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In Episode 307 of Lunchtime in Rome, titled “Emotional Maturity,” the guys kick off the new year with their signature mix of personal stories, laughter, and thoughtful discussion on a topic that’s deeply relevant to relationships—and especially to living as a Christian.After catching up on holiday adventures, family moments, church meetings, house-hunting disappointments, and even a double-booked meeting mishap, the conversation turns to the heart of the episode: What does emotional maturity look like, and why does it matter for followers of Jesus?The guys explore seven key signs of emotional maturity drawn from biblical wisdom and practical insight:* You react less and reflect more – Creating space between feeling and response (Proverbs 16:32).* You’re less easily offended – Choosing not to hand over power to others’ words or actions (Psalm 119:165; 1 Corinthians 4:3).* You take responsibility instead of shifting blame – Owning your part, even when it’s uncomfortable, like David did when confronted.* You can sit with discomfort without needing immediate relief – Embracing perseverance that builds character (Romans 5:3-4).* You’re more honest about your inner life – Dropping pretense and valuing authenticity before God and others (Psalm 51:6).* You’re less driven by the need for approval – Finding security in God’s acceptance rather than constant affirmation (Proverbs 29:25).* You recover faster from emotional setbacks – Resilience that gets back up quickly instead of spiraling (Proverbs 24:16).The guys agree: these traits aren’t just helpful for healthier relationships—they’re essential for representing Christ well. Emotional immaturity can damage our witness, while maturity reflects trust in God’s sovereignty and grace.As always, the episode wraps with lighthearted fun, including a debate over top three cuisines (Mexican, Japanese, and Italian made strong appearances) and a proud shout-out to Joe starting his bartending journey.If you’re looking to grow in how you handle emotions, conflict, and setbacks—or just want to laugh along with some genuine friends at the table—this episode is well worth the listen.Catch Episode 307 now on your favorite podcast platform or watch the recording on YouTube at lunchtimeinrome.com. While you’re there, take the relational needs questionnaire and consider supporting the podcast to help keep the conversation going! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

In episode 306, the guys welcome back Abby Herr – Brian’s daughter – who first joined the table a few years ago as a precocious 10-year-old and now returns as a thoughtful, self-aware 14-year-old eighth grader. The conversation is warm, funny, and surprisingly deep for a teenager sitting between three grown men who love to talk.The episode kicks off with the usual “how’s everybody doing?” chaos: Brian recounts an “acid-trip of a week” that included a canceled flight turned 6-hour drive to Long Island, an unforgettable lunch in a gold-and-marble basement with the mysterious “Chicken Man” and a room full of Middle Eastern businessmen, and the sudden, heartbreaking loss of Lex’s brother Jon. Jay shares about leading a police officer’s memorial service and the unexpected encouragement it brought to the officers in attendance. Eric just tries to keep up.Then the spotlight turns to Abby. The guys ask how she’s changed in the three-plus years since her first appearance. Her answer? Morally and in her core values she’s the same, but she’s grown kinder, more understanding, and noticeably more focused on her faith. She credits a mix of youth group, good friends, and (whether she admits it or not) the influence of her parents – Brian’s confidence and Lex’s sweetness.Highlights from the conversation with Abby:* She’s still very much herself – self-regulating, comfortable saying no, and unwilling to compromise who she is to fit in with a crowd.* Social life: marching band visual ensemble, the upcoming junior-high musical Matilda (she’s Amanda… who gets swung around by her pigtails), and a tight group of friends who make school bearable.* On Gen Alpha stereotypes: “People think because we’re the same age we all get along and like the same things – we don’t.”* Social media wisdom (at 14!): “My choices and emotions aren’t curated for other people.”* How she processes hurt and rejection: a flash of anger, a little guilt, then she moves on without bitterness.* Phone/social media stance: okay after elementary school, but heavily restricted until high school.* Favorite apps: TikTok #1, Snapchat #2.* Unlimited liquid from her fingers superpower: water, Dr Pepper, iced tea, gasoline (smart), and she’s still thinking about the fifth finger.The episode closes on a tender note discussing how Abby is navigating the sudden loss of her uncle Jon – going quiet at first, then the weight hitting later, and finding comfort at a worship night with her youth group.It’s a fun, heartfelt hour that reminds everyone at the table (and everyone listening) that even at 14, with the right foundation, you can be remarkably grounded, kind, and wise.Catch the full episode on your favorite podcast platform or watch the video at lunchtimeinrome.com. While you’re there, take the free relational needs questionnaire and consider becoming a paid subscriber – new content and perks are coming in 2025!See you next week for episode 307. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

