Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Ever feel like your kids walk straight past overflowing laundry baskets, open doors, or lights blazing—and simply don’t see it? You’re not imagining things. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share the hilarious (and slightly painful!) truth about raising kids who swear they’re “contributing”… while the adults quietly carry the load. This feel-good Friday wrap-up dives into family meetings, chore systems that actually work, and the emotional load parents carry as we crawl toward the end of the year. It’s honest, relatable, and packed with practical ideas to help your kids step up—no nagging required. KEY POINTS Why teens truly believe they’re contributing (and why parents disagree). The difference between helping when asked and true initiative. How a simple four-station chore system brought calm back to the household. The real reason parents burn out at the end of the year. Why “don’t give up” might be the most important parenting rule of all. How family meetings create clarity, connection, and accountability—even with adult kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Contribution is about initiative—eyes open, notice, and act.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Family meeting questions: What’s going well? What’s not? What do we want to focus on? eSafety Commissioner updates on minimum age for social media platforms Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold a quick family meeting—15 minutes max—with the three guiding questions. Introduce clusters instead of chores (laundry, floors, kitchen, bathrooms). Give kids longer rotations (weekly or monthly) to build mastery and responsibility. Reframe contribution as noticing—not waiting. Stay consistent: gentle reminders aren’t failure; they’re part of the process. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids are begging for e-scooters and e-bikes this Christmas—but the rise in catastrophic injuries tells a very different story. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson breaks down the shocking stats, the hidden dangers, and the conversations every parent must have before saying yes. This is the episode every parent needs to hear before heading to the checkout. KEY POINTS Emergency departments are seeing a surge in serious e-scooter injuries—many life-threatening. Speed, illegal modifications, and lack of helmets are driving the spike. Developmentally, most kids and young teens are not ready for the risks. Laws vary widely across Australia and haven’t caught up to the tech. Pros vs cons: independence vs genuinely dangerous speeds and environments. What parents can do: age limits, non-negotiable rules, and real-world consequences. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Right now we’re running a massive, uncontrolled experiment on our kids’ safety.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Local state road rules for e-bikes and e-scooters Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Delay the purchase—ideally until at least age 16. Start small: ensure your child can safely handle a standard bike/scooter first. Set iron-clad rules: helmets, no doubling, no night riding, no road riding, no phone use. Inspect regularly for illegal modifications or unsafe setups. Have the big conversation: talk openly about risks, responsibility, and real-world consequences. Use meaningful, consistent consequences when rules are broken.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we turning ordinary childhood struggles into “disorders”? In this gripping conversation with child psychiatrist Dr Sami Timimi, we unpack the rise of ADHD, autism, anxiety — and the cultural story that’s quietly reshaping how parents see their kids. If you’ve ever wondered whether your child actually needs a diagnosis or just needs more connection, this episode will hit home. Dr Timimi challenges the medicalisation of childhood, explains how labels can limit hope, and offers four powerful principles for supporting kids without pathologising them. This one will stay with you. KEY POINTS Why “normal” is a moving target — and why that matters for parents. How subjective definitions in mental health fuel overdiagnosis. The risks of labels: internalised identity, lowered expectations, and unnecessary interventions. Four parent principles: Don’t try too hard — avoid the trap of hunting for problems. Don’t fear emotions — distress is part of growing up. Prioritise relationship over behaviour control. Beware concept creep — when clinical words invade everyday parenting. What’s driving the explosion in ADHD, autism, and neurodiversity narratives. Why today’s kids may be the most pathologised generation in history. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When distress is medicalised, it steals our hope.” — Dr Sami Timimi RESOURCES MENTIONED Searching for Normal by Dr Sami Timimi Insane Medicine by Dr Sami Timimi Happy Families resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before pursuing a label — ask what your child might be expressing, not what disorder they “fit.” Create more emotional space — sit with their feelings instead of fixing them. Strengthen connection rituals — closeness buffers distress. Use everyday language — avoid clinical terms for normal childhood behaviours. Look at the environment first — school, stress, sleep, and relationships often explain what diagnoses can’t. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids have a magical way of asking the biggest questions at the most unexpected moments. In this episode, we walk you through exactly how to respond when your six-year-old suddenly wants to know how a baby gets into Mum’s tummy—without oversharing, freezing, or fumbling. You’ll learn the calm, clear, developmentally-appropriate way to keep curiosity open, connection strong, and panic levels low. KEY POINTS Why kids ask tricky questions earlier than we expect How to give truthful but minimal info that fits their age The “glass of water, not a fire hose” rule How to delay the conversation gracefully when you need time Why your response now decides if they’ll keep coming to you later Simple language you can use with a six-year-old Teaching kids that these chats belong at home—not the playground QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Answer the question your child is asking—no more, no less.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Where Do Babies Come From? by Michelle Mitchell A Girl’s Guide to Puberty – Michelle Mitchell A Guy’s Guide to Puberty – Michelle Mitchell ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Keep answers short, truthful, and developmentally-appropriate. Use correct anatomical terms without going into extra detail. If you’re unprepared, buy time: “That’s a great question—let’s talk with Mum/Dad together.” Set clear boundaries: these conversations happen at home, not with friends. Revisit the topic later as your child grows and becomes ready for more. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the secret to calmer kids, stronger families, and better mental health was free—and we’re the only country ignoring it? In this episode, Justin and Kylie make a bold case for bringing Thanksgiving to Australia… minus the turkey. Discover the neuroscience of gratitude, why it’s a proven buffer against anxiety and depression, and how one simple family ritual can transform your year. KEY POINTS The surprising research: gratitude can reduce mortality by 9% and dramatically improve mental health. How gratitude rewires the brain—calming the amygdala and boosting emotional connection. Why Australians struggle with vulnerability, ritual, and expressed appreciation. How a simple gratitude practice can shift your home from reactive to relational. Easy, meaningful ways to host “Australian Thanksgiving” without any fuss. The power of modelling gratitude for kids (and why lectures never work). QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control where we place our attention—and gratitude changes everything.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Harvard gratitude research (2024) Neuroscience findings on the ACC, medial prefrontal cortex & amygdala Kylie’s gratitude journal practice and gratitude tree idea 6 Science-Backed Benefits of Gratitude [Article] How Gratitude Can Make Your Family Happier [Podcast Article]  ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start a family ritual this week—one to three things you’re grateful for. Keep it kid-friendly: a gratitude tree, backyard dessert night, or paddle-pop party. Record your gratitude in a notebook or on your phone to revisit next year. Model vulnerability by sharing something meaningful, not just the generic stuff. Make it small, simple, and doable—the ritual matters more than the menu. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A huge week in the Coulson household — ADHD dilemmas, graduation milestones, big Roblox safety updates, and a brutally honest conversation about whether homeschooling is finally over. In this episode, we unpack the emotional load of parenting when life feels stretched thin, and why the choices we make for our kids rarely come with simple answers. KEY POINTS ADHD medications, family wellbeing, and the real question behind parental burnout Why “child problems” are often “environment problems” A major Roblox safety update parents need to know about Graduation highs, formal prep… and food poisoning A heartfelt mother–daughter conversation about going back to school How exploration conversations help kids feel heard (and make decisions they trust) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "We’ve got to stop blaming the child — most of the time it’s not a child problem, it’s an environment problem." RESOURCES MENTIONED ADHD episode (“Halloween ADHD Overdiagnosis”) Sammy Tamimi’s Searching for Normal and Naughty Boys Happy Families Podcast feedback: podcast@happyfamilies.com ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause and ask: Is this really a child issue, or is the environment overstretched? Revisit routines — sleep, movement, screens, food — before jumping to quick fixes Try an “exploration conversation” with your child when emotions are high Stay curious, not certain — especially with big decisions Monitor new Roblox age-check and chat-safety changes if gaming is in your home See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Schoolies can feel like a runaway train of risk, pressure, and “everyone else is doing it.” But your teen does have options—ones that are safer, more meaningful, and genuinely unforgettable. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share powerful ways to reframe the end-of-Year-12 celebration, build intention, and offer your teen experiences they’ll remember for all the right reasons. From once-in-a-lifetime trips to simple, joy-filled adventures closer to home, you’ll get practical, confidence-boosting ideas you can start planning at any age. KEY POINTS Why schoolies culture isn’t a rite of passage your teen needs. How intention and values help guide safer, healthier choices. Clever alternatives that still feel exciting, independent, and celebratory. Trips with parents, extended family, or friend groups that build connection — not chaos. Affordable options, big-dream options, and ways to start planning years ahead. How to talk to kids about celebrations while honouring freedom and safety. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “High school is done — that is worth celebrating. But celebration doesn’t have to mean chaos. It can be meaningful, memorable, and still full of freedom.” RESOURCES MENTIONED 5 Essential Conversations to Have With Your Teen Before Schoolies [Article] Get Set for Schoolies withPaul Dillon [Podcast Episode]  Community & church-run schoolies alternatives Family traditions like “Sweet Sixteen Trips” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start the conversation early — schoolies ideas form long before Year 12. Ask your teen what they want from an end-of-school celebration (freedom? adventure? connection?). Brainstorm alternatives that align with your family values and your teen’s personality. If planning a bigger trip, start saving as a team — years ahead if possible. Explore friend-group or community-group options to add excitement, safety, and shared memories. Remind your teen that opting out of schoolies isn’t missing out — it can be levelling up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your tween or teen feels stuck, scared of failure, or glued to their screen, this episode will change everything. Education innovator Chris Balme reveals why adolescence is the second great brain-growth window — and why kids today desperately need more real-world challenges, not more protection. A powerful, hopeful conversation about autonomy, resilience, and helping young people feel big, brave, and capable again. KEY POINTS Why ages 11–16 are a critical “second toddlerhood” of brain growth How autonomy builds confidence (and why modern kids get too little) The danger of overprotection and structured everything What a good challenge looks like vs. a stress-inducing one How to help risk-averse teens stretch themselves — without forcing Why peers, not parents, are the secret to motivation Real examples of challenges that transformed kids QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When we don’t trust our adolescents, they stop trusting us.” — Chris Balme RESOURCES MENTIONED Challenge Accepted by Chris Balme Argonaut: Online advisory program for middle schoolers Millennium School + Hakuba International School ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Fuel autonomy: Let your tween choose a meaningful challenge this week. Enlist peers: Hook them in through a friend, not parental pressure. Normalise failure: Remind them adolescence is the best time to mess up safely. Reduce overprotection: Give back small freedoms — walking, biking, exploring. Model vulnerability: Share your own unfinished, imperfect self. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your eight-year-old won’t walk into another room without you, this episode will change everything. Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on beneath “irrational” childhood fears—and why pushing independence backfires. Instead, you’ll hear the science of secure attachment, relatable stories, and simple steps that make your child braver because you’ve got their back. KEY POINTS Your child’s fear isn’t irrational—it’s real to them. Why forcing independence increases fear and dependence. Resilience is relational: kids become brave when they feel safe. How modelling your own fears helps kids face theirs. Four practical, developmentally sound ideas to reduce anxiety and build confidence. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Force creates resistance. The more we push independence, the more our kids cling.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Go with them—compassion beats coercion. Skip the praise for doing things alone; it creates pressure. Trust development—he’ll grow into independence naturally. Stay curious—watch for any underlying stressors or changes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We watched YouTube Kids for a week — and what we discovered will make you rethink what “family-friendly” really means. From brain-rotting toy ads to troubling messages about body image, Justin and Kylie pull back the curtain on the world’s biggest kids’ platform. They share what’s really happening behind the glossy PR and how parents can protect their children’s developing minds without banning screens altogether. KEY POINTS: Why YouTube Kids isn’t as “safe” as it claims to be The shocking example of a video promoting unhealthy body messages to young viewers How YouTube’s algorithm traps kids in endless loops of commercialised “slop” The staggering amount of time humanity spends watching YouTube — and what that means for our kids What intentional viewing looks like (and how to teach it) Why ABC Kids is still the gold standard for healthy, enriching screen time QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Every single day, over 114,000 years of content is consumed on YouTube. That’s not just a statistic — that’s a snapshot of our children’s attention.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Sunday Times article by Stephanie Thompson on YouTube Kids ABC Kids App (recommended for quality, curated viewing) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Sit down and watch what your child is actually watching — even for 10 minutes. Switch from passive viewing to intentional viewing: search for specific, quality content together. Use ABC Kids or pre-approved playlists instead of relying on algorithmic recommendations. Have a conversation about how YouTube makes money — and why that matters. Set screen time limits that prioritise creativity and real-world play. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever had one of those parenting days — where you lose your cool, say the wrong thing, and immediately wish for a do-over? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson get real about what happens when we mess up, why rupture can lead to repair, and how connection - not perfection - is what truly builds a happy family. From teenage meltdowns to dinner duty disasters, the Coulsons share honest lessons on letting go, apologising, and finding calm after chaos. KEY POINTS Delegating family responsibilities isn’t always smooth — but it’s worth persisting. Why “getting it wrong” can be the doorway to deeper connection. Repairing ruptures teaches kids accountability, empathy, and love in action. The magic of family moments that start messy but end meaningful. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You don’t know everything as a parent — but if you’re lucky, your kids will show you what really matters: the relationship.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode #1481 'When Every Night Is a Meltdown' HappyFamilies.com.au for parenting tools and insights ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before reacting. Step away and breathe before addressing your child’s behaviour. Own your mistakes. Model humility by admitting when you got it wrong. Repair the rupture. Circle back for a calm conversation and reconnection. Share responsibility. Let kids take part in family life — even if it’s messy at first. Celebrate small wins. Connection grows in the moments you choose grace over perfection. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every generation believes “kids these days” are going downhill — ruder, lazier, less capable. But new research says we’ve been wrong for over 2,000 years. In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack why we keep blaming young people, the psychology behind the “decline” myth, and how it’s hurting our kids more than helping. This one will make you rethink how you see today’s youth — and maybe even yourself. KEY POINTS Why every generation thinks the next one is “worse” — and why they’re wrong The two psychological traps that make adults unfairly judge kids How nostalgia and selective memory distort our view of the past What the data actually says about modern kids (it’s not what you think) Why criticising “kids these days” says more about adults than children How negative stereotypes harm young people — and how to stop it QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “The complaints reveal more about us than about the kids.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Study: Why the youth of today seem lacking — John Protzko & Jonathan Schooler, Science Advances The Go-Between by L.P. Hartley ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Catch your nostalgia: When you find yourself saying “back in my day,” pause and question it. Look for strengths: Notice what today’s young people are doing right — and tell them. Model respect: Show the behaviour you want to see, across all generations. Stay curious: Ask your kids what the world looks like from their eyes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The One Lesson Every Dad of Daughters Must Learn 270 men. One powerful story. When Kylie Coulson stood before a room full of dads at the “Fathers of Only Girls” charity lunch, she didn’t give them a parenting lecture — she shared something far more raw and real. This episode is that talk: a deeply moving reminder that the best way to raise strong, emotionally secure daughters begins with one simple act — how you love their mum. KEY POINTS Why emotional safety at home starts with your relationship, not your parenting. The real reason your daughter’s future relationships mirror yours. What happens when we stop trying to fix and start listening. How to model love, grace, and security — even when life feels heavy. The single sentence that could redefine fatherhood. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes the most effective parenting we’ll ever do has nothing to do with our children — and everything to do with the person we choose to be.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Fathers of Only Girls (FOOGS) charity happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Hold space for your partner — without fixing or judging. Show your daughter what love looks like in real life. Remember: how you treat her mother is how she’ll learn to love herself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The social media age ban is coming - and parents everywhere are freaking out. But here’s the truth: this isn’t the end of your child’s world. It’s a chance to reshape it. Justin and Kylie share five practical ways to help your teen navigate life beyond the screen - from rebuilding real-world friendships to resetting your family’s digital habits. KEY POINTS: Why banning social media isn’t enough — and what families can do instead How to start calm, open conversations with your teen about the changes The surprising benefits of going “old school” (yes, landlines are back!) Why parents need to reconnect with their kids’ social circles The power of modelling healthy tech boundaries as adults QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “If all we do is say ‘you can’t have this thing,’ something else will fill the void.” — Dr. Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr. Justin Coulson The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Pediatric Research, July 2025: “Navigating Youth, Smartphones, and Policy” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start the conversation early - ask how your teen feels about the change. Help them reconnect offline: swap phone numbers, plan hangouts, build community. Fade out (or cut off) social media together - in solidarity. Model it. Set your own tech boundaries. Make it positive - this is an opportunity, not a punishment. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re raising a generation surrounded by noise, opinions, and algorithms — but how do we teach kids to actually think for themselves? Dr Justin Coulson talks with headmaster and author Michael Parker about helping children (and ourselves) escape echo chambers, stretch attention spans, and develop true independent thought in the age of AI and endless scrolling. KEY POINTS: Why attention span is the #1 obstacle to deep thinking How social media and “influencer logic” shape young minds The surprising role of boredom and debate in critical thinking Practical ways to nurture reflection and focus at home Why AI might help—or hurt—our children’s ability to think independently QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“Stop listening to the loudest and most extreme voices. Start thinking for yourself.” — Michael Parker RESOURCES MENTIONED: Thinking for Yourself by Michael Parker and Fiona Morrison More parenting insights at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Stretch your child’s attention span with longer, screen-free activities. Encourage respectful debates and devil’s advocate questions at home. Expose your family to multiple perspectives—especially those you disagree with. Model reflective thinking out loud when you make decisions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When life forces you to slow down, sometimes that’s exactly what your family needs. In this raw, real “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow,” Justin and Kylie share how a tough week - complete with surgery, surf trips, and kids cooking dinner - led to surprising moments of growth and gratitude. It’s a gentle reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind. KEY POINTS Why stepping back can strengthen your family The hidden power of sharing the load Teaching kids responsibility through real contribution The mindset shift that turns “I can’t” into “We can” QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes it’s okay to lay flat on your back and let somebody else carry the load. They usually can—and the world won’t fall apart.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Minted Kids podcast with Nicole Peterson McKinnon Boys by Dr Justin Coulson (coming 2026) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let someone else lead for a day. Involve kids in cooking or chores—real, meaningful help. Reflect: where can you slow down before the season speeds up? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A 13-year Australian study has just dropped — and its findings are shaking the medical world. Children on ADHD medication reported lower quality of life than those who weren’t medicated. In this eye-opening episode, Justin unpacks why the “gold standard” research behind ADHD treatment might have been flawed all along — and what this means for families trying to do what’s best for their kids. This one might make you rethink everything you’ve been told.  KEY POINTS The shocking new Deakin University study on ADHD medication and child wellbeing. Why “the gold standard” MTA study may have misled the world for decades. How peer review can fail — and how Big Pharma shapes the story. What long-term follow-ups reveal about medication outcomes. Why your child isn’t the problem — and what really needs to change instead. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Your child doesn’t have a problem. Thinking your child is the problem is often the bigger problem.” RESOURCES MENTIONED MTA Study (Multimodal Treatment of ADHD) and 3-year follow-up research. Deakin University longitudinal study on ADHD medication and quality of life. The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson. Parenting ADHD [The Course] + Course FAQs [Article] Help for the Parent with ADHD ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Don’t make changes overnight — start by reading the linked studies. Talk to your child’s GP, psychologist, or psychiatrist about alternative supports. Focus on your child’s environment, not just their behaviour. Trust your gut — if something doesn’t feel right, it’s worth exploring. Remember: grace for your child, yourself, and your professionals. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve been told that “good” parents never take their eyes off their kids — but what if that’s the very thing making childhood (and parenting) harder? In this fascinating chat, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with Lenore Skenazy — New York Times bestselling author of Free Range Kids and co-founder of Let Grow — whose viral act of letting her 9-year-old ride the NYC subway alone sparked a global movement. Fresh from her TED Talk, Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids, Lenore dismantles the “terrible lie” that children can’t handle life on their own — and reveals why the best learning, confidence, and resilience often happen when parents step back. KEY POINTS The fear-driven parenting trap — and how media and culture made “unsupervised” a dirty word. The myth of “better safe than sorry” and why it’s hurting our kids. How independence builds competence (and true confidence). What happens in a child’s brain when they solve problems without adult help. The staggering truth about “stranger danger” and why it’s wildly overblown. How to make it normal again to just open the door and let kids play. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Independence leads to competence — and competence leads to confidence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Lenore Skenazy’s TED Talk: Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy— New York Times bestseller Let Grow nonprofit: letgrow.org Range by David Epstein ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Open the door. Let your child play or walk somewhere safely on their own. Resist the rescue. When your child faces a small problem, pause before stepping in. Swap “be safe” for “trust yourself.” Let your language build courage, not fear. Talk about freedom. Ask your kids what independence means to them — and listen. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Choosing the right care for your little one can feel like walking a tightrope — guilt on one side, exhaustion on the other. In this heartfelt Q&A, Justin and Kylie unpack the real differences between daycare, early learning centres, and family daycare — and what matters most when your child has big emotions or struggles with separation. Whether you’re expecting another baby or just trying to do what’s best, this episode helps you breathe easier and make a choice that feels right for your family. KEY POINTS The real difference between daycare and ELC (and why the labels don’t matter as much as you think). What to look for on your childcare tour: staff ratios, turnover, and outdoor play. Why sometimes not enrolling can be the best choice. How to support a deeply feeling child who struggles with separation. The “choose your hard” mindset — and how it changes everything. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Parenting is hard either way — we just have to choose the kind of hard we’re willing to live with.” RESOURCES MENTIONED What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson Episode #920 Minimising Daycare Drama ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Reflect on why you’re choosing care — not just whether to. When touring, focus less on the shiny buildings and more on the people. Prepare your child for separation with empathy, connection, and practice. Give yourself permission to pick the path that best supports your family’s season. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If every evening feels like emotional warfare, you’re not alone. Exhausted, desperate, and out of ideas? In this episode, Justin and Kylie share three powerful ways to turn chaotic, tear-filled nights into calm, connected moments — so bedtime stops being a battle and starts feeling peaceful again. KEY POINTS The three pillars for calmer nights: routine, environment, and presence Why predictability helps kids feel safe (and parents feel sane) The surprising power of dim lights, soft music, and storytime What your kids are really asking for when they “stall” bedtime Simple, loving ways to reconnect — even when you’re out of patience QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “They just want to feel safe and secure and know that they’re loved — that’s the game.” RESOURCES MENTIONED What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson More resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Create a predictable nightly rhythm — same order, same cues. Ditch screens an hour before bed and dim the lights. Be present, not perfect — a calm hug goes further than any rule. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.