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In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, we unpack the difference between being vs. doing—and why most men are praised for achievement, performance, and success instead of who they truly are. Travis explores how this performance-based identity can lead to shame, loneliness, and disconnection, and shares research (including Brene Brown) plus real coaching insights to show why affirming character and core values builds stronger confidence and connection.   What You'll Learn: - Being vs. Doing: Why most men are praised for achievements instead of character - Performance-Based Identity: How tying self-worth to success leads to shame, loneliness, and burnout - Masculinity & Mental Health: Research on traditional masculinity norms and their impact on connection - Affirmations That Matter: Why affirming compassion, resilience, and courage builds lasting confidence - Practical Challenge: Write & share three affirmations about who you are—and three for people you love - Real-Life Stories & Research: Insights from Brene Brown, Therese Norden, and coaching work with men   Challenge for the Week: Write three affirmations you'd love someone to say about your character—and share three affirmations with people close to you. Notice how it shifts your connection. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, & YouTube or visit menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] to go deeper. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/]

In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman, LMFT, sits down with Dr. Brendan Hartman to explore the unspoken rules of masculinity that shape men's lives—and how to finally break free. From peer group pressure to self-policing behaviors, Brendan reveals how many men unknowingly stay trapped in invisible "cages" of outdated masculine norms, limiting emotional expression, vulnerability, and authentic confidence. Together, Travis and Brendan unpack: * Why peer groups influence masculinity more than fathers or media * How self-policing keeps men stuck in silence, shame, and isolation * The contradictions men feel between their true self and the version society expects * Why emotional vulnerability is actually a strength, not a weakness * Practical steps to redefine masculinity, open the "cage door," and live with more authenticity This episode challenges outdated scripts of what it means to "be a man" and invites you to consider: Where in your life are you silently policing yourself? What would it look like to show up as your true self instead? If you've ever felt stuck, disconnected, or trapped by expectations—you're not alone. Join the conversation and take the first step toward authentic masculinity, purpose, and connection. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, & YouTube or visit menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] to go deeper. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/]WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A]Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/]Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/]

In this special in-person episode, Travis Goodman and Pierre Azzam sit down for a raw, honest conversation about purpose—what it really means, why it's so easy to feel disconnected from it, and how community plays a crucial role in helping men discover it. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to find clarity around purpose in today's world—and how trying to do it alone often leads to burnout, confusion, or isolation. Drawing from Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning and their own work with men, Travis and Pierre emphasize that purpose isn't just a personal quest—it's relational. Real meaning is forged in connection, service, and shared values. You'll also hear a breakdown of the 5 Ps of Purpose—a practical framework we use in The Men's Collective to help men move from abstract goals to grounded daily action. Key takeaways: * Why clarity of purpose often requires community, not just introspection * How ego and isolation get in the way of meaningful progress * What the 5 Ps of Purpose are and how they guide men toward real momentum Where are you searching for purpose alone—and what might open up if you invited another man into the conversation? 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, & YouTube or visit menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] to go deeper. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

This week, Travis and Pierre sit down with Jon, author of Punishment-Free Parenting, to explore what it means to lead with empathy—not control—as a father, partner, and man. Jon shares honest stories from his own fatherhood journey and dives into how neuroscience, curiosity, and compassion can help men raise resilient kids without shame or punishment. Together, they challenge outdated models of masculinity and offer practical tools for parenting and personal growth. Key Highlights: * How your experience as a son shapes how you show up as a father * Why punishment fails—and what real connection looks like instead * The power of curiosity and modeling over control or fear Challenge: Reflect on one lesson from your upbringing you want to break—or carry forward. Where can you lead with curiosity instead of control? 📖 Book Giveaway: Leave a review & send a screenshot to info@menscollective.co to enter. This episode isn't just for dads. It's for any man ready to rewrite the story—and raise the next generation with strength and heart. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, & YouTube or visit menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] to go deeper. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

Why is asking for help so hard for men? In this episode, Travis Goodman and co-founder Pierre Azzam unpack the real reasons men hesitate to seek support—fear of judgment, shame, not wanting to be a burden—and how these beliefs keep men stuck and disconnected. They explore what real support looks like (hint: it's not just giving advice), how to build trust in male relationships, and why presence—not fixing—is often the most powerful thing you can offer or receive. Key Takeaways: Why support doesn't equal weakness The myth of being a burden How to ask for what you actually need Practical ways to create safe, connected brotherhood Challenge: What kind of support do you actually want—advice, witnessing, or presence? Take the risk this week: name it and share it with someone you trust. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, & YouTube or visit menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] to go deeper. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

In the final episode of the "5 Ps of Purpose" series, Travis and Pierre explore Power—not as dominance or bravado, but as grounded, authentic confidence rooted in values, emotional awareness, and connection. They unpack what it means to lead with strength that's integrated, not performative—and how true power emerges when men support one another, own their stories, and redefine masculinity on their own terms. Highlights: Power as emotional awareness and embodied confidence Why connection—not competition—builds lasting strength Letting go of external validation to live with intention Challenge: Where are you still measuring power by someone else's standards? This week, reflect on your authentic strengths—and name one in another man too. 🎧 Listen now + learn more at menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

This week, Travis and Pierre dive into the fourth "P" of purpose: Presence—the core skill every man needs to stop reacting and start responding with intention. They break down what presence really means—beyond buzzwords—and share practical, research-backed tools from polyvagal theory to help men regulate their nervous systems, stay grounded, and live with clarity. Why Presence Matters: Presence isn't just being "in the moment"—it's your ability to check in, know what you feel, and respond with purpose, not impulse. It's how you stay aligned with your values in real life—under pressure, in conflict, or when life feels heavy. Key Takeaways: * Presence = Nervous System Awareness Learn how to recognize when you're calm, triggered, or disconnected—and what to do about it. * Pause Before You React Master the "power of the pause" to break free from anger, shame, or numbing cycles. * Emotions Are Strength Emotional presence is courageous. Use emotions as signals—not something to hide. Challenge: Pause. Check in. What state are you in? What do you really need right now? Notice how presence changes your response—and your life. 🎧 Listen now and join the journey at menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman and Dr. Pierre Azzam explore the third pillar of the Five P's Framework—Principles. What are the values that truly define you? How do you stay grounded in them when life gets chaotic? This conversation is all about helping men identify, define, and embody their core values—the personal compass that guides your choices, shapes your identity, and builds your legacy. Here's what you'll hear: * How to reflect on the values that matter most to you. * How to recognize when you're out of sync with your principles—and what to do about it. * What it takes to commit to your values, even when life pushes you off course. Travis and Pierre share practical insights, real-life experiences, and tools to help you live a values-driven life. They explore how aligning with your principles can move you from feeling stuck or lost to living with purpose, motivation, and clarity. Key Highlights: * Principles as Your Compass: Your values aren't just ideals—they're your anchor in uncertainty. * When You're Out of Sync: The cost of ignoring your principles, and how to reconnect. * Resilience Through Values: How having a clear "why" helps you navigate adversity. What are you willing to sacrifice comfort for? * What values are worth fighting for, even when things get tough? * Where in your life might you be out of alignment—and what small step can you take to realign? If you're ready to explore your purpose and connect with a brotherhood of men doing the same, visit menscollective.co [https://menscollective.co/] to join the community. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, Travis and Pierre delve into the concept of "programming" and its influence on masculinity and self-doubt. Building on the previous episode's discussion about perspective, the conversation in this episode centers around the narratives men hold about themselves and their roles, exploring how these perceptions contribute to self-doubt and affect personal growth. 1. Intertwined Narratives: The discussion highlights how masculinity and self-doubt are deeply intertwined, creating a powerful narrative that impacts many men's lives. These narratives influence not only how men perceive their adequacy but also how they seek validation and belonging. 2. Redefining Masculinity: Pierre and Travis invite listeners to redefine masculinity based on personal experiences and values, rather than societal expectations. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating a tailored definition of mature masculinity that fosters belonging and community among men. 3. Importance of Conversation: Bringing conversations about masculinity out of hiding and removing shame is crucial. This episode stresses the need to establish a roadmap for mature, healthy masculinity by presenting a framework that's inclusive and accommodating of diverse experiences and backgrounds. Reflect on your own perceptions of masculinity. How do these perceptions influence your self-doubt and limiting beliefs? Take a moment to consider how you can redefine these narratives to align with your personal values and aspirations.  Join the Men's Collective to share your journey and become part of a supportive community that empowers men to rewrite their stories.  Visit menscollective.co [https://www.menscollective.co/] for more information. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

