨ Inside this episode, you’ll learn:Why so many women struggle to take up space and speak their truthHow your body and breath directly impact your confidenceSimple practices to regulate your nervous system before big conversations or presentationsThe truth about imposter syndrome and how to show up like you belongWhat it means to know you deserve your seat at the table - and actually speak like itThis conversation is for every woman who’s ever held herself back, stayed quiet, or questioned her worth. It’s time to take up space, ground in your body, and let your voice be heard.Links Mentioned:🎙 Watch Caroline’s TED Talk → https://youtu.be/a2MR5XbJtXU?si=hzdGzcz_rQv90UBY📚 Explore Caroline’s books Find Your Voice and Gravitas → https://amzn.to/3LoPmmG🌐 Visit Caroline’s website → https://www.carolinegoyder.com💖 Try Caroline’s free Confidence Booster Audio Course → https://carolinegoyder.kartra.com/page/ConfidenceBooster✨ Connect with Kat & Tag us in your stories listening → https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

I’ve never done this before - but this week, I’m sharing something really special.Instead of a new episode, you’re getting a behind-the-scenes coaching workshop from inside The Put Yourself First Sisterhood.This session is called Clear the Mental Load, and it’s designed to help you drop out of overwhelm, close all those mental “tabs,” and feel calm, clear, and in control again.If your mind has been full of open loops, to-dos, and decisions -this session will help you:✨ Release the stress you’ve been holding in your body✨ Brain-dump everything weighing on your mind✨ Identify your quick wins to feel lighter instantly✨ Delegate and ask for support (without guilt!)✨ Systemise and automate the things that drain your energy✨ Reframe the stories that keep you stuck in overthinkingWhether you listen while walking, journaling, or tidying the house - let this be your reset.You’ll walk away with more space, ease, and clarity for what truly matters.And if you love this, it’s just a taste of what’s waiting for you inside The Sisterhood.Join now and get instant access to our Magnetic Feminine Playbook, plus a free trial to explore everything inside.👉 Join The Sisterhood here

If you’re the woman who always has it handled - the organiser, the fixer, the one holding everything together at home, work, and in your relationship - this episode is for you.Because being the strong, independent woman is beautiful… but not when it leaves you drained, resentful, and secretly craving to be looked after for once.In today’s conversation, I’m guiding you through five powerful, practical steps to start shifting from over-giving and over-functioning into feeling like the queen that you are - in your relationship, your friendships, and every area of your life. 👑We’ll explore:✨ Why over-giving is actually a survival response (and how to gently rewire it)✨ How to stop jumping in to fix everything and create more teamwork with your partner✨ The “VIP Room” mindset to rebalance one-sided friendships or client relationships✨ How to stop apologising and start expressing your needs with gratitude and softness✨ The importance of pleasure, joy, and letting yourself be supportedThis one is deeply relatable for the women who do it all - and are ready to finally receive more love, help, and devotion in return.💛 Mentioned in this episode:Join The Put Yourself First Sisterhood for monthly coaching, community, and the Magnetic Feminine Playbook → https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhoodJoin the 1:1 Coaching Waitlist for 2026 → https://www.khorrocks.com/1-1-waitlistIf this episode speaks to you, please take 30 seconds to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts - it means the world and helps more women find this work.Let’s make this the season where you stop over-functioning… and start receiving your queen treatment. 👑

Everyone waits for 1st January to make changes - but what if the most powerful time to shift your habits, routines and goals is now?In this episode, I’m breaking down the winter lock-in energy and how you can use the final months of 2025 to create momentum instead of pressure.You’ll hear:✨ Why waiting until January sabotages your growth✨ Three mindset shifts to reframe autumn/winter for success✨ How to move from knowing → doing → being so new habits stick✨ The rituals and routines I’m personally focusing on this seasonThis isn’t about hustling harder or doing it all perfectly. It’s about small, sustainable changes that line up with the woman you want to be in 2026.If you’re craving accountability and a space to actually put this into practice, come join us inside The Sisterhood. You’ll get access to our Pleasure-Led Planning calls, embodiment practices, and a community of women celebrating you every step of the way.👉 Start your free 14-day trial here: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood

We’re living in a loneliness epidemic. Everywhere we look, we’re being told to protect our peace, normalise saying no and prioritise ourselves.But here’s the truth: somewhere along the way, boundaries started looking a lot more like walls.In this episode, I’m diving into:✨ Why choosing “convenience” over connection is quietly sabotaging our relationships✨ The feminine energy balance between receiving and showing up for others✨ How self-care has been warped into isolation (and what it actually means to put yourself first)✨ Tangible journaling prompts to help you reconnect with the people who matter mostIf you’re craving more intimacy, community, and connection in your life – whether with your partner, your friends, or even yourself – this conversation is for you.💌 Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:Join The Put Yourself First Sisterhood for coaching, community, and connection. Get your 14-day free trial → https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhoodDM me on Instagram to share your reflections → @kat_horrocks

In this raw and unfiltered behind-the-scenes chat, I’m taking you inside the real decisions Adam and I have made as we plan our big day - the ones people have opinions about. From saying no to bridesmaids, to planning a child-free wedding, to why I changed my mind about taking his last name… nothing is off the table.I’m sharing:Why we ditched tradition and chose a totally different set-up for our ceremonyThe controversial decision about kids at our wedding and how we navigated itHow we’re including Benji & Bella 🐶 in the day (yes, really!)Why preparing for marriage matters more to us than just planning a weddingThe unexpected reason I now feel excited to take Adam’s last nameWhether you’re engaged, married, or nowhere near wedding bells, this episode will give you permission to throw out the rulebook and design a life (and relationship) that feels good for you.👉 Get on the waitlist for 1:1 Coaching 2026: https://www.khorrocks.com/1-1-waitlist👉 Join the Sisterhood free for 2 weeks: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood

When most women think of feminine energy, they think of letting go, surrendering, being led.But what MOST women don't realise this: You CANNOT fully relax, surrender, or feel safe in your feminine without boundaries.Boundaries are not walls. Boundaries are the container that let you feel safe enough to soften.They are the high standards that create space for intimacy, for respect, for trust, and for that queen-level energy you desire in your relationship.In this episode, I’m breaking down:✨ The biggest misconception about feminine energy and why boundaries are essential to it✨ How boundaries create the safety required to let go, receive, and be fully supported✨ The difference between non-negotiables and personal boundaries - and why you need both✨ How to communicate your standards from a grounded, feminine place (without ultimatums)✨ Why being “high maintenance” is actually the most magnetic energy you can bring into your relationshipBoundaries are not about controlling others. They are about honouring yourself - and inviting others to meet you there.Because when you know your standards, when you own your non-negotiables, when you uphold your boundaries with love… that’s when you get to receive the queen treatment you truly desire.And if this episode is speaking to you, this is exactly the work I go deep on inside my 1:1 Feminine Embodiment & Relationship Coaching.Right now, I’m opening five exclusive case study spots at 50% off my full rate. The response has already been overwhelming, so spaces are almost gone.📩 DM me the word COACHING on Instagram to see if there’s a spot with your name on it - or to join the waitlist for the next round. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/