Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Let's talk about what it takes to heal and rebuild trust after the devastating impact of infidelity. In this episode, we break down the critical steps for both the cheating spouse and the wounded spouse. You may be familiar with the main themes in this episode like the importance of open and honest communication and a no-contact rule. Other factors that fly under the radar, however, like what good boundaries are and initiated accountability aren't always so obvious, though equally essential. The cheating spouse must take the proactive approach of being humble, transparent, and responsible for their actions.  Get the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Special Offer  Get Access to the "Infidelity Intensive" Guide Here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to SUBSCRIBE! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If your spouse has had multiple affairs, it can be hard to believe they have truly repented. When is enough enough? This was the question from a listener named Greg: Dana, I am so thankful you are doing the series on affairs. As a man, it’s really hard to admit that my wife does not find me desirable. She has found love in the arms of another. The problem is she keeps saying that she’s sorry. I found out a few months ago that she is involved in yet another of these situations. I’m sure you can understand what that must do to a man. I love her. She’s a great mother. But I’m wondering how many times I should take her back? My heart goes out to Greg and others who find themselves locked in a revolving door marriage with other people. Infidelity is hard enough the first time; multiple affairs are devastating. Listen in as I share some challenging words of advice about how to know when enough is enough after repeated infidelity.  Have a relationship question you'd like answered on the podcast? Submit your question at rebuildinguspodcast.com or DM me on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to  SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a stark difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says, “I am someone bad.”  This episode is for any person who has ever suffered the betrayal of their partner and it's also for the one who has betrayed. No shame on you. Just hope and healing. Listen in.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take the FREE "How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz Ep. 233: Discovering Your Spouse Has Been Unfaithful: Now What? **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question:  I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve ever had a high sex drive. But I want him to be happy. I know it’s important to him. I’ve listened to some of your podcast episodes in the shameless sex series. You did a while back. Are there any quick fixes you can give for those of us who struggle in this department?  Listen in as I share my suggestions using the analogy of "getting your head in the game." Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take the "How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Please Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the aftermath of discovering a partner’s infidelity. Let’s unravel the emotional journey, practical steps, and the pathway to healing after the shattering revelation of a spouse’s unfaithfulness. Respond, Don’t React: In the midst of this emotional turbulence, it’s better to embrace a strategic approach – responding, not reacting. The distinction between these two responses will be critical as you navigate in the storm. Impulsively reacting, no matter how temporarily satisfying it may seem, only compounds the situation. Instead, choosing a thoughtful and intentional response lays the groundwork for healing and restoration. Listen as I share some suggestions to help accelerate the healing process.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your “Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict” guide here.  Book suggestion: Good Grief by Granger Westberg Ep. 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage [Affair-Proof]   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses:  feelings, forgiveness, and faith. The fact is that feelings are not final, and they are fickle. They are precious but not the priority. Instead of being led by our feelings, there are healthier and more effective ways to handle our lack of feelings toward our spouse. Listen in to learn the pathway forward.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗Related Episode: #80: Feelings Aren't Forever  🔗 Submit your relationship questions 🔗 Get your free "Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict" 🔗 Interested in marriage coaching? Schedule your discovery call today.   Don't miss out on insights to improve your relationships. Hit the subscribe or follow button! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may need to be addressed sooner than later. The purpose of this podcast is not to make you paranoid or suspicious of your spouse but to shed light on any deception in your marriage you may be unaware of. Remember, you can’t fix what you don’t face.  My husband, Shaun, and I shared our own story of infidelity on last week’s episode. Many of the warning signs we discussed during today’s show were present in my marriage. I’ve also witnessed these signs in the marriages of those I coach who are or have healed from infidelity. With nearly 25 years of marriage experience, I'm passionate about providing valuable insights into rebuilding relationships after infidelity and fostering open, honest conversations.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict  Take the “How Connected Are You” Partner Quiz Today  Episode 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage    Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listener and hope that you, too, will find answers should you find yourself in this unfortunate situation.  Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages nd relationships grow too! **  Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have little to no boundaries, so it's no wonder couples find themselves cheating on their spouses against their good intentions.  This conversation is as real as it gets. If you want to protect your marriage from infidelity or are in the middle of trying to rebuild trust after an affair, this episode is for you.  Find the full show notes at https://rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode 3: Rebuilding Our Marriage; Rebuilding Our Trust Take the FREE "How Connected Are You" Partner Quiz    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

As we grow older, our desires often change. One of our listeners has changed her mind about having kids and wants to know how to tell her husband. This conversation is coming up more and more, especially with younger couples. It's one thing to decide not to have kids before getting married, but often, something changes when you see someone else's cute baby or realize your biological clock is ticking quickly.  Listen as I share my perspective on how to have a conversation with your spouse if your desire for children changes.  Submit Your Questions Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process. There is significance in the naming of something. Real Relationship Talk served us well, and now, we're hitting full throttle with Rebuilding Us. As I reflect on the challenges and triumphs of my own marriage, I recognize the need to create a more intentional space where individuals and couples can reclaim the goodness in their relationships, restore what was lost, and magnify the positive aspects of their marriages. This realization propelled me to reimagine the podcast to align it with my life’s calling, as expressed in Isaiah 61:4 - a scripture that signifies a continuous, active process of rebuilding in the context of marriage. In this episode, I reveal the why behind the new name and the new features you can expect to hear beginning next week! For a full rundown on what's changing and what's not, see the show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Join my e-mail list and get first dibs on news, promotions, coaching, and updates!   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're bringing back one of your favorite conversations about conflict . . . specifically how to stop avoiding it and how to communicate confidently instead. In this encore episode, we're discussing why we avoid conflict and how our different upbringings play into this dilemma. Many people confuse peacemaking with avoiding conflict. I dispell this myth and so much more, helping you to finally step up, speak up and be heard in your relationships. Plus I'm sharing five affirmations you can say every day to help you to have more courageous conversations.This episode was from our Communication 101 series and previously aired in May of 2022. Even still, it's still one I get feedback on to this day. Find the OG show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/96. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get Your FREE Conversation Starters to Bash Conflict Here Let's Connect on Instagram **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

My hubby, Shaun, is back! We're engaging in a candid conversation about the fundamental needs of both men and women in marriage, shedding light on respect, security, and leadership within relationships. Sharing some of our personal stories and insights that can help couples foster a deeper understanding of each other's needs and strengthen their bond is what we're after.  Men can learn what women truly mean when they say they need security (it's not always what you think). Women can learn how to respect their husbands even when they disagree. Both spouses can learn what healthy leadership looks like in a marriage. This episode is one you'll want to refer to again when disagreements about needs arise.  Find the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/225. Resources and Links in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict  Learn more about my marriage and premarital coaching here   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's episode is an oldie but goodie . . . one of your faves: relationship baggage. In this encore episode, I'm bringing us back to the conversation about relationship baggage and the toll its weight takes on our marriages and relationships. This episode previously aired in August 2023, but it's well worth a sweet repeat.  We're talking about five types of relationship baggage, how emotional baggage shows up in our relationships, and how to release the baggage so our new and/or current relationship has a chance to stand on its own outside of the shadows of what was.  Find the OG show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/167. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Take my FREE 'How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz Episode 39- Understanding Your Core Wounds & Avoiding Toxic Relationships-Dr. Janie Lacy Get your Love Is Devotional here!   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you ready to have an awesome marriage? Transform your marriage into a flourishing and connected union by practicing these four secrets to cultivating an awesomely attentive marriage. Today, we're exploring key takeaways and four actionable tips for infusing your relationship with attentiveness, support, and joy. Having an awesome marriage takes work, but it’s good work. Great marriages don’t happen by chance; they happen by choice. The four secrets to cultivating a strong, loving, connected (and yes, awesome) marriage center around presence, support, anticipating needs, and noticing the little things.  Read the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/223.    Links and Resources in this Episode:  Take the “How Connected Are You?” Partner Quiz Marriage Advice from Real-World Couples  Ep. 221 - The Power of the Available Spouse Need Marriage Coaching? Schedule Your Discovery Call Today   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this farewell Faith Talks episode, we are discussing our goal to hear "well done" from God for stewarding well what He entrusted us with when we reach the end of our life’s journey. A well-known parable in scripture, found in Matthew chapter 25 emphasizes the significance of stewarding our time, talents, and resources well. The parable centers on a master who entrusts different amounts of responsibility to his servants before embarking on a journey. Upon his return, he evaluates their stewardship. The servant who eagerly invested and doubled the silver entrusted to him hears the words, "Well done, my good and faithful servant." This narrative serves as a poignant reminder that our choices and actions echo far beyond their immediate impact. Visit realrelationshiptalk.com/222 for the full show notes.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode  Get Your Free “Speak Life” Audio Affirmations Here.    Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, we're discussing what it means to be "aptly available" in a marriage. I outline five keys that can help take a marriage to the next level for couples already present and engaged in their relationships. I emphasize the importance of intentionality, curiosity, vocalizing appreciation, time-blocking, and praying together. Plus, I'm sharing some personal anecdotes and practical advice to help couples strengthen their connection and move from being just available to being "awesomely attentive." **Key Points:**- The meaning of "apt" and how it applies to marriage.- The importance of intentionality in maintaining a strong marriage and avoiding complacency.- Staying curious about each other, vocalizing appreciation, and time-blocking to ensure quality time together. The episode ends with a powerful affirmation for prioritizing marriage intentionally and putting in the work to maintain a successful relationship. Find the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/221 Resources and Links in this Episode:  Take My Free Quiz: How Connected a Partner Are You  Ep 119: Connection Crisis: The Absentee Spouse Ep 117: Connection Crisis: Apathy - When Love Grows Cold Want to suggest a new name for my new podcast? Take the survey here!   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify | iHeart Radio | Google Podcasts | Podcast Addict | Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever wondered why it feels like God sometimes ignores our prayers? We just can’t wrap our heads around God's ways. I've been there, wondering why things don't seem to be going as planned. But there is one prayer that God always answers: the prayer for mercy. In this episode, we’re exploring the unwavering presence of mercy in the Bible and embracing the abundant mercy God offers us each day. Lamentations 3:222-23 puts it this way: Through the Lord's mercies, we are not consumed because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning. Great is his faithfulness.  I want to remind you that nowhere in scripture when anyone prayed for mercy were they denied, not one person.  I wrap up the episode with a heartfelt prayer, asking God to remind us that he showers His mercies upon us. Get the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/220.   Resources and Links in this Episode:  Listen to Episode 170: When Heaven is Silent: The Truth Behind Unanswered Prayer Listen to Episode 171: Why Do I Still Feel Anxious After Praying? Download your Speak Life Audio Affirmations here.   Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

There are times in marriage when the connection between spouses starts to fade, leaving one or both feeling distant or even absent. Understanding the reasons behind this disconnection is crucial to finding the path back to a fulfilling and loving relationship In this episode, we address four common reasons for a spouse's absence and provide practical solutions to reignite the flame of connection. I'll give you a teaser. The first reason a spouse goes absent is due to chronic disappointment. One of the primary reasons for marital disconnection is chronic disappointment. When expectations are unmet, a gap forms between what we anticipate in our relationships and the reality we experience. This disappointment can lead to bitterness and resentment. Find the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/219. Resources and Links in this Episode: Join our Christian Marriages & Relationships Group. Take the “How Connected Are You?” Partner Quiz. Listen to Episode 134: “Feeling, Healing, and Dealing with Rejection” Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify | iHeart Radio | Google Podcasts | Podcast Addict | Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE SPEAK LIFE AUDIO AFFIRMATIONS HERE. There is a beautiful Hebrew word Ezer Kenegdo that describes the concept of being a "Helpmeet" in the Bible. This characteristic reaches far beyond gender boundaries. Understanding its proper meaning helps us to discover the strength and purpose of women. Join me as I challenge common ideas and help you foster an understanding of the woman’s vital role, contributing to a balanced and biblical concept of man and woman. After listening to this episode, I hope you will understand the powerful and often misunderstood concept of "Ezer Kenegdo" and its true meaning in the context of marriage, partnership, and individual purpose.  Visit realrelationshiptalk.com/218 for the full show notes.    Like this Podcast? Please Leave a Rating and a Review!  And Be Sure to Subscribe! Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.