Broken for Better

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they continue this series on expectations. This week they tackle a subject every marriage will have to figure out how to navigate - Money! Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they dig into different parenting styles, wins and losses they experienced as a couple and how they learned some good lessons and hard lessons along the way. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

What's the difference between criticizing and making a complaint? Do you know? How we communicate our needs to our spouses and our children is important in having a healthy successful relationship. Join Kurt and Denette on this weeks episode as they break down the difference between the two. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

This episode we have a special guest joining us, licensed therapist Kerri Timothy of Empowered Path Counseling. This subject is near and dear to our hearts and we wanted to make space for this topic. This past year we have seen many face very hard and difficult times (ourselves included) and there are so many questions that surround getting help for trauma, depression, and loss. How do you know when it's time to get help? Where do you turn when you can't find a way out of the darkness? How do you know when or how to help someone else that is in a very dark place? These are questions we will dive into during this episode. Thank you for joining us. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette as they talk about all the seasons each couple may face. This episode they dive into what raising a family entailed for them and some real life practical ways they faced it as a couple. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss real life relationship issues like keeping score and whether it can hurt or help in the long run.   Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better  All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they break down how openly discussing boundaries can help build relationships. Want to give financially?   All the links - stay in touch:

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they break down how habits can impact our marriages and family life.   Want to give financially?  https://deka.gives/broken-for-better  All the links - stay in touch:  https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss the topic of breaking the clock regarding the time restraints we tend to put on ourselves in dealing with mental health, grief, trauma and marriage struggles. Want to give financially?  https://deka.gives/broken-for-better  All the links - stay in touch:  https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss real life topics on family life, marriage, grief and trauma. This episode they dive into the topic of names and labels we give ourselves and how they work on redefining those in their own lives. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss real life topics about family life, marriage, grief and loss.  In today's topic they talk about the crazy cycle, how they worked together to stop it, get out of it, and just make it through it. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss the subject of grief this first holiday season after the loss of their son.   Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

What do you do when life leaves marks that you last, sometimes forever?  Join Kurt and Denette as they discuss grief and circumstances in life that scar us but leave us with a question.  Do they have purpose? Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they dive into real talk about seasons of life and marriage where love languages may feel impossible.  Seasons of great trial, grief, loss can all multiply family dynamics, join them as they openly relay how they are trying to fight to keep hope alive. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Join Kurt and Denette as they discuss real life topics as authentically and openly as possible bringing hope through love and truth.  This episode we will share about the subject of time as it relates grief, to our families, marriages and those closest to us. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

What is your response when life goes "dark"?  Join Kurt and Denette as they discuss their process of grief as a couple and as a family. Want to give financially? https://deka.gives/broken-for-better All the links - stay in touch: https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Does your home feel too loud emotionally, mentally, or relationally? In this episode, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about the hidden “crazy cycle” many couples live in: two ships passing in the night, running a household but not building a marriage… and calling it “just a season.”You’ll learn how to stop the slow erosion that drains intimacy over time and replace reactive rhythms with intentional rhythms that bring peace back into your marriage.In this episode, we cover:✅ How to know when you’re mentally/emotionally exhausted (not just “vacation tired”)✅ The crazy cycle and why chaos becomes “normal”✅ The question that changes everything: Is life dictating the pace of your marriage… or is your marriage dictating the pace of life?✅ The difference between reacting and responding (and how to choose calm✅ 3 practical rhythms that restore connection:Daily bookend conversations (morning or night check-ins)Asking better questions to access your spouse’s heartSabbath/rest together (and how to rest when you’re wired differently)Big takeaway: Peace isn’t the absence of problems. It’s the presence of intentional rhythms to navigate them.Drop a comment: What’s one rhythm you’ve created that brought more peace to your home?💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coaching📍All the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

If you’re tired of the same arguments, the same tone, the same shutdown… you’re not alone.In this episode of Broken for Better, Kurt & Denette Schaer share the simple communication reset that helps couples stop reacting fast, create emotional safety, and build new rhythms that turn chaos into calm.You’ll learn:✅ Why conflict keeps repeating✅ The “I’m overwhelmed” phrase that changes everything✅ How to create safe space (even when you disagree)✅ Why scheduled repair time protects your marriage💬 Comment: When you feel overwhelmed, do you shut down, blow up, or go sarcastic?💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coachingTimestamps: 00:00 - Recognizing the chaos cycle in marriage02:00 - Symptoms of a chaotic vs. peaceful home04:00 - Breaking the crazy cycle06:00 - The importance of intentional planning to prevent erosion08:00 - How reactive rhythms perpetuate chaos10:00 - The role of response vs. reaction in conflict resolution12:00 - Practical daily check-ins to strengthen connection15:00 - Creating emotional safety through volume and tone17:00 - Rest as a vital rhythm for marriage health20:00 - Protecting your marriage calendar and boundaries22:00 - Expressing expectations to prevent resentment25:00 - Tools for safe communication: hold the heart, pause phrases27:00 - The importance of safety over volume in effective communication📍All the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

In this conversation, Kurt and Denette discuss the importance of not carrying past wounds into new seasons of life, particularly in relationships. They explore how unresolved issues can linger and affect emotional intimacy, emphasizing the need for open communication and intentional healing. The discussion highlights practical tools for addressing pain points, the significance of scheduled repair time, and the understanding that conflict can lead to growth in relationships.Takeaways:New years don't fix old wounds; new rhythms do.Unresolved issues often stem from buried emotions.Communication is essential for healing in relationships.Sarcasm can be a harmful way to deflect pain.Scheduled repair time is crucial for addressing issues.Intentionality in relationships leads to better outcomes.It's important to express what hurt and what is needed.Conflict can be a pathway to deeper connection.Healing requires planning and effort.We can love deeply and still need to work on our relationship.Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coaching00:00Navigating Past Wounds05:11Understanding Unresolved Issues11:15The Importance of Communication16:45Intentional Healing in Relationships22:26Embracing Conflict for GrowthAll the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

Can a marriage really change… or do couples just learn to cope?In this episode, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette unpack what real change looks like over time and why it’s usually not one big moment, but small, consistent choices made with humility and intentionality.You’ll hear practical tools you can start using right away especially if you feel stuck in the same arguments, discouraged by slow progress, or unsure where to begin. We also talk about why celebrating “small wins” matters more than you think, and how a growth mindset can rebuild hope in your relationship.Drop a comment: What’s one small change you’re willing to try this week?Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coachingWant to give financially?https://deka.gives/broken-for-betterAll the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo