Rori Raye Feminine Energy Radio

If you don’t think you’re controlling… you probably are.You’re just not doing it in an aggressive way.You’re not doing it in a way that other people would easily recognize.But if you leave a date and you don’t feel high…you feel kind of icky instead…That’s normal — when you didn’t actually feel good in that person’s presence, but you tried hard. You tried to be liked. You tried to be chosen. And then you felt rejected.So what if you didn’t try so hard at all?When it comes to getting your needs met, there are two sides of the same coin. In this case, the need underneath everything is simple: you want to feel appreciated. You want to feel sexy. Desirable. Beautiful.And when someone says “no” to you, it can feel like all of that disappears.Which might mean… we don’t yet have very strong feelings about ourselves.And so what?Very few people feel so self-solid that rejection doesn’t sting. Even the most gorgeous women in the world are devastated by rejection. Even the most stunning women struggle to find partners because they’re stuck in masculine over-efforting, insecurity, and control.You are all gorgeous. I can see that.So you’re here because we’re going to change this whole pattern.We’re going to give up on men as our saviors.We’re going to stop trying to get rescued.We’re going to stop using men to solve our survival and self-worth.And instead, we’re going to come home to ourselves.If this resonates with you, I invite you to officially join us inside the Rori Raye Siren community on Siren Island.Come to the intimate coaching classes. Practice the Feminine State of Being tools. Learn how to soften control, release rejection, and receive everything you want in a way that feels good to you.This is where you practice being present.This is where your feminine is empowered — every single day.I would love to see you inside.Siren Island is here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/Love, Rori

How do we actually deal with rejection?How do we signal a man from our soft, confident feminine… when inside we’re feeling vulnerable, exposed, and deeply afraid of rejection — whether that looks like his clear “no,” a sudden hardness in his eyes, or the feeling of not being seen, felt, or met?And here’s the surprising truth: the pain doesn’t come from rejection itself.It comes from trying.Trying to say the right thing.Trying to signal correctly.Trying to prevent rejection before it happens.That effort — the reaching, the strategizing, the self-monitoring — actually works against your best interests. It pulls you out of your feminine energy and into control, which quietly pushes the right partner away.What if you didn’t try to do anything?No fixing.No improving.No managing how he feels about you.Just space. Stillness. Presence.This is not about giving up. And you’ll learn this up, down, and backwards with me and my Siren Island coaches inside the community. It’s about letting go of what was never the attraction secret to begin with. And when you do, rejection loses its power — because you’re no longer trying to use another person to survive.You might love Siren Island.Check it out here:⁠https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/⁠Love, Rori

It takes a while — sometimes a year, year and a half — for men to decide that it’s correct, that you’re it, right?So what are you going to do during that time?Do you consider yourself a sexual being, and you need a sex partner? That’s me. I want a sex partner, and I’m okay having sex with somebody that I don’t marry.If that’s not you — and you’re faith-based or something, and you don’t want to be having sex — then you have to ask yourself: what level of physical intimacy am I comfortable with?And in the masterclass, we talk about it. Intercourse is intercourse — is that all that you don’t want to do? Can you do oral sex? Can you do a lot of touching sex? Can you do a hand job for him? Can he do a hand job for you? Is orgasm okay?What are your boundaries here? Where does sex start and end?If you want to go deeper into these conversations with us — love, dating, intimacy, boundaries, and feminine power — come join us inside Siren Island, where we explore the real, lived experience of relationships together.Siren Island is here:⁠https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/⁠Love, Rori 

We fall into relationships all the time… and we often have no idea what the details actually are. We enter vague relationship deals.So here’s the question:Why do we accept such vagueness from men?This would make an incredible masterclass topic, because the situation often determines what that vagueness looks like and what it’s really about.But underneath it all, it stems from something deeply human:So many of us don’t feel skilled enough to literally get what we want.Not skilled enough to ask for what we want.And even deeper than that…Not actually knowing what we want.We are vague with ourselves.If I asked you right now: What do you want?What would you come up with?Most women say something like, “I want him to do something…”But that’s not a want - that’s a strategy.Those are little pieces.And you can see how we become anxious, scattered, and all over the place when we don’t know the core thing we truly want.People call them “needs” - the six human needs, the Tony Robbins framework…But honestly?I’m much more interested in want.Desire.I love the word desire because it wakes you up. It turns something on inside you.And when you feel turned on, you have so much more power than when you don’t.Because when you’re turned on, you’re looser.You’re more open.You can feel yourself.When you’re not turned on, you’re shut down somewhere.And this is exactly the kind of work we do inside Siren Island.On Siren Island, you’ll have trained coaches walking with you in live classes each month, helping you practice clear, direct communication that actually feels good in a relationship……and so much more.Siren Island is here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/love, Rori

The need for validation, clarity, and connection often comes out as a question—because a question feels harmless.But what we’re really doing is throwing a spear at him.We’re literally throwing something at him.He’s completely off base—not because he doesn’t care, but because he was probably thinking about sports… or work… or whatever was already in his mind. He wasn’t thinking anything close to what you were thinking.So here you are, asking him a question.“I forgot—what time are we leaving tonight?”You could have checked your calendar.You could have looked at your phone.But you didn’t actually want the time.You wanted connection.That question was a connection boost.The truth is, when we get into clarity scripting, what’s really happening underneath is this:I feel alone.I feel weird.I feel anxious.I need reassurance.I need to connect with you.What you’re actually asking is:Can I have a hug?Please hug me.Or…I need to kiss you.I need to look into your eyes.I’m not in myself—I’m in my head.I need you to ground me.But instead of saying that, we ask a question.So we’re way up in our head—and he feels pushback.He feels pressure.He feels like he’s being asked to perform or answer correctly.And that’s where things start to miss.On Siren Island, you don’t have to figure this out alone.You’ll have my trained coaches walking with you in live classes each month—helping you practice clear, direct communication that actually feels good in a relationship… and so much more.Siren Island is here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/Love, Rori

Look at your hand. Look at the bracelet you’re wearing. Look at the shirt you’re wearing. Anything that inspires you to feel grounded, or the floor, or centered — or any of those words we always use — or an object you can touch, that you can feel engaged with. The table right here, the desk, your knee. Hold your hand.See if you can feel engaged with that.And then see the man, see your boss, see whatever you see — see your work ahead of you — and don’t get lost in the picture for a minute. I’m here.See if that feels more deep.So instead of “grounded” or “centered,” let’s call it being deep inside you — connected with you, engaged with you.Now tell me:Do you feel the need to ask a question of this person?Or do you kind of feel quiet inside?If you suddenly feel quiet inside, then there’s no need to ask a question. So what is going on with your vibe now that you’re down there? Are you feeling angry at him because he’s not engaging with you, and it creates this need inside you? Are you feeling frustrated that you’re in this moment of discomfort?Or do you feel, oh, I just needed to drop down — I just needed to feel me?I need to feel inside me.I need to feel self.Self.We talk about self-respect, self-regard, self-love… but how about you just feel self?Me.Say me.Say self.You feel that full vibration, that full aliveness of me.And yes, it can make you feel anxious that they will go away if you’re not reaching out. Of course. So pull it back in. Pull that anxiety, that worry about them, back inside. Drop it down inside you.It often feels like a reach-out — like a tentacle going out — and then it becomes words, a question. So what we want to do is notice when that’s happening. Notice when you feel the need to reach out… and pull it back inside.Feel the loneliness.Feel what’s at the bottom of the feeling that makes you think you need to engage the other human. Turn to a dog, a cat. Feel presence. Feel pleasure.All of a sudden it feels like an invitation.So what we’re really saying is: whenever you feel the need to reach out and ask — even to someone at work, someone on your team — pause and ask yourself:What is the root of that feeling of need?Because it may not be a need at all.You can join us at Siren Island and step into this living, breathing feminine space anytime.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori 

