DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Mia Edelrot über was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht)..In dieser Folge sprechen wir über Escort ohne Klischee: Nähe, Freiheit und das Doppelleben.ALLE LINKS ZU MIA:Website: www.sprecherin-mia.de // Escortagentur: www.edelrot-escort.de // Ihr Buch: Escorts bleiben nicht zum Frühstück (überall erhältlich) // Instagram: @sprecherin_miaÜBER DIESE FOLGE:Mia gibt ehrliche Einblicke in ihre Zeit als High-Class-Escort und erzählt, wie sich diese Welt wirklich anfühlt: zwischen Nähe und klaren Grenzen, zwischen Freiheit und gesellschaftlichen Erwartungen.Wir sprechen darüber, was viele Menschen komplett falsch verstehen, warum Escort nichts mit einem „abgearbeiteten Skript“ zu tun hat und wie viel es eigentlich mit Präsenz, Chemie und echter Verbindung zu tun hat.Es geht um Begegnungen, die unter die Haut gehen, um ein Doppelleben, das sich irgendwann nicht mehr trennen lässt, und um die Frage, wie wir als Gesellschaft auf weibliche Lust, Selbstbestimmung und Geld im Kontext von Intimität schauen.Außerdem erzählt Mia, warum sie heute ihre eigene Escortagentur gegründet hat, was sie anders machen möchte und warum Vielfalt, Sicherheit und Transparenz für sie im Mittelpunkt stehen.Eine Folge über Intimität, Vorurteile und den Mut, den eigenen Weg zu gehen.Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

(ENG): SHORT STORY: A Sex Doll, Some Lube, and a Lot of Questions.✨ Want to watch the video? Watch it here: https://joy.club/lisayoutube✨ Want to read my full experience? Read it here (Sign-Up in JOYclub required): https://www.joyclub.com/en/magazin/male_sex_doll_test.htmlWhen JOYclub and Housedoll asked if I’d like to test a male sex doll, I was already in a place of questions. About sex. About visibility. About what midlife is supposed to feel like when you still want things. When you want to explore, want to connect, want to be left alone and deeply seen all at once.I said yes. Not as a stunt. Not for shock value. But because the idea of reclaiming pleasure without performance felt quietly radical.I wrote this story afterwards called Me, Myself and Apollo. It's fiction, but it came straight from the experience. A woman, alone, mid-hot flush, climbing on top of a silicone man with a detachable cock and no opinions. It was awkward. It was revealing. And in its own strange way, it was liberating.The doll didn’t talk. He didn’t rush me. He didn’t need anything from me. That stillness, that absence of needing to manage someone else’s experience, created space for mine. In that space, I noticed how much I’d been carrying. How much of my sexuality had been shaped around other people’s expectations. And how good it felt to stop asking for permission.The Vanishing Woman Isn’t Vanishing At All: Perimenopause, performance fatigue, and how sextech is changing the storyThere’s a narrative about women in midlife. That we disappear. That our desirability drops off. That we’re either settled down, or out of the game entirely.It’s rubbish, obviously. But it’s also powerful. You start to internalise it. Especially during perimenopause, when your body shifts gears and nothing feels reliable; not your sleep, not your moods, not your vagina. Your sense of self gets foggy. You ache more. You want different things. Sometimes you want nothing at all. And that, too, can feel like failure.But here’s the thing. Midlife isn’t a vanishing act. It’s a refocusing. A soft revolution. Women over 40 are reclaiming their time, their pleasure, and their right to want without it needing to be for someone else.That’s where sextech becomes more than novelty. It becomes a tool for agency. It’s not about replacing partners. It’s about creating space. For exploration. For awkwardness. For self-led pleasure without the pressure to be good at it. Or good for anyone else.And it’s happening. Quietly, steadily. In bedrooms and bathrooms and private tabs. A growing number of women are using sex toys not just to get off, but to get in. Into their bodies, their fantasies, their own unapologetic skin.I didn’t expect a sex doll to make me reflect on power, presence and perimenopause. But that’s what happened.So here’s an invitation.To listen. To watch. To read. To want what you want. Even if it’s just a bit of peace, a vibrator on the right setting, and a mirror that shows you back to yourself.Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples: https://bit.ly/sex-workbookMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/book-audio-give-it-to-me-lisa-opel/My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback): https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8bNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.comJOYclub GRATIS Online Kurs "Langzeitbeziehungen":https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/ Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

(DE): QUICKIE: Hello from the other side...oder eher: aus meinem kleinen Chaos aus Gedanken, Tabs und halbfertigen Ideen.So ein kleines „Ich lebe noch“ mit ein bisschen mehr Fleisch dran.Hier kommt eine Quickie-Folge. Es war hier ruhiger in letzter Zeit, ich weiß. Und nein, nicht weil nichts passiert ist. Eher, weil Dinge gerade nicht laut passieren. Mehr so im Hintergrund. Am Wachsen. Am Sortieren.Ich geb euch ein kleines Update. Woran ich arbeite. Was mich gerade beschäftigt. Was sich verschiebt.Ein paar Stichworte, damit ihr ein Gefühl bekommt:- Sprache & Lust: ein ziemlich großes, kollaboratives Projekt- mein Kurs „Find your sexual voice“- viel Ausprobieren, viel Verwerfen, viel neu Denken- und irgendwo dazwischen… ein Roman, der mich liebevoll herausfordertUnd dann diese Themen, die sich nicht so einfach in To-Dos packen lassen:- langsamer werden, obwohl alles voll ist- Nervensystem runterfahren, obwohl der Kopf gern schneller wäre- Vertrauen statt ständig kontrollieren- mehr Leben, weniger „wann ist endlich alles ruhig“Vielleicht wird dieser Podcast auch genau dafür mehr Raum bekommen. Für das Unfertige, das Dazwischen, das, was ich auf Instagram noch nicht so richtig greifen kann. Mal schauen, wohin sich das entwickelt.Für jetzt ist es einfach ein kleines Lebenszeichen. Ein ehrliches Update. Ohne großen Plan.Wenn Du mit mir darüber reden magst: www.mrs-opel.comPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... and never sent: horny, grieving and more poems.Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

You cannot silence a woman’s anger without silencing her desire. (A little rant by Lisa!)There is nothing more threatening to a power structure than a woman who is no longer trying to be liked.Female anger is not new. It is just newly visible.For centuries, male anger has been normalized as leadership, ambition, drive, dominance. It is written into politics, business, religion, warfare, law. It is baked into the architecture of society. Men erupt and the world rearranges itself around them.Women erupt and the world tries to correct them.Why?Because anger is a boundary. And boundaries interrupt entitlement.When a woman is angry, she is no longer managing the room. She is no longer cushioning her no. She is no longer performing softness to make others comfortable. She is no longer absorbing what was never hers to carry.That is destabilizing.Patriarchal systems depend on female accommodation. On unpaid emotional labor. On sexual availability that feels consensual enough not to question. On women metabolizing discomfort quietly so that structures can continue uninterrupted.Anger disrupts that.And here is the part no one wants to say out loud: when women suppress anger, they also suppress desire.You cannot mute your no and expect your yes to be electric.Sexuality requires aliveness. Aliveness includes anger. Both arise from the same nervous system activation. Both are signals of selfhood. Both say, “I exist. I want. I refuse.”When women are punished for anger, they learn to disconnect from that entire current. What remains is compliance. Compliance in relationships. Compliance in sex. Compliance in professional spaces.Compliance is often mistaken for kindness. It is often praised as maturity. It is often eroticized as femininity.It is none of those things.It is survival.But survival is not sovereignty.Angry women are not unstable. They are often the most stable people in the room because they are no longer distorting reality to keep it comfortable.The cultural fear of female rage is not about volume. It is about control.An angry woman is harder to manipulate. Harder to gaslight. Harder to coerce. Harder to shame.She is also harder to seduce into sex she does not want.And that is where this becomes inconvenient.Because a woman who trusts her anger trusts her body. And a woman who trusts her body cannot be easily convinced that discomfort is desire, that obligation is intimacy, that endurance is love.The narrative that women are too angry distracts from a more uncomfortable truth.Many women are not angry enough.Not angry enough about unequal labor. Not angry enough about sexual double standards. Not angry enough about being talked over, paid less, touched without consent, expected to nurture without rest.When anger is metabolized instead of suppressed, it becomes clarity. It becomes precision. It becomes self respect.Rage is not the opposite of femininity. It is the immune system of dignity.And when women stop apologizing for it, the entire emotional economy shifts.If that feels confronting, it should.There’s a little more about being angry in my Substack article (link).Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin Sarah Blume von Beziehungsweise Unverblümt spricht über Verlustangst, Tempo, Selbstreflexion – und warum Kommunikation allein nicht reicht..In dieser Folge sprechen wir über alternative Beziehungsmodelle jenseits von Klischees und Instagram-Romantisierung.ALLE LINKS ZU SANDRA:IG: @beziehungsweise_unverbluemt - https://www.instagram.com/beziehungsweise_unverbluemt/🌐 https://paarberatunghamburg.dePodcast Beziehungsweise Unverblümt: https://open.spotify.com/show/0CD1LhHCi2tnB06gI9Jg52?si=sJsP6YIqTK6Y0N1k_zkALgMit Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin Sandra Kappesser-Siegmund aka Sarah Blume tauche ich ein in die größten Mythen rund um Polyamorie und offene Beziehungen. Wir sprechen über Verlustangst, Eifersucht und Tempo-Unterschiede – darüber, wie schnell man über eigene Grenzen gehen kann und wie wichtig ehrliche Selbstreflexion ist.Es geht um Wachstum, um Kapazitäten für Liebe, um Scham und warum sich viele Paare viel zu spät Unterstützung holen. Und wir teasern ein Thema an, das wir unbedingt vertiefen müssen: patriarchale Strukturen auch in vermeintlich progressiven, queeren oder offenen Beziehungen.Eine ehrliche, warme und stellenweise unbequeme Folge über Liebe, Mut und die Frage: Wann wachse ich und wann verliere ich mich?Diese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/LGvTYn13KiYPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#83 (ENG): SHORT STORY: I picked Peter the Policeman (SHIBARI | TUNNEL PLAY | HEIGHT DIFFERENCE).DISCOUNT 16% NATURALLY NAUGHTY CODE: PPMH16 | Link: https://www.naturallynaughty.shop/discount/ppmh16ABOUT INGWER & NATURALLY NAUGHTY: www.naturallynaughty.shophttps://www.instagram.com/naturallynaughty.love/Shibari is often reduced to aesthetics or technique. In this story, it becomes something quieter and more intimate: a way of creating focus, containment, and trust. Rope isn’t used to restrain, but to hold attention. To narrow the world. To invite presence.The story explores tunnel play — the deliberate narrowing of sensation and perception. When options fall away, feeling sharpens. Touch becomes louder. Breath slows. Small details begin to matter. It’s not about intensity for its own sake, but about depth.Sensation plays a central role here. The warmth of ginger spray is used not as a gimmick, but as a contrast — a spark that wakes the skin and pulls awareness back into the body. Heat meets stillness. Anticipation meets care. The result is not spectacle, but intimacy.Written and narrated by Lisa Opel, the story isn’t a guide or a lesson. It doesn’t explain how to do anything “right.” Instead, it lingers in the why: why slowing down can feel radical, why trust changes how sensation lands, and why intimacy doesn’t need to be loud to be powerful.The audio format is intentional. Listening mirrors the experience the story describes — contained, focused, embodied. It asks the listener to stay present rather than consume.The short story is available on all podcast platforms.It’s for anyone curious about sensuality that unfolds slowly, where less stimulation creates more feeling — and where being held, in all senses of the word, becomes the point.Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#82 (DE): Natascha Ditha Berger & Martin Gostentschnig von KAPA Experts über Intimität, Angst und spielerische Selbstentfaltung.WERBUNG // BEDUCATED - Manchmal beginnt Veränderung mit einer guten Frage. Wenn du herausfinden willst, wo du auf deiner sexuellen Reise stehst und was dir wirklich gut tut, klick auf den Link zum Beducated Quiz. Am Ende wartet eine individuelle Roadmap zu mehr sexuellem Glück. Link: https://beducate.me/pd2606-ppmhIn dieser Folge sprechen Natascha Ditha Berger und Martin Gostentschnig darüber, warum Kink nichts mit Grenzüberschreitung zu tun hat, Polyamorie nichts mit Bindungslosigkeit, und Konsens sehr viel mehr ist als ein „Ja“ oder „Nein“. Ein Gespräch über Angst, Mut, Trauma, Spiel und die Freiheit, die eigene Sexualität als Ausdruck von sich selbst zu begreifen.In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Natascha Ditha Berger und Martin Gostentschnig von der Kink Aware Professionals Association (KAPPA) über moderne Beziehungen, Kink, Polyamorie, Trauma, Konsens und sexuelle Identität.Wir reden darüber, warum Kink nichts mit Grenzüberschreitung zu tun hat, sondern viel mit Selbstwahrnehmung, Kommunikation und Verantwortung. Warum moderne Beziehungen weniger starre Regeln und mehr Intention brauchen. Und weshalb Konsens weit mehr ist als ein einfaches