Confidence

Why do you step back when someone finally shows up? Why does safety feel like danger? I’m breaking down avoidance (specifically in women) and all the ways you self-sabotage when you meet a potential good connection. We also dig into the questions you sent in about the pressure surrounding social media in dating, from following Insta models to snooping through his following list. I also share my thoughts on watching p~rn in relationships.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You're laid back, low maintenance, and you don't need much. The only issue is that you struggle with finding that balance of receiving the energy that you want. I'll talk about how to confidently communicate your feelings without losing your place. I will discuss why men pull away after months of consistency. If you're feeling like you're doing everything right but still not getting what you want, this is for you. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Your ego is about to get rocked, for real. This episode is a deeper look at what ego actually is (which is generally misunderstood). I'll talk about the different ways it manifests in relationships, how your personality is shaped by it, and how to live beyond it (and/or how to make it stronger and healthier). This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who is still stuck holding onto someone they know is not right for them. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Last week, I talked about how you need to challenge a man in order to get him to stay over the long haul. This week, I'll deep dive into what it truly means to be the woman he can't help but respect. I'll also provide you with another tool that you can use to generate instant confidence and build the life you want faster. Visualize what you want, embody the person you want to receive, and watch your world change. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You know those phases in life where you’re torn between building your dream and building a life with someone? This episode gets deep down into how avoidance shows up in men, what they are actually thinking when they pull back, and why so many people are chasing achievement to fill a void they don’t even see. I also share a personal story of how I stood firm in my boundaries and truth with an avoidant. Today is a giant journey through my brain on the intersection of validation, success, and finding true love. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Let’s take you through the mind of an avoidant, a self-aware one at that. I’ll discuss why getting the ick might be a form of unconscious self-sabotage, why our society craves fake love, and how to better regulate and communicate as an avoidant. If you ever catch yourself missing someone who is not choosing you, let me teach you how to change the narrative and start attracting people who are actually available.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Did you really do too much? ... This week, we will start with why our nervous system pushes us into anxious spirals and overthinking. I'll then give you a powerful tool to combat your anxiety and show you how to stay calm when dating feels uncertain. I'll guide you on how to maintain your peace while meeting new people, especially if you struggle with limerance. I'll also touch on the invisible string theory and questions around whether dating standards have gotten out of control.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters:02:58 Limerance & Regulating Your Anxiety34:00 Invisible String Theory39:19 Are Dating Standards Getting Out of Control46:27 How to Date Without Losing Yourself

It's episode 100, wow what a journey! Today I am going to share the 3 most important mindset shifts I've discovered as a coach. Are you ready to release control, kill perfectionism, and know the steps to building true confidence? I'll also share a few recent dating stories from swallowing my pride, choosing love over fear, and a wild story about ghosting and ex lovers.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Dating is supposed to feel good, not confusing, not dismissive, not anxious. This week I talk about situations where ghosting might actually be necessary and why I have zero tolerance for poor communication. I'll share a great self-reflection exercise that reveals what drives you, what you fear, and where you place your worth, which will help you identify your attachments. I also tackle questions about how to know if you are emotionally ready for a relationship, how to handle dating a dismissive avoidant, and if there is anything you can do to help them see their own worth. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Zero Tolerance Policy18:04 Self-Reflection Exercise29:01 Dating & Nicotine42:41What Makes Someone Emotionally Ready 58:29 Dating a Dismissive Avoidant

Have you ever been infatuated and start acting crazy? Well, do I have a story for you! I talk about my pattern of doing too much and how I am learning to slow down and trust myself. We’ll get into how you subconsciously communicate your worth, why being “too nice” too soon can kill attraction, and what it actually looks like to show up grounded and calm instead of overselling. Plus, I answer a listener’s question about whether people really change, why we chase the same patterns even years later, and what to do if you’re struggling with intimacy in avoidant relationships.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Handling Infatuation & Communicating Your Value Better36:39 Can They Actually Change?48:16 Avoidant Went and Dated Someone Else After Breakup52:33 Physical Intimacy Issues with Avoidants

I just got back from a ten-day trip to New York that completely pulled me out of my routine. No TikToks, no structure, just late nights, new people, and letting go of control. I share stories from the trip such as extending my flight last minute, getting ghosted after being real, and trusting that the right people and moments always show up when you stop forcing. This is about choosing love over fear, presence over control, and freedom over validation.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Are they really the next best thing, or are they just like everyone else? Today I had a new voice note coaching client who came to me spiraling and overthinking about her potential new boo. He was throwing everything at her: masculine energy, plans, good vibes, and all of a sudden, everything shifted. She gave me permission to share her question live on the podcast as well as my response. In this episode, I'll talk about what to do when your nervous system goes into overdrive, how to handle the fear of being too much or ruining it before it even starts, and what happens when you sleep with someone quickly and the attachment spikes. Let me help you stay confident in your dating process and decisions. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

In today's episode, I am going to share with you my truest love and deepest fear. It's an exercise that I am going to share with you to help you get to the root of your more controlling beliefs. I'll talk about how these beliefs have played out in my relationships and why I’ve tied so much of my self-worth to attention. I get into the dark side of empathy, how being nice isn’t the same as being authentic, and why so many of the things we think we’re doing out of love are actually driven by fear. I share stories from clients navigating back to friendship when they used to include benefits. I'll discuss how to sit with and handle old traumas while dating or trying to find new partners. If you’ve ever felt invisible, overlooked, or not chosen, this is for you. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Empathy vs Fear16:01 Deepest Fear vs Deepest Love Exercise35:54 Single So Long Now You're Avoidant42:54 Managing Triggers With Someone New

Some endings aren't meant to be rewritten. In this episode, I get into why it’s so tough to let go and why “spinning the block” usually leads to more chaos. I'll discuss how to find emotionally equipped partners, what it means when a man asks you to hang out but never follows through, and the harsh reality of why holding onto "what used to be" keeps you stuck. If you’ve ever needed the truth about whether that spark is real or just a trauma bond, you are about to get it.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Waiting For Commitment25:33 When They Spin the Block32:45 How to Find Someone Healed41:47 “I Want to See You” But No Action48:34 Intense Spark or Trauma Bond?

This week was a rollercoaster, dates, ghosting, old patterns showing up, and life testing tf out me. I follow up about the girl I went out with and how I still felt the energy was off, even though it looked good on paper. I'll give you guys a tool for how to digest a date, which will help you understand your experience. Then I get into a wild story about a four-hour FaceTime that went from “book a flight” to getting ghosted over lowercase letters. This episode is about slowing down, letting go of chasing attention, and learning how to handle rejection even when it's coming in bunches. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Are you ready to face yourself head-on? Today, I’m breaking down the discomfort and self-doubt that come with being on your own: the second-guessing, the weekends that feel too quiet, and the moments you want to run back to them for comfort. I talk about early-stage dating anxiety, how your avoidance sneaks into both relationships and work, and why relying on someone to “save” you is the fastest way to lose yourself (and them). Plus, I answer a listener’s question on knowing when to walk away from an avoidant partner, especially when their words don’t match their actions.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Ever catch yourself spiraling in overthinking just to realize it all comes down to a single feeling? In today’s episode, I’m getting brutally honest about why so many of us can’t hear ourselves clearly. We’re so stuck in our heads, chasing validation, playing games, and managing other people’s emotions that we completely ignore how we actually feel. I tell my story about picking up a girl in public, why I almost didn’t text her, and how that moment exposed just how deeply I’ve rejected myself. Plus, I break down what real self-trust actually looks like, why most people are living lives they don’t even like, and how to start making choices that are driven by your body, not your ego.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

I’ve always struggled to stand firm in my decisions. I used to see my trust issues as something outward, without realizing it was never about them ... it was always about me. Today, I'll share my breakthroughs on my journey to building genuine self-trust. I talk about how ego, fear, and expectation can keep us trapped in relationships and situations we don’t actually want to be in. I’ll give you examples from two of my clients, one who’s been struggling to let go of a relationship, and one who feels the pressure of finding marriage while the clock’s ticking. It’s not easy to take the world on alone, but I’ll share how I’ve learned to sit in the discomfort and overcome ego even when it's begging you to run back.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

I’ve been sitting with a lot of uncomfortable emotions this week. It’s hard not to feel some resistance when experiencing major change in your life. I’ve been learning to let go, surrender to how people show up, and recognize that building the most secure version of yourself takes time. I talk about what it means to really let go of safety, and why so many of us cling to relationships that don’t align with what we want. This episode is a wake-up call to let go of anything that is stopping you from receiving what you desire deep down.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: https://confidencechris.com

I took this solo trip thinking it would be like a peaceful little reset. But instead, it turned into so much more. This emotional rollercoaster cracked me open in a way I didn’t expect. I talk about what it was like being isolated, completely surrounded by people, having to surrender to all the anxiety and loneliness, and it honestly changed everything for me. As I sat there with all these feelings and finally let them go, something insane happened! This one moment forced me to look at the relationship I was already in and face some hard-ass questions: Am I in this because it feels good and safe, or am I avoiding the truth that it’s not actually what I want? I'll be honest, this part of the story gets messy, but I guess that is for you to judge...Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 An Avoidant Takes a Solo Trip (A Wild Ride)1:04:55 Not Holding Guilt After Showing Up Anxious in Your Relationship