NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

What happens when your partner controls who you can play with? How much of yourself should you sacrifice to protect someone you love? And what do you do when your partner is genuinely trying to overcome their fears, but you're running out of patience?These aren't hypothetical questions. They're real struggles from real men navigating the complicated world of ethical non-monogamy.In this special live episode recorded at Mancation Mountain, Scott Shirley is joined by fellow non-monogamy advocate and favorite debate partner Scott Studham. With 21 men gathered for several days of honest conversations, personal growth, and connection, they decided to turn the microphones on and tackle some of the hardest questions the men were facing in their own relationships.Nothing was scripted, and some of the questions led to surprisingly vulnerable revelations.We dive into jealousy, restrictive relationship rules, sexual insecurities, difficult compromises, painful ultimatums, and the fear of telling your partner who you really are. We also explore what happens when one partner wants more freedom than the other, whether compromise is always a good thing, and how to handle rejection without taking it personally.Along the way, Scott shares the emotional reality of watching April prepare for her first date with another man, while other men open up about their own struggles, fears, and the difficult choices they're facing in their marriages.And running through the entire conversation is one of the most challenging ideas from Wild Love Theory:Love should never make you smaller.But what happens when living by that principle is a whole lot harder than believing in it?This is an unusually candid conversation about the parts of non-monogamy that don't make it into the glamorous social media posts. The fear. The uncertainty. The uncomfortable truths. And the incredible personal growth that can happen when people are willing to confront them.Whether you're new to non-monogamy, have been navigating it for years, or simply want to rethink what healthy love and personal freedom look like, this episode will give you plenty to think about.JOIN OUR COMMUNITY:www.naughtygym.comwww.ayasociety.comUPCOMING EVENTS:1. 🎉 Come party with us at Hedonism at BBBB!https://hedonism.com/bbbb/2.⚕️Unterthered: A Ketamine Assisted Couples Therapy Retreathttps://www.naughtygym.com/untethered-retreat

Guys, could you be sabotaging your own chances in the lifestyle without even realizing it? In this episode of the Naughty Gym Show, Scott and April tackle three common mistakes they see men making in the non-monogamous community, and why these seemingly harmless habits might be making you less attractive, less confident, and less successful at building the connections you actually want.From constantly putting yourself down to relying on your partner to break the ice, we're talking about the behaviors that can quietly work against you. And ladies, you're not entirely off the hook either! We dig into why confidence is so attractive, why genuine curiosity beats even the smoothest pickup line, and why telling someone how great you are in bed probably isn't having the effect you think it is. April also shares what actually gives her butterflies when a man approaches her, and it might surprise you. Plus, before we get into the men, we're sharing some unforgettable highlights from our recent El Salvador retreat! From an incredibly sexy hands-on workshop with Ashley Manta to meaningful connections, hilarious mishaps, and a powerful experience giving back to the local community, this trip reminded us why we love bringing people together. Whether you're brand new to non-monogamy or you've been in the lifestyle for years, this conversation might change the way you approach your next party, event, or potential connection. Because sometimes the secret to becoming more attractive isn't changing how you look. It's changing how you connect.Come for the laughs, stay for the lessons, and remember to **Never Stop Playing!** 🌐 Learn more about our community, events, and retreats at NaughtyGym.com or AYASociety.com. 🇸🇻 Visit our El Salvador Resort Venue at https://www.antiresort.com/ 🔥 Get help from world class seggs coach, Ashley Manta at https://www.ashleymanta.com/

When Your Mind Says Yes, But Your Body Says No You love your partner. You genuinely want them to experience freedom, pleasure, and connection with others. You've talked about it, made agreements, and decided you're ready.Then it happens.You see your partner flirting with someone, kissing someone, or enjoying an experience you've already agreed to, and suddenly your stomach drops. Your heart races. Every part of your body seems to be screaming that something is wrong.But is something actually wrong?In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we're joined by relationship coach and jealousy expert Ally Iseman, CRC to explore one of the most confusing and difficult aspects of non-monogamy: the disconnect between what we intellectually accept and what we emotionally experience.We get personal about our own struggles with jealousy, including the times we've hidden our feelings from each other, tried to power through uncomfortable experiences, and inadvertently made things harder by attempting to protect one another.Ally challenges some deeply ingrained beliefs about jealousy and introduces her six-step Jealousy G.R.O.W.T.H Method, explaining how uncomfortable emotions can become opportunities for greater self-awareness, trust, and intimacy.We also explore an important distinction: When is emotional discomfort an opportunity for growth, and when is it a sign that you're pushing yourself too far?Whether you're curious about opening your relationship, already navigating non-monogamy, or simply trying to understand jealousy in a monogamous relationship, this conversation offers a different way to think about one of our most misunderstood emotions.Because experiencing jealousy doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship. What matters is what you do with it.Connect with Ali Iseman:Relationship coaching and resources-1. https://www.passport2pleasure.com2. Free jealousy quiz: https://www.thejealousyquiz.comFind us:Naughty Gym / AYA Society: https://www.naughtygym.com

What if the real question isn’t, “Why can’t I handle non-monogamy?” but instead, “What else am I already carrying?”In this episode, Scott and April get unusually personal about something that has quietly affected their own non-monogamous relationship for years: capacity.Non-monogamy can be emotionally demanding. And when one partner is already overwhelmed by work, family, stress, responsibility, or an unequal relational load, there may simply not be much capacity left for jealousy, uncertainty, sexual exploration, or navigating new boundaries.But the conversation goes even deeper.Scott and April unpack a recurring communication pattern between them. Before entering a non-monogamous environment, Scott would ask some version of, “What are you comfortable with?” His intention was to avoid assumptions and protect the relationship.April heard something very different.To her, the question felt like she was being handed responsibility for deciding what Scott could or couldn’t do—and then being forced to choose between two terrible options: say yes and potentially override herself, or say no and feel responsible for disappointing him.The breakthrough came when they realized April wasn’t asking Scott to read her mind.She was asking for evidence that he had been paying attention.Instead of, “Where are you?” the better question became something closer to:“Here’s where I think we are. Here’s what I see you carrying. Here’s what I think our capacity looks like right now. How does that feel to you?”It’s a conversation about non-monogamy, but it’s also about something much bigger: attunement, invisible labor, emotional responsibility, communication, and the difference between asking your partner to give you the answer and showing them that you’re already standing beside them trying to understand it.If you’ve ever wondered why something that once felt exciting suddenly feels exhausting, this episode may help you understand why.STATE OF US WEEKLY RELATIONSHIP CHECK-IN DOCUMENThttps://drive.google.com/drive/folders/13BL0kmbDBMEt4MwvC8MwVLh6Za0tqG3M?usp=sharing🪩 OUR UPCOMING EVENTS... - EL SALVADOR RETREAT Anti-Resort, Mizata | October 12-17, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador - WILD & WISE WOMEN'S RETREAT Smoky Mountains, TN | November 8-11, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise - MANCATION MOUNTAIN Smoky Mountains, TN | November 8-11, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation - HOLIDAZE PARTY Smoky Mountains, TN | November 15-20, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze - BE BETTER AT BEING BAD 4 Hedonism II Resort, Jamaica | Jan 2-9, 2027 https://hedonism.com/bbbb 📖 BUY OUR BOOK... Wild Love Theory https://tinyurl.com/cnmjectx 🌐 OUR WEBSITE... https://www.naughtygym.com 📧 OUR EMAIL... [email protected] Thanks for listening to The Naughty Gym Show, soon to be AYA Society. Never Stop Playing.

Can psychedelics actually make you better at non-monogamy? Jealousy. Fear. Defensiveness. Insecurity. The urge to control what your partner does so you don’t have to feel something uncomfortable. These are some of the hardest parts of opening a relationship, and in this episode, Scott sits down with Dr. Chandra Khalifian and Dr. Kayla Knopp, co-founders of Enamory, to explore whether psychedelic-assisted therapy can help us respond to those challenges differently. Chandra and Kayla work at the intersection of couples therapy, expansive relationships, and psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy. Together, they explore how substances like MDMA and ketamine may temporarily reduce defensiveness, increase cognitive flexibility, deepen empathy, and make it easier to see a conflict through your partner’s eyes. And that creates a fascinating possibility for non-monogamy: What if the goal isn’t to eliminate jealousy, fear, or insecurity? What if the goal is to become better at experiencing those emotions without immediately trying to restrict someone else’s freedom? Scott, Chandra, and Kayla discuss: • How to talk to your partner about opening your relationship • Why being terrified to raise the subject may reveal a deeper issue • What happens in the brain when MDMA reduces fight-or-flight responses • Why psychedelics may make us less defensive during difficult conversations • How non-monogamy can expose our instinct to control what makes us uncomfortable • Why jealousy is information, not automatic proof that your partner has done something wrong • How psychedelic therapy may expand our ability to tolerate fear, insecurity, shame, and uncertainty • Why letting go of control can become a learnable skill • How psychedelics can make it easier to understand your partner’s perspective • What ketamine-assisted relationship therapy actually looks like • Why the psychedelic experience itself isn’t enough, and why integration matters • How to tell the difference between a meaningful psychedelic insight and simply having a strange idea while high Scott also shares how an early MDMA experience with April unexpectedly changed the way they communicated and allowed each of them to hear things from the other that had previously been much harder to receive. This isn’t a conversation about using psychedelics to magically make non-monogamy easy. It’s about whether psychedelic-assisted therapy might help us develop some of the very capacities non-monogamy demands: emotional flexibility, empathy, curiosity, perspective-taking, and the ability to experience discomfort without immediately trying to control the person we love. Featuring Dr. Chandra Khalifian and Dr. Kayla Knopp of Enamory. Learn more at Enamory.com. 🪩 OUR UPCOMING EVENTS... - EL SALVADOR RETREAT Anti-Resort, Mizata | October 12-17, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador - WILD & WISE WOMEN'S RETREAT Smoky Mountains, TN | November 8-11, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise - MANCATION MOUNTAIN Smoky Mountains, TN | November 8-11, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation - HOLIDAZE PARTY Smoky Mountains, TN | November 15-20, 2026 https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze - BE BETTER AT BEING BAD 4 Hedonism II Resort, Jamaica | Jan 2-9, 2027 https://hedonism.com/bbbb 📖 BUY OUR BOOK... Wild Love Theory https://tinyurl.com/cnmjectx 🌐 OUR WEBSITE... https://www.naughtygym.com 📧 OUR EMAIL... [email protected] We are not relationship experts or professionals if you want to talk to a professional ENM relationship therapist or coach, check out Expansive Connection Coaching... www.expansiveconnection.com/ENM Thanks for listening to The Naughty Gym Show, soon to be AYA Society. Never Stop Playing.