Ja oder Nein.Ein zentrales Thema ist der Zusammenhang zwischen Angst und Shaming: Viele Abwertungen gegenüber Kink, Poly oder offener Sexualität entstehen nicht aus Wissen, sondern aus Unsicherheit und der Angst vor dem Unbekannten. Gleichzeitig zeigen Natascha und Martin, wie wichtig sichere Räume, unterstützende Bubbles und kink-aware Professionals sind, damit Menschen sich überhaupt trauen, ehrlich über ihre Wünsche zu sprechen.Wir sprechen über Trauma und Timing, über innere Anteile, Ambivalenz und darüber, warum es okay ist, nicht immer sofort Worte für alles zu haben. Und darüber, wie Sexualität als Spielwiese dienen kann, um sich selbst besser kennenzulernen – spielerisch, neugierig und ohne Perfektionsdruck.Eine Folge über Mut, Geduld, Spiel und die Freiheit, Beziehungen und Sexualität so zu gestalten, wie sie sich stimmig anfühlen.Diese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/LGvTYn13KiYPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#81 (ENG): "I am my own dream lover" (and I paid to be dominated) with Pauline Marie Antoinette @paulinemarieantoinette.What happens when a woman with a corporate career, a political science degree, and a perfectly respectable CV decides she’s done living in her head?She pays a professional dom. She writes erotic poetry. She builds a cabaret where fantasies are spoken out loud.In this episode of DEEP & DIRTY, I sit down with Pauline Marie Antoinette — poet, performer, and founder of Berlin’s Cabaret Cravache — to talk about pleasure, power, and what it actually feels like to let go of control.We talk about:- leaving the corporate world behind- discovering sexuality beyond performance and penetration- why paying for pleasure can be deeply empowering for women- being dominated safely, consensually, and intentionally- how poetry became a way to process desire, fear, and heartbreakPauline shares her experience of booking a professional domination session — not as shock value, but as a lesson in trust, communication, and surrender.What surprised her most wasn’t the pain or the ropes, but how safe she felt being asked what she wanted, what her boundaries were, and how she was feeling throughout.We also dive into:- why women are still taught to feel guilty about receiving pleasure- how kink can be less about sex and more about presence- why language matters — in bed, in poetry, and in everyday intimacy- and how Cabaret Cravache gives people a space to explore desire without shameThis episode isn’t about extremes. It’s about honesty.About what happens when you stop outsourcing your desires — or silencing them — and start giving them a voice.About PaulinePauline Marie Antoinette is a Berlin-based poet, performer, and facilitator. Originally from the south of France, she transitioned from a career in political science and international event production into creating embodied, sex-positive, and participatory art experiences.She is the founder of Cabaret Cravache, a Berlin cabaret blending erotic poetry, kink, ritual, and audience fantasies — inviting people to explore desire, vulnerability, and power in a curated and consensual space.Pauline also facilitates workshops and retreats focused on creative intimacy and kink, and collaborates with Sensuali, a platform connecting people with sex-positive experiences and professionals.Find Pauline here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulinemarieantoinette | Cabaret Cravache: https://www.instagram.com/cabaretcravache | Website: https://www.paulinemarieantoinette.comWatch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rcKtdCD5ofkPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#80 (DE): Einer will, der andere nicht.„Einer will mehr, der andere weniger“ klingt nach einem altbekannten Beziehungsproblem. Nach Zahlen, nach Frequenz, nach Kompromissen. Nach etwas, das man irgendwie lösen müsste. Und genau deshalb greift diese Erzählung oft zu kurz.Denn was mir immer wieder begegnet – in Gesprächen, in Zuschriften, in Beziehungen – ist weniger ein echtes Lustproblem als ein Kontaktproblem. Oder genauer: ein Qualitätsproblem.Wir sprechen viel über Libido. Über wie oft, wie selten, wie lange schon nicht mehr. Kaum jemand spricht über das, was dazwischen liegt. Über Stimmung, Müdigkeit, Druck. Über den Kopf, der lauter ist als der Körper. Über Erwartungen, Automatismen und dieses diffuse Gefühl, dass mit einem Ja sofort „das volle Menü“ verbunden ist.In meiner neuen Podcastfolge geht es genau darum. Nicht um schnelle Lösungen oder einfache Antworten. Sondern um die leisen Momente vor dem Sex. Um das Nein, das manchmal gar kein Nein zu Nähe ist, sondern ein Nein zu dem, was unausgesprochen mitschwingt. Und um die Frage, was passiert, wenn Grenzen nicht als Abbruch verstanden werden, sondern als Übergang.Ich spreche darüber, warum viele Menschen irgendwann einfach Ja sagen, um den Druck loszuwerden – und warum dieses „Es war okay“ oft ein Hinweis ist, dass der Körper zwar dabei war, aber das innere Ja gefehlt hat. Es geht um Lusttypen, um Sex Amnesia, um das Vergessen, wie Lust sich eigentlich anfühlt, wenn sie nicht eingefordert wird.Und ja, es geht auch um Sprache. Um das Lautwerden dessen, was noch unsortiert ist. Um ehrliche Sätze, die kein Versprechen sind, sondern ein Bleiben im Gespräch. Manchmal ist genau das der Moment, in dem Lust wieder auftaucht. Nicht geplant. Nicht eingefordert. Sondern als Reaktion auf Ehrlichkeit.Diese Folge ist kein Ratgeber. Sie ist ein Denkraum. Ein Impuls. Vielleicht ist ein Satz dabei, der hängen bleibt. Vielleicht ein Bild, das etwas verschiebt. Und vielleicht ist das schon genug.Wenn Du mit mir darüber reden magst: www.mrs-opel.comPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... and never sent: horny, grieving and more poems.Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#79 (ENG): Alien play in the bedroom. How to get weird, wild & wonderfully curious.✨ Read the complete article - including a downloadable PDF packed with language examples, scene ideas, toys, and playful prompts - on my webpage.So, here’s a fun truth about humans: give us a strange-looking toy, a slightly odd texture, or a fantasy that lets us step out of our everyday bodies, and suddenly we’re all willing to explore the unknown like Mulder sprinting after a suspicious glow in the woods.Alien play isn’t about green body paint (unless you’re into that), nor do you need encyclopaedic knowledge of nebulae. It’s about curiosity. It’s about letting yourself touch, speak, and play differently. It’s about lifting the pressure to “perform” and instead asking, What would happen if we approached each other like we’ve never met a human before?It can be soft and exploratory, silly and giggly, or full of consensual power dynamics: “You will remain still for examination, human.” It can be a single line whispered during sex or a full scene with sensory scanning, strange toys, and non-verbal communication. Tentacle fantasies? Absolutely valid. Scientists examining mysterious specimens? Love it. Aliens with unusual biological quirks? Delicious.For many people, alien play is also a wonderfully inclusive way to experience desire. Aliens don’t come with preconceived ideas about bodies. They don’t expect genitals to look or behave a certain way. They don’t judge. They explore. And that makes the fantasy incredibly liberating for trans lovers, disabled partners, neurodivergent bodies, shy folks... Honestly? Anyone who wants to feel desired exactly as they are.Whether you want something as simple as adding a curious “What does this bit do?” to your next intimate moment, or you’re ready to strap in for a multi-tentacled mission, the beauty of alien play is that there’s no right way to do it. Just curiosity, imagination, and consent guiding you through the stars.Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#78 (DE): Brauch ich einen Sex Therapeuten?In dieser Folge geht es um die Fragen hinter der Frage.Um Lustlosigkeit, unterschiedliche Bedürfnisse, unausgesprochene Fantasien und das Gefühl, mit all dem allein zu sein. Eine ehrliche Einladung für Solo und Paare, erstmal hinzuhören, bevor man etwas reparieren will.Wenn Du mit mir darüber reden magst: www.mrs-opel.comWERBUNG // BEDUCATED - Manchmal beginnt Veränderung mit einer guten Frage. Wenn du herausfinden willst, wo du auf deiner sexuellen Reise stehst und was dir wirklich gut tut, klick auf den Link zum Beducated Quiz. Am Ende wartet eine individuelle Roadmap zu mehr sexuellem Glück. https://beducate.me/pd2603-ppmhPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... and never sent: horny, grieving and more poems.Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#77 (ENG): My 2025 RECAP.This year broke me open and I’m not putting myself back the same way. Here are my unfiltered, honest thoughts looking back.Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#76 (ENG): No vagina but all power with Ally Hensley.Ally Hensley was born without a vagina (MRKH). In this conversation, she walks us through the emotional and physical rollercoaster of growing up with a “missing parts” diagnosis. From shame, self-destruction and abusive relationships to healing, sex, friendship, boundaries, and reclaiming her pleasure and voice.Ally Hensley is an internationally recognised advocate for women’s health, an author, speaker, and the co-founder of MRKH Australia and Global MRKH. Born with MRKH syndrome, her work centres on breaking shame, expanding the narrative of womanhood, and supporting others through the emotional and physical realities of living with a “missing parts” diagnosis. Her memoir Vagina Uncensored challenges stigma with humour, honesty, and deep humanity. Ally also hosts the podcast Stigma Shakers, where she sparks conversations most people are too afraid to start.🔗 Website: www.allyhensley.com 🔗 Instagram: www.instagram.com/ally__hensley/ 🔗 Podcast: www.instagram.com/stigmashakers/ 🔗 Book: https://amzn.eu/d/9uzrC8XWatch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aVI9bcDjoYUPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookMy book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#75 (DE): Sind Orgien einfacher als Dreier? Solo-Folge.Viele fantasieren von einem Dreier. Doch wenn es ernst wird, spüren wir oft mehr Unsicherheit als Lust. In diesem Artikel erfährst du, warum Dreier emotional aufgeladen sein können und wieso eine Orgie für manche entspannter ist.Diese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/aVI9bcDjoYUPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#74 (DE): Dr. Stephanie Kossow über Alien Kinks, Fantasien und schlechtem Sex.BEDUCATED: 60% Rabatt im Dezember: PLEASEPINCHMEHARD. Link hier https://beducate.me/pd2547-ppmh | 24 hour free trialÜBER DR. STEPHANIE KOSSOW: Ihr Buch: https://shop.autorenwelt.de/products/das-gute-an-schlechtem-sex-von-stephanie-dr-kossow-und-stephanie-kossow?variant=54711683154245 | Webpage: www.stephanie-kossow.de | IG: @dr.stephanie.kossowDiese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/aVI9bcDjoYUPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#73 (DE): Ingwer Soerensen über Sinne, Sinnlichkeit, Männlichkeit und Ingwer.PLEASEPINCHMEHARD DISCOUNT 16% auf NATURALLY NAUGHTY: CODE: PPMH16 | Link: https://www.naturallynaughty.shop/discount/ppmh16ÜBER INGWER & NATURALLY NAUGHTY: www.naturallynaughty.shophttps://www.instagram.com/naturallynaughty.love/Diese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/aVI9bcDjoYUPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#72 (ENG): Bisexual women moaning out loud? Yes, in this live reading.Ever wished you could be a fly on the wall at a Skirt Club night? Now’s your chance. I wrote this story especially for their Mistress Masquerade event... and you get to listen in, no mask required.More of Lisa Opel on:Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard): https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/Webpage: www.pleasepinchmehard.comLisa's NEW BOOK is out! SEX SEX SEX: your workbook for solo and partner use. Check it out here.The book "GIVE IT TO ME!" on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and as an Audiobook.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play, practices and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#71 (DE): 24/7 BDSM & Kink mit Frau Tagtraum und Addolorato. Lust, Macht, Vertrauen – wenn BDSM zur Liebessprache wird.BEDUCATED: 69% off this November with my code: PLEASEPINCHMEHARD69. Link here https://beducate.me/pleasepinchmehard69 | 24 hour free trialÜBER FRAU TAGTRAUM & ADDOLORATO: https://www.instagram.com/frau.tagtraum/ | https://www.instagram.com/_addolorato_/ | https://onlyfans.com/frautagtraum | https://www.bestfans.com/frautagtraumDiese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/aVI9bcDjoYUPrefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#70 (ENG): Secret Masturbation in Relationships: Why we touch ourselves in private — and what it really says about love, intimacy, and desire.MORE INFO: Read the full article here: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/secret-masturbation-in-relationshipsMore of Lisa Opel on:Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard): https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/Webpage: www.pleasepinchmehard.comLisa's NEW BOOK is out! SEX SEX SEX: your workbook for solo and partner use. Check it out here.The book "GIVE IT TO ME!" on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and as an Audiobook.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play, practices and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe

#68 (DE): Wer fängt an? Über die große Frage, wer beim Sex initiiert.DEN GANZEN ARTIKEL DAZU: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/wer-initiiert-beim-sex-wie-mental-load-lust-und-nahe-beeinflusst/Prefer the transcript? Find it here.I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.comMore of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & CouplesMy book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an AudiobookNeed a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe