Dating Unsettled

You’re here because you have questions about balancing and freezing, and your career or relationship, and we are here to answer them. We’re going to spend the next hour breaking down what egg freezing is and talking about making unconventional dating and fertility decisions. I'm joined by special guest, my doctor, Dr. Srini Reddy at Spring Fertility. Partnership with Spring Fertility: Get $150 off your first consult in CA, NY or Oregon with code JOY150 My first consult is filmed, so you can see exactly what happens in that appointment. Join my newsletter at https://joyofodu.substack.com/welcome for more unsettling Enjoyment Endeavor updates and cryopreservation contnet. We’re here to bust myths not brains--- we’re gonna talk about what the crowd preservation process looks like, what it costs, how to get started, how it feels in the body and to answer your questions live.  In this episode, we cover: Egg Freezing 101 The Personal Side: Dating, Career & Egg Freezing Technology updates: How safe is cryopreservation? How reliable? Listener Qs / Rapid-Fire Round Big Picture We have 8 more episodes of Unsettled locked & loaded -- don't go anywhere! I shared my personal egg freezing journey and chatted with the fertility doctor from Spring who performed my surgery for a funny, honest conversation to help others learn more. The conversation was for anyone curious about egg freezing—what the process looked like, how to get started, the costs, and key things to consider. I opened up about my experience as a Spring patient in the format of a Dating Unsettled episode (and it all went on the pod after), while Dr. Reddy provided expert guidance and answered common questions. Everyone was welcome to attend this free live podcast taping, proudly in partnership with Spring Fertility. About Dr. Srini Reddy: Dr. Reddy is a double board-certified Reproductive Endocrinologist and Obstetrician-Gynecologist, committed to providing exceptional, evidence-based fertility care in a compassionate and collaborative environment. She believes in empowering her patients by ensuring they feel informed, supported, and actively involved in every step of their journey.

Come Meet My Doctor on Dating Unsettled - My Egg Freezing Story Spreading my legs for SCIENCE! Join me Weds Sep 10 at 4PST/7EST to interview my doctor, OR send this to an egg-carrier you love. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/career-cryopreservation-a-webinar-with-joy-ofodu-dr-reddy-tickets-1618511444299 Have you ever thought about freezing eggs or embryos for future family, career, or life planning but had no idea where to begin? Or maybe you just want to hear from someone who actually went through it—not once, but twice? Join me for a special Dating Unsettled live virtual podcast taping, where I’ll be talking with Dr. Srini Reddy, Fertility Specialist at Spring Fertility, about egg freezing and making unconventional dating and fertility decisions! RSVP HERE: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/career-cryopreservation-a-webinar-with-joy-ofodu-dr-reddy-tickets-1618511444299 Return here to join directly on Weds at 4PST without RSVP: https://zoom.us/j/99726804837 I’ll be sharing my personal egg freezing journey and chatting with the fertility doctor from Spring who performed my surgery for a funny, honest conversation to help you learn more. This conversation is for anyone curious about egg freezing—what the process looks like, how to get started, the costs, and key things to consider. I’ll open up about my experience as a Spring patient in the format of a Dating Unsettled episode (and it’s alllll going on the pod after, while Dr. Reddy provides expert guidance and answers common questions. Everyone is welcome to attend this free live podcast taping, proudly in partnership with Spring Fertility. About Dr. Srini Reddy: Dr. Reddy is a double board-certified Reproductive Endocrinologist and Obstetrician-Gynecologist, committed to providing exceptional, evidence-based fertility care in a compassionate and collaborative environment. She believes in empowering her patients by ensuring they feel informed, supported, and actively involved in every step of their journey.

What Are Girlfriend Duties vs. Wife Duties? Threads apparently explains! Alright, picture this—you're vibing in a relationship, doing all the things, but then you stop and ask yourself: Wait… is this a girlfriend thing to do/give/be or a wife thing? We’re unpacking that strange perpetually chronically online urge. Not in a dusty "play your role" kinda way, but in a WOW we don't have any common operating terms for this way. We’re talking effort vs. expectation, investment vs. entitlement, and why the whole "wifey treatment on a girlfriend budget" debate is way deeper than just cooking and cleaning. Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter!  You can visit my website and join my mailing list at enjoymentendeavor.com Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes or Unsettler Requests www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: @JoyOfodu @EnjoymentEndeavor IG: @datingunsettled All podcast platforms: Dating Unsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: joyofodu Threads: joyofodu Facebook: joyofodu

Unsettler Request: My Boyfriend Thought I Abandoned Him During Evacuation ft. Dr. Chidi Ohaeri Psychoeducation on how we respond to our partners taking past hurt and gender roles into account. If you are dating, loving, losing anything duirng this natural disaster: I am with you and feeling for you. Dr. Chidi and I read a vulnerable Unsettler Request centering the Southern California wildfires.  -- Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter!  You can visit my website and join my mailing list at enjoymentendeavor.com Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes or Unsettler Requests www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: @JoyOfodu @EnjoymentEndeavor IG: @datingunsettled All podcast platforms: Dating Unsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: joyofodu Threads: joyofodu Facebook: joyofodu

