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► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 10 Signs That Immediately Tell You Someone Is a Covert Narcissist.Grandiose narcissists are often more obvious to spot, but there is another type that is more hidden.We talk about what covert narcissism is,10 signs how you can spot one that I ranked from most obvious to least obvious, and what to do if you identify one.► Links and Resources:HSP and Narcissists Episode: https://youtu.be/4iVbi9euL3k?si=TVaaPCU44ay8JH6FNarcissism Phenotypes Paper: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/40679663_Pathological_Narcissism_and_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:12 Covert Narcissism Vs. “Regular” Narcissism04:43 Sign 1: They Are Hypersensitive To Any Kind Of Criticism06:27 Sign 2: They Are Chronic Neurotics 07:44 Sign 3: They Are Anti-Social09:53 Sign 4: They Don’t Want Others To Succeed11:08 Sign 5: They Are Far Up On The Spectrum Of Judging12:39 Sign 6: Aggression Comes Out Of The Backdoor14:56 Sign 7: The Play The Moral Victim17:09 Sign 8: They Strut Around But Don’t Take The Risks19:24: Sign 9: Grandiosity Comes Out Of The Backdoor20:47 Sign 10: They Weaponize Your Insecurity23:02 What To Do, If You’re In A Relationship With A Covert Narcissist? ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 8 life areas to declutter to calm chaos & overwhelm and release emotional baggageIn the beginning we discuss the controversial if trauma is responsible for a lot of the clutter in our lifeAnd we explore in depth all of the 8 areas and come up with solutions to declutter► Links and Resources:Traumatic and stressful life events in hoarding article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8312593/Hoarding and Trauma article: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2211364917301793 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:46 Clutter And Trauma10:32 Household Clutter13:58 Time/Capacity Clutter16:23 Career Clutter19:04 Financial Clutter21:56 Physical Health Clutter25:16 Relationship Clutter28:24 Emotional Clutter36:05 Mental Clutter► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)While working with 4 different therapists in the past years, I’ve learned a ton of powerful self-care habits.Here are my top 7, ranked from least to most impact, to reclaim self-worth.But surprisingly, habits 6 and 7 are the simplest effective at the same time.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/qqDURsvDZmM?si=iQdhxHnDYiQ_o4GS ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:33 Habit 1: Wordless Mirror-Work2:53 Habit 2: Re-Regulation Tools & Resources06:01 Habit 3: Express Needs08:31 Habit 4: Wear Clothes That Feel Like You09:59 Habit 5: Daily Boundary Check-In11:43 Habit 6: Use A Grounding Reminder App13:31 Habit 7: Set A Reminder For Your Sense Of Self► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If your relationships look like this: One moment you're deeply connected — the next, you're pulling away and don't want any contact with that person.Or you have the feeling that you are somehow addicted and dependent on another person.This isn’t just drama.But it’s the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding — a pattern that’s especially common if you grew up with chaos, neglect, or emotional unpredictability.In this video, we’ll explore why love can feel like a roller coasterHow all this is linked to an anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment styleWhich role narcissistic abuse plays in all of thatand how to finally break free from the chaos… to master real, secure connection — even if you never saw that growing up.► Links and Resources:10 Signs of a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=Hakj_BVayQasc134 Intermittent Reinforcement Article: https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-whyTrauma Bonding Video By Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/live/xIf4uJ94r3o?si=4C1KYflrBZs_dxtM► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:02 What is Trauma Bonding?04:33 How Childhood Trauma Creates This Pattern07:06 The Role of The Narcissist 09:47 Challenges in Breaking Free11:48 How To Rebuild Healthy Relationships After a Chaotic Childhood12:00 Step 1: Clarity For The Trauma-Bond13:05 Step 2: Get Away From Any Toxic Relationship13:53 Step 3: Understand What A "Healthy" Partner Is15:07 Step 4: Find The Right People For You Healing16:00 Step 5: Dance The Connection/Autonomy Dance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If you're on social media these days, everyone tells you the same thing: 'Just listen to your gut feeling.'But I want to say the opposite is true.Because what if your strongest intuition — your so-called gut feeling — is actually coming out of a past wound?This is true for everyone who experienced childhood trauma.In this video, I’ll reveal to you 7 clear signs that it’s trauma — not your intuition — speaking.My goal is that after this video you can tell for sure if it's your gut instinct speaking, or a past trauma reaction.Plus, I’ll share some of the best tools, techniques, and strategies I’ve learned over four years of therapy to help you reconnect with your true gut instinct.► Links and Resources:Commitment Issues Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=0NIn5fjYfkHL1SANSomatic Symptoms Video: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=gEKaF2NUR899j1mLHypervigilance Video: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=B07c4KL8NprA8B-S Neuroception Article: https://khironclinics.com/blog/polyvagal-theory-neuroception-the-fundament-of-feeling/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:00 Personal Story02:47 Real Gut Feeling: Location & Sensation Breakdown05:28 Why You Can’t Trust Your Gut Feeling08:14 Sign 1: You Overthink And Expect The Worst, Even When Things Are Calm09:16 Sign 2: You Struggle To Trust People, Even If They've Never Hurt You10:52 Sign 3: You're Afraid They Might Leave, Even If Nothing's Wrong11:55 Sign 4: You Overreact To Small Things, And It Feels Huge In The Moment12:46 Sign 5: You're Always On Alert, Even When There's No Visible Threat13:55 Sign 6: You Avoid People Or Places, And You're Not Sure Why15:44 Sign 7: You Feel Uneasy When Things Are Actually Calm17:16 How To Reconnect With Your Real Intuition19:32 Tools, Skills & Resources For Regulating Trauma Responses► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Are you in this situation right now, where you desperately wish nothing more, than that a specific person in your life would change?Maybe your partner who keeps shutting down emotionally?Your dad who’s slowly destroying himself with unhealthy habits?Or Your daughter making decisions that feel absolutely impossible to watch?If you’re feeling the urge right now that’s it’s your job to fix them, to somehow save them — then this episode is for you.Because here’s the honest truth upfront:You can’t change them. And you shouldn’t try.I know that might feel like giving up.But you can do something instead - and this is what we’re talking about in this video.► Links and Resources:Between Stimulus and Response Lies Our Freedom Episode: https://youtu.be/XGJFXLEfdpc?si=zBO77fGiQViBEmTW► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:52 3 Saver Roles You Play, When Trying To Fix Someone You Love05:20 Why It Was Never Your Job To “Fix” Them06:47 Trying To Fix Someone? Try These 3 Steps!13:19 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Sometimes our emotional world, feels like a battlefield.So do you often feel like you’re fighting an invisible war inside your own body?Like sounds, lights, and emotions are too much?No one might see it, BUT you’re not alone.This is sensory overload caused by complex trauma which causes you to be easily triggered, feeling overwhelm ed and burned out.In this video, we’ll break down why your nervous system feels like a battlefield, what the causes behind your overwhelm and shutdown are and a ton of resources I collected during years of therapy that can help you surviving and calm you down.► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode:https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StIHSP vs. ASD Episode: https://youtu.be/sib1ok3a6-w?si=E2gIexDhZedOh9VNSensory Overload and PTSD Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9720153► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:0000:52 Personal Story02:09 Understanding CPTSD And Sensory Overload04:50 CPTSD Vs. Neurodivergence Vs. Sensory Sensitivity08:25 Identifying Your Unique Triggers10:32 Re-Regulation & Grounding Techniques10:53 Technique 1: The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique11:17 Technique 2: Movement Skills11:58 Technique 3: Shower Technique12:55 Technique 4: Emergency Exit Technique13:33 Sensory Overwhelm Self-Care Routines14:05 Routine 1: Create A Low-Stimulation Environment15:23 Routine 2: Nervous System Hygiene = Daily Self-Care16:58 Routine 3: Communicate Your Sensory Needs & Set Boundaries18:24 Long Term Healing► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)There is one reason, why so many of us are feeling not good enough.No matter how much you achieve or how many people tell you otherwise, you still sometimes just want to disappear, because you're feeling so degraded and thinskinned.But the thing is: That voice inside you that keeps saying, ‘You’re not enough’… it didn’t start with you. You weren’t born believing that. It was planted there — and it’s been shaping the way you see yourself ever since.And in today's video, we’re going to look at where that belief really comes from, what toxic shame actually is, how it can quietly control every area of your life without you even realizing it… and most importantly, what you can do to finally break free from it.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=Ndp7XgXXWlqMazoN► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:05 Where “I’m Not Good Enough” Comes From03:48 Toxic Shame: The Root Of It All10:04 Why You Keep Ending Up In The Same Pain11:33 How To Stop Feeling “Not Good Enough” 12:17 Step 1: Realize: It Was Never Your Fault! 13:01 Step 2: Replace Self-Criticism With Compassion14:33 Step 3: Train Yourself To Interrupt The Cycle As Often As Possible15:25 Step 4 : Create New Relationship Experiences16:30 Step 5: Use Re-Regulation-Tools And Resources► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)What if your constant battle with shame, burnout, or the feeling that something’s wrong with you… isn’t actually about you? But what if it’s about your childhood? In this video, we’re unmasking one of the most important studies on trauma ever conducted (interestingly enough I’ve never talked about it here on the channel before) — the famous ACE Study — Adverse Childhood Experiences.We’ll uncover what it reveals about how your childhood silently rewired your brain, your body, and your entire sense of self.How this is affecting nearly every area of your adult lifeAnd most importantly: what you can do to break free from the patterns from your past and stop passing the trauma to the next young generation.► Links and Resources:Physical Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=jIcStaNgfG5zNu2-Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=EFEcJAmUOYVA1Mj- ACE Study Full Paper: https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/s0749-3797(98)00017-8/pdfDr. Vincent J. Felitti: https://drvincentfelitti.com/ ACE Study CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/about.html ACE Study Results CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.htmlCanadian ACE: https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/85-002-x/2022001/article/00016-eng.htm ACE and Cancer: https://www.nature.com/articles/s44184-025-00138-6 ACE and Depression: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032724001484 ACE and Suicidality: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6220625/ACE and Life Outcomes: https://therapyinanutshell.com/ace-study/ Trauma and Brain Change: https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-024-06306-w ACE Quiz: https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:55 Why The ACE Study Mattered So Much02:38 The 10 ACE’s04:21 ACE Study Findings: Trauma is way more common than we think05:44 How ACE’s Drastically Sabotage Your Adult Life08:44 What Trauma Does To The Brain And Body10:42 Not All Adversity Is Bad11:58 Healing From The Consequences Of ACEs12:06 Step 1: Awareness & Re-Connection With Yourself13:42 Step 2: Relearning Safety Through Relationships14:43 Step 3: Rebuild The Skills You Were Never Taught► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Today we’re talking about: 10 Things People with Trauma Do Without Realizing.► Links and Resources:Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=cnxWk5WsT8GveNk8Social Anxiety Episode: https://youtu.be/h17cBx7b5UQ?si=wASNhO_rR6nXNsRP High Tension Episode: https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=zVsAWD08GAbHssfq Somatic Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=Bc-e28H4xMfai2DdTrauma vs. ADHD Episode: https://youtu.be/limKlx4h_F4?si=lOol2BfEfFZhXyUd ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 What You Will Learn02:10 1) To Them Closeness Feels Like A Threat04:16 2) They Need A Lot Of Alone Time07:07 3) They Are Highly Successful10:46 4) They Travel A Lot13:21 5) They Don’t Ask For Help17:32 6) They’re Always Tensioned / On High Alert21:00 7) They Feel Guilty For Everything At Any Time25:05 8) They Have Unexplainable Physical Symptoms28:06 9) They Appear To Have It All Together30:55 10) They Appear Off / Inattentive33:30 The Link With The Nervous System (Poly Vagal Theory)37:00 Healing Trauma Symptoms42:50 Outro► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)In the past 5 years, I’ve worked with 4 therapists on my childhood trauma, which was hijacking my relationships and causing constant anxiety.But while therapy helped me making a lot of progress and becoming a more confident and self-aware person, it didn’t completely fixed my trauma symptoms.I always felt like there is some puzzle piece missing.But after spending nearly 4.000 $ on therapy, I had to try something new.And surprisingly, while doing that, I finally found it. The missing piece!What I finally learned, what my 4 therapists couldn’t teach me, I will share with you in today’s video.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:58 My Healing Journey So Far04:09 Lesson 1: Re-Connecting With Yourself06:06 Lesson 2: Stop Masking, Express Your Emotions07:45 Lesson 3: Communicating Needs08:36 Lesson 4: Setting Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty09:42 The Missing Puzzle Piece That “Fixed” Me13:35 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Do you ever find yourself replaying that one conversation from three weeks ago… again?You know, the one where you said that “wrong” thing and now your brain won’t let it go?You’re lying in bed, exhausted but your mind is still running a marathon of “what ifs” and “why did I say thats?”You obsess over a tiny mistake… and suddenly it feels like your whole character is on trial.What if I told you… that relentless mental noise isn’t just overthinking.But it might be trauma - for example from childhood.In this video, we’re unpacking the hidden link between complex trauma and overthinking — and how to finally break free from the cycle that’s been hijacking your peace for so long.► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=pcSnqYXr4b93QDN_ Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi on Overthinking: https://youtu.be/kgF_GqyfSMI?si=Vo1b2AdN4R9TvoacOverthinking Article: https://www.talkiatry.com/blog/why-do-i-overthink-everything ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:04 Overthinking02:30 How Overthinking Feels Like03:42 The Hidden Root: Trauma05:57 The Cycle Of Overthinking08:30 How To Break The Cycle Of Overthinking10:18 Step 1: Name It, To Tame It10:57 Step 2: Re-Regulation Resources12:30 Step 3: Boundaries With Your Thoughts13:34 Step 4: Self-Containment► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Do you associate intimate relationships with panic, overwhelm, chronic gut pain or the feeling of being trapped?Well, then you’re not alone. I had this for years and my biggest wish was to just “feel normal” and relaxed with my partner.But the good news is, there is a way to make relationships not feeling so painful and anxiety driven anymore.After a handful of exhausting breakups and through years of therapy I figured out 5 game changing lessons, that completely transformed my relationship life.Therefore in this video today, I will reveal to you why intimate relationships might overwhelm you in the first place and what exactly you can do to finally feel safer.► Links and Resources:Physical Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=0JBQbqOVUHVI_vQLHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=tHy3yB4DUlBO12EF 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=8L1AFSK39AvABNoXSensory Processing Sensitivity Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_sensitivity► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:56 The Uneasy Gut Feeling02:55 What’s Behind The Overwhelm07:55 Lesson 1: Understanding My Sensitive Nervous System10:18 Lesson 2: Understanding & Expressing My Needs12:37 Lesson 3: Learning To Name My Emotions14:22 Lesson 4: Understanding My Lack Of Boundaries 16:24 Lesson 5: Building Inner Holding (Self-Containment)► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Do you know that painful feeling when you have to cross a busy city center and it feels like all eyes are on you?Or that intense discomfort walking into a room full of people at a party that is already in full swing, like you're exposed, like you don’t belong there?That’s the quiet torment of social anxiety. And if you’ve felt it, you’re not alone.But… what if it didn’t have to be this way?What if you could feel calm, grounded — even confident — in those same situations… without having to fake it?In today’s episode, I’ll break down the hidden trauma cycle behind social anxiety.And by the end, I’ll show you two powerful ways to begin breaking free from it — for real.