Claim OwnershipIntimacy After Infidelity | Rebuild Connection, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness for Adultery, Avoid Divorce
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The Go-to Podcast for Christian Women Who Want to Heal Their Heart to Shed Their Shame!
*RANKED TOP 2.5% GLOBALLY*
Do you wish someone would stop and see you, instead of looking through you or past you? Are you Googling ways to communicate and connect with your husband, but you’re still not feeling heard? Do you lay awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity or what’s the first step to file for divorce? Your vows are broken, and you’re so full of shame that you’re sure there’s no way God or your husband could possibly forgive you.
I am so grateful you’re here! This podcast will help you find hope, get a grasp on your emotions at a deeper level, and learn how to get raw and honest with God like your life depends on it- because it does. You’ll also get coaching for the steps along the journey of restoration, communication, and trust.
Hey, I’m Kristina Joy. Forgiven daughter of Jesus, Mom, and Coach. For years, I tried to break free from my infidelity in all the wrong ways. I tried by sheer willpower, I tried reading my Bible more, and I even considered joining a 12-step program. None of it worked.
I finally realized that if I was going to find true freedom in my life, I needed to let Jesus heal some deep wounds in my heart. Through prayer, a whole lot of research, and developing new healthy habits, I was finally able to find healing to shed my shame once and for all. I learned I could choose to leave the affair behind. I could choose to pursue my own emotional healing and growth, no matter if my marriage survived or not. I could create new healthy habits that would move me forward in confidence, with strength and dignity. And I am SO ready to share what I’ve learned with you!
If you are ready to finally find your true self in Christ,
Experience ultimate freedom from your bondage,
Feel authentic connection without the secrets,
And move forward with strength and dignity,
Then find your safe space and pop in those earbuds. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and life can be way better than it ever was before. Get ready- let’s rebuild your intimacy better than it’s ever been!
*RANKED TOP 2.5% GLOBALLY*
Do you wish someone would stop and see you, instead of looking through you or past you? Are you Googling ways to communicate and connect with your husband, but you’re still not feeling heard? Do you lay awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity or what’s the first step to file for divorce? Your vows are broken, and you’re so full of shame that you’re sure there’s no way God or your husband could possibly forgive you.
I am so grateful you’re here! This podcast will help you find hope, get a grasp on your emotions at a deeper level, and learn how to get raw and honest with God like your life depends on it- because it does. You’ll also get coaching for the steps along the journey of restoration, communication, and trust.
Hey, I’m Kristina Joy. Forgiven daughter of Jesus, Mom, and Coach. For years, I tried to break free from my infidelity in all the wrong ways. I tried by sheer willpower, I tried reading my Bible more, and I even considered joining a 12-step program. None of it worked.
I finally realized that if I was going to find true freedom in my life, I needed to let Jesus heal some deep wounds in my heart. Through prayer, a whole lot of research, and developing new healthy habits, I was finally able to find healing to shed my shame once and for all. I learned I could choose to leave the affair behind. I could choose to pursue my own emotional healing and growth, no matter if my marriage survived or not. I could create new healthy habits that would move me forward in confidence, with strength and dignity. And I am SO ready to share what I’ve learned with you!
If you are ready to finally find your true self in Christ,
Experience ultimate freedom from your bondage,
Feel authentic connection without the secrets,
And move forward with strength and dignity,
Then find your safe space and pop in those earbuds. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and life can be way better than it ever was before. Get ready- let’s rebuild your intimacy better than it’s ever been!
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The holidays can intensify loneliness, dysregulation, and the urge to reach out to an affair partner, especially when family gatherings feel overwhelming or unsafe. In this episode, I gently unpack why the craving feels so strong during the holidays and how to get through these moments without going back to old patterns.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why holidays trigger emotional overwhelm and longing for escape
✨ How texting an affair partner often functions as regulation, not desire
✨ Practical tools to ground your nervous system in triggering moments
✨ How Emmanuel, God with us, becomes a lived experience, not just theology
✨ How to stay present, care for yourself, and choose healing even when it’s hard
If you’re struggling to stay grounded this season, you don’t have to do it alone.
Let's Connect! I’d love to hear where you’re listening from and what this season is stirring in you. 💙
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to set up a call to see if Rooted in Joy is the place for you!
Safe women. Scripture + somatic healing. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
In this episode, I share honestly about how the holidays used to dysregulate me and how I've learned to stay grounded, present, and connected to God without numbing or escaping. This is a compassionate guide for navigating holiday triggers, family dynamics, and emotional overload with grace and nervous system awareness.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why the holidays can feel especially dysregulating
✨ How old escape patterns show up during family gatherings
✨ Simple boundaries and grounding tools you can use in real time
✨ How to stay present with God and yourself without numbing
Join the Community:
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
Today, I’m keeping it real and sharing honestly about my own journey of longing for closure with my affair partner. I’m also opening up about the powerful moment I realized I didn’t need his words to heal. So if you’ve ever waited for one last conversation, apology, or goodbye before you could move on, this episode will help you take your power back and find closure with God instead.
You’ll learn:
✨Why we crave closure so deeply
✨ Why his apology or explanation often pulls you back in
✨ How to release his story and reclaim your own
✨ How God’s words bring real closure to your heart
✨ Practical tools for grounding, processing, and letting go
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
You were never meant to heal alone. In this episode, I share some personal stories behind my own breakthrough moments, from the first time I admitted I couldn’t cut contact, to the retreat where I experienced safety and compassion for the first time, to the women who held space for me when she was convinced I had to take my secrets to my grave.
I also reveal what I'm seeing inside my own group coaching community:
the “me too” moments, the relief from isolation, the courage that rises when women hear their own thoughts mirrored in someone else’s story, and the unique healing that happens only in safe, faith-filled connection.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why you cannot read the label from inside the jar
✨ The brain science behind safety and co-regulation
✨ How God uses other women as mirrors and midwives for breakthrough
✨ The lies the enemy uses to isolate you — and the truth that sets you free
✨ Why healing accelerates in community (and why trying alone keeps you stuck)
💙 Plus, hear real testimonials from women inside Rooted in Joy who have found compassion, clarity, accountability, and a sisterhood they didn’t know they needed.
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Also interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
📣 Join the community before Dec. 1! My personal mentor will be joining the Rooted in Joy coaching community as an expert guest speaker. You don't want to miss this!
The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
If you’ve ever wondered how to become the healed version of yourself, the woman you know God is calling you to be, then this episode is your roadmap. I'll share real stories from my own healing journey, including the moment I acted like my healed self long before I felt healed, just last week! I'll also discuss how identity, values, and embodiment create transformation from the inside out.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why it’s normal to feel disconnected from the “future you” at first
✨ How to make choices from identity instead of emotion
✨ The lies you must shed to step into who God says you are
✨ How to use the Be–Do–Have framework to align with your healed self
✨ One powerful question to guide your next brave step
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Let's connect!
Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + Embodied Bible Study is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join the sisterhood today!
If you’ve ever asked, “Why are affairs so wrong if they feel so good?” this episode will help you see the longing underneath the behavior and the good design underneath the distortion.
We’ll unpack Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 6 and 7 through a modern lens, exploring sexual stewardship, wholeness, and what it means to align your body, mind, and spirit with God’s original design for intimacy and freedom.
You’ll learn:
Why freedom in Christ is about discernment, not indulgence
How the craving itself points to God’s good design underneath the distortion
The connection between body, spirit, and sexual stewardship
Three truths about desire, grace, and holiness
Reflection questions to help you process this passage personally and with God
Join the Community:
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: DM GROUP for details
1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
NEW: Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + Embodied Bible Study is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join today.
If you’ve ever wondered why the wrong thing could feel so right, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my real-time 🔥 Holy Spirit revelations 🔥 from a church sermon, unpacking how the enemy distorts truth to lure us into counterfeit lies. You’ll learn how to identify the lies, test them against God’s Word, and experience His Light and Truth as your ultimate source of provision.
You’ll learn:
How unmet needs lead us toward false comfort
How to test every thought and emotion against God’s truth
Why seeking first the Kingdom realigns your desires with true provision
A prayer practice to ask the Holy Spirit to replace lies with truth
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + embodiment devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: DM GROUP for details
1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
NEW: Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + bi-weekly Bible Study is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join today.
Sister, you’re not “too emotional” and you’re not a robot. God designed your body, brain, and heart to work together. In this episode, I teach a simple Christian & somatic approach to feeling your feelings without spiraling into old patterns. We’ll use The Model and The Domino Drill, parts-work in plain English (think Inside Out), and a handful of on-the-spot practices you can use today.
You’ll learn:
Why emotions are messengers, not enemies, and how God meets you in them
A Christian, embodied take on The Model + The Domino Drill to stop emotional spirals
How to use parts-language (“Hi, loneliness”) to reduce intensity and increase compassion
Quick somatic tools (sigh + anchor, orienting, etc.)
Join the Community:
DM GROUP on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy today (bi-weekly coaching + bi-weekly devotional, 24/7 chat support).
Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
Instagram: DM GROUP for details
1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
NEW Community Group Coaching! Reach out on Instagram for more information and to join us today!
When the affair ends, the silence can feel unbearable. Not just because he’s gone, but because you don’t recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, I share my own story of identity loss after infidelity and walk you through the process of rediscovering who you are in Christ. You’ll learn how to detach from false identities, rebuild your self-worth, and start living as the grounded, confident woman God created you to be.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why it feels like you lost yourself after the affair
✨ How to detach your worth from another person’s attention
✨ The spiritual practice of asking God who He says you are
✨ Simple ways to rediscover what brings you joy and peace
✨ A practical, faith-filled framework to rebuild identity after betrayal
Let's Connect!
DM ROOTED on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy group coaching. The kickoff call is this week!
Book a 1:1 Coaching Call
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You’re not crazy for still thinking about him, and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this episode I explain the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, help you name what you’re really missing, and teach practical, faith-filled tools to interrupt old loops and create new, healing associations. This includes somatic practices, a visual “leaf on the river” exercise, and coaching prompts you can use today.
You’ll learn:
Why your brain keeps replaying memories
How to distinguish what you miss from who he really is
Practical tools to interrupt obsessive thoughts and rewire your brain
How to grieve without staying stuck and meet your deeper needs safely
A short, cognitive and spiritual anchor to help take every thought captive
Let's Connect!
DM JOY on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy group coaching. The kickoff call is Monday, October 20!
Book a 1:1 Coaching Call
Find me on Instagram or in the Facebook group and let's meet!
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If you’ve ever thought, “I should feel guiltier… I should regret this more…” this episode is for you.
I share my personal story of how guilt once kept me chained to shame and how learning the difference between guilt and responsibility changed everything.
You’ll learn:
✨ The difference between shame, guilt, and true responsibility
✨ Why punishing yourself is not the same as repentance
✨ How God’s kindness, not condemnation, leads to real change
✨ The identity shift that happens when you stop “should-ing” yourself
✨ Practical ways to walk in freedom, forgiveness, and grace
This episode is an invitation to stop punishing yourself and start healing through radical self-compassion and the truth of who God says you are.
🎧 Whether you’re in the early days after disclosure or years into rebuilding, this is your reminder: You can’t shame your way to healing. But you can love your way there.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
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💙 7-part devotional experience
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💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
Have you ever asked yourself, “Will I ever feel fully loved again after what happened?”
In this episode, I share my raw journey of what it felt like to stay in a marriage after betrayal: the fear, the constriction, the loneliness. I’ll also walk you through the turning point that shifted everything: discovering my worth in Christ, learning to get radically honest in prayer, and finding new ways of healing that went beyond waiting for my husband to change.
This episode will encourage you if you’ve felt unseen, unloved, or stuck in shame. You’ll discover that intimacy after infidelity begins with God, with yourself, and with a love that can never be taken away.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why your healing can’t depend on whether your husband changes or not
✨ How Scripture + somatic healing opened the door to freedom for me
✨ What to do if you’re still feeling lonely even though your husband stayed
✨ A powerful practice to feel God’s love and safety right now
✨ Why true intimacy begins with you and God before it’s rebuilt with your spouse
This isn’t just about saving your marriage. It’s about reclaiming your voice, your worth, and your identity in Christ.
🎧 Whether you’re just beginning the healing process or you’ve been carrying the weight of betrayal for years, this episode is a reminder that God’s love is unconditional, secure, and always enough.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
Do you know for sure if you’re saved? Not if you’ve been religious, gone to church, or tried to be a good person, but if you have truly received salvation through Jesus Christ?
In this episode, I share my personal story of coming to know Jesus, from a childhood prayer, to wrestling with doubt, to experiencing a whole new level of surrender after my affair and baptism. I connect my own testimony with the clear gospel message: that Jesus, the Son of God, lived a perfect life, died for our sins, rose again, and offers us the free gift of salvation if we will receive it.
You’ll learn:
✨ The difference between religion and relationship with Jesus
✨ Why salvation isn’t about trying harder but receiving His free gift
✨ How my affair + baptism became a living picture of being rescued from sin and shame
✨ A simple step-by-step explanation of the gospel
✨ A prayer you can pray if you’re ready to receive Jesus personally
This isn’t just for women who don’t yet know Christ. It’s also a reminder for anyone who’s been stuck in shame, doubt, or “trying to be enough” that your identity and hope are secure in Him.
🎧 Whether you’ve never prayed for salvation or you just need reassurance of what’s true, this episode is a fresh invitation to experience Jesus’ love and freedom.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
After an affair, the word boundaries can feel heavy, like walls, restrictions, or even punishments. But what if boundaries weren’t about fear, but about love?
In this episode, I unpack what boundaries really are (and what they’re not) and show you the three essential types of boundaries every woman needs after infidelity:
✨ Boundaries with the affair partner
✨ Boundaries with friends and community
✨ Boundaries with your spouse
You’ll learn how to set boundaries that actually protect your peace, how to communicate them with clarity, and what to do when someone doesn’t respect them. By the end, you’ll have one practical step you can take today to feel safer, clearer, and more free in your healing journey.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
Have you ever felt invisible, discarded, or like no one understands what you’ve been through? In this episode, I share how the God, who saw Hagar in the wilderness, is the same God who sees, hears, and responds to you. He's El Roi, even in your wilderness.
We’ll explore how being seen by God changes everything about how you live, love, and heal after an affair. You’ll walk away knowing you are never truly alone and how to open yourself up to His provision and promises.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina!
When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ache runs deep.
In this episode, I share my own story of unmet expectations, quiet grief, and how Jesus became my true Good Samaritan: seeing me, stopping for me, and carrying me when others passed by.
You’ll learn how to hold grief and gratitude together, release bitterness, and receive the healing presence of Jesus in places where people fell short.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here
You know he’s not good for you, so why do you still think about him?
If you've ever found yourself craving attention, safety, or affection from someone who hurt you, this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, I’m unpacking:
- How I started to recognize addictive patterns and anxious attachment
- What your cravings are really trying to tell you
- Why your nervous system might chase the familiar, even when it’s painful
- How to respond with love, not shame, and take your next right step forward
This isn’t about self-sabotage. It’s about healing the real need underneath the craving and gently coming home to yourself and God.
You’re not too much. You’re not too far gone. And you don’t have to do this alone.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here
You cut off the relationship. You’re doing “the right things.” But the ache? It’s still there.
Why do I still miss him? Will this longing ever go away?
Yes, the ache is real. But it’s not about him—it’s about what you’re truly wired for: emotional intimacy, safety, and being seen.
This episode is your gentle guide to reclaiming that connection… without outsourcing your worth.
💡 Here we explore:
Why missing him doesn’t mean you messed up
What connection really is (and what it isn’t)
How to stop outsourcing your need for attention and affection
The difference between emotional intimacy and codependent intensity
How to start tending to the “home within” and find peace with God and yourself
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here
You cut contact. You deleted the number. You swore you’d never reach out again.
So why does it still hurt? Why do you still miss him?
I get it. No contact isn’t a quick fix. It’s like withdrawal.
And healing is about way more than blocking someone.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
Why cutting contact can still leave you craving him
What helped me actually move forward
The difference between willpower and inner transformation
How to return to yourself again and again, with love
This isn’t about shame or weakness. It’s about choosing you and God, one small moment at a time.
If that’s where you are, my 4-week course Coming Home to Freedom is open now. It’s where we retrain your body to feel safe again, with Scripture, nervous system healing, and a community that gets it.
Or book a 1:1 coaching call if you want to talk it through personally.
You’re not broken. And you’re never alone.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
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Everyone talks about earning back trust from your spouse after an affair. But here’s the truth no one tells you: before anyone else can trust you again… you have to learn how to trust yourself.
In this episode, I’m sharing why rebuilding self-trust is the root of true healing—and how to take small, safe steps toward integrity and alignment with who God made you to be.
You’ll learn:
✅ Why obsessing over your spouse’s trust keeps you stuck
✅ How “big trust” starts with small kept promises
✅ What integrity really means when no one’s watching
✅ Simple ways to rebuild self-trust *and* your nervous system
✅ How to stop fearing your own choices and feel safe in your own body again
If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t even trust myself not to mess up again,” this episode will help you breathe, slow down, and rebuild from the inside out.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
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