New Year, So I Redownloaded the Dating Apps: What Changed? Dating in 2025: how to use these features to find love in the New Year! I redownloaded the dating apps—Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—you know, the usual suspects. In this episode, I dive into what’s changed, what hasn’t, and whether the swipe scene is any less chaotic than before. Spoiler alert: it’s probably still a lil weird and VERY full of hope! If you’ve ever wondered whether dating apps are worth the hassle in 2025, this one’s for you. Along the way, I share some hard-earned dating advice from my time swiping on over 3,000 profiles and making 160+ matches. Looking for love, something casual, or just bored scrolling, this episode has plenty of insights (and a few laughs) to tell you what's been going on since you last opened the Big Apps! Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can visit my website and join my mailing list at enjoymentendeavor.com Shot by Town Futurist Media at 823 Grand Luxe  https://www.823grandluxe.com/ Production Asst - Mojola Epps, Donnita Shaw Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com  IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Threads: joyofodu  Facebook: joyofodu Bluesky: joyofodu

In this episode of Dating Unsettled, we're (yes, you and me) diving BACK LIKE WE NEVA LEFT into the chaos of summer relationships. I'll be reading your submissions and offering some no-nonsense advice—sprinkled with just the right amount of sarcasm. Whether you're navigating summer flings or long-term love, tune in for a reality check you probably didn't ask for, but definitely need. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about abeing divorced and not finding the folks she's looking for in her area (South Florida). Tips for distance and going the distance!  + I will be meeting and greeting in Florida at the Miami Beach Convention Center June 14 in the early afternoon! Follow me for more details. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Joy interviews Vasavi Kumar (@mynameisvasavi) about her experiences as a Brown girl, divorcee, dater in her 40s and voice actor/author! The two really get into what it's like to grow up as immigrant kids in the U.S. with a media landscape that makes them feel Othered, with blonde white girls as the mold and parental criticism as the fire under their feet. They react to Joy's video about her voices in her head and self-talk, and chat about how you can re-frame dating woes. Say It Out Loud Using the Power of Your Voice to Listen to Your Deepest Thoughts and Courageously Pursue Your Dreams https://vasavikumar.com/orderthebook Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Joy interviews Danielle Connolly (@_Daniellevates) about her experiences as a hotgirllll who just takes a lil bit more time getting out of chairs on dates! The two talk infantilization, common misconceptions, whether or not she discloses her disability and MORE! Yes, more. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Fun this week: DU has been featured by Apple Podcasts on TikTok and in curation with a new series! https://www.instagram.com/p/C4RXAGjPDM5/ Ride through the latest Love Is Blind Season 6 drama with your favorite dating podcast host, Joy!  In this episode, Joy spills the tea on all the jaw-dropping moments that have left us questioning both the concept of love and the sanity of the contestants.  But hold on to your heartstrings, because Joy takes a deep dive into the not-so-romantic side of the show, character by character. She discusses the abusive behaviors she's witnessed, too. For reference - https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/ Don't worry, it's not all gloom and doom! Joy also highlights the sweet, heartwarming moments that make us believe in the power of love. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Join Joy in this episode as she delves into her thoughts after the film "Players" on Netflix, exploring the complex themes it unravels about love, relationships, and the challenges that come with being an adult looking for grown folks love. First, Joy reflects on the societal pressure of feeling like time is running out. As she watches the characters grapple with their own timelines, she shares personal insights and experiences, discussing the expectations placed on individuals in their 30s and the quest for fulfillment. Internet stalking takes center stage as Joy explores the impact of online presence on modern dating. From oversharing on social media to finding out everything about someone before the first date, she discusses the fine line between curiosity and crossing boundaries in the digital age. The conversation then shifts to the art of manipulating people when dating—putting on a persona or feigning interests to create a favorable impression. Joy explores the ethical implications of such behavior and shares her thoughts on authenticity in relationships. Dating your best friend or coworkers can be a tricky endeavor, and Joy unpacks the dynamics at play. Drawing from personal experiences and the film's narrative, she examines the blurred lines between friendship and romance, shedding light on the potential rewards and risks involved. Players: https://www.netflix.com/title/81034895 Finally, Joy explores the desire for the "finished product" guy—a partner who meets all the criteria on the checklist. She discusses the pitfalls of setting unrealistic standards and the importance of embracing imperfections in the pursuit of genuine connections. Recommended read: The Skin Deep 12 Questions for Love Challenge. They believe in the transformative power of human connection: "We’ve been creating the space for couples around the globe to explore their connection and deepen their relationships. You might have seen the magic unfold on {THE AND} videos, or played our card games before." I hope you get the chance to ask these Qs of your partner or date to go deeper. FREE: https://shop.theskindeep.com/products/12-questions-for-love-challenge-free-download Follow the pod/the host! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Good Morning America recently recognized me as a Dating Expert and featured my advice from this beloved pod! Here’s my full appearance on GMA and dating tips to help you build a real relationships from the apps this year Seeing myself Good Morning America was a surreal experience, one that I never imagined would happen so soon in my podcasting journey or journey as an entertainer! As host of my own original dating podcast called “Dating Unsettled”, the opportunity to share my tips for 2024 on the most watched morning show in the nation was a dream come true. The theme of the segment, “Give your dating life a fresh start in 2024,” was perfect for ya girl! I was super pumped talking about ways to shake up your love life, bounce back from heartbreaks which are GOOD, and make room for those dreamy relationships some of us are chasing. The vibe in the virtual interview was go great, and knowing that millions of folks were tuning in, including past colleagues, fellow creator, friends, neighbors, parishioners — i just couldn’t contain my heart this AM!! In the clip you’ll see from the interview, I shared some human to human advice on how I want to feel in a relationship, how possible it is to find love online (I did after 3,00 swipes), and getting into the right mindset for finding your ideal partner in 2024. More than just soaking up the spotlight for my little pod and for me, it was a chance to light a fire under people to explore new things and grow in their love lives. I understand that when I speak, other daters are motivated to action. With the whole country awake & watching, I felt privielged to help everyone dive into 2024 with a fresh take on love. It’s out there. It’s possible. It’s YOURS! But you gotta get up and go get it. Thank you everyone and thank you GMA. No better way to start the year! Joy 💖 💡tldr: I found and built a healthy relationship with a complete stranger who is now my bf of over 2 years after 1.5y of swiping, hilarity, more than 20 first dates, 3,000 or more profiles and over 160 matches.  Credit: GMA / ABC  https://youtu.be/jqmMpNGZFt8 #datingapps #datingexpert #datingcreator #comedycreator #datingcomedy #datinghumor #datingappsuccess #goodmorningamerica

Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features! Thanks for listening to this podcast, and entering a space that proves dating can be a comedy goldmine, full of love and mistakes and healing and not just the he-said-she-said the Internet is making it out to be. Also - stay tuned or visit the @datingunsettled IG for the podcast's features on Good Morning America and Apple Podcasts this Jan and Feb! We made it y'all! New episodes coming this weekend and next week. GMA https://youtu.be/jqmMpNGZFt8 Apple Podcasts Valentine's Day https://apple.co/whensparksfly Website/Contact https://datingunsettled.com/ In this episode -- Get ready for a hilarious dive into the world of dating as your favorite podcast host, Joy, takes on "The Skin Deep Dating Edition" in this candid and puke worthy lovey dover episodes. Join us as Joy spills the beans on her datingpreferences, and the unexpected moments that make dating an unpredictable rollercoaster. In this unfiltered and unscripted episode, Joy plays the dating game, baring it all for our entertainment.  www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu  

In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about a man who dumped her and blamed it on his medical condition..Should she believe what he shared, or is he using it as an excuse? I go off with loving affirmation and evaluation! Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about the Ghost of Bumble's past -- a man who insists on being a recurring character. Should she date him or drop him? I also spill tea on where my own relationship with self/Ivan/podcast is this holiday season. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

"I'm single but tbh I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm really working on myself right now." UGH! We've all heard it. But have we interrogated it? What can we do when we meet someone we really want to be there for who isn't really into dating? Meet local man Alex Clewis, and goalie for Napa Valley 1839 FC. He's my boyfriend's teammate and a stand up salesman who is recovering from serial monogamy! Our convo opens up a lot of topics men/women don't voice aloud. Enjoy!   Follow the show on all podcast platforms:  https://www.datingunsettled.com/ IG: https://instagram.com/datingunsettled TikTok: tiktok.com/@datingunsettled Twitter: https://twitter.com/datingunsettled Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can join my mailing list at https://joyofodu.komi.io/

Is Michael's new app, Cosmic, gon' save the dating scene? We're about to find out... it'll at the very least save people who don't like to write bios about themselves..themselves. Listen and learn more -- or read about it in TechCrunch! Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

A legendary moment. The reason for my season and to my rhyme. What every dating podcast needs: I get to introduce you to my maaaan, Ivan! We discuss his surprising first impressions of me, why he asked me to be his girlfriend and what it’s been like since. RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th  We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles - in partnership with The Skin Deep, The Song Remedy and Fever Tree. Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Joy gives her thoughts on the Unsettling world of Netflix's hit series, "Love is Blind." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and Joy's personal icks that Season 5 Episodes 1-4 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for the footage aired in Episodes 1-4, including season preview (what may happen beyond the pods). Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu