Dysregulated Kids: Science-Backed Parenting Help for Behavior, Anxiety, ADHD and More That Builds Emotional Regulation

Parenting a dysregulated child can leave you drained and second-guessing yourself. You try connecting, you set boundaries—yet the meltdowns, backtalk, and big emotions just don’t stop. But here’s the truth: it’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. And there is a way forward.In this episode, I’ll introduce Regulation First Parenting—a practical, science-backed approach that helps children calm their nervous systems so connection and teaching can actually stick. You’ll learn why traditional parenting advice often backfires, how co-regulation works, and what steps you can take today to bring more peace into your home.Why does my child melt down after school even when I try to connect?Many parents wonder, “Why does my child explode the minute they walk through the door?” You’re not imagining it. When kids are running on stress responses, connection without regulation falls flat. Their nervous system is in survival mode, and even the kindest validation can unintentionally make anxiety and distress worse.That’s why regulation has to come first. Until the brain is calm, your child simply can’t access learning, connection, or even your love in the way you want them to.Regulation comes before connection. A dysregulated brain can’t learn or fully receive your love and guidance.Gentle parenting without boundaries fuels dysregulation. Endless empathy without calm structure leaves kids feeling more overwhelmed.Behavior is communication. Every meltdown is your child’s nervous system saying, “I need support, not punishment.”When you shift to this Regulation First Parenting mindset, you stop spinning your wheels and begin giving your child the calm foundation they need to eventually learn self regulation skills, emotional awareness, and positive outcomes.Want to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and grab your kit today.How can I help my child regulate their emotions in difficult moments?Your child’s nervous system syncs with yours through co-regulation. When you stay calm, they can borrow your calm.Over time, this builds their ability to self regulate.Tips for practicing co regulation:Model calm stress responses. Use deep breathing, softer facial expressions, or a gentle rhythm in your voice.Pause before reacting. Even a few seconds of self reflection helps you manage your own triggers.Practice mindfulness. A deep breath or butterfly tapping resets your body so you can respond instead of react.Use the traffic light model. Using this model helps parents feel less overwhelmed because it gives you a clear roadmap for when to pause, when to support, and when to guide your child’s behavior.Red = stop talking. When your child is in full meltdown, their brain is in survival mode. This is the time to focus on your own calm, not correction.Yellow = stress is lowering. As their body begins to settle, your co-regulation helps them feel safe enough to start regaining control.Green = learning can happen. Once calm returns, your child’s prefrontal cortex is back online. This is when connection and teaching finally stick.Why do discipline and sticker charts...

Parenting a child in emotional pain is exhausting — you’re not imagining it. You’re not alone. In this episode, I sit down with Erin Kerry, where we dig into a woman’s experience of misdiagnosis, heavy psychiatric medication, and the healing path she found beyond labels.Why this matters: Too often medication is the first line of defense for children and adolescents. Erin’s story shows how medical history, toxins, infections, and trauma can masquerade as psychiatric disorders — and why a comprehensive treatment plan matters for your child’s life and daily functioning.What you’ll learn: signs that behavior may be nervous-system driven, real risks of early psychotropic medication (including selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), when to seek second opinions, and alternatives that helped Erin recover.Why does my child have sudden mood swings — could it be bipolar or something else?Look beyond labels. Sudden shifts can come from infections, toxin exposure, PTSD, or PANS/PANDAS as well as bipolar disorder. It’s scary when your child seems ‘possessed’ or out of control.Takeaway: Ask about medical triggers (ear infections, mold, immune issues) before assuming a lifelong psychiatric diagnosis.Parent Tip: Request a full medical review from your child’s doctor and consider immune or toxin screening.You don’t have to figure this out alone.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit: How to Stay Calm When Your Child Pushes Your Buttons and Stop Oppositional Behaviors.Head to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and start your calm parenting journey today.How risky is starting antidepressants or other psychiatric medication for kids?When it comes to childhood mental health medication, it’s important for parents to know the meds. While SSRIs and other prescriptions can be helpful, in adolescents they may sometimes increase the risk of depression or self-harm.Erin shared how her own child worsened after starting Zoloft, later being prescribed heavy drugs like Depakote, lithium, and Seroquel. The experience was devastating for her family and highlights why medication isn’t always the right first step.Parents should always weigh the risks, monitor mood closely, and insist on a clear treatment plan with ongoing follow-up.Parent tips for navigating childhood mental health medication:Get informed about side effects, drug interactions, and dosage.Ask for the lowest effective dose.Request frequent reassessments and clear communication from providers.How can I help my child without making medication the first move?When considering childhood mental health medication, it’s essential to start with nervous-system care. Let’s calm the brain first by looking at foundational areas like sleep, gut and immune health, trauma processing, and classroom accommodations before jumping straight to pills. Addressing these whole-child needs often creates meaningful progress without immediately turning to medication.Key takeaway: Behavior is communication. By addressing the medical, nutritional, emotional, and environmental factors, you support true healing instead of just managing symptoms.Parent tip: Try a multi-disciplinary team for the best results. This may include:A pediatrician for medical oversightChild psychiatrists for second opinionsTherapists for emotional support and trauma processingSchool staff to provide classroom accommodationsWhen should I...

Parenting feels harder than ever, and I want you to know—you’re not imagining it.As a mom and as someone who works with so many parents every day, I see how the mental load of modern parenting leaves us feeling exhausted, guilty, and overwhelmed. It’s not bad parenting—it’s our dysregulated brains trying to manage family life in an overstimulating world.In this episode, I’m unpacking why parenting feels so hard right now and what’s really driving the stress so many of us carry. From screen time to isolation to the unrealistic standards placed on mothers and fathers today, I’ll show you how these hidden stressors impact both you and your child.Most importantly, I’ll share simple, calming strategies to reset your nervous system so you can parent with more patience, joy, and confidence.Why does parenting feel so hard right now?I hear this question from so many parents, and the truth is, modern parenting carries a mental load that previous generations didn’t face. You’re not failing—it’s the world we’re raising kids in today.Here’s why parenting feels so heavy:Double-edged sword of screens: Helpful for quiet moments, but dysregulating for both adults and kids.Isolation from community: Unlike a generation ago, many parents don’t have neighbors, friends, or family to lean on.Unrealistic standards: Contradictory advice, social media pressure, and guilt about not doing “enough.”Sandwich generation stress: Working parents juggling their own children, younger siblings, and even aging parents.Parenting today can feel like a full-time job without a break. And when your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, it’s harder to stay patient, present, and consistent.Why do I lose my patience with my child so quickly?When raising children today, it’s no wonder your nervous system slips into survival mode. Even the most loving parent can snap—it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your brain is overwhelmed.Here’s what happens inside your brain:Stress hormones flood your system with cortisol and adrenaline.Executive functioning shuts down, so calm responses feel impossible.Your child’s dysregulation mirrors back, and their meltdown triggers yours.The truth? A dysregulated brain can’t parent a dysregulated child. Whether you’re navigating small children, a baby, or even young adults, the reason parenting feels so exhausting often comes back to your nervous system.Giving yourself moments of quality time and noticing when you’re feeling overwhelmed is the first step to calm—for you and your child.🗣️ “The key is pressing pause—step back, breathe, and reset before you respond. That’s how you break the cycle and bring more calm into family life.” – Dr. RoseannWhat can I do when I feel completely overwhelmed as a parent?Parenting is hard, and most parents hit moments where the stress feels immobilizing. You’re not failing—you just need to calm your own nervous system first.Try these small resets when raising kids feels too heavy:Breathe intentionally: Use 4-7-8 breaths to steady your body.Shift your posture: Stand, stretch, or simply step away.Get into nature: Even a quick walk can soothe your stress.Use simple techniques: humming, tapping, or cold water on your neck.Pause before responding: Don’t go in hot.One moment of calm can change the whole direction of family life.Want to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become an...

When your child’s nervous system is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze, even minor frustrations can trigger explosive outbursts, shutdowns, or runaway behavior. It isn’t disobedience—it’s the autonomic nervous system in survival mode.Let us unpack why kids get trapped in these stress responses and how calming the brain first restores safety, regulation, and connection.Why does my child melt down after minor frustrations?When your child yells, slams doors, or shuts down over something small, it’s not misbehavior—it’s a stress response. Their sympathetic nervous system is in overdrive, pumping out stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.Signs your child’s nervous system is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze:Frequent emotional meltdowns and explosive outburstsOverreaction to minor frustrations with big emotionsNeeds 20–30 minutes (or more) to return to calmMood changes, poor focus, and low energy that linger afterwardBehavior is communication. What looks like defiance is really your child’s nervous system waving a red flag for help.What does fight, flight, freeze, or fawn look like in kids?Kids react to stress in different ways, but all of these behaviors come from the same alarm system in the nervous system.Fight: yelling, arguing, aggression, lashing outFlight response: running away, hiding, avoiding tasksFreeze response: zoning out, poor concentration, blank stares, silenceFawn: perfectionism, hypervigilance, people-pleasing (often missed)These are autonomic survival responses—not bad choices.🗣️ “When your child’s body feels threatened, the nervous system takes over.” – Dr. RoseannWhy is my child’s nervous system stuck in survival mode?Today’s kids face a perfect storm of stressors that disrupt the autonomic nervous system and keep the body stuck in fight, flight, or freeze.Common triggers include:Chronic stress at school or homeFamily tension or sibling conflictSensory overload from screens, noise, or crowdsMental health conditions and neurodivergent wiringPoor sleep patterns or lack of optimal nutritionPhysical hurdles like abdominal pain, onset headaches, or body achesWhen stress hormones keep firing, the parasympathetic nervous system (the body’s relaxation response) can’t kick in. Over time, this shows up as:Heightened baseline anxiety and panic responsesConcentration troubles, poor focus, and low energyFrequent illnesses, decreased immunity, and persistent fatigueOther chronic health challenges like disrupted sleep or mood swingsA child’s nervous system stuck in survival mode is more vulnerable to behavioral challenges and chronic health conditions. The missing link is daily regulation that restores safety and calm.When your child is dysregulated, it’s easy to feel helpless.The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.How can I help my...

When your child’s emotions spiral into a meltdown, it can feel like everything in family life stops. The crying, yelling, or tantrum behavior takes over—and no amount of reasoning or sticker charts seems to help. You’re not alone.The truth is, those first 60 seconds of any child meltdown make a huge difference. Whether it’s toddler tantrums at nap time, an upset older child after school, or an autistic child overwhelmed by sensory overload, how you respond sets the tone.In this episode, I share three science-backed steps to help you stay calm, reduce power struggles, and guide your child back to calm behavior.Why does my child’s meltdown get worse when I try to talk them down?When your child is having an emotional meltdown, it’s natural to jump in with explanations, logic, or questions like “Why are you acting this way?” But here’s the important point: over-talking adds fuel to the fire.Say less. Too many words overwhelm an upset child.Use a calm voice. A simple phrase like “I’m here. You’re safe.” can be incredibly helpful.Silence is powerful. Sometimes a quiet spot and nonverbal reassurance calm behavior faster than talking.It makes sense—when your brain is in survival mode, logic can’t land. A child’s tantrums are communication, not misbehavior.What should I do first when my child is melting down?When your child is in the middle of an emotional meltdown, it’s instinct to explain, reason, or ask “Why are you acting this way?” But here’s the important point: over-talking makes tantrum behavior worse.Say less. Too many words overwhelm an upset child’s emotions.Use a calm voice. A short phrase like “I’m here. You’re safe.” helps your child calm faster.Silence works. Sometimes a quiet spot and steady body language soothe toddler tantrums, an older child’s strong emotions, or even an autistic child facing sensory overload.When the brain is in survival mode, logic can’t land. Behavior is communication—not misbehavior.How can I comfort my child without making things worse?You can’t force emotional regulation—but you can model it. Co-regulation is how kids learn coping skills and positive behavior.Offer presence, not pressure. Sit nearby without hovering or demanding.Mind your body language. Get down on your child’s level—kneel with younger kids or sit near an older child.Use gentle gestures. If it feels safe, a light touch on the back or shoulder can help an upset child calm.Think of it as creating a safe space where your child—whether a toddler in a tantrum, an older child with big emotions, or an autistic child in sensory overload—can borrow your calm until they find their own self-control.Yelling less and staying calm isn’t about being perfect—it’s about having the right tools.Join the Dysregulation Insider VIP list and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit, designed to help you handle oppositional behaviors without losing it.Download it now at www.drroseann.com/newsletterWhy does this approach work for both younger kids and older kids?These steps aren’t random tips—they’re grounded in child development and neuroscience.Polyvagal theory shows that calm cues shift the brain out of fight-or-flight.Mirror neurons explain why kids copy...

Parenting a child who melts down, shuts down, or pushes you away is exhausting—I know because I hear it from parents every day. You’ve tried sticker charts, consequences, rewards, and still your child’s behavior problems keep coming back. In this episode, I’m sharing why waiting for your child’s struggles to get “bad enough” is a dangerous mistake. You’ll learn how to spot the early warning signs of child behavior problems, why early intervention matters, and the practical steps you can take right now to calm your child’s brain and strengthen your parent-child relationship.Why do professionals tell me to “wait and see” with my child’s behavior problems?I hear this all the time from parents—someone told them their child would “grow out of it.” But waiting often delays the help your child really needs.“Wait and see” is outdated advice. It often comes from well-meaning pediatricians, teachers, or family members.Delays lead to missed diagnoses like autism spectrum disorders, oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).Early intervention is never wasted. Parents regret waiting, not acting.Behavior is communication. When your child struggles, it’s their nervous system asking for support.It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. Let’s calm the brain first.What happens if I wait until my child’s behavior collapses?When parents wait for rock bottom, the fallout touches every part of a child’s life—and the road back is much harder.Deeper dysregulation: Issues like aggression, anxiety, or school refusal grow more intense and harder to untangle.Increased risk factors: Delays raise the chances of substance abuse, low self-esteem, and long-term mental health struggles.Damaged relationships: Waiting strains the parent-child relationship and can create tension between family members.Shame builds: Children begin to believe “something is wrong with me,” which deepens behavior problems and lowers self-esteem.🗣️ “The earlier we step in, the easier it is to calm the brain, protect your child’s self-esteem, and rebuild family trust.” – Dr. RoseannWant to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and grab your kit today.What does early intervention actually look like?Many parents wonder if they should wait until their child is calm before starting therapy or brain-based tools. The answer is no—you can start today.Brain-based supports work right away: Tools like neurofeedback, PEMF, and magnesium help regulate even the most dysregulated kids.Therapy is more effective when kids are regulated: Once the nervous system calms, communication skills, problem solving skills, and coping skills designed for young children actually stick.Collaboration matters: Schools, therapists, and family members can help, but parents are the drivers of change.Progress over perfection: Every small step counts. Calm brains aren’t born—they’re built.Early intervention gives your child the tools to regulate, learn, and thrive—long before behavior problems become harder to untangle.How can parents overcome the fear of labeling...

Parenting a child with sensory challenges can feel like a guessing game. One day a fidget toy works, the next day it’s tossed across the room. That’s because it’s not about the object—it’s about the strategy behind it. Sensory tools aren’t quick fixes, but when chosen with intention, they can transform how your child responds to stress, transitions, and everyday demands.In this episode, I’ll share 5 therapist-recommended sensory tools that actually help kids regulate—not just distract them. You’ll learn how to match tools to your child’s sensory needs, whether they’re bouncing off the walls or shutting down from overload.With the right sensory input, kids can build body awareness, reduce anxiety, and settle into calmer routines at home, in the classroom, and even at bedtime.Why does my child melt down even when I give them fidget toys?You’ve filled the bins with fidget toys and sensory tools, but the meltdowns keep coming. You’re not alone.The truth is, fidgets can distract, but they don’t always provide the sensory input a child’s nervous system really needs.Here’s what to remember:Fidgets don’t work for every child—some kids need deep pressure to calm, others need movement or vestibular input to focus.Look for signs of sensory seekers and avoiders: crashing into couch cushions, covering ears at loud noises, refusing certain textures, or zoning out in busy places.Behavior is communication. A meltdown is your child’s nervous system saying, “I can’t handle this input.”The right sensory tool matters. Matching tools to your child’s unique sensory processing needs is what leads to real regulation.🗣️ “It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. When we learn how our child responds to sensory experiences, the right tools finally make sense.” – Dr. RoseannWant to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become an Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and grab your kit today.What sensory tools actually calm my child’s nervous system?Not all sensory toys are created equal. The right tools give the sensory input your child’s nervous system needs—whether that’s calming an over-aroused brain or waking up an under-aroused one.Here are 5 therapist-recommended sensory tools that actually help kids regulate:Weighted items (blankets, vests, stuffed animals): Provide deep pressure that has a calming effect. Best used in short bursts of about 20 minutes to support better sleep and reduce anxiety.Movement tools (swings, trampolines, yoga ball, peanut ball): Give vestibular input and help kids reset their focus. Just a few minutes of movement before homework or classroom transitions can make a big difference.Oral input tools (chewy straws, crunchy snacks): Calm the nervous system through jaw stimulation. Great for picky eaters, children with ADHD, and kids who need extra input to stay focused.Fidgets with tactile features (putty, clickers, stress balls): Provide tactile stimulation that supports self-regulation during seated tasks or transitions.Visual and auditory tools (lava lamps, calming music, noise-canceling headphones): Reduce overstimulation and create a calming effect at home, in classrooms, or during therapy sessions.These...

Parenting today feels overwhelming—and it’s not your imagination. The latest Make America Healthy Again (MAHA) Report reveals shocking truths about kids’ mental health and shows us just how deep this childhood chronic disease crisis runs.Our children are carrying the weight of poor diet, chronic stress, environmental exposures, and endless screen time—and it’s affecting not just their moods but their overall health. As parents, it’s easy to wonder, “Is this just my child?” or “Am I doing something wrong?”Let me reassure you—it’s not bad parenting, it’s a dysregulated brain. In this episode, I’ll walk you through what the report means for American children’s health and, most importantly, share practical steps you can take to calm the brain first, build resilience, and protect your child in today’s overstimulating world.Why are so many American children struggling with mental health?Parents are searching for answers because the numbers in the Make America Healthy Again (MAHA) Report are staggering:Teen depression has doubled in recent years.Suicide is now the second leading cause of death for teens, rising 62% since 2007.Loneliness is at epidemic levels—73% of young adults report feeling isolated.Neurodevelopmental disorders like ADHD and autism continue to rise at alarming rates.These aren’t just statistics from a government assessment. They represent the nation’s health and, more importantly, our kids. The MAHA Commission—led by Human Services Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr.—noted that the potential drivers of this crisis include ultra processed foods, poor physical activity, environmental chemicals, and chronic stress.This isn’t just a public health concern—it’s a matter of national security when so many American children of the same age are struggling with preventable mental and physical health conditions. The Human Services Department and National Institutes call this the biggest children’s health crisis in modern U.S. history.Key Takeaways:It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. Behavior is communication, and we need to calm the brain first.Environmental chemicals, ultraprocessed foods, and chronic stress are fueling this crisis in American children’s health.Over-reliance on medicine and medication isn’t fixing outcomes. The root causes—nutrition, stress, sleep, environmental exposures, and screen time—must be addressed.What hidden drivers of kids’ health problems should parents know about?The MAHA Report shines a light on what’s fueling the rise in dysregulation, ADHD, anxiety, and depression in kids today:Poor diet: 70% of children’s calories now come from ultra-processed foods, leaving their brains starved of the nutrients they need to focus, learn, and regulate emotions.Environmental exposures: Everyday chemicals—like pesticides and microplastics—interfere with hormones and raise risks for autism, ADHD, and other mental health struggles.Chronic stress & sleep loss: Exhausted kids can’t bounce back; lack of rest is draining their resilience.Technology overuse: Children average nine hours of non-school screen time daily, and social media alone doubles the risk for anxiety and depression.Over-medicalization: Prescriptions for ADHD, anxiety, and depression keep rising, yet long-term outcomes aren’t improving.🗣️ “You don’t need to fix everything at once. Start small—like creating tech-free evenings or swapping one processed snack for a whole food option.” – Dr. RoseannIf you’re tired of...

