Crystal Paine Show

I do want to say right out of the gate that this is not an episode that you’re probably going to want to listen to while eating. (The title should give you a clue as to why.) Jesse joins me this week as I discuss having recently returned from a trip to India feeling great but then soon after developing severe gastrointestinal issues that lasted for weeks. I initially thought that it was just a stomach bug, but after my symptoms persisted, I realized that something a lot more serious was likely going on.Listen in as I describe feeling extremely nauseous, fatigued, and having constant diarrhea that left me bedridden for days. I had trouble keeping any food or drink down, and the medical professionals that I saw were hesitant to test for a parasite, even though many of my friends who had heard about my condition suggested that that was likely what was wrong.I reflect on how, after struggling through a trip to attend my brother's wedding, my condition worsened to the point at which I could barely move! At 2 a.m. in severe distress, I finally convinced Jesse to take me to the emergency room where they were able to quickly get my fluids and run tests, which confirmed that I had contracted a parasite during my trip to India.My ER visit and subsequent treatment, which included an antibiotic regimen, ultimately helped me begin to recover. I talk about how it took several more weeks to fully regain my strength, but I am so grateful that I persisted in advocating for myself and getting the right diagnosis. This is a longer episode than usual, but we hope that you got some laughs from it! We also hope that you take away an important message - it’s so important to advocate for yourself! As always, I would love to hear from you, so send me an email at crystal@moneysavingmom.com!In This Episode[0:35] - I am recounting returning from India with a parasite and hope that my story encourages self-advocacy.[4:05] - After getting home, my mild jet lag suddenly escalated into severe stomach illness by Friday night.[7:44] - Hear how, even though I was happy to be home, my lingering nausea and exhaustion only got worse.[9:44] - Despite trying to push through, my nausea persisted, leading to inconclusive clinic tests.[12:26] - Hear about how I initially skipped parasite testing, forcing fluids and sugar-heavy drinks while struggling with my dehydration getting worse.[15:45] - My exhausting trip left me bedridden, prayerful, and unable to work despite my usually high stamina.[17:37] - I recount how a brief, miraculous surge of energy allowed me to run a wedding before the sickness returned that night.[20:57] - I share how I became violently ill on the drive home and barely managed the trip without incident.[23:48] - Hear how my slight improvement convinced me to skip testing while I worked through a hectic week.[26:12] - I discuss how the long drive to Kansas went surprisingly smoothly, leaving me feeling cautiously optimistic.[27:16] - I talk about how, during rehearsal, I helped David down the aisle.[29:12] - I reveal how my illness peaked that night, leaving me curled on the floor and worrying that something was seriously wrong.[32:10] - Zofran gave me brief relief before I realized that I needed to get emergency care despite the wedding.[34:48] - I reflect on how the quiet late-night ER immediately admitted me, ran tests, and began me on fluids.[36:50] - The ER staff collected my stool sample in-room, leaving me mortified while Jesse nearly gagged from the smell.[39:42] - Jesse’s dramatic reaction forced staff to rush in, confirm the awful smell, and remove the sample.[42:02] - IV fluids and Zofran quickly revived me, marking the turning point toward daily improvement.[44:25] - I learned of my parasite diagnosis, recovered with treatment, and have taken on healthier habits.[46:42] - I share how, after a late-night call, I started a short antibiotic course, and I encourage listeners to advocate for yourselves!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to present this episode to you because I sat down with Kari Kampakis, author of the new book Is Your Daughter Ready?: 10 Ways to Empower Your Girl for an Age of New Challenges. Tune in as Kari shares how she was inspired to write this book after her previous parenting books and as she recognized the unique challenges facing teenage girls today.Kari explains that her goal with this book is to provide practical guidance for mothers who currently have girls making that transition into adulthood. She highlights and explains the importance of preparing girls not just to be "lights" in the world but also to be discerning and resilient in the face of adversity. Drawing from her own experiences raising her daughters, Kari encourages moms to parent with open hands, trusting God's plan rather than trying to control every single outcome.I really resonate with Kari's advice, and I share some of my own struggles with the pressure that many parents feel to have their teenagers' futures mapped out. Kari advises against this, encouraging moms listening and reading her book to avoid overpacking their daughters' "suitcases" with unrealistic expectations, instead encouraging celebrating each child's unique God-given personality and gifts even when they differ from our own.Our conversation explores some practical ways to encourage discernment in teenage girls, such as teaching them to tune into their intuition about relationships and recognize red flags. We also highlight the value of involving fathers and other male role models in this process as well as the importance of having open, age-appropriate conversations about sensitive topics such as dating, technology, and sexuality.Throughout our conversation, we openly and vulnerably share some stories from our own journeys as parents, hoping to offer hope and wisdom to listeners. We hope to remind moms that perfection is unattainable but that trusting God and leaning on community can empower us to raise resilient, discerning daughters who are prepared to take on the challenges of this age!In This Episode[0:35] - I am interviewing Kari Kampakis, author of Is Your Daughter Ready?.[1:53] - Hear how Kari was inspired to write a practical book helping moms prepare daughters for life’s darkness and challenges.[4:10] - I discuss the pressure that teens face to plan their futures and how uncertain paths still work out.[5:06] - Kari stresses trusting God over control and focusing on children’s peace and mental health over perfection.[8:26] - Kari encourages moms to pray for guidance, lean on supportive communities, and remember God’s love for them.[11:20] - It's important to embrace each child’s unique personality instead of molding them into parental reflections.[13:38] - I share how accepting my 18-year-old's creativity and boldness strengthened our bond.[16:04] - Hear how faith and prayer helped Kari appreciate her daughter’s strong spirit.[18:45] - Kari stresses teaching our daughters to trust their intuition and recognize safe, healthy relationships early on.[21:51] - Kari explains how to distinguish loyal “real friends” from inconsistent “50-50 friends” who drain your peace.[24:49] - Kari recalls praying through her daughter’s unhealthy relationship and involving male role models for guidance.[27:28] - Kari advises starting relationships as friendships, learning from dating experiences, and valuing emotional compatibility.[29:47] - I stress the importance of observing potential partners in varied settings to reveal true character before committing.[31:31] - Kari encourages parents to initiate honest and age-appropriate talks early on.[34:40] - ​​I reiterate the importance of preparing daughters for real-life challenges via open discussions and learning from others' experiences.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksIs Your Daughter Ready?: 10 Ways to Empower Your Girl for an Age of New Challenges by Kari KampakisLove Her Well: 10 Ways to Find Joy and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter by Kari KampakisMore Than a Mom: How Prioritizing Your Wellness Helps You (and Your Family) Thrive by Kari KampakisSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am thrilled to welcome Elisabeth Hasselbeck for this episode of the show! Elisabeth is the author of the children’s book God’s Masterpiece: An Adventure in Discovering Your Worth, and from the very first moment she started sharing, I could feel her heart for moms, kids, and families. Her book isn’t just a storybook; it’s a reminder of something which we all need to hear again and again - that we are uniquely made with purpose and beauty woven into every part of who we are.During our conversation, Elisabeth and I talk about what it really means to see ourselves and everyone else as created in God’s image, changing how we parent, how we speak to others, and even how we handle conflict. When we remember that every single person, even the one we most disagree with, is a reflection of God’s creativity, it transforms how we show up in the world.Elisabeth opens up about how her family’s experience with fostering helped shape her understanding of love and surrender, and she talks about the freedom that comes from letting go of control, something all of us moms wrestle with daily! She also discusses learning to trust God with our children’s stories, and I even reflect on how that lesson has shown up in my own life, especially via prayer.We also take on that tricky tension between correcting our kids and speaking life over them, with Elisabeth reminding us that motherhood is not about perfect control but is rather about being a safe place. She speaks about how prayer doesn’t have to be fancy or formal, that God meets us right where we are whether it be in the car, at the kitchen sink, or in the middle of chaos, and He delights in us just showing up.This episode is for any parent or caregiver who is feeling weary, stretched thin, or unsure if they’re doing it “right.” You are sure to walk away feeling reminded that you and your kids are loved completely, and be sure to grab a copy of Elisabeth’s book!In This Episode[0:35] - I welcome Elisabeth Hasselbeck, author of God’s Masterpiece, to the show![1:08] - We learn that Elisabeth wrote God’s Masterpiece to remind families that each person is uniquely created by God.[3:15] - Elisabeth explains that her return to art and fostering revealed God’s love in every life story.[6:16] - I reflect on how remembering that everyone is made in God’s image transforms how I treat those with whom I disagree.[7:21] - Once we see others as God’s masterpieces, we are more compelled to love and protect them.[10:38] - Elisabeth believes that unity in Christ grows when families speak God’s truth over themselves and one another.[13:37] - Elisabeth describes motherhood as a balance of protection and release that is consistently guided by prayer and grace.[16:55] - Hear how prayer teaches me to release control and trust God with my kids' futures.[18:21] - Elisabeth says that fostering helped reveal the beauty of parenting via love, prayer, and freedom from control.[21:33] - Moms often seek quick fixes instead of first asking the Holy Spirit for wisdom.[22:14] - Elisabeth reminds moms that God meets them anywhere, anytime; even brief, imperfect prayers invite His presence.[25:32] - I add that prayer has no “right” way; God values honesty and dependence over perfection.[27:42] - Elisabeth describes faith as standing under God’s power, trusting His promises and resting in His presence.[29:45] - Thank you, Elisabeth!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksGod’s Masterpiece: An Adventure in Discovering Your Worth by Elisabeth HasselbeckSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have such exciting news to share this week on the show! I recently took an international trip to India, my first time traveling overseas in six years! I was initially hesitant to go because it would mean leaving the young kids for an extended period of 13 days - the longest that I have ever been away from them, but I felt a strong calling to make the trip despite my fears and reservations.Listen in as I share how, in Mumbai, my team and I spent some time in one of the world's largest slums, the Dharavi slum. We were really struck by the resourcefulness and industriousness of the slum's residents, who produce over $1 billion in goods annually via small-scale manufacturing and recycling. While the living conditions definitely appeared to be difficult, I was really encouraged to see how much income the residents were able to send back to support their families in rural areas.Beyond the slum, my team also toured many of Mumbai's iconic sights and took in the city's vibrant culture and contrasts. We even visited the Taj Hotel, a historic landmark that has hosted countless world leaders and celebrities over the years, but while the trip itself was incredibly meaningful and impactful for me, the weeks following my return were hard. I got sick for three weeks and had to coordinate two weddings, all while processing the lessons that I had learned in India.I am so excited to share more about how the trip transformed me in the next episode, so stay tuned!In This Episode[0:35] - Surprise! Jesse is interviewing me for this episode![2:50] - I share how I was reluctant to leave the family for such a long time even though I do love to travel.[4:52] - Even though I was hesitant and guilt-ridden, I ultimately accepted a last-minute India trip that I felt guided to take.[7:41] - I reflect on how I took the trip as a way of obeying God's calling even though I was afraid.[11:16] - Hear how I explored Mumbai’s vast slum and admired its people’s creativity, resilience, and relentless work ethic.[14:33] - I learned that the slum’s government sale probably benefits profit-driven elites and not the residents who are struggling.[16:56] - I really admired the workers’ pride and creativity despite harsh living conditions.[19:58] - Most of the workers in the slum were men supporting families back home in rural villages.[21:34] - I reflect on how Mumbai overwhelmed my senses with vibrant color, noise, and contrasting beauty and decay.[24:09] - Hear how I noticed stray and cared-for animals, reflecting both poverty and compassion.[26:02] - My final day mixed luxury and restraint as I savored Mumbai’s grandeur while staying mindful and humble.[29:36] - I talk about how I took strict precautions with food and water, relying mostly on safe, Western-style meals.[32:36] - Despite India’s tighter religious laws, the trip deepened my faith and also forged lasting friendships.[35:32] - I reflect on how, even though I was emotionally drained, I felt so uplifted by my team.[39:16] - After getting back home, I got sick and faced some challenges, but I trusted God.[40:31] - Reflecting on everything, I feel renewed, healed, and grateful.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This episode features an interview with Willa Kane, co-author of the Eighth Day Prayers book series, and she shares the inspiring story of how this series unexpectedly came to be during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020. She was spending time in Georgia when she received a text from a friend suggesting that they get friends and family to pray at 8 p.m. daily about the unfolding situation. Willa reached out to a few others, and within 24 hours, they had a website set up and 15,000 people around the world committed to join the daily prayer initiative. Even though she never intended for this to become a major project, over the next few years, it evolved into a series of three Eighth Day Prayers books.Listen in as Willa reveals how the name Eighth Day Prayers comes from the theological significance of the eighth day - the day of Christ's resurrection, representing a new creation. She explains how the liturgical calendar and focusing on God's word, rather than just the challenges of the times, was so important to the initiative's appeal and impact. She also reflects on how her background and life experiences, including a period of chronic illness in her 30s, prepared her for this unexpected calling, and she offers advice for busy women, suggesting that they start small by focusing on just a word or phrase from scripture that speaks to them each day rather than trying to take on especially long passages.The Eighth Day Prayers books are designed to be accessible, with content that can be read in just a few minutes. Willa encourages even skeptics to try it, believing that God will meet them there. As a grandmother of twelve, Willa also shares some insights into parenting and grandparenting, highlighting the importance of helping children discover how God has uniquely wired them. Willa's story is an inspiring example of how God can take a simple idea and turn it into a global movement, and I hope that you enjoy my conversation with her. If so, be sure to check out her books here!In This Episode[0:35] - Join me for this episode as I interview the co-author of the Eighth Day Prayers book series, Willa Kane![1:28] - We learn where the idea for the Eighth Day Prayers series originated.[3:11] - Hear how a spontaneous global prayer movement spread rapidly, drawing 15,000 participants![6:06] - Willa's creative, spiritual, and professional experiences came together perfectly for developing this project.[7:41] - Discover how personal hardship and spiritual symbolism around the number 8 inspired the Eighth Day Prayers title.[10:29] - Willa states that she views daily life and this project as gifts rooted in Jesus’ redemptive work.[11:40] - Following the liturgical calendar helps Willa see everyday seasons as reflections of Christ’s life.[14:33] - Listen as Willa encourages brief, reflective Bible reading as a daily conversation with God via prayer.[17:30] - Willa even encourages skeptics to try prayer briefly, trusting that God provides exactly what we need daily.[18:51] - Willa asserts that fulfillment comes from living as God designed us, not pursuing limitless ambition.[22:00] - Despite family chaos, Willa finds hope knowing that Jesus is the mediator in every story.[24:50] - Willa urges parents to pray intentionally for family values and unity across generations and marriages.[26:54] - Learn how Willa's Cousin Camp nurtures faith and family bonds via Scripture, prayer, and shared summer activities.[30:18] - We discover where to find Willa and her books online.[32:26] - I praise the Eighth Day Prayers books for being so accessible and guiding readers toward daily reflection and faith.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineEighth Day Prayers - WebsiteEighth Day Prayers - Website - Willa KaneBooksEighth Day Prayers - BooksSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am ecstatic to be joined for this episode of the show by Kristen Strong, author of the book Desperate Woman Seeks Friends: Real Talk About Connection, Rejection, and Trying Again for the Friendships You Need! Join us as we talk about the challenges of making and maintaining friendships, especially as adults. Kristen shares her own personal story of feeling lonely and "desperate" to find friends when she moved to a new city with her military family, describing the strategies that she learned, including "show up, open up, pray up" (putting herself out there to meet new people, being vulnerable by inviting them into her home, and relying on prayer for guidance).Kristen highlights the importance of patience and persistence, noting that building deep friendships takes significant time and persistent effort, and she encourages listeners to get creative in finding opportunities to connect, whether through shared activities, volunteering, or simply running errands together. Kristen also cautions against the pitfalls of trying too hard or being overly needy in friendships, which can inadvertently push people away.Our conversation also touches upon the pain of friendship breakups and rejection, with Kristen offering empathy and advice for those who have been deeply hurt, suggesting that they rely on their faith, avoid bitterness, and have the courage to try again.Kristen shares how her own difficult friendship experiences ultimately helped her become a healthier, more confident friend, and she highlights the vital importance of community and the need for women to support and encourage one another. I highly recommend you get yourself a copy of her book Desperate Woman Seeks Friends as it is filled with practical wisdom and inspiration for anyone seeking more meaningful connections!In This Episode[0:35] - I introduce this episode’s focus on women’s struggles with friendship and welcome Kristen Strong![2:06] - Hear how Kristen nearly resorted to posting a “Desperate Woman Seeks Friends” sign before meeting her friend.[5:18] - I reflect on moving towns, feeling lonely, and realizing social media can complicate true connection.[7:44] - Online friendships often lack the vulnerability of real-life encounters.[9:09] - Kristen stresses “show up, open up, pray up” as keys for building lasting friendships.[12:12] - Hosting people at home fosters deeper bonds and aligns with God’s design.[15:12] - I emphasize initiating coffee invites, acknowledging that most attempts won’t lead to close friendships.[16:20] - Kristen reflects on having clicked instantly with Maria, proving treasured friendships can form even with full, busy lives.[19:12] - Kristen values blending friendship and routine tasks, leaving people feeling lighter and more encouraged afterward.[22:41] - We reflect on having once suffocated and/or overwhelmed friends in the past.[25:52] - By finding security in faith, Kristen became a healthier friend for others.[28:56] - Friendship breakups rarely reflect personal failure.[31:09] - Kristen sees rejection as God’s protection.[34:21] - I share how a breakup birthed growth, gratitude, and opportunities to love my former friend.[36:34] - Kristen warns bitterness can stunt healing, but softened hearts enrich future friendships and resilience.[39:39] - Kristen critiques throwaway culture and stresses grace, forgiveness, and cherishing supportive friendships.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksDesperate Woman Seeks Friends: Real Talk About Connection, Rejection, and Trying Again for the Friendships You Need by Kristen StrongSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Join Jesse and I this week as I enthusiastically share updates on my family's exciting events, including my parents' 50th wedding anniversary celebration and the upcoming weddings of my brothers! I describe the thoughtful planning that went into honoring my parents' milestone anniversary and how the family came together from near and far to recreate special moments from the original wedding such as having the original maid of honor and best man attend.We even incorporated personal touches like displaying old photos and letters, playing music from the couple's courtship days, and my mom wearing her original wedding dress. The celebration was a joyful reunion, with guests ranging from childhood friends to distant relatives, all there to celebrate my parents' love!I also reveal that I am opening up one-on-one coaching opportunities for you all this fall! I am so passionate about pouring into others, especially in the area of entrepreneurship, and am so incredibly excited to guide people in starting or growing their own businesses! I also discuss my brand new course called the "Work From Home Blueprint” - a 30-day step-by-step plan to help listeners land a remote job or launch a home-based business!I hope that my story about my recent family event will fill you with warmth and inspiration. As always, please feel free to reach out at crystal@moneysavingmom.com. I would love to hear from you!In This Episode[0:36] - I share some updates and announce limited spots for new coaching sessions.[3:59] - My coaching focuses on business guidance inspired by my own mentor’s impact.[5:49] - Both of my brothers got engaged and scheduled weddings, so l traveled solo with Micah.[8:31] - I discuss how the 50th anniversary party for my parents was secretly planned.[11:13] - Hear about how, at the celebration, my mom wore her restored wedding dress and recreated original photos.[14:10] - I share how my brothers and I built a huge balloon arch, shared memorabilia, and put together a special, nostalgic celebration![17:14] - We even recreated the wedding cake, enjoyed breakfast together, and prepared food with simple but meaningful touches.[19:49] - I share how my parents introduced familiar locals, dressed up like newlyweds, and welcomed old friends and family![22:38] - Hear me reflect on how guests were warmly reunited, parents cut cake, and the family shared church and debrief time together.[26:41] - I introduce my $47 Work from Home Blueprint course which offers step-by-step remote work guidance.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so thrilled to be joined this week by Kate Strickler, author of the new book I Just Wish I Had a Bigger Kitchen: And Other Lies I Think Will Make Me Happy. The book is brand new, and let me tell you - it’s exactly the kind of book we all need right now! Kate and I talk about the little stories that we tell ourselves, those “lies” that sneak into our marriages, our homes, and our friendships, and how they can so easily steal our joy.Listen in as we laugh about the quirks of daily life such as piles of toys on the floor or an unloaded dishwasher and how easy it is to build an entire story in our heads about why someone did or didn’t do something. Kate’s perspective is refreshingly practical, showing us how to give each other grace at home, communicate clearly, and focus on what really matters instead of trying to create a Pinterest-perfect life.We also get into her experience building Naptime Kitchen where she started sharing simple recipes during her baby’s naps and gradually grew it into a space full of real-life solutions for families. Her honesty about online life, friendships, and being seen authentically is something that truly resonates with me!We talk about how adult friendships often require intention, asking for help, and letting people support you, which can feel vulnerable but ultimately deepens connection, and Kate shares some practical tips for making your home work for you rather than stressing over appearances. She encourages us to embrace authenticity in marriage, parenting, and online spaces!By the end of our chat, I guarantee you that you will be laughing, reflecting, and maybe even inspired to lower your standards a little because life is meant to be lived, not staged, so if you are looking for a book that will make you feel seen, laugh out loud, and think differently about home, family, and friendships, grab a copy of Kate’s book and follow her online at Naptime Kitchen!In This Episode[0:35] - I welcome Kate Strickler, author of I Just Wish I Had a Bigger Kitchen, to the show!​​[1:58] - Hear how Kate realized that being vulnerable online showed me others shared my struggles, making me feel less alone.[4:13] - Kate confidently chose relatable topics to show that struggles exist even in happy marriages.[7:29] - Marriage requires grace; Kate's spouse Nate leaving small messes isn’t personal but is just part of everyday life.[10:55] - Communicating openly about household messes helps prevent guilt.[13:16] - Kate views her home as adaptable, focusing on solutions that make it serve her family.[16:21] - I discuss how lowering expectations for cleanliness helps me manage a busy household without constant frustration.[19:50] - Hear how Kate's online presence grew gradually and how she aims to keep it inclusive, approachable, and accessible.[22:54] - Kate shares her authentic, everyday self online to avoid unrealistic public expectations.[24:47] - Kate explains why she craves honest, deep friendships rather than surface-level connections.[27:46] - I point out how understanding a friendship’s intentions sometimes feels even more uncertain than dating.[30:10] - Accepting friends’ support revealed how small gestures can deeply strengthen bonds.[33:05] - Kate recognizes that receiving help nurtures trust and enriches friendships.[35:58] - Embracing and expressing needs allows true connection.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineNaptime KitchenBooksI Just Wish I Had a Bigger Kitchen: And Other Lies I Think Will Make Me Happy by Kate StricklerSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Listen in this week as we do something a little bit different. Jesse interviews me! That’s right. I recently went on a retreat to Utah, and Jesse asks me questions all about it! I talk about my trip for a mastermind retreat with a group of women CEOs, a retreat focused on the theme of "flourishing" - exploring the gaps in their lives and how to move from areas that feel "dead or dying" to truly thriving.I talk about the various activities that we did, including an adventurous Jeep tour through the rugged Utah terrain that left us covered in dust! We also had intentional discussion times, including a "one question meal" where each person took turns sharing in response to a thought-provoking question. One of the biggest takeaways for me personally was the importance of creating more space in my life. I realized that I needed to be more intentional about shutting down work earlier in the evenings in order to be fully present with my family, and this has truly already made a noticeable difference in my energy and focus!The most impactful part of the retreat for me had to have been writing a letter to my future self, reflecting on the last five years of my life and envisioning how my new priorities will shape the next two years. I found myself very surprised by how much poured out as I wrote, feeling a sense of healing and clarity! Overall, this retreat provided me with valuable time for rest, reflection, and renewed intentionality around the areas of my life that matter most, and I am so excited to implement the changes that I identified and see the positive impact that they have, both personally and professionally!In This Episode[0:35] - Hear how I realized that my phone was under me the whole time as I searched for it![2:41] - My trip to Utah was one of three summer journeys.[4:09] - What was the purpose of my recent trip to Utah?[7:33] - I describe what the weather was like on my trip.[9:08] - I talk about how the Jeep ride was bumpy, dangerous, and beautiful but left me utterly uninterested in owning one.[11:41] - Hear how dust covered us so thoroughly that baby wipes revealed streaks of clean skin.[13:32] - Our dinner began with reflections on flourishing and times of feeling fully alive.[16:19] - I contrast empty success-chasing with the fulfillment of fostering and adoption.[18:31] - Hear how serving behind the scenes at church rekindled my lifelong joy in organizing meals.[20:40] - I cherished early nights and found healing in honest group sharing.[23:38] - Via journaling and discussion, I realized that my biggest gaps were sleep and marriage.[26:35] - Hear how I publicly committed to ending work by 7 p.m.[28:17] - Early shutdowns improved my sleep quality and made me more present in my marriage.[31:16] - Choosing “space” as my theme, I have delegated tasks and restructured priorities at home.[33:36] - Leaving space in my days has increased gratitude, connection, and joyful laughter![35:46] - I talk about how writing a future-focused letter brought healing reflection and clarity for the next two years.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have the honor this week of having not just one but two guests in the studio, both of whom I love dearly - David Thomas and Sissy Goff! David and Sissy discuss their new children's books focused on building resilience and courage in young kids. The books, featuring therapy dogs as the main characters, aim to help children with common challenges such as anxiety, fear, and emotional regulation.Listen as Sissy and David share how they have witnessed the powerful impact of therapy dogs in their counseling practice, helping kids open up and feel more comfortable expressing their feelings. They also discuss the scientific research showing the mental health benefits of interacting with dogs, including reduced stress and increased feel-good hormones.Our conversation explores how even very young children, as early as preschool age, can struggle with anxiety and fear that manifests in rigid behavior, meltdowns, and an inability to cope with change or big transitions. David and Sissy provide some practical strategies for parents, such as using "breath prayers" and feelings charts to help kids identify and work through their feelings.Highlighting the importance of building emotional intelligence from an early age, Sissy and David also reflect on some personal stories of how they've seen this make a profound difference, even in the lives of older kids who initially resisted. The books' themes of resilience and courage are brought to life via relatable examples that kids can connect with, and not only do I strongly encourage you to grab yourself some copies, I also really hope that you enjoy this incredibly informative conversation with David Thomas and Sissy Goff![Episode Timeline][0:35] - Welcome to the show, David and Sissy![2:42] - Why are the dogs at the center of David’s and Sissy’s children’s books?[4:52] - Hear how training a therapy dog revealed how deeply kids and dogs reduce stress.[7:49] - Sissy argues that dogs tend to put children in touch with an otherwise hard to access tenderness.[9:46] - Owen’s reluctance to enter the room became a metaphor for overcoming overwhelming moments.[11:59] - I reflect on my fear of entering a gym class and the relief after committing.[13:39] - David looks back on how his dad and Owen comforted each other, proving closeness can heal loneliness and fear.[15:56] - David explains how READing Paws shows kids read with less anxiety when accompanied by nonjudgmental dogs.[17:13] - Sissy points out how rising childhood anxiety often appears as rigid control.[20:46] - My jump-rope fear illustrates how we often exaggerate obstacles that actually prove simple.[23:27] - Hear how Sissy helps her nephew face Disney ride fears with the phrase, “a little scared, a lot fun.”[24:36] - I recall forcing my anxious daughter into school, a decision that ultimately changed her life.[26:45] - Fear often masks itself as anger in children, making it more difficult to recognize and address.[28:26] - David distinguishes normal challenges from debilitating ones by asking if a child can still move forward.[30:49] - David recommends workbooks and parent consultations as first steps before pursuing therapy.[32:24] - Sissy highlights the importance of finding warm, trusted therapists and framing therapy as building a child’s support team.[34:31] - David and Sissy describe using tools like feelings charts and thermometers to teach kids emotional awareness.[36:49] - I praise teaching kids emotional language at a young age, preventing unresolved feelings from damaging adult relationships later.[Links & Resources]Crystal Paine  READing Paws  Daystar Counseling  Books:- *Lucy Learns to Be Brave* by Sissy Goff  - *Owen Learns He Has What It Takes* by David Thomas  - *Happy Finds Her Calm* by Sissy Goff & David Thomas  - *Pippa Learns to Share the Spotlight* by Sissy Goff & David Thomas  - *Braver, Stronger, Smarter* by Sissy Goff  - *Strong and Smart* by David Thomas  Social Media:Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom, @crystaliscleaning)  Crystal Paine on LinkedIn, Twitter, Goodreads  Money Saving Mom on Facebook and Deal Seekers group  Email: crystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Listen this week as Jesse and I share an unscripted update on our family's recent travels and the start of the new school year! We talk about some of the changes to our kids' school schedules, with David now attending the afternoon preschool program instead of the morning which has worked out really nicely as it better suits his natural sleep and wake cycle.We then reflect on our recent fun trips - first, my visit to Orlando to attend a business retreat where I experienced the thrills of the Volcano Bay water park and the serene beauty of Discovery Cove. At Discovery Cove, the highlight was definitely swimming with dolphins, an experience that left a deep impression and even had me briefly considering a career change! Then, following the Orlando trip, our whole family spent a week at the lake with extended family, enjoying activities like boating, tubing, and water skiing. Jesse and I note that this was absolutely our best lake trip yet, with even the younger kids fully embracing and delighting in the water activities!Throughout this update, we highlight the importance of making time for play and new experiences, which we personally find so rejuvenating for the soul, especially amidst the busyness of daily life. I would love for you to share your own experiences with water parks, swimming with dolphins, and/or family lake trips!In This Episode[0:35] - This unscripted update includes school changes and a surprising, career-shifting sea creature encounter![3:01] - Hear how David thrives in his structured public school program, although his schedule now differs from Micah’s.[6:06] - I reveal how adjustments to school routines have eased mornings, giving me calmer drop-offs and some brief quiet at home.[9:48] - I describe a refreshing Orlando trip with my coach’s group, including visits to two water parks.[12:29] - Volcano Bay proved thrilling for adults and teens, though its tap-in ride system created long waits.[15:21] - Hear how Discovery Cove felt like a tropical resort with all-inclusive food, relaxation, wildlife, and immersive water experiences![18:28] - I explain how above water felt like a resort, but underwater was pure ocean adventure with stingrays.[21:15] - Hear how our dolphin encounter lasted longer because our obedient dolphin contrasted with misbehaving ones nearby.[24:45] - Jesse compares dolphin interactions to African safaris, where animals perceive groups as single entities.[25:22] - I share how I unexpectedly rode a dolphin’s strength, sparking thoughts about becoming a trainer myself![28:46] - The dolphin swim reminded me of the joy and soul-refreshment found in play.[31:05] - After Discovery Cove, I joined the family at the lake, cherishing togetherness across all ages!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to be sharing my incredibly insightful conversation with author Ian Morgan Cron with all of you! Ian Morgan Cron is the author of The Fix: How the Twelve Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation for the Well-Adjusted, the Down-and-Out, and Everyone in Between! Listen in as he discusses the book and vulnerably shares his own personal journey with addiction and the power of the twelve-step program in transforming his life.Ian explains how addictions, whether they be to substances, behaviors, or relationships, are a common human experience stemming from an underlying "uneasiness" or "feeling of not-at-homeness." He highlights the fact that everyone struggles with some form of addiction that provides temporary relief but ultimately diminishes us.Ian touches upon the twelve steps and opens up about his battles with approval-seeking and workaholism, revealing how the twelve steps helped him let go of the need for external validation. He encourages listeners, however, to approach the journey of transformation with patience, as it is a slow process of rewiring deep-seated beliefs and habits.Our conversation also digs into Ian's expertise in the Enneagram personality typing system, and he talks about his new Enneagram assessment tool that provides accurate, in-depth insights into one's personality type and subtypes. He shares how understanding the Enneagram has profoundly impacted his own relationships and self-awareness.Throughout our conversation, Ian's vulnerability, humor, and wisdom truly shine through, making this a must-listen episode for anyone seeking greater wholeness, authenticity, and connection in their life! I hope that you enjoy my conversation with Ian Morgan Cron! In This Episode [0:35] - Welcome to the show, Ian Morgan Cron, author of The Fix![2:12] - Ian admits that writing so vulnerably was hard but that he chose honesty over image to help others grow. [5:55] - I do sometimes contort myself to get approval, seeking validation in relationships more than online. [6:39] - Ian explains how he outgrew childhood approval-seeking and now regards his self-worth independently from others' opinions.[9:32] - I reflect on how replacing self-critical lies with truth took me two years of intentional rewiring. [11:28] - Addictions ultimately stem from inner discomfort; we soothe it with “fixes” that quickly become destructive cycles. [13:50] - Ian explains how addiction comes from trauma, biology, and environment, offering temporary peace in a chaotic inner world.[15:16] - Addiction is often a misguided solution to a deeper pain. [17:55] - Ian further explains how addiction is any unhealthy dependency on people, behaviors, and/or substances to seek peace and self-worth. [20:36] - Hear how Ian fully embraced the twelve steps after a relapse. [22:46] - Relapse rewired Ian’s brain but ultimately led to humility and healing. [25:16] - Ian shares how open twelve-step meetings can feel sacred, filled with laughter, vulnerability, and genuine human connection. [26:41] - The twelve steps guide the healing process and eventually become second nature. [29:59] - Ian feels that making amends can deeply impact others and keeps us emotionally cleaned up. [32:24] - Hear how Ian co-developed a scientifically rigorous Enneagram test to replace misleading, clickbait personality quizzes. [34:35] - Accurate personality assessments reveal deeper truths, while cheap ones often mislead and waste emotional energy. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Ian Morgan Cron  Books The Fix: How the Twelve Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation for the Well-Adjusted, the Down-and-Out, and Everyone in Between by Ian Morgan Cron The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self by Ian Morgan Cron Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom) Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning) Crystal Paine on LinkedIn Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Angie Howell is the author of the recently released book Jewel of Heaven: A Beautiful Story of Brokenness, Redemption, and the Power of a Biker’s Prayer, and I am so happy to welcome her to the studio for this episode! She joins me to share her inspiring story about what can happen when your world unravels in a way that you never saw coming and God shows up through the last people you'd expect.Angie shares how she was a confident pediatric nurse respected, in demand, and able to fix almost any newborn feeding challenge – even though her personal life was a mess. In the midst of a failing marriage and parenting seven children, she found herself pregnant again and unraveling.Listen in as Angie talks openly and honestly about the shame that she carried, the guilt with which she wrestled, and how her faith had gone dormant until a persistent cousin named Rich (a Harley-riding, leather-wearing, tattooed biker who’d found Jesus) refused to let her stay in the dark. Angie shares the moment when she finally allowed his biker prayer group to pray over her fragile baby girl, Jade, a moment that truly changed everything for her.Angie and I discuss what it feels like to walk into a waiting room full of children with visible disabilities and have your pride shaken. We talk about miracles that can’t be explained, even by top neurologists, and we talk about what it means to become a warrior mother out of necessity, to join a community of parents who empathize, and to see value and beauty where the world often looks away.At the end of the day, this isn’t just Angie’s story. It is a story that will challenge how you see struggle, faith, and the people God chooses to work through! Tune in for Angie's inspirational and powerful insights! In This Episode[0:35] - I am interviewing Angie Howell, author of Jewel of Heaven![1:37] - Angie reflects on having felt successful at work but spiritually lost until her daughter and faith changed everything.[4:45] - Angie’s unexpected pregnancy crushed her sense of freedom during an already crumbling third marriage.[6:10] - Angie now understands the need for grace and support after struggling alone through overwhelming guilt.[8:46] - Angie wishes that someone had told her that God would meet her in chaos and never leave.[10:53] - Being helpless to save her newborn shattered Angie’s confidence and led to some deep emotional reflection.[13:27] - Over time, Angie learned to find small daily miracles in her daughter’s life and spirit.[16:32] - Angie reveals how seeing children with disabilities shattered her pride and forced her to confront her own biases.[18:22] - A simple act of kindness can uplift parents of children with special needs.[20:41] - Angie reveals how a brain scan confirmed her deepest fear, that Jade’s condition was severe, irreversible, and likely fatal.[22:40] - Angie feels that she relied too heavily on doctors and Google, forgetting that ultimate healing comes from God.[24:15] - Reluctantly allowing bikers to pray over Jade, Angie witnessed God move in a moment of doubt.[26:50] - After the prayer, Jade’s MRI showed a normal brain, an inexplicable but undeniable miracle.[29:41] - Angie believes that God used misfits and relentless love to rescue her when she was spiritually drowning.[32:48] - Angie’s story has become one of transformation, meant to help others find faith and hope.[35:03] - Angie now carries her book while traveling, offering it wherever the Holy Spirit leads her.Links & Resources Crystal Paine BooksJewel of Heaven: A Beautiful Story of Brokenness, Redemption, and the Power of a Biker’s Prayer by Angie Howell Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Today’s topic is a really vulnerable and honest one and I've been sort of hesitant to cover it. But while putting yourself out there like this is a little scary, it's been impacting my life so much that I wanted to share in hopes it might help and encourage someone else.In this episode, Jesse and I sit down and talk about my journey of changing my mindset around food and the major shifts that I have experienced in the last few weeks. I talk about why I signed up with a dietitian (it's fully covered by insurance for me and most people!) and what I thought I would get out of it and how it's completely not panned out like I thought!During my first session, I had some pretty big "a-ha" moments as the dietitian challenged some of my long-held beliefs. She asked me a lot of questions and then explained to me that in eating too few calories for years, especially while under immense physical and emotional stress, I have actually been hurting my body.I discuss how, over the following weeks, I really struggled to increase my calorie intake, as it felt like "too much food" after restricting for so long and I was scared. I went through a period of intense anxiety and stress as the weight didn't immediately come off, and I ultimately realized that I needed to break free from this unhealthy mindset and get rid of the scale altogether.I am now focusing on nourishing my body and listening to my hunger cues rather than obsessing over macros or calories. I have experienced a new freedom and energy, I'm working through and processing so much, and I hope to break this cycle for my kids and set an example of true health and wholeness!This is just the beginning of my journey, but I am so excited to continue to heal and share the process transparently!In This Episode[0:36] - I am discussing my as of yet unhealed struggles with food.[2:24] - Hear how I discovered a dietitian service covered through insurance, prompting some clarity around my health goals.[9:08] - Despite years of dieting, I couldn’t lose the last five pounds after my fourth pregnancy.[11:18] - Repeated dieting and surprise pregnancies left my body stressed and resistant to weight loss.[14:07] - Parenting, fostering, writing books, and business pressures overwhelmed me physically and emotionally.[17:46] - Realizing that my chronic stress and calorie deficit was damaging me, I began increasing my calorie intake.[20:00] - Although I was encouraged to eat more, I initially struggled emotionally when weight loss didn’t immediately follow.[21:27] - Hear how I realized that my unhealthy fixation on weight was an addictive, joyless pursuit of external validation.[24:17] - I reflect on how I clung to the scale for validation, not realizing how deeply it controlled my self-worth.[25:14] - Jesse and I discuss how I came to realize that true health isn’t about weight loss but about feeling nourished, energized, and balanced.[28:58] - I realized that my obsession with the scale was mentally and physically harming me.[31:37] - Not knowing my weight daily gave me relief and began to break toxic thought patterns.[33:30] - Hear how I replaced obsessive food tracking with photo-based check-ins, allowing space for more intuitive eating.[35:09] - Listening to my hunger cues and eating more gave me energy and modeled balance for my kids.[38:12] - I express gratitude for my dietitian helping me launch a healing journey.[40:13] - I now practice gratitude for my body’s function, rewiring thought patterns toward healing and self-love.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineMy Completely Honest Experience With NourishNourish - Hire a Registered Dietitian for $0 Out of Pocket!Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am really excited about this interview with returning guest Katie Reid, author of the new Bible study God, What Do I Do? which explores the book of Judges and the story of the prophet Deborah. Katie shares how she felt called by God to write this study, even though it took years to come to fruition, and she explains how Deborah's story has personally impacted her, especially in finding the balance between not shrinking back but also not steamrolling others. Katie highlights the importance of maintaining a close relationship with God, relying on His strength rather than our own, and being willing to step out in faith even when the path ahead is uncertain.Our conversation touches on the challenges of discerning God's calling, the power of prayer, and the value of community, with Katie encouraging listeners to approach the Bible study with an open heart, taking time to truly digest the lessons rather than rushing through. She also highlights key takeaways from Deborah's life, such as her godly confidence and collaborative spirit.Katie truly provides a compelling overview of what readers can expect to find in God, What Do I Do?, and her insights offer a timely message for taking on life's unexpected twists and turns by drawing near to God and leaning on His guidance. Her book promises to be a valuable resource for anyone seeking to make wise decisions and deepen their relationship with God, and I strongly encourage you to grab a copy!  In This Episode[0:35] - Today’s conversation is with returning guest Katie Reid, author of the Bible study God, What Do I Do?[1:10] - Katie reveals how, while visiting the Holy Land, she felt called to write about Deborah’s unique leadership.[4:37] - Knowing that God is good helps Katie trust Him even when life gets difficult or confusing.[6:02] - Hear how Deborah’s confidence inspired Katie to embrace leadership without shrinking back.[8:59] - We learn that Katie’s journey has involved learning to let go of perfectionism.[12:43] - Katie reflects on having reluctantly run for school board after many spiritual nudges confirmed that it was her calling.[14:44] - True callings often feel scary and require deep trust and reflection.[16:03] - Katie reflects on how obedience affects not just her but also her family and future generations.[18:27] - Hear how rejection led Katie to write fiction.[21:11] - I highlight how delayed fulfillment doesn't negate God's call; it often requires courageous first steps.[23:09] - Katie suggests taking small, faithful steps now, even if the larger calling feels impossible.[25:07] - Fear often hides beneath feeling stuck, and faith means surrendering control to God. [27:12] - Simple prayers still carry power and deepen our relationship with God.[28:56] - Inviting God into daily moments, even small ones, opens the door to His power.[31:58] - Katie realized that true strength begins when we stop striving and fully depend on God's sufficiency.[34:34] - Naming your spiritual obstacles invites God's power to free, heal, and transform from within.[36:56] - I discuss how chronic stress often signals self-reliance rather than true rest in God.[39:19] - Deborah’s legacy showed Katie the power of godly confidence paired with intentional collaboration. Links & Resources Crystal PaineThe Crystal Paine Show - 142. Worship Suffocates Worry (with Katie Reid)The Martha & Mary Show Books God, What Do I Do?: A Bible Study on Judges 1-5 About Making Wise Decisions in Uncertain Times by Katie M. Reid Made like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done by Katie M. Reid Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com    Our Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have truly been looking forward to this conversation with Dawnchere Wilkerson! Author of the book Slow Burn: The Work and Wonder of the Wait, I was so deeply inspired after reading it that I knew that I had to have her on the show. Her story of waiting through eight years of infertility and the profound transformation that took place in her heart during that time is incredibly powerful and encouraging.DawnChere shares so many gems of wisdom that I know will resonate with anyone who is in a season of waiting and wondering if their story will ever unfold the way that they hope, and she discusses how waiting is not just a season but a way of life - and that the key is learning to truly live in the wait, rather than just passively enduring it.One of the biggest breakthroughs for DawnChere was realizing her identity as a beloved daughter of God. When she grasped how deeply she is loved and accepted by her heavenly father, it gave her the confidence to live with faith and open arms even in the midst of her unreached goals. She didn't have to wait to be fulfilled or at peace because she could experience that fullness in the present. DawnChere also highlights the value of community and not isolating ourselves when we're in a hard season, sharing how investing in relationships, even when it's difficult, is where so much of our faith gets strengthened and our perspective gets broadened.If you're in a waiting period of your own, I just know that DawnChere's story and insights will encourage you to see this season as an opportunity for transformation, rather than just an obstacle to get through. Her book is a beautiful invitation to trust the timing and find joy in the journey, even when the outcome is still uncertain.  In This Episode[0:35] - I enthusiastically welcome the author of the book Slow Burn, DawnChere Wilkerson, to the show![2:00] - DawnChere has found that waiting is a lifelong journey in which purpose and transformation happen in the present.[4:58] - Answered prayers bring greater responsibility, which requires deeper trust, wisdom, and surrendering daily.[6:26] - DawnChere reveals that true strength came not from willpower but from surrendering to God and reaching out.[9:30] - Discovering her identity as God's daughter gave DawnChere confidence to trust and live boldly.[12:31] - DawnChere reveals that believing that she is loved by God helps silence self-doubt and recognize daily grace and support.[14:08] - A generous life widens your world, connecting faith and growth through meaningful community.[16:39] - DawnChere believes that community offers a new perspective, reminding us that there's more beyond what we currently see.[19:30] - DawnChere argues that true friendship requires time, sacrifice, and grace.[22:11] - Casual conversations can still carry divine impact, offering unexpected wisdom exactly when we need it.[25:22] - Supportive friendships are a vital, irreplaceable part of life.[27:22] - It’s important to not give up on community because authentic friendships require effort, patience, and continued pursuit.[30:44] - Surrendering control to God brings peace, deepens faith, and strengthens friendships.[33:24] - Seasons of waiting and hardship can ultimately transform you and lead to unexpected, meaningful blessings.  Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Slow Burn: The Work and Wonder of the Wait by DawnChere Wilkerson Social MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com  Our Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I honestly never thought that I would be recording a podcast episode about this, but join Jesse and I this week as I share how I started going to gym classes for the first time in my life! It all started when my friend Kate told me about a gym in our area that offers free childcare. Jesse and I signed up, thinking that we could just use the childcare and work while the kids were taken care of. After all, the childcare alone made the cost worth it.However, when it was suggested that I should take a gym class myself, I was initially completely against the idea. It truly scared me. After all, I had had a traumatic experience in PE as a young girl, where I was always the one who couldn't do the exercises and felt so embarrassed. I carried that shame with me for decades, but I ultimately decided that I needed to face that fear. I told the internet that I was going to do it, which helped hold me accountable.Walking through that door for the first class was definitely the hardest part, but the instructor was so kind and encouraging, helping me feel comfortable as a total beginner, and something amazing happened; I kept going back, week after week. I've even started making "gym friends" and look forward to the classes. It has been so incredibly empowering to push past this fear that's held me back for so long!Of course, it hasn't been without some embarrassing moments, like the time I had a little accident during an intense workout (listen in for those details!), but I am learning and growing through it all. This experience has made me realize how many other areas of my life that I have avoided due to fears and insecurities from my past, and I am so glad I didn't let that stop me this time. I hope my story will inspire you to identify things that scare you and help you find the courage to take that first step in facing them! You never know what good could come from conquering a fear!  In This Episode [0:35] - Jesse and I are talking today about how I recently did something I never thought that I would do - join a gym class! [3:33] - We initially joined the gym for childcare, but a tiny nudge led me to try a class. [6:55] - I reflect on how childhood gym class failures left me feeling humiliated, inferior, and determined to never repeat it. [9:42] - Jesse notes that proper coaching could have reframed my struggles as growth, not lifelong self-judgment. [10:23] - Hear how I began replacing old shame with courage, embracing things that once terrified me. [13:20] - To help hold myself accountable, I told the internet and asked one of our daughters to go with me for moral support. [15:34] - Hear how I chose a beginner class, asked for help, and felt welcomed by a kind instructor. [18:21] - Conquering my fear, I now attend regularly and look forward to it! [21:33] - I discuss how the instructor’s kindness and nonjudgmental attitude helped me rediscover confidence and encourage others. [24:48] - I really appreciate the inclusive, non-competitive environment! [26:55] - Hear about a little accident that I had during an intense class, hoping that others didn't notice. [29:36] - I stealthily exited the gym, horrified to find the evidence painfully visible and unforgettable. [31:38] - Jesse reminded listeners to stay clean and emphasizes that gym mishaps happen more often than people realize. [33:09] - I invite listeners to reflect on their own fears and take one bold, courageous step forward this week!  Links & Resources Crystal Paine  Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom) Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning) Crystal Paine on LinkedIn Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This book we are talking about today is so authentic and vulnerable and I really appreciated the authors being willing to open up like they did. In their new book The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons share their personal journey of overcoming challenges in their marriage, discussing how writing the book together was a vulnerable process that forced them to confront their own issues and communication problems.Join me as Rebekah and Gabe highlight how early trials in their marriage -- such as having a child with Down Syndrome -- could have torn them apart but instead brought them closer together. They stress the importance of leaning on and supporting each other during difficult times rather than retreating. The Fight for Us explores the "four dysfunctional dances" couples can find themselves in - avoidant, anxious, silent, and intense - and offers readers some guidance on how to recognize and break out of these unhealthy patterns.A key theme that we discuss is the need to look inward and take responsibility for our own contributions to marital problems, rather than automatically putting all of the blame on the spouse. Rebekah and Gabe encourage couples to better understand how past experiences shape their current behaviors and reactions, and they share how this self-reflection has been so integral to strengthening their own marriage over nearly three decades.Throughout our conversation, the Lyons are refreshingly honest about their own struggles, missteps, and growth, highlighting that even strong, long-term marriages require constant work, structure, and recommitment, especially during major life transitions. The Fight for Us offers practical tips for prioritizing the relationship and creating the emotional safety needed for vulnerable conversations – a relatable resource that I highly recommend grabbing a copy of!In This Episode[0:35] - I am excited to welcome Rebekah and Gabe Lyons, authors of The Fight for Us, to the show![1:59] - For Rebekah and Gabe, sharing their story via writing deepened their healing, clarity, faith, and connection as a couple.[4:43] - Gabe and Rebekah chose to face hardship together, building resilience via community and shared commitment.[6:15] - We hear how Rebekah and Gabe leaned on each other when their son's diagnosis changed so much for them.[8:11] - Gabe stresses looking inward rather than blaming your partner, while Rebekah stresses communicating hurt without automatically assuming harmful intent.[11:14] - Hear how the book identifies four conflict patterns in couples, urging awareness for deeper emotional connection.[14:43] - Despite initial incompatibility, the Lyons’ marriage succeeded via humility, growth, and choosing to fight together.[16:12] - Learn how vulnerability and honest conversation helped the Lyons push through hopelessness instead of giving up.[18:04] - Emotional safety ultimately requires mutual commitment and honesty, or vulnerability becomes difficult.[21:29] - Understanding generational patterns clarified Gabe’s and Rebekah’s roles and helped them redefine emotional and parental expectations.[23:46] - Reflecting on past wounds taught Gabe how vulnerability can lead to deeper connection in marriage.[26:07] - Rebekah argues that every stage of life brings fresh conflict but that awareness and honesty help couples navigate it better.[27:45] - Gabe has realized that, instead of fixing emotions, men must learn to validate their partner’s pain with empathy.[30:14] - Rebekah reflects on how saying yes to too much nearly cost them their intimacy, forcing them to reprioritize.[32:24] - Gabe argues that healthy marriages require structure, planning, and dreaming, even if it feels unromantic at first.[34:13] - Hear how a calendar audit helped the Lyons prioritize connection and value relationships over material things.[36:48] - Kids tend to feel safer when parents nurture joy and connection away from daily responsibilities.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksThe Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives by Rebekah Lyons & Gabe LyonsSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jesse and I recently had the chance to sneak away for a quick 20-hour overnight trip, and it ended up being exactly what we needed. With our busy schedules and the constant demands of parenting six kids, it's rare that we get uninterrupted time to truly connect and plan for the future, and this short getaway allowed us to do just that!Before we even left, we sat down and made a list of the key things that we wanted to accomplish - reviewing our goals, talking through some challenges we've been facing, and trying to map out what the next nine months might look like for our family (a time frame that, for the record, has nothing to do with pregnancy). Having that plan in place helped us make the most of our limited time away, having begun the trip by enjoying a nice dinner out, which gave us the space to have those important conversations.Listen in as we share the story, including how, the following morning, we headed to a local coffee shop (where we ran into several friends, much to my embarrassment since I hadn't even brushed my hair!), and over coffee, we were able to dive deeper into the practical steps we want to take to build our business around our family life and not the other way around. It was truly amazing how much we were able to accomplish in just 20 hours. We came back feeling refreshed, reconnected, and motivated.I feel so grateful that we didn't allow the short timeframe to hold us back, and this episode of the show will hopefully help remind you that sometimes you have to get creative to nurture your marriage, even if you can't take a full weekend away. I would, as always, love to hear from you! Reach out to let me know about how you have found ways to prioritize your relationship, even in the midst of busy seasons. What tips do you have for making the most of limited time together? I'm always looking for new ideas! In This Episode[00:35] - We have some exciting news to share - Silas now has a driver’s license![03:13] - Getting his license helps simplify managing Silas’s jam-packed schedule of sports, friends, and constant movement.[05:32] - We discuss how, after a delay for insurance, Silas safely drove alone and proved himself a careful driver.[07:23] - Hear how I researched DMV strategies and chose the best day and time to avoid long waits.[10:22] - I reveal that arriving early on Tuesday paid off, with fast DMV service and successful ID and license processing![13:33] - I talk about having to adhere to strict photo rules to renew my passport and hope to be fully licensed soon.[14:54] - We talk about our recent short getaway which offered meaningful reconnection and some much-needed rest.[16:15] - Hear how we created a written plan to stay focused without letting the time feel like work.[18:33] - Planning an ABC date night brought structure, clarity, and joy to our short getaway![21:03] - We discussed nine-month goals which will help us prioritize needs and communicate more clearly as a couple.[23:27] - Jesse and I discuss how people so often prioritize work over life, sacrificing needs and identity in a work-centered society.[25:50] - I am aiming to shift from overworking toward building business around life, not the other way around.[28:13] - With all six kids in school soon, we discussed how to use our new free time.[30:39] - We reflect on how caretaking responsibilities for David lingered on our trip, but we did finally get some restful sleep.[33:22] - Even though our time away was limited, we set goals, made a plan, and truly reconnected.[35:59] - I strongly encourage intentional living, not “balance,” and I invite listeners to share marriage and work-life strategies!Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

So many of you have told me you loved Tilly's clever and quirky new book My Dear Hemlock, a book written in the voice of a demon mentor coaching her underling on how to derail a Christian woman’s walk with God. Taking inspiration from The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis, Tilly’s version is tailored to the specific struggles that Christian women face today - frustration in marriage, social media distractions, pride disguised as virtue, and the slow drift that can happen in daily family life.We talked about how the fictional format of the book gave Tilly room to say the hard things that are so easy to sidestep when we’re just trying to get through the week. She shares what it means to see homemaking not as a list of chores but as a sort of battleground on which small choices have big consequences. We also explore the temptation to fixate on a spouse’s flaws instead of tending to our own spiritual health as well as why that is so spiritually dangerous.Tilly doesn’t just offer observations; she imparts deeply practical wisdom, things like how to build upon gratitude when your first impulse is annoyance, how to recognize when the enemy is whispering half-truths, and why community and prayer aren’t just helpful but essential. This episode will be sure to challenge you, encourage you, and make you think twice the next time that you scroll through Instagram or silently stew over a spouse's mistake.In This Episode[0:36] - I welcome Tilly Dillehay, author of My Dear Hemlock, to the podcast for this episode![1:15] - Tilly reveals how the book came to fruition.[3:30] - Hear how writing a fictional book helped Tilly express real-life marital struggles and spiritual challenges that Christian women face.[6:03] - Although not from a charismatic tradition, Tilly finds value in acknowledging Satan’s real influence.[7:28] - I stress how small annoyances are spiritual battlegrounds on which we choose our response.[10:57] - Women's imaginative power can harm relationships if misused as criticism instead of praise.[12:07] - I warn against magnifying minor flaws in loved ones.[14:08] - Tilly advises cultivating daily gratitude instead of scrutinizing a spouse’s faith.[17:29] - By gently initiating nightly prayer, it's created deeper connection and communication in marriage.[18:34] - Many marriages unfortunately fall apart from unspoken contempt that could’ve been avoided with small, daily kindnesses.[21:34] - I point out how the media distorts women’s expectations and how prayer often gets derailed by distracting thoughts.[22:30] - Tilly suggests praying with others and using scripture as structure for focused prayer.[25:02] - Instead of promising prayer and then forgetting, Tilly prefers to pray immediately and let people know that she just did.[28:36] - Tilly disabled Safari on her phone entirely because phones are ultimately designed to steal time.[30:37] - Distractions vary per person; mine was audio, while a friend’s was compulsive online shopping.[32:24] - Tilly asserts that homes are spiritual battlegrounds and that women play a key role in their power.[35:55] - Tilly advises beginning with prayer and learning from godly women whose homes reflect familial, not material, richness.[36:54] - Neglecting prayer and community can ultimately open the door to spiritual vulnerability.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineTilly Dillehay’s Home Fires PodcastBooksMy Dear Hemlock by Tilly DillehayThe Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis12 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You by Tony ReinkeSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on LinkedInCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out KiwiCo and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://kiwico.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands