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My fiance and I are getting married in a few months, and we've figured out pretty much everything, except for this: he thinks we should keep our money separated, but I think we should combine it... What should we do? Join Andrea and Jess for the first ever HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion! Want a deeper dive conversation on the topic of money and marriage? We've got you covered with not one, but TWO episodes: 51. START HERE if you Want to Talk About Money in Marriage (Without Fighting!) (April 16, 2024) 52. Beyond the Budget - The Secret to Having Better Money Conversations With Your Spouse (April 23, 2024) WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the first time EVER in Honest Women History, we have a topic SO juicy and SO loaded we had to break it into two episodes! This is the second of two episodes all about how to handle money better in your marriage, so go back to last week's episode if you haven't heard it yet (we'll wait!). Today we get honest about: The four money scripts: money avoidance, money worship, money status, and money vigilance. The importance of understanding and aligning spending behaviors with personal values. Financial infidelity. How differences in spending habits can lead to misunderstandings and resentment between partners. How open and regular communication about finances is crucial for a healthy relationship. How understanding each other's upbringing and attitudes towards money can help create empathy and connection. How addressing fears and defining financial security can lead to a better understanding of each other's financial goals and priorities. How having a budget and reviewing it regularly can help couples stay on top of their finances and avoid unnecessary stress. Plus, Andrea and Jessica are WAY more chill about the money topic than last week (see??? Having an honest conversation does wonders for money stress!); Andrea makes a big announcement; and Jess makes a VERY ambiguous sound effect. Did somebody say motor boating?? Like this episode? Check out these: 49. This One Skill Can Make or Break Your Relationships (April 2, 2024) - in which we discuss how to really apologize... just in case. 24. How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) - because learning to communicate better can only serve you well when you have to talk about tricky topics like money. Connect with Us: WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are we the only ones who love having money, but absolutely HATE talking about it with our partners? Like, sweaty palms, fight or flight, fears of domestic-World-War-3 hate it? We didn't think so! That's why we're getting honest about how money conversations in our marriages are about SO MUCH MORE than dollars and cents. Join us as we discuss: A few reasons we're all so freaking weird about talking about money. Why money conversations can be stressful and challenging in relationships. Why it's totally common to avoid conversations about money. How money disagreements can lead a couple to divorce. How childhood experiences and societal messages shape our relationship with (and thus our behaviors around) money. Why understanding our own money history is critically important for better money conversations. How having open and curious conversations with our partners can lead to real connection - even when the money conversation is over. And a nudge for you, dear listener, to continue the dialogue and seek real connection through honest conversations about money in your own home... cause you deserve to feel less stressed and more connected in your marriage! Even something as simple and open-ended as "What money lessons did you learn growing up?" could start a conversation that gives insight and leads to connection. Plus, Jess and Andrea reveal how money is currently being handled in their own houses (spoiler alert: one of us is actively involved and one of us currently has the money involvement of a 1950's housewife... can you guess who is who?); Jess shares some wisdom from the 90's about money (Mo Money Mo Problems); and Andrea reveals that not even earning a CPA can release you from the deeper meaning that money takes in your life, if you haven't done the work of reflection and conversation. Like this episode? Check out these: 23. Unpacking Childhood Labels (September 27, 2023) - another episode that helps you understand the impact your early life has on you today. Get ready for some insight! 27. Hobbies! They're Not Just for Husbands Anymore! (October 25, 2023) - because, when it comes to conflict in marriage, the way we use our time is second only to the way that we use our money. Connect with Us: WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're shining a light on a topic that's more urgent than ever: the impact of social media on our youth. Many of us are unaware of the dangers lurking online, and as mothers, we're constantly trying to navigate this digital landscape with our kids. In today’s episode, we get honest about the challenges we face and the strategies we're employing to protect our children. Every parent needs to hear this episode! Listen to learn more about: Why the Surgeon General of the United States is calling youth mental health "The defining public health issue of our time." Recent reports and decade-long research that is calling attention to the growing concerns about the effects of social media use on children and adolescent's mental health. The history of social media: Then vs. Now. What we as parents need to consider when it comes to putting smartphones in our children's hands. And more alarming stats that might make you rethink everything! Read the book referenced in this episode, written by Jean M Twenge, PhD Generations: The Real Differences Between Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, Boomers, and Silents. Resources (in the event you want to dive deeper!): Social Media and Youth Mental Health (The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory) The History of Social Media NBC News: Social Media is Driving Teen Mental Health Crisis American Psychological Association: Health Advisory on Social Media Use in Adolescence Teens, Social Media and Technology 2022 (Pew Research Center) Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we had to pick one skill that is vital to the health and longevity of our relationships - with spouses, kids, friends, and the world at large - it would be apologizing well. But, if we’re being honest? Many of us really suck at doing this when it counts! Today, we dive into the art of saying “I’m sorry,” - why it’s so dang hard to do, how to do it well, and even when and if we should accept an apology. Listen to learn more about: How we learned to apologize How our relationship history with someone can make it impossible to apologize to them How shame and guilt show up in apologies Why saying "I'm sorry" can feel - and be - so vulnerable The most common kinds of bad apologies How to apologize like a pro Why you truly have to feel remorse to deliver a good apology Plus, Jess shares a truly painful story of a good apology gone bad; Andrea reveals a pet peeve; and we discuss how we got REALLLL tan for you guys cause WE'RE ON YOUTUBE THIS WEEK! Where on Youtube, you ask? https://www.youtube.com/@HonestWomenPodcast Like this episode? Check out these: Reframing Regret: How this Difficult Emotion Can Help You Grow (December 19, 2023) - regret can point us to places we need to apologize... plus, this episode can help you differentiate between guilt and shame. How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) - in case you were feeling low-key passive aggressive when you went to send this episode to a frenemy (still send it... just be straight up assertive about it!) 41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters (February 6, 2024) - did that example of the "apology" that turned into emotional caretaking hit a little too close to home? I'm just going to leave this right here, then. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly DID WE MENTION WE'RE ON YOUTUBE? https://www.youtube.com/@HonestWomenPodcast Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're celebrating a special occasion – our birthdays! As women, we have been repeatedly told (and led to believe!) that aging is a bad thing. But is that accurate? As we blow out the candles, we thought it would be the perfect time to reflect on our experiences, lessons learned, and growth over the years. So grab a slice of cake, settle in, and join us for a heartfelt and honest conversation about the journey from our younger selves to the women we are today. Listen to hear more about: Health: How our relationship with our bodies has changed over the years, including what we have learned about our health as women. Relationships: How our expectations have changed within our own marriages. Career and Passions: How they have evolved as we have gotten older, including significant milestones and achievements (and failures!) that happened along the way. Our Personal Growth: How we have changed since our 20s and 30s, including experiences that shaped us, and how they impact us today. Plus. Andrea shares how she took her relationship with Jessica to a new level, and Jessica shares one of her many dating horror stories from her early 20s! Like this episode? Check out these: (March 12, 2024) - Invisible Labor and the Weight of the Mental Load (November 28, 2023) - Redefining Happily Ever After Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From the time we were little girls, we’ve been given a list of things to do and not to do in order to stay safe. But what are you supposed to do when you are attacked out of the blue? Today we get honest about a recent scary situation that Andrea found herself in and work through the loaded question - what would you do? Listen as we dive into: Our cultural obsession with true crime Why you might want to post about a scary situation online If publicly shaming people for their bad behavior is a good idea What fight / flight / freeze really feel like Why "What would YOU have done?" is a terrible question What you will likely feel in the aftermath of being threatened What you SHOULD say to someone who has been attacked Plus, Andrea is activated the whollleeeeee episode; Jess is emotionally - though not literally - rendered speechless; and Andrea and Jess reminisce about the good olde days of carrying keys between their fingers, just in case you need to fight off an attacker (what the hell are we going to do now with our fobs?). And we swear... we swear a lot. You have been warned. Like this episode? Check out these: 45. You've Got Friendship Questions? We've Got Answers (March 5, 2024) - another episode where we share our hot takes on real-life scenarios submitted by our listeners! The Ripple Effect of Loss: How Tragedy Touches Us All (January 30, 2024) - thank goodness this incident didn't end in tragedy, but... we hear about tragic things that happen to women every day, and those can have a big impact on us. This episode will help you understand why. When Your Partner is Struggling with Addiction or Mental Health (November 7, 2023) - if this story felt too close to home... because you have a partner who behaves this way as they are struggling with addiction or mental health... this episode is for you. Want to share your story with us? Have a scenario you want us to work through on a future episode? Email us!! hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastb Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Nobody understands everything I do around here!" Does this statement sound familiar?  The invisible work, often going on inside our heads, is unrelenting and never-ending. Today, we get honest about the mental load and explore where it came from and how in the heck we got here. Listen to learn more about: What the mental load (also called "invisible labor") is. What falls into the category of mental load. How and perhaps why, the mental load seems to fall more on women than men. The role of over and under functioner within our marriages, and how this contributes to the mental load.  Assigning tasks vs. responsibilities. How to create a "minimum standard of care" through taking ownership AND collaboration with your partner. Jessica talks about a seemingly random pet peeve that she has, and Andrea talks about having to repair it with her children after a heavy mental load-baring day. Like this episode? Check out these: Episode 41: The Complicated Relationship between Mothers and Daughters (February 6, 2024) Want to do a deeper dive into Mental Load? Click here to learn more about Eve and Fair Play. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

But first... GIVEAWAY: Want free coffee from your friends Andrea & Jessica?? Take a screenshot of this episode, post it on Instagram, and tag us @honestwomenpodcast, and you’ll be entered to win! Winner will be drawn and notified on Monday, March 11, 2024. When we think about friendship, we often imagine a relationship that is easy, positive, and lasts through the seasons of life without interruption. But in our experience, friendship is just not that simple. Today we give our honest opinions on some of the most common challenges in friendship, including how to handle big transitions, slow fades, and even bitter, bitter ends. Listen as we discuss: Why friendship gets so little billing compared to romantic relationships The reason that friendships can fall to the wayside after college The high expectations we have for our friendships Listener question: I don't want our friendship to change when my friend has a baby! Listener question: How do I slow fade a friendship when I see this person all the time? Listener question: How can I grieve the loss of a long-term friendship? Plus, Andrea reveals that one of these questions IS HER OWN QUESTION; Jessica fights off a spring cold (thank God it's not a man-cold!); and we both admit to being avid listeners of our own podcast (Honest Women! It's so good, even we listen to it!) Like this episode? Check out these: When Your Partner Is Struggling with Addiction or Mental Health (November 7, 2023) - the first time we answered a listener question! Rethinking the 'Girl Squad' (September 6, 2023) - for obvious reasons... Is a 50-50 Split of Domestic Labor Realistic? (July 5, 2023) - because friendships are the only relationships we expect to be 50-50 We LOVE answering your questions! Keep 'em coming to: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com or DM us on instagram! Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Society has this sneaky way of making us believe that we should actually be relishing every moment of the daily grind. Well, spoiler alert: that's not always the case. Today, we have an honest conversation about the myth of "loving every minute" and explore why it's okay not to be head over heels for the daily grind.   Listen to learn more about: Cultural norms that led us to believe that the daily SHOULD be fun. The crushing feeling of never feeling DONE with that to-do list. The double binds that keep us stuck. Guilt associated with questioning the daily grind and our relationship to it. How the daily grind can lead to feelings of depression or actual depression. Like this episode? Check out these: May 3, 2023: Your Hard is Hard Dealing with the Responsibility and Stress of Life May 3, 2023: Honey, I lost my village! Feeling Lonely in a Connected World September 20, 2023: So You Lost Your Shit... January 23, 2024: Is it Time to Break Up with Your Phone Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising a child is challenging, no matter their gender... but raising boys just hits different than raising girls! Today, we get honest about all things #boymom: the cultural narratives around raising as on, our own hopes and fears for our sons, and how the relationship we have with our sons is different than the one we have with our daughters. Listen to learn more about: the cultural norm of the "wild boy" a possible origin story for the #boymom trend how we both felt about having sons how we identify - as boy moms or girl moms the cultural narrative about the relationship between boys & their moms how we REALLY feel about becoming THE mother-in-law our fears and hopes for our own boys how our goals for our sons impact how we parent them today Plus, Andrea cringes at her own (former) traditionalist stance on why she wanted a boy first; Jessica seems unsure about how many children Andrea has; and we both wade deep into how our relationships with our sons are shaped by our relationships with the other women that will be in their lives. Like this episode? Check out these: 41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters (February 6, 2024) - it's practically required listening after this one! Feel Like You Can't Get it Right? Here's Why (August 30, 2023) - this episode, and the one on mothers & daughters, are FULL of binds. If you want to hear more of the binds that we're in as women, this is your episode! Connect with Us: Have something you want us to talk about on the show? Or want to tell us what you think about it? Have a good recipe or meme you want to share? EMAIL US! hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As couples therapists, we've seen it all, and we know that love doesn't come with a manual. But hey, where's the fun in that, right? So today, we're sharing some lighthearted (slightly questionable) marriage tips peppered with a healthy dose of humor and a dash of honesty. Plus, we're throwing in some insights from our own experiences as wives because, let's be real, sometimes life teaches you more about love than any textbook ever could.  Listen to learn about Andrea and Jessica's top tips: Stop attacking; stop defending. Go to bed angry, yep, we said it! Rewrite date night. Be ok with them NEVER liking to do the dishes. Acknowledge one another in passing. Give what you want. ASK for what you want; don't just assume. Increase non-sexual touching...like, a lot! Repair quickly. Try not to fall out of love at the same time. Yes, we know the irony here. The two of us giving tips when we are entirely against dishing out tips! We promise you this is not one of those episodes. Marriage is hard! In fact, we even did a couple episodes on the topic: June 14th, 2023: Redefining Happily Ever After June 21st, 2023: 3 Universal Reasons Why Being Married is Hard! Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

All relationships are complicated… but perhaps none are more complicated than the relationship between mother and daughter. Today, we get honest about some of the factors that make the mother-daughter relationship so loaded… things we’ve learned both as therapists, and have experienced in our own lives.  Listen as we discuss: The messages we receive as women about having a daughter:  That we will either be best friends or have a lot of conflict with our daughters That we are not complete unless we have a daughter The ways that societal expectations for little boys and little girls are different How trying to change the roles and expectations for women make parenting our daughters complicated How our own experiences with female friendships and with our own mothers shape our relationships with our daughters How our own insecurities show up in our relationships with our daughters How we can sometimes try to correct things that we see in our daughters because we see them in ourselves, and how it can be really hard to separate what is ours from what is hers The elephant in the room... how our relationships with our own mothers shapes our relationships with our daughters Plus, Andrea channels her inner Freud; Jessica models receiving a compliment; and we both step into the confessional a record number of times as we discuss our raw thoughts and feelings about the complicated relationships we have with the relationship we have with having daughters (<< did you catch all of the layers here??). Like this episode? Check out these: Feel Like You Can't Get it Right? Here's Why (August 30, 2023) - all about the double binds we face as women! Rethinking the 'Girl Squad' (September 6, 2023) - because our relationships with other women totally shape our expectations for our relationship with our daughters. You Asked, we Answered! (October 18, 2023) - another episode where we spent a lot of time... maybe the whole time...in the confessional, as we answered the questions you have about therapists. We want to hear from YOU! Email us at hello@honestwomenpodcast.com with your deep thoughts, kind words, or questions you'd love us to discuss on the show! Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The impact of a sudden loss can be profound, leaving us grappling with a range of emotions we may not fully understand. Moments like these remind us of life's fragility and the interconnectedness of our human experience. We're reminded that loss, in any form, touches us all in unexpected ways. Today, we're having an honest conversation about why tragic loss hits us so hard, even when we don't have a personal connection to the individual involved. We'll explore the complexities of grief, the ripple effects of loss, and how we can navigate these emotions with compassion and understanding. Listen to learn more about: The complexities of grief The ripple effects of loss How we can navigate these emotions with compassion and understanding Like this episode? Check out these: Breaking the Silence During Suicide Prevention Week (September 13, 2023) Living and Parenting in the Age of School Shootings (October 11, 2023) Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We hate to say it, but one of the most significant relationships we have as modern women is the one we have with our phone. But while we have many good reasons for using them, we have to admit that our phone usage has an impact on our relationships and on our mental health. Today, we get honest about those impacts, and ask the practical question - short of building a time machine to the 1990s, is there anything we can do to improve things? Listen to learn more about: how our phone usage harms our most important (and even very casual) relationships a few of the ways our phones damage our mental and physical health some practical suggestions to change your relationship with your phone Plus, Jess ruins everything for everyone by making a plan (and thereby causing a blizzard which kept her kids at home which wrecked the plan); Andrea and Jessica wrestle with the word ironic (thanks, Alanis!); and we reveal how we discover Tik Tok trends (via MSNBC articles about 3 months later… tell me you’re a millennial without telling me you’re a millennial!) Like this episode? Check out these: Exploring Mommy Wine Culture During Dry January (January 9, 2024) - if you want to explore another tricky cultural topic that has pretty straightforward research about it So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - if you're looking for the episode where we discuss the difference between guilt and shame. New Year, New You? (January 2, 2024) - cause we mentioned that Jessica has some feelings about New Years Resolutions Connect with Us: EMAIL US: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jealousy is a feeling that often lurks in the shadows of our minds. From comparing ourselves to others on social media to feeling envious of a friend's success, jealousy can keep us stuck in a cycle of negativity. Join us as we unpack why jealousy is such a common emotion for women and explore how we can navigate it with honesty, a little humor, and empathy. Listen to learn more about: Jealousy vs. envy (Thanks to Andrea loving to "word nerd" out!). Why leaning into jealousy can be useful. How social media can enhance jealousy. How jealousy can make us feel powerless. How jealousy is introduced to women at a younger age than men. How jealousy can lead us to inaccurate comparisons that keep us stuck in a negative cycle. Plus, Andrea challenges a quote while Jessica stands to defend it! You don't want to miss this honest conversation. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are some things that are so baked into our culture that they can feel scary to even talk about… but we wouldn’t be Honest Women if we weren’t bold enough to talk about those things. Today, we explore Mommy Wine Culture: where it came from, how it impacts us, and where it might not be serving us. Listen to learn more about: How / Why / If Andrea & Jess do Dry January Why shame makes it difficult to examine our drinking behavior The origin of Mommy Wine Culture Marketing of alcohol as an escape from the challenges of life The history of using substances to deal with womens' distress (do NOT miss this!) A few of the things that alcohol does *not* help us deal with Plus, Jess gives an update on the dress she got stuck in; Andrea discovers that you *can* return alcohol to the liquor store if yor decide to become sober before you make special cocktails; and Jessica and Andrea nerd out about the history of substances being marketed to women instead of dealing with their real, actual problems. Were housewives in the 1950's really happy, or were they just f*ing high on valium? You'll have to listen to find out! Like this episode? Check out these: NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - cause you need the "Jessica gets stuck in a dress" story! So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - if you're wanting Andrea & Jess to deep-dive into another tricky topic with a big dose of humor and self-disclosure Want to learn about the health impacts of alcohol from real experts?? Check out Liz Moody's podcast series on alcohol, especially the effects on hormones and brain health and gut health and cancer. Connect with Us: EMAIL US: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New year, new you? We don’t know about that. Whether you can’t wait to implement your new life plan or cringe at the idea of setting a resolution, you are not alone. Today, we get honest about the chaos of setting or avoiding New Year’s resolutions.    Listen to learn more about:  ·      How Andrea and Jessica REALLY feel about New Year’s resolutions. ·      Did either of our co-hosts set a resolution for 2024? ·      The history of New Year’s resolutions. ·      A few stats….because. why not? ·      Ways to be realistic about resolutions.   Want to read more about the history of New Year's Resolutions? Read these:   Forbes New Year's Resolution Statistics USA Today: The Most Popular New Year's Resolutions The History of New Year's Resolutions: The History Channel   Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com   Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.   Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s impossible to count the times that we’ve been told to live life with no regrets… but is that a realistic, or even worthy goal? Today we have an honest conversation about the rather taboo topic of regret: what it is, what to do if you feel it, and even wonder if it is possible that this rather uncomfortable experience can be beneficial. Listen to learn more about: The difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction Why ruminating on regrets of action - like moral failings - is not serving you The three regrets of inaction - boldness, foundation, and connection regrets How regret can lead us to our values and help us to shape our life going forward The false promise of "if only" regret thinking (hint: your life would not be perfect and painless right now "if only" you had done X instead of Y) What to do RIGHT NOW if you are feeling regret Plus, Andrea works through a really raw friendship regret; Jessica explores a time she regretted in her relationship with Andrea; and Jessica almost spits out her coffee when Andrea shares her not-so-evolved reaction to a relationship that ended poorly. NO REGRETS, right? Like this episode? Check out these: So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - cause you NEED to know the difference between guilt and shame if you're thinking through regret! NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - just in case you're regretting saying yes to so many things this season. Want to do a deeper dive into regret? Read Dan Pink's thought-provoking book The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this emotionally charged episode of the Honest Women Podcast, the hosts fearlessly dive into the complex tapestry of loss during the holiday season. From the profound grief of death to the heart-wrenching realities of pregnancy loss, divorce, and financial struggles, no stone is left unturned. The hosts shed light on the unique challenges faced during this festive time when the world expects cheerfulness while individuals navigate the depths of sorrow. However, it's not all shadows and sorrows; the hosts generously share invaluable advice on how to navigate the holiday season amidst loss. They emphasize the power of verbalizing needs, setting boundaries, and extending grace to oneself and others. This episode serves as a beacon of support for those grappling with loss, offering solace and practical guidance. As the conversation unfolds, the hosts conclude the episode on a poignant note with a heartfelt poem titled 'Light a Candle,' encapsulating the essence of finding hope and healing even in the darkest moments. Tune in for a raw, authentic, and compassionate exploration of loss during the holidays on the Honest Women Podcast. Listen to Hear More About: 00:00 Introduction to the Holiday Season and Feelings of Loss 02:29 Grief Work and Loss During the Holiday Season 05:10 Personal Examples of Loss During the Holidays 08:26 Other Types of Loss During the Holiday Season 13:37 Challenges of the Holiday Season and Grief 18:38 Dilemmas of the Holiday Season 21:23 Ambushing Moments of Unexpected Sadness 22:17 Supporting Yourself During Loss 25:29 Supporting Others During Loss 29:40 Poem: Light a Candle 30:42 Conclusion Resources: This Emotional Life: Getting through the Holidays by Camille Wortman, PhD What to Say (and What Not to Say) to Someone Who’s Grieving from The New York Times Poem read by Jessica at the end of the episode: “Light A Candle” by Paul Alexander And I will light a candle for you To shatter all the darkness and bless the times we knew Like a beacon in the night The flame will burn bright and guide us on our way Oh, today I light a candle for you The seasons come and go, and I’m weary from the change I keep moving on, you know it’s not the same And when I’m walking all alone Do you hear me call your name? Do you hear me sing the songs we used to sing? You filled my life with wonder, touched me with surprise Always saw that something special deep within your eyes And through the good times and the bad We carried on with pride I hold on to the love and life we knew Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices