For Love's Sake

Welcome to the Season Two Bonus Episode, lovebugs! Join me and Jeremiah as we cover each episode from Season 2 together as husband and wife. One of the reasons I produce these bonus episodes is to be an example of what male-female conversation can look like in harmony and togetherness (and also as a calm away from the social media and gender wars noise). We need to have current, relevant, and critical conversations that are not always comfortable but necessary. We can do this without attacking each other or making up things that are damaging and against proper stats and data. Here's the season breakdown for today’s show: Episode 8: Jeremiah addresses Black men and offers ways for them to define self-value for themselves inside their communities and as partners and family men–amid another concurrent conversation about male provision and protection in the Black community. Episode 9:  Jeremiah borrows my “men choose their partners based on their relationships with their mothers” principle and explains one of his draws to me and in choosing me with the same virtue he sees in his mother. Episode 10: Jeremiah discusses the personal gains of understanding parental and family history as he talks about his relationship with his father and family life.   Episode 11: Jeremiah visits the meaning of marriage and how it evolved over time and within certain societies. I ask him to confront the “one man, one woman under God” Biblical view of marriage in response to polygamy being introduced in that particular episode. Episode 12: One of my coaching sessions with my client raised a mirror to our own marriage, and Jeremiah talked it out with me. Episode 13: Jeremiah unpacks the Marieism mentioned in that episode to affirm a woman's natural power. Episode 14: Jeremiah expounds on what co-laboring means to men and how that complementary energy of invitation and initiation blends well in male/female relationships. He ends with making bids, reciprocity, and what inspires a man to go even harder in pursuing you.  Books Mentioned in Today's Show: The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman, Ph.D.   Connect with Me: Website: ⁠https://matchmarrymate.com/⁠ Instagram: ⁠@matchmarrymate⁠ Become a Patron!: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/matchmarrymate⁠ Book a Call!: ⁠https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/⁠

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 7, lovebugs! This episode includes a curated Q & A session with me and my client, Dani, discussing similar refrains from the men she was dating and how to treat prematurely disconnecting with men. As our conversation takes off, we dive into dating practices, behavioral patterns, feedback loops, and sweet spots. This is a perfect show for those who need some new inspo with their dating.   Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 6, lovebugs! My client, Alexandra, has rejoined us to share an update from her Fun Girl Summer Episode #2. We discuss assessing a man’s proposal for exclusivity, the decision-making process, and how to deliver the conversation. Nothing about this conversation went according to plan; we just allowed Spirit to flow, so listen in and be served.  Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/ Have a Secret Story you want to share with me...? I'm here for it! I invite you to story-time with me and drop your truths and tells along with my (sweet) tea. Spill it anonymously, of course, with me, and do not hold back! I want the tea, the juice, the beans, and the whole nine yards! Send your Secret Story here!

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 5, lovebugs! This episode opens with a curated coaching session with my client, Shaunice, and closes with an interview between me and her. First, we prepare for a "bid of connection" conversation Shaunice needs to have with her then-fiancé with femininity and vulnerability to create intimacy. Then, we catch up in an interview where she shares her "story of men" and how her relationship with earlier male figures (her father and uncle) impacted the kinds of men she chose. You won't want to miss this one. Tune in! Books/Research/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show: Marriage Be Hard: 12 Conversations to Keep You Laughing, Loving, and Learning with Your Partner by Kevin & Melissa Fredericks  Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 4, lovebugs! I'm joined by Kaity Rodriguez, LCSW—an author and the writer of the 100 Dates in Houston blog series for a conversation about her latest dating project. Tune in to hear us explore her selfhood and dating journeys, her opinions on the gender-number disparity between Black women and men, and her lover-girl feminine archetype. She also shares some dating tools she's learned that have improved her dating. Because Kaity's story included impressive self-awareness and self-work, I knew she'd be the perfect guest to teach us today. If you need support in this area, this is your show! Books/Research/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show: 100 Dates in Houston: Love is a Numbers Game by Kaity Rodriguez, LCSW The Confidence Project Journal by Kaity Rodriguez, LCSW Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.  Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 3, lovebugs! I'm joined by Mrs. Tracie Stafford, a Social Sustainability Scientist who develops inclusive cultures and is the mother to one of my clients. I sit at her feet to soak in her wisdom about mothering, hindsight knowledge, generational patterns and trends (specifically Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials), dating advice from 27 years of marriage, and pageantry tips as a former beauty queen!  Connect With Me: Instagram: ⁠@matchmarrymate⁠ Website: ⁠https://matchmarrymate.com/⁠ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: ⁠https://www.coachjoyice.com⁠ Book A Call: ⁠https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/⁠

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 2, lovebugs! I'm joined by Mrs. Christian Jackson, LPC, LPC/S, NCC—our Daddy Issues Expert and one of my favorite Black woman therapists! We discuss father-daughter relationships and how it affects us throughout our lifespan. Our conversation includes daddy issues, the difference between therapy, counseling, and coaching—and the value in all three, naming and caring for your inner girl, being a boy-mom, tips for having a healthy marriage and family, and the Daddy Issues Inventory. Tune in for a heart-to-heart convo among Black professional women with a heart for Black (millennial) women. Books/Research/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show: Daddy Issues: How to Detangle From the Sins of Our Fathers by Christian Jackson  Personality Traits and Attachment Styles in Romantic Relationship Deciding by Tosun, et al. (Journal, 2022) Couch with Christian  The Attachment Style Quiz *All the research content I included came from the journal above, and the definition I read for "sliding" was cited in it by Vennum & Finchman in an article called: Assessing Decision Making in Young Adult Romantic Relationships (2011). Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season 2, lovebugs! This season chronicles our "Know Thyself" series, and opens with self-worth. In the first segment, I explain our season's theme and affirmations, deliver my latest spoken word piece (my lyrical love letter to humanity), and confront what I call self-worth/self-value confusion. In the second segment, one of my dearest friends, Mae, joins me in the studio to discuss the difference between self-worth and self-value and the importance of separating the two. If you're confused about personal worth and value, struggle with your identity, or need a good comfort convo on these topics, this is your show!   Books/Research/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show: You Are Worthy by Joyice Robinson The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk Mother Hunger: How Adults Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem  Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate Website: https://matchmarrymate.com Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to the 4th Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! This episode covers the 7 stages of marriage (for context), but the larger conversation centers on the value of wife-friends and couple–friends as I point to the 4th item on our Fun Girl Summer Wishlist—read something satisfying, steamy, or sexy. While our wishlist is designed for both singles and spouses to participate, this episode is for my wives! But, even singles can take some lessons here. I close the episode with 7 research-based benefits of having married couple friends for your marriage. Research/Books/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show: The 7 Stages of Marriage by Dr. Rita DeMaria (Book) When Harry and Sally Met Dick and Jane: Creating Closeness Between Couples by Richard Slatcher (Journal) What Do You Do When Things Go Right? The Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Benefits of Sharing Positive Events by Shelly L. Gable, et. al (Journal) Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage by Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley (Book) Lit Erotica ***I am not recommending the books. I am simply sharing the sources mentioned. I do recommend the cited research journals.*** FYI: If you're a patron, you can request research articles from me on our platform, and I'll gladly share them with you! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to the 1st Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! This episode introduces "Fun Girl Summer" by Match Marry Mate™ and invites you to join us! I explain what is a Fun Girl Summer, including how it came to be, along with it's purpose, theme song, and our Summer Wish List Challenge! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/ Fun Girl Summer Details: https://matchmarrymate.com/fungirlsummer23/

Welcome to the Season One Bonus Episode, lovebugs! We debuted the podcast on my birthday, June 2nd, and each day for a week, we released a single episode through Episode Seven: "We are Joyice and Jeremiah." Since launching the show, we've been overwhelmed with your comments/messages and your love and support.  I've also taken to heart some of your feedback and questions and decided to bless you with this BONUS episode with details you want to know. Most of your responses were to episodes two, four, five, and six, which we'll cover in this bonus episode. Enjoy! Books Mentioned in Today's Show: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to the Season Finale, lovebugs! Enjoy our first conversational episode with me and my husband, Jeremiah. We're discussing major trends and movements with Black Families & Black Relationships/Marriage dynamics. Topics: State of Affairs between Black Men & Black Women Black Women's Response to Marriage Birthing & Socializing Black Children (namely boys) Possible Solutions to Remedy "Gender Warring" Black Women Marrying Down & Black Men Leveling-Up Research Article Covered in Today's Show: Black Women's Ambivalence About Marriage: A Voice-Centered Relational Approach by Patrícia Barros-Gomes & Joyce Baptist ^^^If you're a Patron, you can request a free copy from me.^^^ Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season One, Episode Six, lovebugs! This episode features a curated story with me and my client, Kera. We’re discussing how to determine if a man is aligned with our core values and if we have enough information to decide. This also leads us to a conversation about character traits and ways to challenge a man somewhat. Lean in and enjoy the conversation! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season One, Episode Five, lovebugs! This episode features a curated story with me and my client, Dani. This week, we’re discussing how to have an “I am no longer interested” conversation in the early stages of talking to a man. You know that space where you’ve had a date or two, and in those encounters, you realize there’s more misalignment than your standards will allow. You won't want to miss this one. Tune in! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season One, Episode Four, lovebugs! This episode features a solo session with Yours Truly as I address a father-daughter issue that a then-client asked me about. This week, we’re talking about father-daughter relationships. Yes, how you relate to your father, but today’s talk is more about identifying fatherhood qualities in men you’re dating or in relationships as you consider or imagine your future daughter and her relationship with the father you would have chosen for her to have–and that’s going to lead us to how we understand the difference between female respect and value from fathers and men. Go ahead and listen! Here's the blog post I mentioned in this episode: https://matchmarrymate.com/respect-value-women/ Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season One, Episode Three, lovebugs! This episode features a Q&A and curated story as I address polarity and balance with two clients. This week, we’re talking about balance as we manage two realities in the dating and relationship space: (1) polarity as it relates to individuality and togetherness, concerning identity and community when dating, and (2) polarity as it relates to familiarity and novelty, concerning self-sabotage in a new relationship. Then, we transition to working through self-sabotage and the importance of balance. Tune in! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season One, Episode Two, lovebugs! This episode features a curated story with me and a guest, Carlissa. This week, we’re talking about creating a Sacred Space for women—the beauty of it, the value in it, and the power that comes from it. Now, for all that magic to happen, the woman in need of support must be teachable, as that posture allows for authentic reception, and today’s guest is definitely if “being teachable” were a person. Enjoy! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Welcome to Season One, Episode One, lovebugs! This episode features Storytime with Yours Truly as an introduction from me to you. I am asked many questions about how I came to understand men/masculinity or about my knowledge of feminine energy and power. And the quick answer is … a lot of it was born in my upbringing. In this episode, I’m sharing some highlights about who I am as a daughter, sister, mother, and wife. Let’s get into it! Connect With Me: Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/ Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/ Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/

Greetings and welcome to the Match Marry Mate™ Podcast. I’m your host, Joyice Robinson Myers, and our show is intended to G.E.T. your love life together. Guide you on your dating and relationship journey Empower you with feminine presence, power, and charm Teach you how to navigate and negotiate your needs and desires with men. Each week you can expect to hear a collection of curated stories that explores a variety of Dating and Relationship Issues & Topics to raise awareness and apply wisdom. Have you ever felt like Dating is Ghetto or felt insecure or embarrassed because you Don’t Know How to Date or be flirty, maybe you’re the girl who can get a man but can’t keep one. You’re ready for some “my man, my man, my man” energy  Honey, this show has your name all over it, love.  So, get comfortable, inhale/exhale, and lean into the Match Marry Mate™ Show.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/matchmarrymate/message

We are back with the final episode in a seven-part reflection series with my guest, Vanessa, where she walks us through the hard-earned lessons she learned on her dating journey—lessons from both the show Ready to Love and her real life. We’re talking about insecure men—not the everyday kind of insecurity that we all experience from time to time, but the kind that can escalate quickly from uncomfortable… to unsafe. The kind that shows up as control, manipulation, and even calculated harm when a woman dares to exercise her right to say “no.”Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode!HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our services? Choose your option ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my dissertation by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.Submissions:Submit your ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book your ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit your ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Literature & Links:The DC Relationship Education CenterConnect with Me:Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.comInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinsonPatreon: ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work With Me: Book a SessionBe Featured: ⁠⁠⁠Share a Secret Story⁠⁠