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► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Sometimes, there’s a wild dragon in our mind.It makes our head turn small problems into something that feels threatening. Creating a big disaster and making our thoughts catastrophizing. The dragon can awaken at any time.When we get triggered — by our partner, our boss, or even by ourselves — our calm state gets hijacked.And suddenly, it feels like a fire-breathing dragon takes over our thoughts.It twists how we see things.It exaggerates danger.And if we’re not careful, we don’t just have the dragon in our mind — we become it.We say things we don’t mean.We assume the worst.We hurt other people — and ourselves — often without even realizing it.► Links and Resources:Negativity Bias Article: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/negativity-bias ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 The Inner Dragon04:25 Why The Dragon Exists07:50 How To Tame The Dragon10:46 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Why do intimate relationships always feel so emotionally overwhelming?I’ve been wondering about that question ever since I started dating.Somehow, relationships always felt more difficult for me than they seemed to be for other people.Not for everyone, but there is definitely a group of people who doesn't understand my specific challenges with it.► Links and Resources:Regulation in Isolation Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=dCqQr20jMrTEE2RKYou Can’t Change Them Episode: https://youtu.be/JUu4MkLvrK4?si=AfBjjLIw7nAj8CDbSense of Self Article: https://www.healthline.com/health/sense-of-selfThe Four Points of Balance: https://jamesmchristensen.com/blog/david-schnarchs-four-points-of-balance ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - Relationships Feel Emotionally OverwhelmingRelationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming03:39 Why Your Relationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming10:05 How To Feel Less Emotionally Overwhelmed In Relationships11:19 The Four Points Of Balance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Emotions are just states that constantly change. No emotional state stays forever. Also emotions are survivable. This is what my therapist always said. You are not the emotions, which are the clouds, you are the sky that’s always there, no matter which emotion arises.► Links and Resources:Polyvagal Theory Video:https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - Inside the Emotional Storm01:43 Why Is The Emotional Storm So Powerful?03:59 Calming The Storm► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about why avoidant partners stonewall,what you can do if you feel you don’t feel heard and seen for the thousand’s time because they always go coldAnd on the flipside, what avoidants can do if they find themselves constantly stonewalling during vulnerable conversions.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Style Video:https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18Emotional Dysregulation Video: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BAHow to Resolve Relationship Conflict Like a Secure Person: https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8 Stonewalling Examples Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/ The 4 Horsemen by Dr. John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ Stonewalling, Grey Rocking & Narcissism: https://sherrygaba.com/navigating-relationships-with-narcissists-stonewalling-vs-gray-rocking/ Adult survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ⁠⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:47 What Is Stonewalling?03:21 Why Stonewalling Hurts Our Relationship05:06 Stonewalling Vs. Grey Rocking07:48 Stonewalling And Avoidant Attachment09:28 The Stonewalling Cycle13:55 Stonewalling And The Nervous System16:30 The Hidden Psychology Behind Stonewalling18:48 How To Deal With Stonewalling Like A Secure Person► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Some of the things you call red flags might actually be the healthiest signs you’ve ever seen.If you grew up in a difficult environment where these following greenflags were not familiar or even dangerous, that’s not surprising.Because when chaos was normal, when you got hurt, safety can feel wrong.Calm feels boring. Consistency suspicious. And closeness can feel dangerous.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 7 Dating Red Flags, That Are Actually Green00:33 1. They Don’t Always Respond Right Away02:40 2. They’re Not Very Active on Social Media04:12 3. They Have Close Friends of the Opposite Sex05:59 4. They Value Their Own Space and Independence07:50 5. They Say What They Think Directly09:48 6. They’re Genuine, Not Constantly Charismatic11:38 7. They Don’t Always Make You Feel Comfortable13:37 From Red To Green16:00 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 7 Trauma-Driven Green Flags, That Are Actually RedYou might think you’ve found the one — they’re kind, attentive, emotionally open… But what if those ‘green flags’ are actually coming from unresolved trauma?Therefore today, I’ll walk you through 7 behaviors that look like emotional maturity or even love but are secretly warning signs rooted in anxious attachment, fawning, codependency, or toxic shame.If you’re someone healing from CPTSD, this might just change how you see "healthy" relationships forever.► Links and Resources:The Secret To STOP Fighting in Your Relationships: https://youtu.be/dF2QYyxqJjMSpiritual Bypassing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_bypass ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:11 Flag 1: They Always Want To Be With You05:46 Flag 2: They Never Get Mad At You12:10 Flag 3: They Open Up About Everything On The First Date16:42 Flag 4: They Always Put You First19:00 Flag 5: They See You As Their Entire World21:39 Flag 6: They Communicate So Well During Conflict, But Nothing Ever Changes25:22 Flag 7: They’re Obsessed With “Healing” ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)In this video, I explore attachment styles, how to identify a secure partner, and the dynamics of trauma bonding.► Links and Resources:Fear of Commitment Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=mKymbK-Sh2jeFVD1Chaotic Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/-BFW7lVd8Yk?si=asZKMwEpWoPtradmTrauma Bonding Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:13 Dating With CPTSD10:09 Dating With An Avoidant Attachment Style13:40 Dating With An Anxious Attachment Style16:17 Dating With A Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style18:43 Trauma Bondings In CPTSD Dating21:19 Why Secure Love Feels Boring24:05 Dating with a Secure Attachment Style27:01 How To Find a Secure Partner27:30 Step 1: Start To Reclaim Your Own Sense Of Self First30:15 Step 2: Continuously Shed A Light And Question Your Triggers31:39 Step 3: Start To Become A More Securely Attached Person Yourself34:08 Step 4: Date Like A Secure Person Would► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)There is a way to crush you pink glasses for someone now.But let me warn you up front: This way is not good advice, neither will it end your romantic obsession problems long term.Still, it works if you want to stop intrusive thought about someone instantly.The solution is: Get more options!Get another or even better - more surfaces for your projections of your fantasies aka limerent objects► Links and Resources:Limerence While in a Relationship: https://youtu.be/UOZLmQkBFMMChatGPT as Therapist Video: https://youtu.be/JRo6PgSiB3w?si=jX8TGEKH1q0LSFE_Detachment & Letting Go Video: https://youtu.be/WUJu3dVIUZ0?si=WhQ51parSClkzTSD► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:18 Way 5: Truly Want (Decide) To Move On07:50 Way 4: Use AI-Tools As A Neutral Mirror13:58 Way 3: Accept What It Means To Be Over Your L.O.16:11: Way 2: Understand What Your Inner Child Truly Needs (And Never Got)19:30 Way 1: Be Prepared To Sit On A 3-Legged Chair (Get A Life)20:56 Pillars Of Stability/Leg 1: Health22:02 Leg 2: Wealth/Work22:42 Leg 3: Social Life24:00 Leg 4: Options25:13 Leg 5: Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)You might believe that being in a happy marriage or relationship makes you immune to limerence.But still, I’ve read the following story about limerence while in a relationship in one or another version hundreds of times online.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:21 Limerence While In A Relationship03:37 The Perspective Of The Partner05:42 Why Was She Risking Her Marriage?08:17 How Limerence Forms While In A Relationship13:31 What To Do?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ (Ad)What is at the root of limerence, aka romantic obsession, aka love addiction? Ladies & Gentlemen, it is NOT just loneliness or a quirky crush.Therefore, today I’m taking you on a deep dive through the 10 layers beneath the surface down to the dark root of limerence.► Links and Resources:Self-Soothing Through Fantasies: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=yN_lWce2OJ57hmkaAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=PZijKMhWOOJiL2Tf Love Addiction Article: https://greymattersjournal.org/love-addiction/Basic Needs: https://blanchethouse.org/5-levels-of-human-needs/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:30 Level 1: The Obsessive Crush04:26 Level 2: Mixed Dating Signals06:54 Level 3: Dopamine Addiction & OCD08:46 Level 4: Unmet Emotional Needs11:41 Level 5: Projection: The Idealized Fantasy16:49 Level 6: Fear Of Rejection/Intimacy19:43 Level 7: Attachment Wounds21:28 Level 8: Childhood Trauma/Neglect23:19 Level 9: Low Self-Worth/Shame25:07 Level 10: Nervous System Dysregulation► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=PDm6Sk9WuPx6Rjp4► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:25 What Does It Mean If You Don’t Feel Seen?04:00 Introspective Perception08:40 Extrospective Perception10:00 Society & Culture11:30 Childhood & Relationships13:00 Love Languages19:00 How To Feel More Seen21:50 How To See Others MoreFinal Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 10 signs it’s a trauma bond and not real love.But I won’t just throw these signs at you, I want you to truly understand the background psychology of a trauma bond.This is why I take you into the roller coaster relationship of Mary.We will see how a trauma-bonded relationship forms, how it builds up, and then slowly but gradually crashes into emotional suffering, codependency and addiction - sign by sign.Plus, in the end, we will also explore what real love actually might look like.► Links and Resources:Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=kSFn2nNBgBf6Mx3kTrauma Bond Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/Codependency Series by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/yesXC_ibRKE?si=r4JO6JGdscfuJU0c People Pleasing and Healthy Conflict Video: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=6pxiypHRDxaAldEW► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:48 What Is A Trauma Bond?04:40 Sign 1: The Honeymoon Phase (Love Bombing)06:44 Sign 2: Unwritten Rules08:52 Sign 3: Honesty Is Dangerous13:17 Sign 4: Gaslighting14:37 Sign 5: Double Standards15:46 Sign 6: Enmeshment And Codependency19:34 Sign 7: Cause For Pain, Source For Healing21:44 Sign 8: Emotional Responsibility24:00 Sign 9: Abuse Escalation29:15 Sign 10: Addiction (The Crash)31:19 What Is Love?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)In this video I show you a live roleplay where I simulate a conflict with my “wife” and try to resolve it using Nonviolent communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg. I’m sharing this with you not because I’m so good in conflict resolution, but because I’m so bad in it. I was avoidant my whole life and I’m lacking this skill the most. I’m scared as hell of conflict and currently learning this skill I think this is one of the most important skills for relationships to learn.So maybe it saves your relationship or marriage and you don’t have to run away anymore.► Links and Resources:Nonviolent Communication Book (Ad): https://amzn.to/4ohDQIh ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:00 Why DOESN’T Conflict Resolution Always Work Out Easily?04:10 How Relationship Fight Resolution Looks Like In Real Life05:45 Nonviolent Communication09:30 Live Roleplay18:40 Learnings From The Roleplay► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)⁠► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode!Here’s the thing: We all hate conflict in our relationships.And it’s these days when we fight with the person we love most, that hurt us and make us suffer the most.But what if there is a way to stop fighting in our relationships?Even prevent fights before they happen?In this episode, I will introduce you to an often forgotten approach to achieve exactly that: A relationship with less fighting & conflict.Plus, as a bonus, in the end of the video, I demonstrate this solution in a live roleplay with a Custom GPT I built.► Links and Resources:Video People Pleasing and How Conflict Heals Relationships: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=tU5VgGUQz2SaQJIK Article Michael Lukas Moeller: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Lukas_Moeller ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:56 Why We’re Fighting04:00 The Toxic Fighting Cycle08:49 How A Healthy Relationship Looks Like13:15 Where The Disconnection Happens15:39 The Real, Mutual Talk17:41 “Zwiegespräch” Dialogue20:50 Nonviolent Communication► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about a surprisingly simple technique to resolve conflict like a secure person.We explore why we fight and how our attachment style is linked to that.But more importantly, I’ll show you a simple technique that works to handle conflict like a secure person.And I demonstrate this solution in a live roleplay with a Custom GPT I built.► Links and Resources:Nonviolent Communication Book: https://amzn.to/4nu5b9Z *Ad► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:14 Why We Fight03:58 Conflict and Insecure Attachment11:55 Escalation Scale16:28 About The Technique16:44 Nonviolent Communication21:22 Live Roleplay30:46 Live Roleplay Results ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 10 Signs That Immediately Tell You Someone Is a Covert Narcissist.Grandiose narcissists are often more obvious to spot, but there is another type that is more hidden.We talk about what covert narcissism is,10 signs how you can spot one that I ranked from most obvious to least obvious, and what to do if you identify one.► Links and Resources:HSP and Narcissists Episode: https://youtu.be/4iVbi9euL3k?si=TVaaPCU44ay8JH6FNarcissism Phenotypes Paper: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/40679663_Pathological_Narcissism_and_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:12 Covert Narcissism Vs. “Regular” Narcissism04:43 Sign 1: They Are Hypersensitive To Any Kind Of Criticism06:27 Sign 2: They Are Chronic Neurotics 07:44 Sign 3: They Are Anti-Social09:53 Sign 4: They Don’t Want Others To Succeed11:08 Sign 5: They Are Far Up On The Spectrum Of Judging12:39 Sign 6: Aggression Comes Out Of The Backdoor14:56 Sign 7: The Play The Moral Victim17:09 Sign 8: They Strut Around But Don’t Take The Risks19:24: Sign 9: Grandiosity Comes Out Of The Backdoor20:47 Sign 10: They Weaponize Your Insecurity23:02 What To Do, If You’re In A Relationship With A Covert Narcissist? ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 8 life areas to declutter to calm chaos & overwhelm and release emotional baggageIn the beginning we discuss the controversial if trauma is responsible for a lot of the clutter in our lifeAnd we explore in depth all of the 8 areas and come up with solutions to declutter► Links and Resources:Traumatic and stressful life events in hoarding article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8312593/Hoarding and Trauma article: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2211364917301793 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:46 Clutter And Trauma10:32 Household Clutter13:58 Time/Capacity Clutter16:23 Career Clutter19:04 Financial Clutter21:56 Physical Health Clutter25:16 Relationship Clutter28:24 Emotional Clutter36:05 Mental Clutter► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)While working with 4 different therapists in the past years, I’ve learned a ton of powerful self-care habits.Here are my top 7, ranked from least to most impact, to reclaim self-worth.But surprisingly, habits 6 and 7 are the simplest effective at the same time.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/qqDURsvDZmM?si=iQdhxHnDYiQ_o4GS ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:33 Habit 1: Wordless Mirror-Work2:53 Habit 2: Re-Regulation Tools & Resources06:01 Habit 3: Express Needs08:31 Habit 4: Wear Clothes That Feel Like You09:59 Habit 5: Daily Boundary Check-In11:43 Habit 6: Use A Grounding Reminder App13:31 Habit 7: Set A Reminder For Your Sense Of Self► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If your relationships look like this: One moment you're deeply connected — the next, you're pulling away and don't want any contact with that person.Or you have the feeling that you are somehow addicted and dependent on another person.This isn’t just drama.But it’s the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding — a pattern that’s especially common if you grew up with chaos, neglect, or emotional unpredictability.In this video, we’ll explore why love can feel like a roller coasterHow all this is linked to an anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment styleWhich role narcissistic abuse plays in all of thatand how to finally break free from the chaos… to master real, secure connection — even if you never saw that growing up.► Links and Resources:10 Signs of a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=Hakj_BVayQasc134 Intermittent Reinforcement Article: https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-whyTrauma Bonding Video By Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/live/xIf4uJ94r3o?si=4C1KYflrBZs_dxtM► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:02 What is Trauma Bonding?04:33 How Childhood Trauma Creates This Pattern07:06 The Role of The Narcissist 09:47 Challenges in Breaking Free11:48 How To Rebuild Healthy Relationships After a Chaotic Childhood12:00 Step 1: Clarity For The Trauma-Bond13:05 Step 2: Get Away From Any Toxic Relationship13:53 Step 3: Understand What A "Healthy" Partner Is15:07 Step 4: Find The Right People For You Healing16:00 Step 5: Dance The Connection/Autonomy Dance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If you're on social media these days, everyone tells you the same thing: 'Just listen to your gut feeling.'But I want to say the opposite is true.Because what if your strongest intuition — your so-called gut feeling — is actually coming out of a past wound?This is true for everyone who experienced childhood trauma.In this video, I’ll reveal to you 7 clear signs that it’s trauma — not your intuition — speaking.My goal is that after this video you can tell for sure if it's your gut instinct speaking, or a past trauma reaction.Plus, I’ll share some of the best tools, techniques, and strategies I’ve learned over four years of therapy to help you reconnect with your true gut instinct.► Links and Resources:Commitment Issues Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=0NIn5fjYfkHL1SANSomatic Symptoms Video: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=gEKaF2NUR899j1mLHypervigilance Video: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=B07c4KL8NprA8B-S Neuroception Article: https://khironclinics.com/blog/polyvagal-theory-neuroception-the-fundament-of-feeling/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:00 Personal Story02:47 Real Gut Feeling: Location & Sensation Breakdown05:28 Why You Can’t Trust Your Gut Feeling08:14 Sign 1: You Overthink And Expect The Worst, Even When Things Are Calm09:16 Sign 2: You Struggle To Trust People, Even If They've Never Hurt You10:52 Sign 3: You're Afraid They Might Leave, Even If Nothing's Wrong11:55 Sign 4: You Overreact To Small Things, And It Feels Huge In The Moment12:46 Sign 5: You're Always On Alert, Even When There's No Visible Threat13:55 Sign 6: You Avoid People Or Places, And You're Not Sure Why15:44 Sign 7: You Feel Uneasy When Things Are Actually Calm17:16 How To Reconnect With Your Real Intuition19:32 Tools, Skills & Resources For Regulating Trauma Responses► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.