► Links and Resources:Joseph Campbell Quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/11602-the-privilege-of-a-lifetime-is-being-who-you-are► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:52 Why Social Anxiety Is Often About Trauma, Not Shyness02:45 The Cycle Of Social Anxiety04:40 Beating The Cycle Of Social Anxiety14:57 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Have you always thought of yourself as “a shy person”?Do you prefer quiet spaces? Social events exhaust you? And do you need a lot of alone time to recharge?What if… that’s not just introversion?What if something deeper — something fear-driven — is hiding behind your so-called introvert personality?Today, we’ll uncover five signs that you might not just be introverted…But you’re actually dealing with social anxiety.We will clarify common misconceptions about these two and you will also learn, where your social anxiety actually has its roots.► Links and Resources:Trauma and Social Anxiety Article: https://psychcentral.com/ptsd/childhood-trauma-social-anxietyPhysical Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=ub35EEp2hZDyTDbK Inner Tension Episode: https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=TeSWbbBGtA3vEspW Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=732jl86Z8oVoDq65► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:52 Why We Mix Up Introversion & Anxiety02:19 Introversion03:28 Social Anxiety04:30 5 Signs You’re Not Just “Shy” 04:84 Sign 1: You Feel Physically Tense In Social Settings06:11 Sign 2: You Cancel Plans Out Of Panic, Not Peace07:52 Sign 3: You Crave Connection But Fear Being Seen09:34 Sign 4: You're Hyper-Aware Of How You're Being Perceived11:16 Sign 5: You Shape-Shift To Avoid Judgement12:55 Misconception 1: Introverts Are Antisocial13:09 Misconception 2: Social Anxiety Is A Weakness13:38 Misconception 3: You Just Need To "Get Out Of Your Shell"17:14 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Over the past decade, I ended five long-term relationships. And each time, I convinced myself I was better off alone.But what I didn’t realize back then was this: That my relationships didn’t work wasn’t about my partners. It wasn’t even really about me.It was unresolved childhood trauma, quietly hijacking my gut feelings, sabotaging my relationships, and shaping how I showed up in love.In today’s video, I want to uncover how early emotional wounds act like a hidden puppet master in our relationships… What’s truly behind your attachment style… And how you can finally break the cycle of painful patterns and partners that never feel safe.Ready for some real “aha” moments?► Links and Resources:Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA?si=dkhPhvMPJxzTZj14I Overcame My Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:01 How Trauma Sabotaged My Relationships04:11 How Trauma Shapes Love05:44 How Trauma Hijacks Your Emotions 05:51 Hijacked By Traum: Your Emotions08:42 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Behaviour09:53 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Attachment Style11:09 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Value Compass12:48 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Identity 13:26 The Cycle17:13 How To Break The Cycle17:38 Step 1: Create Awareness For What's Going On19:53 Step 2: Understand Your Attachment Style21:41 Step 3: Stop Chasing Only What Feels Familiar 23:58 Step 4: Learn The Skills For Healthy Love 26:09 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ ⁠(Ad)Maybe you're like me — you grew up thinking your childhood was “good.”There was no big trauma. Not much screaming and fights, no chaos.Your parents were around. You had everything you needed… on paper.But what if I told you that a childhood that looked good can still leave deep emotional wounds?In my case, it wasn’t just the “bad” things that happened — It was the good things that didn’t.The safety, the attunement, the emotional presence I never knew I was missing sometimes.If you feel emotionally numb, unworthy, or like you never quite belong —this might be yours too.In this video, I’ll share how I discovered the hidden impact of emotional neglect, the surprising ways it showed up in my life and ruined my relationships, and the 5 steps I actually needed to go to heal and finally build real, connected relationships.And let me tell you: It wasn’t just therapy!► Links and Resources:How I Overcame My Commitment Issues: https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk Love vs Limerence: https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=_gPstbGBPxkpIPwb I Replaced My Therapist With ChatGPT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRo6PgSiB3w&t=229s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:01:12 What Emotional Neglect Is 03:45 How Emotional Neglect Showed Up In Me09:58 The Moment I Understood Emotional Neglect11:43 How I Overcame Emotional Neglect23:51 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Have you ever snapped over something small — especially with someone you love — and then felt terrible about it afterwards? You're not a bad person. But there is a reason for that anger.In today’s episode, we’re going to uncover the real reason why you keep exploding over the tiniest things — especially in your closest relationships. And here’s the truth: it’s almost never about the other person or what triggered you in the moment.Sounds confusing? We’ll break down what’s really going on inside you — and what it actually takes to stop these reactions for good. Not by suppressing your emotions or forcing yourself to 'stay calm'... but by understanding and healing the root cause.⁠ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:59 Anger In Close Relationships03:21 The Real Reason For Your Anger05:34 Identifying Your Triggers09:07 How To Break The Cycle► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Do you feel like something’s always a little off —like your emotions hit too hard, or not at all…and no one sees the battle you're fighting inside?That might not be anxiety. Or burnout.It could be Complex PTSD —the result of prolonged emotional trauma that never had space to heal.In this video, I’ll walk you through every core CPTSD symptom from the most common to the least known — clearly, quickly, and in real human language. But trust me, the last one is sometimes even missed by professionals!► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode:https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=Hyy6p_4o1cLYmrx-How I Overcame Avoidant Attachment Episode:Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=kE0UyssKllrskiCH Disorganized Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=NJM8ebzQmpYZfU0tSomatic Symptoms: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=YXJUFNCV3YpiCurF ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:53 CPTSD Simply Explained01:54 Symptom 1: Big Emotional Swings02:19 Symptom 2: Always On Edge03:09 Symptom 3: Overreacting To “Small” Things04:53 Symptom 4: Trouble Sleeping05:26 Symptom 5: Reliving and Experiencing The Past06:02 Symptom 6: Avoiding Anything That Feels Unsafe 06:46 Symptom 7: Zoning Out Or Numbing07:43 Symptom 8: Push-Pull Relationships08:36 Symptom 9: Toxic And Abusive Relationship Drama09:28 Symptom 10: Body Pain, But No Doctor Knows Why10:22 Symptom 11: Harsh Inner Critic11:15 Symptom 12: Substance Abuse12:00 Symptom 13: Bullying12:56 Symptom 14: Space Out Or Losing Focus13:34 Symptom 15: Missing Memories And Forgetfulness14:35 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ (Ad)In the past 10 years, I sabotaged five long-term relationships. At first I thought it was my intuition - my gut feeling - telling me I hadn’t met the right person yet. But through therapy, I discovered something deeper:It wasn’t my partners. It was me.Specifically, my avoidant attachment style… and a deep, hidden fear of commitment I didn’t even know I had.In this video, I’m sharing the full story of how I went from running away from intimacy… to finally being able to stay—emotionally, mentally, and physically—in a real, loving relationship.You’ll learn why closeness can feel terrifying when you’re avoidantly attached, how we self-sabotage without knowing it, and most importantly:The breakthrough that finally helped me stop fearing love.► Links and Resources:Physical Pain Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=FZvH__BWNZtkemOVAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=dZ46bDFhdfgWBCQx Ego Defense Mechanisms: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559106/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:06 Signs You’re Having Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment05:10 What Is Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment?07:16 Ego Defenses And Protection Mechanisms12:05 Deep Beliefs & Identity Illusion14:50 Wrong Partner Or Avoidant Attachment?16:25 Overcoming Avoidant Attachment & Stopping Commitment Fears► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.