Confidence

I've been feeling different lately, at peace, confident, secure. Today, I will reflect on the reason I feel so present, and how you can too. I'll discuss how your desires, such as wanting a family, a relationship, and success, can hinder your happiness, but also your progress. Then I get into your questions: what to do when you’re feeling anxious over delayed texts, I'll discuss how to calm yourself down and handle the emotion in the moment. I'll talk about how true security is so much more than just feeling confident all the time. Then I'll touch on what to do when you're not physically attractive to them, and how to handle the excitement of meeting someone new, and how to not get too ahead of yourself.Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links

Have you ever been surrounded by people (even in a relationship) and still felt alone? That’s because loneliness isn’t about being alone, it's what happens when your sense of self is tied to something outside of you … so when connection disappears, you feel like you disappear. In this episode, I break down why most people feel lonely, why we’re scared of it, and how a lot of us are way more codependent than we think (we just call it “love” or “attachment” to make it sound prettier). I also asked you guys what you’re battling internally in your love life right now, and I respond to the stuff I see nonstop: why being single after a long relationship feels brutal, why it’s so hard to let go when someone makes you feel whole for the first time in forever, and why the second they switch up, you’re desperate to get that feeling back. Then I get into what “doing the work” actually is. This episode is a bid to help you start trusting yourself and letting go of the fear of being misunderstood. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

People think self-love is taking yourself on a date or going to the gym, but that's just the surface. In this episode, I share what true self-love is and how to practice it. I'll break down the difference between desire and attachment, and I'll go through the components of our emotions and how we project our feelings onto others instead of owning them ourselves. I share a specific example of how I was triggered in my relationship, how I reacted (needy, angry), and had to take a step back and work through my reaction. Through my personal example, I'll help you unpack your triggers and fears in a relationship and how to overcome them. It's a brand new season (and new year), buckle up because we are going deeper than ever before. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Last episode of the year, it has been a heck of a journey, and we have a great one for you. I start with a personal story of letting go of unintentional connections and the difference between high standards and seeking perfection. I'll tell you why your situationship might seem okay, but how it might actually be blocking you from true love. Speaking of which, I then share a powerful conversation I had with two close guy friends, one recently engaged, and how hearing him talk about feeling inspired by his partner shifted something big for me (I think it will for you too). Finally, I then reflect on: “I’m single and healed… and now I don't want anyone." We will see about that! See you on the otherside. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Don't tell me you love me if you want to keep me ... In this episode, I dive deep into how softness and avoidance go hand in hand. How everyone is a mirror and how our patterns keep replaying in dating without realizing it. I'll show you why you attract people who can’t fully meet you, why vulnerability feels risky even when it’s the thing we want most, and how the people we date end up reflecting the parts of ourselves we’re still avoiding.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Isn’t it funny how the “prize” for being such a boss is you now take care of everything? In this episode, I get into what healthy masculine and feminine energy actually look like in real life: direction, stability, container vs. receptivity, amplification, flow. I'll discuss why so many strong, high-performing women end up stuck in their masculine without realizing it (and spoiler, it’s not because you’re “too much). I walk through an 8-year relationship story to show you how breadcrumbs work, how your identity gets tied to hope, and how mixed signals are just an avoidance of the truth. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You call it chemistry, your nervous system calls it chaos. I cover a bunch of your situationship questions such as: how soon is too soon, how long is too long, when detachment feels impossible, toxic exs, divorce, empty I love yous, ghost sightings, and finally standing up. This isn't just about situationships, it's a masterclass in letting go of everything you thought you knew about who you are and stepping into the most authentic version of yourself. Today, you are done chasing to be chosen.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Why do you step back when someone finally shows up? Why does safety feel like danger? I’m breaking down avoidance (specifically in women) and all the ways you self-sabotage when you meet a potential good connection. We also dig into the questions you sent in about the pressure surrounding social media in dating, from following Insta models to snooping through his following list. I also share my thoughts on watching p~rn in relationships.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You're laid back, low maintenance, and you don't need much. The only issue is that you struggle with finding that balance of receiving the energy that you want. I'll talk about how to confidently communicate your feelings without losing your place. I will discuss why men pull away after months of consistency. If you're feeling like you're doing everything right but still not getting what you want, this is for you. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Your ego is about to get rocked, for real. This episode is a deeper look at what ego actually is (which is generally misunderstood). I'll talk about the different ways it manifests in relationships, how your personality is shaped by it, and how to live beyond it (and/or how to make it stronger and healthier). This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who is still stuck holding onto someone they know is not right for them. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Last week, I talked about how you need to challenge a man in order to get him to stay over the long haul. This week, I'll deep dive into what it truly means to be the woman he can't help but respect. I'll also provide you with another tool that you can use to generate instant confidence and build the life you want faster. Visualize what you want, embody the person you want to receive, and watch your world change. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You know those phases in life where you’re torn between building your dream and building a life with someone? This episode gets deep down into how avoidance shows up in men, what they are actually thinking when they pull back, and why so many people are chasing achievement to fill a void they don’t even see. I also share a personal story of how I stood firm in my boundaries and truth with an avoidant. Today is a giant journey through my brain on the intersection of validation, success, and finding true love. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Let’s take you through the mind of an avoidant, a self-aware one at that. I’ll discuss why getting the ick might be a form of unconscious self-sabotage, why our society craves fake love, and how to better regulate and communicate as an avoidant. If you ever catch yourself missing someone who is not choosing you, let me teach you how to change the narrative and start attracting people who are actually available.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Did you really do too much? ... This week, we will start with why our nervous system pushes us into anxious spirals and overthinking. I'll then give you a powerful tool to combat your anxiety and show you how to stay calm when dating feels uncertain. I'll guide you on how to maintain your peace while meeting new people, especially if you struggle with limerance. I'll also touch on the invisible string theory and questions around whether dating standards have gotten out of control.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters:02:58 Limerance & Regulating Your Anxiety34:00 Invisible String Theory39:19 Are Dating Standards Getting Out of Control46:27 How to Date Without Losing Yourself

It's episode 100, wow what a journey! Today I am going to share the 3 most important mindset shifts I've discovered as a coach. Are you ready to release control, kill perfectionism, and know the steps to building true confidence? I'll also share a few recent dating stories from swallowing my pride, choosing love over fear, and a wild story about ghosting and ex lovers.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Dating is supposed to feel good, not confusing, not dismissive, not anxious. This week I talk about situations where ghosting might actually be necessary and why I have zero tolerance for poor communication. I'll share a great self-reflection exercise that reveals what drives you, what you fear, and where you place your worth, which will help you identify your attachments. I also tackle questions about how to know if you are emotionally ready for a relationship, how to handle dating a dismissive avoidant, and if there is anything you can do to help them see their own worth. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Zero Tolerance Policy18:04 Self-Reflection Exercise29:01 Dating & Nicotine42:41What Makes Someone Emotionally Ready 58:29 Dating a Dismissive Avoidant

Have you ever been infatuated and start acting crazy? Well, do I have a story for you! I talk about my pattern of doing too much and how I am learning to slow down and trust myself. We’ll get into how you subconsciously communicate your worth, why being “too nice” too soon can kill attraction, and what it actually looks like to show up grounded and calm instead of overselling. Plus, I answer a listener’s question about whether people really change, why we chase the same patterns even years later, and what to do if you’re struggling with intimacy in avoidant relationships.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Handling Infatuation & Communicating Your Value Better36:39 Can They Actually Change?48:16 Avoidant Went and Dated Someone Else After Breakup52:33 Physical Intimacy Issues with Avoidants

I just got back from a ten-day trip to New York that completely pulled me out of my routine. No TikToks, no structure, just late nights, new people, and letting go of control. I share stories from the trip such as extending my flight last minute, getting ghosted after being real, and trusting that the right people and moments always show up when you stop forcing. This is about choosing love over fear, presence over control, and freedom over validation.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Are they really the next best thing, or are they just like everyone else? Today I had a new voice note coaching client who came to me spiraling and overthinking about her potential new boo. He was throwing everything at her: masculine energy, plans, good vibes, and all of a sudden, everything shifted. She gave me permission to share her question live on the podcast as well as my response. In this episode, I'll talk about what to do when your nervous system goes into overdrive, how to handle the fear of being too much or ruining it before it even starts, and what happens when you sleep with someone quickly and the attachment spikes. Let me help you stay confident in your dating process and decisions. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

In today's episode, I am going to share with you my truest love and deepest fear. It's an exercise that I am going to share with you to help you get to the root of your more controlling beliefs. I'll talk about how these beliefs have played out in my relationships and why I’ve tied so much of my self-worth to attention. I get into the dark side of empathy, how being nice isn’t the same as being authentic, and why so many of the things we think we’re doing out of love are actually driven by fear. I share stories from clients navigating back to friendship when they used to include benefits. I'll discuss how to sit with and handle old traumas while dating or trying to find new partners. If you’ve ever felt invisible, overlooked, or not chosen, this is for you. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Empathy vs Fear16:01 Deepest Fear vs Deepest Love Exercise35:54 Single So Long Now You're Avoidant42:54 Managing Triggers With Someone New