The Gemma Hanley Podcast

If you already know what you want — the kind of love and lifestyle you're here for — but fear still gets loud when you move toward it, this episode is for you. When doubt whispers that it's risky to trust what you know, that living your truth might cost too much or has you questioning whether you're capable — this is how you come home to self-trust, no matter what you're feeling. Together we explore: The permission to be fully with your experience — and why that creates more ease, not chaos How to tell when discomfort is old wiring vs. your intuition asking for a truer next step The energetic shift that happens when your "yes" is rooted in desire, not obligation A pocket tool for in-the-moment support (so you can steady your nervous system and choose what's real for you) Access REGULATE here for $32.   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

Ever felt like your self-awareness is backfiring and leaving you as the only one carrying the weight of disconnect in your relationships? What if that heaviness was never yours alone to solve — and there's a way to turn it into deeper mutual connection? Here's what you'll uncover in this episode: Beyond the basics: the advanced layer your inner work has been missing The hidden cost of assuming you care more — and what it keeps you blind to How shifting one perspective can dissolve resentment before it takes root The doorway into deeper connection that's been waiting right in front of you   Join my short course: Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety Use discount code: "BIRTHDAY" for 50% off at checkout.  Ends Friday 26th September 2025 at midnight.    Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

When you're highly sensitive, it can feel like other people's emotions live in your body. This episode unpacks why that happens and how to reclaim your center—so you can stay loving and present without becoming dysregulated. Together we explore: What's really going on when you "take on" someone else's feelings The hidden cost of "put yourself in their shoes" (and how childhood wiring teaches you to try their experience on as your own). Emotional intelligence in practice: relating to discomfort as information, not an emergency (for you and for them). Two shifts that change everything: boundaries that begin inside your body, and action that anchors your clarity before the overthinking returns.   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and book your clarity call here5 final spaces available at the time of recording this episode   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

It's tempting to want quick fixes — to rush to the new belief or the next step. But real change doesn't come from skipping ahead. It comes from being guided deep enough to see the truth of your own patterns, so you can create transformation that actually lasts.   This episode explores why exceptional coaching isn't about assumptions or surface-level advice — it's about meeting you as the individual you are, and guiding you into clarity that changes everything.  gemm Together we explore:   The power of slowing down before rushing to "fix" How the right questions unlock breakthroughs your mind couldn't reach The role of a coach in directing you toward deeper self-inquiry and faster, more sustainable change The freedom and energy that return when you finally see the pattern clearly   Learn more about Reveal & Rise here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

If you've ever worried that setting boundaries will push people away, this episode is here to remind you of the opposite.. boundaries expand love, deepen connection, and make more room for what matters. Your brave "no" is what clears space for the richest "yes." Together we explore: The flow and functionality that enters your life when you honour your true capacity How boundaries create deeper intimacy instead of distance The relief of shifting guilt, overthinking, and resentment The energetic shift when your "yes" is rooted in desire, not obligation Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here*Early-bird pricing and bonuses end Aug 31st*   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

If you've ever wondered whether you're getting motherhood "right" — this episode is for you. What if your self-doubt is not a flaw, but a sign of how deeply you care? This is a love note to the mother in you — a reminder that your challenges don't mean you're off track. They mean you're awakening. And the soul of your child chose you for a reason. Together we explore: Why emotional discomfort in motherhood doesn't mean something's wrong — it means something's awakening The quiet, powerful work of breaking generational patterns Motherhood as a co-creation between your soul and your child's A perspective shift that helps dissolve shame and self-judgment — so you can meet yourself with awe Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

When open, honest communication leads to shutdown, deflection, or passive-aggression - what do you do next?    In this episode, we explore the emotional reality of relationships where someone says they want connection but lacks the capacity to hold your truth.    You'll learn a compassionate and self-honoring approach to boundary setting that protects your energy, keeps you honest, and helps you stay grounded in your own worth. Together we explore:   How to tell the truth without it blowing up in your face How to reposition a relationship when it consistently leaves you feeling unheard, let down or drained A word-for-word example of how to maintain a relationship without sacrificing your own needs The subconscious pattern that has a woman over-explain or overshare in the hope of being understood (and how to shift it)   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

When I left the wrong relationship at age 34 (despite wanting to become a mother) I wanted a guarantee that I wouldn't attract or re-create the same lesson again. To state the obvious, I felt that time was running out.  In this episode I share with you:   How to learn from difficult experiences so that we don't continue the same pattern   The importance of giving your mind body the key that opens a new door   The focus that changed everything for me   The exact lessons I needed to embrace so that I attracted an aligned relationship Watch my free masterclass: Reprogramming Your Subconscious To Calm Your Nervous System here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Been immersing yourself in your inner work for years but still feel like something's missing? I've recorded this episode for you! I'm sharing some of the exact tweaks that may change the healing & growth game for you: Why your body might be holding onto illness as protection How to tell if you're using a bandaid for your nervous system, or actually reprogramming it Identifying your comfort zone of inner work, and what you need to focus on instead Practical steps forward for working with emotional eating (scrolling, staying up late, procrastination)  Building inner certainty that can't be shaken   Get your hands on the replay for my masterclass: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

This week I share my own dating and relationship journey as an example of how the love we witnessed in childhood directly shapes the love we create as adults.   This is the subconscious 'data' that empowers us to write a new love story - not only for ourselves, but for generations to come.  In this episode, we'll cover:   Different ways that anxious and avoidant attachments express through our nervous systems   Examples of how my own childhood conditioning showed up in my dating & relationships at different stages of healing   How to uncover your own love and relationship patterns    Why we repeat the same patterns despite wishing we could "stop" them   Plus more!   Register for me free masterclass here: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System (July 2nd)   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

When we take our self awareness and judge ourselves (for being too slow, lazy or stupid) we can no longer take action on it.   That nasty, mean judgemental story we're telling about ourself feels horrible - so the opportunity to take the awareness and put it into action is lost.   In this week's episode, I talk about an empowering approach instead:   The subconscious reason we know better but don't do better 2 changes every woman must make before she can put her awareness into fulfilling action   Real life examples of how I've been stuck in my mind instead of connecting to my body soul   The practical tool I teach my clients for identifying aligned action steps forward   Plus more! Register for my new masterclass: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System here Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Feel like you're constantly racing against an invisible clock - rushing to heal, forcing outcomes, and always needing to get ahead?   When we understand that rushing is a survival strategy learnt in childhood, we can finally breathe into a different way of being. In this episode, I share:   The link between "good girl" childhood conditioning and why slowing down feels so threatening to your nervous system   How your mind body soul is using discomfort as an invitation to discover your true self (not an inconvenience to rush through)   The life-changing shift from asking "how fast can I fix this?" to "what is this teaching me about who I really am?"   Why patience is the fast route to transformation (do it right, do it once)   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

You've drawn a line in the sand and followed through on a boundary that is right for you… only inner peace hasn't followed Rather, you're having dreams about the situation (if you can get to sleep), it's consuming your thoughts, and you're left questioning why there's still discomfort when you've shown up as the real you. This is exactly what I dive into in this episode of The Gemma Hanley Podcast, including:   How your body speaks to you about your boundaries   What to do when we feel as if the other person is the problem   Accurately identifying the subconscious pattern at the root of this boundary setting discomfort    The next step forward to let go of the ruminating (including practical question prompts)   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

You know exactly what's holding you back, you've had all the "aha moments" about your patterns, and yet... you find ways to prolong or talk yourself out of needing to take action.   In this episode, I share a powerful conversation inspired by a courageous client who recognized this exact pattern in herself - the gap between awareness and action.   Together we explore:   How you can stay connected to yourself and the change you desire   Three practical questions to bring you back into your body when your mind tries to distract you from the truth   How to create the subconscious reprogramming road-map that is right for you (because there is no one-size fits all)   Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Are you a woman who is always wanting to get more done, be liked by everyone, and extends a helping hand even when your plate is already full?   In this episode, I'm sharing a simple yet profound exercise to help you uncover what might be driving these patterns.   What you'll discover: Why your definition of "success" impacts everything from your health to your relationships How to identify when you're following someone else's rules versus your own inner truth A journaling exercise to uncover what's really driving your helper/pleaser/fixer tendencies How your body's symptoms and emotions reveal when you're living from someone else's definition of success My personal journey from achievement-based validation to deep internal success criteria To learn more about your subconscious and how to reprogram it, watch my free masterclass Emotion & Symptom Mastery here Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Ever feel confused about what you actually need in moments of stress or overwhelm? In this episode, I share the exact self-coaching tool I use every single day (and with all my clients inside Reveal & Rise) to move from nervous system dysregulation to calm confidence. In this episode, you'll discover how to: Connect to your body's wisdom instead of pushing through discomfort (which only creates more physical symptoms and emotional turbulence) Bridge the gap between awareness and action - because knowing you're stressed isn't the same as knowing what you need to resolve it Name the "productivity trap" that has us discount rest, pleasure and self-care as "unproductive luxuries" rather than essential nervous system necessities   Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Feel as if you've hit a brick wall with your inner work? You can see the subconscious pattern and you're trying everything you know to change it… only to be left with the same question: "why isn't this working!?" You're not alone and this pep talk is for you.  I cover:   Why asking "what am I doing wrong?" is the wrong question   How to drop the rigidity and find flow in your healing   The sneaky ways your inner work can become another way to control and perfect yourself (and what to do instead)   What you need to start prioritising to break through   Plus more!   Join my free masterclass Emotion & Symptom Mastery here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

This week we're celebrating 100 episodes !!! so I'm sharing something extra special - a raw and honest Q&A with my partner Harri. Whilst I've shared snippets of our relationship in past episodes, you'll finally hear from the man himself about how we navigate love, growth, and building a life together.   Together, Harri and I answer:   How long have you been together? Are you similar ages? And both into healthy eating and mindset? How deep in conversation did you go on the first date? Did you have any doubts about each other? Who raised the idea of a future together first and how? What were you afraid to let go of before moving forward together? When you live together, how will you navigate bills and house chores?  Do doubts ever come? Are they real or is it fear? How do you approach conflicts where you each have a different truth/version of an events? How do you repair after a conflict? How much time is enough together to feel good in a relationship? What compromises have you had to make? What are 3 things you love about each other?   For 50% off my short course 'Responding to Overwhelm Fear & Anxiety' use the code: "EPISODE100"   Learn more about 'Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety' here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

The line between "authenticity" and "emotional dumping" can be difficult to decipher in intimate relationships.     In this episode I share two stories about my own emotions from the past week.   If you've ever wondered "am I being too sensitive?" or "is this oversharing?" - you'll love listening in.   You'll hear me share:   Two stories about how I sat with and felt my emotions   The reason I was feeling fear, worry, panic and anger The role my partner can and can't play in my own emotional regulation   The different ways I take ownership of my emotions   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Lets dissect the role a client must play in the coaching relationship should they want to see results. This follows on from last week's episode where I did the same for the role of your coach. In this episode, we'll cover: How your honesty directly determines your results The common 'safety nets' that keep you stuck in the safe & familiar How to know if it's the 'right time' to hire a coach The importance of disagreeing with your coach Plus more!   Book your free clarity call here Learn more about Reveal & Rise here   Connect with Gemma daily here on instagram For more resources head to gemmahanley.com