Together- The Sacred We

Curious about Evolutionary Relationship — The Initiation?If something's pulling you toward this program, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call → Schedule HereWhat does it actually look like to go from stuck, disconnected, and in the deepest grief of your life — to a love that radiates so strongly, people stop you on the street?In this deeply moving episode, Mike and Courtney are joined by Jen and Eli — a real couple they've worked with closely over several years — to share the full arc of their relational journey. From anxiety-avoidance cycles and the devastating loss of their son, to a wedding that moved their community to tears and a marriage now rooted in conscious, sacred love.This is what the work actually looks like. This is the evidence.In This Episode:How Jen and Eli went from a "power couple" surface image to hitting the painful patterns underneathLosing their son to an overdose — and how grief became the doorway to a deeper loveWhy Eli resisted the work at first (and the moment everything changed)The "sticky notes" exercise that helped them finally see each other clearlyWhat the Sacred We actually feels like in daily life — Eli's simple, powerful answerHow Jen learned to regulate her own fire instead of expecting Eli to walk into itThe moment the soul of the relationship clicked — and changed their marriage foreverWhy community and mentorship made the difference where therapy alone couldn'tHow their transformation is now radiating into their son's life and their entire communityResources:💑 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney → Schedule HereIf Jen and Eli's story moved you, please leave us a 5-star review and share this episode with a couple you love. This is what's possible. 💛💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelating**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

Curious about Evolutionary Relationship — The Initiation?If something's pulling you toward this program, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call → Schedule HereMost couples don't ask for help until the relationship is already bleeding.In this episode, Mike and Courtney Elliott get personally vulnerable about what it actually costs to wait — and what becomes possible when you don't.Courtney shares her experience across two long-term relationships where support came too late: years of patterns piling up, distance quietly hardening, and by the time help arrived, the gap had grown too wide. Mike shares how he showed up to couples therapy in his first marriage completely emotionally unavailable — and didn't even know it. His therapist told him she'd never met anyone like him. He took it as a compliment. It wasn't.This episode covers:Why the "wait until it's bad enough" pattern isn't just cultural — it's wired into us from childhoodHow couples slowly normalize disconnection until the numbness becomes the relationshipThe three phases of relational consciousness — Me, You-Me, and We — and what it takes to evolve into the thirdHow the inner child unconsciously steers the relationship toward its oldest woundsA real couple who'd been struggling for 10 years — and reconnected in a single sessionWhy strong, thriving couples invest in support before crisis, not because of itBONUS: The exact "We Language" framework to invite a resistant partner into supportIf this is landing, the Evolutionary Relationship Program is open now. Don't wait for the crisis to decide you deserve something better. If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐We love you. We see you. ❤️Follow: @sacredrelating | sacredrelating.comIf this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelating**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions please connect with us.Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to KnowWhat if the moment your child seems "totally fine" without you is actually the most important sign to pay attention to?In this solo episode, Courtney — attachment therapist, somatic therapist, and mama — shares the developmental science that changed everything about how she parents her son Cedar. It's the information she wishes she'd had from day one. And it's something most parents have never heard.You'll Learn:What "defensive attachment" is — and why a happy, unbothered child may actually be in distressThe age children can actually hold connection while you're away (most parents are shocked)Why our culture gaslights mothers about their own instinctsHow to repair attachment ruptures — even ones that have already happenedThe 4 principles to anchor you as a conscious parent right nowTimestamps:[0:00] — Introduction from Mike[1:30] — Sacred We community update: almost 100 five-star ratings![3:00] — The gem Courtney wishes she'd known as a new mama[4:30] — How to receive this without shame[8:00] — What attachment really is: the GPS system for connection[11:00] — The retreat story: Courtney leaves at 6am and what her body said[16:30] — The sacred developmental sequence of attachment explained[18:00] — The 4-hour rule: what age can kids hold connection with distance?[20:00] — Defensive attachment: why your child looks "totally fine"[26:00] — Watching defensive attachment unfold in real time[29:00] — The repair: what Cedar finally said ("You left me. I thought you were gone forever.")[35:00] — Cultural myths that get in the way of this landing[38:00] — The real sacrifices — and the real rewards[45:00] — What it looks like when a child IS ready to be away[47:00] — 4 key principles to anchor you[49:00] — Free PDF download + Gordon Neufeld Institute recommendationResources:📥 Free PDF Guide — https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIDD6eC6_9fdVbE8UFmBtwvzAhuOZqDy/view?usp=drive_link📖 Gordon Neufeld Institute — Power to Parent online course - https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney — https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠⁠💫 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/Loved this episode? We're SO close to 100 five-star ratings on Spotify — screenshot your review and email it to us so we can celebrate with you! 💛If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelating**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but have some questions, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠Are you feeling like the world is spinning faster than ever — and wondering how to keep up without burning out?In this episode, Mike and Courtney dive deep into what ancient prophecies, astrology, and spiritual teachers have long called The Great Change — a cosmic shift that's accelerating everything: technology, relationships, consciousness, and the structures of society itself.From the Hopi prophecy to Gene Keys, from Peru's ancient stone portals to Richard Rudd's teachings on the new human, Mike and Courtney weave together timeless wisdom and modern insight to help you understand why the world feels so chaotic right now — and what you can do to not just survive it, but thrive within it.In this episode, you'll discover:Why time is speeding up — and what ancient cultures predicted about this exact moment in historyThe difference between the electromagnetic energy system (old) and crystalline energy (new) — and how this shift is affecting your nervous systemThe Hopi prophecy's powerful metaphor of "getting in the canoe" and letting go of the banksHow the ego tries to keep you gripping for certainty — and why letting go actually feels betterWhy your intimate relationships are your greatest resource for navigating collective chaosThe Gene Keys concept of your vocation key — and how your deepest wound is actually your greatest gift to the worldWhat Richard Rudd revealed at his 2024 London talk about the "new human" and the significance of 2027Why interdependence — not hyper-independence — is where we truly thriveWhether you're navigating uncertainty in your relationship, your career, or your inner world — this episode is an invitation to stop fighting the current and start riding it.Hit play, get in the canoe, and let's go.Timestamps:00:00 — Introduction02:00 — About Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation04:30 — Ancient prophecies & Peru07:00 — Crystalline energy vs. electromagnetic energy09:30 — The Hopi prophecy11:00 — The ego's grip: Certainty vs. trust13:00 — Splitting into two dimensions of experience20:00 — Gene Keys & Richard Rudd22:00 — Your vocation key31:00 — Why the great change will strain relationships35:00 — The initiation: Tools AND transformationResources & References Mentioned:Gene Keys by Richard Rudd — genkeys.comThe Hopi Prophecy — search 'Hopi Blue Star Prophecy' to read the full teachingIf you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-callJealousy in relationships isn’t just about insecurity — it often reveals a deeper wound of feeling “not enough.”In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike and Courtney explore how jealousy, comparison, and fear of replacement arise inside intimate partnerships. Beneath the surface reactions of control, accusation, or emotional withdrawal often lives a deeper story: the not-enough wound.Drawing from their own relationship experiences and years of working with couples, Mike and Courtney unpack how jealousy can become either destructive or transformative depending on how partners meet it.In this conversation you’ll learn:What jealousy is really trying to reveal in relationshipsHow the “not enough” wound shows up in both partnersWhy comparison creates distance and disconnectionHow couples can turn jealousy into deeper intimacyWhat it means to heal side by side rather than aloneRather than seeing jealousy as something to eliminate, Mike and Courtney explore how it can become a doorway into vulnerability, truth, and deeper partnership.Chapters: 00:00 Jealousy Is Not The Threat00:30 Three Part Roadmap01:43 Postpartum Insecurity Story08:48 Naming Needs And Safety10:55 The Cabin Reassurance Moment19:51 Why Being Fine Disconnects24:59 Thirds And Paper Cuts29:26 Polyamory And Capacity31:24 Social Settings Coping Pattern32:40 Coping With Jealousy34:11 Reaching For Vulnerability36:42 Love Is Tender37:47 Creating Safety Together39:22 Support And Practice43:17 Self Responsibility And Growth48:02 Jealousy Versus Disconnection51:12 Mike’s Temple Trigger57:42 Needs Under The Jealousy01:05:05 Program Invitation And ClosingIf you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here: ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐ If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

Are you in a relationship where your partner feels angry, demanding, or never satisfied — yet underneath it all, you know they just want connection?In this episode, we unpack anxious attachment in relationships — and why it often doesn’t look like anxiety at all. Instead, it shows up as rage, ambivalence, push-pull dynamics, emotional outbursts, and demands for connection that paradoxically push intimacy away.We explore:The “rage–ambivalence loop” of anxious attachmentWhy anxious partners can look avoidant at timesThe illusion of presence (“I’m the only one showing up”)The demand stage vs. self-initiationHow to soothe anxious attachment without losing yourselfWhether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or secure, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath conflict — and how to move from blame into embodied partnership.Chapters:00:00 When Love Feels Repetitive01:08 Program Invitation The Initiation02:24 Rate And Share Request02:57 Anxious Avoidant Setup05:32 Anxious Looks Like Anger06:54 Rage Ambivalence Loop10:10 Anxious Versus Avoidant12:35 Working With Inner Anger18:22 How To Stay Present21:38 Parenting Tantrum Parallel24:33 Hard Work For Everyone25:41 Only One Showing Up26:16 Anxious Presence Illusion28:28 Embodied Connection Skills31:37 Hyperfocus Isn’t Attunement33:18 True Presence Breakthroughs35:33 Demanding vs Self Initiating38:36 Reaching Through Old Wounds44:33 What Anxious Partners Need46:04 Relational Authority Framework48:26 Invitation to Go Deeper52:34 Closing Love and SupportIf you’re ready to stop looping the same pattern and actually transform it, our signature couples program Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation is where this work becomes lived practice.👉 Join the program or book a call via the link below.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

What if the part of you that feels weak is actually the key to emotional maturity, intimacy, and relational freedom?In this deeply personal solo episode, Mike explores how avoiding weakness, shame, and shadow parts of ourselves creates projection, defensiveness, and disconnection in relationships. Many of us try to build confidence, strength, discipline, and success to outrun the parts of ourselves that feel inadequate — but the more we resist weakness, the more it quietly shapes our behaviour.Drawing from personal stories, including childhood trauma, overcompensation, addiction patterns, masculine identity, and relational conflict, Mike introduces a powerful three-part framework inspired by Gene Keys shadow work: Allow. Accept. Embrace.He unpacks how unintegrated weakness leads to projection, criticism, gaslighting, emotional defensiveness, and the inability to attune in partnership — and why true intimacy begins when we stop fighting the parts of ourselves that feel small.This episode is about masculine vulnerability, shadow integration, relational accountability, and how loving your weakest parts increases your capacity to love others.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship but also have some specific questions, let's hop on a no pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

Most of us have been told that unconditional love is the highest expression of a spiritual relationship. But what if that belief is actually killing your chance at true intimacy?In this episode, Mike and Courtney challenge the cultural narrative around unconditional love and propose something radical: that mature, evolutionary love is actually conditional. And here's what they discovered—this understanding creates MORE love, not less.If you've been feeling drained, unseen, or losing yourself in the name of love, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:Why unconditional love often masks neglect, enabling, and soul deathThe difference between love as a feeling vs. love as an actionHow the lack of conditions actually makes us MORE selfish and less lovingThe moment Mike realized unconditional love was hurting his relationshipHow "fierce love" and clear conditions transformed their partnershipWhy boundaries and conditions are actually deeply lovingHow to identify YOUR conditions for feeling truly lovedReal examples: parenting, marriage, and supporting clients through this shiftKey Moment: Mike shares the powerful realization of honoring his own inner child and the vow he made to never abandon his own needs for love again—and how this actually deepened intimacy with Courtney.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. Early bird pricing available until February 19th—$2,000 savings. https://www.sacredrelating.com/Timestamps:0:01 The problem with unconditional love2:11 Introducing the radical idea: love is conditional5:01 Bell Hooks changed everything: "Love is an action"7:04 Why this matters in relationships11:47 The story: How Mike's unconditional love was actually hurting them14:47 Courtney's fierce love and what shifted15:49 The river needs banks: why conditions create safety17:34 Parenting example: How boundaries created more love19:40 Client example: How clarity on conditions changed everything20:28 Gordon Neufeld's insight: No boundaries = neglect21:52 True mature love has limits24:05 The paradox: Love as action + unconditional self-love27:42 Why knowing your conditions attracts the right partner28:27 The Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation programIf you are feeling the pull to join  our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

🌱 If you’re feeling called to practice this work in real time, our flagship offering Evolutionary Relationship - The Initiation, price is increasing in two weeks—join at the current rate here. → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-weIf you’ve been told to take space, go into another room, and self-regulate before reconnecting with your partner, this episode may completely change how you understand intimacy.In the conscious relationship and nervous-system world, self-regulation is often treated as the gold standard for healing conflict. But what if focusing on self-regulation alone is actually creating more separation, loneliness, and disconnection in your relationship?In this deeply embodied episode, Mike & Courtney challenge the self-regulation myth and introduce a radically different approach: co-regulation as the foundation of intimacy. Drawing from attachment science, developmental psychology, and real moments from their own relationship, they explain why humans learn regulation through connection — not isolation — and why intimacy deepens fastest when partners become regulation buddies.They share how ruptures that once lasted days now resolve in minutes, why taking space too soon can reinforce attachment wounds, and how learning to stay together in dysregulation builds trust, safety, polarity, and desire.✨ In this episode:Why self-regulation alone can deepen separationHow co-regulation actually builds nervous-system resilienceWhy taking space too quickly can backfireThe concept of becoming “regulation buddies”The golden rule: connection before communicationChapters:00:00 Introduction to the Self-Regulation Myth00:51 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation01:23 Special Offer Announcement02:13 Challenging Relationship Myths03:00 The Self-Regulation Myth Explained04:01 The Power of Co-Regulation05:11 Personal Experiences and Insights08:00 The Sacred We Space23:29 Practical Applications and Success Stories42:24 Conclusion and Invitation🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

Do you find yourself constantly trying to help, coach, or fix your partner — and still feeling disconnected, resentful, or exhausted?In this powerful episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney explore the subtle but destructive line between loving someone and trying to fix them. While fixing often looks like care, support, or problem-solving, it frequently masks anxiety, control, and an avoidance of our own inner work — and it quietly erodes intimacy, polarity, and trust.Drawing from deeply personal stories from their past relationships and their current marriage, Mike & Courtney unpack the fixer–fixee dynamic, why it’s so common among helpers, coaches, and healers, and how it creates codependence rather than connection. They introduce practical frameworks like the sticky note theory, the Go First principle, and their sacred no-coaching rule — tools that help couples move out of resentment and back into true partnership.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:Why fixing feels helpful but damages intimacyThe hidden anxiety underneath the fixer roleHow fixing kills polarity and desireThe difference between reflection, vulnerability, and fixingHow to reclaim your own seat in relationshipChapters:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast01:07 The Fixer Dynamic in Relationships03:06 Personal Stories of Fixing07:10 Realizations and Shifts12:44 The Sticky Note Theory14:02 Mike's Experience with Fixing18:25 The Impact of Fixing on Relationships26:13 Personal Growth and Responsibility29:09 Discovering Self in Relationships30:30 Embodying Your Desires32:50 The Sacred We: A Partnership Approach33:57 The Mirror of Relationships35:53 Navigating Fixer Tendencies38:48 Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support41:54 The Power of Vulnerability44:19 Rules for Healthy Relationships46:30 Trusting the Process51:15 Final Thoughts and Call to Action🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for Couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-we💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples Work with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you’ve been trying to “calm” your child in the name of nervous system regulation, this episode may completely change how you parent.In today’s parenting culture, regulation is often mistaken for calmness — but true nervous system regulation has nothing to do with suppressing energy, emotions, or vitality. In this powerful solo episode, Courtney Wren unpacks the biggest myth in nervous-system–aware parenting and explains what real regulation actually looks like in children and parents.Drawing from her background in somatic therapy, trauma healing, and lived experience as a mother, Courtney explains how children naturally move through cycles of high energy, rest, emotion, and activation — and why labeling active children as “dysregulated” often reflects the parent’s nervous system, not the child’s. She introduces two core nervous system types (often misunderstood in parenting), explains how generational trauma shaped our ideas of “good behavior,” and offers practical tools for tracking regulation accurately.✨ In this episode:Why regulation does not equal calm Parenting the Nervous System Th…The difference between vitality and dysregulation Parenting the Nervous System Th…The two primary nervous system types in children Parenting the Nervous System Th…How parents project their own overwhelm onto kids Parenting the Nervous System Th…Why this generation of children has more life force Parenting the Nervous System Th…Practical bedtime tools that actually work Parenting the Nervous System Th…Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:59 Understanding the Nervous System01:30 Parenting with a Regulated Nervous System06:39 The Myth of Regulation Equals Calm08:59 Stages of Nervous System Healing10:43 Defining True Regulation15:49 Recognizing Dysregulation in Children20:22 Types of Nervous Systems: Hummingbirds and Whales24:53 Parenting Different Nervous System Types28:41 Recognizing Whale Children's Needs29:52 Engaging Whale Children31:46 Understanding Hummingbird Children35:30 Parenting Strategies for Different Children39:11 The Impact of Ancestral Trauma48:27 Bedtime Tips for Whale and Hummingbird Children🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for Couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you want more passion, polarity, and “juiciness” in your relationship, this episode is a real behind-the-scenes look at how masculine and feminine energies actually work in daily life. Many couples lose sexual charge not because something is “wrong,” but because their connection becomes neutralized over time. When the masculine and feminine poles aren’t consciously tended, relationships can start to feel stale, flat, or disconnected even when you’re doing all the “right” things. In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney unpack masculine essence and feminine essence (Shiva and Shakti), how to discover your authentic balance on the spectrum, and how to consciously choose polarity so intimacy stays alive.They share a personal story from their holiday season, how sickness and “mission mode” shifted their dynamic, and the exact moment they restored connection by flipping the polarity with presence, emotional truth, and nervous-system safety.✨ In this episode:What masculine & feminine energy really means (beyond gender)How to find your authentic balance (not your coping strategy)Why things get “stale” and how to bring the charge backShiva/Shakti, banks/river, bowl/water: simple metaphors that clickThe #1 thing that kills polarity (and how to avoid it)📍 Chapters:00:00 Introduction to The Together Podcast00:51 Understanding Polarity: Masculine and Feminine Energies03:13 Personal Stories: Navigating Polarity in Daily Life07:31 Reconnecting Through Vulnerability22:43 Defining Masculine and Feminine Essence30:37 Creative Chaos in the Kitchen31:23 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Rhythms32:39 Exploring Gender and Essence36:07 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies40:05 Conscious Polarity in Relationships48:51 Practical Applications of Polarity54:52 The Number One Killer of Polarity57:11 Free Offer and Final Thoughts🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you’ve outgrown conventional relationship advice and are craving a deeper, more conscious way of loving, this episode is for you.In a world that emphasizes hyper-independence, self-healing, and “doing your own work,” many couples feel confused about how to actually grow together. Sacred relationship offers a radically different paradigm—one where love becomes a living practice of mutual evolution, nervous system maturity, and devotion to the shared space between two people.In this foundational episode, Mike & Courtney explore how sacred relationship redefines modern love by moving beyond unconscious patterns, codependence myths, and purely individual growth. They share personal stories from their own marriage, the mentors who shaped their journey, and why thriving relationships require radical sovereignty AND deep togetherness.This conversation is an invitation into a more mature, embodied form of love—one that creates not just stability, but vitality, coherence, and real transformation for both partners.✨ In this episode:What sacred relationship actually is (and what it’s not)Why hyper-independence weakens intimacyThe difference between individual healing and relational masteryWhy couples need support from people living this workHow the “Sacred We” becomes a third, guiding intelligenceWhy relationship can be an accelerated path of awakeningChapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:14 Defining Sacred Relationship01:42 The Journey of Self-Love and Togetherness04:13 Challenges and Growth in Relationships07:23 The Role of Therapists and Guides09:16 Personal Development vs. Relational Skills12:36 The Importance of Relational Support17:24 The We Space and Mutual Growth29:57 The Role of Adaptive Child in Relationships30:23 Understanding the Adaptive Child30:43 The Role of the Wise Adult32:31 The Power of Sacred Relationships35:17 The Importance of Supportive Circles39:45 Navigating Triggers and Growth43:18 The Impact of Sacred Relationship Coaching48:54 Reflecting on Your Support System50:02 Invitation to Sacred Relationship57:50 Final Thoughts and Encouragement🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

Are you frustrated with an avoidant partner who pulls away just when you’re trying to connect?In this deeply personal solo episode, Courtney Wren explores avoidant attachment, emotional withdrawal, and why pushing for connection often creates more distance instead of intimacy. Many people in conscious relationships feel lonely, unseen, or blamed for “needing too much” when their partner shuts down — but what’s actually happening underneath avoidance is far more complex.Courtney unpacks how avoidant attachment forms through emotional neglect, why avoidant partners often feel “fine” while the relationship suffers, and how nervous system regulation plays a critical role in intimacy. She shares real stories from her relationship with Mike, practical examples of what not to do, and powerful ways to invite connection without overwhelming, shaming, or chasing your partner.This episode is especially for those asking:Why do I feel like I’m doing all the work?How do I stop pushing and still stay true to myself?Is it possible to heal avoidance together?✨ In this episode:Why avoidance isn’t a choice — and why it feels safer than connectionThe difference between healthy space and relational withdrawalHow shame blocks avoidant partners from knowing what they feelWhat actually invites an avoidant partner back into connectionHow to stop repeating childhood attachment wounds in adult loveWhy meeting avoidance with compassion creates real change🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

Burnout, mental load, resentment, feminine essence, masculine presence—why so many women feel unseen (and how couples reconnect fast).There are so many women and mothers today who are wrung out—tired, irritable, overburdened, underappreciated, and quietly nearing the point of giving up. And there are so many partners who are trying, yet still feeling “never enough.”In this episode, I’m your brother and ally. I break down why women burn out, how the mental and emotional load silently stacks over time, and why so many couples get trapped in misattunement—loving each other in ways that don’t land.We cover:Why burnout + resentment builds (and what’s actually underneath it)The “mental load” problem and why it’s so invisibleThe myth of “masculine vs feminine” (and a clearer model of essence)What feminine essence needs to feel seen, met, and openWhat masculine essence needs to feel valued, trusted, and motivatedPractical ways to shift the dynamic so love finally landsChapters:00:00 – Why So Many Women Are Burnt Out06:45 – The Hidden Mental & Emotional Load Women Carry15:20 – When Men Are Trying but Still Missing the Mark22:40 – How Divorce Initiated Me Into This Work30:10 – The Myth of Masculine & Feminine Energy38:30 – Understanding Essence Beyond Gender50:15 – What Feminine Essence Actually Needs57:40 – Why Appreciation for Tasks Doesn’t Land1:06:20 – What Masculine Essence Needs to Thrive1:15:10 – How Polarity Restores Connection & Desire1:26:30 – Practical Tools to Meet Each Other Differently1:38:00 – Repair, Receivership & Moving Forward TogetherIf you’re a woman feeling unseen, this gives language to what’s been happening inside you.If you’re a man who wants to meet your woman better, this gives you a practical orientation and tools that change everything.If this hits home, share it with your partner and leave a 5-star review—this work deserves to reach more couples🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

This is not a conversation about sex — it’s a conversation about awakening.In this episode, we sit down with Emily and Rob for one of the most honest, soul-rattling explorations of sexuality, shame, intimacy, and true erotic awakening.We uncover:What parasympathetic / yin sex really isHow to move from friction-based sex to regenerative lovemakingThe meaning of “conscious cock” and why soft penetration can create more pleasureWhy women feel numb — and how to reawaken the cervix, womb, and erotic systemHow men can dissolve shame, pressure, performance anxiety, and inherited porn conditioningHow to reconnect cock + heartHow betrayal can become an initiation into deeper intimacyWhy receiving is the hardest — and most transformative — practice for menHow couples can build a relationship where sex is emotional, spiritual, and deeply connectiveWhether you’re a man, woman, or couple, this episode will change the way you see intimacy forever.Chapters00:00 – Why Most Couples Never Reach True Intimacy06:15 – Conscious Cock: What It Really Means12:40 – Unconscious Taking vs. Sacred Penetration20:14 – Betrayal as the Sexual Initiation27:50 – Parasympathetic Sex: Soft, Slow, Sacred37:10 – The Masculine Initiation: Receiving Without Performing46:40 – Yin Sex, Heart Orgasms & Regenerative LovemakingFind Emily online: Website: http://www.maiden-medicine.com/Instagram: @maidenmedicine🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you’ve been feeling confused, disconnected, or stuck in the “should I stay or should I go?” loop, this is one of the most important relationship episodes you’ll ever hear. Millions of people search for clarity around leaving a relationship because unresolved uncertainty creates emotional distress, nervous system dysregulation, and a chronic sense of instability in the bond. In conscious partnership, clarity, commitment, emotional safety, and direction are essential for healthy attachment, secure love, and real connection.In this powerful episode, Mike & Courtney guide you through the psychology behind feeling half-in/half-out, why this state quietly destroys relationships, how to identify deal-breakers, and how to know whether your partnership is meant to evolve or dissolve. They also share deeply personal stories about their past relationships, trauma patterns, attachment wounds, and what mature love looks like when clarity finally arrives.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why “one foot in, one foot out” is emotionally and physically damagingThe difference between discomfort and real deal-breakersHow to find clarity when you’re terrified of choosingWhy honesty (with self and partner) is the key to maturityWhat sacred devotion looks like—even when the relationship must endHow to exit with love instead of drama🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

If you’ve been craving deeper connection, emotional intimacy, or more support in your relationship, this episode is for you. Most couples don’t disconnect because of big fights—they drift because of the everyday, unconscious habits that slowly erode closeness. From frustrations about chores to mismatched rhythms, unspoken expectations, and stress in your nervous system, the day-to-day can quietly chip away at even the strongest relationships.In this powerful and relatable episode, Mike and Courtney break down how to rebuild connection, improve communication, and strengthen emotional safety in conscious partnership. They explore masculine and feminine dynamics, relationship repair, appreciation practices, and how to shift from resentment to teamwork.You’ll learn simple, practical tools for sacred relationship, couples connection, and creating a healthy daily rhythm where both partners feel seen, supported, and valued.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why the “little things” create big disconnectionsHow to talk about frustration without blameThe 3 keys for staying connected: talk about it, take initiative, practice appreciationHow structure and flow create harmonyA nervous-system-based approach to reconnecting in the daily grind🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

What do you do when your partner just won’t change?You’ve done the work, communicated your needs, practiced patience—and it’s still not shifting.In this heart-opening episode, Mike & Courtney dive into one of the most common questions couples face:“What if I’m evolving and my partner isn’t?”They reveal the hidden dynamics underneath this frustration—why we try to change others, what “counterwill” really is, and how to find your own clarity instead of waiting for someone else’s.🌿 You’ll learn:Why “trying to change your partner” always backfiresThe real reason your partner resists transformationHow to move from control to curiosityThe link between self-abandonment and resentmentHow to know when to accept, stay, or lovingly let goA powerful journal prompt to reconnect to your truth📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:00 When Your Partner Won’t Change 03:00 The Confusion Crossroad: Stay or Go? 06:00 Love, Conditions, and Acceptance 10:00 Real Stories of Growth and Boundaries 15:00 The Power of Bringing Truth to the Table 22:00 Trying to Change vs. True Relating 27:00 Counterwill: Why Pressure Doesn’t Work 31:00 Facing Your Own Fear of Change 36:00 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You 42:00 Taking the First Step—Without a Guarantee 48:00 Acceptance vs. Dealbreakers 52:00 From Codependence to Self-Love 58:00 Journal Prompt + Together Community Invitation🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠We’ve all been there—your partner is right beside you, saying all the right things, but somehow… you can’t feel them.In this deep and tender episode, Mike and Courtney explore why it’s hard to receive love, even when it’s right in front of us. They reveal the hidden forces—like our negativity bias and survival wiring—that keep us stuck in complaint, disconnection, and old stories, and share how to move back into felt connection.🌿 You’ll learn:Why your brain resists receiving love (and how to rewire it)The “ANTs” that crawl through every relationship: Automatic Negative ThoughtsHow to spot when your inner child is running the showA nervous-system-based way to reconnect when you can’t feel each otherThe simple trick that transforms disconnection into intimacy📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:00 Why It’s Hard to Receive Love 03:00 The Negativity Bias & “Automatic Negative Thoughts” 07:00 How the Brain Gets Addicted to Complaining 11:00 Common Triggers that Block Connection 14:00 The Inner Child vs. the Healthy Adult 19:00 Relearning How to Receive Love 23:00 Receiving as a Felt Sense in the Body 27:00 How Presence Changes Everything 32:00 Guiding Connection Through Curiosity 36:00 The Art of Staying in Your Seat 39:00 Daily Practices for Receiving 45:00 The 90% Rule: Seeing What’s Here 47:00 Bonus Practice + Together Community Invitation 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15