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Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

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Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley talk with the founder of Heart of Dating, Kait Tomlin, with her husband JJ about our mindsets when we're dating before marriage, versus the reality of what we each bring into our married life. They emphasize the importance of being open to changes and the significance of individual growth and self-examination to maintain a healthy marriage. Our hurts, our issues, our expectations, all of it! We'll also give you a Valentine's Day activity, and we answer a question from a wife who knows that her relationship is stuck in the reactive cycle. The conversation provides practical advice on managing relationship conflicts and stresses the value of a teachable spirit and open heart in fostering marital growth.   The Language of Sex   Check Out The Reactive Cycle Assessment Tool   Article: Flirt Your Way To A Better Marriage   Article: Maximize The Mundane   Check Out the Marriage Assessment Tool   Hope Restored Marriage Intensive   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   Suicide Prevention Hotline   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Forgiveness in Marriage

Forgiveness in Marriage

2026-02-0201:04:141

Get ready for a GREAT conversation with Micah E. Davis, author of the book Three Strikes, You're Forgiven! He delves into the profound concept of forgiveness, emphasizing it as a deliberate decision rather than merely a feeling. Greg and Erin share strategies for beginning the forgiveness process, as well as God's grace in the journey as they share the story of someone close to their family that they had to forgive, too.   Three Strikes, You're Forgiven   Forgiveness In The Family Article   Hope Restored   Take Our Free Marriage Assessment Tool   Article: Dealing With Your Child's Divorce   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   Suicide Prevention Hotline   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley address listener-submitted questions about various marital issues. They emphasize the importance of connection over pressure, advise on navigating financial transparency in relationships, and discuss handling mismatched sexual desires. They also provide guidance on dealing with snoring issues, setting boundaries, and striving for better marital satisfaction. We're advocating for open communication, self-awareness, and seeking professional help when needed to strengthen the marriage bond.   Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Book   New Hope Restored Focus On The Family Marriage Center in Cave Creek, AZ!   Check Out The Marriage Assessment Tool   Check Out The Reactive Cycle Assessment Tool   Healing Separation Information   Resources About Sex   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   Suicide Prevention Hotline   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of placing more faith in God rather than your spouse with Dr. Gary Thomas. They address various marital challenges, including the impact of adversities, providing both spiritual guidance and practical advice, and they offer recommendations for self-care and self-compassion. Dr. Thomas emphasizes the significance of drawing strength from God and uses personal anecdotes to illustrate how adversity can strengthen marriages. Greg and Erin also tackle listener questions, offering insights on handling emotional abuse and the potential for a healing separation. The episode concludes with critical components in sustaining healthy relationships.     The Life You Were Reborn To Live   Call Our Counseling Line at 1800-A FAMILY   New Hope Restored Focus On The Family Marriage Center in Cave Creek, AZ!   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   Suicide Prevention Hotline   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Coaching Your Marriage

Coaching Your Marriage

2026-01-1245:59

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan & Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also will share some practical exercises for couples to evaluate their relationship, appreciate each other, and plan for the future. Plus we answer a listener question what to do when your spouse walks away from their faith.   Learn More About Marriage Champions   Take Our FREE Marriage Assessment   Take the Free Reactive Cycle Assessement   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   Suicide Prevention Hotline   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.   The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself   Take Our FREE Marriage Assessment   Take the Free Reactive Cycle Assessement   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   Suicide Prevention Hotline   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment to changing life circumstances, and maintaining fun and friendship throughout marriage. We also have a tool to help you set boundaries in your marriage, and we answer a listener question about how to encourage a husband to lead his family.   Newlywed Couple's Devotional   12 Pieces of Advice I'd Tell Newlywed Me   5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean & Why They're Still Important   Contact the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
MERRY CHRISTMAS from everyone at Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage! This episode features a special presentation by Liz Curtis Higgs, who shares faith-filled stories of Zechariah, Elizabeth, Mary, and the miraculous births in the Bible, emphasizing that nothing is impossible for God! Greg and Erin encourage you to look for the love languages of your friends and family at Christmas, and we answer an email from a listener who wonders if she and her husband are managing conflict correctly because they DON'T fight; which leads to a conversation encouraging couples to communicate effectively and grow spiritually together.   The Women of Christmas   New Year, New Purpose In Your Marriage article   Mastering Your Spouse's Love Language article   Call our Counseling Line at 1-800-A-FAMILY   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
We're continuing our conversation with Dr. Juli Slattery on how God designed sex and sexuality. We're going to discuss the detrimental effects of pornography on both individuals and marriages, as well as highlight the importance of addressing sexual issues through a Christ-centered identity and real, accountable recovery programs. Have you ever thought about how Christians need to differentiate discussions about sexual ethics based on people's beliefs about God and creation? If you're wanting healthier intimacy in marriage and a deeper spiritual relationship; if you're confused about your sexual identity, or know someone who is, listen to this episode and let us know your thoughts.   Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything   Help For A Pornography Addiction   Gen Z's Marriage Misunderstanding Article   Biblical View on Transgender Identity: A Primer - Focus on the Family   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
How do you have sex? What does it really symbolize in your marriage? Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley delve into a deeper conversation that contrasts 'how' with 'why' with Dr. Juli Slattery. Understanding the purpose and significance of sex from a Christian perspective is crucial. We talk about the covenantal significance of sex in marriage, reflecting God's covenant with his people, and how couples can better communicate about their sexual relationship. The conversation underscores the spiritual and relational importance of sex, various forms of sexual sin, and steps towards healing and forgiveness.   Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything   Sexual Trauma and Its Effect On Marriage   Helping Your Sexually Abused Husband   Learn About Hope Restored Marriage Intensives   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Conversation Starters   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley delve into the critical issue of supporting friends in abusive or oppressive marriages with Darby Strickland, an expert counselor and author. Darby explains an insightful definition of abuse as 'oppression,' framing it as the antithesis of God's design for marriage. The discussion addresses the common mistakes helpers make, identifies the patterns of abuse, and offers practical advice for those who may be abusing subconsciously.   Is It Abuse?   Article: What You Need To Know About Domestic Violence and Abuse   Domestic Abuse Hotline 800-799-7233 - Text BEGIN to 88788   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley continue with the great conversation they had with Dr. Randy Schroeder about simple habits couples can adopt to strengthen their marriage. Starting with the critical role of forgiveness in healing and sustaining relationships, with specific language that you can use. We also touch on managing conflict, expressing kindness, and the value of having specific disagreement guidelines. If your marriage needs help, pick up Dr. Shroeder's book, and call our counseling line. We'd love to help you.   Simple Habits for Marital Happiness   Take the Free Marriage Assessment   Take The Free Reactive Cycle Assessment   Conversation Starters   Send us your email or voice mail here!   Send Us A Review!   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Want some practical habits for happiness in your marriage? Enter, Dr. Randy Schroeder, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over three decades of counseling experience. Dr. Schrader's key topics include the importance of meeting each other's expectations, the power of small daily habits like meaningful hugs and eye-contact with conversations. As always, we emphasize the need for continuous learning and growth in marriage, offering concrete advice for couples feeling disconnected or considering separation. This is the perfect episode to forward to a friend who may be having marriage issues!   Simple Habits for Marital Happiness   Donate to help support the ministry of Focus On The Family   Take the Free Marriage Assessment   Take the Free Reactive Cycle Assessment   Send Us A Review!   Conversation Starters For Couples   Support the show!   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of maintaining relational skills in marriage with Roger and Kathy Lipp, who discuss their blended family and their adventures in team-building. We delve into the importance of carving out couple time, how chronic illness can reshape a marriage, and the importance of gratitude and flexibility.   Happy Habits for Every Couple   How to Fight Busyness in Marriage   Sign Up For Our Weekly E-Newsletter And Be a Marriage Champion   20 Dates For Less Than $20   Support the show!   Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Do you think repairing your marriage is hopeless? On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Greg and Erin feature a presentation by Bob and Jenni Paul, who explain that underneath all marital conflicts is a common cycle of reactive behavior triggered by deeper, often unrecognized wounds or buttons. Our goal is to bring awareness to these patterns so that couples are able to respond with understanding, and improve their relationships by addressing their core desires and fears. Sound complicated? It really isn't! You'll learn a lot from this episode. We also answer a listener Q & A about gambling.   9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage   Support the show!   Sign Up For Our Weekly E-Newsletter And Be a Marriage Champion   Check Out Our Reactive Cycle Assessment   ENGAGE WITH US   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
No matter how long you've been married, there's some great advice in this episode! Greg and Erin discuss the challenges and opportunities in the middle years of marriage, focusing on issues like health struggles, retirement, and caring for aging parents with Larry McCall. They emphasize the importance of preventing boredom, pursuing wonder in marriage and life, and the value of counsel. Larry shares his journey of understanding the deeper purpose of marriage, the importance of love based on God's love rather than reciprocation, and insights into being intentional in relationships.   A Seasoned Marriage: Living the Gospel in the Middle Years and Beyond   Go here for more Deep Questions To Stay Curious About Your Spouse   Truth Rising   Learn more about how to be a Marriage Champion   Support this Show!   ENGAGE WITH US   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
On this episode, Greg and Erin discuss the importance of communication, romance, and navigating challenges within marriage with Jess and Ryan Ronne; who also share their journey of dealing with grief after losing their first spouses. The Ronnes offer insights into how they balance their relationship while caring for eight children (including one with special needs), and the strategies they use to maintain intimacy and satisfaction.   Lovin' With Grit & Grace: Straight Talk about Romance, Sex, Fun, And The Tough Stuff Too   Truth Rising   Read more about a Healing Separation   Support this Show!   Sign Up For Our Marriage Newsletter   ENGAGE WITH US   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Greg and Erin welcome renown British evangelist and author, J.John and his wife Killy as they reflect on their 42-year marriage, discussing early challenges, the importance of communication, and the essential values they've embraced: respect, responsibility, romance, and resilience. They emphasize the significance of intentionally nurturing their relationship despite the demands of work and life, and share their daily routines that help them maintain a balanced and harmonious life together. The Johns are full of encouragement for couples, whether you're just starting out or have been married for decades.   Take the FREE Marriage Assessment   Sacred Pathways, by Gary Thomas   Read more about a Healing Separation   Support this Show!   ENGAGE WITH US   If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Greg and Erin know that every marriage goes through a crisis. That's why we invited Todd and Kristin Evans to share their personal journey from enjoying life as a young, carefree couple to facing the challenges of raising a child with severe disabilities, including emotional strain, grief, and marital disconnect. No matter what your challenges might be, you'll hear ways to get through the storms. We talk about the importance of communication, support networks, and intentional self-care. Todd and Kristin found ways to thrive together, and they also recommitted to each other and set new marital vows tailored to their unique situation. Their story serves as inspiration and guidance for other couples navigating any kind of hardship. We also share the Playground Rules for Marriage, and we answer a listener's email question about how much is too much to share with your spouse when it comes to trauma. This is a practical look at everyday relationship "ins and outs" on this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage! How To Build A Thriving Marriage As You Care for Children with Disabilities Hope Restored Remodeling Stress and Your Marriage Call our Counseling Line at 1-800-A-FAMILY Support this Show! ENGAGE WITH US If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
Get ready for a passionate edition of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley share a message from Dan and Jane Seaborn about how their personality and lifestyle choices are completely opposite in their marriage. The Four Seasons of Marriage Sign Up For The Free Weekly Marriage Newsletter Nurturing The Heart Of Your Spouse Collection Resist The Drift Conferences Hope Restored Conferences Support this Show! ENGAGE WITH US If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.
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