Aging in Style with Lori Williams

How can strokes be prevented?Our beautiful brain hosts millions of cells, however, every minute that our brain goes without proper blood flow, 1.9 million brain cells die. This statistic is incredibly significant and brings home the importance of quick action when stroke symptoms appear. In this episode, I’m thrilled to have two exceptional guests from Medical City Lewisville, a top-notch hospital I can personally vouch for. Both guests are dedicated to stroke care and prevention: Miranda Bik-Williams: A registered nurse and certified case manager with seven years at Medical City Lewisville, now serving as the stroke coordinator. Holli Thornhill: Also a registered nurse and the Director for Quality Resources with 19 years of nursing experience, 14 of which have been at Medical City Lewisville. Holly has seen the effects of stroke firsthand and is a staunch advocate for preventive medicine.Recognizing Stroke Symptoms: BE FASTOne of the best ways to remember the signs of a stroke is with the acronym “BE FAST”: Balance: Sudden loss of balance or coordination Eyes: Vision loss or blurred visionFace: Facial weakness or paralysis Arms: Inability to lift arms or a drifting arm Speech: Slurred speech or speaking incoherently Time: Time to call 911 immediately at the first signsWhen I hear how quickly brain cells die during a stroke, it underscores the need to call 911 immediately. Time is of the essence to save a life and prevent severe brain damage.Causes and Risk Factors for StrokeThere are several causes and risk factors for strokes, many of which are preventable: High blood pressure: The top risk factor. Smoking: Nicotine constricts blood vessels. Diabetes: Increases risk. Diet: High cholesterol and fat intake contribute.Physical inactivity: Leads to other contributing factors like obesity. Underlying conditions: Atrial fibrillation, sleep apnea, peripheral artery disease, etc.The Immediate Response to a StrokeWhen 911 is called, EMS providers start treatment en route to the hospital, ensuring that vital, life-saving measures are begun even before arrival. This can make a significant difference in outcomes.Quick hospital interventions include the administration of clot-busting medications, which must be given within a specific time frame and other procedures to physically remove clots. Knowing your last time of feeling normal is crucial to receive the appropriate treatment.Understanding TIAs: A Warning SignTransient Ischemic Attacks (TIAs) or “mini-strokes” are significant warning signs. They should be treated with the same urgency as strokes. It’s critical to recognize them as yellow lights indicating a potential future stroke.Prevention: Manage What You Can ControlKey factors: Hypertension: Get it under control. Diabetes: Manage blood sugar levels. Quit Smoking: Reduces stroke risk. Diet and Exercise: Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Know Your Numbers: Cholesterol, blood pressure, etc.The Impact of a Stroke and RecoveryStrokes create pathways for new neural pathways through rigorous and immediate rehabilitation, including physical, occupational, and speech therapy. Mark's journey highlighted the essential role rehab played in his recovery, and I’m thankful for the excellent rehab centers in the Dallas area.Takeaways from this episode:Be FAST: Every minute without proper blood flow results in the death of approximately 1.9 million brain cells, emphasizing the need to call 911 immediately when stroke symptoms are present.High blood pressure,...

How can I cope when I’m grieving someone who is still alive?You always hear about grief when someone has died – but what about if they’re still alive?This is a scenario commonly experienced when a loved one suffers an accident or stroke, or has been given a life-changing diagnosis such as Parkinson’s or Alzheimer’s. You grieve who they were and the life you once had. The 5 stages of grief are the same as if someone died: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.For me, I was accustomed to counseling people whose loved one’s life changed – but living on the other side of it has been quite different. In this episode, I'll be sharing my experience with these stages in the months after my husband had a stroke on Christmas. Instead of “checking” each stage off the list, I've cycled through some stages multiple times, with them lessening in intensity over time. I've even found myself missing the little things, like my husband’s quirks and “annoying” habits.To manage grief, she suggests 3 tips:1. Let it out: Talk to a therapist or trusted friend / family member. Scream in the car if you need to, or journal your feelings. Just don’t keep the feelings trapped inside.2. Don’t get stuck: It’s okay to spend time in each stage of grief. The problem is when you can’t move past a stage and your body hangs on to the emotions. It’s not good for you. Life will look different moving forward, but you can’t dwell on the past and what “should have been.”3. Find support: There are many support groups online, like on Facebook, along with resources such as the Alzheimer’s Association. Find what works best for you because you can’t do it alone. You’ll discover many people are living your same experiences.It’s also important to remember you have to take care of yourself. Whether that’s a massage or taking a daily walk, find a way to give back to yourself and take a break. Plus, give yourself grace if you need additional support. You have to do what’s best and safest for all involved, and it’s okay to ask for help.To manage grief, here are my 3 tips:1. Let it out: Talk to a therapist or trusted friend / family member. Scream in the car if you need to, or journal your feelings. Just don’t keep the feelings trapped inside.2. Don’t get stuck: It’s okay to spend time in each stage of grief. The problem is when you can’t move past a stage and your body hangs on to the emotions. It’s not good for you. Life will look different moving forward, but you can’t dwell on the past and what “should have been.”3. Find support: There are many support groups online, like on Facebook, along with resources such as the Alzheimer’s Association. Find what works best for you because you can’t do it alone. You’ll discover many people are living your same experiences.It’s also important to remember you have to take care of yourself. Whether that’s a massage or taking a daily walk, find a way to give back to yourself and take a break. Plus, give yourself grace if you need additional support. You have to do what’s best and safest for all involved, and it’s okay to ask for help.Topics discussed:The 5 stages of griefAlzheimer’sParkinson’sDementiaStrokesTraumatic brain injuriesCaregiver supportCoping with griefJournalingSelf-careTakeaways from this episode:It’s okay to grieve when a loved one’s life has changed for the worst. Give yourself time and grace to feel everything. Just make sure you’re processing those feelings so you don’t get stuck.You may not experience each stage of grief only

When talking to other caregivers, I found a striking similarity: Many of us felt ill-equipped after our loved ones were discharged from rehab. After my husband suffered a stroke on Christmas Day in 2022, I learned firsthand what many of my clients experience each day. Once he was released from rehab, I was given my husband’s medicine, told to install grab bars in the shower for safety, add a shower chair, and was sent on my way. My well-intentioned friends also advised me to make time for myself and to exercise. Easier said than done! When a loved one’s needs are significant, caregivers become overwhelmed and burnt out. Meeting our own needs feels less urgent and maybe even impossible.The reality? I (and many caregivers) need a different type of support: realistic solutions for protecting our energy.Here are my 6 tips for caregivers having a tough time:Make sure you have knowledge of helpful resources to ease your burden. Examples include meal delivery services, tele-health visits, medication delivery, and more.Establish a routine. This helps you stay on target and keeps you organized. This is especially important when administering medication is involved.Get dependable help. Whether that’s a family member or a professional, it can better help you tend to your own needs (and those of your other family members).Find respite in an overnight (or longer) break. Maybe your loved one has a respite stay with an assisted living facility so you can get a full night’s rest. Maybe you take a weekend off while your other loved ones pitch in.Work out a flexible plan with your employer. They may allow you to work from home or offer employee assistance.Rely on your friends and family. Maybe it’s for venting or reinforcements, but you can’t do this alone. Let them be there for you.Topics discussed:Caregiver burnoutHow to support caregiversCaregiver resourcesSocial Security DisabilityRespiteEmployee assistanceProfessional caregiversTakeaways from this episode:- Burnout can look like many things. Maybe you’re exhausted, scatterbrained, stressed, or crying more than usual. This is a sign to find support.- Allsup is a service that can help people get Social Security Disability (SSDI). When people file on their own, it can take years for approval. Using a service like this tends to have a higher success rate.- Know your own limits. There’s no shame in hiring help, especially if it promotes safety for your loved one.- There are many resources for the time-pressed caregiver: meal delivery, medication delivery, tele-health, home health and more.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/ Front Porch Pantry - healthy meals delivered to your door:a...

Mother's Day is a special occasion to honor and celebrate the remarkable women in our lives who have lovingly served in the role of a mother figure. However, when your loved one is navigating the journey of dementia, finding the perfect gift that resonates with their unique needs and preferences becomes a heartfelt challenge. In this episode of Aging in Style, you'll learn what to consider when selecting Mother's Day gifts tailored for moms, grandmothers, or any mother figure facing dementia. These seven thoughtful categories of gifts are designed to bring joy, comfort, and meaningful connections to individuals with dementia: Sensory gifts: From cozy blankets to scented lotions and fidget blankets, these gifts aim to provide tactile stimulation and comfort to your loved one. Digital Photo Albums: The idea of creating a personalized photo album or digital frame filled with cherished memories serves as a poignant gift that can evoke familiar emotions and spark conversations, offering a sense of connection and recognition for individuals with dementia. Nature-inspired gifts: nature walks and bird feeders, are meaningful ways to foster a connection to the natural world, providing a calming and therapeutic experience for individuals with dementia. Simple crafts and activities: adult coloring books, puzzles, and craft projects, offer engaging and creative outlets for self-expression and cognitive stimulation, fostering a sense of accomplishment and joy in the process. Music: creating a customized music playlist filled with familiar tunes that can evoke cherished memories and emotions, offers a profound way to connect with individuals with dementia through the universal language of music. Dementia therapy dolls: a unique and increasingly popular gift option, provides individuals with dementia a sense of purpose, comfort, and companionship, and create a significant positive impact on their emotional well-being and quality of life. Ultimately, the most precious gift one can offer to a loved one with dementia is the gift of time. Whether engaging in shared activities, reminiscing about the past, or simply spending quality time together, the act of being present and creating meaningful memories holds immeasurable value and brings profound joy to both the caregiver and the individual with dementia. As we approach Mother's Day, let us embrace the opportunity to celebrate and cherish the incredible women in our lives with thoughtful and meaningful gifts that cater to their unique needs and bring moments of joy, connection, and love. Topics discussed:Mother's Day gifts for loved ones with dementia Sensory gifts for dementia patients Personalized photo albums and digital frames for seniorsNature-inspired gifts for moms with dementia Crafting activities and puzzles for moms with dementia Dementia therapy dolls for emotional well-being Mother's Day gifts for grandmothersTakeaways:Just because a mother figure is experiencing dementia, it doesn't mean that you can't make Mother's Day special: intentional and safe gifts can still provide beautiful moments.Sensory gifts provide exceptional opportunities to engage and activate different sides of the brain.Digital or physical photo albums can provide hours of distraction and conversation with caregivers. More tech-advanced albums allow you to update the photo selection by simply uploading photos to proprietary apps on your phone. Walks in nature and taking time to bake together are intentional, experiential gifts that provide the most important gift of all: intentional time together. Resources mentioned in this...

How can I avoid family drama when an elderly loved one needs care?Every family has its own conflicts and drama. This truth becomes more obvious when aging parents or loved ones need care due to dementia, Alzheimer’s, or other diagnoses where they require constant care. Old fights and hurt feelings resurface, siblings butt heads, and the stress of the situation can make it all worse!Author Leah Stanley joins me to share her experiences with caregiving and how family dynamics can complicate the situation. She began caring for her grandparents when she was only 29 and wrote about the experience in Goodnight, Sweet: A Caregiver's Long Goodbye. She also shares 3 of her tips she wished she'd known to help avoid family conflict. They are:Prepare and communicate: It’s best when a parent has a plan in place for their future care needs and to discuss this plan with their adult children. This includes decisions about financial matters, healthcare preferences, and end-of-life care. Having these conversations in advance can help reduce stress and confusion later on.Work together despite our differences: Family members need to be willing to set aside personal differences and work together for the well-being of their loved one who needs care. If they don’t get along, it only negatively impacts the parent.Seek family mediation: If family members find it challenging to come to an agreement, try using a family mediator. They can help everyone find common ground and work toward the best outcome.Caregiving can unfortunately take a huge emotional toll, and the last thing anyone needs is fighting. The best thing we can do is discuss ahead of time and prevent fights before they arise, and a plan is essential to that. If fights arise, nip them in the bud or use any resources you can to minimize the damage. Topics discussed:Preparation and communication for caregivingWorking together with familyFamily mediationLegal documents and end-of-life planningSelf-care and caregiver stress Takeaways from this episode:-There’s no clear reason why families fight when an elderly loved one needs care. Sometimes it’s not about the situation at hand – childhood trauma or sibling rivalries may resurface.-Make sure you know which family member is tasked with what if an emergency arises.-Being proactive means having legal documents in place, such as wills, powers of attorney, and advance directives. This gives families clarity and guidance in caregiving situations.-Caregiving is often emotionally and physically demanding, so prioritizing self-care is essential.-If you’re having family conflicts, you’re not alone. Family mediators are available for a reason. Try having a neutral third-party help.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/

How is CARFIT good for seniors?It’s important for everyone to be as safe as possible on the road, and CARFIT helps ensure you're in the best position to stay safe in your vehicle. I had the pleasure of welcoming Amanda Mills, RN, Trauma Program Manager with Medical City Lewisville’s to learn all about CARFIT events and how they can help the senior population in particular.In 2006 CARFIT was created in collaboration with AAA, AARP, and the American Occupational Therapy Association. CARFIT is a volunteer-driven initiative dedicated to ensuring driver safety on the road by conducting thorough car assessments. This is especially important for the older adult population as they undergo different changes with their vision and reflexes. These appointments are free of charge and last 20 minutes on average, with more complex visits taking 30 minutes.One common issue is many people don’t wear their seatbelt correctly because it cuts into their neck. This results in the seatbelt not working properly to protect you when there's a crash. CARFIT volunteers help make sure the seatbelt aligns correctly on your shoulder so it’s safe and comfortable. Another consideration for car safety is that airbags deploy at 100 – 200 miles per hour. As a result it's important to position the steering wheel at least 10 inches away and making sure it's pointed toward the chest for maximum safety.The CARFIT program offers an important service that could help save your life. Go to carfit.org to find an event near you or learn more about education and training to bring this program to your community.Topics discussed:- The CARFIT program- Vehicle safety for seniors- Car safety tips- Misconceptions about CARFIT- Where to find CARFIT near youTakeaways from this episode:-CARFIT offers a 12-point inspection covering essential car safety such as seat positioning, steering wheel alignment, seatbelt placement, and airbag safety.- Appointments are free and typically last 20 minutes.- A common fear for seniors is that their car will be taken away. CARFIT is not a driving diagnostic, as focus is on the vehicle itself in relation to the passenger. Nothing is shared with the DMV.- Seatbelt and steering wheel positioning are two easy ways to optimize safety in your car.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/ Contact Amanda Mills to register for the Lewisville event on May 2 at 9 a.m. - 12 p.m. CT: Email: Amanda.mills@medicalcity.com Phone: 469-370-2023Visit carfit.org to learn more

'What should I know to age well?' I just turned 60, and this has brought up a lot of thoughts. You might be surprised to hear none are negative, but that’s because I honestly feel blessed to be here. (Aging isn't a guarantee!) My life has been full of ups and downs, and many of my plans didn’t go exactly the way I wanted them to. Still, I can say it all worked out in the end.As a senior living expert, I also interact with many amazing people in their 80s, 90s and even 100s every day. Many have a positive mindset around aging as well! The ones that seem happiest have quite a few things in common, and I’ve compiled the trends into a list of 5 ways to age well and maintain a good mindset in life. They are:1. Stay physically active. Keep moving, whether you dance a few minutes each day, take walks, or play pickleball.2. Find what fulfills you. Do you like to give back and volunteer? Keep doing that. Work a part-time job you enjoy. You still have something to give no matter your age.3. Stay social. Whether it’s through church or a local senior center, find a place to connect with others. Even if you just have a neighbor you run errands with, that’s a great way to be social.4. Learn a new skill. Some colleges offer courses specifically for seniors, but you can also teach yourself a new language with a phone app or try gardening.5. Keep your brain healthy. Read a book, do crossword puzzles, or try something to keep firing those neural connections in your brain.My personal addition is to also find ways to have fun. Getting older doesn’t mean you have to be serious! In fact, author Katharine Esty shared on an earlier episode of my podcast that people in their 80s tend to be happier than those in their 40s. In fact, many people begin an upward trajectory of happiness in their middle age.Of course, bad things happen in life – loved ones get sick, we deal with different challenges with work – that’s inevitable. But it’s so important to stay positive. No matter how old you are, you have something to give. You can reinvent yourself and have fun. Just look at Iris Apfel, who became a model at 97!Topics discussed:- Tips for aging- Ways to stay active as a senior- Finding fulfillment- The important of being social- Learning at any age- Positive / opportunity mindsets- Happiness and agingTakeaways from this episode:- Staying social is a matter of longevity. We saw the impact of this during the pandemic - those who were isolated quickly declined both mentally and physically.- Many older folks feel the freedom of not caring what others think. This doesn’t mean being mean to others, but they live authentic and true to who they are.- No matter your age, you can still do amazing things. It’s all about your mindset.- Find what you’re passionate about and engage wholeheartedly. Whether that’s gardening, learning something new, volunteering, or going to church.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/

What do I need to know about hospice?Hospice can be a scary word for people, but it’s important to understand. Karyl Thomas of Lori Williams Senior Services joins me to bring her 20+ years of expertise, including 3 years working in hospice herself. She shares 10 things you should know about hospice, many that correct common misconceptions around it!1. Hospice doesn’t hasten death. It allows the disease to run its course but helps ensure a better quality of life as it does.2. You won’t have your medications taken from you when you go on hospice care. Any medications that improve your quality of life and prevent injury will continue.3. You can still go to the hospital when on hospice, but the goal is to avoid unnecessary hospital visits. If you broke your hip but were in hospice for congestive heart failure, you could still have surgery to fix the hip.4. You can go to physical therapy, but insurance and Medicare may not pay for you to have physical therapy and be on hospice at the same time. But patients with the funds have the option to pay for additional therapies privately if needed for comfort or functional purposes.5. Hospice does not seek aggressive treatments specific to the terminal illness. Instead, it focuses on comfort and quality of life.6. You’re not required to have a do not resuscitate (DNR) order for hospice enrollment, but most do. You still have the option to decline for religious reasons and more.7. The type of hospice care you’ll receive depends on your individual needs. 24/7 care is typically reserved for end-of-life situations or acute distress.8. All hospice agencies are different. Do your due diligence to find the right one for you! Read reviews and learn about their after-hours care, frequency of hospice aid visits, etc.9. You have to qualify for hospice care, with a general prognosis of 6 months, a physician’s order and a clinical evaluation by the hospice agency.10. The majority of hospice is at home. A hospice facility will take patients with a prognosis of 5 days or less.It’s important to destigmatize hospice and learn what it's all about because it has evolved over time. Hospice is not a death sentence, and knowledge is power if you or someone you love qualifies.Topics discussed:Hospice care tipsHospice misconceptionsHospice historyHow to qualify for hospiceWhat hospice care isTakeaways from this episode:Hospice is about hospitality at its core, and it prioritizes comfort.Not only can hospice extend life, it improves the quality of life as well.It’s possible for patients to go on hospice and become discharged for extended prognosis. You can still requalify later.You can discuss with a nurse before hospice begins to learn which meds should be continued or not. You can also have conversations with hospice care workers to learn which hospital visits are necessary vs. unnecessary.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/a...

What’s a good local activity I can do with my loved one who has dementia?Isolation and stress are common issues for caregivers and their loved ones with dementia. One great solution to this? “Wellness in Nature” walks with Dementia Friendly in Denton County, Texas.To support this, the Denton County’s chapter offers nature walks in a program called “Wellness in Nature” in the fall and spring. These are free guided strolls for those with memory loss and their caregivers. The benefit is that it offers a low-stress way to engage socially and is inclusive to those with different abilities. Walks are led by a master naturalist or a master naturalist in training, and they pause regularly to share about the local plants. A safe pavement walkway is also required so there are no tripping hazards.Dementia Friendly is a nonprofit that began in 2015, and has many communities within the U.S. The goal is to educate local businesses and the general public on how to interact with and include persons with dementia. They share how to recognize signs of dementia, then develop programs where individuals with the diagnosis, along with their caregivers, can participate in social outings.Feeling integrated in the community is important for everyone, but especially caregivers and those with dementia. The sense of connection in society helps improve outcomes for those with the disease, and the well-being of their caregivers.The first walk of the spring season starts April 9 in Denton County. Be sure to sign up first so the chapter has it for their records.Topics discussed:- Dementia Friendly- Nature walks- Health benefits of nature- The importance of community for those with dementia- Caregiver support Takeaways from this episode:- Nature is healing! Trees give off organic compounds that reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and improve immunity.- It’s important for people with dementia to participate in everyday activities to feel autonomous and connected. Plus, connectedness helps health outcomes.- Wellness in Nature is open to people with walkers and wheelchairs as well because the walks are on pavement and friendly to those with different abilities.- Find a local Dementia Friendly activity as stress relief for yourself as a caregiver and for your loved one - and be sure to sign up in advance. Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/ Explore the Dementia Friendly website at dementiafriendlydentoncounty.orgLearn more about Dementia Friendly with Lori Williams:

Can I negotiate pricing in Senior Living?As an expert in the field of aging, I often come across common questions about senior housing and one that stands out is: 'Are prices in senior housing negotiable?' The answer is yes, in most cases! Research Comparable CommunitiesWhen it comes to finding the right senior housing option, the key is to research comparable communities. It's essential to compare apples to apples and not apples to oranges. Different types of senior housing offer varying levels of services and amenities, so it's crucial to ensure you're comparing similar types when evaluating your options.Engaging with a reputable local senior placement service can make the process of finding the right senior housing much smoother. These services can save you time and stress by guiding you through the different options available and helping you understand what each community offers. Understand What Is Included in Each Community TypeEducating yourself on what each type of senior living community offers is vital. Consider your needs or the needs of your loved one and ensure the community can cater to those requirements. From meals and housekeeping to assisted living services, knowing what is included upfront will help you make an informed decision. Ask About Monthly Specials and Promotions Many senior living communities run monthly specials or promotions, so don't hesitate to inquire about them. These offers can provide you with opportunities to save on costs or access additional services, making your senior living experience more affordable and enjoyable. Understanding the community fees and discussing payment options is crucial. Some communities may be willing to waive or partially waive the community fee, while others may offer payment plans to make the process more manageable for you or your loved one. Clarify All Charges and Ask for Everything in Writing Being clear on all charges, especially in assisted living situations, is essential. Make sure you understand what is included in the fees and inquire about any additional charges that may apply. It's also advisable to request all details in writing to avoid misunderstandings down the line. Some communities may offer rate locks, allowing you to secure a specific rate for a set period. Additionally, consider negotiating at the end of the month when communities may be more willing to offer deals due to quotas. Don't be afraid to ask for savings – it could make a significant difference in your experience. Conclusion: Negotiating rates in senior housing can be a beneficial process in helping you find the perfect living arrangement without breaking the bank. By following these expert tips and staying informed about your options, you can navigate the world of senior housing with confidence and peace of mind.Topics covered:Negotiating Rates In Senior LivingSenior Housing Options Comparable Communities for SeniorsReputable Senior Placement Services Payment Options and Community Fees in Senior HousingTakeaways from the episode:- Research comparable communities to ensure you are comparing similar types of senior housing options. - Work with a reputable local senior placement service to save time and stress in finding the right senior living arrangement. - Understand what each type of community offers in terms of services and amenities to align with your needs or the needs of your loved one. - Discuss payment options, community fees, and potential waivers to make the financial aspect of senior housing more manageable. - Take advantage of rate locks, inquire about monthly specials, and consider negotiating rates at the end of the month for potential...

How can I find a reputable residential care home?It’s a horrible topic we don’t want to discuss, but it’s an important one: caregiver abuse. In Texas, there’s an investigation into alleged abuse occurring at residential care homes called Love and Caring for People. Police are now looking into the deaths of 13 people who have died in the care of a woman who owns a string of homes in the Dallas / Arlington / Grand Prairie area, the result of suspected abuse and neglect.Before I go on, I want to say that residential care homes are a great option and this story should not prevent you from considering them for your loved one. As a reminder, residential care homes are homes in regular neighborhoods owned by nurses, physical therapists, and others in the medical field who have worked as caregivers and know what they’re doing.That's not to say there aren't signs that things could be amiss. Some red flags for residential care homes include:· It’s hard to contact your loved ones. Whether calls aren’t going through or visitor’s hours are only one day a week for one hour, you shouldn’t be blocked from visiting your loved one.· Your loved one is slurring or sounds ‘out of it’ on calls. This could mean they’re being drugged.· You have a bad gut feeling. Listen to your instincts.To find a great residential care home, there are a few things to keep in mind:· Work with the professionals at a senior placement service. We make sure we’ve done our due diligence to recommend you a reputable care home.· Go with a licensed care home if it’s in the budget for you. Unlicensed are sometimes an option to remain budget-friendly, but there’s a little more risk and fewer protections.· Ask for references from previous residents and family members.· Check on the visitation policies.· When you visit, check if it’s dirty or smells. Use your senses and consider if this is a place you’d want your mom to stay.This is an incredibly important decision, so my hope is that these tips help provide peace of mind and match you with an ideal home for your loved ones. Topics discussed:· Residential care homes· Tips for finding a residential care home· Red flags for residential care homes· Licensed vs. unlicensed care homes· Why use a senior placement service Takeaways from this episode:· When searching for a care home for a loved one, it’s best to work with a senior placement service. They visit each home and make sure they can confidently recommend them to their clients.· In Texas, a residential care home has to be licensed and meet certain standards if there are more than 3 people. They are held accountable and inspected like an assisted living facility.· Keep in mind the red flags when looking into a care home: difficulty contacting / visiting family, slurred speech and confusion in residents, the home isn’t clean, etc.· Look for licensed residential care homes with glowing recommendations, good visiting hours, and a clean interior.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/a...

Should I move an elderly family member in with me? Or should we look into senior living?This is a question I receive a lot. Before I dive in, it’s important to remember that every situation is different. Be sure to do what’s best for you and your family. But to gauge what’s right, I have a list of pros and cons for you to consider.Pros:·       Living with your loved one can help connect the family. Some of my fondest memories are of my grandmother Emelita living with us. Multiple generations living together can create special memories, especially the kids and their grandparents.·       If everyone’s in agreement for your loved one to move in, it can be a great cost-saving measure. A common fear for many seniors is outliving their funds.·       If your loved one is healthy, they can support you around the house. Some of my memories with my grandmother involve her staying busy by folding clothes, cleaning the kitchen, and more.·       You can help remind your loved one to take their medications and keep an eye on them, especially if they have an existing health condition.Cons:·       Moving a loved one in with you can increase your responsibility, sometimes significantly. It can impact your lifestyle and add new demands on your time and energy.·       If your loved one is at home and can’t drive, they may have limited socialization. I recommend signing them up at the local senior center and finding transportation. That way they can socialize with others and stay active and moving instead of sitting home all day watching TV.·       You and your members of the household may enjoy less personal space.·       Depending on the situation, burnout can be a risk. If your loved one has health issues, it can be stressful and exhausting. Remember that in all situations, the dynamic of your household can change. And yes, it can be a big life change for all involved! Make sure everyone is on the same page in your household as you make plans. Topics discussed:·  Caring for an elderly family member· Pros and cons of living with older family members·  Dynamics of multigenerational homes· Caregiver burnout· Staying social as a senior· Cost-saving considerations for seniors Takeaways from this episode:· Discuss the different considerations for opening your home to a senior family member with the other people in your household. If the family doesn’t get along, don’t do it.· Consider your existing relationship with that loved one along with their current needs. Establish ground rules with the rest of your family if needed.· Welcoming a family member into your home is a great cost-saving measure, but be sure to weigh that against your existing responsibilities and demands.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/

How can I prevent cognitive decline?Try the Alzheimer Association’s 10 ways to love your brain The new year is underway, and many have begun new goals in physical fitness. Physical health is important, but an often-overlooked part of the body is our brain. Just like a workout regimen, there are everyday activities you can do to help your brain health – which also play a big role in dementia and Alzheimer’s prevention. Megan Rowe, the senior program manager of the Alzheimer’s Association: Dallas and Northeast Texas Chapter, shares ‘10 simple ways to love your brain.’ This list provides guidelines for improving our brain health and preserving our cognitive health for hopefully years to come.Break a sweat: Megan says, “What’s good for the heart is good for the brain.” Our blood and vascular system helps provide the oxygen and fuel the brain needs. Break a sweat and engage in regular cardiovascular activity to see overall health benefits.Hit the books: Learn something new and challenge your brain, whether it’s a class at your local community college or senior center. The important thing is helping your brain find new neural pathways and staying mentally stimulated.Butt out: Don’t smoke. If you quit, you can still return to the same risk as a nonsmoker would have, so it's worth the effort.Follow your heart: Again, anything that helps your heart will help your brain. Cardiovascular exercise, even a little each day, can add up to make a difference!Heads up!: Brain trauma and injury can increase your risk of cognitive decline and dementia. Wear your seat belt, wear a helmet, and create a treatment plan with a medical professional if you’ve already suffered injuries.Fuel up right: Eat a healthy, balanced diet. The Mediterranean diet focuses on leafy greens, fresh fruits, nuts, and reduced processed foods and sugars. This can help prevent diabetes, high cholesterol risks, etc.Catch some Zzz's: Get good quality sleep. Conditions like insomnia prevent the brain getting what it needs to function, and Sleep Apnea can cause lack of oxygen to the brainTake care of your mental health: Some studies link a history of depression and anxiety with increased risk of cognitive decline. Be sure to socialize and maintain connections with others through volunteering or other activities. Topics discussed:- Alzheimer’s Association- Alzheimer’s / dementia prevention- Boosting cognitive health- Heart and brain health- Depression / anxiety- The importance of learning- Senior center activities- Staying social as we ageTakeaways from this episode:- Try wearing a Fitbit or Apple Watch to get an idea of your daily activity – and make goals to increase it.- Evidence shows that risk factors for cardiovascular disease and stroke, obesity, high blood pressure and diabetes all negatively impact cognitive health.- Social time is important. There were higher incidences of deaths due to Alzheimer’s during the COVID-19 pandemic.- Your local senior center may have a yearly membership as low as $10 a month, and they can be found in both rural and urban areas. This can expose you to new things and friendly people.- You may have Sleep Apnea if you find yourself abruptly waking up and gasping for air. Ask your partner for their observations if you're unsure.- An additional item to add to the list? Go out in nature! The fresh air and Vitamin D is helpful, and nature is important for mood, health and overall well-being.Resources mentioned in this...

What should I know about reverse mortgages?True or false: If you move to a reverse mortgage, you will have to give up title to your home. False! You keep title to your home and continue to control the property, just as you would with a different type of mortgage. There’s no impact on your income taxes or credit at all, and actually, it can be a versatile tool to help you live a better life.The technical name for a reverse mortgage is Home Equity Conversion Mortgage, which is the FHA-insured reverse mortgage. It’s an age-specific mortgage specifically for those age 62 and above where homeowners convert a portion of their home equity into cash without having to sell their property or give up title to their home and without having to make any mortgage payments.There are many myths about reverse mortgages, and guest Brenda Bonin from Mutual Omaha is here to dispel them. She shares how much of the misconceptions come from before reverse mortgages became FHA insured, and firmer regulations were put into place. However, they’re a flexible, useful tool where owners can tap into their home equity for cash. In turn, this can finance home health, memory care, the general upkeep of your home – anything you choose.Additionally, all proceeds go to the owner tax-free, and there’s no payment until the end, when the homeowners decide to sell and move or pass away. If the latter, most people in their family or their heirs will sell the property to pay off that loan and remaining equity goes to the heirs.It’s easy to qualify because it doesn’t adhere to the standard debt ratio. Instead, there’s a financial assessment in place to gauge whether homeowners are able to remain in their home and maintain it. Banks also look at how much equity you have in your home.If you’re interested, speak with a mortgage specialist to discuss your goals, current struggles, and cash flow needs. You’ll also go over technical details such as your home’s value, your age, financial situation, and more.Topics discussed:Reverse mortgagesHome Equity Conversion MortgageHome equityAsset managementMisconceptions of reverse mortgagesQualifying for a reverse mortgageWhy take out a reverse mortgageTakeaways from this episode:If your other half is in memory care and you’re using a reverse loan on your house to help pay, the benefits of the program and loan remain in place as long as you’re still in your house as your primary residence.There are 3 ways to get your reverse mortgage funds: lump sum, monthly payments, or as a line of credit. You can also do a combination of the 3.Interest accrues on the loan if no payments are made, and the loan balance increases. However, real estate tends to appreciate, especially in Texas, which can offset some of that interest.Reverse mortgages are becoming more practical as people begin living longer and longer and need to use their assets to continue to live well.Both spouses have to be at least 62 to qualify in Texas, whereas other states allow “trailing spouses.”Less-than-perfect credit is not a barrier to reverse mortgages. There is no credit score minimum.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/

What is the Flower Mound senior prom?We’re diving into a fun topic that I’m asked about all the time: the Senior Prom in Flower Mound. My producer Ana joins me as we discuss this successful community event.The senior prom started more than 10 years ago and was known as the ‘second time around prom’ for those who missed prom the first time around. Although this event fell apart during the pandemic, we revived it with the local YMCA in 2023 with a ‘Love Boat’ theme. It's a fun event, but what makes it even better is that it's also a fundraiser for kids to attend YMCA community events. Even though attendees are age 55 and older, high schoolers come to help and even join the fun.This year, we’re excited for a 1950s theme with a nostalgic "Sock Hop” – envision diners, the movie ‘Grease’ and poodle skirts! You can buy a ticket through the YMCA, and for only $20 you get a full meal, dessert, dancing, live music, and raffle entries.Anyone interested in joining a fun time that helps the community? Mark your calendars for April 12th from 5:30 PM to 8:30 PM. Don’t wait to buy a ticket - demand is high. Topics discussed:- Local senior events- Multigenerational fun- Flower Mound community events- Raising funds for the YMCA- Second chance prom- Reliving your youth Takeaways from this episode:- The Senior Prom at the Flower Mound YMCA a great way to relive your youth and introduce you to new people.- The event raises money for the local YMCA, supporting programs for children locally who may need financial assistance for activities- Those interested can buy tickets through the YMCA in Flower Mound. The cost is $20 and covers dinner, dessert, dancing, and raffle.- Mark your calendars for April 12 from 5:30 PM - 8:30 PM. Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/

“Can I bring furniture to senior living?” is a common concern many seniors face when transitioning to a senior community. Each location is different, but senior apartments, independent living, and assisted living communities allow you to bring furniture. If you’re moving to memory care or residential care homes, furniture is often provided or limited. If on Hospice, Medicare will provide furniture like a hospital bed, so you may only need to bring pictures to hang up and make your space homey.Keep in mind that you’re often downsizing when you go to senior living, especially if you’re moving into a 1-2 bedroom apartment from a larger house. It’s important to think practically and “right size” your new home. What do you have an emotional attachment to that would also make sense for your new space? Pieces that work in your current home may not make sense in the next one, but you can prioritize what matters to you.As you make your move, consider the resources available to you. There are professional services such as Caring Transitions that can help you categorize your belongings – items you’ll gift to your family, items to bring with you, and items to sell. There’s no need to do it all on your own, and this type of help can make the transition easier and quicker!You can even take matters into your own hands and bring your family together. They can put sticky notes on the items they want, and then you can offload the rest. Some families fight after life events, so this can help ease the situation so there’s less animosity when someone passes.No matter what you decide, it’s good to have a plan for your move and take stock of what matters to you and what will work with your lifestyle moving forward.Topics discussed:- Downsizing for seniors- Bringing furniture to senior living- Senior moving services- Estate sale preparation- Transitioning to senior living- Safety hazardsTakeaways from this episode:- If you’re moving to memory care or a residential care home and are on hospice, they will provides the hospital bed and medical equipment paid for by Medicare.- Try a service like Caring Transitions that helps seniors and their families declutter, pack, move, and settle into their new home.- When downsizing, consider which belongings might be a tripping hazard or be less practical for your new home.- It’s always a good idea to bring your favorite cozy touches, like blankets and family pictures.- To help prevent your family from fighting over your stuff when you pass, you can bring everyone together to put sticky notes on what they want. Then get rid of the rest. Resources discussed:Episode 02: Stop downsizing, start 'rightsizing'! With realtor Tricia Spurrier Episode 29: Ready to Downsize? Hear About the Service That’ll Help You Sort, Sell Pack, and Move a...

Why do I need an Essential Binder?It’s a godsend when families have all their information ready in case the unthinkable happens. You might remember our guest Lynne Von Villas in episode 39, “Getting organized! Creating a Binder of Essential Documents for Aging Parents.” She returns to the podcast to continue giving amazing advice on the critical information you’ll need not only for your loved ones’ end-of-life care, but also for the care of anyone in your family. Including Lynne’s tips will help you have a binder full of everything you’ll need, which is invaluable in times of crisis.I can't stress this enough: meticulous documentation is key. You want to have a dedicated section for things like their driver's license, social security cards, and passports. Using a portable, lockable safe is a game-changer for keeping vital records secure. You can find great options at Lowe's, Home Depot, and even on Amazon.Some other ways to prepare include knowing where to stash jewelry and keys to the more sensitive topics like weapons and long-term plans for any pets. Knowing your loved ones’ health history is crucial, including medications, allergies, hospitalizations - it all matters. Know if they have a do not resuscitate (DNR) order. It’s not fun to discuss, but burial and funeral arrangements are also good to know. It’s a gift when you can have open conversations and plan ahead, both emotionally and financially. The alternative is making decisions when you don’t feel you’re in a state to do so. Even if you’re young, you never know what might happen, so it’s best to be prepared or at least start the conversation.Speaking of finances, document your legal and financial information like life insurance policies, long-term care policies, and other business affairs, plus banking details. Provide the information so loved ones can access these. Also helpful are contact lists, certificates, and even obituary notes. It's all about creating a “Life” binder that's not just practical but also compassionate, and a resource to make life easier for you and your loved ones.Topics discussed:Compiling financial and legal documentsLearning loved ones' medical historyPower of attorneyCaring for seniors' pets      Transitioning to senior livingHow to create an obituaryFuneral planningTakeaways from this episode:Create a dedicated section in your binder IDs and documents such as driver's licenses, social security cards, and passports.For assisted living and memory care, you may receive benefits if you’re retired military through the VA. Be sure to have proof of service.Have a plan for pets. Document details about their needs, such as feeding schedules, medical history, and arrangements for their care if you’re unable to do so.Include your health history, including medications, allergies, and ongoing medical conditions.Have open conversations about burial and funeral arrangements, and discuss your preferences. This is such a help to the family when loved ones pass.Add comprehensive information about legal and financial matters, including loans and titles, and how to access them.Have a list of contacts, including family members, friends, and professional advisors. Consider providing notes or guidance for an obituary.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:

You’ve taken all the necessary steps to move your loved one into senior living - only to discover they don’t like it. What do you do if your loved one wants to move?As a senior living expert, I’ve seen this situation happen a few times and have tips to help:· To reduce your odds of choosing the wrong community, I recommend working with a senior placement advisor or another professional who can help you make an informed choice.· Understand there’s an adjustment period. I recommend giving it 90 days before you explore other options. Know that it can take a while to get into the groove, and it’s almost like starting at a new school.· Keep your lines of communication open. Go to the Executive Director of the community with your concerns. If the complaint is the food, perhaps speak to the dining staff – there are always alternate menus. The same idea applies to the activities director if your loved one is feeling lonely, and having trouble getting involved. They may be able to match you with an extroverted ‘ambassador.’ · Do your homework and read the contract to know what kind of notice you will need to give if this community is simply not the right fit.Keep in mind you can break the lease if there’s a bigger issue such as dementia when you’re in a senior apartment, for example. Just be sure to have a doctor’s note.Of course, there will be different needs for acclimating to a new community. Some memory care communities recommend letting your loved one settle in first, but others might allow their loved ones to spend the first few nights. Every situation is unique. Be sure to set expectations with your loved one as they’re in the process of getting settled.From what I’ve seen, some people can be negative regardless of the community and don’t like change. Maybe your mom didn’t want to move in the first place, but it was best for her safety. Keep in mind it can be difficult to move after living in the same house for 50 years. Plus, I know it can cause guilt for loved ones, especially if the circumstance of the move wasn’t ideal.Again, if you do find yourself in need of a change, please consider enlisting the help of a professional. They can take stock of your likes, dislikes and specific needs to match you with the right community. Topics discussed:Tips for choosing the right senior communityHow to adjust to senior livingHow to switch senior communitiesPerks of using a senior placement specialist Takeaways from this episode:A senior placement advisor can review your care needs, likes and dislikes to help find the best community for you and prevent any mistakes.Give it at least 90 days in a new senior community before considering another living situation. The first few weeks are the hardest.It’s important to keep a line of communication open with people like the executive director, wellness director, dining staff and activities coordinator to learn what’s available to you as a resident.Do your homework on where you move and be sure to set expectations with your loved one.Keep in mind incidents like falling can happen anywhere, even with the best protections in place.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/

Stroke recovery is a rollercoaster. It’s easy to think there’s just the stroke itself and the recovery afterward. However, we’re going to hit speed bumps. Just when I thought things were starting to get more stable, Mark got sick with a stomach virus and had a seizure on January 3rd. He was dehydrated and had a high fever, and seeing someone have a seizure was terrifying. He was hospitalized for several days and then had to go back to rehab.Being a caregiver for someone with a chronic health issue is no easy task. It's important to be organized, advocate for your loved one, and stay flexible. At the hospital, it’s important to pay attention – in my experience, they don’t always read the notes. It’s also helpful to have a medical card with any allergies and medications listed.One difficult moment was that I was supposed to travel the week after Marks’ hospital stay. My children begged me to go, and I knew they could handle things at home. But I felt guilty leaving Mark, even for a few days. In the end, I'm so glad I went. I got some much-needed rest and relaxation. It's important to remember that it's okay to take care of yourself, even when you're caring for someone else. If you don't take time for yourself, you'll eventually burn out. Don’t let your guilt win.Caring for someone with a chronic illness can be a lonely journey, but it's important to stay positive for yourself and your loved one. There will be good days and bad days, but there will also be moments of joy. Focus on the good times, and don't give up hope. Also remember you’re not alone, there are millions of caregivers in the world experiencing the same situations and feelings. Topics discussed:- Chronic illness- Progressive disease- Long-term impacts of stroke- Advocating for loved ones- Caregiving- Maintaining a positive mindset- Managing medicationsTakeaways from this episode:- Organize medical records, medication schedules, and contact lists for your loved one with chronic illness.- ‘Vial of life’ provides medical information cards for emergencies when the patient is unable to communicate their needs to first responders.- Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks and ask for help from friends and family. Everyone needs a rest, so don’t let guilt win.- Take things one step at a time, be flexible, and celebrate small victories.- The situation can be tough, but don’t let the negativity win. Lean into your support system.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/ Vial of life:https://www.vialoflife.com 125. Why you need to be an advocate for your loved one while they're in the hospital:a...

’m a veteran, can VA help me pay for senior living?You’re in luck. Did you know the VA Aid and Attendance benefit can help pay for some types of senior living?The VA has many different programs out there, so it can be a bit complicated. VA Aid and Attendance is specifically designed to help veterans who need assistance with activities of daily living, like bathing, dressing, mobility, etc.To qualify, you must:Be a veteran or the spouse of a veteran (with exceptions)Have served during eligible periods of war, like World War II, Korea, or VietnamBe 65 or olderMeet the needs requirements Demonstrate financial need - there are income and asset restrictions Keep in mind the VA won’t pay your senior living bill directly. Instead, they send you a monthly check, starting at around $2,229 a month. Spouses get around $1,432, and if you're a veteran married to another vet, you can receive up to $3,536 together. That's enough to make a huge difference in affording assisted living, memory care or residential care homes!Here’s the catch: receiving this benefit involves paperwork (lots of it!), and it can take months to be approved. But the good news is that it's retroactive, so you are paid back for the time you waited. Plus, there are organizations like Patriot Angels who can help navigate the whole process.Common myths about VA Aid and Assistance include:Myth #1: It pays for any kind of senior living: It primarily helps pay for assisted living, memory care or licensed residential care homes.Myth #2: It's quick and easy to get: No, as mentioned, it can be a bit of a process.Myth #3: Divorce disqualifies you: If you were married to a veteran for at least 30 years before they passed, and you haven't remarried, you still qualify.Topics discussed:VA Aid and Assistance benefitVA benefit EligibilityCommon misconceptions of VA Aid and AssistanceWar veterans and senior livingVA benefits for seniorsTakeaways from this episode:- Use and reliable resources like elder law attorneys or organizations like Patriot Angels to apply for VA Aid and Assistance.- Army, Navy, and Air Force veterans qualify for VA Aid and Assistance. National Guard and Coast Guard don’t qualify.- For funding, senior living communities look at social security and pension income, long-term care insurance, and VA Aid and Assistance.- If you already have a home care agency helping you with non-medical tasks like bathing or dressing, you might qualify.Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/ 006. Home Health and Home Care explained: an interview with Kevin Jonesa...