Wild Monogamy

Sometimes we simply give in to the convenience of 'meh' frozen pizza.  Similarly, sometimes, we're simply trying to fill a void with pseudo sex.  We settle for less when we all desire gourmet pizza, and we end up settling for lackluster sex AND feeling worse.  How you do something is how you do everything - and Jase and Mel dive into what it means to live in your full vitality outside of the bedroom - so you can bring your full vitality to the bedroom.

How did we get here? How did we evolve from connected, supportive villages and tribes to individuals and families living so separate from one another?  Community is incredibly important, and Mel and Jase talk about the importance of community in our individual lives and growth, but also for the continued expansion and growth of relationships.  A supportive village can bring out the best in you, challenge you, hold you accountable, and celebrate your growth.

All too often we enter partnership with the expectation that this is the one who will complete us. Or we may feel burdened by the partner who expects to be completed.  The truth of the matter is that you are the only one who can complete you. In this episode, Mel and Jase discuss the burden we place on one another when we hold expectations and what it means to take responsibility for our own growth.

We're back!  Mel and Jase kick off the new year with an episode about intention. The word "goal" is used often this time of year, but what are your intentions? What are you "tending"? Your energy and attention are currency.  How - and with who - are you spending it?

What is medicine? Is it that which brings you joy? That which helps you heal? In this episode, Mel and Jase talk about medicine in all its forms - the amazing connections, new perspectives, hard lessons, unbelievable joy and growth you can experience when you ... as Nahko says ... "find your medicine and use it"

In this episode, Mel and Jase discuss danger in living comfortably, and the life in living dangerously.  To live dangerously means to live... and living never flowers in security. It flowers only in insecurity.

We're back! After several weeks apart on individual trips and intensives, Jase and Mel talk about coming back together. Often, while one partner is growing individually, the other partner is holding space. Mel and Jase talk about what it's like to be in these different roles - the beauty, the fear, and the delicious life-giving tension of saying goodbye, holding space, the anticipation of reconnecting, and the challenge of knowing you both will be different people on the other side.

The first rule about Fight Club is ... we absolutely talk about fights and anger. In this episode, Mel and Jase talk about rage, anger, and the importance of fighting in a relationship. However, with great anger comes great responsibility. It's a fire that can burn and destroy, but also a fire that can create and provide. 

When life gets busy, it can be a challenge to find the time for sex.  We often plan our days around work, the gym, or time with friends and family... we get pulled in unexpected directions, and somehow sex gets pushed to another day. But, what if we scheduled sex? It may not sound wild, but you might be surprised! In this episode, Mel and Jase talk about the amazing benefits of scheduling sex including all-day foreplay, anticipation, creativity and deeper connection.

With Mel coming off a week of deep soul work in the desert, this episode was an opportunity for Mel to put Jase on the hot seat. They dive into Jase's journey, embracing the mystery, burning it down, finding your fire, and what this means for Jase, his family, and the greater community that he serves.

Our good friends Tabitha and Conor or Labyrinth Mushrooms join us for an honest and incredibly fun discussion about the "Wild Man" inside all of us, and the adventure of reconnecting with this part of ourselves.  We cover a lot of ground in this one... and we share a lot of laughs!  

So often, orgasm becomes the end goal and focal point of intimacy. In this episode, Jase and Mel discuss the concept of holding or delaying this release of energy, riding the line of primal urge and restraint, and exploring the many benefits of their new take on this ancient practice - including incredibly deep connection and trust, carrying and focusing your life force energy through the next day, and the longing and unbelievable pleasure when you and your partner bring it back together.

Some people are great at telling you what they need.  Some people have needs that they rarely express. In this episode of Wild Monogamy, Mel and Jase discuss the dynamics of truly understanding your individual needs, having a voice to announce those needs to your partner, and the dance, risk and beauty this brings to your relationship.

Let's talk about sex! Mel and Jase talk about how sex in your relationship is a barometer for both your individual mental and physical health, as well as the state of connection and polarity with your partner.  How you do something is how you do everything, and how you show up individually in the world follows you into the bedroom.

In this premier episode of Wild Monogamy, meet Mel and Jase as they share some of their story and explain the idea of wild monogamy.