The So Extra Podcast

If you feel like you keep attracting the same situations, the same people, and the same feelings, this is not a coincidence.In this episode, I break down why you keep repeating patterns in your life whether it’s body image struggles, toxic relationships, people pleasing or feeling like you’re never enough and what these patterns are actually trying to teach you.I share my personal journey with:body image and years of dietingfeeling unworthy and not enough from a young agerepeating cycles in relationships and self sabotageusing distraction, partying, and numbing to avoid the deeper workAnd most importantly - how I broke the cycle.This episode will help you:understand why patterns keep repeating in your lifeidentify the lesson you’re being called to learnbreak free from self sabotage and limiting beliefsbuild confidence, self worth, and a deeper connection with yourselfIf you’re ready to stop living the same life in different forms… this is your wake up call!If you want more support please dm me on IG @thepolynesianlifecoach or search my name 'Elisha Tamasi' to find me because I'm about to rebrand hehe love ya!xxself worth, confidence, body image healing, breaking patterns, self sabotage, personal development for women, mindset shift, healing journey, women empowerment, confidence coach, self love journey, limiting beliefs, inner work, emotional healing

Sometimes ignorance isn’t a lack of awareness.It’s a coping mechanism.We say “I didn’t know” or “I didn’t realise”… but deep down there’s often a part of us that did know.Because facing the truth might mean we have to change something.In this episode I talk about how ignorance can show up in our lives, why we avoid certain truths, and how self-awareness is the first step to real confidence and personal growth.Listen now! 🎧If you want more support join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠...📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠⁠#personaldevelopmentpodcast #selfawareness #confidencecoach #mindsetshift #selfgrowth #personaldevelopment #innerwork #confidencejourney

You don’t actually want the goal.You want the feeling you believe the goal will give you.Confidence. Freedom. Peace in your own skin.So many women think they’ll finally feel good about themselves when they lose the weight, reach the goal, or become a “better” version of themselves.But what if you could start creating those feelings now?In this episode I talk about why the feeling matters more than the goal and how this shift can change your relationship with confidence, body image, and self worth.Listen now! 🎧If you want more support join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠...⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠⁠Also check out my nail plugs on IG here - https://www.instagram.com/primimpropernails https://www.instagram.com/alofa.nails#confidencepodcast #selflovejourney #bodyconfidence #selfworth #confidencecoach #mindsetshift

Everyone says places like Australia have “more opportunities”… but what if it’s not the country and it’s the confidence you step into when you give yourself permission to be seen?In this episode, we unpack how opportunity isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you recognise, claim, and create through the way you see your life. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overlooked, or like life would be better “somewhere else,” this conversation will shift your perspective and call you back into your power.Because two women can have the same circumstances… and one sees limits while the other sees possibilities.This is about becoming the woman who stops waiting to be chosen and starts choosing herself.🎧 In this episode we cover:– Why opportunity is more about mindset than location– The truth behind “there’s more opportunities overseas”– How fear disguises itself as being “realistic”– The confidence shift that creates new doors in your life– Why the version of you who backs herself will see opportunity anywhereIf you’re ready to stop playing small, back yourself fully, and start seeing possibility in your life right now… this episode is for you queen.And if you want more support join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠...⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠⁠#OpportunityMindset #SelfWorthJourney #ConfidencePodcast #PersonalGrowthForWomen #MindsetShift #WomenEmpowerment #PolynesianWomen #SelfLoveJourney #ConfidenceCoach #LevelUpYourLife

Why do you keep sabotaging yourself even when you really want to change?In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about self sabotage, self worth, and why you keep holding yourself back from the confidence, body love, and life you say you want.Queen, self love is self protection!If you’ve ever procrastinated, doubted yourself, stayed quiet, people pleased, or talked yourself out of opportunities you actually wanted this episode will hit deep.We dive into:✨ Why self sabotage is actually a nervous system response✨ The hidden fears underneath procrastination and perfectionism✨ The real reason you keep not doing the thing✨ Practical steps to stop abandoning yourself and finally follow throughThis episode is for the woman who is done playing small, done waiting to feel ready, and ready to break the cycle of self doubt, people pleasing, and shrinking herself.If you’re on a journey of self love, confidence building, healing body image, and becoming the most powerful version of you this conversation is a must listen.And if you want more support join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠...📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠⁠

Unpopular opinion: I don’t believe in unconditional love when it comes to relationships with other people.In this episode, I unpack why unconditional love is often romanticised in a way that actually teaches women to tolerate disrespect, overgive, and abandon themselves in the name of being “loving.”We dive into:– How “loving unconditionally” can keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics– The difference between real love and self abandonment– Why healthy relationships require respect, safety, and aligned behaviourYou can love people deeply… AND still have standards.You can care about someone… AND still choose yourself.If you'd love more support join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠#UnconditionalSelfLove #HealthyRelationships #BoundariesAreLove #SelfWorthJourney #ConfidenceCoach #WomenEmpowerment #PeoplePleaserRecovery #SecureLove #WahineToa #PolynesianLifeCoach

How many times have you held back…Waiting for someone to approve you?Choose you? Validate you?Tell you it’s okay to go after what you want?In this episode we’re talking about self worth, confidence, and breaking free from people pleasing and perfectionism.Because waiting for permission is often fear!You don’t need permission to:🧡 Start the business🧡 Leave the relationship🧡 Speak up in a room full of people🧡 Wear what you want🧡 Change your lifeConfidence isn’t given. It’s claimed.If you’re tired of shrinking yourself, over explaining, and playing small this episode will shift something in you.🎧 Listen now and take your power back.And if you'd love more support join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠#SelfLove #StopWaiting #ConfidenceJourney #PeoplePleasingRecovery #WomenEmpowerment #PersonalDevelopmentPodcast #SelfWorth #HealingJourney

Hey queen! In this episode we talk about identity, ancestry, and the power of reconnecting to your roots as a pathway to deeper self worth and confidence.When you disconnect from your culture, you can start to disconnect from yourself.And when you reconnect, you remember who you are.You remember your strength.You remember your belonging.This episode is for the woman who feels caught between worlds, who wants to feel more grounded in her heritage, and who knows there’s something powerful about reclaiming her culture.Join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠#SelfLoveJourney #ConnectToCulture #CulturalIdentity #PolynesianWomen #ConfidenceCoach #WomensEmpowerment #SelfWorth #PersonalDevelopmentPodcast

Love yourself enough to be seen.Not when you lose the weight.Not when you’re more confident.Not when you’ve “fixed” yourself.NOW!In this episode, I’m talking about self love, confidence, visibility, and why so many women shrink themselves in relationships, at work, online, and even in their own lives. We hide our bodies. We silence our opinions. We play small so we don’t make other people uncomfortable.But shrinking is self abandonment.If you struggle with body image, self worth, people pleasing, fear of judgment, or holding yourself back from your next level this conversation is for you.You’ll learn:🧡 Why you’re afraid to be fully seen🧡 How low self esteem shows up in subtle ways🧡 The connection between confidence and visibility🧡 Actionable steps to overcome hiding🧡 How to stop hiding and take up spaceThis is about loving yourself enough to wear the outfit, start the business, speak up in the meeting, post the photo, set the boundary, and live boldly.You don’t need to change yourself to be worthy.You need to stop hiding.And if you’re ready to work on this and become the most confident version of yourself.Join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠#selflove #confidence #bodyimage #selfworth #womenempowerment #personaldevelopment #mindset #visibility #womeninbusiness

What if self love isn’t about getting it right but about letting yourself be bad while you learn?In this episode, we’re talking about why so many women stay stuck, silent, and small because they’re terrified of being seen trying.Perfectionism, people pleasing, and the fear of embarrassment keep women in a chokehold. So we avoid starting. We avoid learning. We avoid becoming.But confidence isn’t built by waiting until you’re ready.It’s built by being willing to look messy, awkward, and inexperienced and choosing yourself anyway.In this episode, you’ll learn:✨ Why being “bad” at something is a self love act✨ How perfectionism keeps you disconnected from your power✨ What it really means to support yourself instead of punish yourself✨ How to start before you feel confidentIf you’ve been holding yourself back because you don’t want to fail, be judged, or look silly this episode is for you.And if you’re ready to build a healthier relationship with yourself, your emotions, and your confidence this is the work we do together.Join me inside my group coaching program Destination Self Love 🧡👉 Join here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠@thepolynesianlifecoach⁠⁠#SelfLovePodcast #ConfidenceForWomen #HealingPerfectionism #PersonalDevelopmentPodcast #SelfWorth #GrowthMindset #WomenDoingTheWork

Boundaries are not about being mean.They are about self respect.In this episode, we talk about why so many women struggle to hold boundaries, how people pleasing affects confidence and self worth, and why boundaries are a non negotiable part of self love and emotional healing.I share real examples from my own life — why I didn’t rebook a podcast after being stood up, why I didn’t speak to my parents for years, and how learning to honour my boundaries helped me rebuild confidence and self trust.If you’re ready to stop self abandoning, set healthy boundaries, heal people pleasing patterns, and choose yourself without guilt, this episode is for you.If you want to build a healthier relationship with yourself, your emotions, and your confidence, join me in my group coaching program "Destination Self Love"👉 Join here:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠⁠  @thepolynesianlifecoach⁠  ⁠#SelfLove #Boundaries #PeoplePleasing #WomensConfidence #SelfRespect #HealingJourney #ChooseYourself

Self love isn’t avoiding your emotions, it’s learning how to feel them safely and without shame.In this episode, Love Yourself Enough to Feel Your Feelings Instead of Numbing Out, I talk about why so many women disconnect from their emotions, how emotional suppression impacts confidence and body image, and why feeling your feelings is a core part of real self love.You’ll learn:• why avoiding emotions keeps you stuck in self criticism• how “staying busy” can be a form of emotional numbing• the link between confidence, self worth, and emotional awareness• how to practise self love by allowing your feelings instead of fighting themIf you’ve been told to “just think positive” while feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck this episode is for you.If you want to build a healthier relationship with yourself, your emotions, and your confidence, join me in my group coaching program "Destination Self Love"👉 Join here:⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠  / thepolynesianlifecoach⁠  PS: Don’t forget - you are worthy exactly as you are 🧡#SelfLovePodcast #ConfidenceCoach #EmotionalHealing #WomenAndSelfWorth #BodyImageHealing #FeelYourFeelings #PersonalDevelopmentForWomen #SelfLoveJourney

We’re more connected than ever and more disconnected from ourselves at the same time.In this episode, we talk about what constant scrolling is really costing you: your presence, your confidence, your nervous system, and your ability to hear your own voice.If you’ve ever picked up your phone without meaning to, felt overstimulated, or noticed yourself avoiding your own thoughts this episode is for you.Thank you for being here queen!If you’re ready to change the way you move, think, and feel in your body this is the work we do together.👉 Join here:⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach⁠PS: Don’t forget - you are worthy exactly as you are 🧡Keywords: self love podcast phone addiction social media and confidence digital boundaries nervous system regulation self trust and presence

Eating well isn’t about being “good,” following rules, or fixing your body.It’s about caring for yourself in a way that supports your energy, mood, and life.In this episode, we talk about what eating well actually means when you’re done with diets, food guilt, and all or nothing thinking.We cover:• why eating well has nothing to do with restriction• how food became moralised and tied to self worth• the difference between nourishment and control• how to eat in a way that feels supportive, not obsessive• simple mindset shifts to build trust with food againThis conversation is for the woman who’s tired of swinging between “being good” and “falling off,” and wants a calmer, more respectful relationship with food.You don’t need another plan.You need safety, consistency, and permission to care for yourself.Thank you for being here queen!If you’re ready to change the way you move, think, and feel in your body this is the work we do together.👉 Join here:⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠  / thepolynesianlifecoach⁠  PS: Don’t forget - you are worthy exactly as you are 🧡Keywords: self love podcast healthy relationship with food eating well without dieting food freedom body respect self worth and confidence

So many women ignore aches, pains, and symptoms because they’ve learned to minimise themselves.In this episode, we talk about why we put off going to the doctor, brushing things off as “nothing,” or telling ourselves we’re overreacting even when our body is clearly asking for attention.We unpack:• why so many women delay getting checked• the fear of being dismissed or not taken seriously• the reality of fatphobia in healthcare and why that doesn’t mean you deserve less care• how self love looks like advocating for your body• why getting checked early is an act of self respectThis is about listening to your body and trusting that you are worthy of being cared for properly.If you’ve ever left an appointment feeling small, unheard, or ashamed, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep navigating that on your own.If you need support learning how to trust yourself, speak up, and advocate for your body this is the work we do together inside Destination Self Love.👉 Join here:⁠⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠⁠📲 Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach⁠You deserve care. You deserve answers. You deserve to be taken seriously queen. 🧡Keywords: self love podcast women’s health advocacy body awareness standing up for yourself fatphobia in healthcare self worth and confidence

Movement was never meant to be a punishment. But for so many women, it became something they forced themselves to do instead of something that supported them.In this episode, we talk about why moving your body matters (not for weight loss but for confidence, mental health, and self love)You’ll hear:• why it’s important to move your body in a way that supports your life• how to move your body without punishment or shame• simple mindset shifts around exercise and motivation• practical tips and tricks to help you get moving even when you don’t feel like itThis conversation is for the woman who wants to feel strong, energised, and connected to her body again without turning movement into another thing to be “good” or “bad” at.Thank you for being here queen!If you’re ready to change the way you move, think, and feel in your body this is the work we do together.👉 Join here:⁠⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠⁠📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoachPS: Don’t forget - you are worthy exactly as you are 🧡Keywords:self love podcast movement without punishment body image and exercise healthy relationship with exercise self worth and confidence how to enjoy movement again

Welcome back to episode 4 of the "Love Yourself Enough To..." series.On this episode I'm talking about the moments you abandon yourself - the standards you lower, the dreams you postpone, and the parts of you that go quiet to feel safe.We explore:Why you settleWhat area you settle inHow to find out you want more What choosing yourself actually looks like in real lifeThis conversation is for the woman who knows she’s capable of more - not in a hustle way, but in a self respect way.Thank you for being here queen! 🧡If you’re ready to build a rock solid relationship with yourself, stop settling, and stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable, this is the work we do together inside Destination Self Love.👉 Join here:⁠https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/⁠📲 Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoachPS: Don’t forget - you are worthy exactly as you are 🧡Keywords:self love podcast stop settling self worth and confidence how to choose yourself people pleasing recovery boundaries and self trust women and self respect

You don’t stay because you’re stupid.You stay because you were taught to doubt yourself.In this episode, I name the signs you’re in a toxic relationship (the obvious red flags and the not so obvious ones) including emotional manipulation, constant self doubt, lack of boundaries, people pleasing, and feeling unsafe being yourself.We talk about toxic relationships in romantic partnerships, friendships, family dynamics, and work environments, and why walking away is not failure but an act of self love, self respect, and emotional healing.This episode is for you if you’re searching for:• signs of a toxic relationship• how to leave a toxic relationship• emotional abuse red flags• self love and boundaries• why it’s hard to leave• confidence and self worth• healing from toxic relationshipsThank you for being here queen! 🧡If you’re ready to build a rock solid relationship with yourself, stop settling, and stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable, this is the work we do together inside Destination Self Love.👉 Join here:https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/📲 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoachPS: Don’t forget - you are worthy exactly as you are 🧡

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My loves! I'm backkkk!! And over the next 14 days I'm going to be doing back to back episodes for Valentines.This series is called "Love Yourself enough To" and I just know it'll help you show up more confidently and intentionally in your life with so much love!Please enjoy and show me some love in the comments/by sharing with your friends. Love you xx