Confidence

You're not missing them, you're missing a feeling. Let me explain. But first, I share a triggering message I received from a friend pointed at my avoidance. I'll give you an alternate perspective on how to handle harsh energy from those closest to you, while weaving in emotional wounds from how I grew up, and the layer of distance every girl I've dated has felt with me. I also cleared the decks again in my dating life, and I'll explain why easy and light still counts as saying no to yourself. Then two situations: a guy strategizing his final text, and a woman waiting on her gym crush to make a move (and my opinionated thoughts on women making the first move in general).Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 You're Missing a Feeling, Not a Person11:12 Putting All Your Peace in One Person17:29 Why I Cleared the Decks Again23:54 How My Avoidance Affects Others39:25 He Badly Wants Her Back54:49 Girls Shooting Their Shot First

Stop playing footsies with people who will never give you what you want. This episode is about getting deeper with yourself and your reactions. Many people feel stuck in relationships where they are frustrated, angry, and misunderstood. I'll give a personal example of how I recently got triggered when a friend showed up late, leading to verbal jabs and mental disconnection. I’ll break down how anger is usually a surface mask for underlying fear and why being "present" is the hardest work you'll do. I'll discuss the power of taking action on your truth, and how that action precedes the clarity you want. I also answer why guys go cold after sex and how to stop being indirect with your goals.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 Action Precedes Clarity17:13 Being Indirect About What You Want52:15 Why Guys Go Cold After Sex

This week came out of nowhere. I feel like I got sucker-punched with some difficult feelings and some hard truths. This week's title is seeking heartbreak, which is something I told myself I wanted to do. I've been sick of running away from what I desire, but what's funny is that I asked, and I received just as quickly. I also made a major realization about how deep my avoidance runs. I've been so focused on not acting from fear that I closed off the possibility that people might actually just love me (mind-blowing to me). I get into why you can't separate love from fear, and how our desires inherently bring anxiety. I will also tackle how to handle someone being unresponsive. This episode is your push to say what you need to say, then let the rest go.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Do they ever come back? It's time to end the debate once and for all. I'll also talk about why you want them back in the first place (trigger warning). Before we get there, I reflect on my recent fuck it attitude I have gotten for life lately. I get into the way we all communicate indirectly: the jabs you call jokes, the "I just miss the friendship" story your brain feeds you, and them going cold on you. I finish off with what to do when you're happy being single, but also want a relationship. I will tell you why it's hard for you to attract genuine love into your life when you're obsessed with solitude. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:00:00 Being Direct About Your Feelings27:00 Will They Come Back and Regret Leaving?44:07 Balancing Wanting a Relationship while Loving Being Single

When someone doesn't choose you, is it really about you? Let me tell you why it's not personal. Before I get into that, I pour my little heart out about feeling a little run down. I'll reflect on how tough it is to say no in the moment and how your exhaustion is a signal to recalibrate. Then I answer a question about handling the silent treatment without letting it wreck your confidence, saying a final goodbye, and being so far away from self-trust. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-applicationChapters:0:00 Checking In: I'm Run Down14:14 Life Is Inherently Purposeless27:19 What If You Didn't Need to Matter?35:46 Situation: The Silent Treatment49:39 Value Mindset vs. Alignment Mindset55:07 Situation: One Last Goodbye59:20 Situation: I Don't Trust Myself