The UnMothered Podcast

Do you ever look back at the younger you and feel sadness? Are you afraid to make changes now because it is comfortable staying in this place, even though it makes you mourn what could have been? The journey to start changing some of the habits and hurts in which you came from can be tricky. Some of those old ways are easy on some level, and changing everything around can spin your head! Don’t be afraid of change! Let’s explore what happens when you start the process of getting into a healthy place but wonder if it’s too hard or too scary with the “unknowns”. P.S. It’s okay to cry over things that didn’t work out. My book, UnMothered No More, is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

As we start the new year, I think this is an interesting topic to talk about. What kind of rooms do you want to be a part of? What is your worth? Where do you want to shine?Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about being sure to surround yourself with a few good people you can trust, and also knowing which circles to be in. It is really about knowing your worth and being confident (sometimes for the first time) and not looking for outside affirmation. This is sometimes hard when you haven’t been shown self-esteem or confidence in yourself.  I think we can agree that God is the only one who can help you feel your best as He walks with you to show you what true “self-confidence” looks like, but let's explore how we can get there on our own.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

One of my favorite shows had a great scene about generational dysfunction but this time it was a conversation between father and son. Listen in as we discuss how fathers rarely talk about their abusive history, but when they do, it can change everything!My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you bypass your emotions because it feels like you are less spiritual? Do hard emotions freak you out? Do you tend to fill that uncomfortable feeling with busyness? This episode is for you. Let’s find out why you think emotions are only to be tended to for other people, but not you. You might be surprised by some answers.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

I recently was a guest on the Counter Culture Podcast with host Tina Griffin and was able to share so much of my story! Phylis Mantelli was raised in a violent and abusive home with a mother who didn’t know how to show love or kindness. With so much trauma and pain in her past, Phylis felt lost for many years and dealt with her hurtful past in unhealthy ways - but God wasn’t finished with her story! Today, Phylis is an author and speaker, and she recounts her story of surviving her mother’s abusive behavior as a child and later, as an adult, breaking through the pain of that abuse and trauma to become a daughter who forgave her mom and recognized that God loved them both. She talks about the “body, mind, and spirit” connection in spiritual and mental health, and details the 16-year journey that led her to not only forgive her mother but also love her.🔗 CONNECT WITH COUNTER CULTURE MOMhttps://linktr.ee/CounterCultureMomMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What role do you play if you are a stepmother? Do you treat your own daughter differently, or do you include all kids together as one? After reading a post on social media about this very subject, I had to dive into this storyline. Let’s get into what a “mama mentor” really looks like.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions only to feel like a fool for not completing them? Don’t look at it as resolutions as much as intentions to move forward with the dreams you think about and don’t know where to start. Let’s break it down and also give yourself grace that not everything has to be completed this year, let’s just move the needleMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How do you show gratitude when everything is falling apart? Can you find the blessing in the midst of the storm? Digging through this tough time is where your faith grows, but it is tougher than most think. Let’s find the joy that God knows your pain and still will have good for you moving forward.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens to your own body when a loved one takes their own life? It’s a touchy subject and not one everyone can talk about to their friends. It’s still a taboo subject and one riddled with guilt and shame. Everyone wants you to move on, but your body is keeping score. It’s time to find out how to help yourself process that trauma within. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Are we too protective and private in our motherhood journey? I know for some of us, we have put up walls to protect, but what if there was a community that could come alongside you and walk with you through it all! Other countries do it; we need to take a note from their playbook.Today I am taking the advice of my oldest daughter, Ariel, and reading an eye-opening book called “Please Yell at My Kids” by Marina Lopes. If you have ever wondered if you are doing the right thing in your motherhood journey, this is a must-read! I am so happy to share these insights with you today as we explore what other cultures think about motherhood, giving birth, grandparents' roles, community, and so much more! Affiliate link to the book: https://bit.ly/4qQdcbrMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Can you become a good mom without a map? Has your dysfunctional childhood warped your parenting skills? I was asked this question as a guest on a podcast recently, and I wanted to dig through this a bit deeper because I thought it was such a great question! Lord knows I didn’t do motherhood perfectly, and I was fearful of everything, but we have to let our children fall sometimes so they can learn the lesson of how to pick themselves back up.We can become awesome (not perfect) moms in spite of how we grew up. You just need to be willing to unpack the things that were not healthy or safe and replace them with good, loving habits!🎙️I just had the opportunity to be on The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina Griffin where we discussed Forgiveness. May it help you and your family! VIEW ON VARIOUS PLATFORMSDownload the Counter Culture Mom App: https://bit.ly/landingpageCCMClick THE CCM SHOWThen select PLATFORMSApple Podcast link: bit.ly/CCMApplePodcast Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you fake your way through life? Is behavior modification a regular “go to” for you? Does it look good on the outside, but you are spiritually weak on the inside? Is it possible to learn new brain pathways AND join your brain and faith? Let’s find out.Check out the other Capo Beach sermons on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CapoBeachChurchLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens when you attract the wrong people because you are giving and kind? Well, I think the answer lies in the reason why you feel you have to be so kind all the time to everyone. Maybe you were the peacemaker in your family, or the caregiver. Now you think the only way you can get love and affirmation is to DO IT ALL! Let’s dig into the “why” of being kind at all costs.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens when there are BIG EMOTIONS surrounding the death of your toxic mother? Do you react the way you thought you would? And what do you do with these emotions once they hit? We will explore all of this in this episode, and, of course, it all stemmed from a show I was watching that involved mother-daughter dysfunction.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Should you have compassion for a mother who is hard to love? I was talking with one of my clients when she asked this question. This can be thought provoking depending on the relationship you currently have with your mom. Also, what happens when she might need more from you than you can give? Do you go to her aid? Let’s find some common ground so you don’t get burned or burned out, and she respects your boundaries for peace.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What do you do when the mother you trusted with your life, who was so supportive and loving towards you, becomes the monster in your life?I recently watched the Netflix documentary called “Unknown Caller,” and this is a tough one. In the episode, I am giving the ending away, so if you haven’t seen it yet, go watch it and then come back to listen to this episode!Let’s talk about how this documentary showed me what real emotional abuse from a mom looks like, and how we can sit, listen, and show compassion to someone else if this has happened to them. Have you seen this documentary? What did you think?Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you trust your instincts? Has your mother or someone else made you feel like your opinions don’t matter? It happens when the enemy sees your beauty and passion and wonderful calling and is trying to kill it. Don’t let him. You have to trust that God has given you the Holy Spirit that you can trust. Listen in to hear what I have to say about this.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What would you tell your younger self? Have you ever looked back at your life and said, “Well, that didn’t happen the way I planned it?”I think it’s great to have a plan of what you picture your life to be, but I would recommend learning to pivot a lot. I often tell young women and my own girls that their twenties are their crying years. Let me take you through the reality of what can happen when you take a detour down the road a bit. Don’t fret, dear one; the best is yet to come!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Where did we go when we needed a mom who was caring, attentive, and present, but what we got was completely different. Our mothers were absent, ignored us, and on some occasions, abandoned us altogether.In today’s episode, we are going to explore a real and honest question: “What did I actually need from my mother that I never received?”We get to the heart of the matter and get honest with ourselves about what we need and what we need to do now. You may have never received those things from your mom, but you can give them to yourself and bring them into your family if you work at it. Let’s discuss how.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

The kids are leaving. What happens now? Where do you go now if your whole personality has been that of a mommy to these young children?You have to let your children fly. Don’t clip their wings, or they will never know how to survive in the world without you. Make them successful for the world, not just for that momentJust remember that you've done a really good job, and they can be independent, it’s a good thing for them!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.