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The Disrespect Epidemic: Why Kids Are Ruder Than Ever and What to Do | Regulation-First Parenting | E375

2026-01-2118:02

Kids today seem sharper, quicker to snap, and harder to parent—and it’s leaving many families exhausted. In this episode, we explore The Disrespect Epidemic: Why Kids Are Ruder Than Ever and What to Do with Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, founder of Regulation First Parenting™, who reveals how emotional dysregulation—not bad parenting—drives today’s behaviors and how calming the brain restores respect. If you feel like your child’s eye rolling, snapping, or sharp tone has gotten worse, you’re not imagining it—and you’re not failing. Many parents are quietly wondering why parenting feels harder than ever, even when they’re doing all the “right” things.In this episode, we unpack why kids are ruder than ever and what to do, revealing why disrespectful behavior has skyrocketed and why it’s really a sign of nervous system overload—not bad manners. You’ll learn what’s driving today’s explosive reactions and how calming the brain first can restore connection, respect, and peace at home.Why does my child seem so rude and disrespectful lately?Many parents worry their child’s disrespectful behavior means bad manners or poor values. But it’s not disrespect—it’s dysregulation. Children today are overstimulated, under-rested, and under constant pressure. When the nervous system is overwhelmed, skills like empathy, patience, and respectful tone go offline.What looks like rude behavior is really a stress response. Kids don’t wake up wanting to talk back or roll their eyes—their brains are stuck in survival mode.Takeaways:Behavior is communication, not defianceOverloaded brains lose access to self-controlYour child isn’t bad—their nervous system is strugglingExample: A 12-year-old snaps “Leave me alone!” when asked about homework. It’s not attitude—it’s emotional overload.Are kids today really ruder than past generations?Children today aren’t worse—they’re more dysregulated. Screens, constant noise, fast schedules, and emotional burnout leave little recovery time. Many young people hold it together at school, then explode at home where they feel safest.This is why disrespectful kids often save their worst behavior for parents and family members.Takeaways:Kids crash at home after holding it together all dayHyper-stimulation shortens frustration toleranceLosing problem-solving skills makes everything feel like a threat🗣️ “Kids don’t want to be disrespectful. It becomes the only thing their brain can do when they’re overloaded.” — Dr. RoseannWhy doesn’t my child listen or respond respectfully in the moment?When a child’s nervous system is in fight, flight, or freeze, the prefrontal cortex—the brain’s job manager—goes offline. You can’t reason, lecture, or punish your way through dysregulation.Matching their intensity only fuels a power struggle.What helps instead:Soft tone + calm...

Is Over-Scheduling Hurting Your Child’s Nervous System? | Emotional Dysregulation | E374

2026-01-1912:46

Is your child melting down despite a full schedule? Is over-scheduling hurting your child's nervous system? This episode reveals how too much activity dysregulates kids—and how less can bring calm. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, founder of Regulation First Parenting™, shows why calming the brain restores balance.If you’ve ever wondered why your child melts down after activities you thought were helping—or why home feels like the emotional fallout zone—you’re not alone.In this episode, I unpack how over scheduling can quietly overwhelm a child’s nervous system, why even “good” activities can backfire, and what actually helps kids find calm, focus, and emotional balance again.Is over scheduling hurting your child's nervous system—even with activities they love?Many parents sign kids up with good intentions: sports, music lessons, enrichment activities. But more isn’t always better. When children go from school to after school activities to homework to bed, their nervous system never gets a break.Key takeaways:Transitions drain neurological energyEven fun can be overstimulatingA constantly “on” brain can’t resetReal-life example: A child thrives at elementary school and extracurricular activities—but explodes over socks at home. That’s not bad behavior. It’s cumulative stress.Why does my child behave at school but fall apart at home?This is one of the biggest clues of a child overscheduled. Home is the safe place where the nervous system finally crashes. When kids hold it together all day, the stress has to come out somewhere.Watch for signs like:Tears, irritability, shutdownsResistance to simple tasksPhysical symptoms like headaches or stomach aches🗣️ “When kids fall apart at home but are phenomenal at school, it’s a classic sign of nervous system overload.” — Dr. RoseannIt’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.Can structured activities and enrichment harm mental health?Yes—when there’s no balance. Research shows chronic stress elevates cortisol, overloads the prefrontal cortex, and negatively impacts emotional well being, sleep, and a child’s cognitive ability.Too many scheduled activities can lead to:Higher anxiety and stress levelsTrouble sleeping or sacrificing sleepMood swings and emotional fragilityThis is especially true for kids with ADHD, anxiety, OCD, PANS/PANDAS, or other mental health challenges—but all children need downtime.If your child’s nervous system runs “hot,” tools like Quick CALM can help bring fast regulation support into daily life. Learn more at https://drroseann.com/quickcalm/.How do I know if my child is overscheduled?One activity alone isn’t the problem—it’s...

The #1 Reason Your Kid Doesn’t Listen (It’s Not What You Think) | Emotional Dysregulation | E373

2026-01-1413:04

The #1 reason your kid doesn’t listen isn’t defiance or attitude—it’s brain state. This episode reveals why listening shuts down during dysregulation and how calming the nervous system restores connection, guided by Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, founder of Regulation First Parenting™ and expert in childhood emotional dysregulation.When parents understand the reason your kid doesn’t listen, everything shifts. This episode breaks down how nervous system dysregulation—not attitude—impacts how kids listen, especially during transitions, and shows parents how calming the brain first restores connection and cooperation.Why does my child ignore me when I know they understand?This is such a big deal for many parents. Your child may be perfectly capable of understanding your words—and still not process them because their child's actual developmental reality doesn’t always match what we’re expecting in that moment.Listening isn’t a skill; it’s a brain state. When kids are dysregulated, the brain deprioritizes language, which can deeply strain the parent child relationship if we don’t understand what’s really happening.It’s not “they won’t,” it’s “they can’t—right now.” That’s why my work is about helping teach parents to stop personalizing behavior and start responding to the nervous system instead.Behavior is communication, and a child who ignores you is often overwhelmed or under-stimulated—which is why regulation always comes before cooperation. This is where practical tips rooted in brain science make all the difference.Takeaways:Dysregulation shuts down auditory processingOverstimulated brains feel noisy and reactiveUnderstimulated brains feel flat and checked outReal life Scenario: A parent asks a child to wear shoes, stop playing, grab their school bag—nothing. The child isn’t defiant. Their nervous system is louder than your voice.Is my child being disrespectful or oppositional?Many parents worry about oppositional defiant disorder or long-term disrespect. But compliance connotes coercion, and real listening comes from connection—not control, especially when we understand how children emotionally experience stress and authority.When children feel emotionally safe, their willingness to cooperate rises, and children follow rules more naturally. That’s how civil society operates—through regulation and relationships that children facilitate autonomy, not fear.What helps:Stop assuming attitudeAvoid yelling (voice carrying escalates stress)Offer gentle guidance instead of pathetic commands carried by frustrationIt’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.Want to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to a...

The Executive Function Trap: When Smart Kids Can’t Start | Emotional Dysregulation | E372

2026-01-1214:48

Why can smart kids explain everything yet can’t get started? The Executive Function Trap reveals how dysregulated brains block task initiation. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, creator of Regulation First Parenting™, helps parents calm the brain and restore executive skills.Ever watched your smart child know everything about black holes—but freeze at putting on their shoes or starting homework? It’s frustrating, confusing, and can feel impossible to fix. You’re not imagining it—and it’s not laziness. There’s a real reason bright kids struggle with starting and finishing tasks: executive function challenges.In this episode, we unpack why executive function deficits often masquerade as disobedience, defiance, or lack of motivation. You’ll learn what these core executive function skills are, why task initiation often fails in dysregulated brains, and practical, science-backed strategies to support your child’s success in school and everyday life.Why does my child freeze even when they’re so smart?Smart kids often know the content—they just can’t see the path from start to finish. Their prefrontal cortex struggles with task initiation and planning ahead, creating what I call the executive function trap.Visualize the end goal: Help your child picture the completed task.Break tasks into small, concrete steps: 3–5 micro-steps instead of overwhelming lists.Use movement and gestures: Activate visual and motor pathways to strengthen memory and planning.Real-Life ExampleMilo could explain black holes in depth but couldn’t start homework. Once we taught him to see the finished project and work backward, he could initiate tasks without panic.How can I teach executive function skills at home?Executive function isn’t fixed—these key skills can be developed over time with consistent practice. Think of it like learning to cook a new recipe: you visualize the final dish, then reverse engineer the steps.Scaffold the first steps without creating dependence.Encourage cognitive flexibility and impulse control by offering choices within structured limits.Use visual schedules, sticky notes, or body doubling to support working memory.Parent Tip: Cue the nervous system to regulate first—if your child is dysregulated, no executive function strategy will stick.Try Quick CALM for a quick regulation reset before tackling tasks.What’s the first executive function skill to address?The single most impactful skill is task initiation. Without the ability to start, even the most intelligent child can feel paralyzed. By teaching children to:Imagine the end resultWork backward through the stepsli...

You’ve Tried Everything… Here’s Why Your Child Still Struggles | Emotional Dysregulation | E371

2026-01-0714:25

If you’re exhausted and wondering Why Your Child Still Struggles despite trying everything, this episode explains what’s really going on. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, founder of Regulation First Parenting™, reveals how nervous system dysregulation—not parenting failure—blocks real change.If you’re exhausted from trying therapy, medication, behavior charts, or every tip the internet throws at you, you’re not alone. So many parents reach out after years of effort, still confused about their child’s behavior and why change never seems to stick.Today, I’m breaking down what’s actually happening inside a dysregulated brain—because this isn’t about willpower, effort, or “trying harder.” It’s about calming the nervous system first so kids can learn, grow, and handle difficult emotions in healthier ways.Why does my child still struggle even after therapy, meds, and behavior charts?If you feel like you’ve done “all the things” and nothing sticks, you’re not alone.Most parents are given strategies that target symptoms instead of calming the nervous system first. And when a child’s brain is stuck in survival mode, problem solving skills, self regulation, cooperation, frustration tolerance, and even basic listening become neurologically impossible.Megan’s story says it all. After years of OT, speech, CBT, and multiple meds, her son Jack still couldn’t transition, follow directions, manage anxiety, or regulate emotions. She felt defeated — but the real problem wasn’t effort… it was sequence.Key Takeaways:Behavior is communication, not defiance.A dysregulated nervous system pulls the prefrontal cortex offline.You can’t teach children skills during dysregulation.It’s not bad parenting — it’s a dysregulated brain.Many kids struggle not because they’re unmotivated, but because their brain is overwhelmed.At school, with friends, or during transitions, your child may be struggling to manage frustration, think clearly, or solve problems—so lectures and consequences often bounce right off.🗣️ “You haven’t tried everything — you’ve just been shown what to try first in the wrong order.” — Dr. RoseannWhy does my child fall apart even though they’re smart and capable?Smart kids can still get stuck in fight, flight, or freeze. When the limbic system takes over, language, frustration tolerance, and cooperation shut down—this is why children struggle, even when a child who “knows better” suddenly can’t listen, transition, or self-regulate.Look for clues:Sudden irritabilityAvoidance“I won’t” moments that are truly “I can’t”Micro-signs of dysregulation before the meltdownParent tip: Start observing your child like a detective — the little signals matter.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do...

370: Which Therapeutic Diet Really Helps Neurodivergent Kids? GFCF, Keto, Paleo & More Explained with Julie Matthews

2026-01-0550:39

Confused about diets for neurodivergent kids? In this episode, we answer Which Therapeutic Diet Helps Neurodivergent Kids, breaking down GFCF, keto, paleo, and more with Julie Matthews—guided by Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge’s Regulation First Parenting™ approach to calming emotional dysregulation.Which therapeutic diet really helps neurodivergent kids? Here’s what you need to know. Kids with ADHD, autism, anxiety, and emotional dysregulation can struggle so much, and you’re not imagining it—food truly can make or break their mood, focus, and behavior.In this episode, I talk with nutrition expert Julie Matthews about which therapeutic diet really helps neurodivergent kids, how diet affects the brain, and simple ways to start even if your child is picky.Why does food affect my child’s mood, behavior, and attention so much?Food is powerful because it either nourishes the brain or bogs the nervous system down with inflammation. Julie breaks it into two parts:Add nutrient-dense foods that support brain function, address nutritional deficiencies, and promote brain health in children with autism and other autistic patients.A healthy and balanced diet or targeted dietary interventions can make a big difference.Remove problematic foods that affect gut health, trigger immune system dysregulation, and impact cognitive function.Options may include a gluten free diet or ketogenic diets, tailored to genetic and environmental factors.Even brief swaps from processed foods and high sugar intake to whole foods often improve GI symptoms, autistic symptoms, mood, and attention.Key takeaways:Inflammation = dysregulationNourishing foods calm the brain faster than most parents expectEven one small change—like reducing dyes or food additives—can shift behavior fastParent StoryOne mom shared that removing red dye led to fewer after-school meltdowns within 48 hours—proof that eliminating unhealthy foods and additives can dramatically shift autism severity and mood disorders.Which therapeutic diet really helps neurodivergent kids?There’s no one-size-fits-all diet, but Julie’s clinical experience is clear: most neurodivergent children improve when they reduce sugar intake, remove gluten free casein (GFCF) triggers, and focus on healthy foods that improve gut bacteria, immune response, and brain development.Her book outlines a 12-step plan for implementing therapeutic diets, starting with removing dyes, flavors, preservatives, and then tailoring the diet to a child’s unique nutritional needs, GI disorders, and food sensitivities.Helpful starting points:Avoid artificial colors and additivesReduce sugarRemove gluten and dairy (high-impact inflammation triggers)Add protein, healthy fat, and whole foodsWhy this matters: 70% of American kids rely heavily on processed foods—foods that overstimulate the nervous system and deplete nutrients needed for attention and regulation.Want to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE...

369: The Real Reason You’re Stuck in Power Struggles (No One Talks About This)

2025-12-3123:50

Discover the real reason you’re stuck in power struggles with your child and why discipline often fails. I’ll show you how understanding your child’s nervous system transforms conflict into calm, using my Regulation First Parenting™ strategies. Parenting can feel overwhelming, especially when every morning feels like a standoff or every request turns into conflict. You’re not alone. Many parents find themselves exhausted trying discipline systems, charts, or punishments—only to watch the same struggles repeat.In this episode, I share practical Regulation First Parenting™ strategies to break free from daily power struggles and help your child—and yourself—find calm and connection.Why am I always stuck in power struggles with my child?The truth is, power struggles aren’t about willfulness—they’re a direct result of a dysregulated nervous system. When a child’s brain is overstimulated, their emotional brain takes over, and logic and reasoning go offline.This can affect personal relationships at home and even influence how children interact in their work environment or with peers, making it harder to maintain a fulfilling life for the whole family.Without understanding these cues, parents can lose sight of their child’s deeper emotional needs, and behaviors may appear as a defense mechanism rather than purposeful disobedience.Tips to break the cycle:Pause before reacting: Your own nervous system sets the tone, helping you stay present instead of getting stuck in the same place of repeated conflict.Co-regulate first: Match your child’s emotional state before attempting correction.Focus on connection: Eye contact, soft tone, and proximity help your child feel safe.Real-Life ExampleAlex, a 9-year-old, transformed mornings from 45 minutes of chaos to 10 minutes of calm by teaching both him and his mom how to regulate before acting.How can I teach my child to regulate emotions instead of punishing them?Discipline systems only work when the frontal lobes are online. If a child is stressed, fearful, or dysregulated, punishment will often escalate conflict instead of teaching self-control.Takeaways:Regulate first, connect second, teach third.Use quick rituals like deep breaths, tapping, or short mindfulness exercises.Name what’s happening in the body, not who the child is: “Your body is tense—let’s calm it together” instead of “Stop being lazy.”When your child is dysregulated, it’s easy to feel helpless.The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.What role does my own self-awareness play in power struggles?Your own feelings and nervous system deeply influence your

368: You Can’t Regulate a Child With an Unregulated Nervous System: Are you Stuck in Co-Dysregulation?

2025-12-2910:55

Are you stuck in co-dysregulation? When your child’s nervous system spikes, yours can too—creating a cycle of stress and overwhelm. In this episode, I share Regulation First Parenting™ strategies to calm both you and your child.When your child’s emotions spike, it can feel like a wildfire—and sometimes, it spreads to you too. You’re not alone.This episode dives into the real science behind co-dysregulation and how your own nervous system directly affects your child’s emotional regulation. Learn practical, step-by-step strategies to stay calm, reset your nervous system, and help your child self-regulate.Why Do I Catch My Child’s Emotions?Ever notice how your stress seems to mirror your child’s? That’s your mirror neurons in action, and it’s a core part of co regulation.Research suggests that your child’s brain literally mirrors yours, sensing tension through your tone, posture, and facial expressions, shaping their emotional responses and stress response.Key takeaway: If your body signals threat, your child’s nervous system picks it up instantly, increasing emotional dysregulation and potentially impacting their mental health.Emotional emphasis: It’s not bad parenting—it’s biology.Parent StoryOne mom realized her lecturing only escalated her son’s meltdown. Pausing and softening her voice changed the dynamic entirely.What Is Co-Dysregulation and Why Does It Happen?Co-dysregulation happens when both parent and child’s nervous systems spike at the same time. It’s a reactivity loop: the child dysregulates, the parent gets triggered, stress amplifies, and both spiral.Tip: Pause before responding. Ask yourself, “Am I calm enough to help?”You cannot calm a dysregulated child from a dysregulated state. Your own nervous system must lead the way.Parent StoryA parent learned to step back, breathe deeply, and approach calmly—creating a de-escalated environment where learning and problem-solving became possible.You don’t have to figure this out alone.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit: How to Stay Calm When Your Child Pushes Your Buttons and Stop Oppositional Behaviors.Head to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and start your calm parenting journey today.How Can I Co-Regulate Instead of Escalate?Co-regulation isn’t about fixing your child—it’s about anchoring both of your nervous systems in safety. The polyvagal theory shows that a regulated adult cues a child’s body to stand down from threat.Practical steps:Take a deep breath, stretch, or move to calm yourself first.Lead with safety, not control—lower your voice, soften your face, slow your movements.Remember: kids learn by catching your calm, just as they catch chaos.Parent StoryOne mom stopped lecturing mid-meltdown, observed the pattern, and...

367: The 4 Calming Phrases Parents Say Changed Everything

2025-12-2409:55

When your child melts down, every parent feels that moment of panic—What do I say? How do I help them calm? In this episode, I break down the 4 Calming Phrases Parents Say Changed Everything and how these simple, rhythmic statements help a dysregulated brain return to safety and connection.Parenting a child whose emotions shift from zero to one hundred can feel overwhelming, but understanding what the brain needs in those tense moments changes everything. These phrases aren’t fluffy scripts. They’re co-regulation tools that speak directly to a child’s nervous system, reduce overwhelm, and open the door to emotional learning.This episode offers practical guidance on why these phrases work, how to use them during real-life meltdowns, and how parents can stay grounded even when their child is losing control.Why do calming phrases work better than lectures during meltdowns?When a child is in fight, flight, or freeze, they literally can’t hear you. Logical thinking and critical thinking skills shut down as survival mode takes over. That’s why telling a child to “calm down,” “stop crying,” or “use your words” never works in the red zone—no matter your parenting style.Calming phrases act as safety cues. They help create a shift because they:Support emotional regulation in both parent and childPrevent you from barking orders when you’re stressedSignal safety so a child can feel connected rather than overwhelmedMake space for real boundary setting and the ability to set limitsReduce the urge for people pleasing or power strugglesCreate the conditions where kids learn instead of shut downStrengthen the entire family dynamic through calm communicationThese cues slow the moment and tell your child’s brain, “You’re not in danger. You’re not alone.”And that’s when real connection—and real teaching—can finally happen.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.What are the 4 calming phrases parents say changed everything?1. “I’m with you.”This phrase instantly grounds a child who feels scared, overwhelmed, or ashamed.It tells their nervous system they aren’t alone, which is essential for emotional regulation.A parent shared that after years of nightly homework battles, whispering “I’m with you” softened her child’s panic—and changed the emotional tone of their entire household.2. “Let’s slow down.”Kids borrow our rhythm. When you slow your voice, breath, and movements, their brain naturally syncs to your calm.Saying “Let’s slow down” teaches emotional pacing and helps them step out of survival mode and back into connection.3. “We’ll get through this.”Dysregulated kids often think the moment is catastrophic. This phrase restores perspective and safety.It teaches resilience—not avoidance—and shows your child that problems are temporary and manageable with support.4. “It’s okay to feel upset.”Validation lowers cortisol and reduces overwhelm.Instead of shutting emotions down, this phrase teaches kids that...

366: When the Sun Goes Down, the Meltdowns Begin—Here’s Why

2025-12-2214:54

Ever wonder why your child seems calm all day but melts down at night? I explain why child's meltdowns begin when the nervous system finally exhales, and share Regulation First Parenting™ strategies to help kids self-regulate. Parenting a child whose emotions swing from calm to chaos can feel overwhelming, especially at night. Understanding why child's meltdowns begin and how to respond with compassion can transform bedtime from a battle into a moment of connection.This episode dives into the triggers behind evening meltdowns and how to use proactive strategies to support emotional regulation.Why does my child meltdown as soon as bedtime arrives?Evening meltdowns aren’t about defiance—they’re about decompression.After a full day of school, activities, and sensory input, your child’s nervous system is depleted. Their brain finally “exhales,” which can lead to:Cortisol spikes that make relaxation difficultRestlessness and avoidance as the body struggles to calmReassurance-seeking behaviors fueled by anxiety or OCDReal-Life ExampleYour child who seemed perfectly calm all day suddenly refuses to get into bed, insisting on checking locks repeatedly. These challenging behaviors are their brain’s way of saying, “I’m overwhelmed and need safety.”How can I help my child self-regulate before bedtime?Leading with calm is key. You can’t lecture a dysregulated brain—co-regulation comes first.Start 30 minutes early: Dim lights, lower voices, and turn off screens.Introduce a wind-down ritual: Stretching, quiet music, or gentle yoga can cue the brain for sleep.Use humor and gentle touch: A hug or light hand pressure can reinforce safety and connection.🗣️ “When the sun goes down, your child's brain isn't trying to ruin things. It's trying to release from the day.”— Dr. RoseannWant to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and grab your kit today.What are common triggers for toddler temper tantrums and meltdowns in young children?Evening meltdowns are often unlike tantrums seen earlier in the day. Common triggers include:Sensory overload from lights, sounds, or devicesUnexpected changes in routineEmotional distress or anxiety around school, tests, or social interactionsParent fatigue—co-dysregulation can escalate meltdownsProactive strategies:Teach coping skills like deep breathing, short stretches, or grounding exercises.Reinforce positive behaviors and model calm responses to help your child learn self-regulation over time.Struggling to help your child calm down quickly?Try Quick CALM, a science-backed mini course reset designed to settle your child’s nervous system and reduce meltdowns fast.How can I reinforce positive behaviors and manage future tantrums?Creating a predictable, calming bedtime...

365: The Real Reason Your Child Is Struggling in School (and How to Fix It at Every Age)

2025-12-1719:50

Many bright kids struggle daily in school, and it’s not because of laziness or lack of effort. The real reason your child is struggling in school is often a dysregulated nervous system. I’ll show you how Regulation First Parenting™ strategies help kids calm, focus, and thrive.Every parent knows the sinking feeling when homework, tests, or transitions turn your child’s school day into a battle. It’s tempting to think the problem is effort, attitude, or ability—but the truth is, learning, focus, and motivation depend on regulation. When a child’s nervous system is overstimulated or under stimulated, even the brightest students can struggle academically.In this episode, I break down why kids across all ages—from preschoolers to college students—face learning challenges, and how parents can partner with schools and use evidence-based strategies to unlock their child’s full potential.Why does my child melt down over schoolwork or transitions?Many children experience sensory or emotional overload, leading to meltdowns, avoidance, or shutdowns. Younger kids often face developmentally inappropriate expectations or tasks that feel too big, which triggers fight, flight, or freeze responses.Recognizing that every child has different learning styles is key, because what feels overwhelming to one child may feel manageable to another. Understanding your child’s learning process helps you tailor support and maintain progress in their child’s education, whether during the regular school year or even summer school.Tips for parents:Break tasks into manageable steps and offer sensory breaks.Validate your child’s feelings: “I see this is overwhelming, let’s take a minute.”Incorporate short nervous system resets, like deep breathing, gentle movement, or butterfly tapping.Real-Life ScenarioA preschooler refuses to start writing. Using a 3-minute reset and offering a small, achievable writing goal helps her calm and complete the activity.How can I help my middle or high schooler stay motivated?Middle and high school kids face growing demands on executive functioning—planning, organizing, and emotional regulation—all while managing increased homework, quizzes, and tests.Chronic stress can lead to procrastination, anxiety, or perfectionism, even in academically strong students.Tips for parents:Request a team meeting with teachers, guidance counselors, or case managers.Identify simple classroom supports, like sensory breaks or visual schedules.Encourage small, consistent self-regulation practices daily.🗣️ “You can’t pour knowledge into a brain that’s on fire—calm the brain first, and learning will follow.” — Dr. RoseannWhat can I do for my child’s learning in college?College is a test of independence and executive functioning.Without prior support, students may experience burnout, missed deadlines, anxiety, or withdrawal, regardless of intelligence. Nutrition, sleep, and coping strategies directly impact their academic performance and self-esteem.Tips for parents:Encourage self-advocacy and identify the school’s learning center resources.Know critical deadlines for dropping or adjusting classes to protect grades and...

364: Why Your Kid’s Brain Shuts Down When Plans Change

2025-12-1517:04

Child meltdowns spike when plans change because your child’s brain feels unsafe and the nervous system goes into survival mode. I’ll guide you through Regulation First Parenting™ strategies to calm, support, and help your child adapt with confidence.Every parent knows the moment when plans change and your child suddenly spirals into tears, anger, or shutdown. It feels overwhelming, frustrating, and sometimes even personal—but you’re not alone.In today’s episode, we explore why these meltdowns happen and practical ways to help your child stay regulated and resilient.Why does my child shut down when plans change?It’s not defiance—it’s anxiety in disguise. Many children struggle with flexibility because their nervous system craves predictability.When plans change, the amygdala—the brain’s fear center—takes over, and the prefrontal cortex responsible for logic goes offline.Small changes feel like danger to a dysregulated brain.Stress accumulates silently throughout the day (think schoolwork, transitions, friendships), filling your child’s “stress cup.”Meltdowns are the overflow, signaling their brain is overwhelmed.Parent StoryMaria’s daughter, Molly, would explode every weekend when plans shifted. By previewing the day and co-regulating, Maria helped Molly feel safe—and those meltdowns stopped.How can I help my child cope with unexpected changes?The key is regulation first, flexibility second. You can’t force a child to adapt if their nervous system is in survival mode. Instead:Preview changes in advance—give gentle warnings or visual schedules.Co-regulate through transitions—model calm, name emotions, and breathe together.Practice flexibility in small doses—switch dinner seating or minor routines while your child is calm.Tip: Every time your child navigates a small change successfully, their brain rewires for resilience. Predictability isn’t coddling—it’s scaffolding their emotional growth.Why do some kids struggle more than others?Nervous system sensitivity plays a big role.Children with neurodivergence, trauma histories, or heightened sensory experiences often feel emotions and changes more intensely. Their brains are wired to survive, not to negotiate logic in the moment.Over- or under-stimulation can trigger emotional dysregulation.Daily stress adds up, making even minor changes feel impossible.Developmental expectations vary by age, from toddlers needing reassurance to teens pushing back verbally.A tween might say, “You ruined everything!” while a teen might retreat with, “I don’t care.” Same nervous system reaction—different expression.Get instant tools to soothe your child’s stress and prevent meltdowns—grab your Quick CALM now at https://drroseann.com/quickcalm/What mistakes do parents make during meltdowns?It’s natural to want to lecture, explain, or impose consequences—but when the brain is in red-zone survival mode, logic doesn’t land.Talk less, a...

363: Is Everyday Stress Quietly Rewiring Your Child’s Brain?

2025-12-1012:20

Is everyday stress quietly rewiring your child's brain? Learn how chronic stress reshapes the nervous system, affects emotional regulation, and how small, practical lifestyle changes can protect your child’s brain health.Parenting a child whose emotions swing from calm to chaos can feel overwhelming. Everyday pressures—school demands, social tension, family stress—can quietly rewire your child’s brain, pushing it into a constant state of survival mode. But the good news? You can change these patterns.In today’s episode, we break down how chronic stress affects brain development, why your child may seem "overly reactive" or withdrawn, and practical tools you can use to build emotional resilience and calm.Why does my child overreact to small stressors?Your child's brain is highly responsive to repeated stress, especially those with trauma, neurodivergence, or sensory sensitivities. Chronic stress strengthens fear circuits in the amygdala while weakening prefrontal cortex control, making your child more prone to anxiety, meltdowns, or overreaction.Takeaways:Frequent stress rewires the brain: the more your child experiences stress, the stronger the fear pathways become.Behavior reflects the brain: meltdowns aren’t misbehavior—they’re signs of an overactive stress response.Small moments add up: transitions, noise, or school pressures can overflow your child’s stress cup.Real-Life ExampleJess noticed her son melting down every afternoon. By adding a quiet snack and a two-minute decompression before homework, she saw his meltdowns reduce within a month.How can I tell if my child’s nervous system is overstimulated or under-stimulated?Overstimulation looks like constant movement, big emotions, defiance, sleep troubles, and hyper-reactivity. Under-stimulation shows as daydreaming, zoning out, sluggishness, or excessive caffeine use in teens. Both reflect dysregulated stress response patterns.Tips for parents:Observe daily patterns in behavior and energy.Offer micro resets: 1–2 minute stretches, humming, tapping, or deep breathing.Track stressors to notice triggers and early warning signs.Quick CALM™ gives your child fast, simple tools to reset their nervous system and regain emotional control in moments of stress. With easy, science-backed techniques, it helps kids stay grounded, focused, and calm—so you can reduce meltdowns and boost everyday resilience.What can parents do to protect the brain during stressful moments?Regulate first, teach second. Your calm acts as the anchor for your child’s nervous system. Predictable routines and lifestyle changes—hydration, sleep, magnesium-rich foods—help balance stress hormones and protect brain structure.Action Steps:Incorporate short, frequent nervous system breaks.Prioritize predictable schedules and safe environments.Co-regulate for connection before correction—behavioral learning happens when your child feels safe.🗣️ “Every meltdown isn’t a tantrum—it’s your child’s nervous system overflowing. You can teach their brain to recover,...

362: Why Therapy Isn’t Working: The Hidden Power of Neurofeedback for Dysregulation

2025-12-0827:53

If you’ve spent months—or years—in therapy and your child is still melting down, avoiding schoolwork, or unable to calm their body, you are not alone. And it’s not because the therapy is “bad” or you’re doing anything wrong. The real issue is that their brain can’t use the strategies yet.That’s where neurofeedback comes in. Today’s episode dives deep into the science of why so many kids stay stuck and why regulation must come first before any traditional therapy can work.Why isn’t therapy working for my child’s chronic meltdowns?It’s not your parenting, and it’s not that therapy “failed.”Often, traditional talk therapy assumes the prefrontal cortex—our thinking brain—is online. When your child is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze, that part of the brain shuts down, affecting how your brain functions, cognitive function, and overall brain health.Key takeaways:Dysregulation is biological, not behavioral. Kids know what to do but can’t act when their nervous system is stressed, affecting mental health disorders, anxiety symptoms, and overall brain function.Frontal lobe offline = skills don’t stick. Strategies learned in therapy may not transfer at home because brain waves aren’t balanced.Red flags: prolonged emotional resets, sleep or eating issues, constant overwhelm, and hypervigilance—common in mental health conditions and sometimes linked to chronic pain.Real-Life ExampleEthan struggled for two years in therapy. He could talk about his feelings but couldn’t apply any strategies at home, showing that knowledge alone doesn’t fix brain dysregulation or improve cognitive function.Once neurofeedback training targeted his brain’s communication centers through QEEG brain mapping, he began to pause, self-regulate, and thrive.This shows how brain science and precise interventions can create better mental health, strengthen overall brain function, and help children manage mental health disorders more effectively.How does neurofeedback therapy actually help the brain self-regulate?Neurofeedback uses real-time feedback to train the brain to recognize and correct its own brainwave patterns. Using QEEG brain mapping, practitioners identify areas of brain dysregulation and guide the nervous system back to balance.Tips for parents:Sessions are short: 20–30 minutes, 2–3 times per week.Neurofeedback strengthens emotional regulation, focus, and impulse control over time.It complements, rather than replaces, therapies like talk therapy, occupational therapy, or cognitive behavioral therapy.A child resistant to therapy often refuses to engage. With neurofeedback, even small, gentle “micro-workouts” of brain training can create lasting changes in nervous system regulation.Feeling stuck in constant meltdowns or anxious moments at home?Take control of meltdowns with Quick CALM™, a science-backed mini-course with the essential tools to calm your child’s brain—and yours too—so peace can finally return to your home.When should I consider neurofeedback for my child?Look for these red flags:Therapy progress is stalled or inconsistentEmotional resets take hours instead of minutesSleep, eating, or sensory issues persistConstant...

361: Inside the Dysregulated and Distracted Brain: What a QEEG Map Reveals That Teachers and Doctors Miss

2025-12-0333:04

If you’ve ever wished you could peek inside your child’s brain during a meltdown or when they completely shut down, today’s episode is for you. We’re diving into QEEG brain maps—one of the most powerful, yet most underused tools for understanding what’s really driving big emotions, focus issues, and chronic dysregulation.For three decades, I’ve watched families bounce from diagnosis to diagnosis… ADHD, anxiety, “behavioral issues.” And while those labels can be helpful, they’re often surface-level.A QEEG lets us look under the hood so we can finally stop guessing. Because when we calm the brain first, everything else follows.Why So Many Kids Get the Wrong DiagnosisParents are often told their child has ADHD simply because they’re unfocused or overwhelmed. But ADHD criteria are broad—so broad that almost any dysregulated kid can fit the checklist. That’s why so many families show up after trying meds, OT, tutoring, and therapy with little or no progress.A QEEG changes that.This quantitative brain map shows where the brain is overactive, underactive, or disconnected, and those patterns tell us far more than a checklist ever could. I’ve done over 10,000 brain maps, and they consistently reveal what teachers, therapists, and even doctors miss.A Real Story: When ADHD Wasn’t ADHDOne mom, Sarah, came to me after years of trying to help her son Jack. He had an ADHD diagnosis, but nothing worked—not medication, not OT, not therapy.His brain map showed focus issues, yes… but more importantly, it pointed to learning and executive functioning patterns that suggested dyslexia. After a deeper history and a follow-up evaluation at school, dyslexia was confirmed.Suddenly everything made sense. Jack didn’t need a stronger stimulant—he needed a reading intervention. Once we supported his brain through neurofeedback and the right academic supports, the whole picture changed.This kind of story is far too common.Want to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and grab your kit today.QEEG vs EEG: What’s the Difference?An EEG is a medical tool used to detect seizures. A QEEG—or quantitative EEG—measures the brain’s electrical activity and compares it to normative data.It’s:PainlessNoninvasiveDone with a soft cap and sensorsDesigned to map overactivity, underactivity, and connectivityThink of it like getting a satellite image of your child’s brain weather patterns—where storms are brewing, where things have gone quiet, and where communication lines are overloaded.What Dysregulation Looks Like on a Brain MapA dysregulated brain can’t shift smoothly between states—calm, alert, focused. On a QEEG, that shows up as:Underactivity → brain fog, low motivation, slow processingOveractivity → big emotions, anxiety, OCD-like reactionsChaotic connectivity → trouble transitioning, rigid thinking,...

360: Minerals, Mitochondria, and Meltdowns: The Overlooked Link with Dr. Aaron Hartman

2025-12-0150:57

Parenting a child who goes from calm to chaos in seconds can feel exhausting. You try everything—deep breaths, gentle words, even walking away—and still, the meltdowns come. You’re not alone.When kids struggle with big emotions, there’s often a hidden root cause inside the body—and minerals play a much bigger role than most parents realize.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Aaron Hartman to unpack the powerful connection between minerals, mitochondria, and meltdowns—and how nutrition, lifestyle, and nervous system regulation can help your child regain balance and calm.Why does my child melt down when they’re “just tired or hungry”?When your child seems to unravel at the smallest thing, it’s not bad behavior—it’s biology. Mineral imbalances directly affect how their nervous system fires.Low magnesium or zinc deficiency can make the brain more reactive to stress.When blood sugar drops from skipping meals or eating too many processed foods, the body burns through nutrients fast—leading to irritability, anxiety, or panic attacks.A deficient diet full of additives and low in whole foods affects serotonin, dopamine, and other key neurotransmitters.When we calm the brain first and nourish the body, meltdowns start to fade.Takeaway: A balanced diet rich in real food, protein, and calming minerals helps stabilize your child’s emotions and energy.Need quick relief while you work on those root causes? Try Quick Calm—my proven method to calm the brain fast so you and your child can reset and start fresh.Could my child’s mood swings be linked to mineral deficiencies?Absolutely. Research continues to show how essential minerals affect mental well-being and brain function.Here’s what parents need to know:Zinc deficiency is linked with attention deficit disorder (ADD/ADHD), depression, and poor immune function.Magnesium supports relaxation and sleep by calming overactive neurons.B vitamins and vitamin D play a critical role in serotonin production—affecting mood and focus.Too much copper or exposure to heavy metals can worsen anxiety, aggression, and brain fog.HTMA testing (Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis) can reveal these hidden imbalances, helping you target the root cause instead of chasing symptoms.🗣️“When your child’s body is missing key nutrients, their brain can’t regulate emotions—no matter how many coping tools you teach.” –Dr. RoseannWhat are simple ways to boost my child’s mineral intake naturally?You don’t need to overhaul your entire pantry overnight. Start small—consistency is what matters most.Choose whole foods over processed snacks. Think nuts, seeds, eggs, leafy greens, and clean proteins.Add trace minerals or electrolyte drops to water for gentle, steady support.Use zinc supplements or a high-quality multivitamin only when guided by a practitioner.Cook with healthy fats (omega-3-rich oils, avocado, grass-fed butter) to enhance absorption of fat-soluble vitamins.Involve your kids—make it fun with family “squat-offs” or walks after...

359: Before the Emotional Blow-Up: Hidden Clues Your Kid's Nervous System Is in Trouble

2025-11-2612:20

Parenting a child, tween or teen who swings from calm to chaos in seconds can leave you walking on eggshells. One minute they’re fine, and the next—doors slam, voices rise, and you’re wondering what just happened. You’re not alone. Those big mood swings aren’t “attitude.” They’re signals that your child’s nervous system is in distress.Let’s dive into the hidden clues your child's, tween’s or teen’s nervous system is in trouble, how to decode them before they explode, and practical steps to bring calm back to your home.Why does my kid overreact to small things?When your child melts down over a lost pencil or a simple “no,” it’s not defiance—it’s a sign of an overwhelmed nervous system. Their brain is already running on empty, and even a tiny trigger can send them over the edge.What this means:Overreactions = stress overload. Their stress cup is full, and every little thing spills over.Persistent irritability or mood whiplash can signal emotional dysregulation, not disrespect.Physical signs like chest tightness, rapid heartbeat, or stomach pain often accompany these reactions.🗣️ “Behavior is communication. Once you learn to read these cues, you stop reacting to the behavior and start guiding your child back to calm.” –Dr. RoseannWhy can’t my kid calm down after getting upset?If your teen stays upset long after the conflict ends, that’s a clue their body’s stress response hasn’t shut off. Their stress hormones keep them on high alert, making it hard to return to balance.Try this:Regulate first. Take one deep breath before engaging. When you calm your brain, it helps theirs settle too.Name the shift. Say, “I can see this feels really big for you.” Validation lowers the nervous system threat.Use micro-resets. Short breaks, snacks, or movement stop the spiral.Remember: the more calm happens, the more calm happens.Is shutting down or saying “I don’t care” a warning sign?When teens go silent, refuse to talk, or withdraw, it’s often freeze mode, not attitude. This happens when their nervous system feels unsafe or overwhelmed—a common sign of emotional strain or unresolved trauma.Look for:Sudden withdrawal from friends or activitiesChanges in eating or sleep habits—like skipping meals, difficulty falling asleep, or frequent nightmaresPhysical complaints such as headaches, stomach pain, or fatigueA trauma-informed approach helps teens feel seen, not shamed. It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.Why does my child struggle with focus or schoolwork?Stress doesn’t just...

358: The Surprising Fix for Oppositional Behavior (3 Steps Parents Can Use Today)

2025-11-2412:39

When every request turns into a power struggle, it can leave you exhausted, frustrated, and questioning everything you’re doing as a parent. But here’s the truth: your child isn’t trying to make your life harder—their brain is stuck in survival mode.Let me break down what’s really happening when kids seem defiant and how parents can shift from chaos to calm using three powerful regulation steps. You’ll learn how to decode oppositional behavior, why it’s not about disrespect, and what you can do today to help your child feel safe and cooperative again.Why Does My Child Say “No” to Everything?When your child refuses to listen or melts down over simple requests, it’s not bad behavior—it’s a dysregulated nervous system.Here’s what’s really happening:Their brain has gone into survival mode, shutting down logic and reasoning.That “no” is often a stress response, not manipulation.Many kids labeled with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) or other mental health conditions like ADHD, anxiety disorders, or mood disorders are really struggling with nervous system overload.Think of it like a smoke detector that’s too sensitive—it goes off even when nothing’s really burning. When your child’s stress cup is overflowing, every small demand feels like too much.Behavior is communication. Your child’s defiance is their brain’s way of saying, “I can’t handle this right now.”Is My Child’s Oppositional Behavior Really About Anxiety or Control?For many kids, saying “no” is an unconscious coping mechanism. It helps them avoid anxiety triggers or regain a sense of control when life feels unpredictable.Here’s what’s going on beneath that resistance:Anxious avoidance: Kids learn that saying “no” helps them keep anxiety lower.Loss of control: When kids feel powerless, they fight to regain safety.Sensory overload: Every transition, sound, or demand adds another drop to their stress cup.🗣️ “The more dysregulated they are, the more oppositional they become. And when parents respond from stress too, it amplifies the cycle.” –Dr. RoseannKey takeaway: Opposition isn’t disrespect—it’s the nervous system’s cry for safety and connection.You don’t have to figure this out alone.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit: How to Stay Calm When Your Child Pushes Your Buttons and Stop Oppositional Behaviors.Head to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and start your calm parenting journey today.What Can I Do When My Child Refuses to Cooperate?Here is a simple, science-backed three-step plan parents can use right away:Regulate first.You can’t calm your child if you’re dysregulated yourself.Take deep breaths, move your body, or pause before reacting.Your calm signals safety and helps your child’s brain shift out of fight-or-flight.Offer two choices.Keep it simple: “Do you want the red shirt or the blue shirt?”This restores healthy control without giving up...

357: Your Child's Meltdown Triggered Your Meltdown—Now What?

2025-11-1910:42

Parenting a child who’s melting down while you’re barely holding it together yourself can feel impossible.One minute you’re calm, and the next—you’re yelling too. You didn’t mean to, but their meltdown triggered yours. You’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent. It means both of your nervous systems are overwhelmed.Let me share why this happens and exactly how to stop the cycle of dysregulation before it spirals out of control. You’ll learn how your calm can anchor your child, what to do in the heat of the moment, and how small shifts can lead to lasting change in your family.Why Do I Lose My Cool When My Child Has a Meltdown?When your child screams, your nervous system feels it. That’s because of mirror neurons—the part of the brain that syncs emotions and energy between people. Your child’s chaos can trigger yours, just like your stress can trigger theirs.Here’s what’s happening:Your stress cup overflows just like your child’s. Every demand, noise, or unexpected change adds a drop until you spill over.Your survival brain takes over. Logic goes offline, patience disappears, and you react instead of respond.You move into fight, flight, or freeze, which makes emotional regulation nearly impossible.🗣️ “When meltdowns meet meltdowns, everyone’s brain goes offline. That’s why we calm the brain first—because no one can think when they’re in survival mode.” –Dr. RoseannWhat Should I Do When My Child’s Behavior Triggers Me?When that meltdown starts brewing, it’s not about perfection—it’s about presence.Try these calming techniques in the moment:Pause and breathe. Slow, deep breathing resets your nervous system and helps you stay grounded.Notice your body. Are your shoulders tight? Is your breathing shallow? These are early signs you’re dysregulated.Step away if needed. It’s OK to say, “I love you, but I need a minute to calm my body.”Anchor with calm body language. Kneel down, soften your voice, and lower your tone. Your calm presence helps your child’s brain feel safe again.Remember: Behavior is communication. Your child isn’t trying to make you lose it—they’re showing you that their nervous system needs help to regulate emotions.Yelling less and staying calm isn’t about being perfect—it’s about having the right tools.Join the Dysregulation Insider VIP list and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit, designed to help you handle oppositional behaviors without losing it.Download it now at www.drroseann.com/newsletterHow Can I Break the Cycle of Reactivity in My Family?I once worked with a dad named Michael who constantly clashed with his son, Jordan. Every argument ended in shouting matches—until Michael realized something powerful: he was getting pulled into the same dysregulated state as his child.When he learned to pause, breathe, and step back before reacting, everything changed. His calm energy helped Jordan settle faster—and the daily battles stopped.Key takeaways for parents:You set the...

356: Why Your Child Freaks Out Over the Smallest Things

2025-11-1713:29

Parenting a child who melts down over socks that “feel weird” or a sandwich cut the “wrong” way can leave you wondering what’s really going on. You try to stay calm, but inside you’re thinking, Seriously? This can’t be about the sandwich.You’re not alone—and you’re not a bad parent. The truth is, those small moments aren’t small at all when your child’s stress cup is overflowing.Let me break down why your child freaks out over the smallest things and how to calm the brain first so everyone can find peace again. You’ll learn how to spot the warning signs of a full stress cup, what’s happening in your child’s brain during a meltdown, and simple ways to help them regulate—without power struggles or guilt.Why Does My Child Melt Down After School?Ever notice how your child holds it together all day at school—only to fall apart the second they walk in the door? That’s the stress cup effect. Every challenge, noise, and demand throughout the day adds a “drop” to your child’s nervous system. By the time they get home, that cup is full, and even seemingly small things push them over the edge.Here’s what fills your child’s stress cup:Classroom stress and transitionsSensory overload (sounds, textures, smells)Hunger and fatigueSocial struggles with other kidsHigh expectations or perfectionismWhen the brain is overstressed, logic and problem-solving shut down, and big emotions take over. That’s why reasoning in the heat of the moment rarely works—you’re talking to a brain that’s gone offline.Try this:Pause before reacting. Your calm becomes their calm.Offer a short regulation break (quiet time, water, movement) before talking.Create predictability. Use gentle countdowns and routines to lower stress.Why Do Simple Things Feel Like a Big Deal?When your child cries or screams over “nothing,” it’s not manipulation—it’s dysregulation. The meltdown isn’t about the apple slices or the wrong color cup; it’s about a nervous system that can’t take one more drop.Here’s what’s really happening:The amygdala (the brain’s alarm system) hijacks control.The prefrontal cortex—the part that helps kids think and reason—goes offline.Small frustrations suddenly feel enormous.So when your child says they “hate” their shirt or “can’t handle” their homework, it’s a cry for help, not defiance.What helps instead:Co-regulate first. Anchor your own emotions before helping your child.Name what’s happening. “It sounds like you’ve had a really hard day.”Micro resets. Stretch, take a breath, sip water—each helps pour stress out of the cup.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.How Can I Help My Child Cope With Big Emotions?For a...

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Dysregulated Kids: Science-Backed Parenting Help for Behavior, Anxiety, ADHD and More