Hello Me, It's Me : Vulnerable AF

Have you been ghosted recently? Nikki discusses the importance of healing, understanding attachment styles, and setting boundaries while navigating new relationships. Through personal anecdotes, she highlights the challenges of comparing new partners to past experiences, particularly those involving love bombing. The conversation emphasizes the need for genuine connections and the significance of self-reflection in dating. She also emphasizes the need for self-awareness, setting boundaries, and the significance of vulnerability in building healthy relationships. 00:00 Understanding Ghosting and Discarding 02:53 Healing and Preparing to Date Again 05:48 Navigating the Dating Scene Post-Ghosting 09:10 First Date Experiences and Expectations 12:02 Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Dating 14:50 Setting Boundaries and Managing Expectations 18:09 The Importance of Genuine Connections 21:04 Reflections on Dating and Future Plans 28:34 Navigating Anxious Attachment in Dating 34:58 Understanding Attachment Styles 42:57 The Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Relationships 49:45 Strategies for Managing Anxious Attachment 54:57 Reflections on Dating and Emotional Availability

Have you just been ghosted? Well, Nikki shares her recent ghosted again dating experience and then discusses avoidant discard, emotional unavailability and the signs of love bombing. As a former avoidant, join this episode as Nikki emphasizes the need for vulnerability and communication while navigating modern dating, while also reflecting on the impact of ghosting, and the lessons learned about healthy attachment versus trauma bonding. If you're trying to heal from an avoidant who discarded or ghosted you, it's an episode you won't want to miss!

Nikki shares her personal experiences with postpartum depression and the importance of facing oneself after a run-in with someone at the hairdresser who broke down they were struggling with being both a good mother and wife. In this episode, she emphasizes the need to embrace vulnerability and share one's story as a way to help others. Nikki tries to be open and vulnerable, encouraging listeners to stop hiding from themselves and find strength in their struggles so they can do the same. Takeaways Postpartum depression is a common and often misunderstood condition that many women experience. Facing oneself and being vulnerable is essential for personal growth and healing. Sharing one's story can help others going through similar struggles. 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:01 Facing Postpartum Depression 06:05 The Importance of Facing Yourself 07:56 Embracing Vulnerability and Sharing Your Story 09:27 The Purpose of the Podcast 10:21 Conclusion and Encouragement

The episode takes an introspective turn as Nikki emphasizes how her past abuse has led her to cherish every moment now. She engages in a candid conversation about the mental and physical toll of abuse, stressing the need for open dialogue on these often-taboo subjects. Interestingly, the episode was recorded before Nikki's TikTok video on Cassie and P Diddy went semi-viral, highlighting the need for more abuse awareness & conversation. Nikki encourages listeners, especially women who have endured similar traumas, to embrace their past while forging a path of healing and empowerment. She stresses the importance of not dwelling on lost time but rather using one's experiences as a catalyst for growth and change. This episode is not just a personal narrative but a call to action for greater awareness and support for survivors of abuse. Want to leave me a voice message to include in my next video or podcast? Follow this link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nikkidlovely/message

In this thought-provoking episode, join Nikki as she embarks on a soul-searching road trip to Texas. Amidst the hum of the highway, Nikki delves deep into the realms of emotional availability. She confronts a pivotal question: Is she truly as emotionally open as she believes? Throughout the journey, Nikki introspectively examines her past interactions, pondering whether she's been unjustly blaming others or if it's time for self-reflection. While the sound quality bears the marks of her on-the-road setting, the episode's raw and honest content makes it a must-listen. This candid conversation marks a significant turning point, offering listeners a chance to reflect on their own emotional journeys alongside Nikki's. Join her as she navigates the complex highways of the heart, seeking truth and clarity in the vastness of Texas.

Nikki invites her married brother on for a special 'sibling session' where they discuss her dating life, the recent ghost from previous episodes, and some tips to get over ghosting in general. It's a hilarious and fun-filled reunion that offers Nikki a male perspective.

Nikki speaks on how much it sucks to be back in the dating pool but how necessary it is to get back out and date again after learning from her mistakes. What are some things she'll be doing differently now that she's in infested waters again and what does a steak, potato, and a can of peas have to do with all her newfound dating revelations? Tune in to find out!

Nikki breaks down in this episode and discusses some old trauma. Although she was able to walk away, some scars will always remain. Another vulnerable AF episode awaits with a confession she's never shared with the world...

Need to heal from a broken heart? Nikki dives into how she was able to mend her broken heart in 30 days after being ghosted. This episode she goes into the importance of watching and helping her friends go through heartbreak before her, the Blue Baby Seal method, and tips she took away from rereading her own book, No F*** Boys Allowed.

Nikki discusses how grateful she is to be where she is and how showing gratitude for what she has helps her relinquish control of the things she cannot. She also touches on what it's been like moving from (big city) LA to (small town) LA and how that too has helped her in the growth process more than she could ever imagine!

Nikki touches on the reason she kept her dog, and dives into wanting to be seen in past relationships and potential abandonment issues. She also touches on the guy who inspired the book, No F*** Boys Allowed and breaks down why she thinks she tries too hard to make relationships work with people who aren't it for her. *This is a very emotional episode - join her on her spiritual journey!

Nikki tries to be more vulnerable and transparent. This episode she takes a look at the last two relationships she'd tried to form since starting back dating after 5 years of celibacy and writing the book, 'No F*** Boys Allowed." As she reflects on why the relationships didn't work out and how hard dating is these days, she realizes that the only thing she has control over is herself - so why not focus on that for now? Join the episode then give us your take at the end!

In this episode, Nikki dives deep and addresses dating after being single AND abstinent for five years, the effects of her current breakup, people pleasing, and the need to be vulnerable with the person you're dating, and being strong enough to let things go. Whew! It's a lot, but it's another episode of raw & real emotions you won't want to miss.

In this episode Nikki addresses her fear of ghosting and other childhood insecurities, dating with an open heart, letting go of control, and functioning depression! Whew! That's a lot, but it's definitely an episode you won't want to miss. Join in.

What happens when healing brings you back to the place that shaped you?In this episode of Hello Me, It’s Me, Vulnerable AF, Nikki D. Lovely sits down with Nicole to talk about what it really means to return home during a season of rebuilding. Together, they explore vulnerability, healing in real time, and the complicated emotions that surface when you’re navigating family dynamics, cultural expectations, and generational trauma, all under one roof.This conversation isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about learning to set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and choose rest in a world that rewards burnout. Nikki and Nicole reflect on the lessons this season has taught them and why healing doesn’t erase triggers, it changes how you meet them.At its heart, this episode asks an honest question:How do you keep growing when healing leads you back home?

In this episode, Nikki discusses the complexities of independence for women, particularly in the context of dating and relationships. She reflects on her personal experiences and the societal pressures that influence women's choices. The conversation explores the emotional toll of being independent, the challenges of dating in today's economy, and the importance of knowing one's values and not settling for less in relationships. Nikki emphasizes the need for support and partnership while navigating these challenges, encouraging listeners to ask the right questions and prioritize their emotional well-being.

Healing doesn’t mean you stop getting triggered.It means you stop abandoning yourself when it happens.This episode is a year-end reflection on what we’re leaving in 2025 and what we’re intentionally carrying into 2026. We’re talking about healed reactions versus old patterns, emotional awareness, and how growth shows up when life still life’s.Healing is about recognizing, taking responsibility, and choosing differently than you have in the past. The question we begin with and leave you with is simple but honest:What are you leaving behind in 2025, and changing about yourself into the new year?

In this episode, Nikki shares her journey of temporarily moving back in with her parents, reflecting on personal growth, family dynamics, and the challenges of managing debt. She discusses the importance of healing, forgiveness, and the lessons learned about pride and peace, while also emphasizing the need for self-reflection while navigating life's challenges. Join us if you know the feeling!

In this episode, Nikki shares her personal struggles with moving, self-compassion, and the emotional challenges that arise during transitions. She reflects on her past decisions, the importance of giving oneself grace, and the lessons learned from her experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-reflection, understanding emotions, and the journey of personal growth.

Join us as we discuss the journey from avoidant and anxious attachment styles to achieving a secure and healthy mindset. My guest, Nicole Yvette, shares her experiences with social media detox, the impact of algorithms on self-perception, and the importance of self-reflection and therapy. Together, we unpack the challenges of dating, why I needed 5 years of celibacy, the significance of vulnerability, and the power of healing. If you're suffering from emotional unavailability, this is an insightful conversation you won't want to miss.