Choosing to Stay

When couples stay together after betrayal, there’s a difference between acceptance and resignation. Acceptance leads to hope and healing; resignation leads to disconnection and despair. In this episodeWhat acceptance vs. resignation really looks likeHow it shows up for both the betrayed and betraying partnerKey questions to help you discern where you arePractical steps to move from resignation into true acceptanceWe’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio

Betrayal cuts deep, leaving both partners facing painful choices about the future of their relationship. For some, staying is the beginning of an authentic rebuilding process; for others, it becomes a form of self-betrayal. In this episode, we unpack the why and the how of staying after betrayal.We approach this conversation from both perspectives: the betrayed partner and the one who has betrayed. Together, we’ll explore what makes staying a healthy path toward healing—and when it becomes unhealthy, unsafe, or unwise.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Trust after betrayal doesn’t return with one big moment. It’s not only rebuilt through formal disclosures, powerful apologies, or recovery milestones—it’s the hundreds of small choices made day after day.In this episode, we talk about the power of micro-trust: those tiny interactions that slowly teach a partner’s heart and nervous system, “Maybe I can breathe again. Maybe I can risk hope.”You’ll learn:What micro-trust is and why it matters in healing after betrayal.Everyday examples of micro-trust builders that make a real difference.Common hurdles couples face when practicing micro-trust.Simple, steady ways to keep showing up, even when it feels overwhelming.Rebuilding trust is not about rushing or fixing it all at once. It’s about steady, consistent deposits that eventually create a foundation strong enough to hold safety, hope, and repair.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay Podcast, I’m opening up about something personal: my dad’s journey with Lewy Body Dementia and how it sparked my own concerns about brain health. As I walked through my own healing from emotional trauma, I began to realize something powerful—trauma isn’t just about thoughts or mindset. It lives in the brain and the body, shaping the way we show up in life and relationships.Most of the men I work with are carrying the weight of early adverse childhood experiences, and those wounds often fuel the destructive patterns that cause so much pain. If you’ve been working hard in therapy, recovery programs, or support groups but still feel stuck, it’s not because you’re failing. Trauma and addiction don’t just live in your thoughts—they live in your nervous system, your cells, and the physical patterns of stress in your body. Healing requires a whole-person approach.That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, happening November 6–9 in Mesa, Arizona. This 4-day immersive experience goes beyond talk therapy and gives men direct access to healing at the root level—brain, body, and spirit. Together with my husband, Dr. Jeff Roderick, a functional health chiropractor, and my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, an LMFT intern and brainspotting practitioner, we’ll be guiding participants through science-backed brain therapies, somatic healing, and hands-on restoration. You’ll walk away with practical skills, renewed confidence, and a roadmap for continued growth.If you’re ready to reset and reclaim your strength, this summit may be the missing piece. Join us for a transformational experience of healing, clarity, and brotherhood. Learn more HERE. To schedule a consultation to see if this summit is a good fit for you, please reach out to me at: haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com or Dr. Jeff Roderick at : proactivebrainhealth@gmail.com. 

Chandler Rogers is the CEO and founder of Relay, an app designed to help people overcome pornography and sexual addiction through community and shame-free accountability. Inspired by his own recovery journey, Chandler created Relay to provide structure, daily tools, and connection for thousands navigating healing. He lives in Orem, Utah with his wife, their 18-month-old son, and another little one on the way.🌐 Learn more: www.joinrelay.app 💡 Listener Offer: Use code CHOOSE20 for 20% off your first subscription.In this episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay App. Chandler shares his personal recovery story, the power of community in healing, and what he’s learned from guiding thousands through recovery. Together, we explore why connection is the opposite of addiction, the role of self-care, and the key differences between those who grow and those who stay stuck.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.You’ll learn:What disorganized attachment is and how it developsThe emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look forWhy betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationshipsThe nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamicPractical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachmentWe’ll explore simple yet powerful ways to:Name and interrupt old patterns in the momentRegulate your body before respondingOffer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from othersCommunicate needs clearly instead of testingRepair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerabilityWhether you’ve experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.Thank you for tuning in!Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to WithdrawIn this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You’ll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachmentHow core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationshipsCommon behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidanceThe hidden anxiety behind emotional distancePractical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationshipsHow to balance independence with authentic vulnerabilityTools to repair connection after withdrawingCourage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay, certified relational and recovery coaches Halle Roddick and Stephanie Hamby continue their multi-part series on attachment styles, focusing on secure attachment — what it looks like, how it develops, and why it’s a vital goal after infidelity and betrayal.They explore:What attachment theory is and the four main styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)How secure attachment shows up in healthy romantic relationshipsWhy betrayal ruptures both real and perceived secure attachmentsThe importance of building self-secure attachment before working on relational repairPractical ways to cultivate internal safety, self-worth, and groundednessThe role of individual healing work for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recoveryHow rupture and repair cycles strengthen trust in secure relationshipsResources Mentioned:You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)Altogether You – Jenna Riemersma (Book Link)Help.Her.Heal – Carol J. Sheets (Book Link)Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute (Website)Connect with Us: Follow the podcast for candid discussions on healing, growth, and the journey of choosing to stay after betrayal.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in! Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal The patterns we learned in childhood often become the lens through which we respond to betrayal. In this episode, we explore how your family of origin shapes the way you love, trust, and handle conflict—and why recognizing these patterns is essential for healing. From attachment styles to emotional suppression, we unpack common dynamics that show up after betrayal and share how awareness can lead to transformation.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, healing isn’t about rushing to “get over it”—it’s about honoring what happened and who you’re becoming.In this episode, we walk through the transformation from victim to survivor to thriver—not as a formula, but as a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming your peace, your power, and your partnership (if you choose to stay).You’ll learn:What each phase really looks and feels like—emotionally, relationally, and somaticallyHow to recognize if you're stuck in survival—and what might help you move forwardWhy thriving doesn't mean the betrayal disappears—but it stops defining youWhat relational thriving looks like when both partners commit to individual healingHow the betrayer can move from shame to accountability and integrityHow the betrayed can reclaim voice, body, and boundariesWhether you’re in the earliest days of devastation or years into the work of rebuilding, this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and consider: What stage am I in—and what does healing on my terms look like? Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!Betrayal doesn’t just damage trust—it disrupts the very foundation of fairness and emotional safety in a relationship. In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali and Stephanie unpack a critical truth that many couples overlook in the early stages of healing: true recovery begins when the betraying partner takes the lead.This episode explores why betrayal is not just a mistake but a relational injustice—and why expecting the betrayed partner to initiate healing only deepens that wound. We discuss how the power dynamic shifts after betrayal, what it means to take responsible leadership in the recovery process, and how consistent, vulnerable actions by the betraying partner can begin to restore a sense of safety and connection.Whether you’re the partner who’s been hurt or the one who caused the harm, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a grounded path forward.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing to Stay, Hali welcomes Stephen Thomas, a seasoned sexual recovery coach who brings years of experience and a deeply personal understanding of the recovery journey. Stephen specializes in helping men move beyond behavior-focused sobriety by adopting a partner-sensitive lens—one that centers empathy, honesty, and emotional connection.Together, they unpack why true recovery must include the betrayed partner’s experience, how relational healing is possible when humility and transparency lead, and what it really means to develop healthy sexuality. If you've felt stuck in cycles or confused about the next step in recovery, this episode will give you clarity and hope.👤 About Stephen Thomas: Stephen has coached men and couples professionally for over four years and previously led recovery work in ministry for several years. His approach combines trauma-awareness, deep empathy, and a commitment to helping men redefine sexuality in a way that strengthens—not severs—their most important relationships.📩 Connect with Stephen: Stephen Thomas, Sexual Recovery Coach 📧 Stephen@StephenThomasConsulting.com🎧 Listen now and share with someone who needs this conversation.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!​​Shame Resilience in Recovery with Joseph McKinley In this episode of Choosing to Stay, we sit down with coach Joseph McKinley to talk about the role of shame in recovery and relational repair. We explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships, and why vulnerability and ownership are key to healing. Joseph shares tools, insights from his coaching work, and personal reflections on building resilience through self-compassion and connection.About Joseph McKinley: Joseph McKinley is a recovery coach specializing in overcoming unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors, intimacy anorexia, and partner betrayal trauma. He is certified as a Sexual Recovery Coach (SRC), Intimacy Anorexia Coach (IAC), Partners Recovery Coach (PRC), and Partner Betrayal Trauma Coach (PBTC) through the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). He is also a Certified Mental Health Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors. Joseph provides personalized coaching to help clients address the root causes of their struggles and heal from trauma, empowering both men and partners to reclaim their lives and relationships.Contact Joseph: 📧 joseph@greenwayrecovery.com 🌐 www.greenwayrecovery.comWe’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

Thank you for tuning in!Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After BetrayalWhen betrayal shatters your world, safety feels lost. In this episode, we explore how true safety begins within, not in someone else's behavior. Whether you’re the one healing or the one working to rebuild trust, internal grounding is keyWe’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode, we explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system and what it truly means to feel safe again in a relationship. If you or your partner have been affected by betrayal—whether through infidelity, secrecy, or other trust ruptures—this conversation will help you understand why emotional reactions are not just “drama,” but deeply rooted in trauma physiology.We’ll talk about what happens in the body after betrayal, how to recognize the signs that safety is still missing, and how both partners can support healing and trust-building in real, practical ways. We also mention the upcoming Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive on Aug. 26-28, 2025. 🔍 What We Cover:When Safety Feels Out of Reach: Learn how betrayal trauma activates the nervous system, leading to anxiety, shutdown, or hyper-reactivity—not because your partner is “overreacting,” but because their body is trying to protect them.Signs the Nervous System Doesn’t Feel Safe: From flinching at a tone of voice to needing constant reassurance, we’ll walk through common signs of nervous system dysregulation and how to respond with empathy instead of defensiveness.Why This Happens—It’s Not Just Emotional, It’s Physiological: Discover how betrayal disrupts the brain’s ability to predict safety, and why true healing requires consistency, transparency, and time—not pressure to “just move on.”What the Betrayed Partner Can Do: Gentle strategies to help you tune into your body, identify what feels unsafe, and take empowered steps toward self-awareness and grounding—without self-blame.What the Partner in Recovery Can Do to Rebuild Trust: Learn how to become a safe, steady presence in your relationship by telling the truth, staying present, and witnessing pain without trying to fix it.💬 Final Words of Encouragement: To the one healing from betrayal: Your body isn’t broken—it’s wise. To the one seeking to rebuild trust: You are not powerless. Your steady presence matters. To both: Healing is possible. Safety is possible. It begins with compassion, honesty, and showing up—again and again.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this deeply insightful episode, we welcome our newest coaching colleague at Choose Recovery Services, Isy Williams, for a conversation that touches the heart of every betrayed partner’s healing journey: rediscovering the self after the deep shattering of betrayal.Together, we explore the often invisible yet powerful knowing that something is off—even before the truth is revealed—and the role that instinct and intuition play when the mind doesn’t have all the facts. Isy shares wisdom on navigating the complex shame many betrayed partners face: the shame of “missing the signs,” the shame of staying, and the internal questioning of what that staying says about them.We also dive into a powerful truth: that this path of healing is not just about the relationship—it’s about reclaiming your identity. This journey is an invitation to break out of old patterns, rediscover your voice, and reconnect with parts of yourself you may have lost or never fully known.Whether you’re the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, this episode affirms that true recovery requires courageous self-exploration from both partners. And while the work is difficult, the rewards—deeper intimacy, clarity, and emotional resilience—are life-changing.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:How betrayed partners often “feel” the truth long before they know itThe role of intuition and gut instinct in betrayal traumaDeconstructing shame around staying and what it doesn’t say about youWhy self-discovery is essential and empowering for both partnersHow healing creates space for deeper connection and intimacyInsights and encouragement from Isy’s personal and professional experienceConnect with Isy Williams:Read more about her: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#IsyWilliamsEmail: isywilliams@brighhopecoaching.comWeb site: www.brighthopecoaching.comIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, and consider leaving a review. Your voice helps others find this healing space.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

💔 Episode Summary:This episode will help you understand what love bombing really is, how it shows up in relationships after betrayal, and why it can be a form of manipulation or emotional abuse.✅ What love bombing is and what it isn't ✅ How to distinguish between genuine connection and manipulative intensity ✅ The red flags that indicate love bombing is occurring ✅ How it plays out in the betrayal and recovery cycle ✅ Why it feels so good—and why it can be so dangerous ✅ How to set healthy boundaries to protect your heart and clarity ✅ What to do if you are the one using love bombing as a coping or control strategy ✅ How to move toward authentic connection, not performance-based intimacy🛑 If you've ever felt swept off your feet only to crash into confusion, guilt, or emotional chaos—this episode is for you.🎯 Key Insight: Love bombing may look like love, but it's often about control, fear, or image management. Real love builds over time. It respects boundaries. It honors truth.🛠️ Tools You'll Walk Away With:Language to name love bombing when it happensReflective prompts for identifying if you're using love bombing behaviorsSupportive practices for reconnecting with your core needs and self-worthThank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!5.28Common examples:Constant compliments, grand gestures, lavish gifts, excessive apologies or promises.Overwhelming reassurances like: “I’ll do anything to make this right” or “You’re the only thing that matters.”The betrayer may use it to:Avoid consequences or hard conversations.Fast-track trust or reconciliation.Manage their own guilt or shame.Reassert control or secure their image.The betrayed partner may crave it because:It momentarily soothes trauma or anxiety.It mimics the "high" of emotional connection.It delays facing the pain or deeper work of healing.You feel confused: “This feels good, but something’s off.”You may feel pressured to respond with gratitude, forgiveness, or emotional closeness.The affection may disappear as soon as conflict, boundaries, or accountability show up.It bypasses consent and authentic healing.It creates a trauma bond—confusion, hope, and fear wrapped together.It can invalidate your real pain: “See? I’m being loving now. Isn’t that enough?”It's often a protector part acting from fear—not a sign of true intimacy or growth.Name it: “This feels overwhelming. I need more time and space to process.”Ask: “Is this about me—or are you trying to make you feel better?”Use grounding tools to reconnect with your nervous system.Set limits: “I’m not ready for gifts or physical affection yet. I need actions over time.”Get curious, not shameful: “What part of me is afraid or trying to control the outcome?”Ask yourself:“Am I trying to fix or rescue instead of take responsibility?”“Am I making this about my pain instead of the harm I caused?”Shift to authentic repair:Slow down.Take consistent, humble action.Learn to sit with discomfort instead of performing love.Love is steady, respectful, and attuned. It includes:Consent.Accountability.Honesty.Healthy connection honors the other person’s boundaries, feelings, and timing—not just your desire to reconnect.Love bombing is a trauma response—on both sides.It’s a signal, not a sentence. Use it as a doorway to deeper work.Healing happens when we choose truth over intensity, and intimacy

In This Episode: We explore what it really means to let your spouse know you beyond surface communication and into emotional truth. We’ll talk about the difference between empathy and vulnerability, how stuffing emotions can quietly stall your repair. The Importance of vulnerability that real connection can’t happen without it.What You’ll Learn:How your nervous system tries to protect you—and what healing asks insteadWhy emotional honesty is necessary for rebuilding connectionReal-life examples of letting your spouse know you againPractical steps for stepping into safe vulnerabilityThank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Learning Vulnerability - allowing your spouse to know you.Different than empathy Stepping out of our old protective mechanismsStopping stuffing the emotions🎙️ Episode Title:1. Welcome + Acknowledgment (1–2 min)Gentle reminder that healing is not linear.Acknowledge the courage it takes to stay and rebuild.Preview today’s focus: vulnerability—not just emotional expression, but letting yourself be known.2. Defining Vulnerability in Relational Repair (3–4 min)Vulnerability is not just about sharing emotions—it's about allowing yourself to be seen and known.Difference between vulnerability and empathy: empathy is offering presence for someone else’s emotions, vulnerability is revealing your own.Betrayal creates a need for protection; vulnerability begins to challenge those old defenses.3. Common Protective Mechanisms (Trauma responses) After Betrayal (5–7 min)Fawning (people-pleasing to avoid conflict)Withdrawal (silence, distance, shutting down)Over-functioning (control to feel safe)Numbing (shutting down emotionally to avoid pain)These served a purpose—but no longer help build trust.Naming them gently without shame.4. What It Means to “Let Your Spouse Know You” (5–7 min)Going beyond surface talk (schedules, kids, tasks).Sharing how things land on you, what you fear, what you hope for.Rebuilding intimacy through emotional truth—not just physical connection.Practical examples: “I noticed I felt afraid when you didn’t respond” or “I want to trust this process, but sometimes I still feel guarded.”5. Why Stuffing Emotions Stops Repair (4–5 min)Suppression often comes from fear of conflict or not wanting to rock the boat.Bottled emotions become resentment, and repair can't happen through silence.Healthy vulnerability means pacing—but not pretending.6. How to Start Practicing Vulnerability Again (6–8 min)Safety first: Is the relationship emotionally safe enough to risk being open?Start small: Share one thing you're feeling without needing a solution.Use “I feel” not “you made me feel”Check in afterward: Was it received well? Did you feel heard?Vulnerability is not a one-time act—it’s a practice of truth in small moments.7. A Word for the Spouse Who Betrayed (Optional segment if audience includes both) (2–3 min)Your partner’s vulnerability is a gift—don’t dismiss it, fix it, or avoid it.Meet it with presence, not defensiveness.Your role is to help co-create the emotional safety they now need.8. Closing Reflections + Encouragement (2–3 min)Rebuilding through vulnerability is sacred and slow.If you're just starting this work, be proud of your willingness.You're not alone, and you're not expected to get it perfect—only to keep showing up.

In this powerful episode, Hali Roderick and Luke Gordon unpack three of the most common myths that keep men stuck and prevent relationships from truly healing after betrayal. Whether you're early in your recovery journey or have been doing the work for a while, these insights will help you shift from unintentional harm to intentional healing.We also introduce the Help Her Heal Intensive for men, happening this July in Spanish Fork, Utah. Check the link for an exciting new optional Add-On for couples, where wives can join for a guided, therapist-led day of healing, empathy practice, and emotional integration.MYTH 1: “Talking About It Just Makes Things Worse” Why silence reinforces trauma—and how showing up with presence (not perfection) creates safety.MYTH 2: “If I Show Emotion, I’ll Make It About Me” The difference between emotional ownership and emotional dumping—and how authentic expression builds trust.MYTH 3: “I Just Want Her to See How I’m Doing Good” Why seeking validation in moments of her pain creates disconnection—and what to focus on instead.📣 Learn More & Take the Next Step:🎯 Help Her Heal Intensive – July 8–11 | Spanish Fork, Utah An immersive 4-day experience for men ready to rebuild trust and emotional safety after betrayal.💞 Optional Add-On: Couples Integration Experience Wives are invited to join for a guided, therapist-led day of connection, empathy, and healing.👉 Learn more and reserve your spot by calling Choose Recovery Services at (702)277-9145 or email: chooserecoveryservices@gmail.com.  Learn more about Luke Gordon HERE and check out his Beyond the Facade Podcast! Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!🔍 In This Episode, We Cover: