QuitByHealing - beat porn addiction & level up your life

https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ ☝️ this is the link for the QuitByHealing Community, all the free courses I mentioned in the episode and for the 21 day QuitByHealing Program. When you use p*rn a lot, one of the consequences is that it changes and warps your desires. It's common for addicts to end up watching content that isn't even aligned with their true desires or even true sexual orientation. In today's episode, we examine the phenomenon and explain how you can "uninstall" those fake desires and return to a healthy, wholesome and authentic sexuality. Note: this is advanced content. If you are only just starting on your journey of addiction recovery, there is better content for you to start with. I recommend the first episode of the podcast: https://youtu.be/MIRntVnoX34?si=dPopq2M7SvNuOucE And this "how to quit" crash course: https://youtu.be/ttNE0Fd9PoI?si=lpu5g8QwD_TMkOdg Chapters: 00:00 An Important Warning 02:13 Emotional Burden 07:16 How to Heal 09:10 Real vs. Fake Desire 12:44 What Happens When You Quit 14:00 How to Develop Healthy Desire The most radical way to quit your addictions and reset your life: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=G7v2cPdbzEjdSJdb What happens if you relapse? https://youtu.be/lNvWG65Ta0Q?si=WHwPbEPpOTf7z4sk Why non-resistance is (scientifically) the best way to change: https://youtu.be/couAdusdd1w?si=dtuBOYkz4SXvWvhr --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Do you ever feel like you're trying so hard to improve yourself and improve your life... but you're not making any progress? You're watching all this self help content, reading books, learning strategies, trying new things but you're just not sure if any of it is working. If so, this is the most important message you need to hear. It's what I wish someone had told me 20+ years ago, when my own journey started. Only through years of experience in building several businesses and in developing my own skills (pretty much from total loser to living the dream life) did I finally understand what I'm sharing with you in this video. Learn my system here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ 00:00 - Intro 01:27 - Building a Successful Business 04:29 - Turning My Life Around 08:17 - Success Paradox 09:41 - Lesson from 2 Stories 10:55 - Why this is a Hidden Truth 12:41 - How to Actually Win 15:56 - Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ "You're just doing it because you're single! Once you get a girlfriend or wife, you'll be fine!" This is what many people believe / hope about p*rn use and p*rn addiction. It's just a normal, harmless thing that guys do, right? And once you're partnered, the problems go away... Unfortunately, the opposite is often true and users find that their habit causes even MORE problems when they're in a relationship than when they were single. Today, we'll look at why this is and what you can do right now to prevent your addiction from ruining your next (or current) relationship. 00:00 Intro 01:03 My Story 06:17 How the addiction affects a relationship 08:58 When an addict gets into a relationship 11:10 What to Do: Single 15:28 What to Do: Partnered 17:18 Conclusion How to take leadership in communication & relationship: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0 How to establish healthy boundaries: https://youtu.be/ijVGplE45gI How to completely reset your brain in 30 days: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA Subscribe to the podcast, leave a voice note: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh Watch my interview on the Modern Couples Summit: https://summit.modern-couples.com/#aff=skillmedia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

...and realizing this is like a cheat code for life. Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ You're making your life unnecessarily difficult by going after the things you want. Wait, what..? Isn't it a good thing to go for what you want? Well, yes. But there's one problem: the things you THINK you want aren't what you REALLY want. And in many cases, going after what you think you want actually makes it harder for you to get what you really want. I know this may sound a bit complicated, but that's exactly why I recorded this episode for the QuitByHealing podcast: once you understand this idea, it becomes a real life hack. It's what I used to shortcut my way to living my dream life. Sounds like a big claim, but I have the stories from my personal life to back it up. So strap in and take notes. If you get it, this might just change your life. Subscribe to the podcast, leave a voice note: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh 00:00 Intro 01:06 What You Think You Want vs. What You Really Want 01:25 I want the perfect physique 02:33 The Question 03:40 Lifting to Be Attractive to Women? 06:25 A shorter path to your goal 08:35 Direct or by Proxy? 09:07 I want a better jawline 10:04 I want status & respect 11:36 I want to be rich 14:10 Chasing Rainbows 14:41 Un-Addict Yourself 16:59 How to Do This 18:00 Conclusion The ultimate way to quit your addictions, reset your dopamine levels & become a radically better version of you: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=klTCTyDrI2Qcbr7Y The 3 stages of overcoming addictive behaviors: https://youtu.be/dXfLDUFt7jg?si=3i8Zs9zJ7Yq_CcwJ Being bored is good, actually: https://youtu.be/60ak4oTpPG4?si=PgFD5p59RxlC8RM1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ For men, our development is stunted by the modern world and most of us are stuck in "man-child mode" in many areas of our lives. In the last episode, I shared a technique you can use to form deep connections with people (like a mature man) instead of only shallow connections (like a child). In this episode, we're looking at the flip side of this communication coin: how to establish and defend healthy boundaries. This might sound simple, but the truth is that A) most likely no one has ever taught you how to do this and B) if you do this correctly, it's absolutely life changing. If you: find yourself surrounded by toxic people who don't support you are a pushover and you're tired of it want to be taken seriously want to be able to make a powerful impression on people want to be able to project authority want to be a more desirable man You absolutely NEED the tool of healthy boundaries in your toolkit. 00:00 Intro 01:28 Not Everyone Deserves Your Trust 04:00 What Are Healthy Boundaries? 05:15 An Example 06:13 What Unhealthy Boundaries Look Like 07:36 Mature Communication is Contagious 08:52 Make a Better Impression 09:59 Become a Man of Values 13:46 How to Handle Boundary Violations 15:42 Practice in Small Steps 16:23 How it Changes Your Life 18:12 Surround Yourself With Excellence 19:08 Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ The world you live in is unfortunately keeping you stuck in man-child mode. This happens in many ways and one of them is the topic of this podcast episode: you never learn to create and cultivate deep social connections or deep romantic connections. The world (especially the online media world) is obsessed with all the aspects of shallow and fleeting connection. It trains you to chase variety and to see social connection through the lens of status. But shallow connections always leave you feeling empty and lonely, no matter how many people you're surrounded by. This applies to both platonic connections as well as romantic ones. In response to widespread dissatisfaction, we see a lot of complaining and entitlement. Everyone's unhappy and in the modern dating discourse, everyone's trying to find someone to blame for this unhappiness. Someone other than themselves, that is. Instead, let's look at exactly why this is happening and how you are being called to step up and take on the role of a mature man and the role of leadership in your relationships. 00:00 Intro 01:40 Two Modes of Connection 04:18 What Does it Mean to Connect Deeply? 08:27 Depth of Connection in Romance 10.37 Don't Know What You're Missing 13:22 How You're Stuck in Boyhood 14:30 Solution, Part 1 17:17 Solution, Part 2 18:40 Solution, Part 3 20:40 Growth Outside the Comfort Zone 21:57 Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ What does it take to transform your life completely? Is it even possible to go from dead-end existence, complete lack of direction, low energy, no motivation... to living an awesome life, feeling driven, feeling motivated every day? As you'll discover in this episode, the answer is most definitely YES. But there are also clear reasons why most people never make such a dramatic transformation. Once you understand what's holding you back, you're one step closer to making it happen. 00:00 Intro 00:51 Is it even possible? 02:05 Resistance 04:53 Social Discomfort 06:16 Step 1: Replace Passive Consumption 07:37 Too extreme? 08:18 Change Your Brain 11:08 Why You Should to the Spartan Challenge 12:15 Creating instead of consuming 15:01 The Highest ROI Thing You Can Do 18:10 Rapid Skill Building 20:25 Conclusion 22:04 Digging My Own Grave? The 30 day Spartan Mode challenge: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Folks, this is a big one. We decided to once and for all, completely and comprehensively answer the question: "what should I do when I get the urge to relapse?" This is the complete answer. Not only are we laying out 60+ options for what to do instead of relapsing, but we're exploring exactly why these things work and how it all fits together. Find the full write up and visual mind-map here: https://quitbyhealing.com/urges/ Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Quit Porn Crash Course: https://quitbyhealing.com/quit-porn/ Topics covered in this episode: 00:00 The best way to deal with urges 01:21 The Two Categories 03:28 Exercise, Movement & Burpees 05:20 Don't just resist 07:21 Sport 08:50 Movement Skills 13:53 Movement is Brain Healthy 15:18 Cooking Skills 17:02 Emotional Skills 18:15 Introspective Writing 20:12 Meditation 21:39 Push a little further 23:35 Mental Skills (Reading) 29:40 Active learning & Mental Models 30:18 Social Skills 32:13 Communication Skills 35:38 Social Courage 38:08 Financial skills - Income, Save, Invest 38:39 Too many options 40:58 Rest 41:42 Nervous System - Breathwork 43:26 Addiction Replacement 48:56 Move Through the Urge 49:21 Sitting in the Fire, Embodiment & Boredom 53:00 Active Engagement: Shadow Work 54:00 Amplify the Feeling (Advanced) 57:47 How does this serve me? 01:00:02 Conversation with Addict Self (IFS) 01:03:25 Writing: Emo Dump 01:05:55 Self-Awareness is a Skill 01:07:08 Energy Transmutation Practices 01:11:42 Eureka Moments & Pointing Out the Obvious 01:12:41 What is the best thing to do? 01:18:10 Build your own Version 01:19:24 Where to start? (Self Responsibility) 01:23:18 Don't do it alone The Summarised List & Full "How To Beat Urges" Protocol Details: https://quitbyhealing.com/urges/ 👆 NO SIGN UP REQUIRED - 100% free information to help you quit p*rn and other addictions. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Quit Porn Crash Course: https://quitbyhealing.com/quit-porn/ In this episode, Shane and Abhi take a deep dive into how pornography addiction (and other dopamine traps) can become the main obstacles preventing you from achieving your life's goals. Through a community survey, we've identified the profound desires people have in life, with healthy relationships and personal growth emerging as top priorities. Of course, when an addiction to porn comes into play, your chances of success are significantly hindered, cutting you off at the knees. Join us for a candid conversation about breaking free from these dopamine traps and regaining control of your life. Gain valuable insights and actionable advice on overcoming the allure of instant gratification and pursuing a brighter future. The SPARTAN MODE Approach to Overcoming Addiction: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA Chapters in this podcast 00:00 - Intro: Is porn a roadblock to your best self? 02:24 - Community Survey: You Want to be a Better Man 06:36 - Sexual Energy is your Life Force 14:04 - A distorted view of Success 18:31 - The Impossible Standard 25:10 - IRL Feels Good 29:07 - Dopamine traps are keeping you stuck 34:08 - The Comfort Trap: Abundance 40:20 - Self Control is the Key 43:12 - Don't wait for rock bottom Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Quit Porn Crash Course: https://quitbyhealing.com/quit-porn/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ A lot of folks in the self-development community often find themselves sifting through advice that may not be relevant to their situation. They encounter elite optimization plans, intense bootcamps, and claims of "the fastest and best" methods to achieve their goals, typically offered by high-achievers and coaches. In this podcast episode, we're introducing a model that breaks down self-development into four levels. This model will assist you in assessing your current level and provide practical tips to help you progress up the ranks. The Levels of Self Development: Level Zero - No Lifer Level 1 - GYST Level 2 - The Top 1% Level 3 - Mastery & Paying it Forward The 5 Pillars of GYST (Get your Sh*t Together): 1 - Physical (Fitness, Strength, Mobility & Nutrition) 2 - Emotional (Awareness & Resilience) 3 - Metal (Knowledge & Development) 4 - Social (Communication & Relationships) 5 - Financial (Literacy & Career Capital) To get the full episodes on how to practically improve these domains in your life see ikario podcast. Physical https://youtu.be/gfYaJ9TTqzE Emotional https://youtu.be/mTGLM0bKOOs Metal https://youtu.be/f6LiWVBZwGY Social https://youtu.be/IVuOh1llq64 Financial https://youtu.be/goZ9EzldSko Chapters in this podcast 00:00 - Intro: What advice is right for me? 03:31 - The 4 Levels of Personal Development 04:23 - Level Zero: No-Lifer 07:42 - Addiction Keeps You Stuck 11:02 - Unconsciously Seeking Escape 15:16 - You Cannot Consume a Solution 16:03 - Level 1: GYST (Get Your Shit Together) 19:26 - Level 2: Top 1% 22:56 - Level 3: Mastery & Paying it Forward 25:23 - Motivated by Making a Difference 29:10 - Role Modelling to Make a Change 32:44 - Level Zero Advice: Stacking Small Wins 38:45 - Start Where You're At 40:16 - High-Functioning Level Zero 42:43 - Deliberate Action 44:24 - Tracking Small Wins 45:06 - Level 1 Advice: Kill Internal Suffering 48:01 - Level 1 Advice: Consistency & Remove Friction 56:31 - What is a Skill I Need? 59:16 - The Basics Are Underestimated 1:03:52 - Level 2 Advice: Prioritize & Optimize 1:08:49 - Level 3 Advice: Be open to the Transition 1:10:01 - Summary of the Levels 1:12:21 - Outro Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ The SPARTAN MODE Approach to Overcoming Addiction: https://youtu.be/XIJs36sHZo0?si=V7DOhfNtFNRCxbeQ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community to beat p*rn addiction once and for all: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Porn addiction is a serious issue. It affects mental health, mood, motivation and many other aspects of life. Not least, it affects everything related to love, dating, romance and sex. As I've discovered through my work with addicts, the addiction creates a complicated, tangled mess that construes all the guilt and shame associated with pornography overuse with healthy desire, romantic feelings and acts of self pleasure. In this podcast episode, I attempt to untangle this mess so that you can move towards a healthy, happy relationship with desire, sex and romance in your own life. In this episode: 00:00 - Intro 01:09 - What is and isn’t harmful 03:50 - A much needed definition of terms 05:12 - Why the untangling is important 06:32 - Religion and shame 07:33 - What it means for quitting 10:08 - Unhealthy self pleasure? 12:49 - Healthy self pleasure habits 14:34 - How porn addiction affects partnered sex 17:04 - Sex and human connection 18:50 - A period of abstinence 20:23 - Beware of simple stories The most effective way to beat p*rn addiction and rapidly rewire your brain: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=jkYHWMHeEONt8DZ5 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ My 30 day challenge summary - see what SPARTAN MODE actually looks like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sbPSY9ktLIA I followed the Spartan Mode protocol for 30 days. The protocol is designed to completely obliterate all bad habits, addictions and all the ways in which we keep ourselves from really living to our full potential. In this episode, I share in detail what the experience was like and what lessons I took from it. What we cover: - The most surprising and unexpected positive effects of cutting out ALL media consumption. - Why doing an extreme challenge is easier than doing a moderate challenge. - How Spartan Mode is designed to unhook you from addictive behaviors AND rewire your brain as quickly as possible. - How to transition back into "real life" after such an extreme challenge. - What the hardest thing about the challenge was, which almost made me give up. - The most important lessons I took from the challenge and how you can use them to your advantage. Check out the QuitByHealing Program here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing Community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Since starting QuitByHealing, I have received thousands of comments on my videos, TikToks and in the QbH community. In all of these comments, I am seeing clear patterns and one of them is this: There are 3 limiting beliefs that are very common... and that make you fail because they create a self fulfilling prophecy. So in today's podcast episode, we examine these 3 limiting beliefs, look at how they are part of your self sabotaging behavior and discover what you can do to fix them. Subscribe to the podcast, leave a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh 00:00 - Intro 01:15 - Limiting Belief Nr. 1 02:30 - Fun With Cognitive Biases 05:03 - Cognitive Biases in Action 05:43 - Self Fulfilling Prophecy 06:53 - How to Fix Limiting Belief Nr. 1 09:49 - Limiting Belief Nr. 2 12:53 - How to Fix Limiting Belief Nr. 2 15:42 - A Tool for Awareness 16:30 - Limiting Belief Nr. 3 18:15 - How to Fix Limiting Belief Nr. 3 19:03 - The 4 Pillars of QuitByHealing --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

All the QuitByHealing links & resources: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ All of Jeremy's links & resources: https://linktr.ee/jeremymindful Check out Jeremy's podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1648984850 In today's episode of the podcast, meet Jeremy Lipkowitz. He is a guy who seemingly had it all: academic and athletic success, friends, good health and hopeful prospects for the future... and yet, he was plagued with an addiction to pornography that stole all his joy. He got fed up with this state of being and chose a radical solution: he left his life behind, traveled to India and studied meditation and other contemplative practices. He was determined to get to the bottom of why his mind kept him stuck in compulsive behaviors and why he was unable to be happy despite things seemingly going so well in his life. The lessons he brought back from this journey not only helped him overcome his addiction but also changed his life in countless other ways. And today, he shares some of his most valuable insights with us. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:32 Jeremy's Turning Point 04:32 How to Gain Awareness 07:43 Hungry Ghost Behavior 12:15 Addiction Despite Living the Dream Life? 17:25 How to Untangle Yourself from Addiction 21:00 Expert Doom Scrollers 22:38 What is the Default State of Your Mind? 24:27 How to Transform Your Mind 27:27 Why You're Suffering 31:03 Rat Park Experiment 34:52 Where to Start the Healing Process 38:04 What to Do When You Relapse 39:37 Unwinding Your Feelings of Shame 44:17 A Uniquely Difficult Challenge 48:49 A Goal Worth Striving For --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

An important tool in your arsenal against temptations, urges and relapses is what we call a strong why. Having a strong, clear, emotionally resonant reason fro WHY you want to quit can make all the difference in a critical moment. In this episode, you'll discover exactly how a STRONG WHY works and the practical way in which you can create one for yourself. 00:00 Intro 00:57 The Counter Force 01:53 Example of a WEAK WHY 03:03 What Makes a STRONG WHY 05:46 The Painful Way to Create a STRONG WHY 07:51 How to Create Your WHY 12:43 Putting it Into Practice 14:46 Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the community, take the program, find all the important links: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ If you're trying to overcome addictive behavior, compulsive behavior or even just bad habits, here's an unusual thing to consider: what if you don't actually WANT TO quit? What if you're telling yourself that you really want to quit, that you want to improve and leave this addictive behavior behind... but there's part of you that really doesn't believe that. This might seem strange or even dangerous to consider, but in today's podcast episode we explore why this idea can hold the key to the breakthrough you've been looking for. Ideas explored in this episode: 00:00 Stuck in the Relapse Cycle 01:34 A Not on Parts Work 02:28 The Reasonable Addict 04:37 Time to Stop Fooling Yourself 06:42 The SHTF Moment 10:04 How to Change Before Hitting Rock Bottom 12:21 Porn Use & Desire 14:53 How Awareness Helped Me Heal 17:28 Your Turn to Try Subscribe to the podcast & leave a voice message here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh How to quit porn, the crash course: https://youtu.be/ttNE0Fd9PoI Get my 21 day step-by-step program for overcoming porn addiction: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join my Discord community & get the QuitByHealing Program here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Addiction is a tricky problem, but what if the cause of it doesn't have to be complicated? What if there was a single, unifying source behind all addictive behaviors? And what if once you understand this, there's also a single, practical path to unwinding addiction? I believe this is true, it's just that the source is a bit hard to see. Especially in the context of our culture and double especially if you're a man... Topics we visit in this episode: - Why addiction is always a coping mechanism - How to understand the link between emotional pain and addictive behavior - The crucial difference between how to deal with emotional vs. physical pain - What we can learn from grief and a healthy grieving process - How all of this relates to p*rn addiction - How to turn this insight into a practical solution --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the QuitByHealing Program to overcome p*rn addiction in just 21 days: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Why is it so hard to shake bad habits and addictive behaviors? And on the other hand, it's also hard to create GOOD habits? Seems unfair. In this podcast episode, we explore the key obstacle: invisible consequences. You'll understand why you struggle with behavior change and you'll learn a simple and practical tool you can use to mitigate the problem of invisible consequences. In today's episode, we look at the concept of Invisible Consequences, why they make habit change so difficult and 2 practical things you can do to overcome this problem. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the Discord community & access my free courses: https://discord.gg/GuacgrT6Qp Leave a voice message: https://anchor.fm/qbh Today, we're answering a question sent in by a listener about PIED, porn induced erectile dysfunction. Also known as: not being able to stay hard during sex because you've desensitized yourself with pornography. The bad news is this: while porn can and often does cause ED, eliminating porn from your life is sometimes not enough to solve the problem. The good news is: you CAN solve this problem and in this episode, you'll learn exactly how. The even better news is: as a side effect of the method I teach here, you'll end up having much better sex than ever before! 00:00 Intro & Question 01:36 The Simple Solution Doesn't Work 03:02 How Porn Causes ED 06:22 Lifestyle Factors & ED 07:50 Psychological ED 11:56 How to Solve Psychological ED 12:08 Method 1: How to Stop Worrying 15:09 Method 2: Learn to Tease 20:47 How to Gain Confidence 23:07 Conclusion How to quit porn without relapsing: https://youtu.be/lQgquJeV6Vk How to heal the root causes of your porn addiction: https://youtu.be/6kLDX56sUzs --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message

Join the Discord community & access my Introspective Writing tutorials: https://discord.gg/GuacgrT6Qp Why is there so much confusion on this topic? Some people claim that pornography is completely harmless and everyone has the right to get off on whatever they want. Other people claim porn is the worst thing ever, will lead to the demise of humanity... oh and by the way, if you quit, you get superpowers! It can be confusing and frustrating for anyone trying to navigate this space and figuring out what is best for themselves. The main reason for all this confusion is that most people don't realize that A) porn addiction exists and B) there are levels to it. Once you understand what these levels are, you also understand why people disagree so much and why different kinds of advice will either work or not work for different kinds of people. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message