The Other Woman And The Wife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, for a conversation that flips everything you think you know about infidelity. Paul reveals the uncomfortable truth that men are actually seeking emotional validation while women are outsourcing their sexual needs, explores why toxic male fragility creates dead bedrooms, and explains how affair partners might be the most honest online daters. They dive into compassionate affairs for caregivers, why discretion isn't about shame but empowerment, and how the judgment we heap on complicated humans like us creates the very underground behaviors we claim to despise – because sometimes going into our pain rather than around it is exactly what transforms relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask HOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membership: https://towtw.com/ Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching OUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST BIO:Paul Keable is the Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating platform. With over 20 years of experience in communications and strategy, he has helped shape the company’s global direction for more than a decade. Paul is known for his insights on love, monogamy, and how technology is transforming modern relationships, and he frequently speaks about creating safer, more authentic spaces for connection.

In this announcement, Chelsea shares her decision to take a summer break from the podcast to focus on personal growth, family time, and self-reflection. While the show pauses, the community's safe space continues, and Chelsea promises to return in early September with fresh perspectives and new stories about love, loyalty, and authenticity. She encourages listeners to use this hiatus as their own opportunity for self-discovery and self-care.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with integrative bodywork and somatic therapist Joshua Marable for a serendipitous conversation about the messy realities of human connection. Joshua challenges us to go into our pain rather than around it, exploring how synchronicity, self-awareness, and somatic healing intersect with relationships. They dive deep into maintaining your sense of self within partnerships, the real talk about sex and intimacy, conflict resolution beyond surface fixes, and why infidelity is often about unmet needs rather than simple betrayal. This raw, unfiltered discussion transcends judgment and approaches relationships with the kind of radical honesty that transforms pain into growth – because sometimes the conversation you're avoiding is exactly the one you need to have.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST BIO:Joshua Marable is Somatic Therapist at WellessenceMDWith over 20 years of experience in the somatic-related fields of integrative bodywork, therapeutic massage, mindfulness coaching, and personal training, Joshua Marable brings a wealth of expertise and dedication to WellessenceMD.  https://wellessencemd.com/about/joshua-marable/

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea is joined by guest Kara Nance to explore the unconscious nature of desire, attachment styles, and the three key instinctual energies that drive human behavior—self-preservation, social, and sexual. Together, they delve into the delicate balance required in partnerships, how unmet trauma can perpetuate cycles of pain, and the ongoing challenge of maintaining sexual energy in long-term relationships. They also emphasize the critical importance of authenticity, personal growth, and facing difficult truths in relationships.Guest Bio: Kara Nance is an MD who has navigated multiple long-term relationships while raising four children. After becoming disillusioned with the traditional healthcare system, she left to create her own practice, bringing a unique perspective to both medicine and relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKS:https://wellessencemd.com/about/kara-j-nance-m-d-f-a-c-p/

Sometimes the harshest critics become the most profound teachers. In this follow-up episode of TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea reconnects with one of her original TikTok trolls. Avid listeners might remember him from Episode 35—”From Trolling To Dialogue”. He spent months processing his wife's infidelity by trolling her in the comments. Nearly a year later, he's back with a completely different perspective, sharing his journey from anger to healing and proving there really is life after infidelity for everyone involved. This isn't your typical "happily ever after" story—it's a real look at how our biggest critics are often fighting battles we can't see, and how transformation happens when we choose growth over grudgesPt. 1: Episode #35 From Trolling To Dialogue Links:Youtube: Here Spotify: Here Apple Podcast: HereSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea flips the script and puts Ann Marie in the hot seat. You know that familiar voice who's been weaving through our episodes? Time to meet the woman behind it. Ann Marie opens up about her own messy, beautiful journey with infidelity and reveals how she went from podcast listener to now co-conspirator in creating this safe harbor for complicated humans like us. This isn't just Ann Marie's origin story – it's a love letter to everyone who's ever felt like they needed permission to be human. If you're still reading remember: You don't need permission, but you deserve to feel less alone. Welcome to the messy, transformative world of finding your voice.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea sits down with returning guest Carolina Vilalva. Together they discuss how to move from the drama triangle (where we play hero, villain, or victim) into the empowerment triangle where we claim our personal power as creators, facilitate self-empowerment as coaches, and provoke positive action as challengers. If you’ve been feeling ‘stuck’ in your circumstance this episode is for you!Referenced Image: https://images.app.goo.gl/t9pvMGvezTcd7EhV7SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeCarolina’s Bio:Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.

In this raw episode of The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie explore the painful aftermath of being ghosted by an affair partner after 3.5 years. When someone who shared your deepest secrets suddenly vanishes, what happens to all that unresolved emotion? From processing relationship trauma to sending 500 crickets to at least make a statement, this judgment-free discussion offers insights for anyone who's ever been left to write their own ending when no one else would. TOWTW creates a judgment-free space for exploring the messy, complex world of relationships. We're here to help you understand yourself better and make choices that align with your authentic selfSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea and Ann Marie have recurring guest Kristine Haraldsson back on the show to discuss the impact that their women friendships play in their lives, but more specifically how their experience within infidelity was impacted by the female friendships in their lives. Kris Haraldsson, MS is a coach and educator who gained a following of 100k followers across platforms discussing relationships, divorce, and personal empowerment in the context of relationships. Her passion lies in weaving her extensive background in psychology with her experience working in social services to help people understand how they can change unhelpful patterns in their relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKS:Website: thrivingimperfectly.com

What are the women of the TOWTW community doing in Mexico? Nobody asked so let me tell you. They are celebrating women's friendships and the power of community when faced with life's adversities. Please tune in next week for another jam-packed episode of the TOWTW Podcast! Thank you for being here, listeners, and keep an eye out for details on how you could join us for our next Women's Retreat!DescriptionTopicsSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this weeks episode of TOWTW podcast, hosts Chelsea and Ann Marie welcome back guest Luke Shillings. Chelsea and Luke courageously share their contrasting experiences growing up in the shadow of parental infidelity revealing how the same type of family disruption created two very different journeys to healing. This episode explores how childhood perspectives on adult betrayal shape our relationships, outlook, and personal growth. A must-listen for anyone navigating family complexities or supporting children through difficult transitions.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

Self-care alert: TOWTW Podcast will be taking an Easter Break this week. With new episodes and guests returning next Sunday!SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this week’s episode, Chelsea retells a story about a woman experiencing a sexual awakening through an affair, leaving her torn about her marriage's future. Together, with co-host Ann Marie, they unpack the woman's complex dilemma, examining how societal judgment shapes our views on infidelity while advocating for personal autonomy and authentic desires over rigid marital expectations. Join us for a candid conversation about navigating the tension between personal fulfillment and societal pressure in intimate relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this week's episode of TOWTW Podcast we are revisiting an episode from our vault. Chelsea shares a story about a woman who finds herself widowed and in an affair with a co-worker. When her affair partner passes away suddenly she finds herself very alone in her grief as nobody knows the full extent of their relationship.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this powerful TOWTW episode, Chelsea is joined by returning guest Carolina Vilalva to challenge the notion of staying in unhappy marriages "for the kids." They reveal how children inevitably sense parental tension and Carolina explains why showing children it's acceptable to leave situations that compromise your wellbeing might be more valuable than preserving an unhappy home, offering a fresh perspective on this difficult parenting dilemma.Guest Bio:Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.Carolina’s training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this intimate solo episode of TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea speaks directly from the heart about the business she has created. With characteristic honesty, she shares the pivotal moments that inspired her new courses and the current life experiences deepening her commitment to this work. Join her for this rare, vulnerable conversation as she reveals the true passion behind her mission and why she's more excited than ever to help others transform their challenging experiences into opportunities for growth.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this powerful episode of The Other Woman and The Wife, Chelsea sits down with New York Times bestselling author and spiritual thought-leader Rob Bell. The former pastor and creator of the RobCast explores how love extends beyond conventional boundaries—especially after infidelity. Rob offers a compassionate framework for understanding our most complicated relationships without judgment, showing how better questions can transform our approach to life's messiest moments and open genuine pathways to healing.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this follow-up episode, Chelsea and Luke explore the journey beyond infidelity trauma. Building on their previous discussion of grief, we examine how to rebuild trust in others and ourselves after infidelity has entered the chat. Together they share their insights on overcoming self-sabotage, managing vulnerability fears, and rediscovering authentic connection.Use promo code: PODCAST at check-out to receive $10 off a TOWTW Community membership!SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

Why does love feel dangerous after betrayal? Part 1 of this special series of The Other Woman & The Wife features Chelsea and Luke Shillings exploring the paradox of craving connection while being terrified of it. Join us next week for Part 2, where they share how pain can be transformed into deeper, more authentic connection.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

Host Chelsea and incoming coach Kris explore why shame might be holding back your healing after infidelity in this episode of The Other Woman & The Wife. Together they unpack the difference between productive guilt and paralyzing shame, showing you how to write a new story - one of self-compassion and growth instead of self-judgment."Kris Haraldsson MS is a coach and educator who gained a following of 100k followers across platforms discussing relationships, divorce, and personal empowerment in the context of relationships. Her passion lies in weaving her extensive background in psychology with her experience working in social services to help people understand how they can change unhelpful patterns in their relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKS:Website:  thrivingimperfectly.comInstagram: @thriving_imperfectlyTikTok: @thriving_imperfectly