RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

In today's episode, Kylene discusses trauma, what it is, how it impacts the brain and body in a variety of ways, and offers the reminder that while our symptoms and pain can be overwhelming, healing is possible.   found this referral link to HungryRoot after we recorded - check it out for easy meals! https://www.hungryroot.com/r/CW7WWBUI Link to Kylene's personal dispensary where you can find supplements she listed with the brands she likes: https://us.fullscript.com/s/kylenet/shop/plans/TXVsdGlQYXRpZW50UGxhbi0xMTI2NjM=   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore five essential things a betrayed partner needs from their spouse in order to truly heal. They unpack each element with depth and honesty, including: Taking full responsibility without minimizing or making excuses Creating safety—especially by addressing power dynamics and physical presence Making her feel seen, chosen, and prioritized Recovering for yourself, not just to save the relationship Demonstrating long-term consistency and follow-through Patrick shares personal insights and real-life experiences as they walk through each step. Together, they explain why these actions are not just helpful—but crucial— after betrayal. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

This week we share some (random) reflections on recovery and our experience going to our first conference related to betrayal and addiction recovery!    Some topics we discuss: What it felt like to be in a place full of individuals sharing a similar journey Why it's important to challenge what you believe and listen to people viewed as teachers or leaders with discernment  Some helpful perspectives/definitions of recovery terms like boundaries, safety and anxiety   We hope this episode is encouraging! We don't have a link for next year's summit, but we encourage you to follow pure desire on socials, and subscribe to their weekly podcast! www.puredesire.org    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Today Kylene answers a listener's submitted question about what to do if the betrayer won't go to a support group?    Books mentioned:   How to Untie a Balloon: (book around dealing with pressure) https://amzn.to/471SJYw Nothing to Fear:  (book about end of life choices) https://amzn.to/3TKZnzk     The Big Relief: (book about grace) https://amzn.to/4ALa9GB     Anatomy of the Soul: (emotions, neuroscience and faith) https://amzn.to/4AVRKaa     Help her Heal: (understanding partner betrayal trauma)  https://amzn.to/4hHOwxQ     Unwanted:(importance of connecting the WHY underneath the behaviors) https://amzn.to/4jpqlaj     Altogether YOU:(book about internal family systems/parts work) https://amzn.to/4xYRmop     Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: (combination of emotional and spiritual maturity)  https://amzn.to/3U4Kfgi     Unbroken - The trauma response is never wrong: https://amzn.to/3Vy7qjt     Biology of Trauma: https://amzn.to/4dWlyJD   *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.     Podcast episode mentioned - Ep 90 Sobriety vs Recovery: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000684064277     Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources 

Today, Kylene walks through some questions from chapter 4 of How to Untie A Balloon: A negotiator's Guide to Avoid Popping Under Pressure byRyan Dunlap, and shares some of her thoughts around them.   Get the book (amazon affiliate link): "How to Untie A Balloon": https://amzn.to/4xR4Rq6   Listen to episode 204 from Inner Work podcast with Maryann Walked about stories we tell ourselves vs facts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inner-work-with-maryann-walker-life-coach-for-people/id1644798383?i=1000756120920     1  - what physical sensations or feelings are happening inside of me that are contributing to the pressure i'm feeling    2 - what thoughts or emotions am I currently experiencing that are contributing to the pressure I'm feeling  - is it fear, sadness, anxiousness, surprise, apprehension,  or disgust?   3 - What is the story I'm telling myself about the emotions I am experiencing? Have I interpreted the emotions positively?  Or negatively?   4 - how are my emotions influencing my decision making and behavior? Are they hindering or helping my ability to lead myself and others effectively? In what way   5 - When did I first recognize I was feeling this way? What signs might I have ignored that could have helped me recognize my feelings sooner?   6 - what previous experiences or painful feelings and I filtering my current challenges through that might be coloring my response to it   7 - have I made a habit of exercising restraint? Or do I regularly give in to impulses when I'm feeling emotional?   8 - has my conduct and behavior been consistently in alignment with my personal values and how I see myself as a leader?   9 - when all is said and done, how would I like to be remembered by others? What story do I want others to share about me?   10 - how do my physical and emotional states change when I am under significant leadership pressure   ***   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources