Not So Dumb Blonde

Unlock the truth about women’s behavior in relationships and discover why the patterns you see aren't your fault — they're solutions you can reframe and change. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, misunderstood, or trapped in a cycle of over-functioning or under-functioning, this episode is your game-changer. Join Kaytlyn, a master’s-level social work student and emerging therapist, as she dives deep into groundbreaking insights from couples therapy, attachment theory, and real-world strategies to transform your love life. She reveals how societal messages about independence and connection often keep women stuck in unhelpful roles, and explains how understanding these patterns empowers you to reclaim your agency. You'll discover:Why women tend to over-explain, over-communicate, and over-function in relationships — and how these behaviors are actually solutions to anxiety and disconnection.How to reframe problem behaviors as purposeful actions that meet unmet attachment needs, rather than personal flaws.The power of micro moments and the 'Caring Days' method, which encourages acting as if your relationship already reflects your ideal, to create rapid positive shifts.The pitfalls of couples therapy that assumes good intent and how to speak your truth safely, especially if you're experiencing emotional abuse or gaslighting.How to harness attachment-aware compassion without minimizing your own needs or excusing harmful behavior.This episode isn’t just about theory — it’s about real growth. Kaytlyn combines expert knowledge with her own healing insights to help women navigate vulnerability, set boundaries, and foster genuine intimacy. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, these strategies will give you a clearer, more compassionate path forward. Activate your relationship potential today by understanding the patterns holding you back. Empower yourself with tools that promote authenticity, safety, and love — starting now. Perfect for women ready to break toxic cycles, therapists-in-training, or anyone seeking a richer understanding of healthy intimacy. Stay tuned for practical frameworks, heartfelt reflections, and a roadmap to relationship resilience.

Most women are disconnected from their body's true signals, leaving them trapped in anxiety, people-pleasing, and chronic stress. Brenda Johnston is here to reveal the overlooked truth: your body's wisdom is the key to trusting your intuition—and transforming anxiety into clarity.With over 20 years of experience working at the subconscious and energetic levels, Brenda helps high-capacity women who have achieved success but feel unfulfilled and out of alignment. She shares eye-opening insights on how nervous system dysregulation, complex trauma, and societal conditioning sabotage your inner guidance. Discover how understanding your unique energy blueprint, using tools like human design and tailored subconscious work, can accelerate lasting change and deepen your self-trust.In this transformative episode, you'll learn:The subtle signs your body is screaming for attention—chronic illness, nervous tension, gut issues, and more—and how to interpret themPractical steps to differentiate between fear and intuition, even when they feel blurred togetherHow energy management, thymus tapping, and internal awareness can shift your nervous system from overwhelm to empowered clarityThe importance of age and life cycles in uncovering your purpose, and why your 40s and beyond are the most potent times for transformationWhy traditional methods often fail, and how personalized, energetic profiling unlocks your innate potential fasterThis episode is perfect for women ready to reclaim their inner authority, break free from societal scripts, and step confidently into their next chapter. If you’re tired of surface-level advice and want to connect deeply with your true self, Brenda’s expert guidance will show you how to tune into your own body’s language and live with purpose and trust.Get ready to tap into your unique energy signature, heal chronic stress, and finally hear what your body has been whispering all along. Your journey to authentic alignment starts here.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Brenda Johnston and Her Work02:25 Understanding Intuition vs. Anxiety09:11 Nervous System Regulation and Intuition15:08 Common Themes in Women's Experiences20:38 The Impact of Suppressed Emotions on Health23:07 Understanding the Body's Response to Fear26:29 Navigating Purpose and Life Cycles32:15 Exploring Human Design as a Tool for Self-Discovery40:00 Practical Tools for Aligning with Intuition resourcesBrenda Johnston's Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_brenda_johnston/⁠Limitless Life Podcast - ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/limitless-life-podcast/id1551234567⁠Free Energy Management Practice - ⁠https://brendajohnston.com/energy-practice⁠Human Design PDF Guide - ⁠https://brendajohnston.com/human-design-guide⁠Brenda Johnston's Workshop on Purpose - ⁠https://brendajohnston.com/workshop-purposes⁠Guest LinksInstagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_brenda_johnston/⁠Podcast - ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/limitless-life-podcast/id1551234567⁠Join her free energy management practice and upcoming workshops via the links in her bio.Unlock the power of your subconscious and energy blueprint—your transformation awaits. Hit play now!

Women are often taught to make themselves smaller in relationships — quieter, easier, less emotional, less demanding. But what if the very qualities you were told to tone down are actually your greatest strengths?In this episode, Kaytlyn sits down with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and relationship expert, to explore why so many women struggle with people-pleasing and boundary setting. Together they discuss the cultural and relational patterns that lead women to suppress their needs and how reclaiming your voice can transform your relationships.In this conversation, we discuss:• Why women are conditioned to shrink themselves in relationships• How people-pleasing develops and why it’s so hard to break• What healthy boundaries actually look like in real life• Why sensitivity and emotional depth are strengths, not weaknesses• Practical ways to begin expressing your needs more authenticallyThis episode is for anyone who has ever been called “too much,” struggled to speak up for themselves, or felt pressure to prioritize everyone else’s comfort over their own.If that resonates with you, you’re not alone — and you’re definitely not too much.Learn more about Dr. Tracy Dalgleish:https://drtracyd.com

Keywordsintersectionality, women's mental health, Laura Cathcart Robbins, identity, belonging, addiction, mental health support, privilege, systemic bias, safe spacesSummaryIn this conversation, Kaytlyn Gilner speaks with Laura Cathcart Robbins about the complexities of intersectionality in women's mental health. They explore Laura's personal experiences as a black woman, the systemic challenges faced by women of color in seeking mental health support, and the importance of creating safe spaces for open conversations. Laura emphasizes the need for acknowledging privilege and the impact of identity on mental health, while also addressing the dangers of neutrality in these discussions. The conversation concludes with practical advice for women of color seeking support and the importance of asking questions to ensure a safe therapeutic environment.TakeawaysIntersectionality encompasses multiple identities and experiences.Being the only one in the room can be isolating.Mental health issues are often not acknowledged in marginalized communities.Conversations about mental health must include diverse voices.Acknowledging privilege is essential in discussions about identity.Neutrality in mental health can reinforce systemic biases.Creating safe spaces for dialogue is crucial for healing.Women of color often face unique challenges in seeking support.It's important to ask clinicians about their background and beliefs.Community support can empower individuals to seek mental health care.TitlesExploring Intersectionality in Women's Mental HealthThe Journey of a Black Woman Writer sound bites"I was the only black one there.""It was a code of silence.""Check your motivation for connection."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Laura Cathcart Robbins00:23 The Experience of Being the Only One--

Welcome to the RebrandThis episode is the official introduction to the rebranded Not So Dumb Blonde podcast.In this first episode, I’m sharing why this podcast evolved, what inspired the rebrand, and what you can expect moving forward. We’ll talk about the shift toward deeper conversations around women’s mental health, emotional patterns, and the question so many of us ask: Is it me… or is it my childhood?I also introduce myself as the host — my background, lived experience, and why this work matters so deeply to me. This podcast was created for women who have spent their lives feeling “too much,” questioning their emotions, and wondering why certain relationships and situations feel harder than they seem to for everyone else.This is a space that blends personal insight with evidence-based education, grounded in psychology, attachment, nervous system awareness, and real conversations about healing — without shame or labels being forced.You’ll learn:What this podcast is about and who it’s forWhy the rebrand happened and what changedThe themes we’ll explore in future episodesHow childhood experiences can shape emotions, relationships, and self-trustThe history of Psychology ✨ New episodes drop every Wednesday.💌 Want to share your story, suggest a topic, or give feedback?Email me at itstherapykay@gmail.com — I read every message.📱 Connect with me on social media:TikTok: @ItstherapykayInstagram: @notsodumbblonde_pod @ItstherapykayYouTube: Kaytlyn GilnerIf this episode resonates, follow the podcast and join me as we unpack these conversations together — one episode at a time.🧠 Looking for therapy support?Use code SPACE80 for $80 off therapy with TalkspaceTherapy available with or without insuranceFinding a therapist can be overwhelming — Talkspace simplifies the processI’ve personally used and recommended Talkspace to many people

Jessica Burgio is a podcast host, author, podcasting coach, and all-around badass woman! This podcast will light a fire in you to start living your life authentically and totally unscripted! Follow her on Instagram @jessicaburgio and her podcast @unscriptedthepodcast. You can also find her free downloadable beginners guide to creating a podcast on her IG! Be sure to leave us a review and share it with your friends! Enjoy!

Enjoy this mini episode with your hosts Lauren and Kaytlyn! We talk about some signs of self sabotage and share some tips and advice on how to overcome it. Follow us on instagram @notsodumbblondespodcast and feel free to share our episode with your friends, tag us, DM us, and review!

In today's episode, we interviewed the inspiring Lia Valencia Key. She shares how her childhood spent in a homeless shelter has impacted her success today. She is full of inspiring stories and advice and has amazing energy. She now owns her own jewelry line that helps spread that same message! You can find her on Instagram @liavalenciakey and her jewelry line @valenciakeydesign. Enjoy!

Enjoy this mini episode with your co-hosts, Lauren & Kaytlyn! We share our "haute take" on some mental health topics and share advice on what has worked for us in breaking the pattern of negative self-talk. Enjoy!

In this episode we chat with Val Emanuel, founder of Rif Care, a hemp-based period product company, about her journey in entrepreneurship and improving her hormone health. You can learn more about her company at rifcare.com, or follow them on Instagram @rifcare, or follow Val at @malibumama__ Love this episode? Share it on your Instagram and tag us @notsodumbblondespodcast

Enjoy this mini episode with hosts,  Lauren & Kaytlyn, as we share our new year's goals and tips on how we are setting ourselves up for success in achieving them. Enjoy! You can follow us on Instagram @notsodumbblondespodcast and if you enjoy please leave a review and share with your friends!

Author, Speaker, and Host, Erin Washington, joins us for an episode to share how she created the best version of her life by becoming her most authentic self. She shares her history with her eating disorder and how she has used overcoming that obstacle to help others overcome theirs as well. Sit back, relax, and enjoy this episode that we had a BLAST recording!! You can find her on Instagram @erin.washington_, her podcast @squats_and_margaritas, and her nonprofit @the_blue_butterflies_

Montana Rae, Sommelier, has been in the wine industry for over 10 years. On her social platform, @montana.rae.sommelier, she shares valuable tips on drinking wine. We talk all things business but also dive into some fun wine knowledge, so grab your favorite glass of wine and hang out with us on this fun episode!

In this episode, Kaytlyn and Lauren have a quick chat about the stressors of the holidays and give some easy tips on handling them. We hope you enjoy this shorter episode! Follow us on insta @notsodumbblondespodcast

In this episode, Lauren and Kaytlyn talk about intuition and how you can learn to trust it. Tune in and let us know what you think!

In this episode we have the honor of interviewing Rachel Richards, a real-estate investor and bestselling author, who retired at the age of 27 and has 20k/mo in passive income. She is a former financial investor who has been featured in CNBC, Forbes, and Business Insider. She shares her story with us and some great advice that can get you started on your path towards financial independence. You can find her and links to her books on Instagram at @moneyhoneyrachel. Enjoy!!

Have you heard all of the controversies with quiet quitting? Kaytlyn and Lauren discuss their opinion on the matter and share why they think it can be an unhealthy topic. Let us know how you feel about it! Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @notsodumbblondes

In this episode, we chat with Kristine Munro, founder of Business Bosses Who Brunch, a local Colorado women's networking community that has workshops, networking events, and brunches.  She shares what her goals are with this community and how it has helped her and others grow personally and professionally. If you are looking to get involved with this community you can find them on Instagram @businessbosseswhobrunch, or through their website at www.businessbosseswhobrunch.com. You can also check out Kristine's podcast called Pivot to Passion. Enjoy!

How do you start off your morning every day? Is it leading to a successful or productive rest of your day? Tune in to hear how Lauren and Kaytlyn plan out their mornings to have the best day! Any other tips? DM us on Instagram at @notsodumbblondespodcast and share with us! Enjoy!

On this episode we interview one of our very own co-hosts, Kaytlyn Gilner, and talk about her brand, Meet Me West. Tune in to hear about how she got started with her e-commerce brand and for some motivation on starting your own company! Enjoy!