Claim OwnershipIntimacy After Infidelity | Rebuild Connection, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness for Adultery, Avoid Divorce
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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ.
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Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you?
Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go?
Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame
You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded.
I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked.
Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment.
On this podcast, you’ll find:
- A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate
- Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation
- Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust
- Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them
Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole.
If you’re ready to:
Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation
Experience God’s love without fear or striving
Break familiar patterns for good
Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace
Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play.
This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus.
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In this episode, I share my honest journey of losing trust in myself during the affair, and the tiny, sacred steps that rebuilt my confidence over time. This is a tender, practical guide to restoring integrity from the inside out, with God as the anchor.
You’ll learn:
• What self-betrayal looks like during an affair
• Why self-trust feels impossible afterward
• How to rebuild it through tiny aligned choices
• The mindset shift that restores integrity
• One reflection question to begin today
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: www.instagram.com/kristinajoycoaching
Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
All the info: www.kristinajoycoaching.com
In this episode, I break down how to build healing habits you can actually keep, especially when life is overwhelming. Learn how to create rhythms that feel supportive, nurturing, safe, and aligned with who you’re becoming, not who you’ve been.
You’ll learn:
How habits form in a regulated nervous system
Why motivation isn’t the answer
How identity and values make consistency easier
How to create habits that feel like love, not pressure
One reflection question to help you begin today
Let’s Connect!
- Curious about the Community? https://www.kristinajoycoaching.com/rooted-in-joy
- Book a 1:1 Connection Coaching Call: www.kristinajoycoaching.com/1-1-clarity-coaching-call
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/kristinajoycoaching
- Send me a question: https://www.kristinajoycoaching.com/contact
If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself, especially after an affair, this episode is a breath of fresh air.
Today, I share my honest journey of rebuilding identity after confession, learning my values, grounding in Scripture, and discovering who I was becoming in Christ.
You’ll learn how to anchor your healing in truth, step into alignment with your values, and let God rebuild your identity from the inside out.
You’ll learn:
What identity crisis looks like after an affair
How Scripture and visualization can help rebuild your sense of self
Why values matter more than you think
How to form a vision for your future when everything feels shaky
One simple reflection question to help you connect with your healed self
Let’s Connect!
- Curious about the Community? https://www.kristinajoycoaching.com/rooted-in-joy
- Book a 1:1 Connection Coaching Call: www.kristinajoycoaching.com/1-1-clarity-coaching-call
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/kristinajoycoaching
- Send me a question: https://www.kristinajoycoaching.com/contact
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
Happy New Year, my friend 🤍 If you’re stepping into 2026 feeling tender, unsure, or quietly hopeful, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’m sharing why healing after an affair doesn’t require pressure, resolutions, or striving. It requires gentle, life-giving rhythms that support your body, heart, mind, and soul. We talk about prayer, Scripture, rest, movement, silence, and community as support systems (not rules) and why God designed rhythm for your healing.
I also guide you through affair-recovery–specific reflection prompts that help you listen to your body, your inner parts, and the Holy Spirit as you release 2025 and step into a new year with compassion and clarity.
If you’re craving a fresh start that actually feels safe and sustainable, this conversation will meet you right where you are.
If you’re struggling to stay grounded this season, you don’t have to do it alone.
Let's Connect! I’d love to hear where you’re listening from and what this season is stirring in you. 💙
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to set up a call to see if Rooted in Joy is the place for you!
Safe women. Scripture + somatic healing. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
The holidays can intensify loneliness, dysregulation, and the urge to reach out to an affair partner, especially when family gatherings feel overwhelming or unsafe. In this episode, I gently unpack why the craving feels so strong during the holidays and how to get through these moments without going back to old patterns.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why holidays trigger emotional overwhelm and longing for escape
✨ How texting an affair partner often functions as regulation, not desire
✨ Practical tools to ground your nervous system in triggering moments
✨ How Emmanuel, God with us, becomes a lived experience, not just theology
✨ How to stay present, care for yourself, and choose healing even when it’s hard
If you’re struggling to stay grounded this season, you don’t have to do it alone.
Let's Connect! I’d love to hear where you’re listening from and what this season is stirring in you. 💙
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to set up a call to see if Rooted in Joy is the place for you!
Safe women. Scripture + somatic healing. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
In this episode, I share honestly about how the holidays used to dysregulate me and how I've learned to stay grounded, present, and connected to God without numbing or escaping. This is a compassionate guide for navigating holiday triggers, family dynamics, and emotional overload with grace and nervous system awareness.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why the holidays can feel especially dysregulating
✨ How old escape patterns show up during family gatherings
✨ Simple boundaries and grounding tools you can use in real time
✨ How to stay present with God and yourself without numbing
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
Today, I’m keeping it real and sharing honestly about my own journey of longing for closure with my affair partner. I’m also opening up about the powerful moment I realized I didn’t need his words to heal. So if you’ve ever waited for one last conversation, apology, or goodbye before you could move on, this episode will help you take your power back and find closure with God instead.
You’ll learn:
✨Why we crave closure so deeply
✨ Why his apology or explanation often pulls you back in
✨ How to release his story and reclaim your own
✨ How God’s words bring real closure to your heart
✨ Practical tools for grounding, processing, and letting go
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
You were never meant to heal alone. In this episode, I share some personal stories behind my own breakthrough moments, from the first time I admitted I couldn’t cut contact, to the retreat where I experienced safety and compassion for the first time, to the women who held space for me when she was convinced I had to take my secrets to my grave.
I also reveal what I'm seeing inside my own group coaching community:
the “me too” moments, the relief from isolation, the courage that rises when women hear their own thoughts mirrored in someone else’s story, and the unique healing that happens only in safe, faith-filled connection.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why you cannot read the label from inside the jar
✨ The brain science behind safety and co-regulation
✨ How God uses other women as mirrors and midwives for breakthrough
✨ The lies the enemy uses to isolate you — and the truth that sets you free
✨ Why healing accelerates in community (and why trying alone keeps you stuck)
💙 Plus, hear real testimonials from women inside Rooted in Joy who have found compassion, clarity, accountability, and a sisterhood they didn’t know they needed.
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 Join the community before Dec. 1! My personal mentor will be joining the Rooted in Joy coaching community as an expert guest speaker. You don't want to miss this!
The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
If you’ve ever wondered how to become the healed version of yourself, the woman you know God is calling you to be, then this episode is your roadmap. I'll share real stories from my own healing journey, including the moment I acted like my healed self long before I felt healed, just last week! I'll also discuss how identity, values, and embodiment create transformation from the inside out.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why it’s normal to feel disconnected from the “future you” at first
✨ How to make choices from identity instead of emotion
✨ The lies you must shed to step into who God says you are
✨ How to use the Be–Do–Have framework to align with your healed self
✨ One powerful question to guide your next brave step
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + Embodied Bible Study is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
If you’ve ever asked, “Why are affairs so wrong if they feel so good?” this episode will help you see the longing underneath the behavior and the good design underneath the distortion.
We’ll unpack Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 6 and 7 through a modern lens, exploring sexual stewardship, wholeness, and what it means to align your body, mind, and spirit with God’s original design for intimacy and freedom.
You’ll learn:
Why freedom in Christ is about discernment, not indulgence
How the craving itself points to God’s good design underneath the distortion
The connection between body, spirit, and sexual stewardship
Three truths about desire, grace, and holiness
Reflection questions to help you process this passage personally and with God
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: DM GROUP for details
1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
NEW: Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + Embodied Bible Study is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join today.
If you’ve ever wondered why the wrong thing could feel so right, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my real-time 🔥 Holy Spirit revelations 🔥 from a church sermon, unpacking how the enemy distorts truth to lure us into counterfeit lies. You’ll learn how to identify the lies, test them against God’s Word, and experience His Light and Truth as your ultimate source of provision.
You’ll learn:
How unmet needs lead us toward false comfort
How to test every thought and emotion against God’s truth
Why seeking first the Kingdom realigns your desires with true provision
A prayer practice to ask the Holy Spirit to replace lies with truth
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: DM GROUP for details
1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
NEW: Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + bi-weekly Bible Study is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join today.
Sister, you’re not “too emotional” and you’re not a robot. God designed your body, brain, and heart to work together. In this episode, I teach a simple Christian & somatic approach to feeling your feelings without spiraling into old patterns. We’ll use The Model and The Domino Drill, parts-work in plain English (think Inside Out), and a handful of on-the-spot practices you can use today.
You’ll learn:
Why emotions are messengers, not enemies, and how God meets you in them
A Christian, embodied take on The Model + The Domino Drill to stop emotional spirals
How to use parts-language (“Hi, loneliness”) to reduce intensity and increase compassion
Quick somatic tools (sigh + anchor, orienting, etc.)
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + bi-weekly devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: DM GROUP for details
1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
NEW Community Group Coaching! Reach out on Instagram for more information and to join us today!
When the affair ends, the silence can feel unbearable. Not just because he’s gone, but because you don’t recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, I share my own story of identity loss after infidelity and walk you through the process of rediscovering who you are in Christ. You’ll learn how to detach from false identities, rebuild your self-worth, and start living as the grounded, confident woman God created you to be.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why it feels like you lost yourself after the affair
✨ How to detach your worth from another person’s attention
✨ The spiritual practice of asking God who He says you are
✨ Simple ways to rediscover what brings you joy and peace
✨ A practical, faith-filled framework to rebuild identity after betrayal
Let's Connect!
DM ROOTED on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy group coaching. The kickoff call is this week!
Book a 1:1 Coaching Call
Find me on Instagram or in the Facebook group and let's meet!
NEW Community Group Coaching starting Monday October 20! Reach out on Instagram for more information.
You’re not crazy for still thinking about him, and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this episode I explain the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, help you name what you’re really missing, and teach practical, faith-filled tools to interrupt old loops and create new, healing associations. This includes somatic practices, a visual “leaf on the river” exercise, and coaching prompts you can use today.
You’ll learn:
Why your brain keeps replaying memories
How to distinguish what you miss from who he really is
Practical tools to interrupt obsessive thoughts and rewire your brain
How to grieve without staying stuck and meet your deeper needs safely
A short, cognitive and spiritual anchor to help take every thought captive
Let's Connect!
DM JOY on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy group coaching. The kickoff call is Monday, October 20!
Book a 1:1 Coaching Call
Find me on Instagram or in the Facebook group and let's meet!
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
If you’ve ever thought, “I should feel guiltier… I should regret this more…” this episode is for you.
I share my personal story of how guilt once kept me chained to shame and how learning the difference between guilt and responsibility changed everything.
You’ll learn:
✨ The difference between shame, guilt, and true responsibility
✨ Why punishing yourself is not the same as repentance
✨ How God’s kindness, not condemnation, leads to real change
✨ The identity shift that happens when you stop “should-ing” yourself
✨ Practical ways to walk in freedom, forgiveness, and grace
This episode is an invitation to stop punishing yourself and start healing through radical self-compassion and the truth of who God says you are.
🎧 Whether you’re in the early days after disclosure or years into rebuilding, this is your reminder: You can’t shame your way to healing. But you can love your way there.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
🌿 Be a founding member of the new group program — where women are rising together in healing, identity, and freedom
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
Have you ever asked yourself, “Will I ever feel fully loved again after what happened?”
In this episode, I share my raw journey of what it felt like to stay in a marriage after betrayal: the fear, the constriction, the loneliness. I’ll also walk you through the turning point that shifted everything: discovering my worth in Christ, learning to get radically honest in prayer, and finding new ways of healing that went beyond waiting for my husband to change.
This episode will encourage you if you’ve felt unseen, unloved, or stuck in shame. You’ll discover that intimacy after infidelity begins with God, with yourself, and with a love that can never be taken away.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why your healing can’t depend on whether your husband changes or not
✨ How Scripture + somatic healing opened the door to freedom for me
✨ What to do if you’re still feeling lonely even though your husband stayed
✨ A powerful practice to feel God’s love and safety right now
✨ Why true intimacy begins with you and God before it’s rebuilt with your spouse
This isn’t just about saving your marriage. It’s about reclaiming your voice, your worth, and your identity in Christ.
🎧 Whether you’re just beginning the healing process or you’ve been carrying the weight of betrayal for years, this episode is a reminder that God’s love is unconditional, secure, and always enough.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
Do you know for sure if you’re saved? Not if you’ve been religious, gone to church, or tried to be a good person, but if you have truly received salvation through Jesus Christ?
In this episode, I share my personal story of coming to know Jesus, from a childhood prayer, to wrestling with doubt, to experiencing a whole new level of surrender after my affair and baptism. I connect my own testimony with the clear gospel message: that Jesus, the Son of God, lived a perfect life, died for our sins, rose again, and offers us the free gift of salvation if we will receive it.
You’ll learn:
✨ The difference between religion and relationship with Jesus
✨ Why salvation isn’t about trying harder but receiving His free gift
✨ How my affair + baptism became a living picture of being rescued from sin and shame
✨ A simple step-by-step explanation of the gospel
✨ A prayer you can pray if you’re ready to receive Jesus personally
This isn’t just for women who don’t yet know Christ. It’s also a reminder for anyone who’s been stuck in shame, doubt, or “trying to be enough” that your identity and hope are secure in Him.
🎧 Whether you’ve never prayed for salvation or you just need reassurance of what’s true, this episode is a fresh invitation to experience Jesus’ love and freedom.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
After an affair, the word boundaries can feel heavy, like walls, restrictions, or even punishments. But what if boundaries weren’t about fear, but about love?
In this episode, I unpack what boundaries really are (and what they’re not) and show you the three essential types of boundaries every woman needs after infidelity:
✨ Boundaries with the affair partner
✨ Boundaries with friends and community
✨ Boundaries with your spouse
You’ll learn how to set boundaries that actually protect your peace, how to communicate them with clarity, and what to do when someone doesn’t respect them. By the end, you’ll have one practical step you can take today to feel safer, clearer, and more free in your healing journey.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
Have you ever felt invisible, discarded, or like no one understands what you’ve been through? In this episode, I share how the God, who saw Hagar in the wilderness, is the same God who sees, hears, and responds to you. He's El Roi, even in your wilderness.
We’ll explore how being seen by God changes everything about how you live, love, and heal after an affair. You’ll walk away knowing you are never truly alone and how to open yourself up to His provision and promises.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ache runs deep.
In this episode, I share my own story of unmet expectations, quiet grief, and how Jesus became my true Good Samaritan: seeing me, stopping for me, and carrying me when others passed by.
You’ll learn how to hold grief and gratitude together, release bitterness, and receive the healing presence of Jesus in places where people fell short.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
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