Soul Gum

You spend all year working on non-attachment, mindfulness, and conscious consumption. And then it’s the holidays, and suddenly you're fighting for your life at the family dinner table and contemplating buying a $70 candle as a stocking stuffer. Welcome to the spiritual girl's guide to the holidays: a three-part survival guide for enjoying the magic of the season without losing your mind, your money, or your sense of self. Along the way, we’ll talk about the history of Christmas consumerism, what bell hooks can teach us about our relationship with luxury and material things, and the strange psychological phenomenon of holiday regression. I also share a low-consumption holiday gift guide full of thoughtful, thriftable, and DIY ideas.If you want the holiday magic without the interpersonal chaos, financial ruin, and return of your teenage coping mechanisms, I made this episode for you.  PS: If you want the PDF version of the gift guide, go to this link to give me your email and I’ll send it to you!!! EPISODE OUTLINE00:00 Intro: the spiritual girl's guide to the holidays05:52 1. Holiday regression: why going home makes you feel 16 again07:25 How to make a plan for boundaries & weird conversations12:12 2. The holiday spending spiral: the history of Christmas consumerism15:20 How to give more thoughtful gifts16:14 Low-consumption holiday gift guide: DIY, thrifted & meaningful gifts21:27 bell hooks on beauty, luxury & conscious consumption22:54 Extremely specific tips for mindful spending25:49 Living the aesthetic you want to buy27:00 3. How to stay grounded when your routines fall apart31:39 10 journaling prompts for the holiday season36:13 Closing poem: December by Hannah RosenbergEPISODE LINKSADD YOUR EMAIL HERE TO GET A WRITTEN VERSION OF THE HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDEMy debut poetry collection MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠⁠Follow Soul Gum’s new instagram :-) ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok

The best year of your life doesn't start on January 1. It starts with what you do before the year begins. Today, I come to you with three things you can do right now to prepare for 2027 to be the best year of your life. I know it’s still October, but every year we lose our collective minds from November until January. And soon it will be New Year’s Eve and we’ll be trying to make our vision boards without having given any thought to the actual vision. SO: we’re getting a head start on preparing for 2027 before the holiday chaos hits with 3 audits that will help you get clear on what you want, what's holding you back, and how you actually want to live.Along the way, we're talking about why we're so bad at estimating how much we can get done in a day, why being harder on yourself might actually be holding you back, what the Stoics (the original chads) can teach us about new year’s resolutions, and how to chase your biggest dreams without wishing away the life you're living. PS: I made you a free worksheet to walk you through all three audits! It's got all the questions we talk about in this episode and space to work through them yourself. Find it here!! EPISODE OUTLINE00:00 Intro + why we’re starting before January 106:40 Audit #1: the levels of energy audit07:36 How to make an energy ledger10:02 The energetic evolution of choices12:32 Epictetus on how to handle temptation14:02 Reflection questions to audit your energy14:44 Audit #2: the promise audit16:26  Why shaming yourself doesn’t work18:01 The planning fallacy20:25 How to actually plan your day accurately21:57 Intentions are not plans 23:08 Procrastination as a coping method 24:54 Audit #3: the perfect day audit26:17 How to design your perfect mundane day27:08 My perfect day29:12 Comparing your ideal day to reality29:57 Loving your current self while working to meet your next self30:46 lightning round recap + worksheet! 33:48 The Orange by Wendy CopeEPISODE LINKSGET THE FOLLOW-ALONG WORKSHEET HEREMy debut poetry collection MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠⁠Subscribe to Soul Gum’s new instagram :-) ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok

We all have that one person who can ruin our day in less than 30 seconds. Why is it so hard to stay in our values around certain people? And how do we stop giving them so much power? In this episode, we're turning to the 19th-century philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche for five lessons on dealing with difficult people, navigating conflict, and becoming unbotherable. If you've ever let a five-minute interaction ruin your entire week, this episode is for you.EPISODE OUTLINE - NIETZSCHEAN PRINCIPLES FOR BECOMING UNBOTHERED00:00 Intro9:13 1. Navigating other people’s opinions of you14:50 2. Let them misunderstand21:01 3. “They muddy the water to make it seem deep”24:30 4. Are you actually keeping the peace?31:10 5. Knowing when to walk away35:40 Lightning round recap38:08 Help keep Soul Gum ad free39:05 To Take Back a Life by Kate BaerEPISODE LINKS My debut poetry collection MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠⁠Subscribe to Soul Gum’s new instagram :-) ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok

According to the existentialists, the core problem of being human is this: we are meaning-seeking creatures in a universe that is silent on meaning. But somehow, we're supposed to figure out what to major in, who to marry, and what to do with the approximately 30,000 days we get to be alive.In this episode, we walk through six levels of living a meaningful life as described by Simone de Beauvoir in her 1947 work The Ethics of Ambiguity, moving from brainrotten aimlesness to a life driven by purpose. If you want to live a life that feels meaningful but have no idea what you’re supposed to be doing with it, this episode is for you. EPISODE OUTLINE: THE 6 LEVELS OF LIVING A MEANINGFUL LIFE (according to 20th century existentialist philosopher Simone de Beauvoir)  00:00 Intro 04:57 1. The sub-man 10:13 2. The serious man14:17 3. The nihilist 16:43 4. The adventurer 22:06 5. The passionate man24:10 6. The compassionate person26:27 but btw life isn’t a ladder 27:51 Reflection questions 30:20 Lightning round recap32:07 When Death Comes by Mary Oliver  MY LINKSMy debut poetry collection MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠Follow Soul Gum’s new instagram :-) ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok

The manosphere wants you to think charisma is all about dominance and control. But what if it’s actually about deep presence and social courage?I don’t want to be like the guy who uses scarce communication to hide his lack of depth and fear of commitment. I want to be like the people who make you feel cool just by talking to them, while radiating charisma themselves.If you’ve ever wondered why some people can have fun talking to literally anyone, struggled to know what to say when someone asks you a question, or wished you were more comfortable saying what you actually think, this episode is for you.In today’s episode, we unpack 5 habits of highly charismatic people, from what they say when they’re getting to know someone to how they navigate disagreements. Along the way, we’ll talk about what we can learn from Socrates about swag, dive into the science of answering any question well, and use Byung-Chul Han’s concept of “the smooth” to investigate how we can stay raw and real in a world that tries to sand our edges.EPISODE OUTLINE: HABITS OF HIGHLY CHARISMATIC PEOPLE00:00 Intro07:14 1. How to ask better questions 08:18 The science of how asking questions makes people like you 10:18 The power of follow-up questions13:41 2. How to answer any question without freezing 14:37 The scary thing no one tells you about writing a book 17:11 Why your mind goes blank when someone asks you a question 18:03 The secret to answering questions with ease 20:21 The link between storytelling and charisma22:40 3. Stop performing agreement in conversations 23:18 What is backchanneling? 23:59 Upspeak, confidence, gender, and the way we talk 26:05 Should we actually backchannel less?28:58 4. How charismatic people handle disagreement 30:27 What Socrates can teach us about intellectual humility32:14 5. Stop treating human connection like a formula33:36 Byung-Chul Han and “the smooth”36:13 Btw you’re not a chad for wanting to be loved39:04  Lightning round recap40:44 Poem: Small Kindnesses by Danusha LamérisMY LINKSMy debut poetry collection MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠⁠Subscribe to Soul Gum’s new instagram :-) ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok