The Way of The Confident Husband - Chuck Chapman, M.A.

Navigating Perimenopause: How to Support Your Wife and Strengthen Your MarriageIn this episode of The Confident Husband Podcast, Chuck Chapman addresses a common yet rarely discussed issue in marriages: perimenopause. Many men notice a significant change in their wives' behavior, mood, and sex drive during this phase, leading to feelings of disconnection and frustration. Chuck explains what perimenopause is, its impact on women, and how husbands can support their partners through this challenging time. He offers four key strategies: being present, respecting and ensuring safety, maintaining your frame, and cultivating creative intimacy. By following these steps, husbands can help their marriages not only survive but thrive through the perimenopausal transition. For those needing further support, Chuck introduces the Confident Husband Solution, a program designed to help men lead their marriages with strength and purpose.00:00 Understanding the Shift in Your Marriage00:30 What is Perimenopause?01:15 The Emotional and Physical Impact of Perimenopause02:43 The Role of a Husband During Perimenopause03:06 Common Mistakes Men Make03:45 Medical and Emotional Support Options04:33 Four Strategies for Confident Husbands08:43 Maintaining Intimacy During Perimenopause10:08 Conclusion and Invitation to the Confident Husband Solution#Perimenopause #marriage #husbandwife #husband

Join Chuck Chapman in this episode of The Confident Husband Podcast as he discusses why admiration alone is not enough for a fulfilling marriage. Learn the vital difference between admiring and adoring your wife, and how expressing adoration can transform your relationship. Discover how to connect deeply with your wife's essence, making her feel cherished and truly loved. Chapman shares practical insights and a challenge to help you shift from mere respect to profound adoration, ensuring a rich, intimate connection. Tune in for actionable advice and an invitation to a free webinar for more transformative tips.00:00 Understanding the Struggle: Why Your Efforts May Not Be Enough01:32 The Key Difference: Admiration vs. Adoration03:54 The Impact of Adoration: How It Transforms Relationships05:17 Practical Steps: How to Show Adoration05:54 Conclusion and Next Steps

Overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome: Reclaiming Your SignificanceIn this episode of The Confident Husband Podcast, host Chuck Chapman addresses the common fear among men, especially those recovering from 'nice guy syndrome,' of appearing needy. Chapman explores the origins of this fear rooted in childhood, where many were taught that expressing needs could lead to abandonment. He explains how this leads to patterns of validation-seeking and the suppression of personal needs in adulthood, particularly within marriages. Chapman outlines the difference between validation and significance, stressing the importance of men creating significance through living with integrity, presence, and purpose. He encourages men to become 'integrated husbands,' who are grounded and lead their marriages with strength, ensuring both partners feel safe, connected, and valued. For more insights and to learn about The Confident Husband Solution program, visit chuckchapman.com.00:00 Understanding the Fear of Seeming Needy00:09 Childhood Messages and Their Impact01:10 Suppressing Needs and Carrying Others' Burdens01:39 The Nice Guy Syndrome in Relationships02:40 The Misconception of Validation Seeking03:53 The Importance of Significance05:13 Becoming an Integrated Husband06:34 Conclusion and Next Steps

Transform Conflict with Curiosity: Moving Beyond Defensiveness in RelationshipsThis episode delves into the concept of defensiveness in relationships and its impact on connection. The speaker shares personal experiences and professional insights to illustrate how defensiveness can escalate conflicts by protecting one's ego, rather than the relationship. Instead, the speaker advocates for using curiosity as an antidote to defensiveness. By asking open-ended questions and seeking to understand the other person's perspective, we can create a safer space for both parties. This approach helps in de-escalating tension and fostering empathy, ultimately strengthening the relationship. Practical steps and real-life examples are provided to guide listeners in applying these principles to their own conflicts.00:00 Understanding Defensiveness in Relationships01:12 The Physical and Emotional Response to Defensiveness02:36 The Power of Curiosity as an Antidote06:15 Practical Steps to Replace Defensiveness with Curiosity06:58 Real-Life Application and Final Thoughts

One of the major reasons Nice Guys don't get the life they want is because they are bad enders. They tend to stick around when something isn't working claiming to be loyal when in reality they are simply afraid to end things. In this video I teach you how to become a good ender so you can get what you want in life, love and sex.

How do you create leadership and polarity masculinity in your relationship? Today we discuss the advice of authentic masculine leadership in relationships and address the consequences of role reversal between partners. Learn how to set the tone, create a vision, inspire your partner, and develop a definite plan to restore balance and connection in your relationship. Discover why leadership is crucial and how to rebuild trust to achieve a powerful and meaningful partnership.

We explore the deep connection between your relationship with money and your relationship with feminine energy. Masculine energy is what structures money. Discover how changing your view on feminine energy can impact your financial well-being. The video dives into the concept of financial independence, emphasizing three main pillars: mindset, habits, and relationships. Gain insights from 'Think and Grow Rich' by Napoleon Hill, learn actionable steps for shifting your money mindset, and explore the importance of affirmations, visualizations, and consistent habits. Join me for a transformative journey towards financial freedom by aligning your financial habits with your masculine energy and deeper values.

What is Positive Masculine Energy? It's needed in Positive Masculinity in men more today than at any other time. Discover the 30 rates of positive masculine energy and how the power of language shapes our unconscious mind and influences our actions. In this video, Chuck Chapman shares a personal mountain biking experience to illustrate the importance of positive focus. He explains how focusing on what we want rather than what we want to avoid can drive success and positivity. The video also introduces the concept of positive masculine energy and outlines 30 key attributes to cultivate it. Chapman provides a printable 30-day calendar to help viewers focus on and enhance these attributes daily. Download the calendar at https://www.chuckchapman.com/downloads subscribe for more content, and explore the 30-day recovery from the 'Nice Guy' syndrome. Keywords: #masculinity #nomoremrniceguy #toxicmasculinity #robertglover #niceguysyndrome 

I delve into self-improvement and self-development by teaching you the crucial questions to get what you want in life. I introduce six universal psychological needs—connection, security, respect, vision, purpose, and growth—that are essential for personal fulfillment. I also explore how societal and familial expectations can lead to feelings of shame around desires. By understanding and addressing these needs, you can create a more meaningful and fulfilling life. Learn how to take responsibility for your happiness and start your journey of self-discovery today.

How do you accept yourself? How do you love yourself? In this episode, we explore the importance of having a strong sense of self to avoid becoming a people pleaser and to lead a fulfilling life. Learn about self-awareness, self-love, and how to set healthy boundaries. Practical advice includes daily practices like positive self-talk and understanding that our perceived flaws are just part of who we are. Discover how neuropsychology supports the idea that we can rewire our thoughts and behaviors to embrace our true selves and enhance our relationships. #SelfLove #Confidence #SelfImprovement #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth

Discover the secret to emotional control, mastering emotional intelligence, and achieving emotional regulation. Learn impulse control, stress management, and resilience through mindfulness and self-awareness. Unlock your emotional mastery with proven strategies from behavioral psychology. Conquer emotional overwhelm and develop mental health skills for personal development and self-improvement. In this video, we'll explore the purpose of emotions from a behavioral psychology perspective and provide practical strategies to help you navigate life's challenges with greater composure and resilience. Discover the three key components of emotional control: Impulse control: Learn how to resist immediate reactions and make thoughtful decisions. Stress management: Find effective ways to stay calm under pressure and cope with stress. Resilience: Develop the ability to bounce back from setbacks and maintain emotional balance. Through real-life examples and actionable tips, you'll gain the tools to recognize your emotional triggers, regulate your responses, and harness your feelings to create a more fulfilling life. Say goodbye to being stuck in old patterns and hello to a new era of emotional mastery. Join us on this transformative journey and unlock the power of emotional control today! #EmotionalControl #EmotionalIntelligence #StressManagement #Resilience #PersonalDevelopment #MentalHealth #Mindfulness #LifeSkills #SelfImprovement #growthmindset 

Struggling with relationship problems? Learn how to diagnose the health of your love life and decide whether to stay or leave. This video explores four critical questions to evaluate your relationship, covering topics like communication, intimacy, and fear. Discover the importance of physical and emotional connection, and learn how to cultivate a culture of gratitude and appreciation. If you're stuck in a cycle of unhappiness, disconnection, and hostility, it might be time to consider ending your relationship. But if you're willing to put in the work, you can revive your love life and build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership. #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupOrStay #RelationshipHealth #CouplesCommunication #IntimacyInRelationships

Breaking Free from OverthinkingLearn how to stop overthinking for good and take control of your troubling thoughts. In this video, we'll cover tips on managing intrusive thoughts and improving your mental health.In this episode, I'm tackling the all-too-familiar problem of overthinking—how it paralyzes your decision-making, cranks up your stress levels, and wreaks havoc on your relationships. Borrowing some insights from computer programming, I dive into practical tools and techniques to help you escape those endless loops of worry and analysis paralysis. You'll learn how to set clear goals, establish firm boundaries for decision-making, and make timely choices to boost your productivity and mental well-being. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and comment with your own tips or experiences!

What Nice Guys Get Wrong About Women in their Marriages. If you've been a nice guy in your marriage and you're trying to reclaim your masculinity, this video is for you. We're diving deep into masculine embodiment and psychology, with insights from John Wineland.Feeling stuck in your nice guy persona? It’s time to step up and embrace your masculine heart. I'll guide you through 10 actionable steps to help you regain your presence, authenticity, and integrity in your marriage.We’ll cover:How nice guy behavior erodes trust and kills attractionThe importance of masculine polarity in relationshipsPractical tips for embodying masculine energyDiscover the two key aspects of embodiment—physical and energetic—based on John Wineland’s teachings. Learn how to balance strength and vulnerability, maintain emotional awareness, and cultivate compassion.These practices will not only help you restore the passion and love in your marriage but also lead to deeper connections and a more fulfilling life.Ready to reclaim your masculinity? Watch now and start your journey towards a stronger, more authentic you.

Toxic shame can be a hidden, yet powerful force, impacting everything from social anxiety to relationships. Healing toxic shame is crucial for overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome, as it fuels anxiety, depression, PTSD, and trauma. In this video, life coach and mental health advocate Chuck Chapman dives deep into the psychology of shame, providing insights and tools for personal growth and self-help.At the core of every Nice Guy is a shame parasite, a predator that sabotages authentic living. Understanding the difference between toxic shame and guilt is essential for effective therapy and mental health awareness. Shame isn't just an emotion; it's a belief that can destroy your self-worth and keep you stuck in patterns of codependency and fear of failure.Chuck shares practical strategies for healing toxic shame, inspired by experts like Dr. Robert Glover and Brené Brown. Learn how to recognize and combat toxic shame, how it fuels social anxiety disorder, and how to break free from the grip of shame that affects your mental health and relationships.Shame thrives in secrecy, but by bringing it to light, you can strip it of its power. Tune in for insights, real-life examples, and actionable advice to reclaim your worth and live authentically. Don’t let toxic shame run your life—learn to overcome it and thrive.*#NiceGuySyndrome #HealingShame #MentalHealthAwareness #PersonalGrowth #LifeCoach*

Looking back, it's pretty clear that controlling others is a major symptom of the Nice Guy syndrome. Who knew that being Mr. Nice Guy was just a passive way to be Mr. Control Freak? It's not a good masculine trait. And guess what? Being controlling doesn't create positive relationships or a fulfilling life. Shocker, right? It’s exhausting and totally counterproductive. So what can you do about it? Watch this video and see if you are a good man or a control freak.

Fair warning: You're not going to like what I have to say about Nice Guy Syndrome. Most nice guys will stay stuck in miserable, people-pleasing relationships, hoping for a different outcome. Moving from a nice guy to an integrated man is hard work. If you're ready to change, stay tuned. I'm going to give you the only thing you need to do to kill your internal nice guy. 

Let's talk about the importance of rites of passage in the journey from boyhood to manhood, especially for us recovering 'NICE' guys. It's something we've lost and I think we should bring it back. I'll share my own story about a male rite of passage that helped me transition into adulthood and kick my addiction and 'nice guy syndrome' to the curb. In our modern cultures, the lack of clear rites of passage leaves many of us feeling stuck in perpetual adolescence.I'll recount my transformative experience in a group event in the High-Desert of Oregon, involving ancient rituals adapted for our times. This story highlights the importance of embracing the responsibilities that come with manhood through formal ceremonies and vows. Oh, and there's a nod to the movie 'Kingdom of Heaven' to show the power of such initiations and discuss what makes an oath meaningful.I'll wrap things up with a call to action for your feedback on creating a rite of passage for men looking to fully embrace their masculinity. So, get ready for some eye-opening insights and maybe a little inspiration to take that next step in your own journey.

People pleasing and the Nice Guy Syndrome are common for the Nice Guy and one of the ways this shows up for Nice Guys is that they are always saying I'm sorry. It's weak and meaningless. In today's video, I talk about why I never say I'm sorry anymore, and how it has changed my relationships for the better.