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© Christina Stabile
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Some are meant to be guides, some are meant to be sparks- that’s me! Helping you REMEMBER something that has held you back one crazy story at a time. “Out there” ideas in real life. Sharing totally relatable connections to Spirit, healing and parenting. 🙏♥️✨
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"Mommy look!" "Mommy play with me!" "MOMMYYY!"...
My recent overwhelm had me so triggered that I knew there was more to it...and I was SHOCKED to finally figure out why...
So many of us did not get what we needed physically and/or emotionally growing up.
The wounds either has some of us doing the same, orrrr has us overcompensating and constantly pouring from an empty cup being "everything we needed"...
The childhood shadow that many of us are carrying that is triggering us when we simply can't do it all...
What to do for your inner child as well as teaching "Spoon Theory" to yourself and your kid so they don't own what others do/don't do like I did.
My kid runs up to me crying that he was told "he couldn't play" by another kid...
My ego was feeling pressure to defend and "fix" it for him, my healed heart felt differently and to be honest, I hated both answers!
We took a route that I definitely never got as a kid, and I could not believe how awesome it turned out...
I noticed my husband being “slightly irritated” with our kid (AND me!) recently, and it didn't make sense to me…
One question at an ice cream parlor finally unlocked how much deeper it was than it seemed.
Real-life ways to spot a shadow in yourself and others
How to "integrate" and embrace your shadow
The missing piece of healing that many of us miss once we discover our shadows
I was feeling "crazy"...EVERYTHING was getting on my last nerve...
After all the healing I had done, wth was going on here??
The connection of our hormones to healing and consciousness that I wish someone would have told me about...
Major things to look out for and DO that NO ONE talks about...
The struggle of getting out the damn door is real.
We are all in this constant state of rushing to get to somewhere, to get something done, to get...out of our present.
-The core reason that I was SHOCKED to find out
-How to know it is happening to YOU
-Real-life ways to get out of this stressful loop and live more mindfully
Oh damn...
There was a situation recently that I "thought" I had a handle on. I've done a bunch of healing work; I know what to do!
I was wrong.
Our ego can "trick" us into missing the main piece of TRUE healing...
How to know if you are THINKING or actually FEELING your emotions
Why FEELING is different and crucial
Real-life ways to help you get there especially if you've been taught to stuff your emotions down (like me!)
I thought I had worked on my control issues from trauma but then I got sick, really sick.
There were some loose ends that didn't make it into my awareness until I literally couldn't do the things I liked to control!
Surprising real-life ways control shows up (one I had no idea I was doing too)
The major childhood wound it is attached to and how to re-process it to break the pattern of NEEDING to control...
Holy @%&*...
Received a question: A viewer's 7-year-old is teaching his 4-year-old brother awesome inappropriate stuff (curse words, middle fingers, guns, etc) that he is now teaching his preschool class...she is getting more and more triggered...what can we do??
A ("slightly controversial") 3 step process that has helped with my kid (not just for now but the long-run)
Uncovering WHY it is so triggering as a parent, real-life ways to help get you out of that loop
Super surprising research on "curse words" that help re-frame and shift our thinking which helps with conditioned triggers as well
There was a weird reaction that was always coming up for me when I had something to discuss with others in my life- with my husband, friends/family and even with my kid.
If you experienced invalidation and/or gaslighting growing up, this might be showing up for you too.
What's really happening, real-life ways to heal and stop doing that crap...
You've been healing, doing all the "things" to be the parent (and person) you needed but didn't have...awesome!
Then something happens one day, and your child is facing something that once hurt YOU too.
This could be anything from a "reactive" parenting moment (like you had), to facing a divorce (like you did)...
Why these have more impact on YOU.
Real-life ways to help your inner child and integrate a shadow that may be coming up while helping it NOT become trauma to your own child.
Many of us were not seen/heard/treated in the ways we needed growing up.
I lived as a seasoned "Injustice Collector" for a majority of my life. This wound transports us back to whatever happened and however we feel about it, EVERY TIME we remember it- rage, frustration, disgust…continuing to wreck our PRESENT.
The psychological reason our brain WANTS to stay there...
Real-life ways it shows up and a surprising (totally DOABLE) way to get out of the cycle.
Even in 2nd grade, my kid was having issues with kids making comments and remarks that were changing how he saw things and making HIM feel the need to change.
He, like every one of us, was going to be faced with others PROJECTING...
We can't control what WE or our kids will face, but we can teach why others REALLY do what they do, and how to stay empowered while still having compassion.
We all want our partner to heal, to see and treat us from a healed space, right? But if your partner (or someone very close to you) knew you BEFORE healing, this may be sitting in the background of your relationship too.
We took our kid on a trip recently and my husband was getting so ANNOYED at everything and I wondered “what is wrong with HIM?”!
I never thought it could be this…
Real life ways to help BOTH sides heal and grow TOGETHER.
You want to really know where you’re at with healing and conscious parenting? Go to Disney with extended family and your kid... to add a little “spice”, I went with a parent that I went no-contact with for a while…it brought up trauma, boundaries and old baggage but not in the way you might think. Maybe this place really is magical…
I had no idea what Sensory Overload REALLY was until I became a parent.
There is also an additional sensory issue that affects at least 20% of us (me included!) on a daily basis that I was SHOCKED to know was even a thing...
The kicker: "healing" isn't enough when your nervous system reacts this way, having this PLAN has helped me AND my kid stay close and conscious while still getting needs met.
Right in time for the holidays...hooray!!
We've all been there- NOT okay with something, NOT comfortable, but we don't know what to do...
Why this happens to so many of us (I was there too!) WHO and when to use spoken/communicated boundaries with and when NOT to (there’s a difference! And you can still hold the boundary!). And a real method to help you shift the situation to get your needs met without throwing turkey legs across the table...
Our kid forgot something on the way to school the other morning…which led to a super awesome power struggle circus that so many of us have been in both as adults and growing up as a kid.
How to tell the difference between care vs control and figuring out if your shadows are unconsciously calling the shots...
We just lost our beloved dog recently and I thought my heart was going to rip right out of my chest.
And there is my 7 year old watching what to do in a crisis/loss...
So many issues came up with my ego, my beliefs, my spirituality and my healing.
The surprising way to view sadness that completely changed my own perspective and experience.
Real life ways to help you process guilt, loss, and deep sadness.
Did you know there is real science that shows that stress/trauma and other factors affect how our body reads our DNA sequence...and get this- from at least TWO generations before you?? And we can CHANGE it???
My mother dropped (yet another) family bombshell with me recently and how it can lead to healing much more than we ever imagined...
Trauma with food does not have to be just from being starved and/or resulting in an eating disorder (although it definitely can). I have been called a "picky/weird eater" by many family members and friends. Maybe you are that person too...
While there is nothing wrong with having preferences, something surprising happened between my kid and I that opened up more than I realized.
Real-life examples of how food trauma can show up that many of us miss (especially as PARENTS) and how to change unhealthy patterns for you and your kids.
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