The Know with Nikki Spo

Trigger Warning: This week we are discussing a topic that can feel heavy for some. Our guest is Alreen Haeggquist and we are having a conversation around sexual abuse, assault, healing from trauma, and advocating for yourself and others. Alreen is a seasoned lawyer, author, and advocate on a mission to amplify voices and combat silence around abuse. As always, check in with yourself as this topic can be super triggering, so move through this as you need to🤍In this episode…Women feeling silenced Secrets Emotional triggers GaslightingShame Women as sexual objects Belief Quotes:“Keeping secrets is like drinking poison. It really poisons us from the inside out.” - Nikki Spo “Not staying silent and starting to let out all the trauma is how we can get out of that shameful mindset and stop the generational pattern of keeping it all in.” -Alreen Haeggquist“I was really angry. Not about what happened to me, but angry that I had to deal with the messed up stuff and thoughts that I had to deal with this and that I have to clean it up.” - Alreen Haeggquist“I want women to know you could talk about it and it actually is how you're going to get to the next step and live the life that you didn't think you were deserving of or didn't think you could have.” - Alreen Haeggquist“It is so important to have people in your corner who believe you. I know what it's like to come out and not be believed, and it’s excruciating when you have to try to convince people you've been hurt. It's really such a horrible toxic place to be in.” - Nikki Spo “Sharing what happened to you with other people is healing in and of itself.” -  Alreen HaeggquistTimestamps: 0:00 - 2:15 | Intro2:15 - 5:20 | Feeling silenced 5:20 - 7:20 | Not keeping secrets 7:20 - 12:15 | Listening to your body  12:15 - 17:15 | Gaslighting 17:15 - 23:21 | Silencing as the biggest form of gaslighting 23:21 - 25:00 | Woman are under attack sexually 25:00 - 27:35 | Identifying and not identifying as the victim 27:35 - 29:40 | Helping women from a lawyers perspective 29:40 - 32:30 | The importance of being believed  32:30 - 39:55 | Steps to healing 39:55 - 42:21 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.– When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.Connect with Alreen https://www.alreen.com/ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up fammmm! Today we are getting into the topic of cycles… yeah, our monthly cycles. With over seven years of experience as a registered dietitian and a master's degree in human clinical nutrition, today's guest Kate Morton is dedicated to menstrual health and anti-diet culture education. She founded Funk It Wellness with a mission to empower all menstruators, providing them with autonomy over their bodies and helping them make peace with food and their cycles. Tune in to find out more!In this episode… Menstrual cycle Shame around your period A comforting environment Generational differences The 4 cycles Birth control 4 phases = 4 seasons Seed cycling Quotes:“We make up over half of the population and there's not enough studies about us and our bodies and how we function and we are the life bringers.” - Nikki Spo “Society does not like to honor aging women and so of course we're not going to talk about sex because our society is so twisted.” - Kate Morton “When we're disconnected from our bodies, we don't appreciate them and we don't love them and we don't take care of them the way that we should.” - Kate Morton “There's four phases of your menstrual cycle. You feel different in each phase. Your body needs different care in each phase.” - Kate Morton “I think people need to understand that my menstrual cycle doesn't make me weak. It's actually a super power that I can use to my advantage.” - Kate Morton Timestamps:0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 2:10 - 6:55 | The beginning of the period 6:55 - 11:45 | Birth control 11:45 - 16:55 | Pros and cons of birth control 16:55 - 18:20 | Menopause 18:20 - 20:00 | Body disconnection 20:00 - 23:48 | Perception of menstruation 26:00 - 37:25 | Phases of the menstrual cycle 37:25 - 43:40 | Seed cycling 43:40 - 48:20 | Open communication about menstrual cycles in relationships 48:20 - 50:42 | Outro –Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Kate  https://funkitwellness.com/ @carbsandkate / @funk.it.wellness Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up my loves and welcome back to The Know! Today we are going to chat about a pretty controversial topic…which is polyamory and consensual non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside of the lines and she is the founder of the Year of Opening. She has spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibilities. Keep an open mind and buckle up babes because it's gonna get hot!In this episode… The Jungian approach Authenticity Archetype The child, the self, the shadow, the parent, the otherShadow qualities Ego strength Monogamous person vs. polyamorous person Compersion Quotes:“The Jungian approach is one that looks at everything, every symptom, every symbol as an opportunity to know more, not just about ourselves personally, but also to know about the collective.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton  “Some of the things that have gotten me through my hardest times in life and the trauma and the really difficult things that I have faced in recent years, especially, is being able to see the beauty in some of the really, really ugly parts of life.” - Nikki Spo“I need to come to know the child, I need to come to know the parental archetypes, the others, all of the others that we find in our romances, and the shadow. And if I don't recognize the shadow that dark bit that you were talking about in there, that messy horrible evil bit that's in there, if I don't recognize that I'm gonna project it all over other people.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton “You can't share your trauma with everybody because not everybody has the capacity to hold it, and that's okay.” - Nikki Spo “I encourage you to journal, to listen to your dreams, to start writing down what's going on inside of you because if you can start to just sort out what is being projected onto you versus what is authentically yours, that's the beginning of individuation.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton “If you feel called to have multiple partners, let's do it well, let's not cheat, and let’s not lie. Let's build a life where this can be done in a nice way that weaves in just the right amount of openness for you and lets you not hurt other people and treat them like objects.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:55 | Intro 2:55 - 9:50 | What it means to be a Jungian and archetypal psychologist9:50 - 12:05 | The concept of archetype 12:05 - 16:25 | Feeling evil & identifying with shadow qualities 16:25 - 21:35 | Mental health care 21:35 - 27:03 | Having a less conventional life 29:15 - 35:10 | The presence of jealousy 35:10 - 38:05 | ASECT 38:05 - 41:00 | “Yes, No, Maybe” lists 41:00 - 43:15 | Co-parenting relationship 43:15 - 47:20 | Asking the hard questions 47:20 - 49:54 | Outro – Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton https://www.jolihamilton.com/quiz @drjoli_hamilton Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What's up fammm! Today we are talking about money with Amber Frankhuizen, who is on a mission to heal the financial fight or flight response by providing easy investing techniques for beginners. She likes to take the fear out of managing our scary finances. Tune in to hear more about this LOADED topic!In this episode.. Money freedom vs. money buying happiness  A healthy & unhealthy money relationship Why women are weird talking about money Confidence with money Financial fight or flight Financial guru Internal vs. external locus of control Quotes: “So while money doesn't particularly buy happiness because we need to find those feelings within ourselves, I will say that poverty can't buy anything at all.” - Amber Frank “You can have all the money in the world and still be a broken ass person.” - Nikki Spo “There's a saying that I love and it's ‘Some people are so poor, all they have is money’”. - Nikki Spo “Create a compelling future for yourself. Tell yourself what your life will look like when you're not in debt and tell yourself what you will feel like when you're wealthy.” - Amber Frank “So if we sit around on our couches and point the fingers at the economy or the president and blame them as to why I'm not successful, there are other people out there getting successful right now. They just have a different worldview than you do.” - Amber Frank “I am not a fearless woman. I am scared of so many things but I think that I am a courageous woman and that courage allows me to face hardships, hard things, difficult things, things that are unpleasant, and things that don't make me happy in the moment.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 | Intro  1:25 - 2:30 | About Amber 2:30 - 4:30 | Money freedom vs. money buying happiness  4:30 - 7:50 | Why women are so weird when it comes to talking about money7:50 - 15:40 | Financial fight or flight 15:40 - 21:50 | Coaching tips to healing an unhealthy money relationship21:50 - 23:10 | Outsourcing your power when it comes to money 24:14 - 27:45 | Facing the fear of finances 27:45 - 32:30 | Achieving financial goals 32:30 - 43:05 | Taking those first steps 43:05 - 45:55 | Playing the long game 45:55 - 47:55 | Patterns when it comes to money  47:55 - 50:11 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Amber https://afmktg.com/amber-frankhuizen / https://oldmoneypodcast.com/ @amberincalifornia / @oldmoneypodcast  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up superstars! Today we have the exciting opportunity to speak with Kate Anthony, who is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. Kate is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast, “The Divorce Survival Guide”, while also being the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, “Should I Stay or Should I Go”, which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self work. Tune in to hear about how she does it all! In this episode…Making the D word decision Coping mechanisms & survival tools Trusting your capital S Self When you know, you know Leaving the unhealthy relationship Couples therapy Abusive relationshipsNarcissism within relationships  Quotes:“We can acknowledge that lasting relationships happen by compromising your way to success rather than settling into dissatisfaction, and that couples need to be really intentional about growing together and choosing to love each other, which is an action, not just this concept.” - Nikki Spo “The deep self work needs to come first. Connecting with your inner guide, quieting all of the noise and dropping in and hearing what that voice says.” - Kate Anthony “Women are exhausted in their marriage I think because the entire institution of marriage is set up to serve and benefit men on the back of the labor of women.” - Kate Anthony “If you're in an abusive relationship, your partner is not in the relationship for the same reasons that you are. You're in this relationship for intimacy and connection, they're in it for power and control.” - Kate Anthony “Everybody's a work in progress. I am on a continuous journey of healing and getting better.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 2:00 - 4:25 | Wanting a partnership 4:25 - 5:10 | Acknowledging that people change over time 5:10 - 8:25 | The first step when trying to make the D word decision8:25 - 11:00 | Learning to trust your capital S Self 11:00 - 12:15 | When you know, you know 12:15 - 19:45 | Why women are so unhappy in their marriages 19:45 - 22:30 | Couples therapy 22:30 - 27:53 | Differences between narcissist, sociopath & selfishness 27:53 - 32:15 | Placing high value on potential 32:15 - 39:20 | Emotional abuse 39:20 - 42:30 | Grooming 42:30 - 46:10 | Helping women exit their marriage46:10 - 49:10 | Outro  –  SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Kate https://kateanthony.com/ @thedivorcesurvivalguide  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back to The Know! Today we are hearing from skincare industry leader, Allison McNamara. Allison is the founder of Mara, a clean algae-based skin care line, as well as a digital influencer and former TV host. She is a lifelong beauty and wellness enthusiast and is here to tell us all about it.In this episode… Mara startup Taking the leap into different industries Stepping out of your comfort zone Trusting the processMakeup sustainability  Beauty industry double standards The “secret sauce” The impact of sampling Quotes: “I think that you really have to have some thick skin and know how to ride the waves and be willing to put yourself out there.” - Nikki Spo “You can't take the small no’s really personally.” - Allison  McNamara “I've always felt a passion for finding better ways of doing things and making the world a better place.” - Allison McNamara “I think a lot of people wanna hold on to their secrets, but on this platform we're about sharing the secrets. I want everybody to have access to the information because I think that especially women, when we come together, there's room for all of us at the top.” - Nikki Spo “Figure out what you're really good at and then figure out your weaknesses and spend some time getting to be a little bit better at the weaknesses because we gravitate towards doing things that we're good at when we should gravitate towards the things we need to work on.”- Allison McNamara Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:05 | Introduction 2:05 - 4:15 | The startup of Mara 4:15 - 6:30 | Starting the new chapter of Mara 6:30 - 8:10 | Taking the leap into the next industry 8:10 - 10:10 | Being clear on your mission 10:10 - 11:55 | The beauty industry double standards 11:55 - 13:20 | Family influences 13:20 - 14:40 | Benefits of launching with one hero product 14:40 - 21:30 | Personal connections in building Mara’s presence 21:30 - 23:55 | Sustainable skin care products  23:55 - 28:20 | What’s next for Mara28:20 - 29:10 | How Mara reached Hailey Bieber! 29:10 - 30:55 | Pivoting from challenges 30:55 - 36:35 | Pieces of advice for new entrepreneurs 36:35 - 38:02 - Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Aliison & Mara https://themarabeauty.com/pages/our-story @allisonmcnamara / @themarabeauty Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up fam?! Welcome back to another jam packed episode. Today I am welcomed by a MASTER marketer… Nikki Nash. She is known for crafting mind-blowing strategies, assembling kick butt marketing teams, and freeing visionary CEOs from the marketing grind. With her advice, I think she can help us business owners achieve some of our pro goals and ultimately make 👏🏼 that 👏🏼 money 👏🏼 … honey.In this episode… Understanding marketing roadblocks Making THE plan CEO vs. CMOMarketing conductor & managerial positionsStrategists vs. tacticals & implementers Building your rockstar team Entrepreneurial life vs. mom / personal life Understanding your team’s strengths & weaknesses Feeder programsQuotes: “You have to believe that your plan is going to work for you because one, if it doesn't work, or if you don't believe, it's not gonna work, and two, it's not gonna have the excitement and momentum and passion behind implementing it.” - Nikki Nash “CMO is helping to realize the vision of the CEO, CEO just needs to focus on that vision all day, every day, and talk about it all day, every day.” - Nikki Nash “In order for a company to succeed you really have to know what everybody's doing, how everybody's doing it, where they are, and have the skills and knowledge to be able to pick up and roll with it.” - Nikki Nash“If you have a good strategist, a good project manager, and good doers, you're solid.” - Nikki Nash “The reason I love these entrepreneurial goals and all of these conversations is that they don't just apply to work life, they apply to real life.” - Nikki Spo“I want to encourage entrepreneurs to have the guts to ask the hard questions because I think that guts go a long way.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 | Intro 1:25 - 3:40 | Roadblocks when it comes to marketing 3:40 - 7:30 | Coming up with THE plan 7:30 - 9:25 | Why CEOs should not be their own CMOs 9:25 - 13:10 | Marketing conductors 13:10 - 16:45 | Tips of building a rockstar marketing team 16:45 - 20:46 | How smaller businesses should go about building their team 23:23 - 26:25 | How to motivate your team to have the same enthusiasm for succeeding as you do 26:25 - 30:00 | Connecting entrepreneurial life to real life 30:00 - 33:30 | Finding the right staff 33:30 - 39:55 | Balancing nurturing your current team and hiring outside more experienced professionals39:55 - 43:05 | Having a clear marketing message & how to develop it43:05 - 46:45 | Nikki Nash’s clear message 46:45 - 48:59 | Outro —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.—When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.Connect with Nikki Nash https://www.nikkinash.co/ @nikkinashofficial  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up fam and welcome back to The Know! I am SO excited for today’s episode as I am joined by THE OG dating coach Evan Marc Katz. He specializes in helping smart 👏🏼 successful 👏🏼 women create LONG LASTING LOVE.Raise the bar, girly. Never again settle for a dissatisfying relationship. Literally, my favorite episode I’ve ever recorded. Don’t miss it. In this episode… Percentages & The Dating PoolBut what do you REALLY want?What does your perfect Saturday look like with your partner?HAVING A ROSTERWhat’s on your relationship checklist and WHYNOT ignoring the red flags 🚩 Relationship CEO energy Compatibility vs. similarities Assume the answer is YESCompromising vs. SettlingSex exclusivity and having THAT convoQuotes: “My belief is that good relationships are easy.” - Evan Marc Katz “One of the things that I find really surprising is that women are supposed to be the more sensitive and intuitive sex, and yet they're more likely to ignore their feelings than men.” - Evan Marc Katz “My central metaphor for my ‘Love You’ course is that women are the CEOs and men are the interns.” - Evan Marc Katz “You settle your way into misery. You compromise your way into happiness.” - Evan Marc Katz Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:20 | Introduction 3:20 - 4:40 | Talking about what you WANT to talk about 4:40 - 7:45 | Differences between being a coach vs. therapist 7:45 - 13:15 | Finding the right one 13:15 - 15:20 | Relationship stigmas against women 15:20 - 18:45 | Getting rid of the relationship checklist 18:45 - 23:30 | Listening to your emotions 23:30 - 25:12 | Opposite of CEO energy in relationships 26:18 - 28:50 | Compatibility 28:50 - 34:35 | Why we always assume the answer is yes with men 34:35 - 36:05 | Compromising 36:05 - 41:40 | Sex for single women 41:40 - 45:10 | Exclusivity 45:10 - 47:58 | Outro --SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Evan Marc Katz https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ @realevanmarckatz Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back, my friends! Today I am excited to host a dear friend and an incredible business person, THE skin savant Amy Peterson. Amy has been a licensed medical esthetician for over 16 years. She was the clinical educator for Solta Medical and is now in Miami with a mission to create a practice that redefines luxury skincare, exudes warm spearheads innovation, and promotes practitioner and client education. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Ideas vs ExecutionNOT conforming Time takes timeNot knowing how to be a bossPerseveranceHandling the “downs” in businessBeing an entrepreneurNavigating competitiveness (even with your partner!)When Dad becomes the “cool parent”When NOT to make big decisionsOvercoming lack of confidenceQuotes: “I had this mindset of  never saying no to opportunities that landed and being a sponge for knowledge.” - Amy Peterson“I knew that being a stay at home mom wasn’t going to fill my cup enough and I knew that I would be a better mom if my cup was full.” - Amy Peterson“Big things don’t happen overnight. Time takes time.” - Nikki Spo “In order to kick start your career you need to push forward and persevere through the unknown.” - Nikki Spo“People think that success comes immediately, and it doesn't. I can tell you that the thing that I did that I know moved the needle for me was that I didn't cut corners. Even when it was easier, I always went the longer route.” - Amy Peterson “The rest of the world can criticize me but I know what I'm saying and I feel great about what I'm saying and delivering and I'm gonna put it out there.” - Amy Peterson “My husband and I have learned how to work together within our separate careers. He'll take the back seat when I'm shining and then I'll take the back seat when he's shining and then sometimes we shine together and sometimes we don't shine at all.” - Amy Peterson “You don't know what you don't know until you know it.” - Nikki Spo “You learn your lessons in the amount of time it takes you to learn the lessons and you'll keep repeating the same lessons over and over until you learn it.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:15 | Introduction 3:15 - 10:25 | The beginning journey of Amy 10:25 - 12:50 | Time takes time 12:50 - 15:10 | Not cutting corners 15:10 - 18:46 | The truths of being an entrepreneur 21:00 - 27:50 | Dissecting how having a high performing & achieving spouse affecting career trajectory27:50 - 36:45 | Transitioning into the action of a career 36:45 - 39:33 | Outro PAINLESS PREGNANCY AD 18:46 - 21:00 Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Amy Peterson @skincarebyamyp https://www.skincarebyamypeterson.com/  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back to another episode of The Know where NO topic is off limits! Today we have a spicy episode that features our amazing guest Kim Coffin. Kim is a sex and empowerment coach as well as a best selling author, a podcast host and teacher, and the founder of Get Your Sexy Back. She specializes in sexuality, tantric sex, and relationship transformation while also helping singles and couples with coaching and tools for sexual confidence, self love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with themselves and others. Her mission is to create healthy sexuality with less shame and more pleasure. Let’s jump right in! In this episode… Feeling safe & secure Divine feminine Divine masculine Big & small trauma Believing in yourself Trusting your intuition Filling voids Wielding sexuality as a weaponThe hoe phase Quotes:“We are helping women feel like they can come home to themselves and to their sexualities and to whatever their life has for them.” - Nikki Spo“Divine feminine starts in your body. It starts when we create safety and trust and really learn how to come home in your body to the point that you know your pleasure.” - Kim Coffin“I always say that keeping secrets is like keeping poison in your body.” - Nikki Spo“Nobody ever taught me how to be a woman. I just had to learn it on the fly.” - Nikki Spo“When we can reconnect to our inner feminine, to our sacred pleasure, to Pussy, to our pelvic bowl, what is possible is coming home to that essence of who we are, who we always were. And from there we can create the best life and the best relationships and have the best sex that you have ever imagined.” - Kim Coffin “There's two very different types of hoe phases. There's the hoe phase where you're going and looking for something to complete you. And then there's the surrendering inwards phase, and simply being in your pleasure all day long in the bedroom and out of the bedroom. There's different energies to them.” - Kim Coffin “The pendulum went way too far. And it put women in their masculine energy. And we don't need to be in our masculine, we need to come back to our feminine, come back to our body, come back to our safety and trust.” - Kim Coffin“Pleasure is a nervous system reset!” - Kim CoffinTimestamps: 0:00 - 1:55 | Intro1:55 - 4:20 | Finding safety & security within ourselves4:20 - 8:20 | Divine feminine & divine masculine 8:20 - 12:35 | Defining traumatic events 12:35 - 15:50 | Redefining what it means to be a women 15:50 - 18:15 | Trusting yourself 18:15 - 22:08 | Different energies 24:47 - 30:25 | Training yourself out of masculine and into feminine 30:25 - 31:35 | Step one to coming back into your femininity 31:35 - 35:25 | Listening to your body 35:25 - 40:00 | Bringing pleasure into your daily life 40:00 - 42:50 | Finding the good 42:50 - 46:25 | Outro  — When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.—SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Kim Coffin https://getyoursexyback.ca/ / get-your-sexy-back  @get_your_sexy_back_coach Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back! Today we have a loaded episode with Kathy Batista as we consider that there are opportunities to create magic all around us and that maybe, just maybe... it isn’t actually a mid-life crisis.Kathy Batista is the go-to coach for midlife women. She believes midlife isn't just based on age but that it's a phase of life, and that it can be your best one yet. By tapping into your values and skills, you can take aligned action to create purpose and joy, leading to that often missing sense of fulfillment. Guys It’s time for some mid-life MAGIC, and we are just a perspective shift away from creating the life we’ve always wanted.In this episode…Unhealthy & healthy coping mechanisms Sense of communityFighting that sense of controlGetting out of your own wayLeaning into the unknown Envy Mood, mindfulness, & mindsetQuotes:“We now need to work with that gut instinct and approach people that we instinctively have a feeling of safety around.” - Kathy Batista “I have gotten to the point where I don't even care what the why is anymore. I'm just ready for a change, a whole change. I'm ready to do it and I think it takes a lot of courage for people to get there.” - Nikki Spo “I realized that my envy was a tool in revealing to myself where my alignment might be.” - Nikki Spo “Envy is recognizing the oneness in other people. We are all one.” Kathy Batista Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:30 | Introduction 2:30 - 7:15 | Kathy’s background 7:15 - 11:15 | One day at a time 11:15 - 16:00 | Trusting your gut 16:00 - 21:30 | Getting out of your own way21:30 - 23:29 | Making the change 25:42 - 29:20 | Envy 29:20 - 31:25 | Making decision for YOURSELF 31:25 - 36:45 | The 3 pillars 36:45 - 42:30 | Mindfulness 42:30 - 44:59 | OutroConnect with Kathyhttps://www.kathybatista.com/@coachkathybatistaConnect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoPROMO: Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back everyone! I am so excited for today's episode as we are joined with the amazing Shiri Sarfati. Shiri is a beauty and wellness expert as well as a licensed esthetician. She is the founder of 23Skin, a beauty brand based on natural and clean ingredients that provide spa quality results at home, and is a partner and executive vice president of her family-owned professional skincare brand. Her thought is that we don't need to buy into the societal pressures of looking perfect, and that skin care should be about wellness and feeling good and glowing from the inside out. Tune in to hear more! In this episode…Entrepreneurial lifestyle Environmental stressors Lifestyle pivots Clean beauty Motivation Big & small wins Finding inspiration Finding a support team Believing in yourself Beauty standards Quotes: “Being an entrepreneur is a mindset.” - Shiri Sarfati “We have these environmental stressors and we really have to dig deep and say, ‘What do I need to do at this moment in order to accelerate and know where I'm heading towards?’ And those pivots are game changing.” - Shiri Sarfati “It is important to celebrate the wins because they are what lead us to the next big thing.” - Shiri Sarfati “You have to love yourself. You have to believe in yourself and have people around you that believe in you.” - Shiri Sarfati“I definitely find myself having to walk the talk. The things that I talk about on my podcast, I say to myself, ‘you better be ready to back this up with your actions.’” - Nikki Spo“What I would love for people to do is just to look at themselves and say, ‘I look beautiful. My skin is glowing, I have my health, I feel vibrant.’ And from that place is where you WILL look vibrant. The most gorgeous people in the room are the people that have wonderful confidence.” Shiri Sarfati “Instead of a vicious cycle of neglect and lack of self-care, you need to do the reverse. You need to say, ‘I love myself, I take care of myself and because I take care of myself, I love myself.’” - Nikki Spo Timestamps:0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction 2:10 - 5:55 | Shiri Sarfati & 23Skin background 5:55 - 10:25 | An entrepreneurial lifestyle 10:25 - 12:00 | The effect of covid 12:00 - 14:10 | The pivot to being an entrepreneur 14:10 - 17:35 | Environmental stressors, big or small 17:35 - 19:05 | Defining “Clean Beauty” 19:05 - 21:50 | Having a breakthrough moment 22:31 - 24:15 | Staying motivated to accomplishing your mission 24:15 - 27:15 | Finding inspiration to pull yourself out of the rut 27:15 - 31:05 | Having a supportive partner 31:05 - 37:00 | The ever changing beauty standards of society 37:00 - 38:25 | Taking the leap 38:25 - 40:04 | Outro—SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOWConnect with Shiri Sarfati & 23Skinhttps://23skin.com/ / repechage.com @shirisarfati Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back light seekers and truth speakers! Today my guest, Michelle Suarez, and I are going to talk about what seems to be a hot topic lately, which is… DIVORCE.Michelle Suarez is a mom of three and an attorney who founded The Divorce Broker, which is a boutique firm for professional guidance and legal consulting support to women who need general advice, are contemplating or navigating the challenging process of divorce, pre and post-nuptial, settlement agreements and beyond.In this conversation, Michelle gets candid about the most common fears and hesitations she encounters when coaching her clients through a divorce process, along with how she helps her clients feel empowered and confident through the phases of their journey.This is one of those convos that you’ll be grateful to hear without having had to ask the questions yourself ;)In this episode…Divorce Financial changesFamily changes Finding a sense of controlWomen empowerment Support system Loneliness Different experiences  Loss of community FinancesImpact on kids Quotes: “After my divorce was over I knew this is what I wanted to do. This is my calling. I want to sit down and I want to help women.” - Michelle Suarez “The hardest part is being able to think clearly, being able to set your emotions aside, and watching your whole life change.” - Michelle Suarez“I read something recently that said, ‘You're not my competition. Everybody's assignment is different.’ And so women need to come together and start turning towards each other instead of away from each other to help lift each other up in whatever capacity that is.” - Nikki Spo“I wanted to focus on women because we need each other. And I think we're amazing beings. I think we're smart and I think all of us have something to offer each other.” - Michelle Suarez “I love to see women coming together to support each other, but I think there's also something hugely powerful when men come up and rise up to support women in their journeys to you.” - Nikki Spo“Divorce is hard on everyone. Whether you want it or not it rocks your world.” - Michelle Suarez “You need to find a place where you can have your feelings supported and controlled so that you can make clear decisions. And that's why I'm doing this to make that place for other women.” - Michelle Suarez“I think that a lot of people feel alone in general, not just in divorces, but with whatever they're going through. So finding a community of people that can support is so important.” Nikki Spo“I think that in general, regardless of marriage, divorce, or relationships, more and more women need to come to a sense of awareness and awakening within themselves that they deserve to have a seat at the table when it comes to their own finances.” - Nikki Spo“It's never going to be easy because divorce is not an easy thing. But I think if you prioritize your children and let them be the center and make your decisions around them, it is much better.” - Michelle Suarez Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:15 | Introduction 2:15 - 5:30 | Michelle’s background 5:30 - 9:00 | The hardest part about divorce 9:00 - 12:05 | Women working together 12:05 - 13:40 | Universal truths about the divorce process 13:40 - 16:05 | Addressing the BIG feelings 16:05 - 18:50 | Compartmentalizing 19:55 - 23:30 | What Michelle is REALLY doing for women 23:30 - 27:40 | Finances 27:40 - 28:30 | Every marriage is different! 28:30 - 33:30 | Dissecting stigmas 33:30 - 35:30 | Biggest fears of divorce 35:30 - 36:55 | Impact on kids 36:55 - 38:45 | Tips for women 38:45 - 41:04 | Outro — SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Michelle Suarez & The Divorce Broker https://thedivorcebroker.com/ @divorcebrokerofficial  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up light beams, truth speakers, and amplifiers! You are listening to a mini episode of Nikki Spo UNVEILED where I get deep-ER and talk about topics that are very personal to me. Today we are going to dive into a creepy little topic that messes with all of us, the loneliness epidemic. Tune in and don’t forget that no one is alone in this wild journey called life! In this episode…Loneliness epidemic Connections Social media Self awareness Validation Higher power Having a different outlook Quotes“I think a lot of people are just really just starving for connections of any type.” - Nikki Spo“You can feel lonely even if you have a lot of people around you because loneliness isn't about the quantity of your relationships, but about the quality of your connections.” - Nikki Spo “I think it's crucial that we start to become more self -aware and that involves taking a personal inventory of sorts. Being able to humbly, vulnerably, and honestly look at ourselves and our respective situations.” - Nikki Spo “Looking within and connecting with a higher power as you understand that higher power is really the antidote for loneliness.” - Nikki Spo“Another antidote for loneliness is helping other people, connecting with people, places and things that make your insides feel good.” - Nikki Spo “Holding resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die from it. It is poison for our own soul.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:15 | Introduction 3:15 - 6:20 | Understanding the loneliness epidemic 6:20 - 8:25 | Social media’s impact 8:25 - 9:45 | Self awareness & looking within 11:55 - 12:40 | Craving validation  12:40 - 13:35 | Connecting with a higher power 13:35 - 14:45 | Finding connections that make you feel good 14:45 - 17:00 | Dissecting resentment 17:00 - 18:20 | Feeling entitled to our emotions 18:20 - 19:48 | Outro —Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo https://www.npr.org/2023/05/02/1173418268/loneliness-connection-mental-health-dementia-surgeon-generalSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Episode 131’s guest, Monica Del Valle, is a woman who I genuinely look up to and admire. She has been through some sh*t and has made lemonade out of lemons. She owns a powerhouse yoga studio, the Break Free Movement. Before that, she was a health coach passionate about wellness that inspired her to open her studio. True to all guests on The Know, there is MUCH more to her.In this episode we are discovering so much more as we take a glimpse into the real essence and story about Monica Del Valle. In this episode…Who is Monica Del ValleWhat Yoga means to MonicaThe story behind Monica’s success story Creating a welcoming healthy environment The importance of being present Learning from being a motherBalanced life Postpartum Normalizing therapy and medication Timestamps0:00 - 2:15 | Introduction2:15 - 7:00 | Who is Monica Del Valle7:00 - 10:20 | Consciousness and awareness 10:20 - 15:50 | What Yoga means to Monica15:50 - 20:20 | Monica’s dark times20:20 - 24:30 | Healing to break generational trauma 24:30 - 27:45 | How becoming a mother impacts views on life, love, work and sense of purpose27:45 - 31:25 | Creating a balanced life 31:25 - 38:20 | Postpartum experiences 38:20 - 41:50 | Pelvic floor therapy 41:50 - 43:40 | No woman is alone! 43:40 - 49:53 | Co-parenting advice Quotes:“A big part of what you are doing, with adults even, is bringing them to a sense of consciousness and awareness and keeping them centered.” - Nikki Spo “When I am going through a hard time I give myself a hug and I am like ‘dude I got you. You are safe here.’ As parents we can teach our kids to do something similar.” - Nikki Spo “Yoga was really there for me when I needed it. It took my mind off of what was going on at home.” - Monica Del Valle “A person who heals his or her self is not just healing the generations that came after them, they're healing the generations of their lineage above.” - Nikki Spo“Although I work, I make sure I carve out time for my daughters and make sure I am there for that play or pick them up from school because it’s important for them and it’s important for me.” - Monica Del Valle “My daughters have taught me the meaning of love. They are my heart beating outside of my heart.” - Monica Del Valle “You can get a divorce five hundred times but your kids are yours.” - Monica Del Valle “Even if we are co-parenting, we are still a team and we are still a family. My kids will always come first.” - Monica Del Valle QUOTE: “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross--Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Monica Del Valle https://www.instagram.com/thebreakfreemvmt/ @monicadelv / @thebreakfreemvmtConnect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

HAPPY NEW YEAR truth speakers and light seekers! Today I am joined by Joe Huff, a longtime friend and the co-author of the book “Experiential Billionaire.” In this convo, we talk about what it means to be an experiential billionaire and how to build a life that is RICH in EXPERIENCES.Joe huff is one of the most positive humans I have ever met and during a time in my life that was kinda chaotic, Joe was a positive “seed planter.” He is obsessed with experiences and I am so excited for you all to tune into this amazing conversation.In this episode…Experiences Exploration “Experiential Billionaire” Not taking life for granted Shared experiences Importance of a positive mindset Valuing personal experiences “What am I doing” vs. “What do I want to be doing” Learning from & appreciating your lows Quotes: “We build relationships through shared experiences.” - Joe Huff “There’s a tremendous power in story telling and that is part of why I have this show, to tell the stories of people like you and the amazing things you do.” - Nikki Spo “It is so important to move away from a fear based mindset and into an abundance mindset where you truly believe you are always going to be okay, you’re always going to receive something from the world and be provided for, and you will not be left stranded.” - Nikki Spo “What we are trying to do is show people the experiences that they will truly value and coupling that with a sense of urgency to go after those things. That leads to a life of limitless possibilities and less regret.” - Joe Huff “The lows of your life are where you do the most learning.” - Nikki Spo “These life experiences, the bad ones and the good ones, ultimately bring us a sense of peace, wholeness, and fulfillment in life.” - Nikki Spo “When passion and purpose collide, that’s where you find that happiness.” - Joe Huff “We have this crazy ability to overestimate the negative possibility’s and underestimate the positive potential.” - Joe Huff “It’s not about climbing Mount Everest or running a marathon, it’s about finding the magic around you everyday.” - Joe Huff  Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:50 | Introduction 2:50 - 14:30 | Joe’s catalyst of sharing his experiences 14:30 - 16:55 | Finding a purpose in what you do 16:55 - 18:40 | Money vs. experiences - not mutually exclusive 18:40 - 21:10 | Learning from your lows 21:10 - 25:20 | Giving people a sense of urgency 25:20 - 30:45 | How society defines wealth 30:45 - 33:35 | “The cave you fear holds the treasure you seek”33:35 - 36:10 | “Believing in the make believe”36:10 - 43:15 | Complacency 43:15 - 45:45 | How to turn negatives into positives 45:45 - 47:58 | Outroduction Connect with Joe Huff / Experiential Billionaire https://www.experientialbillionaire.com/ https://joehuff.com/ Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up superstars! Today we have a Nikki Spo // UNVEILED episode where I am going to get into it with you all about being sober during the holidays. At the time of this podcast episode I have 1,334 days of continuous sobriety. This is my fourth holiday season without alcohol or drugs and I hope to help anyone in the audience who is currently sober, is sober curious, or anyone who knows someone who is either of those. In this Episode:Sobriety Sober during the holidays Sober curious Unhealthy coping mechanisms Sobriety does not make you perfect Sitting in discomfort Observing rather than reacting A vicious cycle Sobriety tips The power of journaling Quotes:“Even the most magical times of the year have often also had its fair share of anxiety.” “Two opposing concepts can be true at the same time. We can love the holiday season but also feel really anxious or triggered by them too.” “Just because I am sober and haven't had a single sip of alcohol in all this time does not mean that I am all of a sudden a saint. No, I still mess up. And I really want to drive that home because what's not cool is having an air of superiority when it comes to sobriety.”“Allow yourself to make progress rather than strive for perfection.” “So in a world where I was drinking and over drinking for the purpose of escape of any sort, I was not able to simply be. I think that now without alcohol in my life it has been less about coping with my life without the crutch of alcohol and more about actually experiencing my life without it.” “My last tip is probably the most important one is to check on your friends. I think in general, not just sober people, but just as a friend. Check on your friends. It's the kindest thing that somebody can do in any scenario really.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:30 | Introduction 1:30 - 2:35 | Escapism through consumption during the holiday’s 2:35 - 3:50 | Self reflection & self awareness 3:50 - 4:55 | Feeling triggered around the holidays 4:55 - 6:10 | The art of being 6:10 - 12:10 | Sobriety tips 12:10 - 15:25 | A message to friends and loved ones of sober and sober curious people15:25 - 16:56 | OutroductionConnect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is up light beams! We have a very special Nikki Spo // UNVEILED episode today.  These segments of the show are here to create a space to have deeper dialogues around topics that are important to me, and that is exactly what I will be doing today! This is an episode that carries a deep message that is really important for us to hear especially during the holiday season, and that is… that love is not dead because it is ALWAYS within us. In this episode…UNVEILED Responding to online hate “Love is dead” stigma Evolving perceptions of love Wanting to have love vs. forcing love Vulnerability Human connection & love Focusing on genuine connectionHealing a broken heart  Quotes: "Love is not dead. It's not dead for me and it's not dead for you either. I want you to really believe that and lean into that on a soul level. Love is not dead for me because love is within me.”“Love is probably one of the scariest things because it requires us to be vulnerable and put ourselves out there to possibly get hurt for the risk of building these deep and meaningful and potentially romantic relationships with people or a person.” “I have experienced so many different kinds of love. Big love, fast love, long lasting love, short and sweet love, weird love, wild love, rooted love, hard and tough love, butterflies love, safe love, and truly just all kinds of love. And I believe that I have had that because I have wanted to have that and that I believe that it exists.” “There are no limits on love or connection.” “For anyone who might be healing from a broken heart here, the healing journey starts with the love that we have for ourselves.”Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction 2:10 - 4:00 | Online hate 4:00 - 5:30 | Personal perception of love 5:30 - 8:45 | Love exists everywhere 8:45 - 11:10 | Viewing love & genuine human connections11:10 - 11:55 | Opportunities for love is unlimited 11:55 - 12:50 | Believing in love 12:50 - 14:13 | Outdroduction Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back, beautiful people! Today I'm going to be circling back to a special episode from a couple of years ago because I truly think it needs revisiting, especially around this time of the year. It’s called Boundary TF Up with the conscious mom, Erin Morrison. It’s all about the ins and outs of setting boundaries with family during the holidays. Check it out! In this episode… Trauma during the holidays Family How to handle our BIG feelings How to handle setting boundariesHow to make the holidays a time to joy Sense of control Understanding family is not perfect Setting boundaries stigma Steps to setting boundaries Boundary backlash Quality time vs. quantity In-laws not parenting or grandparenting how we wantQuotes: “Oh, the weather outside is delightful, but family time can be frightful, and since there's nowhere else to go, just bring it home, bring it home, bring it home.” - Nikki Spo“It's not about what your family does. It's how they make you feel.” - Erin Morrison “I think all of us really all want a sense of control. We're all trying to control what the energy is or the way the day goes, but the real control is you.” - Erin Morrison “I always say that your feelings are like the waves of the ocean. They come, they go, they ebb, they flow. They will not be there forever, and it's so beautiful to remember.” - Erin Morrison “Pick one boundary for yourself. Start small so we can be successful and we can dip our toe in the pond and see how it feels.” - Erin Morrison “You need to take the elevator from your head to your heart. Drop in there and see what is it that's going to serve me. What do I need this holiday so I can feel good?” - Erin Morrison “Getting on a united front with your partner is one of the biggest steps or precursors to setting said boundary.” - Nikk Spo“A lot of times when we haven't spoken our truth in our families two things happen. One, we just stay silent or two, we let it build and build and build and build. And then one little thing happens and we are exploding like a volcano and everythings on fire.” - Erin Morrison Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:10 | Introduction 4:10 - 6:45 | Understanding why we tend to get hesitant, nervous, and anxious as we approach the holiday season6:45 - 10:05 | Revisiting holiday family trauma with a new sense of inner knowing 10:05 - 19:50 | Handling our BIG feelings 19:50 - 22:30 | Handling setting boundaries 22:30 - 23:30 | Getting over the scary and overwhelming stigma of setting boundaries 23:30 - 27:00 | The precursors to setting boundaries 27:00 - 30:50 | Boundary backlash 30:50 - 33:00 | How to respond to boundary backlash 33:00 - 34:25 | Hot topics about family boundaries 34:25 - 35:40 | Survival guide 35:40 - 37: 30 | Outroduction Connect with Erin Morrison https://theconsciousmom.com/ @itstheconsciousmom  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hello my friends, welcome back to The Know! I am so thrilled to host today’s guest all the way from across the pond in the UK, Paul Scanlon. Following 30 plus years in the not-for-profit sector, Paul Scanlon now has a focus on empowering and educating people through his online content, courses, mentoring, and speaking. His ability to make complex things simple is a hallmark of his skill as a communicator as well as his belief that it is more important to grow people than things. Today we get to experience a unique one-on-one conversation with him, and we talk about a lot… but the main message here is: YOU ARE NOT HARD TO LOVE. In this episode… Where our beliefs systems come fromWorth & value Nature vs Nurture Identity Difficulty with loving & being lovedNeeding an awakening voice EgoThe Great AwakeningFinding your light switch When the student is ready, the teacher appearsQuotes:“You are not hard to love, Maybe the issue isn't that. Maybe the issue is you're looking for love from the wrong people. This doesn't mean the people that you're looking to love can't love you at all, but they have this cutoff point beyond which you feel no one can love you fully.” - Paul Scanlon “I've had a reckoning with myself about who, what, when, where, and why. All the things about myself came into question. I don't see it, like you said, how many people do as a midlife crisis. I do see it as a midlife unraveling and a reckoning, and an awakening of sorts that I'm very privileged to have arrived at.” - Nikki Spo “I think people need an awakening voice in a book, podcast, conversation, or a movie or  TV show. Something random that wakes them up away from their attachment to their egoic identity.” - Paul Scanlon “For the lights to come on for someone through what I do It is the most exhilarating, rewarding thing because I was that person. I got no help. All of my awakenings came from struggling and stumbling more than I should have done. That's why now I love to help people turn the light on, but most importantly, my job isn't to keep turning your light on for you, It's to show you where the light switch is.” - Paul Scanlon “I want to be publicly and openly sober because I think people need examples of what it can look like, even if it’s not perfect.” - Nikki Spo “People don't know that they're not conscious. That's the problem we all have. Everybody thinks that they're conscious. So when we talk to people about being unconscious, they don't know what we mean.” - Paul Scanlon “There's this saying that when the student's ready, the teacher appears. What this ancient Eastern wisdom means is that your growth and your education and your waking up, is far more to do with your readiness than it is to do with teachers.” - Paul Scanlon “If you can encapsulate your why, your purpose, your wake-up mantra in a piece of jewelry or clothing or a piece of artwork or a tattoo, then go ahead and do that because it's not random. Getting something in your life or on your body that is your story or reminds you of what this cost you is a part of waking up.” - Paul Scanlon Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction 2:10 - 6:40 | Stuff happens to all of us! 6:40 - 11:35 | Feeling hard to love 11:35 - 16:55 | Coaching people to happiness / Ego identity 16:55 - 18:25 | Leading by example & finding your example 18:25 - 22:10 | Guiding people to their own sense of consciousness and awakening 22:10 - 26:40 | Time and place of reading a book 26:40 - 31:15 | Long term love & partnership 31:15 - 34:45 | Being comfortable in your own skin34:45 - 36:28 | Outroduction Connect with Paul Scanlon https://www.paulscanlon.com/ @paulscanlonuk / @PaulScanlon   Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy