Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast

Sometimes self-care feels impossible when life demands everything from us, and that's when we need it most. In this raw and honest episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda dive into one of the hardest questions moms face: How do we take care of ourselves when others need us more? From navigating terminal illness and anticipatory grief to solo parenting four kids through sickness and cold weather, this conversation gets real about guilt, shortcuts, and the mental load of trying to do it all. If you've ever felt selfish for taking a moment for yourself while others are struggling, this episode is for you.In this episode, you'll hear:Why self-care feels selfish when you're caring for sick or struggling loved ones and how to reframe that guiltHow to take meaningful shortcuts without sacrificing your sanity (hello, skipping pajamas and porridge for dinner!)The difference between being selfish and setting realistic expectations when you're overwhelmedWhy "taking care of yourself too" can feel impossible when someone else's need feels greater than yoursHow to identify who your priority "family" is during crisis seasons and why that mattersWays to combine self-care with caring for others so your cup gets filled while you're still showing upWhat anticipatory grief looks like and why it makes self-care even harder to prioritizeSelf-care doesn't have to be solo or scheduled to count. Whether you're reading while the house gets messier, sharing time with your child during spooky season, or showing up for aging parents while barely holding it together yourself, this episode is a reminder that you're not selfish for needing care too. Jill and Linda get vulnerable about the weight of responsibility, the shortcuts that save them, and why we have to stop waiting for permission to take care of ourselves—even in the hardest seasons.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required!👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Parenting a thirteen-year-old for the first time feels completely different than parenting your four two-year-old—and that's exactly the point. In this vulnerable episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda explore how self-care shifts and evolves through every stage of motherhood, from pregnancy loss and postpartum preparation to managing preteens, kindergarteners, and everything in between. Through personal stories of hospital scares, garden overwhelm, and the messy reality of trying to control the uncontrollable, they remind us that sometimes the best self-care is simply letting go.In this episode, you'll learn:How self-care needs change dramatically across different parenting stages (and why that's completely normal)Why trying to control too much in motherhood can actually dampen your self-care effortsThe unique challenges of managing multiple ages at once—from preteens leaving empty food packets everywhere to toddlers needing constant attentionHow to navigate self-care during intense seasons: pregnancy, loss, health crises, and emotional heavinessWhy "structured self-care" isn't always the answer—sometimes it's about vegging out on the couch with a bookHow to prepare for postpartum self-care when you've been through it before and know what you needThe power of having a go-to self-care list when you're too overwhelmed to think clearlyWhy giving yourself understanding and grace is essential when parenting any age for the first timeMotherhood doesn't come with a manual, and neither does self-care through its many stages. Whether you're dealing with difficult school drop-offs, preteen messes, pregnancy worries, or just trying to squeeze in half a page of reading before falling asleep, this episode validates the reality that every stage brings new challenges—and new opportunities to care for yourself differently. Jill and Linda's honest conversation reminds you that it's okay when things don't go as planned, and that sometimes the best thing you can do is dance it out, take it one day at a time, and remember: this is the first time you're parenting this exact child at this exact age.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required!👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Sometimes self-care doesn’t look like what we planned, and that’s okay. In this heartfelt episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda open up about exhaustion, disappointment, and the emotional tug-of-war between expectations and reality. From overpacked schedules and shifting bedtime routines to learning how to “read the room” with your energy, this conversation gets real about what happens when your self-care just doesn’t go the way you hoped and how to show yourself grace in the middle of it.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why self-care can sometimes feel disappointing and what that really meansHow to shift expectations without giving up entirelyWhat “reading the room” looks like for your own energy and capacityHow comparison sneaks into self-care and feeds disappointmentWhy small, intentional moments (like watching your child thrive) still countWays to redefine success in your self-care journeySelf-care doesn’t have to be perfect to be powerful. Whether you’re skipping a workout to rest, choosing frozen pizza over a full meal, or celebrating the small wins, this episode is a reminder that your needs matter - even when life gets messy. Jill and Linda invite you to stop measuring your self-care against expectations and start giving yourself the grace to do what you can, when you can. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

The old saying “it takes a village to raise a child” feels harder than ever in today’s world of busy schedules, full calendars, and endless responsibilities. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda talk highs and lows, the loneliness that can come with motherhood, and the creative ways moms can reimagine community -even when neighbors no longer just “pop by.” From navigating school transitions to finding support in unexpected places, this conversation is all about redefining what a modern-day village looks like.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why highs and lows often happen in the same day and how that emotional “sandwich” feels for momsHow school schedules, activities, and jobs make building community harder than everWhy asking for help is tricky and how to make it easierHow guilt and pressure keep moms from accepting supportThe idea of a “village order form” that takes the decision fatigue out of asking for helpCreative ways moms can team up to share the load (from folding laundry to meal prep playdates) Motherhood was never meant to be a solo act and yet, too many moms are carrying the load alone. Jill and Linda remind us that building a village doesn’t have to look perfect or traditional. Sometimes it’s as simple as one friend showing up to fold laundry, share dinner in the park, or prep meals side by side. If you’ve been craving more support, this episode will leave you with both solidarity and fresh ideas for how to invite community back into your life.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

What happens when perfectionism sneaks into self-care? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda unpack the tension between wanting everything “just right” and the messy reality of motherhood. From waiting for the perfect moment to spiraling into guilt when plans fall apart, they share raw reflections on how perfectionism holds us back and what it looks like to embrace imperfection instead.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why perfectionism and vulnerability don’t play well togetherHow high expectations set us up for frustration and burnoutThe hidden trap of waiting for “perfect timing” before doing self-careWhy nature and movement are powerful (and imperfect) forms of self-careHow rest, even when unplanned, counts as real self-careSimple ways to reset when self-care doesn’t go as planned Self-care isn’t about picture-perfect timing or flawless execution; it’s about meeting yourself where you are. Jill and Linda remind us that sometimes the most powerful form of care is letting go of expectations and embracing the imperfect options in front of you. If you’ve ever delayed self-care because the stars didn’t align, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and take the pressure off. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Parenting, loss, school transitions, sleepless nights, sometimes it all collides at once. In this raw and honest episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda talk openly about the weight of maternal burnout. From disrupted nights and defiant kids to the impossible juggle of family, work, and self-care, they share the highs, lows, and the messy middle that so many moms live through.In this episode, you’ll learn:How grief, school transitions, and daily stress compound into burnoutWhy disrupted sleep leaves moms feeling like they can’t ever “catch up”The difference between early motherhood burnout and maternal burnout later onThe hidden pressure of overscheduled kids and family routinesWhy letting things slide can actually be a form of self-careHow to prioritize your needs when family always feels like the top valueWhy burnout is a signal, not a failure Maternal burnout isn’t just exhaustion, it’s the buildup of unrelenting pressure, grief, and responsibilities that leave little space for you. Jill and Linda remind us that you’re not alone in this struggle, and sometimes the first step in self-care is simply naming the burnout out loud. If you’re feeling stretched too thin, may this episode be your reminder that something has to give - and that it’s okay if it’s not you. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Screens are everywhere - our phones, our kids’ devices, the endless noise of background TV - and sometimes it feels impossible to step away. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda get real about the messy, imperfect process of setting digital boundaries for themselves and their kids. From bedtime routines to doom-scrolling traps, they share the highs, lows, and lessons of trying to find balance between technology and true self-care.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why screen time can feel both like a lifesaver and an energy drain for momsHow Jill and Linda handle screen time differently with toddlers, tweens, and teensThe role of boundaries in protecting your peace, especially around noise and overstimulationWhy digital boundaries are self-care, not just rulesSimple strategies like “Do Not Disturb” mode, non-digital self-care blocks, and limiting device accessHow to reframe screen use into intentional connection and creativityDigital boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace and being intentional with how screens show up in your family life. Whether it’s cutting off phone use at night, making space for non-digital self-care, or navigating kids’ ever-growing appetite for technology, Jill and Linda remind us that boundaries create room for more presence, calm, and connection.  Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Boundaries - so simple to say, yet so messy to live out. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda dive deep into the highs and lows of motherhood, illness, family dynamics, and the complicated art of boundary setting. From sick kids and shifting routines to navigating boundaries with toddlers, teens, and even extended family, this conversation gets real about how boundaries and self-care overlap, clash, and sometimes crumble.In this episode, you’ll learn:How illness at home can throw boundaries out the window, and where new ones suddenly appearWhy boundaries with kids of different ages can be tricky to balanceThe tension between self-care and parenting responsibilities (and why “just read a book” isn’t always that easy)How to separate your energy from your child’s big emotionsWhy boundary-setting is both a form of self-care and a setup for self-careThe ongoing process of unlearning unhealthy boundaries while teaching healthier onesBoundaries are rarely neat, but they are necessary. Whether it’s saying no to family expectations, holding space for a crying toddler, or giving yourself permission to step away and breathe, boundary-setting is both self-care in itself and the pathway toward it. Join Jill and Linda as they remind you that boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace, even when it feels messy.  Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Grief shows up in many forms: losing a loved one, saying goodbye to a pet, or even letting go of the expectations we once held for ourselves. In this heartfelt episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about navigating loss, the messy emotions that come with it, and how self-care can offer grounding and grace in the middle of grief.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why grief isn’t limited to death, it can show up in everyday disappointments, changes, and unmet expectations.How kids process loss differently and the surprising ways they may find comfort.The balance between distraction as a coping tool and giving yourself space to feel.Practical self-care practices that help when emotions feel overwhelming (from popsicle-stick prompts to scripture to simply being in nature).The importance of lowering expectations and guarding your “melty” when grief hits hard.Why leaning on community matters and why sometimes “I’m here if you need me” isn’t enough.Grief is never easy, but it doesn’t have to be something we navigate alone. Whether it’s a pet, a loved one, or even the small losses of everyday life, giving ourselves grace, space, and community support matters. We hope this conversation reminds you that self-care isn’t about moving on quickly, it’s about honoring the process, finding small ways to ground yourself, and letting others in when you need them most. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Play, connection, and the chaos of everyday parenting - this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care dives into how play can be both a lifeline and a stressor for moms. Jill and Linda share real stories of finding joy in messy moments, how intentional play shifts their energy, and why sometimes self-care looks like sitting on the floor with your kids (even when you’d rather not). From sibling squabbles to popsicle-stick self-care activities, they explore how to weave self-care into family life without losing themselves.In this episode, you’ll learn:How highs and lows can help reframe both overwhelm and joy in motherhood.Why play is a surprising but powerful form of self-care for moms (and kids).Practical ways to use play to reset your family’s energy when chaos hits.When play works and when it totally backfires.Creative ideas for simple, low-energy play activities (like cars on your back or popsicle-stick self-care).How to navigate overstimulation when everyone wants your attention at once.The importance of shifting perspective so self-care doesn’t just become survival care.Self-care doesn’t always mean time away, it often means stepping into the chaos with a different lens. Whether it’s pulling out a board game, painting flowerpots, or letting your child drive toy cars across your back, play can become an unexpected pathway to connection and care. And yes, sometimes it’s messy, interrupted, and imperfect, but that’s what makes it real. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Sometimes self-care doesn’t go as planned. In this raw and relatable episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about the frustration of interrupted routines, the heaviness of survival mode, and the disappointment that comes when carefully laid self-care intentions get derailed. From toilet training surprises to early-morning wake-ups, they share how boundaries, mindset shifts, and even tiny grounding moments can help moms move from discouragement back toward refreshment.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why self-care routines often fall apart during unpredictable parenting seasonsHow survival mode feels—and why setting boundaries matters more than everThe role of disappointment in motherhood, and how to process it without guiltCreative ways to weave in self-care when plans fall through (like barefoot grounding at church!)Why giving yourself permission to “abandon the week” can sometimes be the healthiest choiceHow small perspective shifts turn everyday moments into opportunities for care and connectionDisappointments will come, and survival mode is a season every mom knows. But self-care doesn’t have to disappear completely when life gets messy. By adjusting expectations, finding creative alternatives, and offering yourself compassion, you can still carve out space to breathe, reset, and reconnect. As Jill and Linda remind us—you don’t have to get it perfect, you just have to keep trying.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

From clingy kids to bedtime bear hugs that last twenty minutes, Jill and Linda get real about what it’s like to never be alone as a mom. This episode dives into the exhaustion of constant “mom, mom, mom” moments, the guilt that comes with needing space, and the messy balance between sacrifice and self-care. With stories of tired kids, sticky floors, and Alexa bedtime reminders, this is a reminder that self-care doesn’t always mean solo time, it can also be woven into everyday family life.In this episode, you’ll hear:The highs and lows of motherhood, from sweet milestones to total exhaustionWhy being “always needed” can lead to resentment (and why that’s okay to admit)The struggle of bedtime routines when kids crave extra connectionHow small shifts - like shoe practice or Alexa reminders - can ease daily stressWhy self-care doesn’t have to be solo, and how kids can be part of itCreative ways Jill and Linda are experimenting with self-care (hello, popsicle sticks!)The importance of reframing this stage of motherhood as a season, not forever Motherhood often means you’re never truly alone, and that can feel both beautiful and overwhelming. The trick isn’t to chase perfection, but to find small ways to breathe, involve your kids in self-care, and remember this is just a season. You’re not alone in feeling pulled in every direction, we’re right there with you. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas. 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

In this episode, Jill and Linda explore what supportive self-care really means—from those precious early morning moments before the kids wake up to the reality of lost support systems and changing boundaries. They get real about the struggle of finding time when one kid's up at 5:15 AM and another won't sleep until 11 PM, plus navigate the tricky terrain of asking for (and actually receiving) the support we desperately need but often minimize.In this episode, you'll hear:Why Jill's new morning devotional space is changing her entire dayThe reality of family drama swimming in the background of self-careHow Linda's little one singing "Incy Wincy Spider" on repeat became this week's unexpected joyWhy supportive self-care isn't just about others—it's about how we set ourselves up for successThe challenge of diverse sleep schedules destroying any chance at alone timeHow institutions (summer camps, daycare) sometimes become our only "village"Why we minimize the support we need, especially around self-careThe tricky dance of setting boundaries with family while not abandoning themHow catching up with cousins at the park (while pretending to be a giant pigeon) counts as supportive self-careThe accountability gap—why asking "How are you?" rarely leads to "Did you take time for yourself?"We might not have the support system we thought we had. We might be navigating new boundaries with aging parents or overwhelmed partners. We might be relying on kickboxing schedules and school drop-offs as our only breaks. This episode is your reminder that supportive self-care looks different for everyone—and sometimes it's just about creating that one tiny space downstairs where you can hide (until Declan finds you).Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into those “snapping” moments—when stress boils over, bedtime battles erupt, and even the sweetest “Where’s dinner?” can trigger a meltdown. From lack of sleep to messy houses and everything in between, they unpack the guilt, grace, and real-life self-care that comes after the snap. This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being human, responding with honesty, and finding tiny ways to take care of ourselves even when the day goes completely sideways.In this episode, you’ll hear:What really happens when we hit our breaking point (and then snap)Why innocent questions from kids can trigger surprising reactionsHow Jill reframed “Declan & Mommy time” into labeled self-careThe difference between snapping with shame vs. setting boundaries with loveHow bedtime can unravel even the calmest of daysSelf-care that actually works after an emotional spiralHow our favorite 10 things list has become our self-care resetWe can have a great day and still snap at bedtime. We can love our kids and still need privacy. We can know better and still be human. This episode is your reminder that snapping doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you a real one. And while self-care won’t make every trigger disappear, it can help you catch your breath and try again tomorrow.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck! 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas. 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

In this honest and raw conversation, Jill and Linda explore the uncomfortable tension between workaholism and self-care—especially when both home and work feel equally heavy. From vacation meltdowns and returning to the real world to the unrelenting nature of housework and the guilt of slowing down, this episode is a vulnerable look at what happens when life forces you to pause. Whether you’re drowning in laundry or deadlines, you’re not alone in the tug-of-war between productivity and presence.In this episode, you'll hear:How vacation with kids is often more work than rest—and what happens when expectations don’t match reality.Why both Jill and Linda feel caught in cycles of over-functioning, even in different seasons of life.The emotional toll of trying to be the “perfect” mom, homemaker, and entrepreneur.How slowing down can be an act of sacred self-care—even if it doesn’t feel like it.Why guilt shows up when self-care isn’t productive (and how to challenge that).The difference between fulfilling work and obligatory labor—and how both impact our mental health.How breaking generational cycles of workaholism starts with awareness, grace, and a whole lot of trial and error. This episode is a gentle but firm reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. Whether you're dealing with chaos, caregiving, or clutter, it’s okay to feel both grateful and overwhelmed. We’re not here to romanticize the mess—we’re here to muck through it with you. Join us as we give ourselves (and each other) permission to pause, breathe, and redefine what care really looks like. And if you’re stuck in the cycle of hustle, we’ve got a resource just for you in the show notes below. Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

School holidays are here, which means the rhythms are off, the snacks are endless, and your alone time? Practically vanished. In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into the highs and lows of parenting through winter and summer breaks on opposite sides of the world. From mud tracks and mosquito bites to navigating messy family dynamics and trying to squeeze in five minutes of self-care, this conversation is all about honoring the chaos and the moments of joy. Whether you're juggling house mess, kid meltdowns, or trying to remember your own needs, this one’s for you. In this episode, you’ll hear:What summer/winter holidays look like in the U.S. vs. Australia (spoiler: they're very different).How Jill’s summer camp schedule is doubling as a self-care strategy.Linda’s muddy bike trails and the art of chasing freedom on two wheels.The real-life tension of needing a break… and not being able to take one.Why even the simplest errands can become mini adventures (with tangled yarn included).Small ways to reclaim self-care amid messy, plan-less days.The value of anchoring your week with just one consistent moment, like this podcast.Self-care during school holidays? It might not look the same, feel the same, or even happen the way you planned but that doesn’t mean it’s not possible. Sometimes it’s a bike ride, a kickboxing class, or a podcast hour squeezed into a chaotic week. Whatever it looks like, we hope this episode reminds you that flexibility is a superpower… and you're not alone in the muck. Need a quick-start list of simple self-care ideas? Shoot us a message, we've got you.For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Some days go exactly as planned… and then there are the other 364. In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into what happens when life throws the schedule out the window. From mosquito bite mysteries and lost office space to juggling kid chaos and barely-there self-care, this honest conversation explores how flexibility can sometimes be our superpower and other times, just another fast track to burnout. In this episode, you'll learn:Why even your best-laid plans can implode with toddlers in tow.How flexibility can help build resilience and when it just stretches us too thin.The unexpected benefits of using visuals and structure with young kids.What "meeting your own needs" really means as a mom.Why routine matters for kids and grown-ups alike.How movement (like bike rides!) is sneaky self-care.Why sometimes you need four uninterrupted hours and that’s okay. Motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and relentless and when your carefully crafted day falls apart, it can feel like your self-care does too. But even in the chaos, you have the right to meet your own needs. Maybe it’s four hours of alone time. Maybe it’s a quiet walk, or a frozen pizza dinner. The point is: your care matters too. So here’s your permission to reset, reprioritize, and remember that flexibility doesn’t mean self-neglect.For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com. Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What do you do when self-care isn’t enough? When the walk doesn’t clear your head, the rest doesn’t restore you, and the village you usually count on isn’t showing up like it used to? In this raw and honest episode, Jill and Linda talk about being in seasons of overwhelm where even the best self-care plans fall short. From tantruming toddlers to tangled family dynamics, and from bedtime meltdowns to compassion fatigue, this conversation holds space for what it means to feel stretched too thin—and how sometimes, the letdown starts before the self-care even begins. In this episode, you'll learn:Why self-care sometimes doesn’t “work” in the middle of survival modeWhat it feels like when the village that once showed up quietly fades awayHow expectations around self-care can create more pressure than peaceThat even the most meaningful support may have limits—and that’s humanWhy giving yourself grace might matter more than the perfect self-care planThe invisible weight of caregiving when everyone around you needs something Self-care isn’t always the fix we hope for—but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth trying. Sometimes the real healing starts with letting go of the pressure to feel better, the guilt of snapping, or the expectation that a walk or journal page will solve it all. If your self-care has let you down, you’re not alone. You’re human. Keep showing up with grace, creativity, and maybe a microwave dinner. You’ve got this. For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com. Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Wouldn’t it be nice if self-care came with a simple shortcut—copy, paste, repeat? In this episode, Jill and Linda explore why that almost works and where it totally falls apart. They talk about what happens when your favorite self-care routines suddenly don’t fit, why the same thing that helped last month might not help today, and how to adapt (without giving up). With real talk about parenting schedules, hill climbs, bare feet in the grass, and the simple power of grounding, this one’s for every mom who’s ever thought, “Why isn’t this working anymore?”In this episode, you'll learn:Why some self-care routines lose their impact over timeHow to shift old routines to fit new seasons of lifeThe difference between giving up and adaptingWhen “default” self-care can still serve youHow parenting logistics make self-care tricky—but not impossibleThe hidden power of grounding, rest, and micro-adjustmentsYour self-care doesn’t have to look the same every day—or every season. If the old routine isn’t working, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re evolving. And if you need a reset, revisit your simple go-to list or let us help you build one. Just don’t quit on yourself. Adapt, soften, shift—and keep going.For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Jill and Linda are back—and they’re sick. This episode was recorded between coughs, chaos, and clutter, but that’s real life, right? Whether you’ve been knocked flat by illness or are just deep in the overwhelm of parenting, this is your reminder that bare minimum is still enough. From paper bags labeled “garage” to clean-up songs and microwave dinners, this conversation is a raw, real peek into what it looks like to keep going (with compassion) when you're running on empty.Why survival mode isn’t failing—it’s the bravest kind of parentingHow bare minimum days still count (even with breakfast on the table 24 hours later)Ways to prioritize rest when your to-do list is a disaster zoneSimple systems that help when your brain fog is thick and everything’s overwhelmingHow to reframe mess and chaos as part of recoveryWhy asking “what’s the priority right now?” can keep you groundedSome seasons are about thriving. This one? It’s about surviving. And even if your house is covered in socks, dishes, and Band-Aids, you’re still doing an incredible job. Your corner will get cleaned. Your brain will clear. Your kids are learning from watching you muddle through with honesty and heart. You’ve got this.For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!