In this warm and laughter-filled episode, the guys welcome back the beloved Amy Rayman after a long hiatus (a “big minute,” as they call it) for a deep dive into the many seasons every marriage seems to pass through.The table starts with lighthearted catching-up: gym routines, snow days vs. “FID days,” rental cars the size of roller skates, and the invention of Thanksgiving Street Corn (yes, it’s as amazing as it sounds—complete with mayo-sour cream dressing, fresh sage, thyme, shallots, Asiago, and a festive pop of pomegranate seeds).After plenty of tangents (and a few technical difficulties), the conversation turns to the heart of the episode: the seasons of marriage.The guys and Amy brainstorm an honest list that resonates with nearly everyone:* Honeymoon bliss* Ships passing in the night (busy schedules, kids, careers)* Power struggles & roommate vibes* Trauma seasons (loss, illness, crisis)* Young kids / “the darkness” of survival mode* Empty nest rediscovery* Caring for aging parents* Hitting your stride as a couple* Retirement (both the “we’re together 24/7” adjustment and the golden “we’re the same organism” years)They emphasize that seasons themselves aren’t good or bad—what matters is facing them together so neither spouse ever feels alone. As one listener beautifully put it, marriage is a living organism; with good communication, humility, and commitment, couples can flourish through every change.For fun, the guys asked Grok (X’s AI) for its comedic take on marriage stages. Highlights included the “oxytocin-high honeymoon,” the “dishwasher-loaded-like-a-raccoon-on-bath-salts” reality check, scheduled romance via Google Calendar, and the golden-years battle over who hid the TV remote or warmed the cold side of the bed first.Through all the laughs, the core message shines: no matter the season—joyful, exhausting, heartbreaking, or mundane—the goal is to keep choosing each other, respecting each other’s systems (and pierogi traditions), and loving unconditionally.If you’ve ever felt your marriage shift into a new season, this episode will make you laugh, nod, and maybe text your spouse from the couch: “You up?”Listen to Episode 305 wherever you get podcasts, or watch the (mostly) live video on YouTube. And don’t forget to take the relational needs questionnaire at lunchtimeinrome.com—it’s a great tool for any season you’re in! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

How to Build Relational IntimacyIn this heartfelt episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys (minus Chris, who was melting into his couch after a rough day) dive deep into what it really takes to move a relationship from “good” to “great.” The core idea? Emotional and relational intimacy is the missing piece for most couples and friendships that feel stuck in “fine.”They break it down into two big steps:* Heal from past hurts – both individual childhood wounds and old conflicts in the current relationship. The guys emphasize that most people grind through present-day issues while carrying unhealed baggage from years ago. Healing individually first softens your heart toward your partner (or friend) and makes current conflicts easier to handle as a team.* Practice the three ongoing components of intimacy:* Slow, team-oriented communication of needs (outside of conflict when possible)* Purposeful, specific attempts to meet each other’s emotional needs (give your partner the cheat-code instructions!)* Constant feedback, mutual encouragement, and lots of grace when efforts fall shortThe conversation gets real about why so few people actually do this work: fear of reopening old wounds, apathy, detachment, or simply never having seen what a truly great relationship looks like. The guys stress that this isn’t a one-time fix—it’s a lifelong discipline of intentionality, vulnerability, and celebration when the other person tries (even if they miss the mark).Mixed in with the heavy stuff, the guys keep it light with plenty of laughs—everything from the hilarious (and highly recommended) Internet Invitational golf series, unexpected cheesesteak-poutine masterpieces, built-in shelving victories, and the chaos of hosting 24 people for Thanksgiving gets covered too.Key takeaway: Great relationships aren’t accidental. They’re built when two people decide to heal, communicate slowly and honestly, intentionally meet each other’s needs, and cheer each other on with tons of grace.If you’re tired of “comfortably miserable” or just want to level-up from good to great, this episode is for you. Grab the full show wherever you get podcasts, take the emotional needs questionnaire at lunchtimeinrome.com, and let’s all work toward relationships that aren’t just good—they’re great.Happy Thanksgiving from the table—see you in two weeks for episode 305! 🦃 Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

From “Fine” to “Very Good”: Unlock Real Intimacy in Your RelationshipsHey Lunchtime in Rome crew! Episode 303 hits hard: Why do most relationships stall at “good” or “fine” instead of God’s “very good” benchmark (Genesis vibes)? The guys unpack it with laughs, raw stories, and zero fluff. Let’s dive in—quick and punchy.Life Wins Fuel the Fire* Cabinets installed in a day (friendship goals).* First disc golf ace (”It took its key out and let itself in!”).* Gym streak: 6 days/week, push-pull-legs—feeling beast mode.* CrossFit newbie: Lungs burn, but the community? Gold.These aren’t side notes—they show intentional effort, just like relationships need.The Problem: No Intimacy = Stuck in “Fine”Premarital homework: Ask married folks about their marriage. Answers? “Fine.” “Better than most.” Never “great.” Why?* Coexisting, not connecting: 1950s duty, 1980s distractions, today? Doomscrolling side-by-side.* Blocks: Selfishness (survival mode), bad habits from upbringing, unmet hurts teaching “don’t vulnerability.”* Communication levels (Jim’s gold): 1. Obligatory (”Hi”). 2. Observational (”It’s raining”). 3. Thoughts (”You’re wrong”). 4. Feelings (”I feel alone”). Stop at 3? No intimacy.Intimacy = Vulnerable openness + meeting needs. Join their world: Rejoice/mourn together (Romans 12:15).The Fix: 3 Steps to “Very Good”* Slow need-sharing: No conflict— “It’d mean the world if...”* Intentional need-meeting: Pour in, even if uneven. Model it.* Feedback loop: “Loved that—here’s a tweak.” Receive without defense.303 episodes of this podcast? Your cheat sheet.Food Fun: Best Fake Ethnic Chain?Taco Bell crushes (Crunchwrap Supreme nostalgia). Olive Garden salad/breadsticks honorable mention. Outback for “Australian” laughs. Aladdin’s shawarma with pickled turnips? Underrated.Your pick? Comment below!This episode’s a wake-up. Take the relational needs quiz at lunchtimeinrome.com. Subscribe on Substack for recaps + extras. What’s your “very good” move this week? Let’s chat. Pull up a seat! 🚀 Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 302 is titled “Jared Turner” Ohio? To Pittsburgh? Because Ishan (EE Shawn) asked you to go? What’s that all about? We’ll be finding out about all of that and more at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!In this week’s episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys welcome Jared Turner, a young leader whose journey from Ohio to Pittsburgh has been shaped by faith, friendship, and purpose. From his childhood in Cleveland and Cincinnati to his work with Young Life, Jared’s story is one of belonging, curiosity, and learning to serve others authentically.The guys dive into Jared’s upbringing as the son of a pastor, his early introduction to church life, and how a comic book–style Action Bible first sparked his interest in faith. Jared reflects on how his understanding of Christianity deepened through middle and high school, leading him to become involved with Young Life — an organization that ultimately guided him toward ministry and mentorship.Jared shares the lighthearted yet powerful story of the “Cookie Tote,” where his simple act of handing out cookies at McDonald’s became a way to connect with students and create meaningful community. The guys also explore his relationship with his mentor Ishan, who encouraged him to take a leap of faith and move to Pittsburgh to pursue full-time ministry.The conversation turns heartfelt as Jared discusses emotional needs like belonging and respect, how he handles challenges with calm maturity, and how curiosity drives his desire to truly understand people. The episode wraps with the guys’ trademark humor as they debate the best old-school cafeteria lunches — from pizza burgers to underbaked chocolate chip cookies.Episode 302 captures the essence of Lunchtime in Rome: laughter, vulnerability, and the beauty of sharing stories that remind us what it means to belong at the table. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

In this lively episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys kick things off with some exciting updates, including breaking in new microphones (shoutout to their generous supporters for making it happen!). They dive into personal stories that set a fun, relatable tone: Eric recounts a hilarious mishap at Sam’s Club involving early entry privileges gone wrong, while Julia shares a wild day at work dealing with a chain-smoking temp hygienist who gets the boot mid-shift. The conversation also touches on work life, hiring help, and even a rave review for Jay’s homemade sweet and sour purple cabbage—perfect for fall vibes.The heart of the episode explores the topic “Instead of Comfort.” The guys discuss what happens when someone doesn’t quite meet you in your emotions or provide the comfort you need. Drawing from Romans 12:15 (”Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn”), they break down how people often miss the mark on offering true emotional support due to things like overreacting, making it about themselves, or dismissing feelings. But here’s the twist: even if comfort falls short, you can still find value by recognizing other emotional needs being met, like respect, security, or encouragement. They share real-life examples, including family dynamics and tough coaching moments, emphasizing that everyone needs comfort to heal hurts—even if they have an aversion to it. It’s a nerdy deep dive into emotional needs, with practical tips on how to bless others who are hard to comfort by leaning into what they truly value.Wrapping up with nostalgia, the guys reminisce about beloved restaurants that are no longer around, like Bugaboo Creek Steakhouse (a quirky Canadian-themed chain with talking animatronics), sit-down Pizza Hut buffets, and Wendy’s salad bars. It’s a mix of laughs, heartfelt insights, and a reminder to join others at the table—emotionally and literally.Missed the full episode? Catch it on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, or at lunchtimeinrome.com. While you’re there, take the Relational Needs Questionnaire and follow on social media for more. See you next week! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

After seven years and 300 episodes, the guys of Lunchtime in Rome take a heartfelt look back at how far they’ve come. From recording around a single snowball mic to building a community rooted in empathy, humor, and authenticity, this milestone episode celebrates not just longevity—but growth and connection.Looking Back: Then vs. NowThe episode opens with laughter and nostalgia as the hosts revisit where it all began back in November 2018. They reflect on how life looked then—new jobs, young families, big transitions—and how Lunchtime in Rome grew from a simple idea about understanding emotional needs into a weekly ritual that’s changed their lives and relationships. What started as a basement recording has become a “time capsule” of friendship and faith that now spans seven years and hundreds of stories.Life, Change, and Lessons LearnedEach host shares recent experiences—some funny, some deeply personal—showing how the principles they’ve discussed for years have shaped the way they handle everyday life. From family challenges and work opportunities to finding joy in small wins, they recognize how the podcast has kept them grounded and emotionally aware through every season.How the Podcast Strengthened RelationshipsA central theme of this episode is how understanding emotional needs has transformed their marriages, families, and friendships. Over time, the language and concepts they’ve shared weekly have become second nature—helping them navigate conflict, communicate better, and connect on a deeper level. They describe how the lessons from Lunchtime in Rome have made their homes more peaceful and their relationships stronger, even through stressful or uncertain times.A Living Time CapsuleSeven years in, the group marvels at the legacy they’ve built—hundreds of hours of conversation, laughter, and growth preserved for their families and future generations. They reflect on how incredible it is that their voices, stories, and lessons will live on—something they never imagined when it all began.The Road AheadAs they look forward, the hosts talk about continuing to evolve the podcast—making emotional health more accessible and engaging for new listeners while staying true to what’s made the show special. They discuss ideas for bringing back popular segments, introducing fresh formats, and keeping the spirit of authenticity and connection alive for the next hundred episodes.Final ThoughtsEpisode 300 is more than a milestone—it’s a celebration of friendship, faith, and emotional growth. Through laughter, vulnerability, and countless shared conversations at the table, Lunchtime in Rome continues to help listeners—and the hosts themselves—learn to love and understand one another better.💬 “It’s not just a podcast—it’s a journey we’ve lived together, and it’s changed us all for the better.”Visit lunchtimeinrome.com to listen, take the Relational Needs Questionnaire, and join the community as the next chapter begins. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

This week at the table, Jay, Chris, Eric, and Julia dive into an engaging mix of personal stories, humor, and thought-provoking lessons about life and relationships.The episode opens with laughter as Julia officially joins as co-host, bringing her sharp wit and quick impressions to the conversation. From disc golf goals and Renaissance festival plans to unexpected adventures in car shopping, the group shares updates that are both relatable and entertaining. Julia even recounts a Buffalo-themed wedding that had everyone shaking their heads and smiling.The heart of the discussion centers around “words to live by.” The group reacts to two powerful video clips: one on how being a “first liker” makes people more likable, and another on mental toughness—defined as doing your best with what you have, wherever you are. The hosts explore how these ideas connect to emotional needs, confidence, belonging, and resilience. Julia adds her own perspective, reflecting on faith, willingness, and the importance of pushing forward without excuses.The episode wraps with the guys (and Julia) considering the phrase “not everything is something”—a reminder that perspective shapes our reactions, and with time, we learn which battles really matter.Episode 299 blends humor, heartfelt reflection, and practical wisdom—true to the spirit of Lunchtime in Rome. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

In this week’s episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys welcome special guest Julia Michalski to the table. Julia, a dental hygienist by day and Young Life leader by night, opens up about her life, faith, and the emotional needs that shape who she is.The guys guide Julia through a thoughtful and often humorous conversation, exploring her relational needs questionnaire results—with appreciation, encouragement, and security ranking high. She reflects on how those needs show up at work, in friendships, and in her faith journey. The discussion also uncovers her independent streak, people-pleasing tendencies, and her struggle with imposter syndrome as she navigates early adulthood.Julia shares candid stories from childhood, her college years at Pitt, and her experience growing up in a family with both Catholic and non-denominational church roots. She explains how college ministry gave her community and perspective, ultimately inspiring her to consider future opportunities like medical missions.The conversation isn’t without laughs—whether joking about homemade chili powder, the challenges of Penn Hills football outreach, or even which liquids each person would choose if they could dispense them from their fingers. Julia holds her own at the table, balancing humor with honesty and depth.As always, the episode ties back to the heart of the podcast: learning how to better love others by understanding emotional needs, rejoicing with those who rejoice, and mourning with those who mourn.Troy Hawke Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

In this week’s episode, the guys – Jay, Eric, and Chris – gather at the table to tackle a powerful and often overlooked topic: the importance of healing emotional hurts.The conversation kicks off with some lighthearted banter and personal updates, from family moments and birthdays to concerts and even late steak deliveries. But the heart of the discussion centers on how we handle the emotional wounds we all carry.The guys break down the many ways people try to cope without truly healing: avoiding pain, minimizing it, numbing it, or just assuming “time will heal all wounds.” They point out that while these strategies may provide temporary relief, they don’t actually address the deeper need. Using vivid analogies—like comparing emotional wounds to untreated physical injuries—they explain why ignoring or excusing hurts only allows them to fester.Forgiveness also takes center stage. The guys highlight that while forgiveness is essential to prevent bitterness, it’s not the same as healing. True healing requires naming our hurts, acknowledging unmet needs, and finding healthy ways to address them—whether through community, intentional conversations, or tools like therapeutic letters.As always, the guys weave humor, honesty, and personal stories throughout the conversation, making a heavy topic both relatable and encouraging. By the end, listeners are reminded that while emotional healing takes intentional work, it’s the path to freedom, growth, and stronger relationships. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

In this week’s episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys—Jay, Eric, Brian, and Chris—dive into the theme of healing and how recent events have impacted them personally and collectively.The conversation begins with Brian sharing a harrowing story involving a dangerous chemical reaction in his pool that nearly created a catastrophic situation. For him, the experience became more than just a physical scare—it sparked deeper reflections on relationships, faith, and the importance of personal growth in the face of challenges.Eric brings lighter updates, highlighting his growing passion for disc golf, morning walks, and supporting his daughter Maggie as she takes on first base in fall softball. Chris reflects on finding balance in his daily life, carving out intentional time for family, and learning how to let go of unnecessary guilt with the help of strong encouragement from Jay.Jay shares exciting developments with Young Life at his local school, describing how puzzle pieces of ministry and outreach are beginning to fit together. He also recounts a surreal moment while playing disc golf with his son Joe—learning about the tragic shooting of Charlie Kirk. This leads the guys into a heartfelt and difficult discussion on the attack, free speech, and the deep divisions in society. They emphasize that while politics and tragedy can divide, the enemy’s real aim is to separate people from each other. The guys challenge listeners to resist attributing the worst actions of extremists to everyone on “the other side” and instead lean into reconciliation, love, and the mission of building meaningful relationships.The episode closes with a thoughtful reflection from listener Dan Leopold, who offered poetic insights on noticing life’s small beauties after retiring from teaching. The guys celebrate his wisdom and humor by sharing his unique birthday wish list, reminding everyone of the value of community and joy in everyday life.At its heart, this episode is about healing—physically, emotionally, and spiritually—and the importance of turning toward one another rather than away in times of hardship. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 295 is titled “Distractions” What gets in our way? What is distracting us? What are those distractions…distracting us from? We’ll be talking about that at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!Episode SummaryIn this week’s episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys—Jay, Eric, Brian, and Chris—tackle the topic of distractions: what they are, where they come from, and what they pull us away from.The conversation starts with some lighthearted updates—birthday parties, Savannah Bananas baseball, sore backs, and a chaotic Donut Dash—before shifting into deeper reflections on how distractions affect daily life. The guys share personal stories of being pulled away by news, politics, sports, inner anxieties, and even other people’s opinions.Listeners contributed their own thoughts, naming everything from finances and performance expectations to politics and fear as major sources of distraction. The discussion highlighted how comfort, comparison, and the endless noise of modern life can easily steer us off course. The guys wrestle with whether we’re more distracted today or simply less focused than past generations.Ultimately, they return to the heart of the podcast: relationships and purpose. The guys emphasize that distractions often tie back to unmet relational needs and personal hurts. But they also encourage a solution—focusing on loving God by loving others, investing in relationships, and filtering life through that purpose. When we stand for nothing, everything becomes a distraction; but when we pursue love and connection, we can better guard against the noise.The episode is both relatable and convicting, mixing humor with honesty, and leaving listeners with practical wisdom: don’t get lost in what you can’t control—focus on the people and purposes that truly matter. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 294 is titled “Unfamiliar Emotions.” Have you ever felt bad but for an unfamiliar reason? Have you ever been unable to figure out why you felt the way you do? We’ll be talking about that at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!Episode 294: Navigating Unfamiliar EmotionsIn episode 294 of Lunchtime in Rome, titled "Unfamiliar Emotions," the guys tackle the puzzling experience of feeling bad for reasons that aren’t immediately clear. Guided by Romans 12:15, which calls us to rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn, they share personal stories and insights to help listeners understand and process complex emotions.The episode opens with the guys catching up on life’s recent events. One shares the whirlwind of family activities, including trips to Kennywood, a Pirates game, and plans for the Savannah Bananas, alongside preparing for a daughter’s seventh birthday. Another reflects on the start of the school year, noting how this year’s kindergarteners—born during COVID—are thriving despite early concerns about their social development. They also discuss community efforts, like running a food pantry for young athletes and mentoring through Young Life, as well as lighter moments like buying a new guitar and celebrating a college freshman’s matriculation ceremony.The core discussion, sparked by one host’s recent experience, dives into the unexpected emotional weight of dropping his son off at college. What he anticipated as a manageable milestone hit harder than expected, stirring feelings of emptiness driven by unfamiliar needs for security, belonging, and comfort—emotions he rarely grapples with. He describes this as a “beautiful hurt,” a poignant mix of joy and pain, and shares how his family’s open communication about emotional needs helped navigate this transition. The guys contrast moments of effective comfort, like a daughter’s wordless hug, with less helpful responses, like well-meaning but dismissive advice from a loved one. They explore how emotional needs can shift in specific contexts and how understanding them brings clarity and healing.The episode closes with gratitude for the emotional tools they’ve developed through the podcast, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own unfamiliar emotions. The guys invite everyone to visit lunchtimeinrome.com to take the relational needs questionnaire and to join them next week for episode 295. Subscribe on your favorite podcast platform or watch on YouTube, and don’t miss this heartfelt conversation about embracing life’s complex feelings. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 293 is titled “Back to School.” What is it like to go back to college? What about going back to school as a teacher? What do parents go through when their kids go back? We’ll be talking about that at The Table this evening. Pull up a seat at the table and join us! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 292 is titled “Brenda Tremblay!” Last week we listed our dream list of guests and Brenda was number 1! You get to know her, and we get to talk to her at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!Brenda Tremblay Joins the Table!In this lively episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys welcome their dream guest, Brenda Tremblay, for a heartfelt and hilarious conversation that dives deep into life, relationships, and everything in between. Kicking things off, the hosts catch up on their summer adventures—Chris shares tales from family trips to Ocracoke and New Orleans (complete with a gluten-free beignet mishap and a kitchen remodel), Brian recounts a chaotic day fixing a property water main that nearly turned disastrous, followed by a father-son bonding over massive subs at Triangle Bar, and Jay reflects on his disc golf triumphs and the exhaustion of a busy season balancing church, Young Life, and family.The spotlight quickly turns to Brenda, whom the guys praise for her genuine spirit, servant heart, and effortless way of making conversations flow. Brenda opens up about her journey to self-acceptance in her 40s, sharing how she's always strived to be liked while grappling with guilt and a high need for belonging. She recounts her small-town upbringing in Corry, PA (the "Crossroads of America"), her high school days playing flute and sousaphone in the band, and the serendipitous prom date with her now-husband Jim that led to a lifetime together and five amazing kids.The discussion explores Brenda's emotional needs questionnaire results, revealing her strong desire for community and how past feelings of exclusion as the "tall kid" shaped her. She shares fun anecdotes, like homeschooling her family, transitioning from 15 years in the hotel industry to remote medical billing, and her phobia of the dark. The guys play a whimsical game: If given an elephant you can't sell or give away, what would you do? Answers range from riding it for fame (Brenda's pick) to exploring its consciousness or monetizing rides.Brenda's infectious energy shines through as she talks about fostering tribes—from college friends to her quirky, hilarious kids—and her dream lotto splurge: an epic family vacation to Europe or national parks (yurts included, but no sleeping on the ground!). The episode wraps with laughs over inside jokes, hotel stories, and a nod to the guys' worship team dynamics.Whether you're drawn to stories of personal growth, emotional insights, or just good vibes, this episode reminds us why rejoicing and mourning together builds stronger connections. Pull up a seat and listen now—Brenda's warmth will have you feeling like part of the family! Take the relational needs questionnaire at lunchtimeinrome.com and join the conversation on social media. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 291 is titled “At The Table”. We’ve had MANY folks sit at The Table over the years. We’re going to look back and remember a lot of them and revisit some very special people. That’s what we’re doing at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 290 is titled “Emonie Campbell”. Emonie lives life to the fullest and teaches students at Woodland Hills High School to do the same. We’ll get to know her at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!Getting to Know Emonie CampbellIn this lively episode of Lunchtime in Rome, the guys welcome special guest Emonie Campbell, a vibrant educator and Young Life staff member at Woodland Hills High School who inspires students to embrace life fully. The conversation kicks off with the hosts sharing highlights from their recent vacations, blending humor, heartfelt moments, and a touch of chaos—like Eric's daughter Maggie's breakthrough body-surfing adventure (complete with a dramatic wipeout), Jay's rejuvenating time fishing with his kids, and Brian's whirlwind trips to D.C. and the beach, where he navigated everything from $100 breakfasts to profound car chats with his daughter Abby.The episode then shifts to Emonie's compelling backstory. Born in the Bronx but raised in Butler and Pittsburgh after her family sought a fresh start, Emonie opens up about her challenging childhood marked by frequent moves, her parents' struggles with addiction and separation, and stepping into caretaker roles for her siblings and mother at a young age. Despite these hardships, she shares how her faith journey began in middle school through subtle seeds planted by her family and church experiences, eventually blossoming in high school via Young Life. Emonie discusses her work ministering to Woodland Hills students—showing up consistently, earning their trust, and creating spaces like weekly Bible studies at Dunkin' Donuts to foster belonging and support.Tying into the podcast's core theme from Romans 12:15 ("rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn"), the guys explore Emonie's relational needs, highlighting her high needs for encouragement, comfort, and belonging—shaped by her life's enmeshments and lack of stability. They praise her childlike faith, resilience, and ability to turn personal trials into opportunities for good, as seen in her ministry.Emonie wraps up with inspiring words: "Forward is forward, whether you're running, walking, or crawling," and shares her favorite verse, Jeremiah 29:11, as a reminder of God's hopeful plans. This episode is a beautiful mix of laughter, vulnerability, and encouragement—perfect for anyone navigating life's ups and downs.First-time listeners: Subscribe on your favorite podcast app or YouTube, follow on social media, and take the relational needs questionnaire at lunchtimeinrome.com. Join the guys next week for Episode 291! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 289 is titled “Why so guarded?” Tonight Jay will tell us all about his Young Life camp trip and dive into why young people seem to be more open than adults. That’s what we’re talking about at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!Episode SummaryIn episode 289 of the *Lunchtime in Rome* podcast, titled "Why So Guarded?", the guys dive into a heartfelt discussion about vulnerability, openness, and the differences between how teenagers and adults share their personal stories. The episode kicks off with the hosts—Jay, Eric, Joe, and Amy—sharing their excitement for an upcoming group vacation to Sandbridge, Virginia. They reminisce about last year’s rain-soaked trip, plan for beach time, disc golf, and seafood feasts, and even joke about navigating the nearby naval base fence for some prime shelling. The heart of the episode centers on Jay’s recent experience leading a Young Life camp trip to Lake Champion in Glen Spey, New York, his first in 17 years. Jay shares the challenges of managing administrative hurdles, like health forms and medical waivers, and the chaos of a norovirus outbreak and heatwave at camp. Despite these obstacles, the camp provided a powerful backdrop for building connections with high school students. Jay describes a pivotal moment on day three when he asked the teens three deep questions: * What’s something that happened to you that you wish hadn’t? * What’s something you did that you’d like a redo on? * What’s something people believe about you that isn’t true on the inside? To Jay’s surprise, several teens, including some he barely knew, opened up with profound and vulnerable stories about family hurts, personal regrets, and hidden insecurities. One teen, initially perceived as closed-off, revealed a trusting side that transformed his demeanor, earning him the affectionate nickname “Uncle” among peers. This openness led Jay to question whether teenagers today are more willing to share than adults, sparking a lively discussion among the hosts. The guys explore why teens might be more open, suggesting that their desire for attention and lack of prior betrayals could play a role. They contrast this with adults, who may be more guarded due to past hurts or a stronger sense of self-protection. However, they also consider that in a safe, non-judgmental environment like the camp, adults might open up similarly if given the chance. The hosts reflect on their own regrets and the importance of living transparently, emphasizing that vulnerability fosters deeper connections. Drawing from their faith, the guys tie the conversation to the idea that Jesus knows everything about us, encouraging listeners to share their “darkness” to receive love and forgiveness fully. The episode wraps up with a call to be open and honest, a nod to their supportive community, and an invitation for new subscribers to join the “head of the table” with a special two-month free offer. Join the *Lunchtime in Rome* crew in two weeks for episode 290, and until then, visit lunchtimeinrome.com to take their relational needs questionnaire and connect on social media. This episode is a reminder that whether you’re a teen or an adult, opening up in a safe space can lead to transformative moments of connection. Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 288 is titled “Vacations, good and bad.” Sometimes vacations are the best, other times they just don’t work out. Tonight we will celebrate and remember with some and mourn with others. That’s what we’re doing at The Table this evening.Pull up a seat at the table and join us!Episode SummaryIn episode 288 of the Lunchtime in Rome podcast, titled "Vacations, Good and Bad," the guys dive into the highs and lows of vacation experiences, sharing personal stories and listener submissions that capture the joy and chaos of getting away. Guided by their mission to "rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn" (Romans 12:15), the episode blends humor, reflection, and heartfelt moments.The episode kicks off with the guys recounting their recent disc golf trip, a fun but physically taxing adventure involving 15 miles of walking. One host shares the pain of sore feet from wearing minimalist barefoot shoes, while another describes an epic day of disc golf, hockey, and muscle cramps after a grueling schedule. The trip, though exhausting, was a bonding experience filled with laughter and memorable shots.The conversation then shifts to listener-submitted vacation stories, showcasing a range of experiences. Highlights include Gab Hershman’s bittersweet vacation where she discovered her pregnancy (best) but also faced an exploding electric stove (worst), only to find a silver lining in a fun pizza place. Chesney shares her dreamy Hawaii honeymoon as her best trip, contrasted by a painful childhood beach trip ruined by a foot-long splinter. Tamara Bergamasco recalls a family trip to Puerto Rico where lost car keys in a rainforest led to a memorable zipline adventure, while Robert Greene celebrates his daughter’s wedding in Sweden but laments a sweltering bed-and-breakfast stay without power.The guys also reflect on their own vacation memories. One host vividly describes the emotional weight of dropping his son off at college orientation, a poignant moment of pride and transition. Another recounts a disastrous family vacation with a sick infant and a sunscreen allergy, while a third celebrates a vow renewal on the beach as a cherished milestone. The episode wraps up with Dan Leppold’s inspiring perspective, viewing every vacation challenge as an opportunity to embrace a positive attitude, paired with his jaw-dropping list of adventures like playing with lava in Hawaii and exploring Machu Picchu.Throughout, the guys weave humor and empathy, from joking about ancient Rome’s fall to salmonella to mourning vacation mishaps like car troubles and mandatory evacuations. They invite listeners to share their own best and worst vacation stories, emphasizing the privilege of getting away, whether it’s a far-flung trip or a staycation.Join the Lunchtime in Rome community at lunchtimeinrome.com to take their relational needs questionnaire and follow along on social media. The podcast takes a break next week but returns on July 2nd for episode 289. Whether your vacation is a triumph or a trial, the guys are ready to celebrate or commiserate with you! Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe