Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Positive Discipline has been the book so many of us reach for since 1981, and now there’s a new edition. My guest Amber Traina, granddaughter of Dr. Jane Nelsen, worked alongside Jane on the revision and the new chapter on technology. We talk about why kind and firm sits at the heart of it and the difference between niceness and kindness. Amber shares the tech audit and why connection is what brings our teens to us when they mess up. Find more info and show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-676-positive-discipline-today Also, thank you to our current sponsor, HeyPolo. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://heypolo.com/JOYFUL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code JOYFUL for 70% off your first year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's that time of year... The grade portal shows a pile of missing assignments, and taking the phone away feels like the only leverage you have. In this solo show I start in that moment with a teen who's behind in school, then work outward through the intentional ecosystem. We look at how your house runs and how connected you and your teen are, then at what you make those grades mean. I cover mistaken goals, executive functioning, natural consequences, and when to get help. For more info and show notes go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-675-when-teen-grades-start-slipping Join the Living Joyful Courage Membership program now to take advantage of 30% off and the 6 week PD for parents of teens class. Go to ⁠www.besproutable.com/ljc ⁠and use code PODCAST30 at checkout. Also, thank you to our current sponsor, HeyPolo. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://heypolo.com/JOYFUL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code JOYFUL for 70% off your first year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You can do everything right and someone in your life can still make it hard. In this episode, I talk with Amy Armstrong, LISW-S, founder of the Center for Family Resolution, about co-parenting boundaries and staying grounded when another person's reactivity pulls you off center. Amy shares her own story of chronic conflict, why trying to understand a difficult person rarely brings the control we hope for, and her working definition of a boundary: what you are willing and able to do. We also talk about why doing more is often a fight-or-flight reaction, how to protect kids from conflict without pretending everything is fine, and when teens get a voice in parenting plans. Amy put together a free kit for Joyful Courage listeners, with co-parenting communication scripts, a five-minute nervous system reset, and a guide for boundaries that aren't working: podcast.thecenterforfamilyresolution.com/courage Find Amy at the Center for Family Resolution and on TikTok at Amy Armstrong Conflict Free. Learn more about this episode, sign up for our newsletter and find support for parents of kids of all ages at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-674-co-parenting-boundaries-with-amy-armstrong Join the Living Joyful Courage Membership program now to take advantage of 30% off and the 6 week PD for parents of teens class. Go to www.besproutable.com/ljc and use code PODCAST30 at checkout. Also, thank you to our current sponsor, HeyPolo. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://heypolo.com/JOYFUL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code JOYFUL for 70% off your first year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Stuart Slavin has spent decades studying what pressure does to young people, and what he found flips the usual conversation. When he cut class time and letter grades at a medical school, depression and anxiety dropped by 80% and board scores went up. A few things from our conversation: → Teen mental health started declining long before smartphones→ The average teen in his research sleeps six and a half hours→ Maladaptive perfectionism is skyrocketing, in our kids and in us→ "Pressure not to disappoint my parents" ranks higher than direct pressure from parents→ Aim for the college your kiddo will graduate from For more info and show notes go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/teen-achievement-pressure-stuart-slavin/ Also, thank you to our current sponsor, HeyPolo. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to ⁠⁠⁠https://heypolo.com/JOYFUL⁠⁠⁠ and use code JOYFUL for 70% off your first year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Three weeks ago I told you about the text I got in an Atlanta hotel room. Today I share what happened after I got home, what I tried, and what finally shifted. This is the third show in the series, and the one the others were building toward. We look at all four ecosystem questions at once, the narrative I didn't know I was holding, and the anchor word practice I still use. It's also the last time I'll tell this story. For more info and show notes go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-672-letting-go-of-the-story/ Immersion Week starts Monday, 9/21!! Get in there - www.besproutable.com/immersion Also, thank you to our current sponsor, HeyPolo. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to ⁠⁠https://heypolo.com/JOYFUL⁠⁠ and use code JOYFUL for 70% off your first year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices