Raising His Kids

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses pregnancy and infant loss. Please listen with care and take a break if you need to. 💗In this episode, I’m joined by my beautiful friend Bekks for an open and honest chat about pregnancy and infant loss. Between us, we’ve experienced multiple losses, and we wanted to talk about what it’s really like to let go of the family you thought you’d have and find your way through grief.We share how those experiences changed us — as women, as mothers, and as partners — and what healing looks like years later. It’s not a heavy conversation, but a real one. We talk about the quiet ways loss shows up, the things people don’t always say out loud, and how we’ve learned to honour what could have been while still finding peace in what is.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids Facebook Group Facebook Instagram Threads Tiktok PatreonSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

It’s back to school in the U.S. and the end of spring break here in Australia — which means chaos for parents everywhere. This week, Toni and Jyl dive into what it really looks like to reset the school routine on both sides of the world. From uniforms and lunchboxes to co-parenting coordination and mental load, nothing’s off limits.Jyl shares how she became a recovered school mom, and together they unpack what’s worth stressing over — and what’s better to just let go. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about us… it’s about the kids. Follow & Support us Here:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorJyl:https://jylbarlow.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this week’s episode, I sit down with one of the podcast’s long-time listeners to talk about what it really feels like to be the homework house — the stable, consistent home that carries the weight of rules, boundaries, responsibility, and yep, all the homework.We dive into the pride, the pressure, and the emotional toll of always being the reliable one in a blended family. From setting routines to holding firm boundaries, this conversation is a reminder that while being the “safe base” isn’t easy, it matters more than we often give ourselves credit for.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

Co-parenting isn’t always smooth sailing — especially when you’re navigating high-conflict dynamics, new partners, and kids caught in the middle. In this episode, I sit down with Gabriella Pomare — family lawyer, co-parenting mum, and author of The Collaborative Co-Parent — to talk about what it really takes to create a child-focused approach after separation.We chat about her new book, co-parenting, keeping the children’s best interests at the forefront, managing expectations, and managing relationships for children with their other parents and siblings. Gabriella also answers some listener questions — you’ll just need to listen to find out!Gabriella combines her professional expertise with her own personal journey, making this conversation both practical and deeply relatable.If you’ve ever wondered how to set boundaries, keep your kids’ wellbeing front and centre, and maybe even find some hope in the chaos, this one’s for you.Follow & Support us here:Gabriella: https://thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/collaborativecoparent?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Raising His Kids:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

Ever feel like you're doing all the things — but still questioning if you're doing any of it right?In this episode, I chat with Michaela, a fellow stepmum and clinical psychologist — you might know her on social media as The Anxious Stepmom. We unpack what it’s like to navigate the ups and downs of blended family life while living with anxiety: the emotional toll of constantly second-guessing yourself, the mental load of trying to be everything to everyone, and how anxiety can quietly shape how we show up in our homes and relationships.You might notice a few jumpy moments — we had some tech glitches mid-recording — but the heart of this conversation still shines through. It’s raw, honest, and full of those “I thought it was just me” moments.If you’ve ever felt like your brain won’t slow down and your heart is carrying more than it should… this one’s for you.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorMichaelaWebsite: https://www.theanxiousstepmom.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theanxiousstepmom?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theanxiousstepmom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theanxiousstepmomSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

We pick things back up with more messy custody stories, emotionally charged depositions, school chaos — and plenty of the stuff no one talks about (or plans to talk about) when it comes to court in a blended family.It’s emotional. It’s honest. It’s a little unhinged in places.And it’s exactly the kind of chat that reminds you — you’re not the only one going through it.Some stories will make you nod along.Others might make you cringe.But either way, you’ll feel seen.Tune in as we wrap up this unfiltered two-part episode and unpack the courtroom curveballs so many of us are navigating behind the scenes of blended family life.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorKassandra:https://www.wearefamilyish.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheetLinktree: https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this episode, I’m joined by Kassandra and Kelsee — and while we set out to share our court stories and experiences with custody agreements… let’s just say, we take the scenic route getting there 🤭From heartfelt moments to unexpected tangents, this is the kind of messy, real conversation that only happens when you feel safe enough to speak your truth — even when you don’t all agree.This is part one of a multi-part chat (because we had a lot to say), and the full unedited version is already up on Patreon if you want the whole deep dive, sidetracks and all.Follow & Support Us Here:Raising His Kids https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorKassandrahttps://www.wearefamilyish.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheetLinktree: https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

What is it about sick kids that brings out the worst in co-parenting dynamics? In this episode, Jyl and I unpack the passive-aggressive texts, the missing thermometers at 2am, the drama over doctor visits, and the emotional load that so often falls on one household.We also touch on how medication decisions, puberty, and step-parent involvement all get tangled up when communication breaks down.Whether you’re navigating this as a bio parent, bonus parent, or both — you’re not alone. This episode is honest, a little chaotic, and full of those “yep, been there” moments.Follow & Support us here:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorJyl: https://jylbarlow.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this deeply honest episode, I sit down with Alex Willumsen — the voice behind Step by Step Brighton — a UK-based stepmum who supports women navigating stepfamily life, particularly those who are childless not by choice.Alex opens up about the heartbreak of infertility, the emotional toll of raising someone else’s children, and what it’s like to be seen as a “mum figure” while silently grieving the child she never had. We also talk about identity, high-conflict bio mums, and the unspoken tension between biological and childless stepmums.This episode is for any woman who’s ever questioned her role, her worth, or whether she belongs in the motherhood space.💞 One step at a time, you will find your place.Follow & Support:AlexInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/stepbystepbrightonLinktree: https://linktr.ee/stepbystepbrightonRaising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this episode of Raising His Kids, Toni is joined by Veronica Grace Andrews—stepmum of over 15 years, former stepmum support group facilitator, and author of You Can Heal Stepmom Burnout.We talk about the emotional toll of stepmotherhood, how to recognise (and recover from) burnout, and the importance of protecting your peace—especially when your role doesn’t always come with clear boundaries or recognition. Veronica also opens up about the unexpected challenges that can still show up after the kids are grown.This one’s a must-listen for any mum in a blended family who’s ever felt overwhelmed, unseen, or just plain exhausted. You’re not alone—and you deserve to feel whole again.Follow & Support: Veronicahttps://www.veronicagraceandrews.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healstepmomburnout/Threads: https://www.threads.com/@healstepmomburnout?xmt=AQF0ir10qUJuz83rLlBsCysSizuiLtwdc70qeBUd73onwGcGET THE BOOK!Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about domestic abuse and high-conflict relationships. Please take care while listening.Ever wondered what would happen if a Karen and a Regina became friends? What if two women, with a complicated history and tied to the same high-conflict co-parent, put aside the past and chose peace, respect, and family?In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Kassandra (you know her from We Are Familyish) and Kelsee—her partner in co-parenting and, yes, the ex-wife of Kassandra’s ex-husband.Together, we talk about what it really took to move from mistrust to mutual respect, from surviving to thriving. We open up about our shared experiences with domestic abuse, how we found our way out, and what healing looks like while co-parenting through the chaos.This isn’t just a story about high-conflict co-parenting—this is about growth, resilience, and choosing connection over competition. Oh, and did I mention? This episode is also full of giggles—our energy just bounces off each other.If you’re walking this blended family roller coaster, this one’s definitely for you.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorKassandra:https://www.wearefamilyish.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheetLinktree: https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this episode of Raising His Kids, I’m joined by Summer Butler—author, speaker, and family coach—who’s dedicated her life to supporting kids and families navigating the blended family roller coaster.Summer shares her heart behind her latest release, Blended: Navigating Life Between Two Homes, a workbook designed specifically for preteens navigating divorce, co-parenting, and life in two households.We talk about the emotional toll of transitions, the things kids feel but often can’t express, and how parents can better show up for their children during these changes. Summer also opens up about her own journey growing up in a divorced home, becoming a stepmum, and raising two adult stepsons and an “ours baby.”Whether you’re a bio mum, bonus mum, or somewhere in between—this conversation will leave you feeling encouraged and equipped to support your kids with more empathy, awareness, and heart.Learn more about Summer’s resources at https://www.blendedbookco.comFollow Summer on Instagram @blendedbookcoFollow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

What does healing look like when you're still stuck co-parenting with your abuser? In this raw and honest conversation, Toni sits down with Vickie Lynn — survivor, coach, and fierce advocate for mums navigating high-conflict co-parenting with narcissistic exes.Together, they explore the emotional roller coaster of trying to raise emotionally healthy children while protecting them from manipulation, smear campaigns, and trauma — all while being accused of being the “high-conflict” parent. Toni shares parts of her own story too, including the complex dynamics of raising a child who looks like your abuser, parenting as a survivor, and navigating a stepfamily full of tension and judgement.If you're a mum trying to break generational cycles, protect your kids, and still hold space for yourself — this episode is a must-listen.And for stepmums caught in the crossfire or unsure where they fit, this chat brings clarity, validation, and a fresh perspective on building bridges and setting boundaries.Follow & Support:Vickie Lynn: https://stan.store/thesurvivorcenter?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaeuzF7wcKOAf3BFFCvglMxYxQY5d_1ccZ_QJg0YM_3ulrLM0nDJoPY2H1x6Yg_aem_6byLX6TOTprPLxHka1MXGQInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_survivor_center?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this episode, Kassandra opens up about the challenges she faces as a military wife in a blended family. From managing a household alone while her husband is deployed, to navigating the complexities of parenting and step-parenting, Kassandra shares her raw and honest feelings about trying to balance it all. Tune in for a candid conversation about who really gets the final say in blended families when you're juggling multiple roles and responsibilities.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorKassandra:https://www.wearefamilyish.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheetLinktree: https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