In this episode, we dive into the first pillar of the Men's Collective's five pillars of purpose: Perspective. Pierre and Travis engage in a deep discussion about what perspective means and why it's the indispensable starting point for personal growth and true fulfillment beyond traditional measures of success. Understanding perspective is crucial because it offers a lens through which men can reassess their life's trajectory and redefine success from personal fulfillment rather than societal expectations. This redefined view serves as a catalyst for deeper connections with oneself and others, fostering authentic interactions that transcend superficial achievements. Highlights 1. The Fulfillment vs. Success Dichotomy: Pierre and Travis explore the difference between traditional success markers like financial achievements or credentials and true fulfillment. They discuss the importance of understanding life stories and experiences to pave the way for a meaningful future. 2. Zooming Out for Deeper Insight: The discussion emphasizes the value of stepping back to take a broader look at one's goals and achievements. By doing so, men can better align their daily lives with what genuinely fulfills them, beyond material accomplishments. 3. Connection over Competition: The episode highlights the powerful shift from competition to camaraderie among men when they let go of accolades and truly connect on the basis of humanity and shared experience. It underscores the creation of a supportive community where authenticity and genuine relationships thrive. As you reflect on this episode, consider this: How are you currently defining success in your life, and is it bringing you true fulfillment? Take a moment to zoom out and reassess. Identify one area where your perception of success might be more aligned with societal expectations than personal fulfillment, and consider what changes could help you feel more fulfilled and authentically connected to yourself and others. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

In this inaugural episode of The Men's Collective podcast, Travis Goodman and Pierre Azzam share the transformative journey and vision of the Men's Collective, a space dedicated to men's development and authentic connection. They delve into the evolution of the podcast and the community from its previous iterations and discuss the significance of stepping into this new endeavor together. This episode sets the stage for the program's mission to help men show up with authenticity and purpose in their lives. Keypoints: 1. Evolution of the Podcast: Travis shares the progression of the podcast from "The Integrated Man Project" to "The Men's Collective," emphasizing this shift as a response to growth and the need for more interconnected engagement among men. 2. The Heartbeat of the Men's Collective: Pierre and Travis discuss how the Men's Collective is about creating a community that encourages vulnerability, accountability, and a departure from the lone wolf mentality. They emphasize the importance of building connections that are genuinely supportive and transformative for men. 3. Core Values and Orientation: The focus on authenticity and the expansion beyond self is discussed as key elements of the Collective. Travis highlights the integration of scientific approaches such as the polyvagal theory into this work, aiming for a holistic approach to men's development. Reflect on areas in your life where you show up inauthentically or feel pressured to perform. What steps can you take today to begin embracing vulnerability and authenticity in those areas? Consider how joining a community of supportive men like the Men's Collective could help you in this journey. What small action could you take to connect more deeply with others in your life or community this week? JOIN THE COLLECTIVE: JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO [https://www.instagram.com/menscollective.co/] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=yK3kD7N9PJHvxvHQ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft [https://www.instagram.com/travis.goodman.lmft/] Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/] Connect and Support Pierre: Instagram: Braver.Man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man/] Web: BraverManCoaching.com [https://bravermancoaching.com/]

In this episode of "The Integrated Man Project," host Travis Goodman sits down with Aaron Hokanson, the founder of Selfhoot. The discussion delves deep into how creativity, mental health, and community impact intersect through Aaron's unique brand. Selfhoot is not just about selling products; it's about sparking essential conversations around mental wellness and normalizing the importance of mental health for men. Aaron Hokanson is the founder of Selfhoot [https://www.selfhoot.com/], a brand committed to spreading positivity, self-love, and mental health awareness. Through thoughtfully designed products like wearable affirmations, Aaron aims to inspire meaningful conversations and encourage people to embrace their mental health journey with courage and compassion. Key Points and Highlights: 1. The Genesis of Selfhoot: Aaron shares his personal struggles with anxiety, depression, and self-doubt, and how hiring a life coach led him to start Selfhoot. He discusses the transformative power of coaching and how it helped him set boundaries and build emotional stability. 2. The Message Behind Selfhoot: The brand's mission extends beyond selling products; it's about creating wearable affirmations to help people feel seen, validated, and not alone. Aaron's favorite message, "It's okay to not be okay," speaks to the importance of acknowledging one's emotional state without shame. 3. Future Vision for Selfhoot: Aaron envisions significant growth for Selfhoot in 2025, hoping to normalize conversations around mental health and build a community that supports emotional well-being. He emphasizes that improving one's mental health is a constant journey, not a destination. Reflect on your own mental health journey. Have you been hesitating to seek help or speak about your struggles? Take a small but impactful step today—reach out to a life coach or therapist. Remember, it's okay to not be okay, and you don't have to do this alone.  Share your thoughts or actions on this with us by tagging @shop.selfhoot [https://www.instagram.com/shop.selfhoot/] on Instagram, and join the conversation to help break the stigma surrounding men's mental health. JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=dZ4Ff32VZP8B_THT] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com [https://www.travisgoodmanlmft.com/]

The holiday season is right around the corner, and with it often comes a whirlwind of activity, expectations, and sometimes, a fair bit of stress. But worry not – we're here to help you navigate this festive period with ease and purpose. In our latest episode of The Integrated Man Project, host Travis shares 3 invaluable tips that every dad (and parent) can benefit from. Here's a quick rundown of what we covered: 1. Be Present, Not Perfect The holidays are about connection, not perfection. Whether it's playing a game with your kids, sharing a laugh, or enjoying a family meal together, being present makes all the difference. Your family will remember these moments of joy and togetherness far more than they'll remember the perfect gift or a perfectly set table. 2. Stay Regulated We know the holiday season can bring about a range of emotions and stressors. Whether it's work-related stress, family pressures, or societal expectations, the key is to remain grounded. Simple daily practices like breathwork, meditation, or a morning routine can help. When you're regulated, you set a calm and composed example for your kids and create a more harmonious environment at home. 3. Set the Tone You have the power to set the tone for your family's holiday experience. Approach this season with a spirit of joy, gratitude, and lightheartedness. Remember, your energy and mood can influence everyone around you, particularly your children. Ask yourself daily: What tone am I setting today? For more in-depth insights and advice, make sure to listen to the full episode. It's packed with practical tips that you can start implementing right away. 📅 Don't Forget! We're also gearing up for our next 8-week Men's Peak Performance Cohort starting the week of January 13th. If you're interested in joining or know someone who might benefit, check out the details here. It's a fantastic opportunity to kick off the new year with purpose, meaning, and direction. Wishing you and your family a joyful and stress-free holiday season! Stay Integrated, Travis Goodman Host, The Integrated Man Project JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZl0MZxvhTur__jbhXaDrhaYiETYL2_rq&si=dZ4Ff32VZP8B_THT] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

Welcome to this episode of The Integrated Man Project, where we delve into a cornerstone of living a purposeful life: identifying and aligning with your core values. Today, we're exploring the bedrock that shapes your decisions, actions, and your legacy as a man. In this week's episode, I'll be helping you examine your core values and priorities. These are not just ideals but your inner compass guiding you through life's trials and triumphs. We'll explore why defining these values is critical, how to identify them, and the tangible benefits of living in alignment with them. Show Key Points and Highlights: 1. Understanding Misalignment: I discuss how living out of sync with your values can lead to feelings of directionlessness, hopelessness, and burnout. Recognizing these emotional cues is the first step towards realignment. 2. Identifying Core Values: We walk through an exercise of whittling down a broad list of values to your top ten, then further narrowing them down to your core five. Questions like "What am I willing to sacrifice comfort for?" help refine these choices. 3. Actionable Steps: Once your core values are identified, it's crucial to integrate them into daily life. This involves setting clear, manageable action steps for each value, ensuring practical and continuous application. Where are you currently out of sync with your values, and what's causing the disconnect? This week, I challenge you to identify one core value you want to realign with—and create three actionable steps you can take to honor that value in your daily life.  Share your journey and insights by emailing me at integratedmanproject@gmail.com or on our social media channels. Start your journey today. Reclaim your purpose. Reignite your life. Until next week, stay integrated. JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: [https://www.menscollective.co/] CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtu.be/MzxhePxICJ8?si=LiEvDDqjSrczvSRN] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

Welcome to this week's episode of The Integrated Man Project! After a brief hiatus, I am back with exciting updates and an engaging discussion addressing the often-overlooked topic of mental load carried by men.  In today's episode, we will explore the mental and emotional responsibilities that fathers and husbands navigate daily, drawing parallels to the well-documented mental load often shouldered by mothers. We delve into the invisible burden of tracking, planning, and managing family and household tasks and highlights the importance of compassion, curiosity, and active engagement in sharing these duties.  Show Keypoints and Highlights: 1. Announcement of Changes: Starting January 2025, Travis will be opening two more days in his therapy and coaching practice. This means more opportunities for one-on-one sessions and men's groups. 2. Shift in Podcast Format: Travis plans to incorporate more bite-sized, 10-15 minute episodes focusing on personal experiences, professional insights, and common themes from his practice. Interviews will still happen but less frequently. 3. Understanding the Mental Load: Travis delves into the invisible mental load carried by men, offering a nuanced view that emphasizes teamwork, compassion, and a shared responsibility between partners. He encourages men to get more involved in the emotional and logistical aspects of family life. Challenge Question: How can you start a conversation with your partner this week about the invisible mental load they are carrying, and what can you do to actively share that burden? That's it for this week's episode. I'm really looking forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences on this crucial topic. Don't forget to subscribe and join the mailing list for updates on all the exciting changes coming up. Until next time, take care and step up for your family. JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE [https://www.menscollective.co/] SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtu.be/mY7DHugTLW8?si=TO7rg84wvZkWyoba] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

📅 Upcoming Event: 🚀 Announcing the eight-week men's cohort starting on October 28th, hosted by Travis and Pierre @braver.man [https://www.instagram.com/braver.man]. If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or in need of community, this group is for you! 💬 Connect with like-minded men, learn stress management, and build meaningful relationships. Join the journey to becoming an integrated man. JOIN THE COHORT HERE! [https://braverman.mykajabi.com/store] 🎂 Episode Title: So This Is 40 🎂 Join us in this special episode where our host, Travis Goodman (@integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/]), reflects on turning 40 and shares his incredible, deeply personal journey. Joined by his buddy Sam Powers (@swamipowers [https://www.instagram.com/swamipowers]), this episode dives into the challenges, growth, and wisdom that come with reaching this milestone. ✨ Highlights: * 🌟 Travis's therapy journey from his early 20s, exploring emotions like anger, sadness, grief, and feelings of inadequacy. * 🧘‍♂️ The importance of stillness and self-reflection in modern life. * 💪 Balancing parenthood and self-care, with humorous stories about early-rising kids and sleepless nights. * 🎸 Bonding over music, from nostalgic albums to live concerts. * 📚 Book recommendations to guide you through life's meaningful moments. 🔍 Important Themes: * Authentic Relationships:Building deeper connections over societal metrics of success. * Personal Growth:Embracing therapy, self-awareness, and continuous improvement. * Life Transitions:The importance of adaptability and achieving personal fulfillment, regardless of age. We'd love to hear your thoughts! Drop an email to integratedmanproject@gmail.com share your own experiences with turning 40.  #Podcast #MentalHealth #Turning40 #SelfCare #PersonalGrowth #TheIntegratedManProject #MenSupportingMen #TherapyJourney #LifeReflections #PodcastLive #MusicAndMemories #FamilyFirst #Adulting 🔔 Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more heartfelt conversations and insights from The Integrated Man Project! 📆 Tune in and level up your journey to becoming an integrated man. 🚀 Thank you for all the support!  SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://www.youtube.com/live/v8V29RKyNkM?si=iP-3x1EjsWDlGrBZ] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

Welcome to another insightful episode of The Integrated Man Project with your host, Travis Goodman. Today, we delve deep into the world of mental health with our special guest, Greg VanDyne, a former Green Beret medic turned mental health advocate and med-tech professional. Greg shares his profound journey of transitioning out of the military, facing the stigma around mental health, and the challenging but transformative path of seeking therapy. In this episode, Travis and Greg discuss the fear of rejection, the importance of a supportive environment, and the emotional burdens men often carry in silence. They explore the idea of normalizing conversations about mental health from a young age, the impact of social media, and the benefits of teaching emotional intelligence. Greg also shares his experiences with different therapy modalities like EMDR and his pursuit of TMS treatment. HIGHLIGHTS: 1. The Struggle of Opening Up: Greg shares his personal journey from recognizing the need for help to overcoming the fear of rejection and worthlessness that initially prevented him from seeking therapy. He discusses the impact of societal pressure on men to suppress vulnerable emotions and how it affects mental health. 2. Significance of a Supportive Environment: Both Greg and I delve into the importance of having a supportive environment, whether in therapy or personal life, and how it significantly impacts mental health and the healing process. We draw parallels between the supportive nature of a military team and the need for such support when tackling personal struggles. 3. Finding the Right Therapist: We entertain the idea of a "speed dating app for therapists" to make it easier for individuals to find the right fit for their therapeutic needs. Greg's candid recounting of his initial disappointments and eventual success in finding a therapist who could understand and help him highlights the importance of persistence in the therapeutic journey. Challenge Question: How can we as a society break down the stigma surrounding men seeking help for their mental health, and what steps can we take to normalize these conversations from a young age? SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtu.be/tx7iK29-NQ0?si=kay7bqIWKf3YGtlP] Connect and Support Greg: LinkedIn: Greg VanDyne [https://www.linkedin.com/in/greg-vandyne/] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

Welcome back to The Integrated Man Project! In today's episode, we dive into an incredible journey of self-discovery and musical memories with our returning guest, Sam Powers. We'll revisit Sam's exhilarating experience at a Coldplay concert, delve into the emotional depths of the Enneagram, and explore the profound impact of Mike Foster's "7 Primal Questions." Alongside our deep discussions, expect some nostalgic music talk—from Radiohead's groundbreaking "Kid A" to the intense live performances by Muse and Blink-182.  We'll also uncover personal anecdotes about overcoming insecurities, living authentically, and the transformative power of being present for your loved ones. Join Travis Goodman and Sam Powers as they share heartfelt insights, celebrate the importance of appreciation, and continue their quest to unlock purpose and fulfillment. Don't forget to stick around for exclusive updates and join our thriving community. Let's get integrated! Key Points and Highlights: 1. Coldplay Concert Experience: Sam Powers shared his exhilarating experience attending a Coldplay concert where they performed their early albums, "Parachutes" and "A Rush of Blood to the Head." He compared it to the raw energy of seeing U2 in their early days, emphasizing the transformative power of live music. 2. 7 Primal Questions: Sam delved into the crucial 7 Primal Questions explored in Mike Foster's book, which deeply influence our actions and relationships. He highlighted questions like "Am I good enough?" and "Do I have a purpose?" and shared how addressing these questions has helped him guide clients toward a more authentic and fulfilling life. 3. Music and Personal Growth: The conversation touched on the profound impact music has on personal growth and memory. Both Travis and Sam discussed their musical journeys, favorite bands, and how music serves as a powerful conduit for emotions and life experiences. Challenge Question: Reflect on one of the primal questions we discussed today. Which question resonates with you the most, and why? How does this question influence your daily actions and relationships? GRAB THE BOOK: 7 PRIMAL QUESTIONS - HERE [https://amzn.to/3Z3FrYx] SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtu.be/tx7iK29-NQ0?si=kay7bqIWKf3YGtlP] Connect and Support Sam: Instagram: swamipowers [https://www.instagram.com/swamipowers/] Web: www.sampowerscoaching.com [https://www.sampowerscoaching.com/] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

Welcome back to The Integrated Man Project! I'm your host, Travis Goodman, and today we have a truly transformative episode lined up for you. We're diving deep into personal growth, healing, and the journey to reconnect with our true selves. Joining us is the incredible Sam Powers—a personal development coach, custom home builder, and dedicated father of three. In this heartfelt conversation, Sam opens up about his struggles with shame, feelings of inadequacy, and how these led to alcohol abuse and an emotional breakdown in 2020. We'll hear about the life-changing impact of his six-day intensive therapy workshop at On Site [https://experienceonsite.com/] and his journey of rebuilding both his home and his emotional life. Together, we'll explore the pressures of evangelical and purity culture, the challenges of codependency, and the importance of empathy, vulnerability, and intentionality in the process of healing. Sam shares profound insights from his work on "primal questions" and offers practical advice on how men can embrace their emotional healing. HIGHLIGHTS: 1. The Breaking Point and Redemption: Sam opens up about his emotional breakdown in June 2020, driven by shame and feelings of inadequacy, leading him to alcohol abuse. His turning point came through his wife's encouragement and attending a six-day intensive therapy workshop called On-Site.  2. Codependency Unraveled: Reflecting on his past, Sam discusses how he discovered his codependent tendencies and worked diligently to address them. He credits Melody Beattie's book, "Codependent No More," as a critical resource during his recovery, allowing him to break free from unhealthy patterns and find authentic ways to cope. 3. Primal Questions and Personal Growth: Sam introduces the concept of "primal questions" – core emotional needs stemming from childhood – and how asking these questions has transformed his approach to coaching and personal development.  What's one question you need to answer about yourself to start your journey toward emotional healing and personal growth? Reflect on this and consider what steps you can take to seek the answers you need. So, sit back, relax, and get ready for a powerful and enlightening conversation that promises to inspire and empower you on your own journey to integration. SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtu.be/Wh7u-zN1kn0?si=tFxGRH3jc14JiDXr] Connect and Support Sam: Instagram: swamipowers [https://www.instagram.com/swamipowers/] Web: www.sampowerscoaching.com [https://www.sampowerscoaching.com/] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com [http://integratedmanproject.com/]

Welcome to another powerful episode of The Integrated Man Project. Today, we're diving deep into the heart of fatherhood with our special guest, Daniel Grose. Daniel shares his transformative journey of prioritizing family over career ambitions, shedding light on the sacrifices and growth required to foster genuine connections. Joined by our host, Travis Goodman, they explore the toxic cycle of finding worth through productivity, as discussed in Brene Brown's "Daring Greatly," and the relentless pursuit of success ingrained in our culture. The episode takes an emotional turn as Daniel opens up about his traumatic upbringing, from his biological father's addiction and criminal activities to the struggles of his stepfather with drug addiction and bipolar disorder. These harrowing experiences shaped Daniel's approach to marriage and fatherhood, leading him to make significant life changes to heal and prioritize his family. HIGHLIGHTS: 1. Prioritizing Family Over Career Ambitions: In today's episode, Daniel discusses his tough decision to leave his previous business venture to focus on his family. An impactful move, emphasizing the importance of being present at home rather than succumbing to the endless pursuit of career success. 2. Unhealed Trauma and Growth: Daniel opens up about his past trauma, including his biological and stepfathers' battles with addiction, and how these experiences have shaped his approach to marriage and fatherhood. This heartfelt conversation delves into healing and growth for the betterment of future generations. 3. Practical Changes for a Balanced Life: Highlighting practical steps, Daniel shares how he made significant changes in his career, like selling part of his business and transitioning to a 40-hour workweek, to prioritize his family's well-being and manage his own self-care. As we navigate through life's various roles, here's a reflective question for our listeners: **What practical steps can you take today to ensure you are prioritizing your family's well-being without sacrificing your mental health and self-worth?** Join us as we uncover the importance of vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and the quest for positive change in fatherhood. This episode is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the enduring impact of family, love, and the courage to embrace growth.   SUPPORT THE SHOW: [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] CLICK HERE! [https://www.patreon.com/IntegratedManProject] JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED! CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST [https://sendfox.com/integratedmanproject] WATCH ON YOUTUBE: WATCH HERE [https://youtu.be/G1MdUyJ9ErQ?si=pLaDN16UOIxpVy8z] Connect and Support Daniel: Instagram: @honest_fatherhood [https://www.instagram.com/honest_fatherhood/] Connect and Support Travis: YouTube: Travis Goodman [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuH2pTZa5qen7DTeLhsDm6A] Instagram: @integratedmanproject [https://www.instagram.com/integratedmanproject/] Check out the Website: TBD