If every mealtime in your house feels like a showdown—tears, gagging, or flat-out refusal to try a bite—you’re probably exhausted and worried. You’ve bent over backwards with rewards, consequences, and endless negotiations, yet nothing seems to work. I want you to know—you’re not alone.In this episode, I’ll share why your picky eater’s behavior is more than just “being fussy,” the biological factors that may be driving your child’s picky eating habits—from sensory sensitivities to gut health—and how you can bring more calm (and more healthy foods) back to the dinner table.Why does my child’s picky eating feel like a constant battle?If every mealtime feels like tug-of-war, you’re not imagining it. What looks like “bad behavior” is often your child’s biology at work. Many kids aren’t refusing food out of stubbornness—they’re reacting to sensory sensitivities or a stressed nervous system.When we understand that picky eating is often about dysregulation instead of defiance, everything starts to shift.Here are a few truths I want you to hold onto:Behavior is communication. Food refusal can be your child’s way of saying, “This feels overwhelming.”Sensory triggers are real. Textures, smells, and even temperatures can set off strong reactions.It’s not bad parenting. Picky eating is a sign of a dysregulated brain—not a reflection of your efforts.Power struggles backfire. The more meals feel like a battle, the harder it is for your child to feel safe around food.Your child isn’t spoiled or dramatic—they’re struggling. And when we calm the nervous system first, we can bring more peace (and variety) back to the table.When your child is dysregulated, it’s easy to feel helpless.The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.What biological factors cause picky eating in kids?If your child’s picky eating feels bigger than just “not liking vegetables,” you’re right—biology often plays a huge role.Research, including twin studies from King’s College London, shows that both genetic factors and environmental factors shape how kids develop food preferences. That means picky eating isn’t about willpower or stubbornness—it’s about what’s happening inside your child’s body and brain.Common biological roots of picky eating include:Gut issues like dysbiosis or inflammation that can shift cravings and digestionNutritional deficiencies (zinc, magnesium, B6) that impact appetite and mood regulationNeurodevelopmental disorders such as ADHD, autism, anxiety, or OCD that make eating more restrictiveEarly feeding experiences (reflux, choking, low muscle tone) that create stress around foodGenetics—studies show identical twins share more picky eating behaviors than fraternal twinsConnections to other eating disorders such as ARFID, which can overlap with restrictive eating patterns and disordered eating behaviorsIn some cases, body image concerns may show up in older kids or teens, further complicating eating habits🗣️ “Picky eating in kids isn’t about being spoiled or difficult—it’s biology shaping eating habits. Once you understand the root cause, you can take steps that actually help.” – Dr. RoseannHow can I help my picky eater try new foods without a...

Parenting a child who pushes back at every turn can feel downright draining. You’ve tried the time-outs, the sticker charts, the consequences—yet the meltdowns keep coming. It’s easy to start second-guessing yourself or wondering if you’re doing something wrong. You’re not alone. It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.In this episode, I’ll show you why what looks like defiance is actually emotional dysregulation—a nervous system issue, not a character flaw. We’ll walk through the five signs your child is emotionally dysregulated, not defiant, and I’ll give you practical, brain-based steps you can use to calm the storm and move forward with hope.Why does my child overreact to small problems?One of the biggest giveaways of emotional dysregulation is when kids have big feelings over little things. Maybe it’s the broken crayon, the wrong-colored cup, or being asked to do five more minutes of homework.These disproportionate reactions are a sign that your child’s nervous system is in overdrive. It isn’t bad behavior—it’s your child’s body signaling stress overload.For younger children, this often looks like temper tantrums. For older children, it may show up as irritability, anger, or even shutting down. No matter their age, these big emotions tell you that their emotional regulation skills need support.The key question to ask yourself is: Is this their go-to response? If your child is regularly melting down over small problems, it’s not about being oppositional or defiant. It’s a clear sign they’re struggling with:Emotional regulationSelf control and coping skillsA dysregulated brain that needs help returning to calmWhen you reframe these moments as emotional dysregulation rather than “bad behavior,” it shifts how you respond. Instead of getting caught in power struggles, you can focus on calming the brain first—because that’s where real change begins.Why does my child stay upset long after a problem is solved?Some kids just can’t seem to let go. Even after the situation is over, they’re still stuck in those big emotions long after everyone else has moved on.This isn’t about holding a grudge—it’s their nervous system getting caught in a stress loop. No matter how much reassurance you give, they may replay the moment again and again.That’s what emotional dysregulation does: it traps kids in the feeling and blocks them from practicing self regulation on their own.So what helps? Co-regulation. Your child’s behavior is communication, and what they need most is your calm presence. That means:Keeping your tone soft and steadyModeling deep breaths and slowing your body downStaying close so they feel safe, even if they don’t accept comfort right away🗣️ “Your child isn’t choosing to stay upset—they’re stuck in a stress loop. When you calm your own nervous system, you give their brain the roadmap back to regulation.” – Dr. RoseannWhen we, as parents, stay calm first, we give our kids the emotional skills and examples they need to eventually regulate their own emotions.Why does my child reject comfort when upset?It’s heartbreaking when you reach out to comfort your child and they push you away, scream, or even call you names. While it feels like rejection, what’s really happening is that their brain is flooded and their nervous system can’t take in more input.A dysregulated child often can’t receive comfort until their body begins to settle. These emotional responses aren’t about disrespect or bad behavior—they’re stress-driven survival mode. And remember, even adults sometimes need space before they can calmly re-engage.What...

Have you ever wondered why your child melts down after the smallest stressor—no matter what strategies you try? It can leave you drained, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you’re doing something wrong. You’re not alone. It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.In this episode, we uncover the hidden link between gut issues and emotional dysregulation in kids. You’ll learn how the gut-brain connection affects mood, behavior, and focus—and discover practical steps to support both your child’s emotional well-being and their gut microbiome at home.Why does my child melt down after eating certain foods?Many parents tell me they notice their child’s behavior shifts right after meals—but what they don’t realize is that the gut microbiome plays a significant role in emotional regulation.Food sensitivities like gluten, dairy, and artificial dyes can spark systemic inflammation, which shows up as mood swings and behavior changes.Constipation and poor gut health allow toxins to recirculate, affecting both emotional well-being and even pain perception.A leaky gut—or increased intestinal permeability—lets harmful substances enter the bloodstream, disrupting the brain and nervous system.So if your child melts down after eating, it may not be “just behavior.” It’s communication from the gut-brain axis—and your child’s body is asking for help.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.How are gut issues connected to emotional dysregulation?Most parents assume the gut is only about digestion, but it actually has a direct line to the central nervous system and your child’s mental health. When the gut is off balance, your child’s ability to regulate emotions, focus, and cope with stress takes a hit too.Did you know that up to 90% of serotonin, the neurotransmitter that helps regulate mood and attention, is made in the digestive tract? That means your child’s gut isn’t just helping them process food—it’s helping them manage emotions and stay calm.When there’s gut dysbiosis (an imbalance of beneficial gut bacteria), kids are more likely to struggle with heightened anxiety, depressive symptoms, and poor emotional regulation.Chronic stress and an unhealthy gut microbiome create a feedback loop that keeps kids stuck in cycles of emotional distress and behavioral challenges.🗣️ “When the gut is inflamed, the developing brain can’t function at its best—leading to struggles with emotional well-being, focus, and even sleep disturbances.” — Dr. RoseannCould my child’s diagnosis be linked to poor gut health?Parents of kids with ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, or mood disorders are often so focused on managing daily symptoms that they overlook something powerful—the gut. Yet research shows that the gut-brain axis plays a crucial role in all of these conditions.When the gut is out of balance, the brain struggles to do its job—and kids feel it in their mood, behavior, focus, and even sleep.Take ADHD, for example:Gut dysbiosis—an imbalance in gut bacteria—can interfere with dopamine and serotonin production.Since these neurotransmitters are key for attention and impulse...

Parenting a child who melts down no matter how hard you try can feel draining and lonely. You’ve done the time-outs, taken away privileges, tried the sticker charts—and yet the child’s behavior keeps coming back.Instead of helping, those strategies sometimes make things worse, leaving you wondering if you’re doing something wrong. You’re not alone, and it’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.In this episode, I’m breaking down why traditional discipline backfires on sensitive or neurodivergent kids, and what actually works instead. I’ll give you practical strategies to calm the nervous system first, show you why connection always beats punishment, and teach you how to build the problem solving skills your child truly needs.Why doesn’t time-out work for my neurodivergent child?If you’ve ever sent your child to time-out only to have the meltdown get worse, you’re not imagining it. For many neurodivergent kids, time outs don’t feel like teaching—they feel like rejection. And instead of calming down, their nervous system ramps up even more.Research shows that parents use time-outs inconsistently, and the reality is, they’re often applied when a child is already at peak emotional dysregulation. In that state, the brain can’t process or learn. Many neurodivergent kids experience shame, anxiety, or even sensory overload instead of gaining self-control.Here’s what’s really happening:Time-outs miss the teachable moment because kids are too dysregulated to reflect.Sensitive children feel wrong or rejected, which can trigger bigger power struggles.Connection is the game changer, because safety is what allows real emotional regulation.So if time-outs keep backfiring in your family, it isn’t about bad parenting. It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.How can I stay calm when my child is melting down?I know how exhausting it feels when your child is screaming, crying, or refusing to listen. In those moments, your own nervous system wants to react—but here’s the truth: your calm is your child’s calm. This is why I call parents the emotional anchor.When you regulate yourself first, you model the very skill your child is struggling to build. You don’t need to get it right 100% of the time—aiming for 80% is more than enough. Perfection isn’t required for growth, and reminding yourself of that can reduce the pressure and pain you carry as a mom or dad.A few ways to anchor yourself:Pause before reacting. Even 30 seconds of breathing can calm your nervous system.Check your body language. Slow down, soften your tone, and relax your shoulders.Co-regulate first. Teaching happens later—after your child feels safe and understood.🗣️ “When you calm yourself first, you give your child the right tools to eventually calm themselves too. That’s so much sense in action.” — Dr. RoseannYou don’t have to figure this out alone.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit: How to Stay Calm When Your Child Pushes Your Buttons and Stop Oppositional Behaviors.Head to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and start your calm parenting journey today.What do I do when discipline feels like punishment, not teaching?Traditional discipline often focuses on stopping a child’s behavior instead of teaching new skills. But many neurodivergent kids don’t connect actions with natural consequences in the same way neurotypical kids might. That doesn’t mean they can’t learn—it just means we need to focus on the core...

If your child turns into a different person after screen time, you’re not imagining it.You’re not alone if your once-sweet kid becomes reactive, moody, or shut down after using digital devices. Many parents are overwhelmed by meltdowns, mood swings, and total refusal to transition after screen use—and they’re left wondering what went wrong.Let me down what too much screen time really does to the developing brain and how it fuels dysregulation, anxiety, and poor emotional control. Most importantly, I’ll share simple, consistent strategies you can use to set limits before things spiral out of control.Why does screen time affect my child’s emotions so much?We often think of screens as harmless entertainment, but they trigger a storm inside the brain. Fast-paced videos and online games light up the dopamine system, conditioning kids to crave more and more stimulation. At the same time, the part of the brain that helps with self-regulation—the prefrontal cortex—gets underused.Add in blue light exposure that disrupts melatonin and sleep cycles, and you have a perfect storm for emotional dysregulation. Even young kids are being impacted. In fact, 40% of American 2.5-year-olds have their own device.This constant stimulation overwhelms the nervous system and wires the brain for volatility. And when there’s no recovery time, kids start to struggle with mood, transitions, and basic regulation.Discover how to shift your child from chaos to calm with our proven Quick Calm Toolkit.What are signs of screen time dysregulation?If your child seems irritable or totally zoned out after screen use, that’s not normal—it’s their brain signaling overload. Many parents describe their kids as “not themselves” after using digital devices.Common red flags include:Meltdowns or aggression that show up after screen time endsMoodiness or emotional shutdown even after brief device useAvoidance of non-screen tasks like homework or choresRefusal to engage socially or try new activitiesAnxiety, anger, or compulsive behaviors tied to screen habitsIn fact, one mom told me her 10-year-old “checks out” for hours after gaming. He won’t eat, talk, or play—and it’s happening more often.How can I set screen limits without daily power struggles?The key is to set boundaries before the device turns on—not in the middle of a meltdown.Have calm, clear conversations ahead of time about screen time rules. Involve your child when possible by asking, “How much time feels fair to you?” This helps them feel heard—even if their answer is unrealistic.Once a boundary is set, stick to it without emotion or debate. That consistency is what rewires the brain for self-control.Use language that connects to brain health: “You’re not in trouble. Your brain is just telling us it needs a break.” Or: “Your brain needs to recharge so it can feel strong and happy.”You can also plan buffer time after screens—like five minutes of movement, a snack, or calming connection. This supports the nervous system and makes transitions smoother.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at

If you’re a mom, dad, or caregiver constantly walking on eggshells, waiting for the next meltdown—you’re not alone.I’ve been there, and I work with families every day who are exhausted by the cycle of big emotions, yelling, and guilt.In this episode, I’m sharing the exact parenting trick I’ve taught for over 30 years that helps you stay calm in the moment, so you can help your child regulate too. No special tools. No medication. Just your breath, a short pause, and a shift in energy that creates real change for your child and your family.Why does my child’s behavior make me so upset?Your child isn’t trying to make your life harder. They’re reacting from a place of dysregulation—a nervous system stuck in fight, flight, or freeze. And when that happens, it often pulls us into the storm with them.That’s what I call co-dysregulation. It happens when your child is upset, and instead of calming the situation, your energy fuels it.But when we learn to step back and regulate ourselves first, we shift into co-regulation—and that’s where transformation begins.What is the calm parenting trick that works in 10 seconds?This is what I call the Love Pause. It’s the calm parenting reset I’ve taught for over 30 years, and it works because it helps you create safety in your body and in your home.Here’s what I do:Step back—both physically and mentally. Even one foot of space helps.Take a slow, deep breath in, and then blow it out even slower.Drop your shoulders and loosen your jaw—send the signal that the threat is over.Silently talk to yourself, with phrases like:“This is hard.”“I’m safe.”“My child is struggling—not attacking.”“I can be the calm in the storm.”This 10-second process resets your brain and body. It activates your vagus nerve, brings your thinking brain back online, and helps you parent from a place of intention—not reactivity.Yelling less and staying calm isn’t about being perfect—it’s about having the right tools.Join the Dysregulation Insider VIP list and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit, designed to help you handle oppositional behaviors without losing it.Download it now at www.drroseann.com/newsletterHow can I teach my kids to self-regulate?The more we model regulation, the more our kids learn how to do it too. That’s how we teach kids what to do in the moment—by showing them with our actions.Let me give you an example—If your child is upset over homework and starts yelling, instead of yelling back, I want you to pause. Breathe. Then say: “Looks like your brain is overloaded. Let’s take a walk or do some jumping jacks and then come back to it.”Here’s what that response does:Shows your child that it’s okay to struggleDemonstrates that there’s a way back to calmCreates a supportive pattern they’ll begin to use on their ownI’ve seen this play out in real life so many times—kids starting to regulate without prompting, just because they’ve seen it modeled consistently.What if I’m dealing with a moody teen?Teenagers are a whole different world. When my own teen slams their door or rolls their eyes, it’s easy to get triggered. But instead of yelling, I breathe, reset, and say: “I can see you’re upset. I’m here when you’re ready to talk.”With teens, it’s all about connection over correction. And the best moments for connection often happen...

If you're parenting a strong willed child, you're probably tired, frustrated, and maybe even wondering if you’re a terrible mother. I want you to know—you’re not. You’re raising a deeply feeling, fiercely independent person who doesn’t fit the mold... and that’s not a bad thing.In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on what no one tells you about raising strong willed kids. Not only do I work with these kids every day—I am one. And I’ve raised them, too.We’ll talk about how to avoid power struggles, why your child isn’t actually trying to make your life harder, and the daily practices that truly work.Why does my child push back on everything?Strong willed kids don’t “misbehave” in the traditional sense. They crave autonomy, understanding, and respect—and when they don’t get those things, their behavior can come across as defiant or dramatic.I’ve seen it in my own kids, and I lived it myself. I was the kid who needed to understand why before I could comply. My son Giancarlo is the same way—he’s not being oppositional, he’s genuinely curious. That persistence can feel exhausting, but it’s the same trait that helps him thrive in science today.What looks like opposition is often just a need for clarity. These kids are thinkers. Leaders. Problem-solvers. We just have to help them use their power in productive ways.Unlock your child’s potential in just one week! Check out our Quick Calm: https://drroseann.com/quickcalm/What should I do when we’re locked in a power struggle?Power struggles are a sign your child feels dismissed or disconnected. And the harder you push, the more they’ll dig in.Instead of reacting with control, I’ve learned to invite collaboration. When your child has a strong opinion, acknowledge it. Say something like, “You clearly feel strongly about this, and I respect that. Let’s figure it out together.”When I give my kids choices instead of demands, it lowers the temperature instantly. For example, rather than saying, “Put your shoes on now or you’re grounded,” I’ll say, “You can wear sneakers or sandals—up to you, but we need to leave in two minutes.”A few small shifts that reduce power struggles:Replace ultimatums with choicesUse “maybe” as a soft no when neededDon’t try to “win”—try to connectWhat actually helps a strong willed child thrive?These kids need boundaries—but not harsh ones. They need clarity, consistency, and above all, connection.Traditional discipline often backfires. When we shame, lecture, or say things like “Why can’t you be like your brother?” we’re invalidating their emotions. That just leads to more resistance.Instead, I focus on:Pre-agreed routines to avoid debatesNatural consequences instead of punishmentExplanations that teach, not lectures that shut downEven teens benefit from visuals and gentle structure. And no matter the age, co-regulation is key. You can’t redirect until you’ve calmed the storm—in them and in yourself.How can I keep my cool when my child constantly challenges me?Let’s be honest—strong willed kids can trigger all our buttons. I’ve had moments where I’ve thought, “What am I doing wrong?” But I’ve learned to pause, breathe, and model the behavior I want to see.I use humor a lot in our house. Squat-offs, silly voices—anything to break the tension. When I regulate myself first, I can help my kids find calm too. We walk it off together, breathe together, and talk things through—when everyone is ready.🗣️ “You’re not being too soft by staying calm. You’re teaching self control by example.” —Dr....

If your child zones out, explodes, or melts down over the “small stuff,” you’re probably wondering if something deeper is going on—and you're not wrong for thinking that. So many parents come to me feeling defeated, exhausted, or flat-out confused by their child’s behavior.Let me tell you something important: behavior is communication. It’s never just “bad behavior.” It’s your child’s nervous system waving a red flag.And once we decode what that behavior really means—under or overstimulation, most often—we can start offering the right support. That’s when everything begins to change.Why does my child seem lazy, unmotivated, or shut down?When kids appear “checked out,” we often label it as laziness or defiance. But what I see over and over again in my work is that these behaviors are really signs of understimulation—especially in younger children or kids with anxiety, ADHD, or depression.I call these behaviors “sneaky” because they look passive, but they’re actually a big clue your child needs help with behavior and mental health support.I see this all the time—kids who zone out, cling to screens, or struggle to get going. They chase stimulation but can’t stay focused. And transitions? Especially after screen time? Brutal.When that happens in my house, I don’t push—I pause. I’ll say, “Your brain seems a little sluggish—let’s move together for a minute.” That quick reset helps the brain shift gears and brings focus back online.And instead of barking, “Get started now!” I’ll say, “Do you want a timer or a little boost from me to get going?” That simple shift creates cooperation instead of conflict.Why does my child go from fine to furious in seconds?If your child runs hot—sudden meltdowns, overreactions, fear before routines—it’s probably not “attitude.” It’s a sign of overstimulation, another form of nervous system dysregulation that often gets misread as oppositional behavior or mood swings.In these moments, I focus on body awareness. If I make it a “thinking problem,” my child pushes back. So I say things like: “Your body’s telling us this is too much right now. Let’s take a break and shift gears.”When a child is overstimulated, they may:React aggressively to small changesRefuse to comply or shut downCover their ears or struggle in crowdsComplain about clothing textures or “itchy” socksExperience sudden overwhelming fear or anxiety before routinesI saw this in action recently at the grocery store. A little one was crying nonstop. His mom didn’t scold, didn’t rescue—she gently placed her hand on him, stayed calm, and let him regulate.And just like that, he calmed himself down. That’s the power of co-regulation.You don’t have to figure this out alone.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get your FREE Regulation Rescue Kit: How to Stay Calm When Your Child Pushes Your Buttons and Stop Oppositional Behaviors.Head to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and start your calm parenting journey today.What do I do when these signs show up over and over again?When patterns repeat—whether your child is zoning out or melting down—it’s time to get curious instead of reactive.I always recommend parents become behavior detectives. Track for just one week:Time of dayFood and eating habitsScreen use or sensory overloadTransitions and triggersFrom there, you can start...

I promised myself I wouldn’t yell… and then I did. If you’ve ever felt that gut-punch after losing it with your child—again—you’re not alone. I’ve been there too.As a mom and therapist, I know how exhausting it is to parent a child who’s constantly melting down or talking back. But here’s the good news: you can learn to respond, not react—and it starts with calming your own brain first.In this episode, I open up about what really drives those parenting blow-ups and how to calm your own nervous system first—so you can show up for your child with more calm, compassion, and confidence.Why do I lose it when I swore I wouldn’t?Even when we know better, sometimes our nervous system doesn’t. Our stress response kicks in, hijacks our rational brain, and suddenly we’re reacting—not responding.That’s what happened to me on a day that started with a broken air conditioner and ended with a wrong pizza order. What set me off wasn’t the pizza—it was my empty stomach, my frayed nerves, and the fact that I didn’t take time to regulate.We all have triggers. Sometimes it’s noise, sometimes it’s feeling disrespected, or simply being worn too thin. When we’re running on empty, the little things feel huge.What can I do instead of yelling?I get this question all the time. The truth is, it starts with calming your nervous system. That means:Taking a pause, even just to breathe.Saying out loud, “I’m feeling overwhelmed. I need a minute to calm myself.”Reminding yourself, “This isn’t misbehavior—it’s dysregulation.”I often say to myself, “My calm is their calm.” When my kids are dysregulated, it’s not my job to match their energy. It’s my job to bring the calm. That’s not easy—but it is possible with practice.​​Want to stay calm when your child pushes every button?Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP and get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit—your step-by-step guide to stop oppositional behaviors without yelling or giving in.Go to www.drroseann.com/newsletter and grab your kit today.How do I stop the reactivity cycle in parenting?It comes down to awareness. I’ve learned to notice the signs that I’m headed toward a meltdown: clenched teeth, shallow breathing, skipping meals. That’s when I know it’s time to step back.Some of the best ways I regulate include:Movement: Even just a few squats or stretching.Hot/cold therapy: I use a heated neck wrap—my kids tease me, but it works!Quick phrases that interrupt the cycle, like: “I will not lose my stuff.”It’s not about perfection. It’s about progress—and learning to hit the pause button before things escalate.What should I do after I’ve already blown up?Reflect with self-compassion: Ask, “Was I hungry? Tired? Triggered? Overwhelmed?”Model accountability: Say, “I’m sorry I lost my temper. That’s on me.”Focus on emotional repair:“We’re both losing it—what can we do to stop this?”“I love you. You’re safe. I’m learning, just like you.”Even toddlers understand phrases like “My brain feels hot.” Kids learn emotional regulation skills when we model repair and reflection.How do I rebuild trust and connection with my dysregulated child?Apologize with empathy: It shows your child that it’s okay to make mistakes and come back to love.Don’t normalize constant conflict: Show your child that healthy relationships have ups and...

When your child is left out, it’s the kind of heartbreak you don’t forget. I’ve sat in that front-row seat—literally—and watched it happen in real time. And I want you to know: I see you, I’ve been you, and I’m still holding space for the hurt it brings.In this episode, I’m sharing the very raw, personal story of how my son was excluded from a major school event. I’ll walk you through how I handled it (internally and externally), what I said to the teacher, and what I wish every parent would remember when it comes to teaching their child about friendship, social skills, and emotional regulation.Why does it hurt so much when your child is left out?Because we know how wonderful our kids are. We see their kind hearts, their quirky humor, their potential—and when other kids ignore or reject them, it feels like the world just can’t see what we do. That disconnect is painful. And when it happens publicly, it cuts even deeper.At my son Giancarlo’s 8th-grade graduation, several of the other boys made speeches that mentioned all their friends—except him. He was the only child left out. I was sitting in the front row, so proud, so ready to celebrate his incredible journey as a dyslexic student who worked harder than most to get there. And instead, I sat in silent shock while my heart cracked open.How should we respond when our child feels left out?First, we have to co-regulate. I wanted to scream, to cry, to throw my arms in the air and demand someone fix this. But I didn’t. Because our job in that moment is to stay present. To model regulation. To hold our kids close emotionally, even if we can’t erase the pain.What I didn’t do was rush to “fix it.” What I did do was sit with the discomfort. And later, I had a calm but direct conversation with the teacher. I told her how this impacted my son—not to place blame, but to make sure it never happens again. She cried. She apologized. And she owned it. That mattered.Should you talk to other parents or teachers when these things happen?Yes, but with intention. I didn’t blame the other kids. I didn’t even blame the parents. But I did hold the adult in charge—the teacher—accountable for letting it happen. In small school settings, we have the chance to teach inclusion. We need to take it.🗣️ “Sometimes you can’t fix why your child was left out… but you can open conversations that protect the next kid from being excluded.” — Dr. RoseannWhat if your child struggles with social skills or emotional regulation?That’s when you go deeper. Ask yourself the hard questions: Is my child reading social cues? Can they join in conversations? Are their emotions getting too big, too fast?These aren’t easy things to assess, but they are teachable. I’ve had parents come to me heartbroken, saying their child has never once been invited to a birthday party. And after working on regulation and social interaction, that same child got invited—for the very first time. That’s the power of regulation-first support.When your child is dysregulated, it’s easy to feel helpless. The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.How do we help our kids build real friendship and self-worth?It starts with reminding them that being excluded doesn’t mean they’re unworthy. It’s not about forcing them to “make more friends” or pretending it didn’t happen. It’s about sitting with them and saying, “I see how hard this is. I’m here with you.”We also have to teach emotional language, coping skills,...

If your child is anxious, reactive, or easily dysregulated, it might be time to look at what’s on their plate. I talk with parents every day who feel stuck, not realizing that diet can be a fast, powerful way to regulate the nervous system.In this episode, I share the top 3 foods that make anxiety worse—and how small swaps can lead to big changes in behavior, mood, and emotional control.Why does my child crash after eating sugary snacks?Sugar and processed carbs are everywhere. And honestly? They’re one of the most common triggers I see in anxious kids. These foods cause blood sugar spikes, followed by a crash that fuels anxiety, irritability, and mood swings.They also disrupt neurotransmitters like serotonin and GABA, which are key for staying calm and focused. And let’s not forget the gut—simple carbs and added sugars increase inflammation, which affects both digestion and brain function.I’ve seen families swap out cereal and juice for things like turkey roll-ups or apples with nut butter—and notice calmer behavior that same day.What works: Combine healthy fats and proteins with carbs to avoid blood sugar crashes. That might look like yogurt with berries or a smoothie made with real fruit and nut butter.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.Are food dyes and additives making my child’s anxiety worse?Yes. Dyes like Red 40 and additives like aspartame and MSG can overstimulate the nervous system, especially in sensitive or neurodivergent kids. These ingredients are commonly found in snacks, drinks, and even vitamins—and they’ve been linked to:Poor sleepDifficulty focusingIrritability and mood swingsOne mom told me her daughter would be “out of control for days” after eating just one candy with dye. After cutting it out completely, she saw a major shift in her child’s mood and behavior.What to avoid: Neon-colored snacks, sodas, artificial sweeteners, and anything with a long ingredient list.What to try instead: Naturally colored fruits, freeze-dried snacks, or a simple homemade trail mix with seeds, coconut flakes, and a bit of dark chocolate.Can gluten really affect anxiety symptoms?In short—yes. Gluten, especially in the U.S., is often sprayed with pesticides that disrupt the gut and trigger inflammation, which can worsen symptoms of anxiety and even panic attacks.I’ve seen kids with undiagnosed gluten sensitivity deal with years of anxiety before we finally traced it back to their diet. My own nephew’s anxiety improved after discovering he had celiac disease.The good news: There are tons of gluten-free options now—from brown rice to almond flour crackers to coconut wraps. You don’t have to go without—just make smarter swaps.Can changing diet actually help reduce anxiety?Absolutely. Making food changes doesn’t mean perfection or doing everything at once. But removing just one of these triggers—sugar, additives, or gluten—for 30 days can help your child sleep better, focus longer, and feel less anxious.Stick with whole foods, healthy fats, protein, and complex carbs. Be consistent. Even small changes, when done regularly, can have a powerful calming effect on the nervous system.🗣️ “These...

The answer lies in the nervous system. When a child’s brain is in “survival mode,” even small stressors can feel huge. That’s why these exercises are designed to activate the parasympathetic nervous system—the body’s natural "calm and connect" state.No fancy equipment required. These therapeutic exercises are simple, science-backed ways to help children and teens regulate emotions and build emotional balance. The more consistently you practice them, the more emotional regulation skills improve over time.Let’s walk through the top 5 therapeutic exercises to improve emotional regulation skills in children and teens.Why Does My Child Struggle With Emotional Regulation?Many kids today are stuck in fight-or-flight mode. Their nervous system is overreactive, which means even small stressors can trigger intense emotional reactions. And when that system never gets a chance to reset, emotional self-regulation becomes nearly impossible.🗣️ “Many kids today are stuck in fight-or-flight mode. Their nervous system is overreactive, which means even small stressors can trigger intense emotional reactions.”— Dr. RoseannThat’s why the focus here is on calming the brain and body—because that’s where strong emotional regulation skills begin. These therapeutic exercises activate the parasympathetic system, helping your child shift from survival to safety.With daily practice, children become more aware of their own emotions, learn to respond instead of react, and start to experience more positive emotions—even in stressful situations.What Is a Heart Hug—and How Does It Help With Emotional Regulation?The heart hug is a simple, grounding touch-based exercise that uses deep breathing and gentle pressure to regulate the nervous system. It’s one of the most powerful emotional regulation activities for children of all ages, including toddlers and teens.When a child places one hand on their heart and the other on their shoulder, they’re activating the vagus nerve. This tells the brain: “You’re safe.” Over time, this helps reduce stress, improve emotional well-being, and promote better mental health.Co-regulation strategies like this one also strengthen your connection as a parent. When done together, your calm presence helps your child learn how to calm their own body and mind.How to do it:Right hand on the heart, left hand on the opposite shoulderPress gently and breathe deeplyFeet flat on the floorDo it with your child to promote co-regulationReal-life tip: Use it in the morning or before bed—or when your child is spiraling. Even toddlers can learn this with help.When your child is dysregulated, it’s easy to feel helpless.The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.How Does the 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique Improve Emotional Regulation?The 5-4-3-2-1 Sensory Awareness Activity is a grounding technique that brings children out of emotional overwhelm and back into the present moment. It’s especially effective when anxiety or overwhelming emotions are hijacking their nervous system.How to Practice:5 things they see4 things they feel3 things they hear2 things they smell1 thing they tasteThis technique boosts mindfulness, improves emotional self-regulation, and reconnects brain and body. It's a...