This week, Jyl and I dive deep into the complexities of blended family life, mental health, and health struggles. I open up about my ongoing battle with chronic pain and the decision to undergo a hysterectomy, as well as how my journey with health impacts my family dynamics. I also share a raw and honest update on where things currently stand in my relationship with lil J.We explore how life often throws unexpected curveballs and how we adjust, even when things don’t go to plan. From the highs and lows of motherhood and stepmotherhood to the importance of knowing your limits, this episode is packed with personal stories, reflection, and a whole lot of real talk.Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that will leave you reflecting on your own experiences and the chaos that is life.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorJyl:https://jylbarlow.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

Toni and Jyl unpack the highs and lows of blended family life, sharing practical advice for step-parents, bio-parents, and anyone navigating the complexities of a blended home. They explore the importance of one-on-one time with kids, maintaining strong emotional connections, and coping with transitions—both in family and in life. Jyl also opens up about the challenges of marketing her book after the loss of her mum, and the emotional layers of her relationship with her stepdaughter. This episode offers heartfelt insight and inspiration for anyone juggling family, grief, and growth.Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator Jyl:https://jylbarlow.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

Easter in a blended family isn’t always sunshine, chocolate, and matching bunny ears. Sometimes it’s tears, tension, and total exhaustion.  In this solo episode, I’m sharing a voice-note-style chat straight from the heart—for anyone whose Easter felt heavy, overwhelming, or just a bit off.  We’re talking last-minute plan changes, forgotten bags, overstimulated kids, being left out of family lunches, and the emotional whiplash that comes with holidays in a blended home.  And if this year actually felt peaceful for you? I’m celebrating that too.  Take a deep breath, pop your headphones in, and let this be the little bit of validation you didn’t know you needed.Follow & Support me here:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

This week, I’m joined by Bella Duncan, the inspiring voice behind A Kid With Two Homes. Bella’s parents separated when she was just three years old, and for over 20 years she’s lived the reality of growing up between two homes. Now, with degrees in law and psychology, she uses her story to advocate for kids navigating family separation and to help co-parents truly understand the child’s perspective.In this episode, Bella shares what it was like growing up with two homes and the emotional weight of not wanting to hurt either parent. She opens up about the guilt that would creep in during everyday moments—like when a kid on the playground would ask which house she liked better—and speaks candidly about what she wishes her parents had done differently so she didn’t feel caught in the middle of their divorce.This is a powerful conversation about empathy, reflection, and doing better for the next generation of kids living in blended or separated families.🔗 Connect with Bella on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/akidwithtwohomes?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== https://linktr.ee/akidwithtwohomes?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=f0e0d38b-9cbe-4507-95b2-1f9f5f6484d6 📲 Learn more: https://www.akidwithtwohomes.com/Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

In this episode, I sit down with Carissa, the founder of Co-Parenting in Harmony, a Facebook group dedicated to helping women find peace in their co-parenting journey. Carissa is preparing to marry her fiancé and blend families with his 19-year-old twins, all while raising her 9-year-old child. We discuss the challenges of introducing a new partner to your kids, setting boundaries as a step-parent, and the emotional complexities of co-parenting with a difficult ex. Carissa shares her journey to reduce conflict in her life and helps others do the same through her support group.If you're navigating the ups and downs of co-parenting or step-parenting, this episode is for you!  📌 Check out Co-Parenting in Harmony on Facebook to connect with others seeking peace in their co-parenting relationships. https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1AAF5fdg64/Follow & Support Raising His Kids Here:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations

Blended family life isn’t always smooth sailing, and today’s guest, Erika, knows that firsthand. In this episode, she opens up about the reality of step-parenting with a high-conflict bio mum in the mix, the challenges of co-parenting, and why she chose to disengage to protect her peace.  We also talk about adding an ‘ours’ baby into the dynamic—how it shifted relationships, what she wishes she had known beforehand, and how she’s making it work.  If you’re a stepmother struggling with boundaries, co-parenting drama, or just trying to find balance in it all, this episode is for you! Follow & Support:Raising His Kids: https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbqFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7lFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3MjdlThreads: https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskidsTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&_r=1Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/raising-his-kids/donations