Unhinged and Healing

She's back — and what a way to return.  In this episode Terri sits down with coach, speaker, and full-blown activator Aymie Alexandra for a conversation that goes there. Together they unpack the real difference between high standards rooted in self-worth versus ones built as walls to keep love out — and how to tell which one you're living. They dive deep into the nervous system, why so many women have been dysregulated their entire lives without knowing it, and why shaking your ass to your favorite song might actually regulate you faster than a 20-minute meditation ever could.  Aymie breaks down her powerful framework connecting money and men as mirrors of your internal world — and what your attachment style is quietly revealing about your bank account. They also get honest about pain kinks, radical accountability, and the part of us that chooses the dynamic we say we hate. In this episode: The difference between expansive standards vs. protective walls Oxytocin as the master regulator for women's nervous systems  How to know if you're dysregulated (and what to actually do about it) Why movement beats meditation for most women The money-men mirror and what your patterns are telling you  Pain kinks, shadow work, and taking radical ownership of your life Aymie Alexandra is the host of The Full Range Feminine podcast and can be found on Instagram and TikTok @aymie.alexandra

Hey friends — I know it's been a minute. In this episode, I'm catching you up on everything that's been going on behind the scenes. Life threw me a few curveballs, and I wanted to be real with you about why I've been so quiet lately. Thanks for sticking with me — let's get into it.

Episode Highlights: perfectionism, relationships, shame, self-awareness, personal growth, emotional health, communication, parenting, self-care, mental health Summary: In this engaging podcast episode, Terri and Kayla delve into the complexities of perfectionism, its impact on personal and relational dynamics, and the journey towards self-awareness and healing. They explore how perfectionism manifests in various aspects of life, particularly in relationships, and discuss the importance of recognizing shame and fostering self-compassion. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, self-care, and the gradual process of personal growth, highlighting that perfectionism is not about achieving flawlessness but about embracing imperfection and learning to navigate life's challenges with grace. Takeaways: Perfectionism can be a protective mechanism developed from childhood stress. Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing perfectionistic tendencies. Shame often stems from the 'shoulds' we impose on ourselves. Consistency in actions is more beneficial than striving for perfection. Micro habits can help rebuild trust in oneself. Perfectionism can negatively affect relationships and parenting. Repairing relationships after conflicts is essential for building trust. Every person in our lives reflects our own qualities, both good and bad. Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts in relationships. Self-care and personal growth are vital for healthy relationships. If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure to take a screenshot and share it out on Instagram and tag @terri_boucher. Also, please make sure to give us a review and a five star rating if you're loving what we are doing! Find more of Kayla on instagram @themedicalperfectionist

Episode Highlights: autoimmune disease, lupus, journey, lifestyle changes, diagnosis, challenges, blood clots, kidney failure, holistic approach, diet, exercise, blood pressure control, healing, alternative solutions, lupus, autoimmune disorder, remission, lifestyle changes, self-care, stress, trauma, victim mentality, medical system Summary: Alex shares his journey with autoimmune disease, specifically lupus, and how he has been able to improve his health through lifestyle changes. He discusses his initial diagnosis and the challenges he faced, including blood clots and kidney failure. Alex emphasizes the importance of a holistic approach to healing, including diet, exercise, and blood pressure control. He also highlights the need to challenge the belief that autoimmune diseases are incurable and encourages others to explore alternative solutions. Alex shares his journey of managing lupus and achieving remission through lifestyle changes and self-care. He emphasizes the importance of knowing your body and being proactive in managing symptoms. Alex also discusses the impact of stress and trauma on autoimmune disorders and the need to take control of your health. He challenges the victim mentality and encourages individuals to empower themselves in their healing journey. Takeaways: Autoimmune diseases, such as lupus, can have a significant impact on a person's life, causing symptoms like blood clots, joint pain, and fatigue. A holistic approach to healing, including diet, exercise, and blood pressure control, can help improve symptoms and overall health. It is important to challenge the belief that autoimmune diseases are incurable and explore alternative solutions. Support from family and a mindset shift can play a crucial role in overcoming the challenges of living with an autoimmune disease. Success stories of others who have healed their autoimmune conditions can provide hope and inspiration for those struggling with their own health. Lupus can be managed through lifestyle changes and self-care, leading to remission and improved quality of life. Knowing your body and being proactive in managing symptoms is crucial for long-term health. Stress and trauma can contribute to autoimmune disorders, and it's important to address these factors in the healing process. Taking control of your health and empowering yourself is key to overcoming the challenges of living with a chronic illness. The medical system often focuses on diagnosing and prescribing medication, rather than prevention and holistic approaches. If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure to take a screenshot and share it out on Instagram and tag @terri_boucher. Also, please make sure to give us a review and a five star rating if you're loving what we are doing! Find more of Alex on instagram @thealexgnydjenko

Episode Highlights: loss, grief, siblings, drugs, addiction, healing, fentanyl, tragedy, support, rehabilitation, MC, bodybuilding shows, addiction, volunteering, criminal record, drugs, alcohol, rock bottom, coping mechanism, self-sabotage, personal growth Summary: Terri and Cory discuss their experiences of losing siblings to drugs and the healing power of sharing their stories. They reflect on the birthdays of their late siblings and the impact of their losses. Cory shares the tragic circumstances of his brother's passing and the challenges his family faced afterward. They discuss the changing landscape of the drug industry, particularly the rise of fentanyl and its devastating effects. They also explore the complexities of addiction and the need for comprehensive support systems and rehabilitation programs. Cory Ossum shares his journey of becoming an MC for bodybuilding shows and his struggle with addiction. He started volunteering for bodybuilding shows and eventually became the MC for multiple shows in Canada and the United States. However, his past history with drugs and a criminal record posed challenges for him. He was arrested for selling cocaine and needed a pardon and waiver to enter the United States. Cory also opens up about his personal struggle with addiction and how it affected his life. He emphasizes the importance of taking control of one's life and making positive changes. Takeaways: Sharing personal stories of loss and grief can be healing and provide support for others who have experienced similar situations. The drug industry has changed significantly in recent years, with the rise of fentanyl and its devastating effects. Addiction is a complex issue that requires comprehensive support systems and rehabilitation programs. Losing a sibling to drugs can have a profound impact on family dynamics and relationships. Reintroducing purpose into one's life and surrounding oneself with a supportive community are crucial for recovery from addiction. . Cory shares his personal struggle with addiction and the impact it had on his life. Taking control of one's life and making positive changes is essential for personal growth and overcoming addiction. If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure to take a screenshot and share it out on Instagram and tag @terri_boucher. Also, please make sure to give us a review and a five star rating if you're loving what we are doing! Find more of Cory on instagram @theossumlife