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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.


I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

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In this episode, Jay explores the pressure of the “social clock,” that unspoken timeline that tells us when we should reach certain life milestones. He unpacks research revealing that we’re never truly “late,” we’re simply measuring our progress against someone else’s schedule. Jay explains that the fear of falling behind is really a fear of losing control, and he shares how reclaiming that sense of control is far more important than hitting every milestone on time. He also unpacks the career anxiety so many people are experiencing today. With frequent job changes and a longer phase of “emerging adulthood,” he reminds us that feeling lost or stuck isn’t a sign of failure, it’s a sign that you’re still exploring. Jay reflects on what purpose truly means, and why your purpose isn’t a job title or income level but the deeper reason behind everything you do. Finally, Jay explores age, growth, and possibility, reminding us that the brain can rewire itself at any stage of life and that happiness often follows a U-shaped curve. If you feel like you’re in a low point, you may actually be standing right before the rise. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Living by the Social Clock How to Feel In Control of Your Life Again How to Navigate Career Changes with Confidence How to Redefine Purpose Beyond Your Job How to Build Relationships That Truly Support You How to Grow Even When You Feel “Behind” You’re not late. You’re not off track. You’re simply arriving on your own timeline and that timeline is right on time. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:04 The Societal Pressure Of The "Social Clock 02:30 Deviating From "The Social Clock" 06:42 Redefining Success On Your Terms  08:42 You're Not Lost, You're Experimenting! 13:05 Don't Measure By Goals From The Past  15:27 The Illusion Of Late Marriage  19:47 Close Relationships Lead To Better Health 24:26 You're Not Late, Start Now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today, we will explore one of the most emotionally charged and misunderstood topics of our time: money. Not just how to make it, but how to build a healthy, grounded, and spiritually aligned relationship with it. You’ll hear raw insights from leaders like Scott Galloway, Jaspreet Singh, Codie Sanchez, and Lewis Howes, each offering a window into the habits, mindsets, and blind spots that keep us feeling financially stuck. From the shame many of us carry around saving to the ways our education system failed to prepare us, this episode reveals why so many people feel overwhelmed by finances and why that struggle is more normal and more solvable than we think. Scott Galloway explains why saving feels impossible today and why young people need discipline, forced systems, and a focus on building human capital. Jaspreet Singh breaks down the habits that keep people financially stuck, overspending, blind trust in the system, and not understanding how money works, and shares how he learned that real wealth comes from owning assets. Codie Sanchez simplifies the risk, reward equation, urges beginners to start with low-cost index funds, and reminds us that the highest-return investment is always in ourselves. Lewis Howes brings the spiritual side of money to life, showing how healing our relationship with money opens the door to abundance, gratitude, and new opportunities. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build a Realistic Saving System How to Create Forced Savings That Actually Work How to Shift From Spending to Investing How to Break Free From the Poverty Mindset How to Build Wealth Through Equity, Not Salary How to Strengthen Your Relationship With Money You don’t need to have everything figured out to begin. You don’t need the perfect plan, perfect timing, or perfect background to build a healthier relationship with money. What matters is your willingness to learn, to question old patterns, and to try again even when things feel overwhelming. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:55 Building a Framework for Realistic, Healthy Saving 06:19 Why Saving Feels Harder Than Ever 13:27 The Three Habits That Keep You in a Poverty Mindset 33:51 Why You Need Both Vision and Execution to Build Wealth 37:16 Why Investing in Yourself Comes First 41:07 Stocks and Bonds Explained Simply 43:52 Stepping Into the World of Private Investing 45:03 The #1 Shift That Can Transform Your Financial Future 48:36 Giving Yourself Permission to Explore Possibilities 54:53 How to Create a Respectful Relationship With Money 01:04:12 The Power of Living Beneath Your Means 01:06:54 The Hidden Costs of Chasing Easy Money  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What part of your life feels unclear right now? What direction do you secretly wish you could choose? Today, Jay is joined by astrologer and author Chani Nicholas for a deeper look at astrology beyond the pop-culture stereotypes. Chani traces astrology back to its ancient roots, describing it as a timeless tool for understanding our place in the world and the inner forces that shape us. Together, she and Jay break down the basics: birth charts, rising signs, the sun and the moon, and how each piece reveals something about our drive, our emotional needs, and the natural rhythms that shape our lives. The conversation deepens as Jay and Chani explore purpose, growth, and personal agency. Chani explains that astrology isn’t about predicting your future, it’s about noticing your patterns, understanding yourself, and making choices with more awareness. She shares her own stories about finding her calling, meeting her partner, and the ways astrology can reaffirm the truth people already sense within themselves. Together, they unpack common misconceptions about compatibility, Mercury retrograde, and so-called “bad signs,” offering a more compassionate, practical way to work with timing without giving up responsibility for your life. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Use Astrology to Find Your Purpose How to Work With Your Saturn Return How to Navigate Tough Life Cycles With Awareness How to Use Astrology to Choose the Right Moment How to Strengthen Self-Agency Through Astrology How to Release a Difficult Year and Reset Intentionally As you move forward, remember that life isn’t asking you to have everything figured out, it’s simply asking you to stay curious, stay honest, and stay connected to what feels true within you. The cycles you’re experiencing aren’t setbacks; they’re invitations to pause, reflect, and realign with the life you know you’re capable of living. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 What Exactly Is Astrology? 02:39 Understanding the Cycles We Live In 05:31 How Astrology Evolved Over Time 07:42 Discovering Your Life’s True Purpose 11:34 How to Read and Understand a Birth Chart 14:52 Why “Bad Astrology” Isn’t Real 19:04 What Does Your Sun, Moon, and Rising Actually Mean? 20:16 Living in Alignment With Your Chart 25:30 When Your Chart Shows the Areas You Struggle Most 27:34 Can Astrology Reveal Future Wealth? 29:12 Asking Yourself What You Truly Want 32:42 What’s the Difference Between Fate and Free Will? 36:06 What Astrology Shows About Your Relationships 38:41 Choosing the Best Timing for Big Decisions 47:13 Staying Grounded in What You Feel 52:46 If You’re Not Ready, Focus on Inner Work First 54:27 Noticing the People Who Changed Your Life for the Better 57:45 Inspiring Others Through Your Own Growth 01:03:52 What is Your Saturn Return? 01:10:51 Why You Don’t Need to Fear Your Saturn Return 01:14:19 Is Mercury Retrograde Actually That Bad? 01:18:58 Don’t Use Your Sign to Excuse Bad Behavior! 01:20:22 Are Certain Signs More Compatible? 01:23:14 Making “Incompatible” Charts Work Together 01:25:32 Who Are You as This Year Comes to a Close? 01:33:04 Chani on Final Five  Episode Resources: Chani Nicholas | Website Chani Nicholas | Instagram Chani Nicholas | Threads Chani Nicholas | YouTube Chani Nicholas | TikTok You Were Born for This: Astrology for Radical Self-AcceptanceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What time of day do you scroll the most? Have you tried setting limits on your screen time? Today, Jay dives into one of the defining questions of our digital age: is the algorithm shaping who we become, or are we the ones quietly teaching it how to shape us? He reveals how every click, pause, and late-night scroll acts as a subtle signal, tiny instructions that train the system, which then turns around and begins to train us. Before we even realize it, our insecurities become fuel, our curiosity becomes comparison, and outrage becomes entertainment. But Jay also reminds us that we’re not powerless, our agency hasn’t disappeared; it’s just buried beneath layers of habit. With calm, practical guidance, he shares how we can take our feed back into our own hands, break the doom-scroll cycle, and actually reprogram the digital environment influencing our minds. Whether it’s choosing who you follow more intentionally, setting healthy boundaries in the morning, sharing more consciously, or reconnecting with real-world anchors, Jay shows that we’re not just participants, we’re contributors to how the system works. And when we change how we show up, everything around us begins to shift as well. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Retrain Your Algorithm in Minutes How to Recognize When the Algorithm Is Steering You How to Build a Healthier, Calmer Feed How to Use Social Media Without Losing Yourself How to Strengthen Your Digital Self-Control You weren’t meant to be overwhelmed by noise or pulled into constant comparison. You were built to create a life rooted in values, peace, and purpose. So take a breath, make one mindful choice at a time, and let it guide the next. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:31 Even the Algorithm Has a Glitch 03:04 4 Subtle Ways the Algorithm Shapes You 07:59 How Your Clicks Create the Pattern 09:45 What a Social Network Looks Like Without All the Noise 13:08 Doom-Scrolling Can Give You Anxiety! 14:47 Solution #1: Bring Back Chronological Feeds 15:10 Solution #2: Take a Moment Before Hitting Share 16:06 Solution #3: Demand Algorithmic Transparency 16:29 Why Emotional Mastery and Critical Thinking Matter 19:11 5 Simple Ways to Reset Your For You PageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What idea have you been sitting on lately? What’s been holding you back from starting? Today, Jay sits down with engineer, innovator, and YouTube creator Mark Rober to explore the unexpected life experiences that shaped one of the internet’s most beloved minds. Mark shares the childhood moments that ignited his passion for building, breaking, and understanding how the world works, moments nurtured by a mother whose love, imagination, and encouragement helped lay the foundation for his life’s mission. He reflects on how her influence continues to ripple outward, inspiring millions of young people who learn, explore, and dream through his work today. Jay and Mark explore the mindset that carried Mark from NASA engineer to innovative educator, unpacking what it really means to “think like an engineer:” experiment boldly, embrace failure, and treat every setback as an opportunity to learn. They follow Mark’s unusual pivots, from designing Mars rover hardware to crafting Halloween costumes, to ultimately shaping a career that blends curiosity, storytelling, science, and play. Together they reveal the deeper lessons behind Mark’s most viral experiments: why creativity thrives when we stay childlike, how passion reveals itself through repetition, and why the most meaningful work grows from genuine excitement rather than algorithms or expectations. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Think Like an Engineer How to Stay Curious as an Adult How to Follow Your Passion Practically How to Build Ideas That Actually Work How to Find Creativity in Everyday Life How to Recognize Your Real Calling How to Inspire Others Through Your Work Keep following the questions that excite you, keep trying the things that scare you, and keep believing that you’re capable of far more than you realize. Your next breakthrough might be just one experiment, or one brave attempt away. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:16 Were You Always Creative? 04:02 Understanding the Real Impact of Your Life 06:55 What It Really Takes to Work at NASA 09:49 Learning to Think Like an Engineer 11:22 How Rovers Are Tested for Mars 12:20 Searching for Life Beyond Earth 13:24 Follow What You Truly Love Doing 16:11 If You Can Imagine It, You Can Build It 17:22 Practical Wisdom from a Lifelong Tinkerer 20:57 The Pivot from NASA to Apple 23:34 Turning Ideas into Actionable Success 24:45 What is the Engineering Design Process? 28:28 Why Embracing Failure Matters 29:57 Relearning Trust and Finding Love Again 34:56 The Power of Immersion Weekends 36:45 Making Learning Engaging Through Creativity 40:29 Why Mastery Is Worth Pursuing 41:40 Balancing Business with True Creativity 44:51 How Communication Shapes Great Storytelling 47:40 Two Common Mistakes Creators Make 52:30 Staying True to Your Creative Style 54:04 The Importance of Focusing on One Passion 56:44 The Hidden Failures Behind Viral Success 59:35 Giving Kids Room to Be Creative 01:04:30 Curiosity as the Root of Creativity 01:06:07 Inside a Real Creative Process 01:08:45 Where Do You Get Your Big Ideas? 01:11:46 The Mind-Bending Question of Life in the Universe 01:16:02 The Promise and Peril of Rapid AI Growth 01:19:56 Focusing on What You Can Truly Influence  01:24:57 Mark on Final Five Episode Resources: Mark Rober | X Mark Rober | Instagram Mark Rober | Facebook Mark Rober | LinkedIn Mark Rober | TikTok Mark Rober | YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What’s been making you doubt yourself lately? What do you think triggered that feeling? Today, Jay welcomes back his friend Roxie Nafousi to unpack what confidence actually looks and feels like, not the glossy, loud, performative version, but the quiet inner knowing that you are enough as you are. They start by breaking down how much of our insecurity comes from the stories we tell ourselves: the overthinking before we walk into a room, the mental replay after we walk out, and the way we let validation, or the lack of it, shape our worth. Roxie then opens up about something she’s never shared publicly: her long struggle with body dysmorphic disorder. She talks honestly about the thoughts that dominated her life, the fear of being seen, and the belief that changing her appearance would quiet the constant self-criticism. Jay meets her with compassion as they unpack how these patterns form, how they shape the way you move through the world, and how healing begins with learning to speak to yourself with empathy instead of judgment. Jay and Roxie offer a roadmap that anyone can follow: mastering your inner voice, letting go of the pressure to be liked by everyone, celebrating the small wins, and choosing to show up as the version of yourself your higher self would be proud of. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Redefine Confidence From the Inside Out How to Stop Seeking External Validation  How to Manage Comparison Before It Controls You How to Think Like Your Higher Self How to Break Free From People-Pleasing How to Handle Rejection Without Blaming Yourself How to Replace Self-Criticism With Self-Awareness When you start choosing compassion over judgment, intention over fear, and growth over perfection, you slowly reconnect with the part of yourself that’s always been there. The journey isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about finally seeing who you’ve been all along. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:21 Is External Validation Ever Healthy? 08:25 A 7-Step Path to Rebuilding Confidence 10:57 How Men and Women Show Confidence Differently 12:29 Mastering the Thoughts That Shape Your Reality 17:19 Self-Awareness vs. Self-Criticism 22:28 Meet the Best Version of You 26:26 Stop Trying to Be Liked by Everyone! 31:49 How Encouragement Boosts Performance 34:07 You Can’t Be Everyone’s Favorite and That’s Okay 38:42 People-Pleasing vs. Making People Happy 42:57 Practicing Radical Acceptance After Rejection 44:54 Your Mind Creates Stories That Aren’t True 47:16 Taking Responsibility Without Blaming Yourself 50:44 Why Feeling Worthy Now Matters Most 53:18 Healing the Roots of Deep Self-Loathing 01:06:27 Why Vulnerability Is a Form of Confidence 01:10:25 Your Mind Is More Powerful Than You Think 01:13:10 Are We Too Exposed to Our Own Reflection? 01:17:18 Managing BDD With Compassion and Awareness 01:22:04 The Importance of Celebrating Ourselves 01:24:09 What’s the Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance 01:27:45 How to Make Self-Celebration a Daily Habit 01:29:51 Catch People Doing Things Right Episode Resources: Roxie Nafousi | Website Roxie Nafousi | Instagram Roxie Nafousi | Facebook Roxie Nafousi | X Roxie Nafousi | LinkedIn Roxie Nafousi | TikTok Manifest: 7 Steps to Living Your Best LifeConfidence: Eight Steps to Knowing Your WorthSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, Jay talks about a side of gratitude we rarely acknowledge, the kind that isn’t shiny or uplifting, but the kind that helps when life feels heavy, complicated, or far from what you expected. He explains how, for years, he treated gratitude like something meant to fix pain or override his feelings, and how that mindset only added pressure instead of bringing any real peace. Jay talks about what real gratitude actually feels like,  not the kind that tries to cancel out your struggles, but the kind that can sit beside them. He shares how acknowledging both things at once, what hurts and what’s still good, builds real resilience. Jay breaks down why phrases like “at least…” shut your feelings down, while using “even though…” or “and…” keeps you present with your emotions instead of pushing them away. Jay also shares the small, practical habits that help him reconnect with gratitude when it feels far away: paying attention to what stayed instead of what disappeared, taking 10-second pauses to notice something good in the moment, borrowing someone else’s joy when you can’t access your own, and writing a thank-you note to the version of you who got through the harder seasons. Jay reminds us that gratitude isn’t supposed to hide what’s hard, it’s meant to help you steady yourself. It’s the quiet admission: “Life is messy, and there’s still something I can hold onto.” In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to Stop Using Gratitude to Mask Your Feelings How to Hold Pain and Gratitude Together How to Notice What Stayed, Not What Left How to Use 10-Second Pauses to Reset How to Borrow Gratitude When You Can’t Feel It How to Thank the You Who Survived  You’re not doing gratitude wrong, you’re just learning to do it honestly. Keep showing up with awareness, gentleness, and patience. You’re not rebuilding from zero, you’re rebuilding from experience. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:00 How to Practice Gratitude  02:39 Gratitude Without Hiding Your Emotions 06:46 Don’t Use Gratitude As Your Escape  09:17 Focus On What You Still Have 11:11 Finding Gratitude in the Gaps 14:43 Gratitude Reset: Take A 10 Second Pause 18:26 The Art Of Borrowing Gratitude 21:15 Stay Thankful To Your Past SelfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Reaching 5 million subscribers is more than a milestone, it’s a testament to the shared journey of growth, healing, and curiosity this community has built together. In this special episode, Jay revisits the conversations that shaped On Purpose, moments where global icons, artists, world leaders, and visionaries shared the truths that made them human. Jay reflects on the life-changing conversations that continue to echo long after the recording ends. Tom Holland opens up about the quiet struggle behind giving up alcohol, teaching us that letting go of what no longer serves us is an act of bravery not loss. Kobe shares how to look past fear by facing it with stillness and curiosity, revealing that discipline and consistency are the real foundations of excellence. Emma Watson invites us to build relationships from wholeness, not need, and reminds us that asking the hard questions can lead to the most liberating truths. Madonna shows how spirituality can be the grounding force beneath ambition, while Benny Blanco and Selena Gomez model how relationships grow when honesty becomes a shared practice. Former President Joe Biden closes with a timeless lesson, that presence is often the greatest form of love, and that resilience is born through community. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Break Free From Addictive Habits How to Build Discipline Through Consistency How to Face Fear by Unpacking It How to Ask the Hard Questions That Can Change Your Life How to Ground Yourself With Spiritual Practices How to Communicate Maturely in Relationships How to Support Someone Through Grief How to Replace Old Patterns With Healthier Alternatives You are allowed to evolve, to outgrow old versions of yourself, and to step into a life that feels more aligned, more peaceful, and more true. Keep leaning toward the choices that bring you closer to who you want to be. Your next chapter is already waiting, and you are more than ready for it.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:31 The Challenges of Sobriety  06:49 Practical Steps to Stay Committed to Sobriety 11:23 How Alcohol Quietly Impacts Your Well-Being 16:59 How to Stop Letting Emotions Run Your Life 19:26 Growth Requires Trial and Error 21:03 Why Greatness Is Never an Accident 23:28 Understanding the Difference Between Wanting and Needing 26:32 The Power of Asking Yourself Hard Questions 30:08 Why Lifelong Learning Keeps You Grounded 37:29 How Spirituality and Success Work Together 41:45 Setting Healthy Boundaries in Relationships 44:09 Using Past Relationships to Build a Better You 48:03 How to Show Your Partner You’re Truly Present 53:37 Practicing Compassion in Every Day  54:37 Finding Strength Through Loss and Grief 56:41 How to Be Fully Present in Your Child’s LifeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What do you need from a partner that you haven’t been getting? How can someone show up for you in a way that meets that need? Today, Jay sits down with renowned divorce attorney and author James Sexton for a conversation that redefines what it means to love and be loved. With over twenty-five years spent guiding couples through heartbreak and separation, James has witnessed both the beauty and the brutality of human connection. Together, he and Jay explore the paradox of marriage: how something that begins with so much hope can unravel through silence, misunderstanding, and unmet needs. James shares that the greatest threat to relationships isn’t cheating or money, it’s disconnection: the slow fading of curiosity, gratitude, and presence that turns partners into strangers. Jay and James invite listeners to look past the fairytale version of romance and into the real work of partnership. They talk about how we’re taught to plan weddings rather than marriages, and why the most meaningful moments come from small, steady acts of care, not grand romantic gestures. Whether it’s remembering to replace a partner’s favorite granola or reaching for their hand without being asked, James shows that a strong marriage isn’t about avoiding conflict, but about staying close even in the uncomfortable moments. He reminds us that love isn't for the faint of heart. It’s an act of courage, one that asks for honesty, vulnerability, and the discipline to keep showing up, especially when it’s hardest. The conversation becomes less about divorce and more about what love is really made of. Jay and James uncover how relationships can serve as mirrors, revealing our insecurities, our longing to be seen, and our deepest fears of unworthiness. They remind us that to truly love another person, we must also learn to love ourselves, flaws, imperfections, and all. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stay Connected in Love How to Keep the Spark Alive in Marriage How to Recognize When Disconnection Begins How to Argue Without Breaking the Bond How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal How to Talk About Difficult Topics with Compassion How to Choose Courage Over Comfort in Relationships Whether you’re married, single, healing, or starting over, this episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, offering timeless wisdom on how to nurture connection, protect what matters, and find courage in the vulnerability that love demands.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:29 The Real Reasons Marriages Fall Apart 02:39 Why Do We Still Get Married? 04:40 The Truth About the Wedding Industry 08:54 What Divorce Really Looks Like 13:16 The Hard Conversations Bring You Closer 15:44 What is the True Cause of Divorce? 22:48 The Power of Small Gestures in Love 28:52 Simple Ways to Appreciate Your Partner 32:09 How We Repeat Our Parents’ Patterns 38:41 Navigating Love After Having a Child 42:55 How to Reconnect with What Brought You Together 46:17 Why Does Asking For Love Feel Needy? 50:10 Designing the Ideal Contract for Modern Love 57:55 Understanding the Connection Between Desire and Disconnection 01:01:13 Commitment vs. Passion 01:07:07 How to Begin the Conversations You’ve Been Avoiding 01:11:47 The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Love 01:16:05 Should You Get a Prenup? 01:22:26 How to Bring Up The Prenup 01:29:45 Talk Through Your Anger, Don’t Act On It  01:31:18 Using Love As a Weapon 01:36:17 Should You Fight for It or Let Go? 01:42:59 How Parental Conflict Affects Children 01:48:59 Be the Calm Your Child Needs 01:59:09 The Real Problems Marriage Can’t Solve 02:02:52 Who Files For Divorce More: Men or Women? 02:07:46 How Divorce Impacts Men and Women Differently 02:13:39 James on Final Five Episode Resources: James Sexton | Website James Sexton | Instagram James Sexton | TikTok James Sexton | LinkedIn James Sexton | X How to Stay in Love: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying TogetherSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this fun and unfiltered episode, Jay and Radhi dive into the world of “icks,” those oddly specific little turn-offs that make us cringe for reasons we can’t quite explain. From baby voices and socks with sandals to the blurry line between confidence and cockiness, they laugh their way through the most random dating deal-breakers and what they secretly reveal about us. Amid the jokes, they slip in a few truth bombs too, like how we sometimes use icks to avoid real vulnerability. It’s light, hilarious, and uncomfortably relatable, because honestly, we’ve all had an ick… and we’ve definitely been someone else’s. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Tell the Difference Between an Ick and a Red Flag How to Communicate Honestly About What Bothers You How to Recognize When You’re Using an Ick as an Excuse How to Appreciate Imperfections in the People You Love It’s easy to get caught up in small things that bother us, but true connection isn’t built on perfection, it’s built on patience, humor, and understanding. Everyone has quirks, and sometimes those quirks are what make relationships real. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:19 What is an Ick? 03:07 The Funniest Icks 05:21 How Seriously Should People Take Icks? 09:39 Can You Get Over an Ick? 12:55 Personal Hygiene is Important 14:26 Arrogance Versus Confidence 15:40 Childishness and Immaturity  17:25 Is It Just Poor Communication? 21:43 Top 5 Icks Men have About Women 23:38 The Guy with a List (@wyszkay) Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What’s one thing you wish you learned earlier in life? What do you think would’ve changed for you if you learned it sooner? Today, Jay reflects on the lessons he wishes he’d learned in his twenties and thirties, wisdom shaped by mistakes, growth, and years of inner work. He opens up about how easy it is to get swept up in chasing outcomes or living for other people’s expectations, and how those patterns can quietly pull us away from our true path. Jay also explains why success and happiness are completely different skill sets, and how understanding that early on can save you years of unnecessary frustration. Jay also talks honestly about what healing really feels like, the side no one prepares you for. He explains that growth doesn’t always look inspiring; sometimes it shows up as exhaustion, confusion, or feeling like everything is falling apart. But that discomfort is often just old patterns breaking down so new ones can take shape. Through empathy, personal stories, and practical insights, Jay walks us through the “decade of firsts,” from first jobs to first heartbreaks, and reminds us that feeling lost isn’t failure. It’s a natural part of becoming someone stronger, clearer, and more aligned with who you’re meant to be. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Hear Your Inner Voice Again How to Define Success on Your Own Terms How to Build Confidence Through Self-Trust How to Turn Rejection Into Insight How to Break Free From Others’ Expectations How to Heal Even When It Feels Messy You’re not behind, you’re growing at the pace your life is asking you to grow. Keep showing up with curiosity, patience, and compassion for yourself. You’re building something meaningful, even on the days it doesn’t feel like it. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:42 #1: Results Are Overrated 04:54 #2: Tune Out The Noise 07:44 #3: Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness 10:30 #4: Confidence Comes From Self-Trust 12:47 Four Habits That Will Transform Your Life 14:10 #5: Rejection Isn’t Personal 17:20 How to Handle Rejection Better 22:32 Four Signs You’re Healing 24:51 Confusion in Your 20s Isn’t Failure 25:29 How to Protect Your Peace 26:07 #6: Anchor to Values, Not ValidationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What’s one habit that’s helped you succeed lately? What made you decide to stick with that habit? In this special live conversation, at The Theater at Bill Graham Civic Auditorium in San Francisco, Jay sits down with entrepreneur and industry leader Emma Grede for a conversation every builder, creator, and business-minded thinker needs to hear. Together, Jay and Emma unpack a challenge that holds so many talented people back, caring too much about what others think. Emma shares the early moments in her career when she stayed quiet in rooms where she deserved to speak, the times she underestimated her own value, and the double standards she had to navigate as a woman in business. This episode is a powerful reminder that confidence isn’t something you wait to feel, it’s something you build through action, decision-making, and showing up for the opportunities in front of you. As the conversation deepens, Emma shares the mindsets that shaped her path, from a kid obsessed with fashion magazines to a visionary leader with a global reach. She breaks down why excellence starts with showing up fully in whatever role you’re in, how competence is the foundation of real confidence, and why chasing “passion” isn’t always the most strategic move. Jay adds powerful reflections on focus, leaning into your strengths, and accepting that you don’t need to be great at everything to succeed. This is an honest and refreshing look at what it really takes to trust yourself, take bigger swings, and grow into the person you’re meant to be. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Caring What Others Think How to Build Confidence Through Competence How to Use Fear as Fuel, Not a Setback How to Become Excellent at What You’re Doing Now How to Set Your Own Standards, Not Society’s How to Start Before You Have It All Figured Out You don’t have to wait until you feel fully ready, fully confident, or fully “enough.” Start where you are, use what you have, and trust that focus, effort, and self-belief will do more for your future than fear ever will.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:44 Why Do We Worry About Others’ Opinions? 02:12 Opportunities Lost to Comparison 04:09 The Double Standards for Women in Business 07:19 Why You Must Start With Yourself 09:57 The Three-Word Mantra for Career Growth 11:58 Visualize the Life You Want 14:27 Follow What Gives You Energy 16:47 How Competence Builds Real Confidence 18:23 What’s Actually Distracting Us From True Focus? 20:52 Build a Circle That Complements Your Strengths 24:46 Teaching Kids to Chase Their Own Dreams 28:38 Defining Your Life’s Non-Negotiables 32:25 How to Choose What Truly Matters 37:46 Owning Your Truth Creates New Opportunities 40:59 Start Small: Scale Down and Test Your Idea Episode Resources: Emma Grede | Website Emma Grede | Instagram Emma Grede | Facebook Emma Grede | LinkedIn Emma Grede | TikTok Emma Grede | YouTube Good AmericanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today, Jay sits down with Kris Jenner for a raw and candid conversation about her roots, family, and the incredible lessons she’s learned. Kris was raised by her mother and grandmother, two driven and hardworking women who modeled independence, discipline, and purpose. She shares how those early lessons in responsibility and perseverance laid the foundation for the life she would later build, both as a businesswoman and as the matriarch of a global family brand. Throughout their conversation, Kris speaks about her devotion to family, her faith, and her unshakable sense of gratitude. She reflects on the importance of being present in a fast-paced world that often glorifies busyness and distraction. Jay and Kris explore what it means to slow down and truly feel present in each moment, to look beyond the screens, the schedules, and the noise, and to rediscover joy in the simple things. Kris opens up about motherhood and the unique bond she shares with each of her six children, how she worked intentionally to raise them with structure, compassion, and drive while fostering unity instead of competition. She talks about her daily prayers for guidance and peace, finding meaning even in moments of hardship, and choosing to lead with love, even when met with misunderstanding or pain. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Lead with Gratitude Every Day How to Raise Ambitious but Grounded Kids How to Slow Down and Be Fully Present How to Build a Family Rooted in Love, Not Competition How to Balance Success with Inner Peace How to Protect Your Peace in a Noisy World Life has a way of reminding us that true success isn’t measured by status or possessions, it’s found in the quiet moments of gratitude, in the love we give, and in the peace we choose to protect. Each challenge we face holds a lesson, each chapter an invitation to grow with grace and faith.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:15 Welcome Kris Jenner 02:38 Growing Up with Strong Women 08:49 Doing Your Best in Every Role 11:24 Family Traditions and Christmas Joy 12:51 Lessons from Humble Beginnings 16:24 The Power of Slowing Down 20:42 The Trap of Instant Gratification 24:19 Embracing Life at 70 26:47 Raising Passionate, Independent Children 32:37 Timeless Parenting Lessons 35:10 Learn to Forgive Those Who Hurt You 40:25 Mental Health Has Become a Silent Pandemic 44:38 Are You a Disney Fan? 45:36 How Do You Forgive Someone Who Hurt You? 50:44 Finding Peace Through Prayer 53:01 Finding Growth in Every Challenge 54:28 The “Rule of 12” for Letting Go 58:48 Protecting Your Inner Peace  01:00:35 Respecting Time and Commitment 01:01:48 Showing Up Fully as a Parent 01:04:52 Starting Over After Motherhood 01:07:41 Making Sure No One’s Left Behind 01:08:16 What Motherhood Has Taught Me 01:13:42 Healing from Miscarriage and Loss 01:15:41 Compassion for Those Facing Infertility 01:17:43 Leading with Love and Kindness 01:19:26 Choosing Where to Invest Your Energy 01:20:27 Seeing Yourself Through Others’ Eyes 01:22:16 Kris on Final Five Episode Resources: Kris Jenner | TikTok Kris Jenner | Instagram Kris Jenner | Facebook Kris Jenner | XSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today, Jay and Radhi explore the delicate balance between sharing and oversharing, both online and in everyday life. They talk about what it really means to be authentic, how to protect your energy when opening up, and why not every moment needs to be shared to be meaningful. Together, they reflect on the intention behind vulnerability and the peace that comes from keeping certain parts of life sacred. How much do we share to feel seen? And when does sharing start to take more than it gives? This conversation invites us to slow down, listen to ourselves, and choose connection over performance. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Protect Your Energy When Sharing How to Be Vulnerable with Intention How to Keep Private Goals Sacred How to Find the Right People to Confide In How to Balance Openness with Privacy True connection begins when we honor what feels right to keep close and what feels right to release. Whether through words, art, or quiet reflection, choose to share from a place of peace, not pressure. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 Are You Sharing Too Much? 04:07 The Real Reason Behind Your Vulnerability 09:21 Create in Private Before You Share Publicly 13:45 Oversharing Looks Different on Every Platform 16:01 Be Intentional About What You Share and With Whom 18:24 Does Holding Back Make You Feel Alone? 23:52 Why We Make Big Judgments from Small Details 26:51 When Sharing Becomes Healing, Not Draining 32:06 Choosing Who Deserves to Hear Your Story Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What truth about the relationship have you been ignoring? What makes that truth hard for you to accept? Today, Jay opens up about one of the hardest things we go through, trying to get over someone we once loved. He reminds us that healing isn’t about pretending we’re okay or trying to move on too quickly. It’s about realizing that what we often miss isn’t the person themselves, but how we felt when we were with them: seen, loved, and alive. Jay gently walks us through why breakups hurt so deeply, how our minds are built for connection, and why finding closure really starts with reconnecting to ourselves. Jay also shares how to stop replaying the past and start finding your rhythm again. He reminds us that healing isn’t about erasing the love, it’s about learning from it. You don’t need to have it all figured out today, you just need to take one small step back toward yourself. Because the real journey after a breakup isn’t about getting over someone else, it’s about remembering who you were before them, and discovering who you’re becoming next. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Romanticizing the Past How to Let Go When You Still Miss Them How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakup How to Move On Without Losing Yourself How to Remember You Were Enough All Along You are not broken for still feeling; you are human for still caring. One day, the memories that hurt will simply remind you of how far you’ve come. Keep showing up for yourself, because the love you’re searching for begins with you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast   What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:53 The Heartbreak After the Breakup 01:24 What to Do When You Can't Get Over Your Ex 05:07 Why Do Breakups Hurt So Bad? 07:52 The Stories You Replay Are Keeping You Stuck 08:39 Myth #1: Time Doesn’t Heal Everything 10:16 Myth #2: Why Closure Isn’t the Answer 13:12 Myth #3: Moving On Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care 15:12 Myth #4: Why Getting Back Together Won’t Fix It 17:26 Step #1: The First Step to Real Healing 19:12 Step #2: It’s Okay Not to Be Okay! 20:05 Step #3: Rebuild the Rituals That Ground You 21:14 Step #4: Ask Better Questions to Help You Grow 22:37 Step #5: Turn Your Pain Into Purpose 24:02 What to Do When You Fall BackSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you been feeling anxious lately? Do you notice when your mind starts to spiral? Jay welcomes back his good friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabrielle Bernstein for a deep and inspiring conversation about true inner healing. Together, they unpack Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, which reimagines Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) as a practice anyone can bring into their daily life. Gabby shares how the parts of us we often judge, the anxious part, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the one who needs control, aren’t our enemies. They’re parts that have been trying to protect us, even if they sometimes get in the way. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Gabby unpack why so many of us get caught in cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and emotional disconnection. Gabby shares her simple four-step “check-in” practice, a way to pause, look inward, and start building a kinder relationship with ourselves. Through this process, she explains, we can start to recognize our patterns, meet them with compassion and find peace even in the midst of life’s noise. Together, they unpack powerful questions we can all relate to: Why is it easier to comfort others than ourselves? Could our inner critic actually be trying to protect us? And how can we set boundaries without losing our empathy or warmth? In this interview, you'll learn: How to Befriend Every Part of Yourself How to Recognize Your Inner Protectors How to Heal Through Compassion, Not Control How to Calm Your Inner Critic How to Create Boundaries Without Guilt How to Self-Soothe When You Feel Triggered Healing doesn’t mean fixing what’s broken, it means learning to see every part of yourself with compassion and curiosity. The parts of you that once felt heavy or hard to love are often the same ones that carried you through the toughest moments.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:29 What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy? 06:00 Healing Deep Trauma Through IFS 08:38 Where Real Healing From Trauma Begins 10:17 Blending Therapy with Spiritual Connection 13:38 Strengthen Your Own Spiritual Foundation 16:57 The Four-Step Self Check-In Practice 20:32 The Journey Toward Feeling Truly Great 25:39 Finding Peace Without External Validation 26:46 We All Have An Inner Spiritual Power 31:00 Seeing Self-Judgment as a Form of Protection 33:40 Stop Being So Hard on Yourself 36:24 Connecting with the Parts That Protect You 41:45 Why Facing Yourself Feels So Hard 47:33 Healing Starts When You Do the Work 49:54 The Power of Forgiving Yourself  55:57 Every Part of You Serves a Purpose 57:46 What Changes When You Befriend Your Inner Parts 59:00 The Truth About High Performers and Inner Peace 01:01:45 How to Set Boundaries with Love and Clarity 01:08:47 Gabby on Final Five  Episode Resources: Gabrielle Bernstein | Website Gabrielle Bernstein | TikTok Gabrielle Bernstein | Instagram Gabrielle Bernstein | Facebook Gabrielle Bernstein | YouTube Dear Gabby Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life Gabby's 21-day Manifesting ChallengeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Do you believe the universe sends us signs? Have you ever noticed a pattern that felt meaningful? Today, Jay welcomes back psychic medium and bestselling author Laura Lynne Jackson for another heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about what it really means to live a guided life. Laura introduces the idea of a “team of light,” a loving energy made up of God, spirit guides, and loved ones who’ve passed on, all working together behind the scenes to help us find clarity and purpose. Laura reminds us that those small signs and coincidences we tend to overlook are actually gentle messages of love, nudging us toward peace, meaning, and connection. Together, Jay and Laura explore how to tell the difference between the loud voice of fear and the quiet, steady voice of intuition. They talk about how fear can sometimes sound logical, how doubt sneaks in when we’re trying to trust ourselves, and why tuning in to that deeper inner knowing can transform the way we move through life. Jay opens up about moments when he’s felt guided and protected, sharing powerful examples of how trusting what we can’t always see can lead to the most meaningful outcomes. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition How to Trust the Guidance You Receive How to Quiet the Monkey Mind How to Strengthen Your Spiritual Connection Every Day How to Turn Coincidences into Clarity How to Use Intuition to Make Better Decisions Life often speaks in whispers before we’re ready to listen. The signs, the coincidences, those gentle nudges, they’re all reminders that we’re never really walking alone. When we slow down, take a breath, and learn to trust that quiet pull within, the path ahead starts to reveal itself with more ease, clarity, and purpose. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:23 Trust the Signs That Guide You 03:24 Meet Your Team of Light 06:15 The Energy You Bring into the World 10:47 How to Open Up to Guidance 15:13 When You Feel Lost, Ask to Be Led 22:36 Telling the Difference Between Thoughts and Intuition 25:41 Learning to Trust Your Inner Voice 28:09 Calming the Noise of Negative Thoughts 35:16 Finding Your State of Connection 39:44 Receiving Sudden Downloads of Insight 45:19 Signs Are Not Answers, They’re Reassurance 51:04 You’re Only in Competition with Yourself 59:23 How Connection Helps Us Heal from Grief 01:03:08 Why Self-Belief Matters More Than Validation 01:05:24 Understanding the Language of Signs vs. Living Guided 01:08:15 The Power of Simple Acts of Kindness 01:15:51 Why Guidance Doesn’t Always Arrive Right Away 01:18:28 Creating Space to Reflect and Realign Episode Resources: Laura Lynne Jackson | Website Laura Lynne Jackson | TikTok Laura Lynne Jackson | Instagram Laura Lynne Jackson | Facebook Guided: The Secret Path to an Illuminated Life (The Path of Light Series)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today, Jay and Radhi explore why it feels like so many men are losing touch with real friendships, and the quiet epidemic of loneliness that often goes unnoticed. Jay shares surprising research showing that more men than ever report having few or no close friends and opens up about his own journey of maintaining meaningful male friendships across continents. Together, he and Radhi explore how cultural conditioning and social expectations have shaped the way men connect, often through shared activities rather than emotional honesty, and why vulnerability can still feel risky for so many. Through humor and genuine reflection, Jay and Radhi invite us to rethink what friendship really means, how we can create spaces of emotional safety, and build communities that feel like home. Jay reminds us that friendship isn’t innate; it’s something we grow into through practice, vulnerability, and care. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Real Male Friendships How to Be Vulnerable Without Fear How to Recognize When You’re Lonely How to Find Friends Who Match Your Energy How to Open Up Emotionally in Conversations Friendships don’t just happen; they grow through intention and care. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, take one step today, send that message, plan that coffee, open up a little more than usual. The courage to reach out might be exactly what someone else has been waiting for too. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:52 Why Do So Many Men Feel Lonely? 03:41 The Power of Male Vulnerability 06:58 Rethinking the Alpha Male Mindset 12:06 There’s No Growth Without Vulnerability 16:06 Men Need Friendship Dates Too! 21:35 Do You Truly Feel Seen? 25:33 How Loneliness Impacts Your Health 28:22 Why Women Often Build Stronger Social Circles 31:35 Learning How to Be a Better Friend Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What’s one small step you can take right now to break the cycle you’re stuck in?   Today, Jay shares a simple, science-backed method to help you overcome laziness, distraction, and burnout by focusing on consistency instead of motivation. Rather than waiting for the perfect moment or a burst of inspiration, Jay explains how lowering the bar, creating rituals, and going on a dopamine detox can help you rebuild discipline and self-trust, one small action at a time.   It’s not about working harder or chasing perfection, but about starting smaller and showing up consistently. Jay explains how to protect your focus, rewire your reward system, and break the patterns that keep you stuck. Over time, these tiny shifts compound into real transformation, helping you feel more grounded, confident, and in control.   In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to Start When You Feel Stuck How to Build Rituals That Replace Willpower How to Break Free from the Dopamine Addiction Cycle How to Embrace Boredom and Reclaim Focus How to End Each Day with Progress, Not Pressure   Change doesn’t come from motivation. It comes from momentum. When you choose to start small, stay consistent, and keep your promises to yourself, discipline becomes second nature.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty.    Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast     What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 0:57 Lower Your Expectations  05:36 Build A Ritual, Not A Routine 07:42 24 Hour Dopamine Detox  10:58 Make Bad Habits Hard To Do 13:13 Be Bored For 10 Minutes A Day 15:10 Reward Effort, Not Results 17:24 Turn Your Phone Off For 60 Minutes  18:14 You Can Do Anything for 5 Minutes! 21:15 End Your Day With the 3 Minute ReviewSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do you know if someone’s really right for you?   Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?   Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.   Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.   In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Confidence Through Body Language How to Date Without Burning Out How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love   Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty.   Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast    What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing 09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes 13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle  16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love 21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships 22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life 24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People?  26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner 27:49 Are Your Standards Too High? 29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost? 30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want 32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s FutureSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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MeBeforeMe

I cried at the end.....this episode was the thing that i should listen.. thanks

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Atefe Ashianie

this episode made sit down and take notes

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Saman Tarhani

I write what you say and think about them , it is richer than a book. Thank you

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very nice ❤️❤️

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Yalda Nezami

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Anna Ariel

Great episode! Thanks a million

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✔️♥️

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Sely mehdipour

can't believe ive been listening to you for so long and this week just noticed there is no comment here thats weird..its such valuable conversations you're providing for free!!!!

Oct 26th
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Reyhan H.K.

Hey Jay, please stop repeating the beginning of a sentence 6 times! exp: the more you think of waking up, the more you're gonna do it, the more you think of waking up, the more you'll invest in yourself, the more you think of waking up, the more you'll feel good...etc..(yeah, just invented this but it as absurd as this)Your audience isn't stupid and you're not a mentalist. Despite creating anxiety, it does nothing else.

Oct 22nd
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Reyhan H.K.

Minutes 5 already gave me anxiety. Who told podcasters is a good idea to repeat the beginning of a sentence 6 times...!!?

Oct 22nd
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Blackdo Sjp

Good morning my beautiful friends so grateful enjoy your weekend

Oct 18th
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Miriam Tekena

Thank you 💕

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Vinícius Santana

funny story it's my first time listening to you guys. happy to be such a good start!

Oct 3rd
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Victoria

Let jay talk too 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Victoria

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Afshin Rashidimehr

Happy birthday

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Kimia

Appreciate your pragmatic and outstanding content,but ads are too long 😵‍💫

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woah, that was great✨ Thank you so muchhh.

Aug 18th
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It’s really frustrating A lot of commercials and advertisements!! Just back to back, ENOUGH That’s not ok

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Sam Smiles

this absolutely brilliant I really needed this

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