The BPD Bunch

What if you keep hooking up with people, even when you don’t really want to, because deep down you believe it’s all you deserve?In this minisode, Xannie, Mo, Georgette, and Raf answer a viewer’s question about the connection between BPD, reckless sex, and self-punishment. They share deeply personal experiences of seeking love through hookups, using sex to escape emotional pain, struggling with boundaries, and repeatedly making choices that left them feeling worse.They also discuss how to recognize when sex is something you genuinely want versus something you’re using to fill an emotional void, and why those motivations can be complicated.Topics discussed: BPD and reckless sex, impulsivity, self-punishment, validation seeking, chronic emptiness, sexual trauma, mindfulness, Wise Mind, healthy boundaries.Have a question for The BPD Bunch? Drop it in the comments! We might answer it in a future minisode.___About Our MinisodesBetween seasons of The BPD Bunch, we keep things a little more casual with shorter episodes (15–20 minutes) where we answer viewer questions, play games, and chat about all things BPD.Our regular seasons feature longer, in-depth discussions on different BPD topics. Season 8 returns in spring 2027!___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Why can losing someone feel like losing your entire world when you have BPD?In this minisode, Xannie, Katja, Carys, and Justin answer a viewer’s question about why lacking a stable sense of identity can make loss feel so devastating. Through personal experiences, they explore what happens when your sense of self depends on people or things outside your control, and how developing your own identity can help you navigate grief without feeling completely consumed by it.Topics discussed: BPD identity disturbance, fear of loss, chronic emptiness, relationship dependence, personal values, mindfulness, BPD recovery.Have a question for The BPD Bunch? Drop it in the comments! We might answer it in a future minisode.___About Our Minisodes: Between seasons of The BPD Bunch, we keep things a little more casual with shorter episodes (15–20 minutes) where we answer viewer questions, play games, and chat about all things BPD.Our regular seasons feature longer, in-depth discussions on different BPD topics. Season 8 returns in spring 2027!___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

What if the way BPD is diagnosed doesn’t actually capture what you’re experiencing?In our Season 7 finale, Xannie, Katja, and Justin reflect on what they learned about the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD) and how it compares to the traditional DSM-5 criteria.In this episode:* BPD diagnostic criteria: DSM-5 vs. AMPD* Why identity struggles may be central to BPD* Feeling empty even after BPD symptoms improve* How the AMPD measures personality disorder severity* The potential for misdiagnosis and clinician bias* Why diagnostic labels can still be important for finding communityIf you’ve ever read the BPD criteria and felt like they didn’t quite explain your experience, this conversation explores what might be missing.CATEGORICAL MODEL5 of 9 criteria required:1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.2. Unstable, intense relationships alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.3. Markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.4. Impulsivity in at least 2 potentially self-damaging areas (e.g., spending, sex, substance use, reckless driving).5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats, or self-injury.6. Marked mood reactivity (intense dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety).7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent outbursts, constant anger, physical fights).9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.AMPDA. Moderate or greater impairment in at least 2:Identity: Unstable/poorly developed self-image, self-criticism, emptiness, stress-related dissociation.Self-direction: Unstable goals, aspirations, values, or career plans.Empathy: Difficulty recognizing others’ feelings/needs; sensitivity to slights; negative bias toward others.Intimacy: Unstable, conflicted relationships; mistrust, neediness, abandonment preoccupation, idealization/devaluation, overinvolvement or withdrawal.B. At least 4 of 7 traits, one of which must be impulsivity, risk taking, or hostility1. Emotional lability: Easily triggered, intense, shifting emotions, out of proportion.2. Anxiousness: Panic/tension, interpersonal stress, worry about past/future, uncertainty or losing control.3. Separation insecurity: Fear of rejection/separation, excessive dependence or loss of autonomy.4. Depressivity: Low mood, hopelessness, shame, low self-worth, suicidal thoughts/behavior.5. Impulsivity: Acting without planning or considering outcomes; trouble following plans; self-harm in distress.6. Risk taking: Dangerous activities despite consequences; dismissing limits or personal danger.7. Hostility: Frequent anger/irritability, over minor slights.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A___Love what we do? Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Have you ever gotten so angry that you knew you were making things worse, and still couldn’t seem to stop?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Mo, Raf, Georgette, Katja, and Justin get honest about what it took to change their relationship with BPD rage and hostility. From explosive arguments and pushing loved ones away to learning how to walk away before things escalate, the cast shares what actually helped them respond differently.They also discuss the emotions hiding underneath their anger, why calming down can feel impossible in the moment, and how even small changes in behavior can make a huge difference.In this episode:* BPD rage and explosive anger* How to stop lashing out at loved ones* BPD anger and relationship problems* Emotional dysregulation and anger urges* DBT skills for anger and distress tolerance* Taking space during arguments* Sadness, rejection, and fear underneath anger* Learning to manage hostility in BPD recoveryIf you’ve ever looked back at something you said in anger and wished you could take it back, this conversation is for you._____This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Have you ever been so angry at someone that hurting them felt completely justified?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Mo, Raf, Georgette, Katja, and Justin get brutally honest about their experiences with BPD and hostility. From holding grudges for years to deliberately targeting someone’s insecurities, they share the behaviors they once defended and the damage those behaviors caused.They also explore what was happening underneath the anger, including shame, fear, perceived rejection, and the belief that they were protecting themselves or someone else. Sometimes the hardest part of looking back is realizing that being hurt didn’t make every reaction justified.In this episode, we discuss:BPD and hostilityBPD rage and intense angerHolding grudges and long-lasting resentmentShame turning into angerVerbal aggression and hurting loved onesSplitting and perceived hostilityPassive-aggressive behavior in relationshipsJustifying harmful behavior when emotionally dysregulatedIf you’ve ever looked back at something you did in anger and wondered how you convinced yourself it was okay, this conversation is for you._____This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.