A Millennial Mind

Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it’s linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you’ve ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one’s for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Chronic people pleasers who can’t say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why people pleasing starts — and how to break the pattern How to set boundaries without guilt or fear The link between self-worth and saying no Practical tools to stop overgiving & reclaim your energy If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just do it to keep the peace,” this is the episode for you. It’s time to stop being 'liked' - and start being respected. 00:00 Introduction – Why We People Please 01:05 Meet Annalie Howling: Turning Pain into Purpose 04:20 The Truth About People Pleasing and Self-Abandonment 08:30 When Helping Others Becomes Self-Harm 12:45 The Guilt of Saying No 15:20 The Connection Between Guilt, Shame, and Self-Worth 18:40 Trauma, Control, and Learned Helplessness 23:10 Why Some People Resist Healing 26:00 Narcissism, Victimhood, and Emotional Boundaries 31:10 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish 35:45 Understanding Shame in People Pleasing 40:15 Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response 45:30 Healing from Childhood Shame and Conditioning 49:50 Recognizing and Validating Your Own Trauma 54:10 Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt 58:30 Setting Boundaries with Family and In-Laws 01:02:10 Why “Good Girls” Struggle to Say No 01:05:00 Speaking Up When It Feels Uncomfortable 01:09:30 Letting Go of the Need to Please 01:12:00 Final Reflections – Living Unapologetically 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if everything you’ve been taught about healing is only half the story? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Lekhmi, founder of The 111 Approach - a celebrity Reiki Master and intuitive healer who blends science and spirituality to explain how energy healing really works. I used to think Reiki and energy work were a bit “woo-woo,” until my own experience changed everything. We talk about the science of energy healing, how your nervous system and emotions affect your body, and the small ways you can start to self-heal and reconnect with your intuition. If you’ve ever wondered “is energy healing real?” or just want to feel more grounded, calm and connected - this episode is for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Skeptics who want to understand the science behind energy healing Anyone curious about Reiki, vibration, and holistic health People looking to reduce stress, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with themselves ✨ What You’ll Learn: How energy healing and Reiki actually work The link between emotions, the nervous system, and physical health Why intuition and frequency are key to self-healing How to tell real healers from fakes in the wellness space Simple ways to restore balance and heal your body naturally 00:00 Introduction and Initial Skepticism 00:51 Exploring the Concept of Energy Healing 01:16 Guest Introduction: Luck Me and Her Unique Approach 02:53 Personal Experiences and Changing Perspectives 04:34 Understanding Reiki and Energy Healing 05:55 Childhood Intuition and Suppression 12:09 Reconnecting with Intuition and First Reiki Experience 14:36 Skepticism and Scientific Perspective 18:32 The Science and Practice of Reiki 28:29 Personal Stories and Spiritual Connections 38:20 A Childhood Intuition 39:34 The Power of Intuition and Skepticism 40:38 Gut Health and Intuition 41:23 Energy and Vibrations 42:30 Embracing Emotions and Healing 42:46 Connecting with Intuition and Energy Healing 44:42 Personal Stories of Energy Healing 49:22 The Placebo Effect and Healing 51:04 Scientific Studies on Energy Healing 52:13 Reiki in Hospitals 52:48 Identifying Genuine Practitioners 57:03 Empowering Self-Healing 01:03:23 One Minute Wellness Practice 01:09:12 The Power of Collective Meditation 01:14:11 Crystals and Energy 01:17:39 Final Thoughts on Energy and Intuition self 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you could feel incredible with more energy, focus and calm without spending a fortune? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, Coral Pearl breaks down the truth about biohacking: what it really means, how to start biohacking on a budget, and why you don’t need expensive supplements, trackers or cold plunges to optimise your body and mind. Coral shares practical, science-backed ways to support your nervous system, balance your hormones, improve gut health and boost natural energy. She explains how small, affordable biohacks — from better sleep and sunlight to real food and mindset shifts — can transform your wellbeing, longevity and mental clarity. We talk about the habits our ancestors lived by, the modern wellness myths that keep us sick, and how to eat, move and live in a way that supports your biology. I wanted to have this conversation because Coral makes wellness and biohacking feel achievable again. No elitism, no pressure — just simple, evidence-based tools to reconnect with your body and feel like yourself. If you’ve ever felt lost in the health space or overwhelmed by expensive trends, this one will remind you that real health starts with simple, accessible habits. These are all real-world examples that Coral has tried and tested herself to turn her life around and, she says, improve her health for the better. ✨ Who this episode is for Anyone curious about biohacking, wellness or longevity but unsure where to start Listeners tired of expensive wellness trends and quick fixes People looking to improve gut health, nervous system balance and natural energy Those wanting to understand the science of stress, recovery and nutrition Millennials searching for affordable, realistic health and lifestyle habits 💡 What you’ll learn What biohacking really means and how to do it on a budget The low-cost daily habits that improve focus, energy and mood How to regulate your nervous system naturally The connection between nutrition, inflammation and mental health Why modern wellness gets health wrong and how to simplify it 0:00 - What if everything you’ve been taught about health is wrong? 1:00 - Why Coral stopped trusting traditional medicine 3:05 - The “ancestral living” lifestyle explained 5:00 - Biohacking isn’t just for the rich — here’s how to start for free 7:30 - Grounding, breathwork, and sunlight: the ultimate morning trio 9:45 - Coral’s wild morning routine (and the headband hack!) 11:10 - How biohacking changed her energy, sleep & focus 13:20 - The truth about mouth taping and deep sleep 15:10 - Why blue light might be ruining your health 17:00 - How to calm your nervous system instantly 20:00 - The trampoline trick that boosts your mood 25:30 - Coral’s 5AM morning routine & discipline secrets 29:00 - Her full step-by-step health routine revealed 33:00 - From vegan to ancestral eating — why she switched 36:00 - Are plant-based diets actually bad for you? 39:00 - What pesticides are doing to your gut 42:00 - The 3 foods Coral would *never* eat again 45:00 - The shocking truth about milk and pasteurisation 47:00 - How to find what really works for your body 49:00 - Coral’s message for anyone feeling stuck in their health journey Follow Coral Peal: https://www.instagram.com/coral.peal 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Note: Some topics discussed might be triggering. In this deeply personal and heartfelt episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with one of my closest friends, Dr. Rhona Eskander, as she opens up for the first time about her harrowing journey into motherhood. From experiencing a traumatic miscarriage and the emotional turmoil that followed, to navigating the complexities of fertility treatments, and finally, the unforeseen challenges of a high-risk pregnancy that led to an emergency C-section and a NICU stay for her baby, Rhona bravely shares it all. This conversation sheds light on the silent struggles many parents face, the societal pressures around fertility, and the importance of mental health and support during such times. I am incredibly grateful for Rhona's vulnerability and hope this episode fosters understanding and compassion for those facing similar battles. Please listen with care, and if you know someone who might benefit from this, share it with them. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Anyone who has faced pregnancy loss or fertility struggles Mothers navigating premature birth or NICU experiences Women processing grief, anxiety, or trauma after childbirth Parents learning to find strength and gratitude through adversity Anyone seeking an honest look at modern motherhood 00:00 Opening Up About a Personal Journey 00:05 The Miscarriage Experience 00:20 Navigating Fertility Challenges 00:34 Emergency C-Section and NICU 00:52 Introduction to the Episode 02:17 Rona's Fertility Journey 03:05 Egg Freezing and Societal Pressures 05:12 Struggles with Conception 06:06 The Miscarriage and Its Aftermath 07:05 IUI and Pregnancy Success 15:15 The Trauma of Miscarriage 24:40 Pregnancy Journey and Mental Health 30:40 Concerns About Baby's Growth 34:58 Discovering the Gentle Birthing Method 36:02 Dealing with Placental Insufficiency 36:54 The Pressure of Not Showing During Pregnancy 38:57 Navigating Public Perception and Body Image 42:26 The Trauma of an Emergency C-Section 49:15 The NICU Journey 51:05 The Importance of Mental Health and Support 01:07:28 Reflections on the NHS and Final Thoughts This week's episode includes a paid advertisement for Better Help. You can get your exclusive discount as a Millennial Mind listener using the link ⁠www.betterhelp.com/millennialmind⁠ to start your therapy journey and become your best self. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 🔑 Keywords / Tags pregnancy journey, miscarriage story, pregnancy loss, emergency c-section, 30 weeks premature, premature birth, NICU baby, motherhood journey, fertility struggles, pregnancy complications, maternal health, emotional healing, premature baby story, Rhona Eskander, A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with Dr. Marta Deiros Collado, a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience and a mother of two. We dive into the hot topic of smartphones and social media, exploring whether they're helpful tools or harmful threats, especially for children and parents. Dr. Marta shares her insights on the fear and misconceptions surrounding technology, and offers evidence-based strategies for finding balance and boundaries in our digital lives. We also discuss the impact of screen time on relationships and mental health, and how parents can build healthier tech habits for themselves and their kids. If you've ever struggled with screen time or are concerned about your children's digital habits, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation. Please don't forget to like, follow, and subscribe to support more meaningful and impactful discussions like this. ✨ Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels anxious, guilty, or overwhelmed by their phone use Parents trying to help children build healthy screen habits Millennials and Gen Z struggling with digital burnout or social media anxiety People who want to create boundaries with technology without a digital detox Anyone curious about the psychology of screen time and mental health 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why notifications trigger anxiety and how to calm your brain’s response The science behind phone addiction and emotional overstimulation How to build a healthier relationship with social media and tech Practical tools to set digital boundaries at home and work How parents and kids can find balance and connection offline Why technology itself isn’t bad, it’s how we use it that matters Jump to: 00:00 Introduction: Are Smartphones a Tool or a Threat? 01:06 Challenging the Smartphone Narrative with Dr. Marta 02:07 Meet Dr. Marta: Clinical Psychologist and Mother 02:39 The Dual Nature of Smartphones: Tool and Threat 03:23 The Emotional Impact of Smartphone Use 04:34 The Importance of Awareness and Mindful Use 05:46 The Role of Technology in Modern Life 08:09 The Science Behind Smartphone Use and Its Effects 08:56 Addressing Misconceptions and Media Fear-Mongering 10:23 The Balance Between Technology and Human Experience 15:02 Smartphone Habits and Compulsive Behaviors 36:25 The Impact of Smartphones on Relationships 38:52 Balancing Screen Time and Family Time 40:08 Deciding When to Give Kids Smartphones 42:26 Navigating Social Pressures and Exclusion 45:28 Building Trust and Open Communication 48:12 Creating Healthy Digital Habits 51:21 The Impact of Social Media on Self-Esteem 01:01:46 Setting Boundaries and Family Phone Pledges 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 phone anxiety, social media anxiety, smartphone addiction, digital burnout, digital wellbeing, screen time anxiety, notifications stress, tech and mental health, social media balance, phone detox, screen time habits, parenting and technology, kids screen time, mindful tech use, digital balance, Dr Martha Deiros Collado, Shivani Pau, A Millennial Mind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode of A Millennial Mind, I’m joined by Abigail Foster, an accountant, money expert, and founder of Elent Financial. Abigail has built a reputation for making money simple, relatable, and actually enjoyable to talk about. In this episode, we dive deep into the truth about money in 2025: from renting vs buying, saving and investing, and even the fairness of inheritance tax. Abigail also unpacks how childhood experiences shape our money mindset, why budgeting feels so overwhelming, and the practical steps millennials and Gen Z can take to feel more financially free. If you’ve ever felt stressed about money, stuck in financial habits, or just confused by the UK tax system, this episode will help you make sense of it all. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Millennials and Gen Z who want to feel in control of their finances. Anyone stuck between renting vs buying and wondering what’s right for them. People who want to start investing but don’t know where to begin. Those struggling with budgeting, saving, or money mindset. Anyone curious about UK money topics like taxes, inheritance, or the cost of living. 📚 What You’ll Learn How your childhood experiences shape your money habits today. Why budgeting feels hard - and how to make it easier. The truth about renting vs buying property in 2025. Simple steps to start saving and investing (even if you feel clueless). How to think about tax, inheritance, and wealth without overwhelm. Why shifting your money mindset is the key to building wealth. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 --- 🔑 Abigail Foster, Elent Financial, money mindset, budgeting tips, saving money, how to invest, investing for beginners, UK tax explained, inheritance tax, cost of living 2025, UK finance 2025, personal finance for millennials, Gen Z money tips, renting vs buying property, financial freedom, money habits psychology, A Millennial Mind podcast, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's AMM Minutes segment, I chat with Sarover Auja from 'Love is Blind UK' about the challenges of getting parental acceptance in relationships and dealing with societal judgment. We delve into the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and open communication when integrating a partner into one's family. Sarover opens up about her personal journey, sharing insights on resilience post-divorce and emphasising that love transcends cultural and societal boundaries. 00:00 Introduction: The Challenge of Parental Acceptance Check out the full episode where Sarover goes into DETAIL about her Love Is Blind experience, here: 01:38 The Struggle with In-Laws and Cultural Expectations 03:06 Breaking the Cycle of Judgment and Fear 03:51 Dealing with Divorce and Societal Judgment 05:30 Love Beyond Cultural Boundaries 07:48 The Importance of Character Over Community 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarover Aujla from Netflix’s Love Is Blind joins me on A Millennial Mind to share what really happened in her marriage, why it ended in divorce, and how cultural and family expectations shaped her journey. Sarover opens up about the reality of a 91-day marriage, the red flags she ignored, and the challenges of navigating love and heartbreak in front of the world. She also reflects on what it feels like to lose yourself in a relationship — becoming “a shell of yourself” — and the powerful lessons she’s learned about self-worth, boundaries, and choosing herself. For so many millennials, love and marriage look different today than they did for our parents. Sarover’s story is raw, real, and deeply relatable — whether you’ve faced cultural pressure, heartbreak, or are simply learning to put yourself first. ✨ Who This Episode Is For - Fans of Love Is Blind curious about Sarover Aujla’s story beyond the show. - Millennials navigating relationships, marriage, divorce, or cultural pressure. - Anyone who has felt lost in love and is trying to rebuild. - Listeners looking for honest lessons on self-worth, resilience, and growth. 📚 What You’ll Learn - What really happened in Sarover Aujla’s Love Is Blind marriage and divorce. - The role of cultural and family expectations in shaping relationships. - The red flags Sarover overlooked — and the lessons she took from them. - How to heal and grow after heartbreak in the public eye. - Why choosing yourself is not selfish, but necessary. Let me know what you thought of this week's episode on the comments 💖 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you post pictures of your kids online? Well, children's therapist and cyber trauma expert, Catherine Knibbs, is here to tell you why you shouldn't (even if you're on a private account!) In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, we’re talking about the hidden dangers of posting kids online, the reality of online predators, and why the usual rules around screen time and social media safety don’t really apply to modern-day children anymore. Catherine shares what’s actually happening to kids’ brains when they grow up in a digital world, how predators think, and why parents often get protecting kids online completely wrong (without even realising it). It’s not about fear or banning tech; it’s about learning how to raise kids who can thrive both online and offline. And honestly, some of this blew my mind. Let me know what you think in the comments! ✨ What You’ll Learn Why posting kids on social media isn’t as safe as you think The real ways online predators target children What screen time does to the brain and mental health The dangers of social media that most parents ignore How to talk to your kids so they actually open up Tips to balance tech and real-world life without constant battles Why attachment and consent matter in digital parenting 🗝️ Words to Listen Out For Cyber trauma Online predators Digital footprint Screen time Neuroplasticity Dopamine Attachment Consent Sharenting ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 Introduction: Should Parents Post Pictures of Their Kids Online? 00:14 The Necessity of Children Being Online 00:50 Changing Perspectives on Kids and Technology 00:59 Guest Introduction: Katherine Nibs 01:28 The Role of Technology in Child Development 07:27 The Fear and Reality of Online Predators 11:09 Parental Responsibility and Online Safety 25:16 The Challenges of Parenting in the Digital Age 44:39 Navigating ADHD and Technology's Impact 45:32 Understanding the Brain: Neuroscience Insights 46:09 The Role of Dopamine and Neuroplasticity 48:55 Attachment Theory and Parenting Challenges 51:30 The Importance of Open Communication 52:44 Balancing Technology and Real-World Interactions 01:02:37 Cultural Norms and Consent in Parenting 01:09:40 Practical Parenting Tips and Overcoming Guilt 01:19:14 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Parents This week's episode includes a paid advertisement for Better Help. You can get your exclusive discount as a Millennial Mind listener using the link ⁠www.betterhelp.com/millennialmind⁠ to start your therapy journey and become your best self. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you or someone you know stayed so long in an abusive or toxic relationship? Well, there is actually a deeper, psychological reason for this rather than just 'putting up with it'. In this week's AMM Minutes, I sit down with Frankie from Frankie's Therapy to dive deep into the complex psychology of abusive relationships. We explore why people stay in harmful relationships, touching on the significant roles that childhood experiences and our nervous system play. We discuss trauma bonds, the gut-brain connection, and the physical reactions, such as IBS, that often accompany these relationships. Together, we underscore the importance of education and awareness as the first steps to breaking free from toxic relationships. We also talk about the need for a safe environment for healing, the crucial role of therapy in building self-worth, and the process of addressing childhood wounds. Join us as we unpack these intricate dynamics and offer valuable insights for those looking to reclaim their lives. What we will cover: 00:00 Understanding the Psychology of Abusive Relationships 00:10 The Role of Childhood and Nervous System in Trauma Bonds 00:44 The Illogical Nature of Staying in Abusive Relationships 02:39 Physical Reactions and the Brain-Body Connection 04:25 Creating a Safe Environment for Healing 05:29 Breaking the Cycle: Steps to Change Relationship Patterns 06:02 The Importance of Therapy and Secure Relationships 08:14 Addressing Triggers and Communication in Relationships 12:38 Steps to Rebuild Self-Worth After Trauma Bonds 13:19 Integrating the Shadow Self for Healing Key takeaways: 🌀 Chaos can feel like “home” because of childhood wiring 🎰 Trauma bonds are addictive, like a slot machine 💔 Abuse impacts both the mind and the body 🚪 Awareness + safety are the first steps to healing 🌱 Therapy rebuilds self-worth and healthy connections Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/X7_J7WuNCm4 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trauma bonding might not be what you thought it was... In this eye-opening episode of 'A Millennial Mind', I sit down with Frankie, a registered psychotherapist and trauma specialist, to delve deep into the complex world of trauma and healing. We discuss how various attachment styles impact our relationships, why we might be drawn to toxic partners, and the importance of a secure environment for true recovery. Frankie shares her unique approach, combining neuroscience with body-based therapies such as EMDR, CBT, and somatic healing. We also explore the concepts of trauma bonds, the impact of generational trauma, and practical steps for breaking unhealthy patterns. This episode is a must-watch for anyone looking to understand and heal from their traumatic experiences. What we'll cover: 00:00 Understanding Toxic Relationships and Attachment Styles 00:52 Introduction to Trauma and Healing 01:08 Meet Frankie: The Trauma Specialist 03:46 Exploring Childhood Trauma and Rewiring the Brain 08:19 Generational Trauma and Its Impact 15:54 Defining Trauma Bonds and Attachment Styles 21:35 Navigating Toxic Relationships and Seeking Help 40:32 Understanding Trauma Bonds 41:41 Recognising Unhealthy Relationships 42:39 The Role of the Amygdala and Gut Health 45:05 Steps to Break Trauma Bonds 45:30 Therapy and Building Secure Relationships 52:14 Addressing Anger and the Shadow Self 01:00:47 Healing and Self-Love 01:06:13 Final Thoughts on Trauma and Healing ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

77% of marriages END because of In-Laws... Will yours be next? This week on Millennial Mind, I chat with therapist Harriet Shearsmith about toxic parenting, recognising if you experienced childhood trauma and how to break the cycle and become the parent you WANT to be, not what you HAD. This week's AMM Minutes highlight, Harriet and I discuss the complexities of in-law relationships. We explore how family dynamics can cause tension, the impact of childhood experiences, and the importance of maintaining authenticity and boundaries. Harriet shares valuable insights on recognising toxic versus healthy family environments and emphasises the role of emotional maturity in resolving conflicts. Catch the full episode for a deeper dive into these essential relationship dynamics. A breakdown of what we cover: 00:00 Introduction: The In-Law Relationship Dilemma 00:13 The Impact of In-Laws on Relationships 00:30 Navigating Family Dynamics and Childhood Trauma 02:14 Changing the Narrative with In-Laws 02:49 Family Enmeshment and Boundaries 09:11 Authenticity and Expectations in In-Law Relationships 12:09 Identifying Toxic vs. Healthy Family Dynamics 13:27 Conclusion: Handling Conflicts and Emotional Maturity Have you ever experienced a relationship breakdown due to toxic or bad relationships with your parents-in-law? Watch the full episode with Harriet here: https://youtu.be/wRBxZS-M0p4 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Credits: Filmed & Edited by HAMLIN STUDIOS: https://www.instagram.com/hamlinstudios/?hl=en-gb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You aren't just an 'old soul', you had a toxic parent" Have you ever thought to yourself, 'This is just the way I am'? That could be a result of childhood trauma. In this revealing episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with Harriet Shearsmith, an award-winning content creator and parenting advocate, to discuss the often hidden conversations surrounding family toxicity and breaking generational cycles. Harriet shares her insights on addressing difficult family dynamics, establishing healthy boundaries, and improving relationships with in-laws. We delve into the realities of family dysfunction, the impacts of parentification, and provide practical advice on overcoming guilt and obligation in familial relationships. This week's episode includes a paid advertisement for Better Help. You can get your exclusive discount as a Millennial Mind listener using the link www.betterhelp.com/millennialmind to start your therapy journey and become your best self. In this episode, we will cover: 00:00 Introduction: The Unspoken Conversation 00:14 The Impact of In-Laws on Relationships 00:33 Personal Growth Through Family Dynamics 00:52 Sponsor Message: Lovable AI Platform 01:47 Introducing Today's Guest: Harriet Shearsmith 02:20 Breaking Generational Cycles 04:10 Understanding Cycle Breaking 04:44 Common Patterns in Family Dynamics 05:56 The Role of Early Childhood in Shaping Behaviour 06:35 Navigating Family Dysfunction 13:27 The Challenge of Confronting Parents 23:31 The Concept of Parentification 35:21 Estrangement and Reconciliation 38:01 Avoiding Confrontation: The Pain of Acceptance 38:58 Healing from Family Estrangement 40:31 The Power of Community Healing 41:19 Practical Tools for Emotional Release 43:41 Navigating In-Law Relationships 52:46 Setting Boundaries with In-Laws 55:57 Understanding Toxic vs. Healthy Family Dynamics 57:57 Choosing Between Partner and Parents 01:01:21 The Importance of Boundaries and Cycle Breaking 01:08:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts **AD**This episode is sponsored by Lovable, an AI tool that lets you create beautiful, functional websites in minutes just by typing a few prompts. So if you’re planning a wedding, launching a brand, or just want a sleek site without the tech stress, Lovable makes it so simple.No tech skills needed. Just your ideas. Give it a go and start your free trial at https://lovable.dev#ad #LovablePartner 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this small section of this week's bigger episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with the insightful Heather Elkington to explore why people, especially Gen Z, frequently change jobs due to career growth and feeling undervalued. Heather shares compelling statistics from LinkedIn and discusses the inherent need for people-pleasing and its impact on professional life. We delve into the challenges of difficult conversations, the importance of being transparent about our needs, and how to identify and prioritise tasks that truly energise us. Watch the full episode here! 💖 https://youtu.be/jDmZmTIWkto 00:00 Understanding People Pleasing and Job Hopping 01:13 The Evolutionary Roots of People Pleasing 01:50 The Modern Dilemma of Saying Yes 03:26 The Cost of Avoiding Difficult Conversations 04:50 Evaluating Your Commitments 06:45 Defining and Leveraging Your Strengths 08:20 The Importance of Preparation and Caring 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'A Millennial Mind', I'm joined by Heather Elkington, a leadership expert and first-time author of 'Your Boss Era'. Heather shares her journey from studying outdated leadership models to redefining management in a small startup, growing it significantly, and finally navigating through the corporate world. We discuss the apparent differences in work ethics between millennials and Gen Z, the importance of transparency in the workplace, and why embracing hard conversations is crucial for effective leadership. Heather also sheds light on the importance of intentionality in work, the pitfalls of toxic meetings, and the significant shifts in workplace dynamics post-COVID. Tune in for a deep dive into managing Gen Z, fostering a high-performance culture, and the essential elements of being a great leader. 00:00 Introduction: Millennials vs. Gen Z Work Ethic 00:50 Meet Heather Elkington: Leadership Expert 03:04 Heather's Career Journey and Insights 06:05 The Impact of COVID on the Workplace 12:40 Transparency and Trust in Leadership 25:12 Balancing Work Hours and Burnout 37:19 The Challenge of People Pleasing and Career Growth 41:30 The Importance of Confrontation 41:57 Evaluating Your Social and Work Calendar 42:38 Balancing Wedding Planning and Work 43:46 Understanding and Leveraging Your Strengths 47:21 Emotional Intelligence and Energy Awareness 49:55 The Art of Confrontation: A Four-Step Framework 55:13 Transparency in the Workplace 01:00:29 The Reality of Entrepreneurship 01:04:10 The Challenges of Balancing Roles and Responsibilities 01:05:24 Advice for Managers and Employees 01:10:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this small section from this week's episode, I sit down with Dr. Tara to explore the fascinating world of swingers, especially within the Indian community. We break down the key differences between swingers and sex parties, the unique symbols used within the swinger community, and the vital importance of communication and consent in non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Tara also sheds light on overcoming societal stigma and the benefits of hiring a non-monogamy coach. Tune in for an insightful and candid discussion that challenges traditional relationship norms. 00:00 Introduction to Swinging in the Indian Community 01:17 Exploring Swingers and Their Signs 02:26 Rules and Communication in Swinging 04:30 Sex Parties: What to Expect 06:25 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 10:04 Overcoming Stigma and Building Supportive Relationships 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on A Millennial Mind, I'm joined by Dr. Tara, a leading expert in sex and relationships, to dive deep into the realities and misconceptions surrounding monogamy. We explore whether monogamy actually works, discuss the rise of ethical non-monogamy, and highlight the importance of communication and consent in all relationships. Dr. Tara also shares her personal journey from a conservative background to becoming a sex-positive influencer. What we'll cover: 00:00 Introduction: Does Monogamy Actually Work? 00:51 Sponsor Message: Lovable AI Platform 01:46 Exploring Modern Love and Relationships 03:04 Guest Introduction: Dr. Tara's Expertise 05:13 Defining Monogamy in Today's Society 07:21 The Challenges of Sexual Monogamy 09:03 Evolutionary Perspectives on Monogamy 14:24 Ethical Non-Monogamy and Self-Worth 22:03 Understanding Different Types of Non-Monogamy 30:48 Communicating Non-Monogamy in Relationships 32:29 The Goal of Parenting and Emotional Infidelity 35:25 Cultural Misconceptions and Upbringing 37:52 Journey to Sexual Liberation 40:55 Swingers and Sex Parties 45:37 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 53:13 Respect and Value in Relationships 56:53 Concluding Thoughts on Monogamy and Non-Monogamy Whether you're curious, open-minded, or questioning traditional views on love and commitment, this episode promises to challenge your perspectives and encourage meaningful conversations. Join us as we uncover what it really means to build a relationship that reflects your values. **AD** This episode is sponsored by Lovable, an AI tool that lets you create beautiful, functional websites in minutes just by typing a few prompts. So if you’re planning a wedding, launching a brand, or just want a sleek site without the tech stress , Lovable makes it so simple. No tech skills needed. Just your ideas. Give it a go and start your free trial at https://lovable.dev #ad #LovablePartner 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this clip from this week's full episode, I sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph to explore the nuances of high functioning depression, a condition still not widely recognised by the medical community. We discuss the critical role of identifying early signs and symptoms, such as anhedonia and psychomotor agitation, before they escalate into a crisis. Dr. Joseph highlights the disparity between advancements in physical and mental health approaches and stresses the importance of incorporating daily moments of joy to achieve a balanced and fulfilling life. Tune in for practical advice on how to manage success without sacrificing happiness. 00:00 Understanding Anhedonia and High Functioning Depression 00:47 The Renaissance in Physical Health vs. Mental Health 01:31 Identifying Signs of High Functioning Depression 02:43 The Impact of Restlessness on Joy 06:16 Balancing Success and Joy 08:49 The Role of Gratitude and Other Emotions in Happiness 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful episode, I sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and author of 'High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Start to Reclaim Your Joy.' We delve deep into the often misunderstood realm of high-functioning depression—where individuals maintain external success while silently struggling with inner turmoil. Dr. Joseph explains the differences between happiness and joy, the symptoms of high-functioning depression, and the crucial concept of anhedonia (a lack of joy and interest). She also shares practical advice on how to detect and address hidden depression before it leads to a crisis. This episode is for anyone who has ever been told, 'but you don't look depressed' and is seeking to understand the science of joy and happiness. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective and practical tools for reclaiming your mental well-being. 00:00 Understanding Clinical Depression Beyond Sadness 00:13 The Divide Between Happiness and Joy 01:46 Introducing Dr. Judith Joseph and Her New Book 02:12 Exploring High Functioning Depression 05:26 The Science of Happiness and Joy 10:05 Identifying and Addressing Anhedonia 14:16 The Importance of Preventative Mental Health 20:24 Balancing Success and Joy 27:34 The Impact of Social Circles on Joy 27:50 The Struggle of Sharing Difficulties 29:00 Invalidation and Toxic Friendships 29:57 Cultural and Religious Invalidation 31:26 Understanding High-Functioning Depression 32:41 The Importance of Validation 38:48 Mental Health Across Cultures 41:19 Supporting a Partner with Depression 48:16 Lifestyle Changes for High-Functioning Depression 50:55 Final Thoughts on High-Functioning Depression 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/snm5MB0oMjA This week's guest is Ayurvedic health consultant, Dr Sam Watts. In this small section of our full weekly episode, we dive deep into the fundamental importance of circadian alignment for not only cancer prevention but overall health and longevity. Sam breaks down the science behind circadian medicine, including its Nobel Prize-winning recognition in 2018, and explains how even our ancient Palaeolithic genome influences our need for natural light exposure. We discuss the detrimental effects of circadian misalignment, now classified as a type 1A carcinogen, and provide practical tips for achieving optimal circadian rhythms by aligning sleep and wake cycles with natural light patterns. Join us for a comprehensive guide on how to live a healthier, happier life through circadian alignment. So tell me... Did we change your mind? 🤔 00:00 The Importance of Circadian Alignment 01:30 Circadian Misalignment: A Modern Carcinogen 01:58 The Evolutionary Perspective on Circadian Rhythms 03:26 Personal Struggles with Circadian Rhythms 06:25 The Science Behind Circadian Rhythms 11:06 Consequences of Circadian Misalignment 13:29 The Role of Light in Regulating Circadian Rhythms 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices