All About Love: The Dating, Healing, & Attachment Podcast

A practical episode which holds a mirror up to the naughty behaviours and habits that can hold us back and sabotage our happiness, dating life and relationships. What we do, and how we act has a huge impact on the way we think and our energy. We are determined to help you THRIVE here, and that means figuring out what is stopping you from reaching your dreams, whether it’s people pleasing, perfectionism or avoidance. We have far more control over our behaviours than we think, and it’s time to create change!    We share: How certain behaviours are linked to low self-esteem and what they might reflect about your inner world  Where these behaviours come from, and how we can start to ‘unlearn’ them  From people pleasing to perfectionism, we discuss the key behaviours that can hold us back from reaching our goals  Join the waitlist for our five week programme GLOW!  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/GLOW-programme    GLOW is our five-week live programme that will hush your inner critic, help you step out of your comfort zone and find your inner glow. It’s the foundational programme you need to create healthy, happy relationships, starting with yourself. Head to the description and get on the waitlist for the next one.    Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay Video & Audio Edit by Felipe Martelli  

Regardless of your relationship status, there are simple habits we can ALL do to ensure we have happier, healthy relationships (from the early dating stages to 20 years in). In this episode we dig into what practical things we can implement each day to ensure we GLOW! From improving your dating experiences and relationships, to simply making us happier, these tips are not to be missed. We share:- Why we need to build habits to create happier lives - How to habit stack - The things we do which can sabotage our happiness and relationships- Six tips that you can use today and create real change Join the waitlist for our five week programme GLOW! https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/GLOW-programme GLOW is our five-week live programme that will hush your inner critic, help you step out of your comfort zone and find your inner glow. It’s the foundational programme you need to create healthy, happy relationships, starting with yourself. Head to the description and get on the waitlist for the next one. Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from PixabayVideo & Audio Edit by Felipe Martelli

This is a big juicy topic in the dating and relationship arena! How much does the search for the spark help OR hinder your love life? Shall we be fixating on it? Without it would a relationship work? Does it mean you’re settling if it’s not love at first sight? In this episode we explore these topics and our own thoughts and advice on when ‘the spark’ can be helpful AND unhelpful when dating.    We share: What ‘the spark’ means and why we’re all searching for it  Our experiences when dating  When is ‘the spark’ crucial, and when should you walk away when it’s not there? The ways in which we need to drop the attachment to ‘the spark’... Join the waitlist for our five week programme GLOW!  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/GLOW-programme    GLOW is our five-week live programme that will hush your inner critic, help you step out of your comfort zone and find your inner glow. It’s the foundational programme you need to create healthy, happy relationships, starting with yourself. Head to the description and get on the waitlist for the next one.    Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay Video & Audio Edit by Felipe Martelli  

This is one of the most requested topics when it comes to dating, relationships and attachment styles: why you panic when they don’t text you back! In this episode we dive into why we can drive ourselves crazy waiting for that text, what we take it to mean about ourselves, and why it affects us all so much. By looking at the ‘why’ we can take away some of the shame related to this topic.    We share: How brain chemistry and things way out of our control means we get hooked on the up and down of waiting!  How attachment styles and abandonment wounds thrive in this environment  How modern dating and communication is set up to create uncertainty  How rejection and anxiety can play into low self esteem  Join the waitlist for our five week programme GLOW!  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/GLOW-programme    GLOW is our five-week live programme that will hush your inner critic, help you step out of your comfort zone and find your inner glow. It’s the foundational programme you need to create healthy, happy relationships, starting with yourself. Head to the description and get on the waitlist for the next one.    Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay Video & Audio Edit by Felipe Martelli  

In this episode we dive right into how we can recover and start to connect back to ourselves after a breakup. We discuss the difference between life altering breakups and a million mini heartbreaks, and exactly what you can do to start to get your GLOW back. We share:If there is a ‘point’ to breakups and if they can be a turning point for good How even if you’ve never experienced a breakup with a partner, the ending of situationships, dates and short term relationships can be just as painful What we learned from breakups ourselvesThe key tips and tools to help you get your GLOW back (when you’re ready) Join the waitlist for our five week programme GLOW! https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/GLOW-programme GLOW is our five-week live programme that will hush your inner critic, help you step out of your comfort zone and find your inner glow. It’s the foundational programme you need to create healthy, happy relationships, starting with yourself. Head to the description and get on the waitlist for the next one. Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from PixabayVideo & Audio Editing by Felipe Martelli

Welcome back to season 3! In this episode we are talking about how to stop caring about what others think! Comparison and the fear of rejection are two major areas that hold us back in love and life. Here, we’ll give you the 5 tools we use, which you can take away to live life on your own terms and timelines.  We share: How comparison affects people and why it is so strong in society  The effect social media has on people  Why the thought of rejection holds us back  The 5 tips you can use today to break the comparison cycle    Join the waitlist for our five week programme GLOW!  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/GLOW-programme  GLOW is our five-week live programme that will hush your inner critic, help you step out of your comfort zone and find your inner glow. It’s the foundational programme you need to create healthy, happy relationships, starting with yourself. Head to the description and get on the waitlist for the next one.  Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay Audio & video Edit by Felipe Martelli

Low Self Esteem cam not only impact your wellbeing, relationships, and happiness, it can be very SUBTLE! In this bonus epiosde, we want to share exactly what that can look like. In celebration of our brand new Porgramme GLOW, this episode is dedicated to sharing 6 subtle signs that you need to pay more attention to self-esteem work. If you fall into these patterns, you don't have to stay there, there is a way out! Sign up to the FREE Workshop HEREGLOW THE WORKSHOP

It’s our final episode of season 2, and we’ve saved the best topic to last! I think this might be our favourite one yet. In this episode we’re talking all about how to be happy being alone, whether you’re in a relationship or single!    We discuss:   Why learning to be happy single is SO important in every stage of life   Have we gone too far the other way with hyper independence?   Why we forget this when getting into a relationship   What Caitlin gets jealous of that Carly-Ann does every day   Tips on what you can do to create a life you love and get used to spending time alone    Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

In this episode we’re chatting about Love Languages! We discuss the hype around them, try to vaguely figure out what ours are, and how we can use them as a tool to improve our own relationship’s friends, families and partners.     We Discuss:  What the five love languages are in detail  Why it can be useful to explore them in relation to friendships and dating  Tips for what you can do to make your partner and friends feel seen and happy  A really interesting discussion on stamps       Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

In this episode we lay down the law about the BASIC standards everyone should be expecting when dating and in a relationship! That means no more medals for someone asking how you are, or texting you back. We discuss how you can start to raise your standards and up your dating game.    We Discuss:  What is the bare minimum you should be accepting  The impact of dating apps on this  Our own personal (rubbish) experience when dating  The difference between high expectations and low standards   Why sometimes things get worse before they get better when raising standards  What exactly you can do to increase your standards    Check out our Group Courses:  Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE     Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

In this episode, we discuss how to self-soothe in the moment, when an abandonment wound is triggered. This episode is about learning what powerful tools you can apply and practice to work towards inner child healing and healthier relationships.    We Discuss: How abandonment wounds can manifest in dating (and what it looks like)  How to cut through the jargon and define what self-soothing means  Our personal experience with abandonment wounds + self-soothing  How to start practising somatic work  Why it is so important to build this up when you are NOT triggered  Key powerful tips on how to start self-soothing  An important discussion about driving tests    Check out our Group Courses:  Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE   Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

All About HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS In this episode, we delve deep into the signs of healthy relationships and uncover the elusive yet essential concept of "green flags." While red flags often dominate the conversation about relationships, it's time we shift our focus to the positive signs that lead to lasting, fulfilling love  We Discuss: Our personal experience with healthy relationships Why you need to make the shift from red flags to green Key Green flags for a healthy relationship to look out for How to manage conflict within relationships We questions if we should compromise or sacrifice for the person we love? And we dive into relationships feeling boring   Check out our Group Courses:  Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE   Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Perhaps you are curious to understand attachment styles. In today’s episode we’re doing a longer deep dive on the three key Attachment Styles, Secure, Anxious & Avoidant.    We talk about:    The key characteristics of the three Attachment styles  Our own experiences of being on the anxious and avoidant scale  Why we view a secure attachment as the holy grail  How you can turn your attachment style into your superpower  How the perception of time and goodbyes can be difficult when anxious  Why it’s not true that avoidant attachers are the villains of the world Why labelling theory can be detrimental      Check out our Group Courses:  Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE   Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

Today we’re discussing situationships! In today’s dating world where situationships have become the new norm. Whether you're unsure about the status of your current fling, experiencing mixed signals, or simply seeking clarity in the midst of romantic confusion, this episode is for you! We Discuss: What is a Situationship? Our personal experiences with situationships The feeling when you have only been in situationships Why the end of a situationship can make us want them more Whether situationships be empowering Tips for getting out of situationships   Learn about our Courses: Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE   Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

Today we’re discussing one of our favourite topics - MANIFESTING! Regardless of whether you have are spiritual or note, we have a unique on why manifesting can help with love & relationships anyway. This episode is ideal if you are feeling the need to up-level your mind, body, and soul because you have a feeling you are made for MORE. We share:   Our own experience with manifesting and magic How manifesting plays a key role in our happiness & wellbeing Tips & tools you can use each day to manifest love The basic foundations of manifesting love & relationships     JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR OUR ONE DAY RETREAT:  https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2   Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

Do you tend to lose yourself in love? This might look like attaching very quickly, putting your plans on hold in case they call, worrying or overthinking about them. If so, this is the podcast for you! In this episode we’re having a frank discussion about: What happens when you lose yourself in love and why it happens. We also give you practical tips and exercises on how to find out who you are and maintain that in the face of dating and love. We share: Our own experience with losing ourselves in love The reality of a new relationship vs losing yourself How childhood experiences affect our relationships today The top tips to practise if this is your pattern How to find out who you are JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR OUR ONE DAY RETREAT: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2 Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_   https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach   Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

Today we’re discussing something we get asked about a lot - chemistry! This episode is ideal if you are dating or with someone where you are overthinking and wondering how to know if this person “is the one”. You may be asking how important chemistry is, or even what it is, in this episode we are giving you valuable insight on these very questions. We share:   What is chemistry and compatibility? Do we need them in order to have a successful relationship Why people get so hooked on certain people and struggle to let go What are the specific elements of compatibility to look out for when you want a long-term relationship    JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR OUR ONE DAY RETREAT: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2 Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

Today we’re discussing heartbreak! Regardless of where you are in riding the heartbreak wave, and whether that’s from a long term break-up, or a series of ‘mini-heartbreaks’ we’ve got you. In this episode we want to provide you the space and support to turn whatever you're going through into your superpower.     We share:   Our own experience with heartbreak (or lots of ‘mini-heartbreaks’ in Caitlin’s case!)  5 amazing things you can to do move yourself through this, regardless of where you’re at  The basics everyone forgets when dealing with heartbreak  How to turn it in to your biggest lesson and growth point      JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR OUR ONE DAY RETREAT:  https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2 Find us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach      Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.   Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

In today’s episode we are chatting about all things awkward conversations! We want you to lean into the cringey moments, the hard questions, and vulnerability. From letting someone you know you like them, to asking someone to move in with you.’ This episode will help you figure out your dating patterns and what you can do about it. We share: Common awkward conversation in love and relationships How to bring up awkward conversation when you’re afraid of the outcome How to recover when communication doesn’t go to plan The energy behind the conversation   JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR OUR ONE DAY RETREAT:  https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2 Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

We don’t hold back in this episode! Today we discuss all things time related - the pressures that we face once we reach a certain age, the biological clock, freezing your eggs and everything comparison related. This is a practical episode where we talk through tips for managing anxiety and comparison. We share: Our own experience being ‘the single ones’ How to approach the fear that it won’t happen and what you can focus on instead Practical exercises you can do to lessen the anxiety Mindset tips to move away from comparison You can find the visualisation HERE Disclaimer: When researching topics like fertility and egg freezing please conduct your own thorough research, as advice differs between practitioners. Caitlin & Carly-Ann are not medical experts in this field and have no responsibility for decisions you take going forward. Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay