The Selfish Griever

Grieving takes so much energy, and sometimes even when we want a break we can't find a way to stop our brains from running a million miles. I remember when I couldn't sleep at night, or would finally manage to fall asleep only to wake with my mind thinking about Orion and the devastation I felt at his death. Today's guest, Kenna Cox, is a certified yoga instructor sharing a yoga technique that most haven't heard of Yoga Nidra, which has nothing to do with moving the body and everything to do with quieting the mind. She shares the technique that is used, a guided meditation that you can do in person or using a recording, and the ways it can take your mind to different states of consciousness. This is a practice that is easy to implement immediately, for free even using recordings you can find online, and I hope is of service to you anytime but especially during the holiday season that can be a hard time for so many of us. Kenna's WebsiteSign Up Here to get Kenna's free guided meditationAre you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportWe hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

Being Spiritual, knowing your child is still with you in Spirit helps but it doesn't replace the feeling of holding them in your arms and the absence seems stronger over the holidays. Whitney shares ways that she honors Orion during the holidays, in ways you might not have thought of, and why it's important to her to do so. If you are doing acts in honor of your child during the holiday season and are sharing them on Instagram, please let Whitney know by tagging her @theselfishgriever or #selfishgriever. She will be sharing on her Instagram and would love to see all the ways other parents are bringing more kindness into the world because of their child they grieve. You can watch this episode, as well as other episodes and clips on The Selfish Griever YouTube Channel. If you stop by please subscribe so you'll be alerted each time Whitney shares new content! We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

The holiday season is here and its a hard time of year for grieving parents. Whether its the first holiday season without your child or the 20th, their absence is always noticed. Whitney wants to remind you of something that can be so simple but it absolutely important: Self-Care. Self-care doesn't have to be complicated or expensive, but it can make a difference in how you move through the holiday season carrying your grief. For support with handling holiday invitations and some ideas for honoring your child during the holiday season register for the Healing Hearts Bundle to get access to Whitney's free guide, "How to Handle Grieving During the Holidays" Click Here to RegisterWe hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Also if you haven’t done so already, please follow the podcast. Follow Now!Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

Alex Suriano works to support grieving women after her son Phillip died at one month old. She has brought together 21 other grief support providers to contribute free resources you can download to support you on your grief journey, including a guide I created "How to Handle The Holidays While Grieving" and a "Guided Meditation For Connecting With Deceased Loved Ones" by Dr. Lenore Matthews who has been a guest on this podcast. This is a short bonus episode from The Selfish Griever podcast interviewing Alex about this amazing offer she has created. Contact Alex directly at support@alexsuriano.comRegister for the offer by November 12, 2023 at www.alexsuriano.com/healing-heartsWe hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of. Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

If you have been receiving messages from your deceased loved one but dismissing them because you think "I'm not a medium I can't be speaking with people on the Other Side," you might be surprised to learn communication with the Other Side isn't reserved only for mediums. Dr. Lenore Matthew has been using her background in social work to study grief and the effects of mediumship and afterlife communication since her husband Bruno died by suicide three years ago. Dr. Matthew shares about the detailed messages she started recieving from Bruno almost immediately after his death, her journey to develop her mediumship capabilities more and the work she is doing now to help those curious to know more about their own abilities. Dr. Matthew is a returning guest, her first episode she shared details about the studies she was conducting on grievers and the impact of mediumship in processing grief.

We all have ideas of how a grief journey should go, the consensus being that the grief gets smaller, easier to carry, as time goes on. In the beginning when everything feels so overwhelming and hopeless, we set our sights on working towards the day that we can make it through without breaking down in tears.But have we considered the ways our sadness and tears are helping us? Whitney shares in today’s episode that she hasn’t been giving herself space to feel her sadness, telling herself that she is far enough along on her grief journey that she doesn’t need to feel sad anymore, and what happened when she finally did.In this episode Whitney shares that listening to the playlist the she made early in her grief journey, when she couldn’t bear to listen to mainstream media, helped her in processing her grief and sadness. Here is the link to the playlist.Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportWe hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of. Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

After Vanessa's son died unexpectedly from an unexplained illness she found herself struggling to understand how this could happen. She used her experience as a nutritional coach to heal the grief in her mind, body and spirit and wrote a book about her first year after her son's death, Love Untethered. She has since become a certified grief coach and works with her clients to help them heal holistically. She shares her perspective on why grieving is so hard on your emotions as well as your body and how her spiritual awakening has supported her on her grief journey. Vanessa's book Love Untethered Contact VanessaClick Here to watch the full episode on YouTube.We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to support Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

Since Orion's death Whitney has been asking herself, "who am I?" This drive to know the answer, to find a way to keep living her life now after traumatic loss and devastating changes, has taken her down a lot of paths and she is realizing now it's not just about whether you can recognize who you are, what truly makes you happy, but also can you embrace it no matter the self-judgment and fear? The best part of seeking the answer to "Who are you?" is that you're the only deciding authority, and finding that answer will be a journey unique to you. You don't need to know how, you just need to want to find out. We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Also if you haven’t done so already, please follow the podcast. Follow Now!Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

It's hard to imagine that souls are ageless when your child has died before you even got to meet them. But today's guest, Fiona, has no doubt that her daughter who was stillborn is still around her and older than a newborn. She shares the incredible telepathic connection that she shares with her daughter now as her daily guide, which started with Fiona building through the Sign Game which any parent can play with their child on the Other Side. Fiona's story and experiences have brought so much hope to the grief community and Whitney is grateful that she came to share with the listeners here. Has the podcast helped you and you're a big fan? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to support We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of. Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

Whitney always dreamed of being a mom. She knew she was going to be the best mom, keeping her kids safe and raising them to be amazing people. Until one night the unexpected happened and her twin son Orion died in an accident. Whitney started to ask herself, “Was this my fault?”Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportFor complete show notes visit www.theselfishgriever.com/podcast/50Click Here to watch the full episode on YouTube.We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

A grieving father navigates the heartbreaking loss of his daughter, finding solace and strength through the support of his Jewish community and traditions in the ongoing journey of mourning, while embracing the power of memories to keep her spirit alive.Michael Liben is also the host of the podcast Bereaved But Still Me. Click Here to listen to Whitney's interview on his podcast. Click Here to watch the full episode on YouTube. Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportWe hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

“Secondary loss” has become a common term in the grief community to refer to all the other things that change in addition to your loved one not being physically here anymore. A frequent secondary loss is of friends and family who disappear from your life. But what about if you're the one who decides to end the relationship? Click here for full show notes. Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to support We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

Whitney had never been to therapy before Orion died. She felt overwhelmed trying to learn who she should talk to and where to find them, and ended up working with some of the wrong therapists before she found the right ones. Whitney asked her grief counselor to share what are some signs you should be considering therapy, what kind of therapies are there and how to know if your therapist is a good fit. We hope you enjoy and that this helps you on your grief journey. Watch this episode on YouTubeContact Carol How to find a Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us or https://sananetwork.com Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to support We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay

Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportCheck us out on YouTube to see videos of your favorite episodes! We hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Are you new to The Selfish Griever Community? Here is a playlist of the Top 5 Episodes of Season 1 to you get you started, and welcome! Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

I am now posting video on YouTube! Click here to see the video. Season 2 starts tomorrow and I am so excited to finally share all the episodes that I have been working on during the break. Please click here to leave a review and let me know if you like the new episodes.

If you have never heard of breathwork then this episode is for you. Whitney shares how she was first introduced to breathwork in an unexpected setting that did lead to a beautiful mystical experience but also caused some distress to her nervous system. Today's guest, Greg Moran, explains that there are different techniques to breathwork and he uses a more gentle approach so as not to cause the "fight or flight" response to the nervous system like Whitney did.Whitney and Greg also discuss how important is it to work with a certified practioner? How often should you do breathwork journeys? What will the experience be like? And can it really help you work through your trauma? Greg Moran is a Breathwork Facilitator certified through Sacred Breath Academy in their trauma-informed, holistic breathwork facilitator training program. Greg now facilitates virtual breathwork journeys with the Sacred Breath Academy, as well as teaches and facilitates at SBA’s in-person facilitator training intensives around the world.Click here to check out Greg's websiteFollow him on Instagram Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportWe hope you enjoyed this episode Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate, and select “Write a Review.” Let me know what you liked most about the episode and what you’d like to hear more of.Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @‌theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.comShe reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support!Music by Coma-Media from PixabayPodcast hosted on Spreaker

Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportDo you know who you are? Have you been questioning that more since the passing of your child? Is there an "old you" that you miss? And maybe most importantly, are you creating the "new you" or is it just a product of your grief after your child's death? Whitney has been asking these questions of herself lately as the third anniversary of Orion's death passes. She doesn't have any answers, just her own observations for her so far.We hope you enjoyed this episode. It is the last one of Season 1 of The Selfish Griever Podcast. Whitney is going to be busy planning content for Season 2, as well as some other exciting projects for The Selfish Griever Community, and will be back with the first episode of Season 2 on Wednesday, October 4th, 2023. Taking a few minutes to rate and review the podcast will help other listeners find our community! Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.com She reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support! Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Podcast hosted on Spreaker

Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportIf you've been on the fence about mediation, or convinced yourself that its too hard, then today's episode is for you. Whitney shares 3 common misconceptions about meditation and why it's not as hard as you might think.We hope you enjoyed this episode and if the show resonates with you then welcome to our community and please subscribe so you will be alerted each Wednesday & Friday when a new episode releases. Taking a few minutes to rate and review the podcast will help other listeners find our community! Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.com She reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support! Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Podcast hosted on Spreaker

Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportHow aware are you of your own personality traits? Have you considered how those might be impacting the way that you grieve? What if more self-awareness could aid you in navigating your grief journey?Today's guest, Chandel Beck, is an enthusiast of the Enneagram and uses it in helping her clients process their grief. She discusses in today's episode a broad overview of the Enneagram personality test and what information we can gather from it in helping us make sense of our grief and finding a way to move forward. To learn more about the enneagram test visit The Enneagram Institute website. You can contact Chandel via email.Connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.com She reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support! Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Podcast hosted on Spreaker

**I'm not going to say trigger warning, because honestly thats every episode on this podcast. But today's episode is highly emotional, so please don't listen until you're in a safe space. This episode will always be here, so you can skip it and come back if necessary. Today marks the third year without Orion here to hug. Whitney shares a part of her grief journey that she doesn't see mentioned often, especially since it is something that everyone has to deal with - what to do with your loved ones remains? Whitney struggled not only when they had to make intial decisions on how they wanted to proceed, and all the details that entailed, but now the way that she feels about Orion's grave where it was decided to bury him.For complete show notes please visit TheSelfishGriever.com/podcast/42Are you a huge fan of the show? Just 20 patrons sponsoring $4.99/month can cover our monthly production costs. Will you join this circle of support? Your gesture is more than monetary; it’s a commitment to helping others find strength in their grief journey. Click Here to supportTaking a few minutes to rate and review the podcast will help other listeners find our community! For more information you can connect with Whitney directly on Instagram @theselfishgriever or at www.theselfishgriever.com She reads all her DMs personally and will respond as soon as she can.Thank you for your support! Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Podcast hosted on Spreaker