The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Do your relationships keep triggering old wounds? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wife’s Club, therapist Melissa Lapides breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up after divorce—and how to finally heal them.Whether you’re newly divorced, co-parenting, or opening your heart to love again, this conversation will help you stop repeating painful patterns and reclaim your emotional power.🔑 Key Themes & TakeawaysWhat attachment wounds are and how they form in childhoodHow anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up in love and divorceWhy sitting with emotions leads to deeper healingPractical tools to separate real needs from emotional triggersHow to stop letting old wounds bleed into new relationships⏱️ Episode Timestamps00:00 Intro02:22 Understanding attachment wounds05:28 Navigating separation & divorce06:21 Healing through self-awareness in divorce08:10 The role of mirroring in relationships09:01 Communicating needs in relationships21:27 Embracing acceptance in relationships22:10 The power of communication & compromise25:01 Nonviolent communication techniques29:13 Building emotional resilience30:48 Self-discovery & personal growth after divorce33:34 Navigating new relationships post-divorce🌟 Resources & LinksJoin The Club: A Divorce Community to Help You Get Clear, Get Grounded & Move Forward👉 Grab your spot nowConnect with Melissa Lapides  (Licensed Psychotherapist & Founder of Securely Attached)Website: getsecurelyattached.comInstagram: @getsecurelyattachedConnect with The Crazy Ex-Wife’s ClubInstagram: @thecrazyexwivesclubFacebook: The Crazy Ex-Wife’s ClubWebsite: thecrazyexwivesclub.com✨✨✨✨✨If this episode resonated, don’t keep it to yourself—follow the podcast, share it with a friend, and join The Club for ongoing support on your healing journey.

What really happens when a marriage begins to fall apart? In this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone—author of I Think I Want Out—reveals the 5 predictable stages of a marriage crisis and how to know if you should stay, or move on with clarity.Whether you’re unhappily married, newly separated, or years post-divorce, this conversation offers validation, strategy, and hope.🔑 Key Themes & TakeawaysThe 5 stages of marriage decline (and how to spot them)The roles of the “decider” vs. the “leaning in partner”Why calming your nervous system is step one in a crisisPractical tools for separation, co-parenting, and resilienceHow self-care turns heartbreak into healing⏱️ Episode Timestamps00:00 Intro04:03 Understanding Marriage Crisis07:31 The Five Stages of Marriage Deterioration14:05 Roles in Marriage Crisis: Decider vs. Leaning In Partner22:18 Understanding the Leaning In Partner's Instincts26:03 The Importance of Managed Separation29:51 Finding Strength in Self-Discovery35:14 Embracing Authenticity in Relationships40:50 Final Thoughts and Resources🌟 Resources & LinksJoin The Club (first stop for support):Looking for your new divorce bestie? Join the Club for 24/7 support as you rebuild post-divorce.👉 Grab your spot NOWConnect with Dr. Becky Whetstone:Website: marriagecrisismanager.comInstagram: @doctorbeckyFacebook: Relationship Crisis ManagerBook: I (Think) I Want OutConnect with The Crazy Ex-Wives Club:Instagram: @thecrazyexwivesclubFacebook: The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubWebsite: thecrazyexwivesclub.com

Co-parenting after divorce is tough—and it gets even harder when a new partner enters the picture. Do you collaborate with your ex’s new partner, or set firm boundaries?In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I share real stories from both sides—navigating life with a stepparent as a parent, and stepping into the role of stepparent myself. You’ll hear the honest truths about blended families, boundaries, and how to protect your kids’ wellbeing while choosing peace over drama.🔑 Key Themes & TakeawaysThe biggest risks (and benefits) of working with your ex’s new partnerWhy clear intentions and boundaries matter more than everHow to handle the “two vs. one” power dynamicTools to manage triggers and choose peace over dramaWhy blended families are the new norm—and how to make them workRemember: at the end of the day, it’s not about winning against your ex or their partner—it’s about what’s best for the kids.⏱️ Episode Timestamps00:00 – Intro02:12 – Personal Experience with Stepparenting02:48 – Navigating Intentions and Expectations07:26 – Creating a Co-Parenting Plan09:08 – Challenges and Emotional Triggers16:02 – Mediation and Legal Complications18:40 – Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts20:52 – Setting Boundaries in Co-Parenting22:10 – Creating Clear Boundaries24:20 – The Emotions of Co-Parenting27:46 – Navigating Blended Families30:08 – The Role of a Stepparent🌟 Resources & LinksThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help You Heal & Move ForwardAn online space to get support and guidance on your divorce journey. Whether you’re unhappily married or navigating co-parenting after divorce, The Club gives you the clarity and grounding you need.👉 Grab your spot nowThe Emotions of Co-Parenting ProgramA self-guided journal + video series to help you anchor yourself, manage emotional storms, and create the stability your kids need.👉 Check it out hereConnect with The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubInstagram: @thecrazyexwivesclubFacebook: The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubWebsite: thecrazyexwivesclub.com✨✨✨✨✨✨Loved this episode? Don’t keep it to yourself—share it with a friend going through divorce. 💌And if you’re ready for more support, join The Club today. This is your space to heal, grow, and create the future you (and your kids) deserve.👉 Join The Club

What if the pain you’ve been carrying after divorce isn’t just “in your head”… but living in your body? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Loni Markman, a neuro-somatic life coach, to explore how somatic healing helps release divorce trauma and rebuild core confidence.Together, they unpack the difference between “Big T” and “little t” trauma, how hidden experiences shape our behaviors long after divorce, and why creating safety in your own body is the foundation for moving forward. From breathwork and EFT tapping to progressive muscle relaxation and daily “miracle minutes,” you’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately to calm anxiety, regulate your nervous system, and start reclaiming your confidence.🔑 Key Themes & TakeawaysThe difference between “Big T” trauma and the smaller, stackable experiences that add up over timeHow trauma shows up in relationships long after the divorce is finalWhy creating safety in your body is the first step toward healingTools like breathwork, EFT tapping, and progressive muscle relaxation to calm your systemThe importance of noticing “glimmers” (moments of joy) as much as “triggers”How self-abandonment chips away at confidence—and how to repair it⏱️ Episode Timestamps00:00 Introduction02:17 Big T vs. Little T Trauma04:56 Personal Experiences and EMDR08:25 Self-Listening and Safety17:32 Small Steps to Reprogramming23:14 Overcoming Despair & Finding Wins31:44 Tools for Emotional Regulation32:13 Breathing Techniques for Calmness36:16 EFT Tapping & Muscle Relaxation40:47 Building a Supportive Community44:05 Final Thoughts & Encouragement🌟 Resources & LinksThe Club: Your Divorce Healing CommunityA supportive space to get clear, grounded, and moving forward—whether you’re still married and uncertain or taking your first steps through divorce.👉 Join here: thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubConnect with Loni MarkmanWebsite: lonimarkman.comInstagram: @powerhouse_by_loniFacebook: Loni MarkmanFacebook Group: Powerhouse Healing CommunityConnect with Erica / The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubInstagram: @thecrazyexwivesclubFacebook: The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubWebsite: thecrazyexwivesclub.com

Healing after betrayal and navigating divorce recovery isn’t just about leaving a marriage — it’s about rebuilding yourself from the inside out, learning to co-parent with grace, and discovering that you’re stronger than you ever imagined.In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down with Kristin, host of Let’s Grow Through It, to talk about her raw and powerful journey through infidelity, divorce, and ultimately, self-love. From the devastating discovery of her husband’s affair, to finding her footing as a single mom, to embracing forgiveness (yes — even with “the other woman”), Kristin shares what it really looks like to turn heartbreak into healing.Together, we unpack the messy reality of divorce, the importance of doing the inner work, and how creating her “divorce bucket list” became the first step toward transformation.Whether you’re in the thick of betrayal, navigating custody and co-parenting, or trying to rediscover who you are beyond your marriage, this conversation is filled with hope, hard truths, and a reminder that your comeback story is waiting to be written.🔑 Key Themes & TakeawaysHow to survive the shock of infidelity and betrayalThe power of a “divorce bucket list” in reclaiming your identityWhy grieving your old life is essential to building a new oneCo-parenting with an ex (and even facing the “other woman”)The inner work that helps you regulate emotions and move forwardChoosing growth over bitterness in the aftermath of divorce⏱️ Episode Timestamps00:00 Introduction02:05 Kristin's Divorce Journey04:34 Coping with the Aftermath07:58 Rebuilding and Self-Discovery11:49 Embracing the New Life17:47 Advice for Others22:37 Grieving and Moving Forward24:42 Dealing with Anger and Triggers26:42 The Importance of Inner Work31:12 Forgiveness and Self-Compassion36:56 Empowerment and Self-Reliance40:35 Resources and Support🌟 Resources & LinksThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help You Get Clear, Get Grounded, and Move ForwardThere is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow, and get clear on what you want — whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce.👉 Grab your spot now: The ClubConnect with KristinTikTok: @beachykeferInstagram: @beachykeferPodcast: Let’s Grow Through ItConnect with MeInstagram: @thecrazyexwivesclubFacebook: The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubTikTok: The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubWebsite: thecrazyexwivesclub.com✨ Call to ActionIf this episode resonated with you:Subscribe/Follow on Spotify or Apple so you don’t miss the next one.Share it with a friend going through betrayal or divorce who needs encouragement.Join The Club today for deeper support and community: The Club

Starting over after divorce isn’t just about signing papers, it’s about surviving the emotional whiplash, reclaiming your identity, and eventually thriving in your new normal. In this season finale of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I break down the 3 phases of divorce and why the process makes even the strongest women feel like they’re “going crazy.”From the heartbreaking “Do I stay or go?” stage, to rediscovering who you are outside of marriage, to finally thriving in your new normal, I walk you through what each phase looks like, and how to navigate them without losing yourself. I also share the raw truth about emotional overload, identity collapse, and why triggers like being called “crazy” can cut so deep.Whether you’re still in the decision phase, knee-deep in separation, or figuring out co-parenting, this episode is packed with insights, encouragement, and a reminder that you’re not alone in this journey.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:The 3 phases of divorce: Stay/Go, Rebuilding, ThrivingWhy divorce makes you feel “crazy” (emotional whiplash explained)How to know when you’re really ready to move onIdentity collapse and rediscovering who you areCoping strategies to protect your energy, boundaries, and sanityWe talk about:00:00 Introduction01:29 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce03:34 The Three Phases of Divorce26:45 Setting Boundaries Before Dating29:09 Deciding to Stay or Go30:06 Finding Your Way Forward Quiz31:12 Why Divorce Feels Crazy35:30 Emotional Whiplash and Identity Collapse38:16 Gaslighting and Self-Doubt41:06 Cognitive Overload and Isolation48:20 Rebuilding and Moving ForwardThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce.Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub Other Links 🔗🔗Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com   🔗 Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer https://amzn.to/3V7Cva7🔗 Quiz: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/quiz-what-phase-are-you #DivorceRecovery #DivorceHealing #LifeAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #ThrivingAfterDivorce #DivorceTips #DivorceSupport #StartingOverAfterDivorce #CoParentingTips #RebuildingLifeAfterDivorce #DivorceCommunity #DivorceEmpowerment

Starting over after divorce isn’t just about surviving — it’s about thriving. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Olivia Howell, co-founder of the Fresh Starts Registry, to talk about rebuilding after divorce, emotional healing, and creating a fresh start you actually love.We cover what it takes to move forward after leaving, how to navigate co-parenting with confidence, and why downsizing your home can be the smartest decision you make. Olivia shares her own story of starting over as a single mom, offering actionable tips for regaining confidence, overcoming shame, and creating a home that feels safe and supportive — even on a budget.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:How to start over after divorce without losing yourselfWhy rebuilding your home and environment matters for emotional healing Co-parenting advice that actually worksThe truth about divorce recovery and shameHow the Fresh Starts Registry is helping women across the country rebuild their livesWhether you’re in the early stages of separation or ready to move forward, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, supported, and inspired to take action.🎙️ We talk about:00:00 Introduction01:54 Olivia's Marriage Journey03:06 Career Shift and Social Media Agency04:12 Emotional and Psychological Struggles05:10 Therapy and Realizations08:05 Separation and Fresh Starts Registry Idea10:19 Building Fresh Starts Registry11:13 Registry Launch and Impact14:07 Personal Experiences with Divorce and Downsizing21:33 Moving Back Home: A New Beginning22:54 Embracing Multi-Generational Living24:02 Navigating Divorce and Personal Growth26:29 Launching a Supportive Community28:34 Personal Stories and Support Systems32:15 Empowering Women Through Divorce Education38:21 Final Thoughts and Resources❤️‍🩹 Join The Club:The Club is your private divorce community to help you get clear, get grounded, and move forward. Inside, you’ll find expert guidance, emotional support, and the space to heal—whether you’re unhappily married or navigating life after divorce.Join today → thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubConnect with Olivia Howell:Olivia Howell is an award-winning podcast producer, author, and the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry—the world’s first divorce registry and leading divorce support platform. A certified life coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and marketing expert, Olivia brings a unique blend of emotional insight and strategic expertise to everything she creates.She is the producer and co-host of three top-ranked podcasts: A Fresh Story, Divorce Happens, and How Does She Do It All?, which together reach thousands of listeners navigating life transitions. Olivia is also the author of two impactful divorce guidebooks: Your Divorce Support Team: 250+ Questions to Help You Build Your Divorce Support Team and What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce: A Practical Guide to Navigating the First Steps Moving Forward. Her writing offers clear, compassionate guidance for anyone at thebeginning of their divorce journey.Olivia’s work has been featured in Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and more. She is passionate about reshaping the divorce narrative—framing it not as a failure, but as a courageous and empowered new beginning.Website | freshstartsregistry.comInstagram | @freshstartsregistryFacebook | Fresh Starts RegistryTikTok | @freshstartsregistryYouTube | Fresh Starts Registry📚 What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce → Get the book📚 Your Divorce Support Team → Get the book#DivorceRecovery #LifeAfterDivorce #StartingOverAfterDivorce #FreshStartAfterDivorce #DivorceSupport #SingleMomLife #CoParentingTips #ThrivingAfterDivorce

Feel like you're co-parenting with a stranger? You’re not alone—and this episode is your lifeline back to clarity, connection, and choice.In this deeply validating conversation, licensed therapist Emily Zeller joins Erica to unpack the “roommate phase” of marriage—when love fades, resentment simmers, and the passion feels long gone. Together, they explore what it means to feel emotionally disconnected, how to identify this slow breakdown before it becomes irreversible, and most importantly—what to do about it.Whether you’re wondering if it’s time for couples therapy or already Googling divorce attorneys in the middle of the night, this episode offers the tools, truths, and tough love to help you move from stuck to self-honoring.You’ll walk away with the language to name what’s really going on and the reminder that you’re allowed to choose you—no matter how long it’s been.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:What the “roommate phase” really means (and how it sneaks up on you)Signs your marriage is running on autopilot—and how to interrupt the patternWhy resentment builds in silence, and how to name disconnection without blamePractical tips to reconnect, reestablish intimacy, or make a conscious exitThe importance of doing your own emotional inventory firstWhy couples wait too long for therapy—and what to do insteadThe difference between temporary disconnection and long-term misalignmentWhat to do if your partner doesn’t think there’s a problemHow to stop outsourcing your happiness and rediscover yourself again#RoommatePhase #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipBurnout #CouplesTherapy #DivorceSupport #CrazyExWifesClub #EmilyZeller #WomensEmpowerment #HealingFromResentment #MarriageWithoutConnection #SelfRediscovery #EmotionalHealing #ShouldIStayOrGo #ReconnectingInMarriageWe talk about:00:00 Introduction02:04 Understanding the Roommate Phase07:23 Steps to Reconnect and Rebuild13:46 Personal Reflections and Overcoming Challenges17:09 Maintaining Individuality in Relationships22:39 Understanding Relationship Dynamics23:09 Addressing Anxiety and Vulnerability24:06 Building Trust and Communication24:26 Dealing with Past Wounds28:49 Navigating the Roommate Phase31:45 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth36:47 Appreciation and Gratitude39:03 Conclusion and ResourcesThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Emily ZellerEmily Zeller is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over a decade of experience helping moms navigate anxiety, supporting disconnected couples, and guiding families toward healing.Emily is intensively trained in Child-Parent Psychotherapy (CPP), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and is a certified Enneagram consultant. She is the founder of Zeller & Co. Therapy, a modern virtual practice known for its thoughtful, evidence-based approach to therapy intensives and individualized care. Emily’s mission is to help her clients feel more connected—to themselves, their loved ones, and the life they’re creating.Connect with EmilyWebsite: www.zellertherapy.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/iamemilyzeller Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/zellerandcotherapyDownload Emily’s Free Guide to understanding your personalityLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com 

Feeling stuck in indecision? Fear might be running the show and in this episode you will learn practical tips to become less fearful.In this solo episode, Erica cracks open the truth about fear—the “other F word” quietly keeping you anxious, overthinking, and frozen in place. What was once a private self-development program now comes to life on the pod, packed with practical tools and perspective shifts to help you break the cycle.From untangling nervous system overload to exposing the sneaky ways fear masquerades as anger, control, or “playing it safe,” this episode is your roadmap to reclaiming clarity. Whether you’re navigating a divorce, unsure of your next move, or just exhausted from decision fatigue, Erica gives you permission to breathe, recalibrate, and choose you.So if fear’s been whispering lies on loop—this one’s your wake-up call.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:Why fear isn’t just an emotion—it’s a body-wide hijack (and how to calm it)The difference between fear-based thoughts and reality-based onesHow the reptilian brain keeps you stuck (and what your breath has to do with it)Understanding fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—your nervous system’s protective patternsWhat future-tripping is and how to stop catastrophizingWhy control is an illusion—and how surrender creates safetyDaily practices to reset your nervous system (in under 60 seconds)A love note to every woman questioning her worth, her voice, and her next step#OvercomingFear #EmotionalHealing #DivorceSupport #CrazyExWifesClub #SelfDevelopment #FightFlightFreeze #NervousSystemRegulation #StopOverthinking #WomensEmpowerment #FearRecoveryWe talk about:00:00 Introduction01:47 Understanding Fear: The Other F Word03:34 Fear's Impact on Decision Making10:20 Fear's Physical and Mental Effects16:47 The Evolution of Our Brain and Fear24:16 The Nervous System and Fear Responses25:47 Understanding the Sympathetic Nervous System27:53 The Consequences of Chronic Stress28:54 Recognizing the Signs of Sympathetic Activation31:46 Steps to Overcome Fear and Anxiety32:52 Calming Your Nervous System36:25 Ignoring the Fear Monster38:49 Using Breath to Stimulate Calmness40:01 Staying Present and Avoiding Future Tripping42:48 Reclaiming Control Over FearThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Step in... and Step Up! There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Felt the gut punch of betrayal? Deb Drummond did too—and what she discovered will give you goosebumps.In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with Mission Accepted Media founder Deb Drummond to share the moment a whisper at 4 a.m. cracked open the truth about her marriage. What followed was a crash course in self-trust, healing from narcissistic abuse, and rebuilding life after uncovering infidelity.Together, we dive into the rollercoaster of emotional collapse, crippling anxiety, the myth of the perfect family, and the unexpected ways our bodies store trauma. From realizing your relationship wasn’t what you thought, to finding unexpected peace through solo travel and movie dates, Deb’s story is equal parts heartbreaking and liberating.If you’ve ever questioned your reality, doubted your strength, or felt ashamed for not seeing the signs—this one’s for you.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:The moment that whispers louder than logic—learning to trust your inner voiceHow high-functioning partners can still hide deep betrayalWhy ignoring the “little signs” often delays necessary endingsThe emotional and physical toll of living in a relationship misaligned with truthWhat narcissistic traits look like behind closed doors (and why it’s so hard to spot)We talk about:00:00 Introduction02:00 Deb's Marriage: The Dream and the Reality04:06 The Turning Point: Discovering the Betrayal07:18 Coping with the Aftermath: Emotional and Physical Impact12:14 Healing and Moving Forward: Tools and Techniques16:07 The Long Road to Recovery: Personal Reflections19:55 Uncoupling and Rebuilding: Final Thoughts21:33 Navigating Firsts After Divorce23:19 Finding Yourself Through Travel25:08 Debunking Divorce Myths26:42 Emotional Challenges and Healing28:38 Practical Tips for Moving Forward34:48 Building a Support System37:05 Redefining Holidays Post-Divorce39:47 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Deb DrummondDeb is a trailblazing entrepreneur who has built seven international companies and inspired thousands worldwide. As the founder of the Show Up Stand Up Speak Up, Yes You! movement—broadcast to over 350 million viewers—she champions women's voices through her own televised women’s channel. With three decades in Top Performance, Deb is a renowned speaker, coach, and mastermind trainer who has worked with over 30,000 clients and moved audiences of 20,000 to their feet. She hosts the Mission Accepted podcast, interviewing entrepreneurs and creatives who share their paths to success, and leads Mission Accepted Media, producing anthologies and business books. Deb also created the Top Performance Day Planner and Tracker.Connect with DebWebsite: www.debdrummond.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/DebDrummond/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborahldrummond/Instagram: https://instagram.com/deborahldrummondInstagram: https://instagram.com/debdrummond_officialInstagram: https://instagram.com/missionaccepted_mediaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsnh0BsWjHS1aba4cItw4rwLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still scared of dating again after divorce? You're not alone—and this episode is your roadmap back to self-trust.In this raw, insightful conversation, host Erica chats with NYC-based relationship and dating coach Christina King about why so many women fall back into the same dating traps after leaving toxic marriages. Together, they break down the emotional rollercoaster of reentering the dating world—swiping fatigue, trust issues, self-worth, and that terrifying moment you realize: "Wait... am I repeating old patterns?"From setting dating app boundaries to manifesting your ideal partner (without falling for another walking red flag), this episode is packed with real talk and real tools for rediscovering what you actually want in love.If you've ever doubted your gut, lost your confidence, or dated someone just because they gave you butterflies—this one’s for you.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:What keeps divorced women stuck in toxic dating patternsWhy trusting yourself again is your dating superpowerThe confidence gap (and how to close it)The biggest mistakes women make on dating appsManifestation, self-worth, and writing your "Perfect Partner" listRed flags vs. yellow flags—and when to walk awayHow to build the relationship you actually want🎁 Grab Christina’s free “Perfect Partner Playbook”: ​https://www.deepdiveintolove.com/the-playbookWe talk about:00:00 Introduction02:33 Christina's Divorce Journey and Coaching Career05:01 Challenges of Dating After Divorce06:55 Rebuilding Trust and Confidence12:48 The Reality of Relationships and Self-Prioritization18:30 Navigating the Modern Dating Scene22:26 Setting Boundaries in Online Dating25:40 The Importance of Intentions and Mindset27:18 Learning from Past Relationships31:45 Navigating Compatibility and Red Flags38:16 Manifesting Your Perfect PartnerThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Christina KingChristina King has been telling stories since she was a young girl, but after becoming a certified coach and going through her own divorce in 2023, she discovered her true purpose: helping women heal and date with clarity after heartbreak. Having personally experienced toxic relationships and the chaos of modern dating—ghosting, breadcrumbing, situationships—she deeply understands how overwhelming it can feel to start over. Today, Christina empowers women to rebuild their confidence, trust themselves again, and attract aligned, healthy love by breaking free from old patterns.Connect with ChristinaWebsite: www.deepdiveintothesoul.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/christinakingthecoachFacebook: https://facebook.com/christinakingthecoach Looking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Think keeping the house after divorce is the “win”? It might be your biggest regret. In this heartfelt and practical episode, Erica sits down with Certified Divorce Lending Professional and mortgage expert Tami Wollensak to talk about one of the most emotional—and financially risky—parts of divorce: the house.Together, they peel back the layers of what it really costs (emotionally and financially) to keep the home after separation. From navigating outdated settlement agreements to understanding the silent expenses of solo homeownership, Tami shares the critical questions every divorcing woman needs to ask before making a decision that could drain her energy and her bank account.If you’ve ever cried into a mortgage calculator, wondered whether to sell or stay, or felt paralyzed by guilt, stigma, or confusion—this conversation is your permission slip to breathe, reflect, and decide with confidence.Because keeping the house shouldn't cost you your peace.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:More Than a Mortgage: Why your decision about the house is emotional and businessBuyouts, Assumptions, and Red Flags: What you need to know about equity, timing, and hidden costsHouse Poor ≠ Empowered: How to avoid the “won the house, lost everything else” trapThe Power of a Pause: Why renting might be your best next move—and how to feel good about itThe Mom Guilt Spiral: How to break free from people-pleasing and start making values-aligned choicesNew Nest, New Chapter: Helping your kids (and yourself) feel safe, excited, and emotionally supported in a new homeUse code CEW50 for 50% off Tami’s ebook: https://tami.samcart.com/products/divorcing-with-a-home We talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:12 Understanding Divorce Mortgage Specialization05:24 Emotional and Financial Aspects of Keeping the House08:32 Personal Experiences and Reflections14:17 Children's Perspective and Moving Forward18:48 The Big Move: Emotions and Adjustments18:59 Emotional Pre-Work: Preparing for Change20:03 The Importance of Alignment in Decision Making21:34 Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster24:28 Financial Realities and Tough Decisions30:57 Understanding Mortgage Assumptions35:03 Final Thoughts and ResourcesThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Tami WollensakWhen divorce and real estate collide, Tami Wollensak brings clarity. As a nationally licensed mortgage loan originator and Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®), Tami helps divorcing individuals make smart, stable home and mortgage decisions. With 30+ years of industry experience, she bridges the gap between family law and lending—ensuring settlement agreements align with real-world mortgage guidelines.She partners with attorneys, mediators, and financial pros to protect her clients’ futures—whether keeping the home or starting fresh. A trusted voice in the field, Tami speaks across media, podcasts, and events, empowering homeowners with options, not overwhelm. Serving all 50 states.Connect with TamiInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tami_wollensak/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empowereduncoupling YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/@empowereduncoupling Website: www.takeorleavethehouse.com 

Is your child showing the same frustrating behaviors that once ended your marriage? You’re not alone—and no, you're not a bad mom for being triggered by it.In this powerful solo episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica breaks down the emotional chaos that can happen when your child starts to mirror your ex—especially the toxic traits that contributed to your divorce.🧠 Learn how to:Recognize nervous system triggers (and why your body reacts this way)Break generational patterns without blaming your childRespond with calm instead of controlRewire your own responses and support your child in developing healthier behaviorsWhether you’re newly divorced or years out, these tools will help you create a safe space—for you and your child. This is the healing work. The breaking-free work. The “you’re not crazy” kind of work.👇 Submit your questions for future episodes or join The Club—a private community for women navigating divorce, parenting, and personal growth:#ParentingAfterDivorce #TriggeredByYourChild #HealingFromToxicRelationships #CoParentingSupport #EmotionalTriggers #DivorcedMoms #ToxicEx #GenerationalTrauma #DivorceHealingJourney #CrazyExWivesClubWe talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:27 Understanding the Child's Behavior02:42 Parental Reactions and Triggers08:29 Coping Mechanisms and Self-Regulation12:07 Helping Your Child Through Emotional Challenges15:11 Join the Crazy Ex-Wives Club16:00 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still think divorce is just emotional? Think again—your finances are on the line. In this eye-opening episode, Erica sits down with the powerhouse mother-daughter team behind Purse Strings, Dr. Barb Provost and Maggie Nielsen, to break down the critical financial steps women need to take before saying the D-word out loud.From uncovering hidden accounts to understanding your post-divorce budget, Barb and Maggie are on a mission to help women stop getting left behind when it comes to money. They share personal stories, expert-backed tools, and the exact steps to feel secure, smart, and financially empowered—no matter where you are in the divorce process.If you're feeling overwhelmed by bank accounts, budgets, or just the sheer emotional toll of separation, this episode will help you find calm in the chaos—and maybe even a few dollars you didn’t know you had.Because financial freedom is the ultimate closure.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:Where’s the Money Really Going? – How to track your finances before, during, and after divorceDon't Rush the Process – Why emotional decisions lead to expensive mistakesThe Professionals You Actually Need – What CDFA and divorce lending specialists do that your lawyer can’t💌 P.S. Want Erica to cover your most pressing divorce question this season? DM her on Instagram or send a topic request through the website. This show is for you—and she’s all ears.Divorce Download: https://pursestrings.co/divorce-check-list/We talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:40 The Importance of Financial Literacy for Women04:25 Practical Tips for Unhappily Married Women08:01 Navigating Finances During the Divorce Process08:14 Specialized Financial Professionals for Divorce14:50 Creating a Post-Divorce Budget19:11 Emergency Funds and Unexpected Expenses21:09 The Townhouse Flood Crisis21:43 The Importance of an Emergency Fund22:01 Renting vs. Homeownership22:56 Downsizing and Adjusting Expectations23:43 The Financial Realities of Homeownership26:28 Living Below Your Means28:27 The Impact of Rushing Through Divorce30:19 Avoiding the Win-Lose Mentality in Divorce36:23 Final Thoughts and ResourcesThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit.Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Dr. Barbara Provost and Maggie NielsenDr. Barbara Provost and Maggie Nielsen are a dynamic mother-daughter duo committed to empowering women with the tools they need to make confident financial decisions. As a consultant, educator, and entrepreneur, Barbara connects women with trusted financial professionals to help them plan for a future full of choices. Maggie, with her curious mindset and passion for personal growth, inspires others through motivational talks and equips women with the financial knowledge they need to thrive. Together, they are dedicated to helping women build lives free from financial stress thanks to the support of their community of trusted professionals.Connect with Dr. Provost and MaggieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pursestringsco/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pursestringsco TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pursestringscoYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCusras98haVpJ-P4C4d4IXw Website: www.pursestrings.co Looking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

What if leaving was the bravest thing you could do—even when you were the one who broke the vow? In this raw and tender episode, Erica sits down with Rachel, who vulnerably shares her story—not as the betrayed, but as the one who had the affair.With honesty and deep reflection, Rachel opens up about what it’s like to be the partner who chooses to end the marriage, even when the door to reconciliation is still open. Together, they explore the complex emotional terrain of guilt, grief, and the often invisible work of self-forgiveness.This episode is a powerful reminder that sometimes, walking away isn’t about giving up—it’s about choosing truth, healing, and a more honest life for everyone involved. If you’ve ever struggled with shame over your own choices—or felt like your story didn’t fit the “right” narrative—this one’s for you.You are still worthy. You are still whole. And you are not alone.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:The Infidelity Perspective – What really leads someone to cheat—and why shame isn’t the full story.The Ego vs. The Whisper – How to discern the fearful mind from soul-level truth when deciding to stay or go.Navigating Guilt & Shame – Why guilt can guide and shame can paralyze—and how to move through both with grace.Self-Forgiveness After Divorce – Rachael’s journey to forgiving herself and facing the heartbreak she caused (and felt).Post-Affair Co-Parenting – How to build a respectful, connected relationship with your ex—and model emotional growth for your kids.Gratitude After Grief – The surprising power of appreciation when you’re rebuilding your life from rock bottom.💌 P.S. Got a story that flips the script on divorce? Erica wants to hear from you. Submit your experience at thecrazyexwivesclub.com and you could be featured on an upcoming episode. Healing loves company—and your truth might be someone else’s lifeline.We talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:24 Rachael's Perspective on Infidelity04:13 The Emotional Struggle and Decision to Leave07:15 Navigating Guilt and Shame14:11 Healing and Co-Parenting18:36 Understanding Emotional Triggers19:38 Parenting Through Divorce21:52 Blending Families and New Dynamics23:32 Navigating Emotional Reactions28:51 The Power of Gratitude32:09 Embracing Change and Moving Forward36:16 Support and CommunityThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still think healing has to be hard, heavy, and emotionally exhausting? Not with this guest. In this paradigm-shifting episode, Erica sits down with speaker, author, and reinvention strategist Riana Malia to uncover the unconscious patterns keeping high-achieving women stuck—and how to finally break free.Riana shares her personal journey from a peaceful-looking divorce turned emotional battlefield, to finding true love (and handcuffs—yep, she tells that story too). Together, they explore how trauma lives in the body, why therapy isn’t always enough, and what it really takes to rewire your beliefs and rebuild your life from the inside out.Because you’re not broken. You’re just overdue for a new operating system.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:The Pattern Problem – Why we repeat what we don’t repair—and how your unconscious mind is actually calling the shots.The Clear to Create™ Method – How to shift from survival mode to soulful creation by releasing emotional residue at the root.Quantum Time Release – A powerful healing tool that clears trauma without reliving it, so you can move forward without dragging the past.Rebuilding Self-Trust – Why even smart, successful women lose trust in themselves after divorce—and how to rebuild it with intention.Your Frequency is Your Future – The role of vibration, nervous system regulation, and tiny daily shifts in attracting love, peace, and clarity.💌 P.S. Want Erica to cover your most pressing divorce question this season? DM her on Instagram or send a topic request through the website. This show is for you—and she’s all ears.We talk about:00:00 Introduction 07:39 The Power of the Unconscious Mind09:20 Clearing to Create: Methodology Explained16:22 Quantum Time Release and Emotional Healing20:34 Connecting with Past Emotions21:12 Becoming a Magnet for Miracles22:26 Understanding Frequency and Vibration24:01 The Importance of Small Steps26:31 Climbing the Emotional Ladder28:35 Manifesting Miracles and Opportunities30:32 Practical Exercises for Raising Frequency37:00 Extraordinary Love Index Assessment38:56 Final Thoughts and Next StepsThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Riana MaliaRiana Malia is a Speaker, Author, and Reinvention Strategist who helps high-achieving women clear emotional patterns, rewire subconscious beliefs, and step into full-spectrum self-expression. She’s the creator of the Clear to Create™ Method and Quantum Pattern Protocol™, blending neuroscience, quantum healing, and emotional re-patterning to guide women into soul-aligned love and leadership. Her work has been featured in Brilliant Magazine, The Mamahood, and on top podcasts like InspiHER’d and From Betrayal to Breakthrough. Named one of NY Weekly’s “Top 30 Empowering Women Entrepreneurs to Watch in 2025,” Riana leads women to become magnetic to what once felt impossible.Connect with RianaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RianaMalia/ https://quiz.rianamalia.com/ Looking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still think being called the "crazy ex-wife" is an insult? Not around here. In this soul-shifting solo episode, host Erica celebrates 2 years, 99 episodes, and the start of Season 9 by reclaiming what “crazy” really means—and how it might just be your emotional superpower.Erica shares the messy, magical truth about navigating big emotions during divorce, learning how to stop outsourcing your happiness, and why society never taught us what to do with our feelings. Spoiler: screaming on the floor is sometimes part of the process (and she’s not judging).She gets personal, breaking down the emotional rollercoaster of heartbreak, the grief of letting go, and the empowerment that comes from taking your healing seriously. You’ll also get a sneak peek into what’s coming this season, how you can co-create it with her, and why “The Club” isn’t just a membership—it’s a movement.Whether you’re sobbing in your car post-drop-off or quietly wondering how you got here, this episode is your reminder that you’re not crazy, you’re just becoming.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:Reclaiming “Crazy” – Why being emotional isn’t wrong—and how to use your feelings as fuel for growth.Outgrowing the Old You – Letting go of the identity you had in your marriage to meet who you are now.The Power of Emotional Ownership – How taking radical responsibility for your feelings gives you freedom.The Divorce Detox – Why healing your nervous system is the secret to clarity, peace, and self-trust.Not Your Mama’s Healing Journey – From therapy to astrology, somatics to moon signs, Erica shares what actually helped.From Surviving to Thriving – How to stop reacting with pain and start responding with power.💌 P.S. Want Erica to cover your most pressing divorce question this season? DM her on Instagram or send a topic request through the website. This show is for you—and she’s all ears.We talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:21 Embracing the Crazy Ex-Wife Identity02:39 Understanding and Managing Emotions04:12 The Journey of Divorce and Healing09:26 Astrology and Self-Discovery12:01 The Power of Community and Support18:18 Call to Action and Future GoalsThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Think estate planning is only for the wealthy or the retired? Think again. If you’re divorced (or about to be), this episode is essential listening.In this empowering episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica sits down with estate planning attorney Elizabeth Neyens to unravel the legal, emotional, and practical sides of protecting your assets—and your kids—after divorce.From updating your will to avoiding accidental inheritance disasters (like your ex managing your child’s money—yikes), this episode clears the fog on what estate planning really is, when you need it, and why waiting can cost you big.Elizabeth breaks down the difference between wills and trusts, what documents every parent needs in place by age 18, and how to build a plan that puts you in control. Whether you're fresh out of a marriage or simply overdue for an update, this conversation will help you move from overwhelmed to organized.Because protecting your peace means planning for the things we don’t want to think about—before they become emergencies.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:Why Estate Planning Isn’t Just for the Elderly – How divorce changes your legal responsibilities and what to update ASAP.Don’t Let Your Ex Control the Money – What happens if you don’t choose a guardian or custodian for your child’s inheritance.Will vs. Trust – Understanding the difference and knowing when a trust might serve you better.Legal Docs Every Adult Needs – The 3 documents you should have by the time you (or your kid) turns 18.Skip the Online Templates – Why DIY estate planning misses critical protections you won’t know until it’s too late.We talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:48 Emotional Turmoil of Divorce04:21 Transition from Family Law to Estate Planning06:24 Understanding Estate Planning08:39 Timing and Importance of Estate Planning18:29 Trusts and Their Benefits20:39 Finding the Right Estate Planner22:08 Special Offer and Final ThoughtsThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Elizabeth NeyensElizabeth is the Owner & Attorney at Neyens Law. She has assisted hundreds of families with their estate planning needs. Following a successful sales career, Elizabeth Neyens attended law school to pursue a profession that would provide an opportunity for her to help solve families’ problems during difficult times. Her holistic approach to planning is intended to protect assets and preserve relationships. Elizabeth is known for her warm personality and ability to simplify complex legal concepts.Elizabeth graduated from William Mitchell College of Law. She currently practices in Oakdale, Minnesota, primarily in the areas of estate planning and probate, which are two areas that involve family transitions, challenging circumstances, thoughtful decisions, and careful planning. Elizabeth aims to be not only a legal advocate, but also a calming influence.Connect with ElizabethWebsite: https://www.neyenslaw.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neyenslaw YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@neyenslaw Looking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/crazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://crazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Is your ex impossible to co-parent with? Are they constantly triggering you, refusing to cooperate, and leaving you feeling emotionally drained? You are NOT alone—and this episode is your survival guide.In this eye-opening episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica is joined by returning guest and high-conflict divorce coach Victoria McCooey to talk about one of the hardest truths in co-parenting: some exes simply will not change.Whether you're dealing with a narcissist, a control freak, or just someone who refuses to meet you halfway, this episode helps you shift from frustration to strategy—and reclaim your peace in the process.Victoria shares her lived experience and expert tools for navigating the emotional rollercoaster of parenting with someone who thrives on chaos. You'll learn how to stop taking the bait, set clear boundaries, and become the steady, secure parent your children can count on.This conversation is both a lifeline and a pep talk for anyone co-parenting in the deep end. Because while you can’t control your ex… you can control how much of your energy they get.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:They Will Not Change – Why accepting this truth is the first step to taking your power back.Don’t Take the Bait – The art of responding without reacting when your ex pushes all your buttons.You’re Wired to Fix—But You Don’t Have To – How overachieving “good girls” get trapped in proving their worth post-divorce.Your Kids Don’t Need You to Be Perfect – What they really need is your presence, not your perfection.Create Boundaries That Protect Your Peace – Tactical tips on when to respond, what to say, and when to say nothing at all.We talk about:00:00 Introduction 01:36 Understanding High Conflict Personalities02:26 Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges04:01 The Conflict Triangle and Parental Roles06:27 Managing Expectations and Emotional Triggers09:57 The Importance of Self-Worth and Approval17:55 Handling Triggers and Taking Back Control22:20 The Fixer Mentality23:02 Prioritizing Self-Care27:52 Handling Ex-Partner Conflicts29:20 Setting Boundaries and Consistency32:13 Emotional Readiness and Control35:12 Reflections and Personal Growth40:24 Concluding Thoughts and EncouragementThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Put your name on the VIP list to be the first invited to join. Space is limited, so grab your invite early. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubwaitlistLearn More About This Week’s Guest: Victoria McCooeyVictoria McCooey is a High Conflict Divorce Coach, a Divorce Mediator, and the creator of the Reclaim Your Power System™. I help my clients overcome the pain, fear and overwhelm caused by an abusive spouse by helping them escape their victim mentality and opening their minds to the amazing possibilities available.Connect with VictoriaWebsite: https://www.victoriamccooey.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoria_mccooey Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VictoriaMcCooeyCoaching/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@victoriamccooey YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/VictoriaMcCooey Looking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/crazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://crazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Your child says, “I don’t want to go to Dad’s.” Now what? In this heartfelt solo episode, Erica from The Crazy Ex-Wives Club dives deep into one of the most gut-wrenching moments in co-parenting: when your child doesn’t want to go to the other parent’s house.This isn’t just about logistics. It’s about identity, emotions, safety, and learning to lead with love—especially when it hurts.Drawing from personal experience and community stories, Erica explores how to hold space for your child’s feelings without letting your own heartbreak steer the ship. You’ll learn how to meet your kid in the muck, reflect their emotions without judgment, and guide them gently through the challenges of living between two homes.She also unpacks how to separate your own post-divorce wounds from your parenting responses—and why your ability to self-regulate is the secret superpower your child needs most right now.This episode is your soft place to land and your steady compass when the co-parenting seas get rough. Because it’s not about fixing every feeling—it’s about walking through them, together.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:When Your Kid Doesn’t Want Two Homes – Why it’s normal for children to resist transition, and what’s really going on underneath their tears.Regulate Before You Respond – How to calm your own nervous system so you can show up with empathy, not reactivity.Co-Parenting Without Comparison – Why your child liking one house “more” isn’t the end of the world—and what to do about it.Helping Kids Name Their Feelings – The power of giving language to big emotions so they don’t stay trapped in little bodies.Creating Safety in Both Homes – Your role in supporting your child’s adjustment—without micromanaging the other parent.The Gift of Resilience – Why living between two homes, while hard, can also help your child grow flexible, strong, and deeply connected.We talk about:00:00 Introduction: The Emotional Impact of Divorce01:10 Welcome to the Crazy Ex-Wife's Club01:39 A Heartbreaking Post on Threads03:44 Navigating Children's Emotions06:15 The Importance of Both Parents08:30 Practical Tips for Co-Parenting11:53 Personal Experiences and Apologies15:15 The Struggles of Living Between Two Houses20:19 Managing Parental Anxiety23:09 Conclusion and ResourcesStruggling to know if you should stay or go? Join The Other F Word: How Fear Keeps You StuckDecision fatigue is a real thing and it is made 1000x worse when fear has its hold on your heart. If you find yourself in the place of knowing you need to make a change but unable to actually commit to it, join me for this FREE online webinar about what is holding you hostage from making a decision about your relationship—and more importantly, how to break free.Grab your seat today and find your way forward. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/fearThe Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. Put your name on the VIP list to be the first invited to join. Space is limited, so grab your invite early. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclubwaitlistLooking for More Support? Let’s ConnectInstagram: https://instagram.com/crazyexwivesclub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclubWebsite: https://crazyexwivesclub.com Contact: info@ericabennett.comFree 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min