Upfront & Undivided

A statement came out in our conversation the other day - "You know, some people are trying to not get divorced, rather than wanting to be married."So what does that look like? What does that sound like? We live in a world where it is acceptable for a marriage to look like roommates sharing a last name and having different lives. How do we break that cycle? We break it by remembering WHY we got married. We encourage each other to grow, together! Not to be identical, but together. Connect with us if you would like to be better with your marriage.Have a listen, and let us know what you think!Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

When Eve was talking to the snake, Adam was right there with her, listening and watching. Are we helping our spouses stay accountable, are we encouraging them, correcting them, helping them? How do we act, look, speak when we are at our spouse's elbow?Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Welcome to 2026! We are expecting and hoping for great things for all of you this upcoming year! Sometimes life doesn't quite go the way we planned. We get to choose how we react and how we prepare for what may come. When we lean into what God has for us, then we are able to handle it His way. Every day, we get to choose how we think, act, and respond to every situation, whether it's a blessing or a hardship. We want to encourage all of you, and hope for the best in your relationships!Ephesians 5: 21-33Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

When two people get married, they get a new identity. That comes with starting a new family, new traditions, and a new culture. It might seem a bit crazy to go against tradition, especially now that it is the Holiday season of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's. This is what happens though. As a married couple, starting our own family, we had the opportunity to sit and talk about what we wanted our family traditions to look and sound like. We took the good and the bad of our families from growing up, and had a "Keep or Toss" conversation. We learned that those conversations keep happening throughout our marriage, in every season. Our lives will change, and our traditions get to change with them.So what traditions would you like to start, keep, or change in your marriage and family? Have a listen, and let us know what you think.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Many of us know that we should be wise and discerning when it comes to allowing people to speak into our lives. It is the same with your marriage. Not everyone we meet should have access and "speaking rights" to our marriage. It is good to have a conversation with God and your spouse about who should be in your corner, and should should just visit your porch. Not everyone will be able to have the same level of trust and love for your marriage as you do.Have a listen as we talk about the people that should be in your corner, the ones that will celebrate with you and hold you accountable. Let us know what you think!Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Welcome to Episode 134!We are so excited to share our thoughts on accountability with you. What does that look like? It is a combination of what we say and do to and for each other, and so much more. Accountability is accepting responsibility for one's actions, commitments, and decisions, and being answerable for the outcomes, whether positive or negative. It involves being transparent, explaining decisions, and taking ownership of results to build trust and improve performance in personal, professional, and societal contexts. We also talk about Accountability and Vulnerability in Episode 58. Have a listen and let us know what you think!Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

How do you react when change comes? Are you able to move and adapt when change happens?In this episode, we are talking about one of the changes in life and how spouses can cope and support each other through it. It isn't a midlife crisis, it is perimenopause. This isn't something that men go through, but we are there for our wives.Have a listen as we break down some of these changes, and strategies for successfully navigating them. We want to leave you with hope.Let us know what you think, and feel free to reach out with questions or if you want to talk.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

What's in your backpack? What are you carrying around with you from yesterday? Life is full of adventure, lessons, memories, and stress. As we go and do stuff and interact with others, we have a tendency to take bits of those moments and carry them with us. Those bits can add up to weigh us down. When we focus on God, He will tell us what we need to carry and what to drop. We get to start each day with an empty backpack. We can choose to not carry the past with us.Have a listen, and let us know what you think.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

When Marriage is a Higher Calling - that is the sub-title of this episode. We love talking about relationships, marriages, and communication. This is our passion, and we would love to see every marriage succeed and flourish.We are diving into the ideas and concepts of service, sacrifice, and unity in this podcast. We are also catching you up on what has been going on this past month. Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

In this episode, are are talking about the voices and wedges that can come in from the enemy to disrupt marriages. The enemy doesn't need us to be loyal to him, he just wants us to question our loyalty to God.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Join us on our latest episode where we talk about jealousy. Not the worldly kind, but the Godly, Biblical jealousy. The kind that looks out for each other, and wants the best for each other.We referenced Episode 48 - Do I Look Married? in this episode, so feel free to check it out if you haven't already, or listen again for a refresher.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

This episode got us excited! We are talking about men being men, and women being women! What does that look like in a Christian marriage? How can we cultivate and encourage this growth in each other? What tools should we develop to become better?Have a listen, and be ready to get fired up to take charge! Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

On this week's episode, we are talking about change. Not the change that gets to come with growth, but the change that can only happen from the Holy Spirit.As spouses, we get to realize that we cannot change our spouse. Their personality, standards, behaviors, and attitude will be the same after the wedding as it was while you were dating. This is why it is important to decide before you get into a relationship, what you will allow or not, what you will be ok with or not. We need to stop insisting that our spouses are just like us. Change can happen, but it mostly comes from the Holy Spirit, not nagging. Patience and communication are keys to a successful marriage, no matter how big the gap looks when you first get together.1 Peter 3: 1-7 "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers." (NIV)Have a listen, and let us know what you think.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Welcome back to the exciting adventure that is our month of May. We have gone on a couple of trips and had some fun adventures and conversations.In this episode, we are talking about growing with and knowing your person. If that is your spouse, your child, parent, friend, or coworker, do you know who you are communicating with, and how best to communicate with them? We talk about some strategies and pitfalls in learning how best to grow and cultivate a great relationship.Have a listen, and let us know what you think!Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

It is our anniversary! After 13 years of marriage, and over 14 years of being together, we are here, standing strong. We talk about ups and downs, tears and smiles. Our struggles are what make us who we are and what we share.Isaiah 40: 30-31 - "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." (NIV)Have a listen, and let us know what you think!Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Happy Easter! The Lord is risen!We are so excited to share our chat with our good friends Levi and Shannae. They have been through some battles, and they wanted to share their journey and their victory. We also talk about our past interview with Dustin and Torrie (Ep 60).This episode talks about the serious subject of pornography. It breaks our hearts to learn how many deal with this, and we want to give hope to all of those that are wanting to break the cycle and grip of it. Here are some statistics that we shared: (from an article from May 2022)Over 40 million Americans are regular visitors to porn sites. The average visit lasts 6 minutes and 29 secondsThere are around 42 million porn websites, which totals around 370 million pages of pornThe porn industry’s annual revenue is MORE than the NFL, NBA, and MLB combined. It is also more than the combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC.47% of families in the United States reported that pornography is a problem in their home.Pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by more than 300%.Eleven is the average age that a child is first exposed to porn, and 94% of children will see porn by the age of 14.56% of American divorces involve one party having an “obsessive interest” in pornographic websites.70% of Christian youth pastors report that they have had at least one teen come to them for help in dealing with pornography in the past 12 months.68% of church going men and over 50% of pastors view porn on a regular basis. Of young Christian adults 18-24 years old, 76% actively search for porn.59% of pastors said that married men seek their help for porn use.33% of women aged 25-and-under search for porn at least once per month.Only 13% of self identified Christian women say they never watch porn – 87% of Christian women have watched porn.55% of married men and 25% of married women say they watch porn at least once a month.57% of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issue in their congregation. And 69% say porn has adversely impacted the church.Only 7% of pastors say their church has a program to help people struggling with pornography.Have a listen, and let us know what you think.If you want help, or want to talk, you can reach us at upfrontandundivided@gmail.com or info@firmfooting.coach, or you could reach out to a trusted friend or pastor. Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Join us as we give an update on what is going on in our lives! We have a new website - firmfooting.coach. It is going to be the online home for our Relationship Coaching. Please feel free to check it out, and let us know what you think!We are also talking this week about getting along and communicating through difficulties and working on a frustrating project together. How do we act and react when it is the project or task that is setting us off, and not our spouse? Have a listen, and leave a comment.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Have you ever felt like life is getting a little crowded? Maybe you've let something into your marriage that isn't supposed to be there? How many people are in your marriage? That is what we are talking about in this week's episode.Have a listen and let us know what you think!We will be speaking for 4 weeks - Marriage Supplements. Starting Tuesday, April 8th, at 6:30pm, 9900 View High Dr, KC, MO.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Come join us for our latest episode - The Echos. We are talking about how our pasts can create echos in our minds that can distract us from our present.What do we do when those echos come up? How do you deal with the echos?In a way this episode is similar to when we have talked about fingerprints.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!

Welcome back! In this week's episode, we are sitting down with Dean'na's brother and sister-in-law, Bob and Dawn Cates. They recently celebrated 36 years of marriage. We had the honor of sitting down with them, and asking what nuggets they have for couples.Love ServesServe your spouse with intentionHave a listen, and let us know what you think.Have the best week! Enjoy the journey!