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According To B
Author: Bokang Lehlokoe
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According to B is your go-to podcast for real talk with women who are ditching the rulebook and doing life their way. Hosted by Bokang Lehlokoe, it’s all about the messy middles, quiet wins, and bold moves behind the scenes. We’re not here for highlight reels - we’re here for who you’re becoming. Expect raw convos, big laughs, deep feels, and a reminder that living boldly beats living perfectly, every single time.
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This episode of According To B is in partnership with Bernini - the sparkling spritzer born from real wine.Who are you beyond praise? Beyond approval? Beyond productivity?This conversation is for the woman who has always done what was expected - and is now asking deeper questions. I sit down with Ursula Mariani and together, we explore what it means to outgrow versions of yourself that once kept you safe. From discipline and achievement to faith, conditioning, and authorship, Ursula shares how intellectual curiosity and emotional honesty can coexist - and how real freedom begins when you stop performing and start choosing.Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰UrsulaUrsula Mariani is a lecturer, PHD candidate voice-over artist, and the host of the podcast: The Conversation Capital, where she explores the power of dialogue as currency-in relationships, leadership, and identity. Known for her clarity of thought and grounded presence, Ursula has become a trusted voice in conversations around womanhood, conditioning, faith, and personal authorship.Her work sits at the intersection of intellect and introspection. Whether she’s in a lecture hall, behind a microphone, or leading nuanced discussions online, Ursula is committed to helping women question inherited expectations and consciously choose who they want to become.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro03:23 - Meet Ursula05:59 - Game: Toast or Ghost19:51 - Ursula on being a good girl growing up25:20 - The parts of herself Ursula left unexplored as a result of being a good girl27:09 - Dilemma34:11 - Ursula on growing into being independent and self-possessed36:39 - Ursula on honouring parents without living according to their will41:09 - The things Ursula has had to unlearn in the process of shedding 43:10 - The parts of herself that Ursula is only discovering now45:09 - The part of herself that Ursula is excited to step into more 47:52 - What younger Ursula would think of her now50:14 - Ursula receives her Breathe It In box51:16 - Outro✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang- https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestUrsula➜ Instagram: @ursulamariani -https://www.instagram.com/ursulamariani ➜TikTok: @ursulamariani- https://www.tiktok.com/@ursulamariani ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=ad35431e1c1a474d Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135 Castbox:https://castbox.fm/vh/5426930 ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Senamile DlaminiVideography: Looped Pictures Post Production: Looped Pictures
This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini-the sparkling spritzer born from real wine. What would the younger version of you think of your life today?In this episode, Gaisang Noge and I reflect on growth, dreams, disappointment, patience, and staying true to yourself in an industry and a world that often asks you to become someone else.This conversation is for anyone learning to trust their timing and honour their becoming.Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰GaisangGaisang Noge is a South African actress, media personality, and creative whose work reflects depth, versatility, and authenticity. Known for her powerful performances on screen, she brings emotional nuance and relatability to every role she inhabits- earning her recognition as one of her generation’s compelling talents.Beyond the spotlight, Gaisang’s journey is one of resilience, patience, and self-belief. From navigating rejection to trusting the timing of her dreams, she represents the woman who keeps going-even when the path feels uncertain. Her presence is both playful and grounded, proof that ambition and authenticity can coexist.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro02:25 - Meet Gaisang04:03 - Game: Toast or Ghost13:25 - Bokang surprises Gaisang with a 2016 throwback15:34 - Gaisang on losing and finding herself again21:03 - Gaisang on making her dream a reality22:51 - Gaisang’s first experience on set 26:33 - What kept Gaisang going in the waiting27:02 - The lesson God taught Gaisang before opening the doors31:13 - Gaisang on avoiding the pressure to always perform33:42 - The one thing that Gaisang is doing now, for future her 38:05 - Gaisang’s first half marathon 42:24 -Gaisang receives her Breathe It In box 43:22- Outro✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang- https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestGaisang➜ Instagram: @ms_noge -https://www.instagram.com/ms_noge ➜TikTok: @ms_noge7-https://www.tiktok.com/@ms_noge7✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=ad35431e1c1a474d Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135 Castbox:https://castbox.fm/vh/5426930 ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Senamile DlaminiVideography: Looped Pictures Post Production: Looped Pictures
Dating yourself doesn’t mean you’ve given up on love. It means you’ve decided to show up for your own life with intention. In this episode, lifestyle creator and podcaster Gugulethu Nyatsumba returns to the podcast for a grounded, honest conversation about what “dating yourself” really looks like beyond the quotes.We explore:The difference between being alone and living fullySolo dates, confidence, and emotional independenceHow your relationship with yourself shapes every other relationshipDating yourself while still desiring partnershipIf you’re learning how to enjoy your own company, build standards, and live with presence - this conversation is for you.Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰GugulethuGugulethu Nyatsumba popularly known as Sis G.U is a lifestyle content creator, podcaster, and digital storyteller known for her grounded presence and intentional approach to living. Through her platform, she shares reflections on faith, self-trust, solitude, and what it means to move through life at your own pace-without rushing to perform or impress.Her content resonates because it feels honest, Gugu embodies a quiet confidence rooted in self-awareness and emotional maturity. She represents a generation of women redefining independence- not as isolation, but as security within oneself.Through her work, she invites women to romanticise their own lives, embrace stillness, and trust that becoming is not something to rush.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro02:27 - Meet Gugu04:22 - The differences between Gugu in 2023 vs 202607:04 - Game: Toast or Ghost14:15 - What the definition of dating herself is for Gugu18:18 - Relationship check20:07 - Gugu on embodying how she can experience love on her own 22:56 - Gugu's love language to herself 26:25 - Gugu's favourite solo experiences28:53 - Gugu on solo travel35:13 - Gugu on being content single but still desiring partnership37:04 - The impact of self-love on how Gugu approaches dating 41:03 - Gugu on standing in her own way in relationships41:37 - Gugu's advice for anyone who wants to choose themselves45:48- Gugu receives her Breathe It In gift box47:04- Outro✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang- https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestGugulethu➜ Instagram: @gugulethu_nyatsumba -https://www.instagram.com/gugulethu_nyatsumba ➜TikTok: @gugulethu_nyatsumba-https://www.tiktok.com/@gugulethu_nyatsumba ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=ad35431e1c1a474d Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135 Castbox:https://castbox.fm/vh/5426930 ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Senamile DlaminiVideography: Looped Pictures Post Production: Looped Pictures
This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini- South Africa’s only real spritzer made from wine.The internet loves an It Girl-but what if the real flex is becoming the It Girl of your own life?In this episode, I’m joined by fashion, travel, and lifestyle creator Lwandile Makhaza popularly known as (The Fruity Chapters) to reclaim the It Girl from the algorithm and bring her back home.We unpack:Style, taste, and intentional livingHealth, routines, and discipline with softnessConfidence, visibility, and protecting your peaceCareer, creativity, and defining success on your own termsThis isn’t about aesthetics - it’s about authorship.Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰LwandileLwandile Makhaza, widely known as The Fruity Chapters, is a South African lifestyle and fashion content creator, storyteller, and creative entrepreneur who has cultivated a distinctive voice in digital culture. Through a refined yet deeply personal lens, she shares reflections on style, self-trust, discipline, and what it means to intentionally curate a life that feels aligned rather than performative.With an eye for aesthetics and a commitment to authenticity, Lwandile has built a community that resonates with her thoughtful approach to presence, confidence, and self-authorship. Her platform is not just about fashion or lifestyle-it’s about becoming. Becoming more grounded. More self-aware. More deliberate about the life you are building.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00- Intro01:19- About the conversation02:27- Meet Lwandile04:51- Game: Toast or Ghost11:00- What an IT girl is to Lwandile & Bokang14:23- Lwandile on how she deals with self-doubt15:44- How Lwandile overcomes the fear of doing16:31- Where Lwandile draws her inspiration from20:13- What Lwandile's current style says about the season she is in22:40- Biggest difference between pre 25 Lwandile and post 25 Lwandile24:38- What pushed Lwandile to prioritize her health32:22- Lwandile on being big on experiences40:42- Career growth and success for Lwandile45:48- How Lwandile deals with boundaries with work48:25- The one way Lwandile is committing to showing up for herself in 2026 50:53- Lwandile receives her Breathe It In gift box 51:31- Outro✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang- https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestLwandile➜ Instagram: @thefruitychapters -https://www.instagram.com/thefruitychapters➜TikTok: @thefruitychapters-https://www.tiktok.com/@thefruitychapters ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=ad35431e1c1a474d Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135 Castbox:https://castbox.fm/vh/5426930 ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Seanmile DlaminiVideography: Looped Pictures Post Production: Looped Pictures
This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini- the sparkling spritzer born from real wine. We live in a world that quietly teaches women to compete - over beauty, success, relationships, and even friendships. And sometimes, without realising it, that pressure seeps into the very relationships meant to hold us.In this episode of According to B, we’re choosing something different.I’m joined by best friends and Because We Said So podcast co-hosts Landzy Gama and Zama Marubelela (ZeeXOnline) for a deeply honest conversation about female friendship as refuge, grounding, and one of adulthood’s greatest love stories.Together, we unpack:How comparison and competition show up in women’s friendshipsWhat female friendship teaches us about love and becomingNavigating friendship breakups without villainsWhy our friends often become the true witnesses to our livesThis conversation is an invitation to slow down, soften, and savour the relationships that let us be messy, honest, and fully ourselves.Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOSTS ✰Zama & LandzyLandzy Gama and Zama Marubelele are best friends, Youtubers, content creators and the co-hosts of the podcast Because We Said So- a space beloved for its deeply relatable conversations about girlhood, friendship, love, and becoming. Known for their honesty, humour, and emotional openness, they’ve built a platform that feels like a safe place to land for women navigating adulthood in real time.What truly sets Landzy and Zama apart is the bond they share and the way they show up for each other- with softness, accountability, and care. Through their work, they remind women that friendship can be grounding, expansive, and life-shaping, and that choosing each other in a world that encourages comparison is a powerful act. Their journey reflects the beauty of growing together, speaking openly, and allowing friendship to be one of life’s greatest love stories.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00- Coming up01:21- About the conversation02:48- Meet Landzy & Zama04:10- Landzy & Zama on vlogging vs podcasting06:30- Game: Toast or Ghost13:09- Landzy & Zama: The advice queens13:59- Dilemma 123:52- Dilemma 227:51- What the end of a friendship has taught Landzy & Zama31:55- What Landzy & Zama have learnt about themselves from each other34:06- What friendship has given Landzy & Zama that romantic relationship hasn't37:06- Advise to the girls that have experienced friendship hurt39:54- Gifting Landzy & Zama their Breathe It In boxes40:51- Outro✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang- / sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- / thebword_za GuestZama➜ Instagram: @zeexonline-https://www.instagram.com/zeexonline ➜TikTok: @zeexonline- https://www.tiktok.com/@zeexonline Landzy➜ Instagram: @landzygama-https://www.instagram.com/landzygama➜TikTok: @landzygama- https://www.tiktok.com/@landzygama ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Seanmile DlaminiVideography: Looped Pictures Post Production: Looped Pictures
This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini - the sparkling spritzer born from real wine. A drink made for the women who choose to celebrate with each other. ✨So many women aren’t unhappy - they’re just on autopilot.Living lives they inherited, not ones they consciously chose.In this episode of According to B, I sit down with Amahle “Jaxx” Jaxa to talk about what it really looks like to move from survival mode into intentional authorship: shaping your work, relationships, and identity around what you actually want.Jaxx’s journey reminds us that choosing your life doesn’t always mean burning it all down. Sometimes it’s about editing with honesty, courage, and self-trust and giving yourself permission to become again and again.This episode forms part of the According to B x Bernini “Breathe It In” series - conversations centred on presence, reflection, and choosing life on your own terms.Watch, reflect, and join the conversation in the comments.Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Amahle JaxaAmahle “Jaxx” Jaxa is a media personality, cultural commentator, and creative entrepreneur who has become one of South Africa’s most compelling voices in digital media. Known for her sharp insight, wit, and ability to make complex social and political conversations feel accessible, Jaxx has built a platform rooted in honesty, relevance, and cultural awareness.From shaping influential spaces in nightlife and events to stepping into her own as a trusted commentator and host, Jaxx’s journey reflects courage, reinvention, and intentional authorship. She is committed to encouraging women to think critically, trust themselves, and take up space boldly-proving that clarity, curiosity, and conviction can coexist with authenticity and warmth.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up01:00 - Introducing the Breathe It In series02:33: - Meet Jaxx05:33 - Game: Toast or Ghost19:12 - Jaxx on authorship & autonomy22:54 - The year Jaxx chose to change her life 29:36 - Jaxx’s truth on dealing with imposte syndrome31:45: - Jaxx’s advice for someone feeling stuck or stagnant36:06: - Bokang and Jaxx talk navigating the 30’s42:52 - Life categories: Jaxx’s picks50:42 - Gifting Jaxx her Breathe It In basket52:02- Outro✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang- / sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- / thebword_za GuestJaxx➜ Instagram: @jaxxofalltrades_sa-https://www.instagram.com/jaxxofalltrades_sa➜TikTok: @jaxxofalltrades_sa- https://www.tiktok.com/@jaxxofalltrades_sa✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Seanmile DlaminiVideography: Looped Pictures Post Production: Looped Pictures
➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...✰ ABOUT ✰This one is close to my heart. In this episode, I sit down with two of my closest friends, Maliaka and Tshegetso, for a real and honest conversation about what friendship looks like in adulthood- the beautiful, the hard, and the in-between. We grew up watching rom-coms where the “best friend” character always had it all figured out, but real life doesn’t look like that. Between work, money, growing responsibilities, and trying to show up for ourselves, friendship can start to feel… complicated.So, we decided to talk about it–the distance that sometimes creeps in, the moments we’ve drifted, and the ways we’re learning to hold space for each other now that life isn’t as simple as it used to be.We also dive into:Why friendship feels harder as we get older. The difference between drifting apart and simply growing up. How money can shift the dynamic between friends.What showing up looks like in this season of our lives.Why sisterhood still matters-maybe now more than ever.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up00:43 - The best friend character in rom coms03:36 - Introducing Maliaka & Tshegetso05:27 - The girls meet cute stories 10:47 - Dilemma 1: Why is friendship so hard?12:38 -The challenges’s of friendship now vs in the early 20’s20:28 - Maliaka & Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma27:34 - What the girls miss about friendship then vs what they value now32:29 - Dilemma 2: When money changes friendship.33:38 - Maliaka and Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma41:30 - How necessary is it to be transparent about finances with friends?49:21 -The title and genre of the movie that Maliaka & Tshegetso are casting Bokang in52:23 - The post credit scene 55:22 - Afterthoughts✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga MadzivhandilaEditor: Palesa Radebe
➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...✰ ABOUT ✰In this powerful episode of According to B, Bokang sits down with Mpoomy Ledwaba to unpack what it really means to step into your main character energy in career, love, and life.From career pivots to redefining what “having it all” means, Mpoomy’s story is heartfelt and deeply relatable. Together, Bokang and Mpoomy dive into the lessons, leaps, and mindset shifts that come with choosing yourself boldly, even when life doesn’t follow a straight script.What you’ll hear in this episode:Embracing career pivots and nonlinear pathsBalancing ambition with love, family, and wellbeingBreaking out of “supporting role” expectations placed on womenRedefining success on your own termsListener dilemmas on career, starting over, and relationshipsHow to give yourself permission to rewrite your storyThis conversation will leave you inspired to trust your own journey, embrace your boldness, and script your next chapter with intention.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Mpoomy Ledwaba is a creative entrepreneur, podcaster, speaker, wife, and mom who has become one of South Africa’s most influential voices on faith, purpose, and intentional living. Known for her honesty and warmth, she has built a career rooted in redefining success on her own terms balancing ambition with love, family, and wellbeing.From boldly pursuing her passions, to growing her platform as a storyteller and businesswoman, Mpoomy’s journey reflects the beauty of nonlinear paths and bold pivots. She is committed to showing women that they don’t have to fit into traditional molds or “supporting roles”-they can lead, create, and thrive while still embracing softness and balance.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up00:58 - The Rom Com montage04:16 - Introducing Mpommy Ledwaba the main character05:35 - Mpoomy's career as a movie12:19 - Listeners dispatch:Career change uncertainty 16:19 - Mpoomy’s career pivots 20:34 - A lesson that Mpoomy learnt in the past that she applies today23:08 - Listeners Dispatch 2: Starting over without disappointing anyone30:17 - Giving yourself permission to outgrow a dream35:53 - Listeners Dispatch 3:Can I have it all?41:25 - How Mpoomy and her husband navigate their roles in their marriage46:13 - Closing credits 48:22 - The title of Mpoomy’s next chapter✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestMpoomy➜ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mpoomy_ledwaba ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@mpoomyledwaba ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Moe SonnyVideographer & Editor: Palesa Radebe
➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...✰ ABOUT ✰How do you give yourself permission to dream again? How do you stop playing small when it feels safer to shrink? And what does it look like to step into visibility not just in your career, but also in love?In this powerful episode, Tumelo Candice Sello (Formerly Candice Modiselle) returns to the podcast to unpack the mindset shifts, fears, and breakthroughs that come with embracing your main character energy and the accompanying mindset shift. Since her last appearance, Candice has stepped into a new chapter of life; she got married, deepened her walk in faith, and adopted a renewed mindset anchored in purpose. She shares what it looks like to release old versions of yourself, confront the fear of visibility, and boldly claim the life you know you’re meant to live. We dive into: The danger of waiting for permission vs. choosing yourself Playing small, self-sabotage & unlearning “it’s not possible for me” Moving from survival mode to possibility modeRedefining love as agency from waiting to be chosen to choosing yourselfThe turning points that help you step into your soft, bold, authentic lifeThis conversation is about reinvention, courage, and becoming the main character in your own story not tomorrow, not when everything is perfect, but right now.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Tumelo Candice Sello (formerly known as Candice Modiselle) is a creative entrepreneur, storyteller, and speaker whose journey embodies reinvention and bold authenticity. With a background spanning stage, screen, and business, Tumelo has become a trusted voice for women navigating visibility, purpose, and faith. Beyond her career, she is deeply passionate about conversations that empower others to shed fear, embrace growth, and step fully into who they are meant to be.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up01:11 - Rom com maincharacter breakdown03:36 - She’s bacckkkkkk04:26 - Check in05:42 - Genre check06:59 -The title of this season of Candice’s life08:06 - Candices top 3 characters in her life right now09:55 - The fatal flaw 13:19 - The difference between 20’s Candice and 30’s Candice19:30 - Listeners dispatch 1: The creative that shrinks herself/plays small21:08 - The ways in which Candice has played small23:23 - Candices response to the dilemma33:39 - Candices advice to someone who is afraid to start over 37:07 - How Candice is handling Tumelo Selo vs Candice Modiselle38:40 - Listeners Dispatch 2: Waiting to be chosen39:36 - Candices response to the dilemma47:54 - Candices past experience shrinking herself in romantic relationships51:25 - Healthy compromise vs settling 56:35 - Closing credits 57:59 - Post credits ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestCandice➜ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/candicemodiselle ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@candicemodiselle ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Videographer & Editor: Palesa Radebe
What would your life look like if it was the opening scene of a rom-com? For me, that question went from a fleeting thought to a full-on experiment. In this very first episode of According to B: Rom-Com Edition, I share how I decided to flip the script on my own life and start living with main character energy.From childhood weekends spent at the movies, to being raised on the glossy promises of early 2000s romantic comedies, I talk about the unrealistic expectations they planted in us and the reality check of what 30 actually looks like. Spoiler alert: no magazine corner office, no perfect meet-cute, just a lot of Netflix, Uber Eats, and scrolling LinkedIn.But then came the shift: what if the only thing standing between side character energy and leading lady energy was audacity? Inspired by the bold, sometimes delusional choices of rom-com heroines like Jenna Rink, Eva Dandridge, and Elle Woods - I decided to create my own plot twist. Thus, The Rom-Com Experiment was born.In this episode, I break down what it means to give yourself permission to dream again, why audacity is the bridge between who you are and who you want to be, and how to start taking those baby steps toward a life you don’t just love, but actually live.Plus, I share voice notes from you—the community—about your own rom-com opening scenes and audacious dreams, and we dive into lessons on romanticizing the everyday, saying yes to the scary stuff, and daring to believe in possibilities again.This is the start of a new chapter, not just for me, but for all of us. So grab your popcorn, your notebook, maybe even your favorite lip gloss, and let’s step into the role we were meant to play: the heroine of our own stories.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro00:31 - How the world of movies and TV influenced my childhood01:21 - The early 2000’s rom com era 02:28 - Realistic check-in on my life05:02 - The active re-write of my life07:39 - The rom-com experiment10:51 - Having audacity 12:15 - Listener's dispatch 1: Dealing with disappointment 15:53 - Listener's dispatch 2: Finding the courage to take a leap18:03 - Listener's dispatch 3: The audacious creative entrepreneur18:47 - Listener's dispatch 4: Unapologetically bold21:49 - Follow my rom-com(ish) series on my personal social media 22:21 - Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com
In this episode of According to B, I sit down with Litha Meyile Choi—a South African-born content creator and influencer now based in South Korea—who shares her incredible story of starting over, boldly chasing her dreams, and building a new life from scratch.In the midst of unemployment Litha packed her bags and moved across the world to teach English in Korea. With no backup plan, no clear roadmap, and very little certainty, she chose to take the leap anyway. What followed was a journey of resilience, self-discovery, love, and bold reinvention.In this conversation, Litha shares what it really took to start over—from the fears and uncertainties to the faith that kept her going. She takes us through the highs and lows of:Leaving home and building a life in a completely new countryMaking a bold career pivot from teaching to full-time content creationNavigating love and identity in an intercultural relationshipGrowing her brand, working with global companies, and staying grounded in her purposeEmbracing discomfort, choosing herself, and redefining what it means to live boldlyIf you’ve ever felt stuck, scared to start over, or unsure of what’s next—this episode is your sign that the bold life is possible.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Litha Meyile Choi Litha is a content creator, digital storyteller, and former teacher who has built a thriving platform as a full-time influencer in South Korea. Originally from South Africa, Litha moved abroad in her early twenties with no clear plan—just a deep desire for change and growth. Since then, she has become a sought-after voice in the lifestyle and beauty space, known for her authenticity, elegance, and boldness. Whether she’s partnering with global brands, sharing her intercultural love story, or encouraging her audience to take risks and embrace reinvention, Litha brings warmth, relatability, and courage to everything she does.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00-Intro00:35-Coming up02:10- Litha the waaaaaf03:12- 10 out of 10 recommend12:49-Bokang and Litha reflect on their post graduate aspirations14:04-Litha’s experience with a fortune teller15:13-Litha’s unemployment period 17:19-The moment Litha realized that her life needs to change22:47-The power of putting yourself out there24:25-Culture shocks Litha experienced27:26-How Litha built her community 29:02-Litha’s moments of regret/confidence in her choice to move 33:32-How Litha’s journey as a content creator started 35:44- Litha’s popular TikTok feature-make up Saturdays37:12-Litha’s dating journey in Korea43:45-How Litha met her husband 48:00-How Korean women navigate the dating scene49:31-Litha’s future in Korea52:07-Litha’s success as a South African content creator in Korea55:41-Litha’s advice the person in a dark place59:31-Afterthoughths✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestLitha➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lithameyilechoi➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@lithameyilechoi ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga MadzivhandilaEditor: Mbali Nzaka
In this week's episode of According To B, I sit down with Stephanie Ndlovu and Petronella Tshuma — actresses, mothers, storytellers, and real ones.We’re talking about motherhood — the parts we don’t often say out loud. The parts that are beautiful. The parts that are hard. And everything in between.We talk about what it really means to become a mother, how your identity shifts, the guilt, the love, and how you rebuild yourself in the process. But this episode isn’t just for mothers — it’s for:The women who are raising childrenThe ones who are still figuring it outAnd the ones who know motherhood might not be for themIt’s honest, vulnerable, funny, and full of grace. This one’s for all the women — wherever you are on your journey.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOSTS ✰Stephanie NdlovuStephanie is an actress, writer, content producer. MTV SAF Co-Chair. MC. who has graced South African screens for over a decade. Known for her roles in Scandal and MTV Shuga, and other acclaimed projects, she is also co-host of Friendship Frequency with her best friend of over a decade Petronella Tshuma and The Ndlovu’s Uncut, a YouTube series with her husband. Petronella TshumaPetronella is a multi-award-winning actress, co-host of the Friendship Frequency podcast and businesswoman. She is best known for her gripping performances in films like Of Good Report and TV shows such as Rhythm City, Scandal, Hustle, Mzansi Love, Sokhulu & Partners and 90 Plein Street. With a fearless approach to both her craft and her voice, Petronella is not only a powerhouse on screen but also a passionate advocate for authenticity, healing, and storytelling that reflects the real lives of women.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro01:56 - Coming up03:39 - Meet Friendship Frequency08:05 - 10/10 Recommend 17:06 - Stephanie and Petronella introduce their children18:11 - What Petronella and Stephanie were not prepared for in motherhood21:50 - Myth or reality: Motherhood pushes your career back23:29 - The impact of motherhood on career aspirations26:26 - Creating balance as moms and working women 29:25 - Myth or reality: Your body will never be the same after having kids 30:28 - Petronella and Stephanie's relationship with their post-baby bodies34:49 - Dealing with unsolicited post baby body comments37:54 - Learning to accept the post-baby body42:37 - Myth or reality: Becoming a mom means losing your old self45:50 - The grieving process of letting go of the old you49:20 - The post baby growth53:42 - Myth or reality: Moms automatically become the primary default parent 55:49 - Is there room for mothers to be honest about motherhood?01:01:07 - Myth or reality: Kids will fix your relationship01:02:40 - How did having a child change the relationship dynamic in marriage: Stephanie 01:05:26 - Lessons of dating as a single mom: Petronella01:08:45 - What romance looks like post having kids01:14:19 - Advice to women who are uncertain about becoming moms01:20:02 - Where to find Petronella and Stephanie on social media01:20:49 - Afterthoughts✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za Stephanie➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miss_sandows ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@officialstephaniendlovu Petronella ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petronella_tshuma ➜ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@petronellatshuma ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga MadzivhandilaEditor: Nelani Majozi
In this week's episode of According To B, I sit down with the iconic Nonhle Thema—a woman whose name is etched into the early fabric of South African pop culture.In this raw and powerful conversation, Nonhle opens up like never before, taking us through her meteoric rise to fame, the pressures that came with it, her very public fall, and the infamous social media meltdown that followed. But this episode is not just about the fall—it's about growth, accountability, healing, and transformation.Nonhle shares how those deeply human experiences shaped the woman she is today and the woman she continues to become. From red carpets to rock bottom and back, her story is a testament to resilience, reinvention, and what it means to truly own your narrative.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Nonhle Thema is a South African media personality, actress, and entrepreneur who first rose to fame as a presenter on Channel O's O-Access and Vuzu's V Entertainment. She later starred in her own reality show, Nonhle Goes to Hollywood, and appeared in popular series like Zabalaza and Gomora.After a period away from the spotlight, Nonhle has made a significant comeback, embracing a more purpose-driven path. She now leads manifestation seminars, sharing her journey and the power of aligning with one's purpose. Additionally, she runs the Talent Coaching Academy, mentoring aspiring talents in public speaking, TV presenting, and personal branding.Beyond her media and coaching work, Nonhle has ventured into entrepreneurship with her fragrance line, Precious Ivy, and her production company, Nonhle Thema Productions. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00- Coming up02:31- Intro04:06- 10/10 Recommend11:00- Who is Nonhle12:46- A message to younger Nonhle15:25- The inception of Nonhle’s career:Channel O23:32- The trajectory of Nonhle’s career32:45- Nonhle: South Africa's first IT GIRL38:23- The cost of being an IT GIRL41:37- Game: OG IT GIRL vs modern day IT GIRL45:59- Nonhle’s reality TV show48:44- The beginning of Nonhle’s social media meltdown52:16- The impact of the meltdown on Nonhle’s spiritual growth54:42- How the meltdown impacted Nonhle’s mental health01:02:07- Nonhle’s relationship with social media today01:15:57- The legacy Nonhle wants to leave create01:22:11-Afterthoughts ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za Nonhle➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nonhle_thema ➜ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NonhleThema ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga MadzivhandilaVideographer: Tshegetso Moepi and Denga MadzivhandilaEditor: Nelani Majozi
I wasn’t sure I’d share this part of my story — I was really tempted to go straight into the interviews and conversations for the new season. But then I remembered the kind of space I’ve always wanted to hold: honest, unfiltered, and deeply human. And that means I have to be willing to show up in that same way too.The past two years have been the most difficult of my life. Burnout. Health scares. Chronic pain. Starting over — not once, but over and over again. And yet, these years have also been the most formative. They shaped the woman I am today.So today’s video isn’t just a life update. It’s a return to self. A return to story.A heart-to-heart about healing, growing up, finding my voice again — and all the quiet battles you don’t see behind the scenes.For the girls healing quietly. For the ones starting over.If you’re figuring it out one honest step at a time, I see you.You’re not alone. We’re growing through it together 🤍✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00- Coming up01:11- Intro01:22- Why I took a break06:21- Creating a life outside of social media10:06- The job hunt12:24- The breakthrough15:53- The plot twist-I fell ill21:32- The impact on my mental health22:01- Living by faith: 23:01- The job loss:23:42- Lifestyle changes26:12- Revaluating my life27:43- The place of acceptance28:29- The silver lining31:20- Moving out of home:33:34- The journey back to YouTube34:42- A new era of A2B 36:49- The state of my health now39:27- Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?l... The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za?igsh=YXhteGE3cWxoc3k3 ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com
Okay so a lot is changing… Including me! Y’all, its been way too long – 9 months to be exact - since we last chatted but According to B is officially BACK and needless to say we have a lot to catch up on!
Believe it or not, your girl has officially entered the last year of her twenties and as you can imagine I have a lot of feelings about it. But don’t worry, today we get into all that as well as what a transformative time the lead up to turning 29 has been.
We break down:
- Big changes to this podcast
- The transformation that happens in your late 20s
- The pressure & uncertainty of the early 20s
- What it means to pivot
- Listener’s Dispatch (Your experiences on your
early 20s vs late 20s)
- The biggest learnings & growth points in my
journey
- Late bloomer success stories
- What’s next?
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang
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Thank you for tuning in. Catch you next week! x
✰ ABOUT ✰
In this week's episode I sit down with Thandi Gama to talk about intentional dating. Thandi shares what her dating experience has been like thus far and what intentional dating means to her. We discuss the values we looks for in a partner, navigating creating boundaries in a romantic relationships, how to navigate dating apps for better results and re-shaping our minds and relational expectations.
✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Thandi Gama is a South African lifestyle content creator and entrepreneur. She is well known for her YouTube channel, where elegant meets laid back and her apartment living Instagram page which she shares with her sister and fellow content creator showcasing how they style their apartments/homes. She has worked with multiple high-end brands in her capacity as a content creator and has amassed a large following as a result.
✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang
The B Word
➜ Instagram:@thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/
➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...
Thandi
➜Instagram: https://instagram.com/thandigama?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA=
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thandigama?lang=en
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Thandi_Gama/status/1489164230091808770?lang=en
✰ LISTEN ON ✰
Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32 g73Q9a gjbU_VbORXw
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to- b/id1686532135
Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medi um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb
✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: thebwordofficial@gmail.com
Calling all dreamers and purpose chasers! This week is a bit of a different episode because first and foremost its a collaboration with Spotify Africa! Spotify invited me to record a podcast episode at their pop-up Greasy Tunes café and of course I said yes. This episode also has a video available to it so you can watch the conversation only here on Spotify if you'd like!
✰ ABOUT ✰
In this week’s episode I sit down with my friend and the co-producer of According To B Tshegetso! We talk about the reality of following a dream and aspiring to live in our purpose. Both Tshegetso and I share our experiences of being creators, what taking a chance on ourselves has looked like, the role that God has played in continuing to prepare us for more, some mistakes we have made along the way, whether we feel like we are living in our purpose or not and what has kept us going even in the midst of uncertainty.
✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Tshegetso is a podcaster, content writer and producer. As a content writer and producer here at The B Word she is part of a team of women behind the camera who is adding her unique voice to the stories we tell on this platform. Tshegetso has years of experience creating different kinds of content for different kinds of broadcasting spaces. Her podcast A Cup Full encourages listeners to prioritise their well-being and find sustainable ways to consistently show up for themselves and others in the in-betweens of life. It is filled with relatable conversation, empowering stories, experiences, lessons and plenty of wisdom.
✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/
➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...
Tshegetso
➜ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tshege_mo?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
➜ Tik Tok: www.tiktok.com/@acupfull
✰ LISTEN ON ✰
Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32g73Q9a gjbU_VbORXw
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to- b/id1686532135
Castbox:
https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medi um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb
✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: thebwordofficial@gmail.com
✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi
Videographer: Maxine Araujo
Editor: Mbali Nzaka
Get in girls! We’re getting vulnerable and talking about loneliness in the 20’s with Foyin OG aka Foyinla (and yes, she's here to fix our lives)!
✰ ABOUT ✰
In this weeks episode I sit down with Foyin OG to talk about navigating loneliness in the twenties. Foyin shares what her experience have been with loneliness, how it has affected her relationship with herself and others, what navigating it has looked like and how she has had to adjust her expectations to the realities of it..
✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Foyin is a beauty, life and lifestyle digital creator and podcaster. She is also the founder of #7days7faces, an interactive and fun online space to create unique make-up looks with opportunities to win prizes. Foyin has years of experience creating relatable, fun and unique content and has worked with multiple brands.
Her podcast As Told By OG, chronicles lessons on love, life, pop-culture, and navigating the 20 somethings. It is filled with so much relatable conversation, thought provoking ideas, gems of wisdom and a little bit of banter.
✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang
The B Word
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Foyin
➜Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foyinog/?hl=en
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@foyinog
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/foyinog
✰ LISTEN ON ✰
Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32g73Q9a gjbU_VbORXw
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to- b/id1686532135
Castbox:
https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medi um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb
✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: thebwordofficial@gmail.com
✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi
Videographer: Maxine Araujo
Editor: Bokang Lehlokoe
This one is for everyone trying to successfully navigate adult friendships👩❤️💋👩
✰ ABOUT ✰
We’re back for another episode of According To B and my co-host for this one is fellow YouTuber, podcaster and creative entrepreneur Gugulethu Nyatsumba popularly known as Sis G.U! Join us as we talk all about adult friendships and her experiences navigating them. We also discuss adjusting to changing friendship dynamics, the importance of communication, space and healthy boundaries.
Gugulethu expresses her views on learning to evolve together and preserving the love in friendship, shares how being in community with other women saved her life, speaks on the importance of needing space in her friendships,how to create healthy and long lasting boundaries and why communication is necessary for the survival of friendship.
✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Gugulethu Nyatsumba is a South African social media influencer, YouTuber and podcaster. She is known for her relatable, empowering and fun content coupled with a powerful and perfect voice for broadcasting voice; Nyatsumba has won the hearts of many. Her podcast After School is After School was inspired by her YouTube channel Uncomfortable Growth where many enjoyed her highly sought after/unique voice and she also saw an opportunity to translate her videos into a podcast. (She has also worked with multiple high-end brands in her capacity as a social media influencer.) Both her podcast and YouTube channel focus on topics relating to navigating the turbulence and fun of the twenties
✰ TIME STAMPS ✰
00:00 - Intro
02:56 - Understanding the origins of the name SIS GU
04:12 - About The Assembly
06:47 - What friendship means to Gugu
07:59 - How important friendship is to Gugu
12:40 - Sustaining a good friendship
16:19 - Outgrowing friendships
21:16 - Adjusting expectations in friendship
24:20 - Making new friends in adulthood
28:07 - Romantic relationship changing the friendship dynamic
32:29 - Comparison and envy in friendship
37:53 - How the girls should be pouring into their friendships
40:56 - Question for Gugu from the co-producer
44:47 - Where to find Gugu on social media
45:23 - Outro
✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/
➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...
Gugulethu
➜ Instagram: https://instagram.com/gugulethu_nyatsumba?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Guugu_lethu?s=20
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gugulethu_nyatsumba?_t=8cUxBFbyoEA&_r=1
✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: thebwordofficial@gmail.com
✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi
Videographer: Maxine Araujo
Editor: Nelani Majozi
Calling all Rom-Com lovers!
✰ ABOUT ✰
The first episode of According To B is here and my co-host for this episode is none other than the nation's songbird Shekhinah! Join us as we talk all about romantic comedies and how this film genre has impacted our expectations and perception of love and romance, and whether what we saw in the movies can and matches up to real life.
Shekhinah expresses her views on romanticism, spills the tea on her favourite romantic comedy movies, breaks down her favourite rom-com tropes, how her views on love has evolved over throughout her twenties, what the experience of falling in love with herself and healing has been for her and she even builds her own perfect rom com!
✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Shekhinah is a South African RNB & pop; singer/songwriter who first captured the souls of many during her time on South African Idols over two seasons. She has released multiple hit songs including Back to the Beach, Suited, Fixate, Let You Know and Please Mr. Her soulful and timeless debut album Rose Gold won the hearts of many South Africans and continues to. She has also won multiple South African music awards including Album of the Year and female artist of the year for her album Rose Gold. She is also the founder of Rosefest, a festival focused on uplifting women in the South African music industry.
✰ TIME STAMPS ✰
00:00 - Intro
00:54 - Welcome To According To B
03:31 - Bokang introduces Shekhinah
05:30 - Shekhinah's favourite roms coms
14:30 - Breaking down romantic comedy tropes
26:28 - Lets talk love: 21 year old Shekhinah vs 28 year old Shekhinah
31:00 - Season of being single, healing and shadow work
35:19 - Shekhinah's new music
37:55 - Build your own rom com
41:58 - Afterthoughts
44:55 - Outro
✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/
➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...
Shekhinah
➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shekhinahd/
➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/shekhinahd
✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: thebwordofficial@gmail.com
✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi
Videographer: Maxine Araujo
Editor: Nelani Majozi




