Just So We're Clear

Do you ever just get that feeling you don't belong? Marissa opens up about some of the deeper insecurities she's been facing lately – from imposter syndrome at work to confronting her savage inner critic. Hanli explores what it means to truly let yourself go and express yourself without judgement, even if it's a bit cringe.

We're taking you on a wild ride this episode. Hanli and Marissa define their relationship as a little more than a friendship but a little less than lovers, before digging into what's been on their minds this week. Marissa's made Hyrox her entire personality this past month, but shares her frustrations on the latest health crazes and her fury over the return of skinny culture. Hanli gets into the beautiful chaos of trying to understand motherhood and the mother wound  ahead of planning a family.

Hanli and Marissa are back for season 6 baby! We're bringing the lols, the feels, and real talk.Marissa spills on her recent engagement, while Hanli gives us the debrief on her cultural wedding. We call out the pressure-cooker that is modern wedding culture and champion keeping it small, sacred, and unhinged.We also question why Gen Z still thinks 30 is ancient and how they have the time for their elaborate skincare routines, before we go down memory lane about our nights at the clerb.You know the drill – sass, nonsense and side-eye. Tune in.

Welcome back to a mega-personal, extra-long catch up episode, besties! We knoooow it's been a minute, but being able to record in person just hits different. So we saved up all the good stuff for this juicy little number. We talk about babies... like how are we meant to KNOW when we're ready to make one? Will we ever feel sure? Then we figure out where the lines are between our friends and our partners... what happens if they hate each other? What if they like each other too much? Tell us what you think.

For the first time in forever Hanli and Marissa take a break from their BFF LDR and record this whole episode without breaking eye contact... and things got deep. We reflect on a few important life things, like... Have we taken self-hood too far? Is social media only feeding our need for external validation? Who is your safe space? Is there such thing as gossiping for good? Are we suffering from cringe blindness? So many thoughts, so many feelings. You need to tune in.

Do you guys ever just save up for a good cry? We're running through some of the weird reasons we've gotten emotional lately. Hanli starts to feel like a local in Mexico but shares what she's found hard about connecting with people and building community away from home. Marissa reflects on how growing up can sometimes feel like growing apart, as we all enter different chapters of our lives.

Ladies, we get it. Online dating can be such a chore. We do the work, we’re ready to put ourselves out there, but how many frogs do we need to kiss before we find our prince? In this episode, we’re talking about all things online dating. The highs, the lows, and the weird and wonderful things we experience on our quest to meet the one. We spill the tea on the few times we tried to make the first move, share our zombie apocalypse plans, and give you our tips on how to build a killer profile. And of course, shoutout to the queen bee, Bumble 🐝, for teaming up with this cute lil podcast! #bumbleasia #openingmoves

Can you BELIEVE it? Four years on and this cute little podcast is still going strong. We know it's been a while and we have so.. much.. catching up to do. In this episode, we give you the rundown of what we've been up to over the last few months, from moving half way across the world, to the weird and wonderful things we're learning about living with our partners.

First of all, an announcement. Hanli is kinda sorta leaving Singapore... and we need to talk about it. We share the full deets, and take a moment to reflect on what it means to make that jump. Plus, lets talk about energy vampires. Chances are you know one, maybe you're close friends with one; they might even be a family member. You love them, but wow is it tiring dealing with them sometimes. We share our own little ways of keeping healthy boundaries, while still giving them the support they need. As our last episode of the year, we want to say a BIG thank you to everyone who's supported us this year. We honestly could not have done it without you. We'll be back in 2024 with more spicy eps... but until then, take care, stay hot, be well.

See, what did we tell you? Shoutout to all of you that wrote in and held us accountable. We see you, we love you. We're back. This week, we're talking about how to communicate your needs and standards within a relationship... right down to the little things that matter. Plus, can guys and girls really be friends? We give you our take.

Guys. Big news. Like MAJOR. Actually... let us just voice note you. This episode we're serving up our major life updates, and dropping a huge announcement (ahem, hint in the title). We share the full story of kween Hanli's royal engagement; romance, funny mishaps and all. Plus, Marissa pops off about a recent medical diagnosis that's forcing us to question the relationship between bodyweight and health.

We're tired of adulthood so we had ourselves a pyjama party. This week, Hanli gets existential with the question, does generosity breed greed? What do healthy expectations look like in our grown up friendships, and why do we sometimes feel short-changed? Meanwhile, Marissa tries to concoct a formula to raising a funny child (the secret ingredient: a sprinkle of trauma)... before we argue over what makes the ultimate clerb night.

Happy September my darlings! Marissa and Hanli are asking the big questions this week. We're deciphering what 'wealth' means to us and how its changed as we've (dare we say) matured. How can you tell when you've 'made it'? When should we buy ourselves that cheeky little upgrade? When do we treat ourselves to that expensive bottle of wine? And, we're unpacking our definitions of 'home' as we reflect on some of the bigger transitions taking place in our lives. As always, share your thoughts – what does 'wealth' and 'home' mean to you?

Is it just us, or has 2023 just been a year of unbridled chaos? We're back after our hiatus of playing dodgeball with everything the universe has decided to throw at us. We're out of breath, a little tired but otherwise standing tall. This week, we're starting with a little check in of where we're at, before we give you the lowdown of what's been going on these past few months. From coming to terms with death, UFOs being 100% real and adjusting to our relationship weight. 

Hello babies. This week, we want to give a special shoutout to Write Now – a mobile platform that lets you connect with professional counsellors for super affordable rates. So if you were ever looking for a sign to get some mental health support, this is it. Use our promo codes to try it out: <WNCHH> for 50% OFF for 2 months on any plans<JSWAC> for 50% OFF on add-on live sessionsOn this episode, Marissa tears up thinking about how our parents are getting older while Hanli is waging war on the internet trolls... because let's be honest, they need to be stopped.

Sorry for the silence y'all but we've been working on some things behind the scenes that we're really excited to share super soon. Not only that, we've been in a long distance friendship for the past month while Marissa was off on another corporate gallivant in America... but we're back and oh, how we've missed you all. This week, we get a little woo woo and explore what it really means when we say 'protect your energy' and how to tell when you've done it right. We also call out 'unconditional love' as being a pretty dangerous concept when it comes to relationships... do you think it should exist? We don't. We break down why. 

We're all about figuring out the best ways to avoid the drama... but let's be honest. Sometimes, you just gotta stand up and fight. This week, we're reflecting on the ways we deal with conflict with our loved ones, and whether our fighting habits actually serve us. Because as much as our love languages have helped us figure out a lot, knowing how we deal with conflict together is equally as important. We may not have all the answers, but here's what we've figured out so far. 

On this week's vibe check, Marissa and Hanli over-share (as per usual) – from the perils of Plan B to embracing our inner brat and  our inner aunties... so prepare yourselves for our unsolicited advice. We also get deep into trying to work out what it really means to gain a sense of 'clarity' in your life, whether it's in your love life, your personal finances or even just who you want to be when you grow up. 

First of all, happy belated birthday to us. We're three! Second of all, welcome to season five. Can you believe it? We can't. In honour of our GROWTH, we take a hot minute to reflect on what we've learned about ourselves lately... from three-day hangovers to battles with perfectionism. It's finally dawned on Marissa that great things can happen when you get out of your own way, while Hanli talks about whether closure is a little overrated. 

Happy new year babies! Oh how we've missed you. We're wrapping up this season by reflecting on everything life threw at us over the past year – from heartbreaks and new love, to stepping out of our comfort zones and learning how to befriend our fears. We figure out the difference between being vulnerable versus being 'open book', why we might need to make new friends, and what it's going to take to actually love our bodies. Most importantly, dear listeners... we want to take a moment to share how much you mean to us. We're almost 3 years old and none of this would have been possible without your support. We LOVE you.