Confidence

This is the week you actually start being judgemental! I plead for you to trust your instincts and live for your own expectations. I talk about how many of us grew up with emotionally dismissive parents and how it can lead to your people pleasing and high standards, but before I hit you with the hard stuff, I absolutely trauma dump my inner battle with jealousy and envy. Isn't it funny that sometimes you can do all the right things and still end up wrong. Chapters: 00:00 Trauma Dump 28:03 Dating With Fewer Expectations 41:32 The Only Time You're Allowed to Be Judgemental 54:04 Emotionally Dismissive Parents Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on my valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

When is enough enough? This week, I get deep into feelings about why it is hard for men to settle for the ones they "love." I then tackle how to combat the love bomber and the importance of controlling your access. Someone asked me what does "setting a bound even mean? I provide some guidance and examples to give you a better understanding. This then ties into a question I received about playing hard to get. Inside is the roadmap for more success with men. Chapters: 00:00 Diary of an Avoidant 35:34 How to Handle a Love Bomber 50:19 What Does Holding Your Boundaries Mean? 59:48 Playing Hard to Get Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on my valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

This week, I come out swinging! I'm done listing to the online boss babes and hype women, and I am here to deliver the hard truth of why they haven't committed yet. I then move into why your fear of wasting your time is hurting your dating life and where your anxious attachment can kill your spark in communication. I end the podcast with some vulnerability about the dog days of being really fucking single. Strap in for some brutal honesty. Chapters: 00:00 Boss Babes, False Hype Women, and Commitment 16:36 Fear of Time Being Wasted 38:13 How to Handle Their Distant Communication 51:27 The Dog Days of Being Single Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on my valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

It's 2024, and the art of flirting seems to be lost to doom-scrolling dating apps and direct messages. Don't you want to meet people organically? Maybe you don't know how, or maybe you want to step up your game. Today's episode features a detailed look at approaching, signaling, and closing the deal with people out in the wild. I provide a simple process to create connections with confidence and the secret to meeting people in person. Let me give you the gift of Real Rizz! Chapters: No Chapters This Week Sign Up for My Free Weekly Coaching Newsletter: https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Keeping your options open is never a bad thing until you invite one of the options around the other in broad daylight. This week, I tell two whacky stories about two women involved with other men, which makes me question my sanity. I then got some wild questions from y'all this week. We talked about the stigma around body piercings, going downtown on a girl, wife duties, and what it means when he tells you how much you just made him c*m. It's a wild one so make sure you are wearing headphones. Chapters: 00:00 Intro and Date with Boyfriend Story 11:20 Ex's IG Story 31:09 Going Downtown (on a Girl) 40:55 If Men Provide What Do Women Do 47:15 Stigma Around Body Piercings 52:25 What Does it Mean When He C*ms Hard Breakup Bootcamp: https://christopher-nappi.mykajabi.com/breakup-bootcamp Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Socials & Other Links: https://linktr.ee/confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

In this episode, I reflect on my recent success finding high levels of happiness and self-confidence. I also discuss my new approach to dating and how I vet potential partners. Can people really be straightforward with their intentions? Do guys really know whether or not they want to date you as soon as they meet you? Setting boundaries and staying disciplined to your goals takes a level of focus that is not easy to maintain. It's actually tremendously uncomfortable to make difficult choices for yourself, especially when you care so much about other people. Breakup Bootcamp: https://christopher-nappi.mykajabi.com/breakup-bootcamp Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Socials & Other Links: https://linktr.ee/confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Oh boy do we have a great episode for you this week. Blast from the past! Nappi & Jay are back at it again with some heat! We discuss guys wearing makeup, how my sex game has plateaued, no-nonsense chicks sliding into my DMs, and our choice of foreplay. For the main course, Jay and I both took turns trying to unravel each other's toxic patterns in relationships and how they led to the demise of the Nappi & Jay podcast. You can listen to and follow Jay's podcast here: https://linktr.ee/jayspeculiarmind CHAPTERS: 00:00 Random Topics 52:12 Toxic Patterns in Relationships Breakup Bootcamp: https://christopher-nappi.mykajabi.com/breakup-bootcamp Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Socials & Other Links: https://linktr.ee/confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Have you ever been sent home all riled up and ready to go? This week, we go inside the minds of men who have been pushed to their edge. Speaking of what's going on in his head, does a guy following girls mean the end of a relationship? Why does his instagram activity look like a warzone of hot chicks and booty-building workouts? Before we rub that out, I discuss the chokehold social media has on all of us, two day-in-the-life examples of a good day and a bad day for me, and whether I will ever prioritize a relationship over my work. Chapters: 00:00 INTRO 07:43 Social Media Affecting My Behavior & Flow State 26:33 Will a relationship ever be priority 1? 36:02 Guys perspective on Instagram Likes and Follows 52:46 How do men feel when you leave them s**ually frustrated 1:00:51 She didn't want a label Breakup Bootcamp: https://christopher-nappi.mykajabi.com/breakup-bootcamp Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Socials & Other Links: https://linktr.ee/confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

I got roasted for my actions on the previous podcast, 'Boys Lie.' This week's episode features my thoughts on the fallout of my relationship and some harsh but valid comments on my recent actions. It's fucking hard to close a chapter with someone you deeply care about, even when you know it's not right. I help provide some clarity on what a guy means when he tells you that he isn't ready and how to overcome the challenges of dating as a successful woman, especially as you start to move up in age. Chapters: 00:00 INTRO AND REACTIONS TO THE LAST PODCAST 47:11 GUYS NOT WANTING TO TEXT DAILY 01:03:14 DATING AS A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN Breakup Bootcamp: https://christopher-nappi.mykajabi.com/breakup-bootcamp Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Socials & Other Links: https://linktr.ee/confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

I've been struggling for the past few days with releasing this. A lot of people feel that some things are better left private. I have to think about the feelings of others (especially the girl I hurt + whom I care about the most); I also think about how others will perceive me. Something I have always stuck by is that I am going to tell my story as it is, in good and bad, no matter what, and set a standard that for better or for worse, I am going to give you my truth exactly how it happens. This week, I didn't show up honest in my truth, and I paid the price of hurting someone who means a lot to me. I can't go back, can't change it, but I can take accountability, and I can learn from it. Here is my manifesto to stop avoiding hard conversations and uncomfortable actions and learn to face uncomfortable truths. No Chapters This Week Breakup Bootcamp: https://christopher-nappi.mykajabi.com/breakup-bootcamp Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

A meeting with my therapist set off an inner conflict in me that pushed my long-distance situation to the edge. Can love in the talking stage really survive a cross-country distance? I also asked y'all the question "is he playing hard to get, or is he really not that into you?" A lot of people wondered can a man really be playing hard to get? Maybe it's more of determining if he's really into you, so I react to some of your situations such as sleeping with your boss, hanging out without going on dates, and if he asks for more time. Can you settle for something good if you know you want something great? Chapters: 00:00 STRUGGLING WITH LONG DISTANCE 38:42 HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

I'm not going to lie (no pun intended); this week is a vulnerable look into a serious conflict that erupted over the past week with long-distance situation. How would you feel if you found out your partner deleted text messages? Would you leave the relationship? Are they really a bad person, or did they have a reason? I discuss a character trait that has destroyed a lot of my past relationships. I also answer, "How do I attract a stable man?" Bring your ice cubes because the tea is piping hot. Chapters: 00:00 Long Distance Situation Deleted Texts Story 49:15 How to Find a Stable Man Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

It's time to get down and dirty. This week, I will answer your questions: what is considered bad s*x from a man's perspective, how do I move on from or detach from them quickly (especially when I know it's not the right thing for me), and why do men are scared to make the first move. Before we get to that, I share a personal story about the tricky trials of the talking stage and posting your relationship on social media. It's time to shoot your shot, break free from their bullshit, and throw it down in the sheets. Chapters: 00:00 Intro and Personal Update 26:14 Men Being Scared to Make First Move 41:24 What's Bad S*x from a Man's POV 55:18 How to Get Over Them Quick Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

It's the week of Valentine's Day, which means I have an exciting announcement (listen for details). This week, I tackle where to find good men (or people in general), how to navigate the "how are you" guys on dating apps, and when is the appropriate time to go over a guy's house when you first start dating. I also share the top gift ideas for your man, did someone say BJ?? I also deliver the cold hard truth about expressing what you need, go over how men process their feelings, and let you know if good D is only reserved for the bad boys. Chapters: 00:00 Intro and Personal Update 25:22 Valentine's Day What to Get Him 34:27 Navigating the "how are you" men on dating apps 40:36 When to Go to Guys House for First Time 51:33 Where to Find Good Men Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Ready to take your situationship and turn it into a relationship well here is the MF blueprint! We explore how a man thinks when it comes to Instagram dating and why he only likes and comments but never follows through. We also look at how to handle someone talking shit when things don't work out the way we want it to. This episode is jam-packed with so many dating nuggets you don't want to miss it. Chapters: 00:00 Intro and Personal Update 20:26 Instagram Dating Question 34:22 Rejected By the Casual Dating Guy 43:39 How to Turn Your Situationship to a Relationship Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Well, it's time to get your sh*t together. This week's episode is a massive wake-up call for you and me. I discuss my recently victimish and selfish ways that have caused a stir in my relationships. The only way out is to go back in. Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

After a few week-long hiatus, I figured it was time to come back to tell my story. In this episode, I face the paradox of detachment: I give some guidance on how women can best combat their attachment to the wrong men while facing my own problems trying to detach from work. Speaking of work, have you ever dated someone who does the same thing as you? Also, it seems like this long-distance situation really has a chokehold on me, but is there enough to close the gap? SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: I will be taking LIVE CALLERS from now on as I will be recording live every week on Youtube every Wednesday 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM (Pacific), tune in and I can answer your questions live on the show! Follow me on youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIN_CyvX84bn18D_RgEn0Yw Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Have you ever been in a piss-poor mood, and you just can’t shake the feeling? Woof, well, here you go, an episode where I am sarcastically battling my whirlwind of shitty emotions. I explore how even those who “have it all together” can easily find their way into a victim mentality and a negative mindset. I’ll discuss why I feel this way and my attempts to work out of it. I’ll even touch on how my childhood patterns start reappearing when I am not feeling my best and how I project MY bullshit, especially onto those closest to me. Here’s your reminder to check yourself: Are you actually doing the things that make YOU happy? Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

It’s been a while since the last podcast. It feels good to be back! Boy, a lot has happened, from a crisis averted to meeting a girl with all green flags (team wholesome?) and evaluating some serious life choices. Can a major roadblock lead to a better path forward? Maybe so, but change is uncomfortable as a mother fucker, and can have you feeling more stuck than you've ever been before. To get out of your rut, you must remind yourself of the things that truly light you up, what really matters, and take action. Let’s explore how your obsession with possession can push you further away from the things you so deeply desire. Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support

Disclaimer, feeling a little raunchy this week and it might be because of my celibacy update. As I dive into this episode starting off with a bang (literally) and quickly I’m reminded to always trust my intuition. I talk about the big question everyone asks, “Is being intimate on the first date really an issue” and how mental and sexual connections can differ amongst partners. I then tackle signs you’re just not into them, which might make you realize they actually aren’t into you. Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support