We’re talking about dating as opposed to deep relationships.So I think in this segment I’m going to go into if you’re deeper into a relationship and there’s so much more baggage and history when you attempt to connect rather than separate through your words, and by getting down into what it is you want when you are already so untaken care of and you have so much anger and all kinds of stuff going on.What I’d like to start with is first a recap of this whole process that I’m talking about. We're starting from a scratch— and if you're not in a loving relationship that feels extraordinary and you’re super happy and amazing...If you’re still not there yet, the way I certainly was until I was 40, then you, like me, have been spending all of your energy literally saying that you want love, but literally pushing it away.That all of your energy has been going into pushing love away, not pulling it in.That your whole—you come to me here with the energetic machine of pushing men away automatically.You’re good at it, and you do it. Even though it sounds and feels like something else to you. It feels like you’re not lucky, or the bad men. It's you pushing men away and love away on purpose, because that is your inner self trying to protect you.So let’s switch that!On Siren Island, you can work with my Rori Raye Coaches every day, in the community, and live over Zoom in five different classes through the month.You can have everything you want from your feminine energy. Siren Island is only $33 each month, and you’ll have me and everyone with you here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

So, connection. What does connection feel like? I’m really talking to faith-based women and non–faith-based women who can come with me into a spiritual place.And when I say a spiritual place, it’s ephemeral. It’s not concrete. The people around you don’t know what you’re talking about.They may think you are silly. They may think you’re a “silly feeler” with spiritual leanings.I want you to realize how much you are trying to block that stuff.I don’t know a single woman who is not actually a spiritual person. You have the ability to build cells in your body. What could that possibly be?You know, cells go bad in your body—and you can heal. That’s something completely different. That’s connection: to your body, to life, to self, to everything.Just speaking about it—do you feel like we’re in another world that I could call spiritual? We’re speaking about what I can’t do with a needle or scissors. We’re speaking about what heals.When you break your leg, isn’t it amazing that it heals by itself? Yes, it’s a function of the way your body works, but it’s kind of magical because you don’t know exactly how it works.Siren Island is where you can practice the magical feminine state of being with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.Join us here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

Your feeling state is your truth. It’s not what you want him to do or how you wish things looked. It’s the pulse that lives deep inside you — the craving, the warmth, the tension, the peace. As soon as you drop down into that, everything shifts.Stop wanting him to act differently. Stop trying to fix. Instead, notice what you feel. Maybe it’s uncomfortable, maybe it’s even ugly — and that’s perfect. Feeling is safety. Safe to be, safe to feel, safe to exist in your own body without performing for love.Your mind wants to keep you safe by controlling, planning, protecting. But your body — your heart, your feminine core — already loves you. The moment you let yourself feel, peace begins. Power begins. Pleasure begins.You don’t get there by doing more. You get there by softening — by letting your energy move down, into your belly, your heart, your body. That’s where your life starts breathing again. That’s the feminine way: stop doing and start being.Siren Island is where you can practice this feminine state of being with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.Join us here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

 There’s something that feels almost taboo to talk about in dating, and that’s this desire for men to be more initiating. Many women wonder, Can I even want that? Can I ask for that?What I’ve noticed—especially watching something like Love Is Blind—is that people often come together because their patterns recognize each other. On the surface, it looks like compatibility. But over time, what was hidden starts to show. Niceness can cover a lot. Sometimes what looks gentle at first turns out to be demanding, or even controlling. It takes time to get to someone’s real nature.So let’s talk about wants versus expectations. Expectations are patterns. Wants are deeper. Just because you want something doesn’t mean it will happen—but wanting is where everything starts. The problem is, many of us don’t actually know what we want anymore. Our desires have been shaped by what we were told we should want.When you say, “I want him to lead,” what you usually mean isn’t a list of behaviors. You don’t want him to perform masculinity correctly. What you want is to feel something—to relax, to soften, to drop out of your head and into yourself. And when you connect there, something shifts. Connection comes before behavior, not the other way around.Want to keep growing your Siren self with semi-private coaching classes, my amazing Siren Island Course and Community is where you practice with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches every day.The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools— all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.Join us here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

Do you really want a man who is really hemming you in? Because I have to tell you, there are men out there who would look at you and say, “Wow, you are amazing.”Why would you want a man who says, “I resent you… I feel competitive with you”?I love watching celebrity couples because they show us so much about what happens when two highly successful, competitive people try to build a relationship. How does it work out?How did J-Lo — Jennifer Lopez — and Ben love each other so much that they wanted to come together three times, only for it to end in disappointment every time? She’s just like us: “I’ll try again. I’ll fill it with roses and wonder.” But over time, the period she’s willing to put up with disappointment grows shorter and shorter.If you’re curious about how your Love Siren and Business Siren patterns connect — or want help identifying your Business Siren Type — we’d love to explore it with you inside Siren Island, the home for this whole journey.You’ll find live classes, special bonus trainings, events, and so much more waiting for you.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

**The Question:** My boyfriend of four months is sometimes quite lazy in bed. Ha ha. Meaning he lets me do most of the work. He may be tired, but I feel there’s something deeper. He’s normally quite masculine. What can I do? From Rori: So when you say you’re “doing the work” — are you doing it on him, or on yourself? Sex is… you know, it’s many things. It can be slow and tantric. It can be touch-oriented, breathing together, looking into each other’s eyes — just *feeling*. It’s so much touching. And it doesn’t even have to mean intercourse. It’s energy. It’s an exchange. The joy is the *experience* — that incredible, orgasmic freedom that lets your spirit flutter right out of your body and fly around the room. That wild, sacred release that feels like freedom. You can do that on your own, yes — but it’s even more powerful in his presence. Just lay there on your back and say, “I just wanna lay here like a couch — could you please f my brains out?” Try that next time!Take off all your clothes and say, > “I want you to just… make me crazy,” and watch what happens. Siren Island is where we practice voicing what you want like this — together. Where you’ll learn to feel safe in your feminine power and to express your desire in every area of life — with love, with laughter, with softness, with fire. There're live classes, embodiment practices, a sisterhood that holds you while you explore, and tools that help you live this way *everywhere*. Siren Island is here: https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/ Love, Rori

Teal is one of my Rori Raye coach Superstars, and she has already taught two full masterclasses inside the Siren Island Community.Today, she’s back to share how she became a true “Feminifestor” — in love, in partnership, and in the way men respond to her.I don’t talk about Law of Attraction very often, and yet many of my trained coaches and so many of my clients become master Feminifestors in their own lives.This is a special sneak peek of MAN-ifest — an introduction to the energetics of calling in a committed, emotionally available partner, and a preview of what Teal will be teaching in depth during the upcoming 5-day MAN-ifest experience.I hope you love this introduction to Teal’s event — I’ll be there!✨ Join Teal’s 5-Day Virtual Party Here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/a/2148190876/FUg42oqzLove, Rori

If you’re in a marriage or a relationship with a guy who’s like a 20–30% — as a rule, anything under 50% as a rule — maybe pops up every now and then into an 80% and then he pops back down, and you just feel always like a pull towards him, like he’s pulling on you.That’s your clue.The way you deal with that marriage and make it better: you step back.You disconnect the part of you that is doing the work.You disconnect the “I’m doing the work.”You disconnect the weight on the 20%, the 30%, the 80%.You disconnect the anger because you know he’s below 50% as a rule.You do not trust him.You do not feel good about him.You are unhappy on many levels.And so you are angry.You’ve got to get in touch with that.You’ve got to deal with that.You’ve got to feel that.You’ve got to step back and stop saving the marriage.Stop it!He’s never felt you step back and get bored with him.And if you’re not on Siren Island, all of this may sound incredibly new to you — when you’re feeling in your Feminine Energy… everything feels better (even when things aren’t going the way you want…). The Siren Island Course & Community is here to help you find your Feminine Energy, feel it fully, and live from it! Everything changes once you experience your emotions instead of shoving them away… your power starts to bubble up and give you faith in yourself.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

We’ve been taught that leadership means being in control, being the smartest one in the room, keeping everything tight and contained.But that isn’t actually where your power is.Your power is in your emotional presence.When you let yourself feel at work—joy, disappointment, pride, frustration—you become magnetic. People trust you more. They open to you. They follow you because they can feel you leading, not just instructing.Feminine leadership is not weak. It is impactful.It changes the room.It changes the team.It changes the way you relate to yourself.And yes, it takes practice to feel safe being seen like that.It takes support.It takes sisterhood.It takes a space where we practice softness, boundaries, expression, and being deeply held.Siren Island is where you can practice with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.Join us here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/Love, Rori

Most men — real, grounded, emotionally available men — want to treat you like a queen.They want to adore you, provide for you, and see you light up when you feel safe and cherished.The challenge isn’t finding those men — it’s recognizing them, and allowing yourself to receive what they offer.So many women attach to men who aren’t ready, who don’t want to grow — and in doing that, they stop their own growth, too.But when you begin to trust yourself, to hold your boundaries, to stay free while open… everything shifts.You start to see the calm, steady men — the ones who already see you as “enough.”Don’t you think that free-spirited women are the most attractive women in the world? So wouldn’t we want to be that?Every month on The Siren Island Official Course & Community, I’ll be there to answer your questions and help you get clear on the big-ticket things you want—and then express those wants to men.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-islandLove, Rori

Being messy is one of the first steps to being free. How could you possibly go from being constricted and choosing men who don’t give you real love to being free enough to have amazing relationships and an amazing life? On the way to your feminine energy, everything comes apart. You have to untangle the beads before you can make a new necklace. It’s going to be messy — but that’s how you begin to breathe again.When you hide your emotions, your nervous system breaks down. Stress overloads you, and the patterns that once kept you safe start to crumble. That’s when the feminine arrives — in the chaos, in the feeling, in the honesty of who you really are. Because when you finally let yourself be messy — when you stop trying to hold it all together — that’s the moment your feminine energy wakes up.This is the heart of feminine energy — and Siren Island will help you live it every day.The Siren Island Official Course & Community will get you where you want to go in every part of your life because you'll finally learn how to live from your Feminine Energy. Check out Siren Island here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

Sometimes the man you’re drawn to brings out fear, anger, or pain. And when he finally shows up, what you feel isn’t joy… it’s relief.Have you noticed that when you feel afraid most of the time, everything starts to feel heavy — even your relationships?That little rush of chemistry or passion can feel like love, but real love feels different. It feels safe. Steady. Connected.If he isn’t truly showing up — if you’re carrying the whole relationship — that’s not love. That’s fear running the show.You deserve something real. That’s why I created The Rori Raye Feminine Energy Siren Island — a space to heal your emotions, learn how to recognize real love, and grow your ability to have it all just by being your authentic girl-self.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

We’re not broken — it’s trauma! Many of us choose partners who aren’t good for us, sometimes even narcissists or psychopaths, and blame ourselves.It’s your background, not your worth.We’ve been taught to stay small, and yet the healing begins when we expand.Try this:Stretch your arms wide. Feel the edges of the room, the mountain, the ocean.As you grow bigger, the man you’re pining for suddenly feels smaller.You don’t have to choose between love and anger — your bigness lets you feel them all at once.You just need to feel the feelings.In The Rori Raye Feminine Energy Siren Island, you’ll learn my Feminine Energy tools to feel stronger — inside yourself and in front of a man, now and forever, no matter where you’re starting from.Here’s Siren Island:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

He Wants You Mad!Some men provoke anger on purpose. When he’s defensive or distant, it’s often guilt—he already feels he’s not doing enough. If you explode, he gets the alibi he needs to pull away: “See? You’re always angry.”Step out of that trap.Take two slow steps back, say nothing, and let his words land. Don’t feed the guilt loop. The shift in energy alone can change the whole dynamic.Many of us feel drawn to the men who give the least, while dismissing the good ones. That isn’t weakness—it’s subconscious self-protection. The first step toward change is to notice the pattern and stop giving away your life-force to men who won’t meet you halfway.Lean back. Breathe. Protect your energy.When you stop reacting, you break the cycle and reclaim your power to choose love that feels safe, healthy, and mutual.Bring the tools off the podcast and into your life.Join Siren Island for live classes, a replay library, and a warm, supportive community. Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori